NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
QUESTIONS ABOUT THE PAST.
Hello lovely Stella, I have a friend who is now married and her husband keeps asking her questions about her past and she had a rough past which she decided to let go and focus on her future and now her hubby keeps doubting her even though she opened up a little he wants every single detail and when she relents he starts telling her words that hurts her,.
there was this guy she met and she had feelings for him but told him to do it the right way and one thing led to another and they had sex after which she decided never to contact him again, she also told her hubby about this guy but didn't mention they had sex as she acts like it never happened.
she mentioned they kissed n all but not sex, now her hubby keeps singing about this guy and wants to know every details and she really don't wanna mention the sex part to him, what should she do? Please your red pen it needed (am only aware because she confided in me as her spiritual mentor)
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
OK Stella of life, have been going through your blog for a while now and as so many who say, kudos to you. Stella am soooo angry right now as am typing this message. Pls forgiving all the errors cos am Here goes my story( Chronicle). Its a bit lengthy so please bear with me.
I met hubby some years back after I parted ways with the love of my life. He had to get married to someone else because he felt I was too young and not ready but we clicked right from the first day we met till date (story for another day). The break up affected us drastically because my ex called the next day after his wedding but we could never be together again.
I tried my best to move on and I met hubby( den bf). I didn't love him but I really liked him so I decided to give it time, we got married and all, after a while I noticed he was always getting angry and picking on every little thing I do, harassing me verbally even with my well to do parents, i started getting depressed but my mum always gave me good advice coupled with prayers it got to a point that I almost took my life ( can't try that now tho), then DH changed to a "good man" because he was scared to death!
Two years back I noticed he was always so flirty with chics but the one wey dey vex me pass na the lies wey him dey blow for the girls them and he's a broke ass. (We grew together from the scratch but most of the financial help comes from me) and he will be acting like a straight man before me, when you confront him he will deny everything and even turn it on me( Very irritating).
Just now,I saw another chat, he has been chic-ing this girl since but the girl no gree. Stella, no be say na mouth but I pure!
After 3 kids now you no go believe say I don born sef. If he wants to have a girlfriend he should have her outright than chat up plenty girls and just be flirting nonsense with them. My ex and I have been chatting but though the feelings are there we try hard to draw a certain line but am about to throw caution into the wind and cheat back on him cos have been faithful but I don't think he values that.
My ex loves me so much but he says he would never have sex with another man's wife, we've been talking and seeing for 9 years now but we r like inseparable besties(no sex) and that is OK because I just need a true friend.
Now here is d issue; I just told hubby now that he's flirting after I saw the chat on his phone and he's raining hail stones, shouting and intimidating me. That I will tell him who he's cheating with, that he will leave the house (he says it every time he's angry). I pray he leaves so i can have my peace. He wants to call a family meeting tomorrow for me.
I don't want to say anything because if I start I will wash him and dry him there but it is also a disgrace to my personality. Am a quiet person that just wants happiness and peace but he has pushed me to the wall. Am so confused right now. Please what should I do. Stella your red ink so needed plus bv's advice and yabbings too.
So you and your husband cannot settle whatever ish you have without calling family meeting?..Childish must say.I dont know what advice to give you right now honey.