STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE ROLE OF A VISITING IN LAW IN A HOME
Good day stella,keep up the good works.please kindly post as I urgently need advice.
I have an issue which I won't like to share with people that are close to me so that I can get good and constructive advice,without trying to be on my side .Here goes my story :
I am a stay at home mum with three kids, the eldest is three years old and the other two are twins,i was actually working before i lost my job.
Let me give you an insight into what I do daily so that you can actually feel my pain,i stay in a two bedroom bungalow and we are the only one in the compound, we have a dog which we let loose at night that means I have to clear his mess daily and wash every where with Izal because of the strong smell when he urinates.
I mop every where daily because of the kids and also do the laundry daily cos I don't like pilling up cloths.
My sister works in the state i reside so she stays with me, so she helps with clearing the kitchen and cooking breakfast for my son to take to school.
I have a brother in law an undergraduate that comes to visit us often, whenever he is around I have to cook his meal, serve him without him assisting with anything not even to help with his nephews home work.
He only wash the plate he uses to eat whenever there is no other plate in the kitchen,but whenever he sees any he'll just drop the plate unwashed.
He sleeps on the same bed with hubby cos I have to sleep with my kids in there room,they change bedspread weekly and I do the washing.
The room he sleeps with hubby,he only sweep it whenever he feels like and not daily,so it is always very untidy.
When ever he comes around he spends not less than 2 months, While I was pregnant with my twins, I do all the house chores alone. I even knee down at times to sweep while he will be there and hubby won't say anything.
So my question is can't a brother in law assist around the house? I tried discussing it with hubby and he turned it into a huge fight....please am I a trouble maker?i actually stopped preparing his breakfast two days ago, so he goes into the kitchen and cook by himself, so he stopped greeting me and even wrote one silly thing on his BBM.
Should I just leave him and pretend as if no one is around? You know people are quick to label one a bad wife without listening to your own side of the story,how can you be with us for the past three months and you can't help with anything?
I once employed a maid,that spent only one month and left, she even
masturbates while sleeping cos I have caught her so many times, so don't tell me to employ one.