What a story!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
STORY STORY INSIDE A RELATIONSHIP
Hi Stella, never thought I would send my own chronicles but here I am.
I am an ardent bvn though I hardly comment. Please sorry for the errors as I am in an emotional state at the moment and its a bit lengthy. Let me start from the beginning, I am in my mid twenties and I dated my ex for a few months about five years ago and broke up with him.
As the years went by he always wanted me back but I never agreed, so i decided to give it a second chance last year and we started dating. There were normal bumps in a relationship but we scaled through. Sometimes early this year he was trying to secure something and decided to tell a man he knows who happens to come from the same place about it. The man promised to help him. In the process, the man introduced his daughter to him and said they should hang out together.
He even told they to go out on val's day together. He told me about it and told me he even got her a gift. I asked him if he knew what the man was doing and he assured me that nothing would happen and I believed. I never for once gave it a second thought as he was very caring and loving and I trusted him. All these while sometimes he, the girl and her dad do hang out together and I never said a word. A certain day came and he called normally in the evening, during the conversation I noticed he was eating and I asked him if he cooked and he said no that it was food from the lady's birthday.
I was shocked because we spoke twice in the afternoon and he never mentioned it to me that it was her birthday. He said he, she, her friends and dad went out to celebrate her birthday. I got angry and said I wanted him to introduce me to this girl because I have met many of his friends and I have never met her and she lives in the same estate with him. He said he would not introduce me to her that if I want to, I should go and introduce myself to her and he called her full name. I felt really insulted and ended the call.
I am someone that don't pick your calls when I am angry with you to avoid saying things I would regret. So throughout that week I didn't pick his calls and at a point the frequency of his calls dropped. I started picking his calls the following week, told him we need to talk, he said there was nothing to talk about and that I wanted to control his life and the kind of friends he kept. I was dumb founded to say the least.
I was wondering where this came from. His calls and chats became less frequent. We stay less than thirty minutes away yet he always claimed busy with work. The next time I saw him was over a month later and for less than an hour because he had somewhere to go as he kept receiving calls. He spoke most of the time acting all angry with me that I shouldn't have stopped answering his calls. That things are not done that way, I was making assumptions and doesn't know if my problem is pride. I should let him know when I have calmed down. He claimed we would see the following week to talk as he was busy that weekend.
Do u know that that was the last time I saw him. Sent him a message that I was free throughout that week and he didn't reply. The following week was his birthday, I sent him a text and called he didn't answer. I couldn't go to his house as I was busy so I did during the weekend and he wasn't in. I called he didn't pick but called back immediately and said he wasn't in town. I didn't hear from him again. I angrily broke up with him a week later. I felt worse after the breakup and tried many times to try to have a meeting but he always said he was busy and that I have made my decision so why do I want to see him.
The truth is that I still love and miss him. He called me on my birthday but I missed them and he later sent a text. Its been almost two months I broke up with him but can't seem to get over him. I want him back but don't know how to go about it. We were meant to get married next year.
Please Stella your red pen is really needed.
My fellow bvns your wise words and curses are also needed. Thank you.
*Wake up honey,this man has moved on..I suspect he is dating that Lady and that was why he feigned anger,he might have broken up with you sooner or later if he is already dating this girl.....you stay how far?he lives in the same Estate with her meeeeen.
Why dont you get busy and get him off your mind?I am so sorry that you still love him,maybe time will reset his brain but right now i dont think he is your man.