STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
HE SAYS HE WILL CHEAT!
Good day Stella,
Hope this meets you well. I must commend you for your effort on the blog.
Anyways, straight to my chronicle and please hide my identity....
There's this guy I'm currently seeing, we are dating but I told him it's not a relationship yet just cos I needed time to do my research on him and all that.
Here are my issues; I'm quite reserved and do not party much but this guy is the complete opposite. He's out every single night with his guys! I told him about it and he said it's cos he lives alone and he's always bored at night. Even though his reason sounds good enough, I'm worried because For me to date someone, it means the guy is someone I can marry. Hence, let's say we start a relationship and possibly end up getting married, won't this behaviour continue or do you think marriage will calm him down? I'd love a husband that is home with his family most nights.
Secondly, not long ago while we were speaking, he mentioned that most guys cheat especially if they are in a distance relationship. I asked if he'd cheat on me if there was ever distance between us and he said YES. I was shocked Stella. He said he was just being honest with me...I know guys cheat and even if he said no, there's no assurance that he wouldn't cheat on me if distance ever came up between us. But the way he said it plainly surprised me. Should I be worried? Cos to me, it came across as, if we are in a distance relationship, even if girls don't seduce him, he'l go out looking for them.
Also, like I mentioned earlier, for me to be in a relationship with someone, it means I can marry the person. However, it's not the same with this guy (I don't know if guys are generally like that). He said he's not promising marriage that we should just grow together and that it's still too early to know if he can marry me or not. It's not like I want him to promise me marriage but that statement leaves me wondering Why he wants to be with me.
He's 29 years old so it's not like he's too young to consider marriage. We've known each other for 10 months and we only started dating 2 months ago. Even though I didn't plan the dating process to be sexual, somehow somehow we ended up having sex. I'm worried because I don't want to waste my time; I'm 24 years old.
Regardless of all these, he is a very nice, thoughtful and caring guy. So please Stella and fellow BVs, am I over analysing the situation or should I go ahead with the relationship?
I need mature advice please. I'll be reading comments.
Let me join you and read comments...Hmmmmm