STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.
WHEN A SERIAL CHEATER TASTES HIS OWN MEDICINE
Hello Stella and my fellow BVs.
Ive always known id send in my chronicle sooner or later, but i never imagined doing so outside my matrimonial home. They say you never truly know someone until you are both living under one roof as man and wife, so dont come saying "Didnt you see the yeye signs b4 agreeing to marry him?" and i didnt, even after 2yrs snooping period of courtship, those bad traits of cheating and late nights begun to germinate, i believe it was buried, right from the 1st yr of marriage when things are meant to be rosy, i started mine with tears and complaints.....
where are those that constantly made "Go and marry" as their favorite chorus?
It got worse during my 1st trimester and showed no signs of slowing down, the midnight calls increased, his phone was permanently on vibration, and now on 10digits password, he'd even boldly use girls pics as DP and tell me its their birthday, with no birthday msgs attached, every month one new face must celebrate her birthday, the domestic beef got worse as my belly got bigger, being that i was pregnant, it was almost like a ticket to have sex outside, yet i am going to bed horny and waking up horny.
Anyway, to cut to the chase.... it didnt even end after our baby was born, infact the attention and love evaporated into thin air, at least i can thank God for the money he provided for upkeep, even when we're keeping malice, he doesnt fail to drop the money on the table without saying a word.
On the 3rd yr of our marriage, i was opportuned to snoop after figuring his password was our daughters birthday, words failed me i swear, his whatsapp chats are filled with filth and gross activities they called fun, his tongues goes everywhere down to their anus, he termed it "Anilingus", Holy Moses!! i screamed.... and he sometimes comes home to kiss me with same mouth, and i have been playing the good wife, so good that i dont even keep male friends, cus of his jealous nature i got rid of them all.
I knew confronting him with my discovery will yield no good, so i just cried and kept to myself, i was filled with anger, regret, serious depression... since i didnt confront him or speak to anyone about it, the anger in me just kept boiling like a kettle from zero degree.
That same week the devil presented me with a gift i couldnt reject, it came in the right height and size, and also the timing was just perfect.... yes, my ex buzzed outta the blue, God knows i needed that tall drink of water, and i didnt go seek him out, he just buzzed, which made it even more confusing if it was actually God sent or devil temptation, i immediately believed he was God sent to cure my sanity and depression.
I had to create a password for my phone for the 1st time, DH asked why i now require a password, but i just said my sales girl makes use of my phone without my consent, and he requested the new password which i couldnt say no, but i changed it daily, while my chat with Ex got intense and sexually charged, we both knew the Okafors Law would soon be applied, so he came in from another state to scratch that itch he scratched 5yrs ago, and yes it was like riding a bicycle,
he didnt 4get how i liked it and where... there was no guilt whatsoever in the 30mins session, and i didnt feel remorse afterwards, yes, i had revenge sex and i felt even, i headed home straight and without carrying my baby, i located DH and gave him a sweet french kiss, with that same tongue i used for BJ an hour earlier and said " The sermon 2day was about 4giveness"... he gave me a crooked smile and wanted to proceed to sex but i was already sour down there, so i stopped him and went to shower and sleep.
To cut the long gist short, my chat with ex didnt end there, we continued recalling all the rubbish we did in that hotel, all the weird sex positions, the 69, how long it took, i even went as far as ranking his size bigger than DHs, which wasnt exactly true tho, i just needed to inflate his ego a bit, for coming all the way from another city...
The next morning i was getting ready to go to my shop, when i heard my husband scream with his phone in his hands "What i'm i reading?" and called me out... he went straight to the point asking "have you been cheating on me? i said what kind of silly question is that, i would never... i kept denying to his face till he gave me this dirty slap on my face, he has never raised his hands on me, i was so shocked, he showed me my chats with ex, My God. i had to look if it was my phone, but No, it was his phone...
he somehow hacked my whatsapp, it duplicates my sent and received messages, one to his phone and one to my phone, i dont even know when and how he did that, i was swearing for the person that created that evil app, i was speechless as he was turning red, i was just mute, i couldnt lie or beg, he held his head and started weeping, i have never seen a grown man cry like a baby, i got so scared if he'd hit me after crying, so i just picked up my phone and wallet and ran out without driving, i didnt even touch my baby, then the help was feeding her, i ran to my cousins in Yaba, just telling her that we had one mega heated argument.
i sent hundreds of text msgs to him since he wouldnt pick my call, the truth is even if he picked i wasnt sure what id say, so i prefered the msgs, he refused replying any... i pleaded he keeps my infidelity hidden for the sake of our baby, no matter how he chooses to punish me, but i didnt get any reply from him.
The next morning i went to my shop and met this new big padlock, obviously DH was there, chai... i called him and he cancelled, then sent one msg saying " Before i'd consider you anywhere near my home or even carry my kid, you need to provide HIV result and visit our family dentist for proper mouth wash, get rid of that your hair-do and nails, or i'd make sure you dont touch the baby (If its even my biological child) after which you'd be given 3hrs daily to spend with her when i'm away, then collect your credentials"
See conditions oh Stella, I kept replying that it was protected sex, which happened for the 1st time and i didnt do the hair to please my ex but i will take it off, but he hasnt replied again, where do i start from? At this junction i cant even send anyone to beg for me, where else can i carry my story to if not here?
I need smart advices BVs, please lets not concentrate on the evil i did, lets focus on the solution please, Thank you. Mrs A.
Saw a preview of this story inside IHN last week.
*What evil did you do?Please stop blaming yourself and whining and try to save your Marriage.....I Suggest that you send him the link to this story to read...PLEASE STOP BEGGING HIM,both of you need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk...Revenge was wrong but its been done and he isnt any innocent from this story.
Send him the link to this story and wait for him to digest what he read..let him cry if he wants...so upset.
He is giving orders on your cleaning up but used that same mouth he used to lick anus to kiss you...OMG!
I love you babe,stay strong!.
Mr A if she sends you this link to read,please put your home in order before this escalates.you both can keep it as your little secret and PLEASE STOP LICKING ANUS' BEFORE YOU GRADUATE TO CROCOPHILIA.