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Sunday, 16 October 2016

Buhari Versus Buhari Brouhaha Analysed In Detail.

Wife of the President Mrs Aisha Buhari needs to read this *tongue click*

Public communication is one of the most delicate challenges that people in public life face, either in the corporate or the public sector.  



Many people suddenly find themselves in high places, and they become a source of news, a potential interview subject, and they get chased around by journalists and other media figures who want a story, in fact, not just a story, but a scoop.  I used to explain in communication coaching classes and to the bosses whose media I managed, at one point or the other that they should never feel obliged to say things they do not want to say. No matter how aggressive the journalist may be, they should be careful what they say.  


       A journalist would make you feel at home, he or she may even reassure you that whatever you don’t want published could be edited out, and that if you don’t feel comfortable with a question, you should feel free to keep quiet. But a good journalist knows how to push you into a corner and get you, through follow up questions, to say things you may not ordinarily want to say. By the time the tape starts rolling, and you are encouraged to feel like a star, and your own tongue starts rolling, you’d be surprised the kind of emphasis, what you consider an innocent remark, would receive when it is published.

  Point is: journalists, while on duty, are not working for politicians or big men and women; they are working for organizations that need stories that can sell. 


They want scoops that can make the headlines. That is what makes them journalists: getting the good story, the good comments, the good shots.


       After reading the interview granted by First Lady Aisha Buhari on BBC Hausa Service, I was tempted to conclude that this is what may have happened. She could have said the same things in a more delicately phrased manner.  I have always held the view that anybody at all in a public position should be sent for media training (including how to deliver speeches, poise, pronunciation skills, even basic grammar lessons) before they are unleashed on a Nigerian public that has learnt to subject the lives of public officials to utmost scrutiny.  


The Aisha Buhari interview also fell short in this regard. She just gave the BBC Hausa service a scoop, which in my view has done more damage to her husband’s politics than good.

     Given the enormous effect that the interview has had on the public, I would have expected that by now, she would perhaps have tactically disowned it, put a spin on it somehow, and make it clear that it is not intended in any way to discredit, or criticize her husband’s administration. But nothing of such has happened. And what does that mean? That the interview was deliberate and that she is standing by every word she said. 

She has been called the “good lady in the Villa.” She has been praised for being a modern wife who can speak up, and exercise her right to free speech. She has been called fearless and assertive. The only thing I have not heard from some of the hypocritical commentators is that she would be a good Presidential candidate for 2019. 

        I have also been told that she must have spoken out of frustration and that her public outburst about the existence of a cabal in the Villa, which determines who gets what appointment, to the disadvantage of members of the All Progressives Congress is making APC members who feel left out of the power-sharing process, very unhappy. But her outburst is nothing but a poor understanding of power politics. 


There will always be cabals around the seat of power. Power is so potent the people around the corridor will never leave it alone to the President. 
       And if it is true that this cabal or the President has recruited non-APC members into the government, then that is a positive thing, it is also a positive thing that the President does not know many of the people he has appointed.


 He doesn’t need to know them personally as long as they come from all parts of Nigeria and they are competent men who can get the job done. The First Lady seems to assume that only card-carrying members of the APC should work for the Buhari administration. On a positive note, however, she doesn’t want anybody to hijack her husband’s Presidency and she believes those who are trying to do so do not mean well. But what does that say about her husband?  


     The First Lady is also of the view that if the present trend continues, she cannot campaign for her husband in 2019 should he decide to seek re-election. 

She sounded pleased with what is being done to ensure security in the North East, but she gave the impression that she doesn’t think her husband has done enough to merit a second term in 2019. Hear her:  “What I fear is the uprising of 15.4 million people”.  And consider this: “…Nobody thought it is going to be like this. But now that it is so…Sometimes when one is doing something wrong without him knowing, but when people talk to them, they should listen”. Who is that person doing something wrong and who does not listen?  


     Altogether, Mrs Aisha Buhari has passed the equivalent of a vote of no confidence in her husband, and the people around him.  This is a kind of  “home trouble” brought to the public. The biggest challenge a man can face is to have his own wife “fight” him in public. And what has happened is both unprecedented and significant considering that a Hausa-Fulani couple is involved.  It is probably the first time a lady in this position would publicly upbraid her husband and his team. Is she furious because she has been scorned, ignored, rendered powerless? 


      Well, even if we were not privy to other details, she was publicly scorned when her husband sent a volcanic message from Germany that she should go back to her place in the “kitchen, the living room and the other room.”  Feminists and critics of misogyny have protested over this, quite rightly too, at a time when women are leading countries and corporations, it is incorrect and insensitive to say that the best place for a First Lady is to be a cook, a living-room-soap opera-watching detainee and a bedroom object.


 But given the cultural circumstances involved, this may well be the future Aso Villa fate of First Lady Aisha Buhari. She could be marked out as an ambitious woman who wants to share power with her husband, and as a threat to her husband’s politics.

        See how much damage has been caused already by the President’s counter-response: The German Chancellor glared at our President when she heard that comment about “the kitchen, the living room and the other room.”  She quickly ended their press conference. Angela Merkel is married, and she is Chancellor, but I don’t think her husband would dare tell her she is best fit for the kitchen and the other room. And imagine if Theresa May, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Oby Ezekwesili, Grace Alele-Williams, Omobola Johnson, Chimamanda Adichie, Joke Jacobs… had all been chained down in the “other room”. 


No wonder, President Buhari’s local opponents are already making big political capital out of his un-Presidential comments, and the German public is shocked that any world leader could be so politically incorrect. The number of jokes and memes that have been designed around this husband-wife exchange are thoroughly amusing. Mrs Buhari has also handed over to critics of this administration, speaking points that would be exploited all the way till 2019, and she may well end up not as a powerful force in the Villa but as a strong voice for women’s rights.


        It is possible she may be advised soon to recruit spin-doctors to do damage control, but she may have left that rather late already. On the other hand, there is no amount of damage control that the President’s spin-doctors can sell to anyone. Whatever happens, she is cultivating a reputation as a different kind of First Lady.  Since independence, every Nigerian Head of State or President has enjoyed the support of his wife while in office: strong, fanatical support. 


Mrs Maryam Abacha was so supportive of her husband, while everybody condemned him, and long after his death, she has continued to celebrate his memory. Before her, Mrs Maryam Babangida brought greater colour and celebrity status to the Office of the First Lady and added much value to her husband’s tenure.  

        Mrs Fati Abubakar was a dignified presence behind her husband, the same with Mrs Margaret Shonekan. President Olusegun Obasanjo had as First Lady, the very elegant and beautiful Stella Obasanjo who mobilized support and goodwill for her husband. Turai Yar’Adua, wife of the late President Umaru Musa Yar’Adua was also so devoted to her husband’s cause, she was declared the head of the Aso Rock cabal. No one doubted her determination to protect her husband’s interest during those critical moments. You all know Mrs Patience Jonathan. She was as First Lady, her husband’s most vocal supporter. 


This brought her at loggerheads with some sections of the public who objected to her prominence and controversial statements, but not once did she or the other First Ladies before her, criticize their husbands in public. 
       Elsewhere, First Ladies also support their husbands. With all the reported cases of dalliance and cuckoldry during the Bill Clinton Presidency, Hillary Clinton stood by her husband. 

Michelle Obama has also proven to be a very good role model in this regard.  Certain positions require careful grooming. Any form of tension in the home could distract a political leader and make him seem vulnerable in the eyes of the public. Mrs Aisha Buhari may have spoken her mind, but she should not make a habit of assuming the role of a radical, in-house critic, throwing her husband under the wheels.  She ought to be thoroughly embarrassed by all the fun being poked at her husband because of that BBC Hausa interview she granted. 

How this matter is resolved between their kitchen and “the other room” is a family affair into which we cannot dabble. 


BY REUBEN ABATI
       


57 comments:

School Life said...

Sir Reuben, you are good.

Rhoda Rex said...

Reuben, made some valid points though...

Default Smile said...

Reuben rest abeg...this long essay is for wat now....ahn ahn



#I am a fruitful vine, I am a joyful mother of children

Iphie dearie said...

I have always known that our " First Lady" is a fiery one.

I remember those days she would grant interviews threatening to spill names of past politicians that stole the country blind...
I felt there was much restrain on her.. like people would call her and tell her to calm down.

Then during her brouhaha with Fayose, I saw that fire again.
I think she's not a woman to be told what to do... I feel she's very outspoken, and a no nonsense woman too.

LMAO!! So I saw a short clip of a reporter interviewing Bubu.
He asked him what he meant by " his wife belongs in the kitchen and the other room"

This Reporter couldn't even meet the President's strong gaze. I think he was shivering inside. Hhehehehehe

As usual... Bubu threw the question back at him... " I'm sure you have a house" The reporter says; Yes sir(meekly)
"You know where your kitchen is" Yes sir
"You know where your living room is" Yes sir
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The President feels attacked anytime Reporters ask him questions concerning his controversial statements and actions.

Dolapo Kosebinu said...

Enough jare..

karma?...please said...

When I saw heading I suspected R.A and I'm correct

Omasiri said...

BV Reuben Abati

Bravitudenaturals said...

I know its Reuben,nice article but I still commend her for saying the truth.

JayEm "Agrodolce"...the Nigerian-Italian-Australian experience. said...

Scrolled to the bottom before reading, by R Abati? Nah, I will pass. Not even interested if it is an interesting read.

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Oga Reuben my love just know that when the gods wants to kill you,they first make you mad.

Anonymous said...

My sentiments exactly

5" 9height,curvaceous black beauty said...

Reuben ooo...I can't read mbok

Anonymous said...

Abati for sure

Lady C said...

True talk

Anonymous said...

Reuben Again?!!

No way!

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Each time you feel dissatisfied with your life, remember that others are dreaming of living your life. So always give thanks & stay humble*

Jane Moore said...

I love reuben abati. Im his biggest fan. I want to be able to write like him when i grow up

Anonymous said...

Default smile, I don't know you neither have I met you. But I pray for you daily. And I know God will answer. You are a beautiful joyful mother of many children.

Fairy Princess said...

Reuben Abati making so much sense....In between can nigerians turn the the page, so much hunger in this country abeg

Anonymous said...

Aisha is not getting any action in the bedroom because she married her ancestor. That is why she is so aggressive.

Tilly said...

Mr Abati always write sensible pieces. Aishat should support her husband no matter what. I remember a line in godfather movie ..."never let people know what you are thinking ". She has created an opening for all kinds of attacks. Be wise madam as long as you are his wife.

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

Sir Reuben mbok I don't have energy to read this encyclopedia, its a Sunday and the sun is too hot. Tho I read few paragraph and he made some valid points. Am I the only enjoying this drama?







*hangs leg on the cupboard*

Irene B said...

The President needs a strong PR team that needs to update him about International etiquette of dodging questions. Every question must not be answered directly. What happened to ,"My wife is not a politician". WTF is "the other room"?

Lateesha Pasteries Ajjah Lagos - 07032392414 said...

Nice read.
Like our forefather's will say, 'them no dey chuk mouth for husband and wife matter'
But our dear President really goofed with his statement.

Lateesha Pasteries Ajjah Lagos - 07032392414 said...

Nice read.
Like our forefather's will say, 'them no dey chuk mouth for husband and wife matter'
But our dear President really goofed with his statement.

Irene B said...

Hello BV Reuben Abati Sir,you are a great writer. I love this piece and I totally agree with you.

Errrrm,I didn't read make I no lie but that your humans walking with their heads piece scared the bejesus outa me

Anonymous said...

I enjoy reading his write ups. Thumbs up for you. RA

usani osim said...

That's some beautiful piece of rational writing. Like i'd always say, GEJ never used Mr Abati well.

Even though I have ma reservations to some of his strong points, I still consider the write up balance and fair enough.

Well, PDP can begin to spin this to their advantage; I don't know what they are waiting for..................

Anonymous said...

Most sensible write up on this Aisha Buhari BBC interview so far. Pls also try to read Dele Momodu's write up as well.
A mighty General washed down like that, it shouldn't be his wife doing it even if she feels strongly and she's got a strong point.

Anonymous said...

Most sensible write up on this Aisha Buhari BBC interview so far. Pls also try to read Dele Momodu's write up as well.
A mighty General washed down like that, it shouldn't be his wife doing it even if she feels strongly and she's got a strong point.

Anonymous said...

Helo JayEm!!! I live in canberra oo!!& its boring hia, pls lets hook up. Thank u.

zion baby said...

Reuben made some points.

charitybino said...

Mr. Reuben Abati, this is another fine piece from you. I would like you to write the way you did on Editorials when you were at The Guardian.

lovelace said...

So no more evil spirits controlling the seat of power. The other room still remains the other room. To those laughing like hyenas and saying Angela quickly ended the press conference, no be the same conference I watch. Be carrying fake news.

Krix said...

That's my mentor, kudos, Mr Abati!

Krix via iPhone 6s Gold

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

Nice write up Reuben Abati, in my own opinion I feel the first lady spoke like this publicly because she has no access to her husband and I also feel her husband doesn't listen to her. I feel they are just living together independently. I first noticed this during their swearing in ceremony, while the vice president's wife was following her husband to welcome quests our first lady went to her seat to sit down and left PMB with the task of doing the greetings alone. she should have given her husband undiluted support but scold him when they are alone but who knows whether she never gets to have private time with him? Who knows whether he doesn't believe a woman can say anything sensible enough. In all Aisha should desist from fighting her husband publicly and PMB should also retrace his steps and above all learn to respect his wife and listen to her. God bless Nigeria.

Kaycee said...

Nice one reuben, u said d truth

Francis ezekwonna said...

Kudos Mr Reuben. you have written well. this time it was short and interesting.

Anonymous said...

2000 likes

DonMayor said...

One of the best write up from Mr Reuben. The interview was a blunder.

Anonymous said...

Reuben, keep your write up short and simple (KISS), am sure you were taught that.
Nice write up by the way

Port Harcourt's Finest said...

Articulate piece. Detailed delivery. I can't skim through a Reuben Abati piece. The man always has so much to say And he nailed it again.

Anonymous said...

Too long... Can't deal!

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

School life,Howdy

Anonymous said...

What truth? What did she say that has head and tail? IMO, she said nothing.

Moncoeur behbeh said...

Well done Mr Abati, nice observation. God bless my country.

Anonymous said...

The thing tire me...

peace maker said...

Good to know

Starjoy said...

Yea he made lots of points here, nice writeup

Lilly simple said...

@ house of lawof
You can't compare the age difference between Bubu n Aisha n VP n Dolapo
And the culture n religion too

ike said...

Who goofed pls? PMB, his wife or both? She sure started a public show of their marital issues. Sure as ever Mr Presido followed in her stride.

my opinion said...

Oga Reuben well done o

I knew pdp will feast on this matter

Rueben if u feel Buhari doesn't deserve a 2nd tenure, say it independently and don't attatch it to this case.

Buhari saying she belongs to the kitchen is almost a re-echo of wat she said when he got into power that she is the wife* (African wife) of the president and not a 1st lady!

Stop blowing the issue outta proportion cos this lady spoke out for Buhari indirectly.

She has anger issues nonetheless. But she used it well here!

Anonymous said...

House of lawof, I totally agree with you. I think it's the age difference. It's like a father daughter relationship. He's 27 years older and uptight man so she just plays the traditional role as his wife and care giver not his friend and partner. She's kind of aloof with everything happening around her.

Anonymous said...

He did, what he did not address properly to me was the damage control/spin doctoring, or y the first lady would go to such extent.

In any case, I think Buhari's first response should have sounded like. "My wife is my greatest critic and my greatest supporter. I'm glad that like me, she has the best interest of the country at heart, we are working together to ensure life is better for every Nigerian. There are times when we approach solutions from different angles and I'm really glad that we both are Nigeria oriented... (with some laughter). She does like to put me on my toes though and I love her for that."

Anonymous said...

I believe if he had put it that way, the story would be too boring for most people to continue.
Now, what Mr Abati did not address was what made the first lady burst out like that? No, I don't think its love of country (I may be wrong). She would have tried to talk to him several times, but obviously does not have his ears. That is painful to any woman. We however get a glimpse of how she is being treated by her husband and probably his cabal from the president's response. Asides Abacha, I don't see any of the above past and present presidents that he mentioned treating their wives in such a despicable manner. This archaic mentality also shows in the way he has been governing the country. Mrs Buhari was wrong in her outburst, but perhaps she got tired of being thrown under the bus more than the average woman should.

Anonymous said...

The fun that is being poked at her husband is not because of what Aisha said but its based on the archaic manner of her husband's response. If he had responded in a more enlightened manner no one will be making fun of his response.

delta babe said...

He should simply have said no comment when asked about his wife's interview, either way she has a new fan in me.

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