STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
COMPLICATED LOVE LIFE.
Stella, thanks for the platform. Straight to the point. I am a 27-year-old woman. And here is my chronicle. There was this guy that we went to the same secondary school.
I really like him. Always wanted to sit beside him in class even though I should be at the back because of my height but I always find my way to the front. My friends knew about us being very close and would always make room for me to sit with him. That was from JSS 1. Fast forward to SSS 1, he started talking about dating me and we were very young at the time. You guys can curse all you want except you didn’t have that “who-is-in-the-garden” feelings as kids. Back to the story, I repeatedly said no from then until SSS 3 because I thought we were too young for that and he was two months younger, so I always saw him as my “younger” brother.
Meanwhile, it was because of him that I went to science class. I wanted to go to arts so I could be a lawyer but because I didn’t want to miss him, I went to science and he was always there to put me through all of the difficult subjects because he was the most brilliant student in our set.
At the end of SSS 3, just before our WAEC, I thought I should give relationship a try since there was one UNILAG boy that had been disturbing for years even though he finished from our school before he went to UNILAG. He was two years our senior in school and three years older in age.
I was 16 and he was 19. I dated him then and my brilliant “school” boyfriend found out because I didn’t want him to know. He was very heartbroken and I remember that we both cried about it but I couldn’t bring myself to date him then. Anyway, my UNILAG boyfriend ate the cookies when I finished secondary school.
I went to join my boyfriend in UNILAG and my best friend went abroad to study. His family was rich and he also had a great SAT score and so, the tuition was much cheaper for them to afford. All the while when he was in the US, we kept in contact even though I was in a relationship and my boyfriend sometimes was jealous but I assured it that nothing was between us. So, the Yankee guy said that through his college years that he dated no other girl because he was hoping we might be together. Even though, I find it hard to believe.
I dated my boyfriend for six years until I was 22. He cheated severally and even got one razz dirty girl pregnant. I found out when the girl had abortion complications because we were mutual friends with her and I just helped her so that she wouldn’t die.
Now, here is the thing, my US guy came back for NYSC after he got his OPT. I was just finishing when we met again. He already has a job with a six figure salary in US dollars o, not our naira. Lol.
We started talking again and I told him about my ex and he insisted that he still loved me. I WAS SHOCKED. I told my mom and sisters and they advised me to give him a chance. I did. And we started dating and it was so wonderful until he met a girl in camp.
I must confess that this girl is so much beautiful. I could leave a girl for her if I was a guy too. She also studied abroad and from a richer home than my boyfriend. But she schooled in the UK. She was already practicing medicine when she came for the compulsory one year NYSC. I struggled with the relationship for three years because they kept in contact after they finished their NYSC. She went back to the UK and my ex now because I think I am dating myself went back to the US.
He only did two months before he went back and the bad thing is that he keeps telling me about the girl. I broke up with him last year as I haven’t even seen him in three years. Then, I was 26 and I was scared to start over. He begged and begged but I said no and no. Lol. He never invited me over for three years and had gone to see the other girl in London countless times saying his job took him to London.
I know that that is a lie. Why can’t the job bring him to me in Lagos?
Now, this my main issue. I met a guy early this year but he is still struggling. He loves me so much and we are currently dating. My ex later confessed that he dated the British girl and they had sex every time he visited. And for us, we only had sex once where I was even the one to initiate it because he was leaving the country for the second time then. He is about to get his green card as he had been on H1B and is talking marriage. He has been talking to my mom behind me and all my sisters and they are saying I should forgive him. He came up with my secondary school past when I was just 16 compared to when he was 22.
I love this new guy but he is extremely broke. He has graduated for over six years and no good job. He is very handsome, nice, caring and good in bed (Side eyes – He is the best I ever had). Now, with my long story, whom should I go with?
P.S. I have a good job too and can sustain me and my boyfriend if we eventually get married but my ex too has been begging for months now. I am so confused.
Your red pen is needed and I need advice much more than curses right now. Also, I am not a gold digger because I pay my own bills.
Thank you all.