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Monday, 3 October 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

What a story!





STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
STORY STORY INSIDE A RELATIONSHIP

Hi Stella, never thought I would send  my own chronicles but here I am. 

I am an ardent bvn though I hardly comment. Please sorry for the errors as I am in an emotional state at the moment and its a bit lengthy. Let me start from the beginning, I am in my mid twenties and I dated my ex for a few months about five years ago and broke up with him. 

As the years went by he always wanted me back but I never agreed, so i decided to give it a second chance last year and we started dating. There were normal bumps in a relationship but we scaled through. Sometimes early this year he was trying to secure something and decided to tell a man he knows who happens to come from the same place about it. The man promised to help him. In the process, the man introduced his daughter to him and said they should hang out together. 


He even told they to go out on val's day together. He told me about it and told me he even got her a gift. I asked him if he knew what the man was doing and he assured me that nothing would happen and I believed. I never for once gave it a second thought as he was very caring and loving and I trusted him. All these while sometimes he, the girl and her dad do hang out together and I never said a word. A certain day came and he called normally in the evening, during the conversation I noticed he was eating and I asked him if he cooked and he said no that it was food from the lady's birthday.



 I was shocked because we spoke twice in the afternoon and he never mentioned it to me that it was her birthday. He said he, she, her friends and dad went out to celebrate her birthday. I got angry and said I wanted him to introduce me to this girl because I have met many of his friends and I have never met her and she lives in the same estate with him. He said he would not introduce me to her that if I want to, I should go and introduce myself to her and he called her full name. I felt really insulted and ended the call. 



I am someone that don't pick your calls when I am angry with you to avoid saying things I would regret. So throughout that week I didn't pick his calls and at a point the frequency of his calls dropped. I started picking his calls the following week, told him we need to talk, he said there was nothing to talk about and that I wanted to control his life and the kind of friends he kept. I was dumb founded to say the least.


 I was wondering where this came from. His calls and chats became less frequent. We stay less than thirty minutes away yet he always claimed busy with work. The next time I saw him was over a month later and for less than an hour because he had somewhere to go as he kept receiving calls. He spoke most of the time acting all angry with me that I shouldn't have stopped answering his calls. That things are not done that way, I was making assumptions and doesn't know if my problem is pride. I should let him know when I have calmed down. He claimed we would see the following week to talk as he was busy that weekend. 


Do u know that that was the last time I saw him. Sent him a message that I was free throughout that week and he didn't reply. The following week was his birthday, I sent him a text and called he didn't answer. I couldn't go to his house as I was busy so I did during the weekend and he wasn't in. I called he didn't pick but called back immediately and said he wasn't in town. I didn't hear from him again. I angrily broke up with him a week later. I felt worse after the breakup and tried many times to try to have a meeting but he always said he was busy and that I have made my decision so why do I want to see him. 



The truth is that I still love and miss him. He called me on my birthday but I missed them and he later sent a text. Its been almost two months I broke up with him but can't seem  to get over him. I want him back but don't know how to go about it. We were meant to get married next year. 

Please Stella your red pen is really needed. 


My fellow bvns your wise words and curses are also needed. Thank you.



*Wake up honey,this man has moved on..I suspect he is dating that Lady and that was why he feigned anger,he might have broken up with you sooner or later if he is already dating this girl.....you stay how far?he lives in the same Estate with her meeeeen.

Why dont you get busy and get him off your mind?I am so sorry that you still love him,maybe time will reset his brain but right now i dont think he is your man.


137 comments:

em jay said...

Hiamnnnnnnn!

James said...

Interesting

stunning slim shady said...

Odika egwu wetin we no go read!

Anonymous said...

Before before i comment, STELLA, you for do INDEPENDENCE edition of Single n Mingles nah... I de vex..

It's like eating jollof rice with no meat or fried fish or chicken.

James said...

Good to know

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Sweety the guy has moved on so try to move on too. Have some pride. Even if you are dying inside never call him. Pretend you don't care and I assure you soon you'd realise you have stopped caring. Find another guy to use as rebound and you'll be fine.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

I know it's hard dear but give yourself the space to heal too. 2 months is not that long to get over someone you really loved.
He has seen bigger fish in this lady. Stop hanging on to something that is already done. It won't be easy but you have to try.
You'd meet someone that will take you seriously soon.
Cheer up!

Quiksilver said...

People can Suffer sha; all in the name of love...
Let me go and look for better things to read mbok.

Blackberry said...

Babe forget that guy and get another fuckee, he has moved onto d other girl and probably releasing inside her as I type!
Cheers!
There are many fishes in d river, just pick another.

nzube izuu said...

The relationship is dead, no need trying to resurrect it. The guy met a lady with a solid background and decided to shift base. Let him be, your own will definitely come to you and it will come without stress.

Ada Nwanbueze said...

He's dating the girl already. why wasting your time with him? He's actions are speaking but you choose not to listen.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Madam go and look for another guy Na, y are u forcing him to date u, a man treats u like trash and u are still loving him, all relationship must not end in marriage, he has not proposed sef, his dating the other girl chikena, keep ur mumu love to yourself.

Anonymous said...

Yes the "man has moved on" but the lady can't; can she? When a lady's vagina has been browsed, she can't just move on. Sex is more than a penis entering a vagina and it is the woman's duty to say a big "NO" when pressured for sex. Now who is depressed, can't move on, "still love him" . . . who?

PINK DUPLEX said...

The lady is sharking him for noway she is richer,probably doing somethings u weren't doing for him.

There is nothing u would do to bring him back.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Eyaa...
He is obviously dating the girl...
Dude is single and free to date any one he likes including you...
Don't tell me you don't have other guys...this is why I always advise you guys to have as many boyfriends as you can!...
Poster,since you desperately want him back,locate a good babalawo that will do correct jazz to tie him down....
That's what many correct girls are doing...don't be a Mugu!...

Iphie dearie said...

You didn't break up with him.

STARRY LARRY said...

So what did you want us to do now? That all BVs should help you go and look for him and beg him on your behalf? My dear, your self esteem is low, work on that. Free the guy and set out for another catch. My ex has been begging me for 3yrs now and it's still a no going back for me. Always look forward and not backward, best of luck dear




*Larry was here*

Vivian Ezeadum said...

Sis love can't be that difficult so please get over him already.
He is simply not your man.

Loveme Jeje said...

Forget that guy ooo. So u expect the man to help without getting something in return. The man helped and so his daughter must enjoy his sweat. Don't worry you will get an invite for a wedding. Hope you don know the colour they will be using. Look for money to buy Asoebi for your guy and the lady wedding. They might compensate you with selling of the Asoebis.

Take heart My friend or are you expecting me to tell you what to do

PLATINUM said...

Poster i feel really bad for u right now, seriously, bt honey there isnt a thing u can do about it, just prsh he comes bck to his senses and apologise. I sometimes dont understand how something that is going so beautifully will just oneday hit a rock n die! Bt hey! Its not the end of the world, that man has lost a very rare gem sweetie n he should be the one longing for it back n not u, u deserve better, someone who will never allow anyone come btw u two, he is just an asshole, forgive my french n honey, u deserve better. Nobody said it was going to be easy, bt tk ur time n cry if u want to, bt at the end of the day, do something for ursef n moveon too. Hrt u too bae 😍😘

Sexy Ebony said...

My dear,you gave him a lot of space with that girl,what kind of stupid arrangement or business the girls father had with your guy,that he has to bring his daughter into it,your guy knew from the start he was just pretending,you gave him a lot of space.guys can do anything just to get a job or something even to the detriment of loosing their gf to have another .
Just move on,cause as it is your guy has moved on,occupy your mind with other things and you will forget him .he is just formomg anger for nothg.just move on.

Shola Ojelade said...

I wonder why you failed to read the hand writing on the wall. Since the failed to introduce the girl to you I know u have lost him and for good too. Try and engage urself in something productive and the right man will come. And plz don't be desperate for marriage.
Enjoy ur singleness as much as u can

stunning slim shady said...

*singing*
Move on Move on
Ur relationship don pafuka
No remedy no remedy

mimi j said...

I go with stella I feel he has something to do with the girl it's not going to be easy ooh but get busy with your mind or do stuffs you craved doing but never had the time to do so...
My big hug to you

Godiya loves Linda Eze said...

The moment u said the man introduced him to his daughter, I knew he was no longer urs. Please try everything u can to move on. That was how my boss wanted introducing me to his son, I run o. I no fit with yoruba demon. Thank God for where I am today

Anonymous said...

Awww sorry poster, but I think for once try and make him understand that u still luv him, okay we all make mistakes, trust me, if u were meant for each other he will come back to u otherwise just give urself time to heal, u will heal, it's okay for u to still luv him and miss him coz I believe u have been thinking about him,and the good times, it took me yrs to forgt abt my ex I won't lie to u but darling I'm in a bter place now, just allow those tears roll down if need be.u will be fine and also try and stop thinking about him, ur mind is subjected to u, u can control ur mind, take charge of it. Be strong dear, may God strengthen u

Apples ( SDKBlog Shrink) said...

Sweetheart, you need to let go and find yourself.... this right here ain't healthy.

Anonymous said...

Quite empathize with you in your plight. What I would add here is for you young lady to "close your legs". I have counselled ladies over the years in the course of my work and I have come to discover that majority of the ladies that do not "move on" whenever a relationship does not work out are those who had given in to sexual pressures, committed abortions or gotten infections from their partners. They keep sulking even a decade after the break up whereas their male counterparts had moved on, married and had kids. This later scenario usually adds to the lady's predicament. On the other hand, those who "closed their legs" have more secure and trustworthy marriages apart from "moving on" faster. Also lady, spice your spiritual life with God's word. Learn to read your scriptures (New Testament -you can google it and read on your mobile phones or tablets) and find out what LOVE means.
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. . .

Rob said...

Move on.. Relationship dead on arrival.

Decambi said...

All l see in this write up is a guy who has moved on with his life for a while. . I think hr actually broke up with u before u called the relationship between you guys. Some men are cunning Sha. Pray to God to help u to move on. He doesn't deserve u. . U deserve better so don't waste your time on him. God help you.
Mr Ideal

Iman Bella said...

Dude has moved on
I Advise you do same
God will send someone better

queen hadassah said...

Poster sorry, he is dating that girl...just forget him

zinny uwalaka said...

Stella biggest hug for your honest answer. Kai you too much I must say. Girl move ahead. Was once foolish like you. This is pure emotional blackmail.give yourself sense and give your sense brain bikooo. He ain't worth a drop of tears. Speaking from experience. He has moved ooo the babe and you are here crying because he said marriage I hear you wella. Nne why won't he boldly introduce you to the lady if he has nothing to hide? Forming vexing for you. Latest tricks and you dey beg am. Making him fe.important. bullshit him. Cry as much as you can NNE. Dust yourself up and start looking sweeter. Let no man determine your happiness mbok. He is a confusionist. Deceiving you with little calls n texts rubbish. See better men are out there ooooo. Put your heart and brain in order and start afresh before you miss mr right.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out love or loneliness*

Didy Alexander said...

Real men make ladies break up with them. To avoid curses and the drama. He is my kind of guy. He led you to the breakup gate and you did the rest.

He did a clean job. Please move on and next time don't accept your exes back. Expect there is something in it for you.

pink lady said...

Time heals all wounds.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Before I proceed to read the rest if the chronicle, I absolutely HATE it when people send in chronicles and say 'I never thought....' as in really? Do you think everyone who sends chronicles premeditated the whole scenario? Thead are real issues from REAL people like you and I. The fact that you sit behind your phone/ computer and dish out advice and insults doesn't make you any better than them and doesn't mean your own turn too can't come. Mscheew

Anonymous said...

Poster use these words, say dear God I kno my luv is selfish, proud and lustful pls I drop this luv of mine at the foot of the cross of Jesus Christ,pls give me ur pure luv, God luvs u and wants u back, baby let it go it's gonna be hard tho but u have to let him be, very soon he will start begging u back, I guess u have been thinking about him,and other stuff, pls say those words and u will feel better in due time,

ZIONA said...

The signs where there, u gave to much room when you noticed they were hanging out together, he obviously likes the other girl. Please save ur tears for the one who will appreciate u enn

Nwa AMAKA said...

Just move on. He's not into you anymore. You broke up with him expecting him to come crawling and begging you. Please move on you hear.

Fuck you said...

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage...he chose a contract over u...dat girl is meant to seal d contract...ure just lucky...but u won't realize it now until later

delta babe said...

Poster so sorry dear, try your possible best to get over him,if you try to make up back with him it will only be for a short while,you can't make a man love you or choose you,it has to come from him and I can tell you that you've already been replaced by that other girl.in retrospect a week was too long for you not to pick his call(he would still have broken up with you but you helped the decision quicker) in moving on hopefully with someone who will make you happier,pls work on your anger,surround your self with activities and move on. These men ain't loyal I can assure you.

Muna said...

Trust me... Once u have him back, u will realise u no longer love him. #experience

Anonymous said...

This story is so similar to mine....the break up strategy. We had a small disagreement, I was angry and didnt talk to him for over a week....he never called either. I called the next week and asked to see. He came after work, started telling me that I take him for granted and am too proud and impatient. We made up, or so I thought, even slept over at his place that night. He kept drifting farther from me, sounding cold, acting distant and claimed he was testing me to see if av changed. I couldn't take more and left. Tho I still loved him. I chat him up some months later and we started talking, tho getting back with him wasn't my intention, I found myself trying..after he claimed he still loved me and I left him. He claimed he just met another girl but they werent dating yet. He was always busy, never felt like..or had time to see me. This is someone that takes leave or swap shifts just cz I ask. Well, finally meeting him and spending little time, his new girls call came in. I knew there was more to thier relationship, asked him to tell her off. That was the last time I saw or heard from him. Move on poster, don't get burnt twice

JustPorsh said...

Smh!
I hate cowardly men!
Can't even summon up courage to tell her the truth.
Sowie b. Try n get busy and forget about him.

Blossom said...

Poster,as harsh as this may sound,forget about him. He has moved on. Pls do same.

Ehlarh said...

Its things like this that gets me upset.... Hmmmmm. My dear please move on shey he wants to secure some thing abi,what goes around comes around. You will find someone far better than him,it may be difficult now but you will scale thru.

Anonymous said...

How do ladies feel comfortable going back to their Ex? I can't for the life of me go back to an ex.
Poster u guys broke up in the first few months of the relationship and after how many years u decided to go back to your vomit.
Is better u receive brain and move on with your life. How did that foolish love help u.

DonMayor said...

Wake up and smell the coffee. Your guy don grow legs, sorry about that. Bear the pain and move on too.
Don't give him another chance if he ever come back to you. That's it.

Mrs. Romas said...

Try and forgot about him poster, he is not meant for you. He would have called off the relationship somehow.
The girl's father hooked his daughter with your boyfriend, that sealed the contract.
I feel sorry for you because you still love him, but you need to learn how to unlove him by keeping yourself busy and erasing everything that has to do with him from you life. Delete his phone number, erase all his messages, unfriend/unfollow him on social media; Avoid all the people you both know especially his friends.

Also ask for grace from God to help you forget him and stop thinking about him.

When a man or a woman doesn't want you any more, sometimes is very easy to understand. Your boyfriend was no longer into you. Don't worry, the right one will come soon.

DonMayor said...

Lol @ led to the break up gate.

DonMayor said...

Correct.

XOXO MYSTERY said...

I would have asked you to move on, forget about him Bla bla bla but it is easier typed than done. So my advice to you may probably cost you some self esteem but you would get closure.

He lives thirty minutes away so go to his house. Meet him face to face. His reaction will determine everything. If he has a girl in the house and refuses to see you then you have gotten all the closure. Please do not ever cry or do some pity sturv. Ask him what is the status of your relationship.

Obviously you love that young man to get back together. I don't you to move on and marry but still be longing after your ex. Also the fact that you keep breaking up might send a wrong signal to him.

Next time,if you don't like something, be upfront. You should have told him initially you dislike such association for whatever monetary gains but you went along with it.

If after everything, it is over. Cry and move on

Martins Aboy said...

@poster;when a man is fed up with a particular lady and wants to move on,he prays for one slight mistake or misbehavior from the lady...and you just gave him that Excuse he has been longing for!!

Funny enough;he might not be dating the said lady you are talking about;but truth is that he has moved on and definitely busy with another lady out there..

Nevertheless;there is no need of sobbing over split milk..He has moved on;so do same as well!!

You are killing yourself over a man who is definitely having a good time with another lady out there..doesn't that make you look kinda foolish??

My dear,go out there,make new friends,have fun,dont be too tight with yourself or extremely shy and reserved!! Believe me there is much fun out there than you think,and you can only feel this heartbreak when you are always alone and reminiscing about the moments you shared with the said guy..

Life is good;but it depends on when you realize that!!! #cheers dearie

@MARTINS ABOY

Limitless Grace... said...

Your man broke up with you long before you decided to do same, the day he went for her birthday was just about when it happened. His conscience was still beating him until you gave him a leeway by not picking his calls; he capitalized on that to make you feel you did wrong. He turned the table on you. He's just played on your psyche, but that's not enough to keep you hurting, you need to break free from his psychological prison.

I'd simply advice you follow Stella's advise as it is obvious the young man has moved on, again two cannot work or even walk except they be in agreement. Why not Engage your time in something else and give yourself a chance to forget him. Read books, hangout, make new friends, travel if you can, take things easy with yourself and don't rush into a new relationship until you are clear headed, if not, you'd rush out again, hurting more than before. In all of these, please do not blame or beat yourself, thinking you messed up or something, the young man moved a long time ago, he needed an opportunity to make it public. Go on and live for a better tomorrow. He didn't respect what you guys shared, so you don't need to cry over someone like that. Be grateful it happened now and this way. It sure could have been worse.

I don't know if you'd find someone like him, but I know you stand a chance of meeting an amazing and better man if you'd only give yourself a chance by moving on. You need to let go of him so as to let in a much better person. The best is ahead.

Cheers as you enjoy limitless grace...

Quiksilver said...

Abi o. Bobo broke up with her since. She just finalised it officially

Meeee said...

Dear poster...pick up courage, dry your tears and move on. You wont die trust me, you'll even feel better. I know it's hard but you have to be strong

stunning slim shady said...

@ Martins Aboy: u r filled wt so much wisdom for ur age.πŸ‘ I love d advice u gave d poster. Ride on

Anonymous said...

PG 18
Their is always 2 sides to a story. From ur story story u said he begged you to come back with him for years, so what I sense there is u have too much pride and like they say "pride comes before a fall" I know a guy don't just walk out of a girl like that, u most have been doing so many bullshit and e has been over looking, but i think he just figured , what the hell I'm I even doing with this girl sef and decided to give this new girl that I think he wants to gain somthing from a try.leasaon for your type be it a boy or a girl. When your partner gets you angry to shut them out try as much as you can to give them ur hears, but don't say anything to make it worst.
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN

Phames said...

Bia, Stella blog owner why all dis ur move on move on advice, can't you advise them to try and fight for love sometimes?

Anonymous said...

Move on dear.

Tush baby said...

In this buhari era that you want the guy to loose the girls father's help Biko find ur level .

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

My dear,you need to try your best to move on cuz the nigga has already moved on.He was obviously dating that other girl and you knew it,you just don't want to admit it.He broke up with you a long time in his mind and you just made it easy for him.

Remove your mind totally and move on please.

Cherry Wine said...

I thought this kind of thing only happens in movies. Sorry poster, moving on is not hard, we just like to suffer ourselves with "what ifs" and "what went wrong". Now you have to focus on yourself, cry, let it all out but don't ever think its the end of the world. Your man will come, just improve yourself for now, kisses....

Anonymous said...

PG 18
Why do people make it sound like love is a crime, everybody is quick to call her out,while they too have or still falling for someone. She knows the truth,but what she needs is not the truth but encouragement.its not easy to let go, but honey you have to try.
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN

Anonymous said...

My dear move on

The best amongst the cuties said...

Babe, u dey fall hand abeg! Move on already. Why do u girls keep hanging on to a guy as if he is the air u breathe, eh??? Stop embarrassing urself and look for something to keep urself busy with.

Godiya loves Linda Eze said...

James welcome back o

inuah'semerald said...

Lol@ probably releasing inside her...

'Tide said...

Meanwhile,my ex that broke up with me and got married 6months after,finally decides to send my weavon he has been hoarding...
It came wonderfully made,sliced into pieces(because that's what he did).Make Una help me see mad man o!!!
He did not get the weave for me,he broke up with me and he is somehow still pained...I'm so angry right now,don't know if I should call him and insult the living daylight out of him.

one of Linda's bridesmaids said...

Lolz

Anonymous said...

Babe if for say u dey near me I for give u one sounding slap. Y u dey doll like dis? U made a mistake from d begining u wia so comfortable with ur guy hangin out with another babe so what do u xpect dat guy has moved on sine d very first day he went out with her and u dey jux formin love u want advice abi oya take am abeg move on in tink of been a better person so wen next e see u ur level go don change.

Strawberry Diamond said...

poster forget that man and move on with your life. His heart is with the new girl.

Anonymous said...

Bwahahahahahaha @releasing inside her, stella your bvs are crazy, I swear.

Anonymous said...

Time will heal ur broken heart.Try to make frnds nd dont isolate ursef,u will be fine dear.

ZIONA said...

Lmaooo black berry, funny chick

malia cakes said...

My dear,i knw is painful to let someone u love to just go like dat,but I will advice u to move on wit ur life just lik him, go out dere have funny u never can tell u can just meet one very nice n caring guy out dere dat end the story.

Cherry Wine said...

Are you sure you read this post?

malia cakes said...

My dear,i knw is painful to let someone u love to just go like dat,but I will advice u to move on wit ur life just lik him, go out dere have funny u never can tell u can just meet one very nice n caring guy out dere dat end the story.

beeolah said...

It is well poster, time heals all wounds

karma?...please said...

Everybody is just saying move on, move on. You guys think it's easy to move on from a guy you love or you are falling for. She probably didn't do anything but the guy decided that he didn't like her "suspicious nature" and he broke up with her instead of working around it. Men are soo annoying and very annoying.

Anonymous said...

Wow @ Martins boyπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ˜˜

Jasmine said...

Gbam!!!

Anonymous said...

I like this comment πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜

God'swill said...

Biko is this our James??

God'swill said...

Rebound ke....pls poster don't listen to the rebound part

Starjoy said...

Just let go, the handwriting is clearly written on the wall guy has move on

Adanne said...

Babe gashike

Ronalda. said...

Awwwww! Poor baby. I'm sorry you're going through this emotional breakdown. Asking you to move on would be impractical because you aren't over him. What I'll advise you to do is let him go. You can let go of someone even if you aren't yet within the headspace to move on.

Darling, you can't force a willing employee on an unwilling employer. You can't make him want you just because you want him. It appears your relationship with him was already over before you realised it. Don't blame yourself for anything and don't wish you had taken his calls when you ignored them. The truth is, there's really nothing you could have done differently to keep him if he wasn't into the relationship anymore.

Letting him go is the best solution because it cuts both ways. It's ironic but the best way to get an ex back is to actually let him go and act like you're doing ok without him. On the other hand, if you want to eventually move on, it still starts by letting him go as well. When he sees you've stopped calling and sending him messages, he will wonder why you've stopped caring and he will initiate contact. Trust me, nobody wants to be that forgettable. It feels good to know that someone is crumbling down emotionally because you're no more in that person's life. Even when you walk out on a relationship and your ex hooks up with someone else almost immediately, it kinda stings. Let him feel the sting by ignoring him completely. Let him keep wondering what's up with you. If what you guys had was solid enough, he will come crawling back to you but if not, then it's a blessing in disguise. Who wants to be with a man who see you as an option? 

While you lick your wounds, don't shut people out. Don't rush into any relationship just yet because that could be a rebound. Just be open to other options, you may be amazed that what you thought was diamond was actually a well cut glass. Honey, you may not feel so right now but it will get better and eventual, you'll be fine. You'll wake up one morning only to discover it doesn't hurt anyone. Who knows? You may find someone new who would make you grateful to your ex for being an ex.‎ Some of the best love stories started with a heartbreak. Hang in there darling. It will definitely get better.

#e-bearhugs.‎

Nonye Inspired (James Bond's Girl) said...

Dear Poster: I must say am sorry for what happened..You trusted him enough to give him a second chance but u did not share the reason why it didn't work the first time..U see there is nothing wrong forgiving him but you would settled all the reasons why u guys didnt work the first time and see you are sure the second time will do the magic

My dear it is obvious that the guy is in another relationship which means you need to move on too as well.. you cant keep waiting for a ship at the airport.

Sorry dear next time, Please define everything you are doing and if you want to give someone another chance, settle whatever that made it not to work the first time..

I keep saying this ''once you go black, u cant go back''

Anonymous said...

Thanks Stella for posting and thank you bvs for all your contributions. I'm really grateful.

i am wonderfully made and i love my family to the moon and back. said...

Kikikikikiki, you bad o!

Anonymous said...

hmmmmm:) This was me last year....

Its not the love you are missing, You are missing the control you had over him,which u've lost

he cared about you, literally ate out of ur palms , but now, he doesn't even want to see you anymore.. how can a mind comprehend that??we'll, it's bloody hard.

You just need to wake up and realise , it's over!! Yes, its going to hurt for a while, u will have sleepless nights, u will sing love songs, u will feel sorry for urself, u will lose ur self esteem ,u will cry... but the the morning comes. it gets better, u will feel better and you will meet better!. so find that smile babe, laugh, sing a joyful song to the lord and be happy,because this too shall pass !I promise.

DaCraziestEyes said...

Ooh please shut the hell up. Virgins do get heart broken and still find it difficult to move on. Love has no respect for the hole or lack thereof in your vagina. Stop the bullshit talk.

Fuck you said...

Hhahhahhahahhhhhahahahahahaahahha....dat guy Na mad man ooh...I would have said send him a better package...but No leave am Abeg...his crase is on another level

DaCraziestEyes said...

"We are suppose to be getting married next year"Right there is why you can't move on. I'm sure you have told all your dear ones about the up coming marriage and you know what that means PRESSURE.
Please find a way to move on. When a man starts hanging out with his helper's daughter, worse of with her fathers approval, that is a red flag. 1st step to losing him. MOVE ON.

DaCraziestEyes said...

Hahahaha! There is no need calling him. He will surely call you. I'm sure he has finished comparing your good sides to that of his new wife. He knows what he missed and probably blames you for not making an effort to hustle him well.. Meh sha! The hate to lose.

SDKprincess said...

Am so sorry am gonna be rude And I really don't care please don't you have any sense or self pride left in you??haba how can you be this draft??it is obvious he has moved on he doesn't he doesn't need you,even if you get him back and you convince him to marry you my dear kolewerk you will end up a sad and bitter wife and terrible mother who won't be useful to herself and also to her family wake up wake up and stop sleeping you are in your mid twenties you should have enough sense to figure this out and where this is going to if you don't learn after reading this you go ahead and get the guy back get married and start sending chronicles I will personally buy cane for you adult that you are

Adey said...

U just said my mind...

Adey said...

U just said my mind...

Girl in love. said...

Lmaooo, tide ur story is hilarious! Ur ex is psychotic. Don't bother ringing him, it won't achieve nada,so let it go.

Cissy said...

Breathe sugar, just breathe...let it go
Both of you can't be mad @ d same time.
Invoke the power of silence...ignore him

hey said...

wish ladies could be more patient and accomodating, am sure you always act this way when ever you guys had a fight, you stayed a whole week without picking his call hoping he's going to come crying to you as awalys, you deserve what you got, God dont catch you.... na me talk am

hey said...

wish ladies could be more patient and accomodating, am sure you always act this way when ever you guys had a fight, you stayed a whole week without picking his call hoping he's going to come crying to you as awalys, you deserve what you got, God dont catch you.... na me talk am

SHILZ said...

Its difficult but babe u have to forget him.

Sensa Greene said...

Martins aboy, this is why I'll save you over and over lmao. Brilliant advice.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Does this even look like a fighting scenario to you? Mscheew

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

He sliced your weave? Honey guess what, his wife did 😊 he did it. She found it. She recognised it wasn't hers. She shredded it to pieces and is probably even the one who sent it in the mail just to be SURE it has left her house. 😊

spunky said...

Now, move on and behave as if Dt man/boy doesn't exist

Anonymous said...

Cold shoulder as a weapon is wicked especially when used in relationships. The guy probably had nothing to do with the lady but she let jealousy and pride override what ever 'sense' was dre. Even most of the relationship books/manuals y'all read preach against'cold shoulder' and u even took urs to a WEEK.
Na wa..
Let him move on in peace. Some of u ain't worth the saliva.

Anonymous said...

Ronalda u write so good......

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

I love this woman

Anonymous said...

Poster face ur front o, bros done get new babe.

Nkem said...

Madam, while your message is valid, it is not apt in this situation. Can we just stop being unnecessarily sanctimonious and self righteous? Did she tell you she slept with the guy? Why are you concluding for her? Is it because the only comfort you can give is condemnation? Virgins suffer heartbreaks everyday! Virgins date for years and are emotionally involved, when the relationship picks up, they hurt and they hurt badly too. Do you realize she just may be feeling really bad and blaming herself for not trying to nip this whole affair in the bud since? Do you know how painful it is to have a guy so willing to sacrifice something you thought was beautiful for a job or a deal? Just what in God's name has closing of legs got to do with this???

Bonnygal said...

Mehn, I just really like reading ur shits, u're such a crazy gal

Anonymous said...

My dear how could you say that? From what she wrote it's obvious he has something to do with the lady in question. Did you say jealousy and pride? Pls wear her shoes first!

'Tide said...

Thanks guys!

But chikito,I refuse to believe she did...I mean,she got married to him.There is really no need to shred my weave.The only time I contacted him after the breakup was to ask for my weave.I did not beg,I did not ask why,I did not bother him with calls from people(note that,this is a relationship of four years).We were suppose to start our marriage preparation soonest...guess he was pained cos I wasn't bothered.
Truth is,I was.I wake up every morning ready to let the tears flow.Each time,I remind myself"if he can'out of nowhere breakup with you'he isn't worth your tears"and God wants you to do better than him.
Women are really not petty anymore.

Anonymous said...

2moro now when he's all married and realised u are no more there, he will start calling u to tell u how he has missed u and made d worst mistake, and u will be contemplating on hin being ur best friend. That is why i said an ex should remain an ex. Learn how to control ur feelings.

Anonymous said...

She's richer? Its that what u think. I put it to u that if any man marries u cos of ur money or ur papa money, u will suffer for it. It just a matter of time, je will come back begging her and be telling her how he married d lady cos of the help her dad rendered for him and d woman will return to writing chronicle on how her husband is still seeing his ex. Abeg leave talk. I ve learnt not to love too much irrespective of who u are or how we met.

Anonymous said...

@Nkem, what that ananymous said is nothing but d truth, u can take it to bank. I found out that growing up, i hardly give in to sex, even when i do, i do it at my own pace, enjoy it the way i want and even d first to get up from the bed. Even when i broke up with my first love, i didnt feel it that much rather he was d one cos he kept talking to my friends about me. Last two year, i promised God mo sex until marriage. Its not easy cos i'm sexually active and PRETTY but my mind is at rest knowing no one is cheating on me. Guess what? I will be getting married by Dec. but God forbid boo decided to fall my hand, i wont be that heartbroken knowing that i still ve my kpekus intact.

Anonymous said...

A man will always like a new girl but deep down, he knows what he wants. It was never her fault but just move on, you'll get over it.

Anonymous said...

Some mothers have them...wisdom at its peak

Anonymous said...

@Martins, THANK YOU! My giddiness! You have said it all. I allergists this coming from a man sef. You spoke the truth! I wish there was someone like you to have told me this sooner. God bless you for that response.

dame sexy said...

You laid the bed you are sleeping on currently,you agreed to that initial crazy arrangement of your boyfriend hanging out with the omo baba olowo(rich man s daughter)just because of perceived financial and biz breakthrough for your man and the cascading benefits to you .In actual fact deep down in your mind u knew your man could possibly sleep with the lady ,but so far as fortune smiles on you via your man in all these crazy arrangement,you were down for it.unfortunately for you,your man got choked with longer throat syndrome and you guys best laid plan is turning against u.(for GOD sake,u were told a man was desperately pushing $ marketing his "possibly over ripe for marriage" daughter to your boyfriend and you went playing along just because of imaginary naira rain for u ?)the smart rich man and daughter just won a son in law.MOVE ON WITH LIFE AND BE WISE in your future affair.God bless you .

dame sexy said...

You laid the bed you are sleeping on currently,you agreed to that initial crazy arrangement of your boyfriend hanging out with the omo baba olowo(rich man s daughter)just because of perceived financial and biz breakthrough for your man and the cascading benefits to you .In actual fact deep down in your mind u knew your man could possibly sleep with the lady ,but so far as fortune smiles on you via your man in all these crazy arrangement,you were down for it.unfortunately for you,your man got choked with longer throat syndrome and you guys best laid plan is turning against u.(for GOD sake,u were told a man was desperately pushing $ marketing his "possibly over ripe for marriage" daughter to your boyfriend and you went playing along just because of imaginary naira rain for u ?)the smart rich man and daughter just won a son in law.MOVE ON WITH LIFE AND BE WISE in your future affair.God bless you .

Olaide Davies said...

May God comfort you my dear. Believe me, you deserve a better man let him go.

Olaide Davies said...

Just imagine he is dead , that should help you move on.

Anonymous said...

Sorry dear poster..but I honestly think u missed some parts of the story. He called u for one week and u didn't pivk.and when u picked what happened? One week is too long to shit someone out,soneone u love. And am sure this wasn't the ist time u are doing it.imagine call u everyday for one week, that includes the sleepless nights and restless ness
That was extreme. He has moved on dear. Take heart my sweet heart. U will heal,just take it that he wasn't yours.. while healing,look inwards,if pride and coldness is really the problem,try and find a way around it..dont say it's your thing,change is constant..we learn and get better every day..


Gentle

Amunidara said...

Deep!

Anonymous said...

Dear Poster, is his name Promise? Lol

Ayomide Adenike said...

sorry dear, pls the sooner you forget him, the better for your life. He has moved on. i know its not easy but you have to let go so u won't hurt your self in the process. HE doesn't worth it

Amacastel said...

1 million likes for u oo on dis ur comment.

Amacastel said...

Thank God u guys are not married yet he would av leave you for help from the other gals father he not man enough he is a push over that is ready to trade his relationship for a piece of silver. God wilm give u a right man, pls don't give such chances again on ur next relationship is not healthy , u know what I mean(permitting ur man to go on a date with another woman cos of contract, job, loan is very dangerous.

Amacastel said...

Are u the girl the father they matchmake bobo for?abi ur papa wan use money buy husband for u hope una get enough to maintain the bought husband cos the moment the money stops coming off he goes.

Mosi Jubelo said...

Martins eyaff seridol

Mosi Jubelo said...

Martins eyaff seridol

Anonymous said...

He has turned the tables on you... Mine told me I made him go back to his ex, that now he is confused!! Imagine that!

I ignored him totally because I know my worth, rather I buried myself in work and my little biz, kept an open mind, talked to God more, hung out more etc

Now this cute (rich) God fearing young man surfaces and he wouldn't give me breathing space, gone as far as contacting my family.

Been looking at him with side eyes like 'are you not too good to be true?' But then I remember my prayer point (oh Lord give me a miracle that will sound like a lie).

Poster add this to your prayer point not just about relationships but everything else... Be fervent! Watch wonders erupt.

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