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Saturday, 8 October 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

This looks hard...but it isnt!




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WAITING FOR A BROKE-ASS LOVER VS MARRYING THE NEXT AVIALABLE
RICH MAN

Hi Stella, I trust you are doing well.Thanks for your blog as i have found a family in this blog.I decided to pen this down due to recent occurring and reoccuring headaches i do encounter due to too much thinking so i decided to know the opinion of fellow bvs perhaps it could put an end to it.Please hide my email and pardon me as this may be long.


I will be 29 by december,i have always envisaged settling down early in a peaceful home and watching my kids grow.I visioned marriage as one that will bring all your dreams and aspirations to reality but low and behold with the kind of chronicles being reported here i began to set my priorities in accordance to reality.

I have been in and out or relationships and at a point in time i went on my knees asking God for a life partner who will be my soul mate and who i will find peace in as I didnt really encounter peace of mind in my previous relationships.


God made known to me that my prayer had been answered long before i asked for it but just that i didnt realise it.My eyes were opened to realise that one of my closest male friend had been in love with me since forever and has expressed it in one form or the other but i just called it bluff...That period surrounding when i made that prayer,(lets call my friend Stephen)stephen started showing strong interest in me and telling me that he has a strong conviction that we were meant to spend the rest of our lives together.


This time around i weighed a lot of things and decided to perhaps give it a try of which i did and still doing.


It was in the course of our dating that he revealed to me that he has been in love with me for over 10 years and as the years go by and me being in other relationships he thought what he felt will fade but it kept coming stronger so he just had to come out plain with me as he has also prayed but the feelings will not go.

The relationship has progressed for two years now and the truth is that i have encountered peace like never before in this relationship.

Stephen loves me so much and infact I can do no wrong in his eyes,he introduced me to his family as the one he intends to spend the rest of his life with and they all embraced me into the family.I have found compatibility in major aspects of our lives and i can say without a doubt that Stephen is my soulmate. 

Along the line in our course of dating i was retrenched due to the economic meltdown and some of stephens financial plans for the year were also truncated.I ventured into a business but along the line it became unfavorable due to the exchange rate so I had stop.

This halted our plans of settling down this year as we had to go back to the drawing board to start re -strategising.

The problem now is that the pressure to settle down is beginning to build up as there is a rich suitor that has made it known to my family that he wants to marry me.Yes he is well to do and will take care of my financial needs (tentatively) which is what my family is most concerned about.

Stephen who i am in peace with isnt ready financially but is making efforts to and some of my friends feel he will waste my time as they cant tell how soon he will pick up financially.Some even tag me unserious as to why i should even be considering not  marrying the rich man immediately  but i am confused......
wouldnt i regret it in the long run if i leave my soul mate and marry someone else?...

will i be considered a fool considering my age to still stick with stephen?
Does marrying a rich person you havent courted really bring automatic fulfilment?
has anyone ever left a supposed soul mate and found peace?.....please help me answer these.Thank you.

whew!


*My dear,na only you fit answer this question depending on what you are looking at.....Peace of mind is good but a marriage without finances will eventually be troubled.
A marriage without love will eventually break down as well.

So you ask yourself what you want to gamble with cos everything in life is a gamble and a risk and no one knows for sure until the ball starts to roll...


225 comments:

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ANGELRAY4SDK said...

It seems u love poverty, what guarantee do u ve dat Stephen will marry if he makes it, poor men sabi love eh, u better dump him and marry d rich guy, with time u will love him, in this Buhari govt u want to marry a poor man, tufiakwa.

Blog Member Ibukunoluwa said...

Everything is life is a risk
Peace of mind is important
Money is also important
Poster pray more
Why can't all the good things just be in one man seff 😩

Vivian Ezeadum said...

Hmmmmmmmm
Odikwa risky

Atheist. said...

While ure stuck in the middle of the deep blue sea & the cloaked devil.... i'm presently in a wedding ceremony, i'm sure the bride was faced with such dilemma, cus I've caught her twice making eye contact wit a certain gentle lookin dude, & he seems to have this look on his face that says "That shld be me in that tux... But na this recession fuck me up"....
I hope u made the right choice without tossing a coin.

lastborn said...

The devil Is a liar,which kind of temptation be this. What I knw is dat poverty can turn love,peace to hate.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Poster,
Listen to me and listen good!,,,
Love alone cannot hold a marriage!...
The worst thing that would happen to any woman is to marry a church rat!...
My dear,you see that una yeye love,e go vanish!...and he will start to irritate you!...
Grab this your rich suitor sharply before he change his mind!...

white Berry said...

I will advice to study the rich man properly and just learn to love him so you can get married to him because how long can you be able to wait for Stephen but along the line of studying that rich man if you find out there are some characters he is exhibiting that you can't Cope with then you can call it quit

em jay said...

It is indeed a difficult situation.

Empress CHO said...

Lady, Have you forgotten how you reached God pre-stephen?
Go back and channel your questions and frustrations to him. You won't get real help here.

sugar baby said...

I will advice you go for the rich suitor because time waits for no man. If your Stephen would be in your own shoe, he would have gone for the rich lady so go for him, love will follow.

Ada Nwanbueze said...

What ever you want to do just remember this... when poverty comes through the door love will fly through the window. So poster use your tongue to count your teeth.

Miss Juliet said...

What is your priority? Love and happiness or money..if u can answer this with all sincerity then there won't be a problem choosing whom to marry..

KEEPING UP WITH SDKB said...

Poster, we need to learn from this your narrative, we're both in same shoe

Anonymous said...

You started the right way by praying about your soul mate and God gave you a partner. Now, were you praying close to the time you were retrenched or met the rich man???
I think that if you can pray and get answers, pray again. Ask God to make it clear which if any of these two is your husband and should never let you regret or have any heart ache about the one who leaves or you leave.
Also try and avoid a sexual relationship with any before you are married. Even if your boyfriend was your original intended from God, a sexual relationship may have broken the foundation of the relationship and would require prayers and deliverance.
I would say pray and watch. You will soon determine the character of both and the wrong one will break away from you.

Flawless BossQueen said...

Poster, follow your mind.

Ideato I am not portable viv o
The same way they r accusing me of been queen and boss.
Tomorrow una go accuse me of been mamie

SDK Henchman said...

Wealth is no guaranty for happiness neither is poverty.

Becky Divine said...

Broke ass men can love for Africa she lol

Stephan is a good guy and you have peace with him! True
But how long will that peace last if you both end of getting married without a steady income or steady cash flow

Without money, love no dey sweet o.

The rich man might seem like the better choice but it's a risk. How well do you know him? His character? The source of his wealth et el.. And when the money finishes what happens? Will you cheat or write us another chronicle about how you're still hung up on your Stephen?

I can't believe I'm about to say this but... I think you should stick to your Stephen.
Chop the rich man's money secretly, then dump him later.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

It's better to cry in a rolls Royce than to cry in a maruwa...
Will love put food on your table?...
If you don't marry this guy,you will surely regret it!...
Don't worry about not loving him...with time,you will fall madly in love with him...

Blackberry said...

Soulmate kor!
If u marry d rich man, u will still fuck Stephen, judging from d way u r hammering on 'my soulmate'.
Goodluck as u make ur choice!
U remember the other chronicle? That fucked her soulmate whilst married? D husby found out n forgave her? U remember?

beeolah said...

Brb to read comment

beeolah said...

Brb to read comment

Naya Nuel said...

Dear poster, please wait for Stephen, it ll be worth it in the end.

viva ciara said...

When it has to do with LOVE and MONEY, I refuse to say anything.
Poster i am sorry.

Decambi said...

Dear poster, i feel better get married to the man u love dear. If you love the rich guy marry him if u don't love him then don't think about it pls. Listen to your instincts l belive u won't b betrayed by it. God answers prayers so u can equally go to Him on ur knees.
#Mr Ideal

Anonymous said...

From your chronicle, your heart is with Stephen and I'd congratulate you for not being the type that would have jumped at the other choice, you are only pressurized and it's fine. Stick to your plans with Stephen, pray for breakthrough on all sides and commit Stephens heart into Gods hand. You both will do great. Have you thought about settling with the rich guy and everything suddenly goes bam? Some even married the rich and the man won't spend on her or give her peace

MrsBee

modella said...

If Stephen is not ready abeg find your square root and stick with this rich dude or better still, keep both first and follow your heart later.

Anonymous said...

Please stick with Stephen. A poor man today can be a rich man tomorrow. Moreover ther is no guarantee that the rich suitor will keep being rich.

When deciding marriage, peace of mind comes before wealth.

Esther Okoro said...

Nne, go for the richman biko.But before that, your parents need to do background checking on the richman by asking trusted elders in his village about his character &family.Above all he must be God fearing. If the response is good,then you'll go ahead and marry him. As time goes on ,you'll get to love him.




God Bless Everyone.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...
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Anonymous said...

This one hard for me to decide.. But I will advice you to chill with Stephen..

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Go to God in prayer.... Go for what u want
U might decide to marry the rich man n he turns u to a punching bag or there won't be peace in the marriage.

On the other hand,u might leave Stephen n before u know money will start rolling in.

Money makes marriage sweet, but it doesn't buy peace or a happy home.



So my dear, go to God in prayers

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

Stick with Stephen, don't gamble off your relationship just like dat, y'al should do court and traditional marriage quietly to save cost....

Anonymous said...

Please marry the rich man, marriage without money is sad.. Im married but because my partner is broke now I have more than 3lovers..i can't die of depression 😐😐😐

Chidinma Gift said...

This is tough but just try and court the rich man, maybe you will end up having feelings for him.

Love without money kills the love oo

FABULOUS ME said...

Soul mates ain't easy to come by...since you found peace 'with' him, I'd advice you stay put and make it work. Besides the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know...

What if you marry the supposed rich dude and his finances crumble? Be guided accordingly and above all


Go DOWN ON YOUR KNEES tho' it would be selfish of you to jump into the marriage

Anonymous said...

You will definitely regret it! You brought "God said to me . . . prayers had been answered ..." into this discourse and now you want to jump ship? Don't you know that everything the Lord reveals will be tested and this period is the testing.

When you said that he is rich; rich doing what? How did he come about what you call riches? You do not know this man, you do not love him, what you love is his "supposed money" which can develop wings and vanish as soon as today. You may as well be the sacrificial lamb to keep that his "riches" dripping!

Maureen Ekeh said...

Poster stella has said it all, life itself is a risk n a challenge . You alone can determine what you want. I wish you the best dear and I hope you win at the end.

Esther Okoro said...

Nne, go for the richman biko.But before that, your parents need to do background checking on the richman by asking trusted elders in his village about his character &family.Above all he must be God fearing. If the response is good,then you'll go ahead and marry him. As time goes on ,you'll get to love him.




God Bless Everyone.

SDK Henchman said...

Poster,make enquiry from people that know the man very well,as many riable people as possible and know if he is a nice man.
Long courtship itself is no guarantee for a successful marriage eg Toke ,Tiwa and Angelina Jolie.
My senior brother came back from d US and married his now wife.His classmate just told him to go and marry her dat she is a good girl.They never met until their traditional marriage.It has been 12 years of happy marriage.
I will not wish even the daughter of my worst enemy to marry a poor man .

New Eve said...

Wait and grow with Stephen.
Don't marry for money..
Your family won't be there when the rich man m isbehaves.
Stay with peace. Ignore your family and pressure.
Peace is more important.
God showed you Stephen.
Don't lose a gem while chasing glitter.

Nikomi said...

Money isn't everything my dear. I'm talking from experience, but sometimes it may not Favour u if u stick to d poor guy but it may also favour u at d long run when he finally pick up. No body knows tomorrow. I suffered wit a boy but he left me for anoda richer girl and I had also dated a rich man but has d heart of a beast.but finally settled down with anoda so called poor boy and finally God bless him even more dan d so called rich man and I AV found peace and joy and I can contribute to issues at home bcos I met him when he had nothing.. so my dear it depends on d man and if he has prospects. All dat glitters are not gold. Sorry for any errors o I day cook

Nikomi said...

Money isn't everything my dear. I'm talking from experience, but sometimes it may not Favour u if u stick to d poor guy but it may also favour u at d long run when he finally pick up. No body knows tomorrow. I suffered wit a boy but he left me for anoda richer girl and I had also dated a rich man but has d heart of a beast.but finally settled down with anoda so called poor boy and finally God bless him even more dan d so called rich man and I AV found peace and joy and I can contribute to issues at home bcos I met him when he had nothing.. so my dear it depends on d man and if he has prospects. All dat glitters are not gold. Sorry for any errors o I day cook

SON OF SOLOMON said...

If you ask me na who I go ask?

Zitel Coconut oil Onitsha 08081725441 said...

I agree with what Stella pencilled down. Marriage without cash na wahala, but a loveless one na gbese.
I will go with Stephen, and since I trust myself to be hardworking n with God on my side, we will pull thru n make so much money together.

Anonymous said...

truth of the matter is your answer is inside you, you just have to be sure what you want to get into, peace of mind is the best, my problem is that most men change once they are married to you, Steve could be good today ND be your worst nightmare while the rich guy could actually be your soul mate,pray with a neutral mind set make a decision you will regret latter. all the best

Anonymous said...

SEE WETIN POVERTY ARE DOING IN NIGERIA TODAY OOOOO
THEY WANT A MAN RESPECTING THEM BUT STILL THEY WANT AN ALREADY MADE MAN TO MARRY THEM
AS LOVELY WIFE.NA WAAA

Nikomi said...

Money isn't everything my dear. I'm talking from experience, but sometimes it may not Favour u if u stick to d poor guy but it may also favour u at d long run when he finally pick up. No body knows tomorrow. I suffered wit a boy but he left me for anoda richer girl and I had also dated a rich man but has d heart of a beast.but finally settled down with anoda so called poor boy and finally God bless him even more dan d so called rich man and I AV found peace and joy and I can contribute to issues at home bcos I met him when he had nothing.. so my dear it depends on d man and if he has prospects. All dat glitters are not gold. Sorry for any errors o I day cook

Iman Bella said...

Every single person will advice you based on what they'll want
You alone have the answer you seek
Just pray, pray and keep praying
Ask questions as well
I'll choose happiness, fulfillment and peace of mind anyday
May God make things easy for you

Anonymous said...

truth of the matter is your answer is inside you, you just have to be sure what you want to get into, peace of mind is the best, my problem is that most men change once they are married to you, Steve could be good today ND be your worst nightmare while the rich guy could actually be your soul mate,pray with a neutral mind set make a decision you will regret latter. all the best...miss hottie

Anonymous said...

Stella is wrong to suggest that "every marriage without finances will eventually pack up"; this is nothing but a hollow mindset. I married my husband of ten years when he had nothing and we did not "pack up". Two people can be patient with peace of mind and build like we did; like I had seen a lot of my friends and colleagues do. What we have was love and trust and faith; these are enduring virtues. I had my fair share of "abroad rich guys" coming to snap me up and I turned all of them down. Not only do I and my husband and kids live in the so called "abroad" but we have become citizens.

Mrs. Romas said...

Though a bit confusing, but you're the only one that can take the decision for you!
You know the kind of life you envisage for, what and what are your priorities.

If you marry the rich suitor, will he satisfy all your needs, most especially your inner peace. Do you want to end up with someone you don't know? Will you stop loving your Stephen (who in your words love you so much)?
You did not specify in your chronicles, how you feel about the rich suitor, did you felt safe with him?

What if Stephen makes it sooner after you getting married to your rich suitor? Anyways, i love the comfortable life, and i wish same for people, but sometimes, you can marry a rich suitor and still live like a poor wife.

Please, re-stratigise with Stephen, wait for a positive outcome. Is better you marry the person you know. Many marriages are parking up, not because there is no money but because most couples don't even know themselves.
I wish you good luck in whatever decision you take.

Nikomi said...

Money isn't everything my dear. I'm talking from experience, but sometimes it may not Favour u if u stick to d poor guy but it may also favour u at d long run when he finally pick up. No body knows tomorrow. I suffered wit a boy but he left me for anoda richer girl and I had also dated a rich man but has d heart of a beast.but finally settled down with anoda so called poor boy and finally God bless him even more dan d so called rich man and I AV found peace and joy and I can contribute to issues at home bcos I met him when he had nothing.. so my dear it depends on d man and if he has prospects. All dat glitters are not gold. Sorry for any errors o I day cook

Nikomi said...

Money isn't everything my dear. I'm talking from experience, but sometimes it may not Favour u if u stick to d poor guy but it may also favour u at d long run when he finally pick up. No body knows tomorrow. I suffered wit a boy but he left me for anoda richer girl and I had also dated a rich man but has d heart of a beast.but finally settled down with anoda so called poor boy and finally God bless him even more dan d so called rich man and I AV found peace and joy and I can contribute to issues at home bcos I met him when he had nothing.. so my dear it depends on d man and if he has prospects. All dat glitters are not gold. Sorry for any errors o I day cook

Anonymous said...

My dear u knw which u can best survive with I wld prefer u stayin with ur soul mate no1 can tell wat d future holds dats my advice

Madam Small Chops said...

I can't choose for you dear, whoever you chose you will have to live with the outcome on the long run.

As much as I love money,I choose peace of mind in everything I do.

All I can say is prayerfully make your choice and tell yourself the truth.sometimes we need to listen to that tiny little voice.

Either ways No condition is permanent...

Joefirst Joshua said...

Wait sef, why is everyone always talking about marriage everyday!, I was someone will talk about Nigeria economy! Rice is 22k now, 17,500 last week.. Sorry Narrator, I no get advice for you.
#JOeFIRSt

Nikomi said...

Money isn't everything my dear. I'm talking from experience, but sometimes it may not Favour u if u stick to d poor guy but it may also favour u at d long run when he finally pick up. No body knows tomorrow. I suffered wit a boy but he left me for anoda richer girl and I had also dated a rich man but has d heart of a beast.but finally settled down with anoda so called poor boy and finally God bless him even more dan d so called rich man and I AV found peace and joy and I can contribute to issues at home bcos I met him when he had nothing.. so my dear it depends on d man and if he has prospects. All dat glitters are not gold. Sorry for any errors o I day cook

Chike Anumba said...

Eleyi gidi goo, this one is strong.
My dear poster, love is good in marriage but will never perfect a marriage without the help of money.
Both of them work together because they are one of the main shareholders of marriage. I will advise you
1: tell Stephen about the Rich man, that will enable you know his plan for the future.
2: date the Rich man for atleast 6months to know if you can over look his short comings and him yours.
3: on the process of dating the Rich man, make sure... What did I say? I said make kwa sure, that your displayed all your characters to him. Both good and bad ones, because this will make him bring out his own good and bad characters then you match your own and his own and know if it will work out for both of you.
4: last but not the list, that I said you should show him both good and bad character of yours those not mean you should wicked person pikin.
Love is like a seed, you plant it, water it and watch it grow and become a tree. Remember, you did not love Stephen at the beginning but you ended up loving him. Same will happen to the Rich man if you give him chance to love you and also you increase the rent of your memory so that rich man's lawyer that his name is love will kick the memories of Stephen of your brain. Because I don't want to read another chronicle from you that you are still in love with your ex and you are gbenching him after marriage in your matrimonial home and bed.

Yes before I forget, make kwa sure that after marrying the Rich man that you did not start seeing or think about Stephen to avoid coming as anonymous in every post like IHN, Spontaneous morning post, etc.. And be commenting things like..
"DH travelled, I invited my ex and we gbench"
"DH is not around. I'm feeling horny, want to invite my ex to eat my p***y like soft bread abi cake"
"can't wait for DH to travel so that I will invite my ex to give me fuck of life"
"Married to a good man but can't stop thinking about my ex" etc....
Abeg I no need am.

Jenny zee said...

Lol this buharian times!! Go for d rich guy cos there's still a probability ur soul mate would marry u or treat u well

Atheist. said...

Make*

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Why won't his family accept you when he has nothing to offer?...
Why won't he love you when pepper no rest?...onye owu ite!...
How sure are you that this Stephan won't change later?...

Chike Anumba said...

Eleyi gidi goo, this one is strong.
My dear poster, love is good in marriage but will never perfect a marriage without the help of money.
Both of them work together because they are one of the main shareholders of marriage. I will advise you
1: tell Stephen about the Rich man, that will enable you know his plan for the future.
2: date the Rich man for atleast 6months to know if you can over look his short comings and him yours.
3: on the process of dating the Rich man, make sure... What did I say? I said make kwa sure, that your displayed all your characters to him. Both good and bad ones, because this will make him bring out his own good and bad characters then you match your own and his own and know if it will work out for both of you.
4: last but not the list, that I said you should show him both good and bad character of yours those not mean you should wicked person pikin.
Love is like a seed, you plant it, water it and watch it grow and become a tree. Remember, you did not love Stephen at the beginning but you ended up loving him. Same will happen to the Rich man if you give him chance to love you and also you increase the rent of your memory so that rich man's lawyer that his name is love will kick the memories of Stephen of your brain. Because I don't want to read another chronicle from you that you are still in love with your ex and you are gbenching him after marriage in your matrimonial home and bed.

Yes before I forget, make kwa sure that after marrying the Rich man that you did not start seeing or think about Stephen to avoid coming as anonymous in every post like IHN, Spontaneous morning post, etc.. And be commenting things like..
"DH travelled, I invited my ex and we gbench"
"DH is not around. I'm feeling horny, want to invite my ex to eat my p***y like soft bread abi cake"
"can't wait for DH to travel so that I will invite my ex to give me fuck of life"
"Married to a good man but can't stop thinking about my ex" etc....
Abeg I no need am.

Anonymous said...

My dear, do you know the future, lemme give u an example. Before i got married,i had this boyfriend who was just trying to meet up. He was in luv with me no doubt but then came this rich guy who wanted to marry me no doubt. I thought about the face that he would be able to sistain all my financial needs and that of my family as i had a single mum and siblings. I mean this guy was super rich living abroad.
Quickly i married him and one yr after marriage came the problems. All finance went down the drain, biz collapsed. Boyfriend i left then picked up financially, promoted in his Job and living the life with his wife. Has 5 houses, summer holidays with his family and he said 'if only u have been patient to wait". The financial assistance i wanted for my family,they never got it.
Sometimes it is worth waiting and sometimes not but let your heart be your guide.
Ask yourself, if the money from the rich guy is all gone, what have you got to hold on to that would give u the peace you want?
Pray,struggle hard, find your path and make your own money,when you have yours, you would be able to make the right decision. P.s i have been married now for 10 years and i can say for the better part of 9 years i have struggled on my own,made money and remained independent.

Anonymous said...

Am 27 got married to a very caring nice man of 35. We had our bundle of joy 4 months ago,am in a state of confusion and I need to rant. My dad died when I was 15 leaving me and my brother to my mom's care. I love my mom more than what words can describe. My mom in law died last year.we live in father's in law's house since we got married hubby is the only son and last child.i observed that instead of my mom to stay and do omugwo she hired a nanny claimed to be busy which is very unusual of her. On our baby's child dedication mom was in a hurry to leave as usual, I had to beg her to stay overnight which she accepted. Mom's phone was ringing I picked the call, she was in the restroom, only to know it was my father in law calling her, curiosity made me go thru mom's msg and lo and behold my father in law wants a relationship with my mom. Different thoughts kept going thru my mind, I never knew a man with her since my daddy died,i don't know want to do, when she came out I asked if she needs a man in her life at 57? Mom now sat me down to tell me reasons why she has not been eager to come to our house, my mom had dated dad in law in her twenties,when she was in school and that she discontinued the relationship when dad in law wants to make her a second wife,and that she tried to stop my marriage to his son but cos I was adamant and saw the love btwn us she let us be. And that's why she didn't cone for omugwo since we live with him. What do I do? I don't even know how to tell my husband or should I have a daughter to father talk with my dad in law? I love hubby so much and he loves me tooo so very much

Anonymous said...

OU *** is a young lady who thought like most young ladies that she was "in Love" (it is a shame that most women do not know what love is). She married the man of her dreams and the envy of every lady. She said yes first week of their meeting and marriage happened within a month. Her husband was stupendously rich but she does not give her a dime. The only "gift" he gave her was their diamond engagement ring and wedding band which Ou must put on all the time or she will incur his wrath. Ou became fed up and began to cheat on him to make cash but to her surprise, any man that she had sex with dies withing a week mysteriously. It was then she sensed that there was more. One day, she confided in her hair stylist who introduced her to Christ and advised her to fast and pray with her. They went on 6-6pm fasting (drinking only water) for 2 weeks and studying the scriptures. For the first time Ou was having peace; she woke up at midnight to urinate and found that her ring (which she wore to bed) had left her fingers. She looked for it and found them on top of the table in the room. She picked it and put it on again and by morning, same thing happened. she told her friend who asked her not to worry but continue the fast.On the fourteenth day, she came home from praying with her friend in the Church only to find her husband trembling with fear . . . he was dumb and could only write with his pen all that he wanted her to know . . .he visits a spiritualist and . .. makes human sacrifices to keep his wealth . . . his wife must not touch his money . . . the wedding and engagement rings were deposited in the spiritualist temple for 2 weeks with 2 heads of virgins etc. . . Ou and her friend continued their fast for another week according to their conviction and it was then that the man began to talk and ask for forgiveness. He gave his life to Christ and that was how their marriage was healed. Look at Romans eight vs. one . . .

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, 2because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set youa free from the law of sin and death.

Jenny zee said...

Date d rich guy nd get to know him

Aminat Okunlola said...

follow what your heart says honey. sun orun meta ti eda man sun.

Anonymous said...

#grabs pop corn

horluwatosyne said...

U spoke my mind.....go for Steven

Anonymous said...

PG 18
God no they give person wife or husband again o! Leave all those yeye prayer and pastors for wife or husband. Since after Adam and Abraham God stopped.thats why the bilbel says " he who finds a wife and not he who I give a wife"
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN

Anonymous said...

That doesnt not mean that hers will forgive her.
I wonder if you're thinking with your pussy.

DVICTORIOUS EHIS said...

Thank u white berry

Atheist. said...

You only told us this man is rich...
How old is he? 41???
What are his imperfections?? Thr must be visible ones, we can't jst work with rich?
Whrs his source of wealth from??

Anonymous said...

Abi oo. Those idiots advising her to go to the rich one. My dear, your happiness matters. Dont come here with chronicles ooo

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Empress. Poster, there are two types of a king. David and Saul- One, the people/person wanted, the other, God wanted. What do all these gullible ladies call rich sef? Is it blood money, abi magomago-wuruwuru money? This generation be handling marriage as a business venture

Anonymous said...

See how u brought ur stephen here for pple to call him 'broke-ass' and 'church-rat'.why are we girls are wicked. Madam Go and marry ur rich man. How did he know d address to ur house if u havent already signed d contract in ur heart heart. Abeg go!! You are also a broke girl at 29.. lol, im 24 and I make my own money, my sisters are doing their own thing too. Infact just go ehn.. HML in advance... poverty property.

Anonymous said...

My dear the same thing happened to me, I chose the rich guy out of pressure and advice from friends after 6months, I was so miserable I hated every thing about my hubby couldn't stand him I couldn't even bring myself to hv sex with me mind you is very handsome and tall but still I was very depressed, then the worst now happened my rich hubby business crashed and the love of my life after 5yrs was so rich beyond my imagination built houses everywhere and ended up marrying my best friend and they are so happy. So am telling u from experience all that giltters is not gold. Be fore warned. So depressed in NY life love not there, money not there. Lost all

Anonymous said...

You went to God and cried out for a good husband; he answered your prayer with a gift called Stephen who brings you peace; do you honestly think that that same God will not answer your cries regarding financial stability in you guys union. You are now coming to this blog to ask us to help you decide as to whether to keep Stephen or go with a financially more stable suitor; so if this same guy becomes poor tomorrow what will you do. Kindly return Gods gift to him if you do not want it.

Anonymous said...

U must be a very sad woman

Anonymous said...

U have 3 lovers bcos u r an Olosho

Duchess said...

Money isn't everything but its very important.One of my mentors once told me that apart from God the next most important thing is money. At a certain point in their marriage they were bankrupt and her once loving, God fearing and caring husband became aggresive and frustrated.All of these strained their marriage and nearly ended.When she narrated everything to me my eyes opened,she even added that when there's money its easier to serve God.I guess what I'm trying to say is that you seek godly counsel and apply wisdom.
Yours sdkly dazzlinglizzy

zinny uwalaka said...

NNE biko marry for true love. Forget all this shinning things. All that glitters ain't gold. Do u love suffering and smiling? Nothing good comes easily. I have friends that married fr money and are suffering till date. Yes money dey but hussy far gone. It becomes our husband. Pray for steve. Stick with him. Encourage him. This can b a test for no one knows tomorrow. Echo do ime ooooo. Be wise ooo. Follow your heart and seek Gods face. Forget what people are saying. They won't live with you in the house oooooooo when it sets. The rich dude what is his source of riches? His life style? His family background before I ba one chance. Forget buhari regime. People are making it big time. Take out this poverty mentality. Secure your tomorrow. Zinny has spoken.

Anonymous said...

I saw ur stupid post on that labour room post, if u want to kill yourself for money that your father didn't give anybody to hold.. kill urself nau....if mama Emma who has kids nd her husband left her is managing her life with petty trading nd domestic work, then go and kill urself...you are a fraud. No sensible person will be asking stranger for 500k, droyalty asked for a laptop for her online business and she got it, some asked for cake mixer and they got it bt you a big thief is asking for 500k, a money that can help 20-30 widows who are in this blog who r managing with kids. Go around you will see widows who never attended school with kids and they r managing to survive nt to talk of a young girl who is living in a free houz... Go and die
Stella post my comment

Anonymous said...

Poster, go for Stephen...choose peace and virtue over wealth and uncertainty...a rich man today can become a broke ass tomorrow...such is life...change is constant...the question u shd ask urself is: If the chips are down, can u stick wt the rich guy? I was in a similar situation like u 9yrs ago and I chose peace over comfort...today 8 yrs in marriage my once broke ass husband is rich by all standards, when I saw the receipt of my present car I cried uncontrollably...today I have peace and wealth...he is very loving, very gentle, very faithful...I keep asking my self what good I did in my previous life to deserve this kinda life am living.

I wl choose virtue over and over again if it is marriage.

horluwatosyne said...

Please go for Steven o,remember not all that glitters are gold....what is d source of his wealth? Why is he still single with all his money? What if things goes wrong after marrying him(God forbid o). Madam please dnt leave Steven. 89% of pple that went for mr rich regrets but only few will tell u d bitter truth. Talk to God he will direct u dear

mary chukwuka said...

poor guys sabi show love eeeeh, just try and love that ur rich man u will see everything fall in place. above all pray before anything

zinny uwalaka said...

God go bless u for this. Truth. We don talk our own. What worked fr A may not work for B. Na u wear shoe na u alone know where e dey pain u ooo

Anonymous said...

Tomorrow is pregnant. A rich man can be poor tomorrow while A poor man can also be rich. Think abt it

Anonymous said...

Poster, go for Stephen...choose peace and virtue over wealth and uncertainty...a rich man today can become a broke ass tomorrow...such is life...change is constant...the question u shd ask urself is: If the chips are down, can u stick wt the rich guy? I was in a similar situation like u 9yrs ago and I chose peace over comfort...today 8 yrs in marriage my once broke ass husband is rich by all standards, when I saw the receipt of my present car I cried uncontrollably...today I have peace and wealth...he is very loving, very gentle, very faithful...I keep asking my self what good I did in my previous life to deserve this kinda life am living.

I wl choose virtue over and over again if it is marriage.

Anonymous said...

Tomorrow is pregnant. A rich man can be poor tomorrow while A poor man can also be rich. Think abt it

Anonymous said...

I agree with you on this. Marriage without finances? It is as risky as marriage without love. But then it is better to cry in a Bentley than laugh in a keke then salivate when u see a bentley

Mr. Chopalone said...

If you prayed and got convinced that it's Stephen, please go with him. I have seen poor guys become rich and I have also seen rich guy become poor. God can never be wrong and he's the only one that sees tomorrow, he knows exactly what you need.... Just trust him and you will never regret.

LADY PRESTIGE BEADS.08034205152 said...

1k likes to ur opinion.

Fan Emmanuel said...

SMH

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...follow ur heart dear

Ella ellaginika said...

Prayer alone can solve this. Its a temptation, a big one at that, prayer will direct you. The rich man may likely see you as just liking his money, you won't give a good reason y you left your former fiance.

Anonymous said...

Madam, you better stay where you are. thats how these kids would be advising you to jump into fire...
I think its even futile bringing such discuss here because we dont even know the details of both guys.
Elders say na where done for food dem take dey eat where nor done o.
Plus, didn't I just read you say you personally hear from God concerning your bf? Abi i am not understanding it????

Ella ellaginika said...

Don't why I can't see mycomments

Juliet Johnson said...

This woman u can never disappoint me. Single sense u don't have.

CherryCee said...

NNE, the answer lies with you. If Bvs ask you to marry Stephen and things don't go well, you will blame Bvs. If you are advised to marry the rich man and you don't find peace with him, you will still blame us. Ask God to lead you as he has once answered your request. I won't tell you whom to spend the rest of your life with. You decide.

Adanne said...

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adedapo muritala said...

One thing have get to know in life is love is a commitment and not a feeling, money is very necessary but it can never give you peace required to have a companion but can give you peace in any other way. I will advice you to look for inner peace required to have a companion cos if you end up with the rich man, you will still find urself loving Stephen and you will surely commit infidelity, so wat is the point? Follow ur mind to find inner peace

Rob said...

Listen, leave this soul mate crap. You sound like a novel lover or romantic movie addict. Love is sweet but can it stand the test of time without money? Women see age as a factor and now you feel pressured right?? Marry the rich guy and train yourself to love him.

Shileola Ayo said...

What if the rich man goes broke tomorrow, abi person wey rich no dey poor again?

DonMayor said...

Mould your own man now, abi wahala dey there ?.. Lol

Adanne said...

The question is how rich is this new guy? Enough to last for eternity or just to marry you and then you will see his real colour.

As much as we do this like poverty, please do your background check on the guy.

Anonymous said...

I concur with all you ve said,except the chopping money part. Wet in person no go chop,no need to even put am for nose smell am. Poster,all that glitters is not gold. It seems the only good thing about this second MSN is his wealth. Is that all that makes a marriage work in this generation we live in? Hell,no! Money is good yes,but a peaceful marriage (like u seem to be very particular abt wanting) will not be built on marriage alone. Is Stephen educated? Are u also educated at least up to degree level? Stephen can get a good jib tomorrow or a good business that will take him to the next level. Even you,God can bless you beyond your imagination tomorrow. Will money be the most important thing to you at that time? Or a man who loves you and you love and have peace with? Be wise oh. Don't use today to spoil your tomorrow. Even rich people are getting divorced today. I didn't marry a rich man but I have peace in my marriage and I m secure in my husband's love for me. We are both working hard and we knowGod is faithful and will bless us soon. Be wise and prayerful. Any decision you take that you have absolute peace with will end up being the right one for yiu.

Emilia Peter said...

Babe u need the #power of your mind.

Sylviaasss said...

I always say marry a man you'll drink garri with and you won't be crying. The rich man is rich today but nne what's the assurance he can't go broke tomorrow. The most important thing is to be with a man God has approved so when the storm comes he'll be there with you.
Money is good yes! But is it sustainable?
Bear it in mind that anything can happen tomorrow. Please go back to God, get your conviction from him and stick to it.
Don't be pressured by friends and family they won't be there when things go bad.youre not old so biko don't be pressured

JOYOUS said...

MY DEAR I STAND FOR LOVE AND PEACE, NOTHING IN THIS WORLD CAN BEAT THAT, THOUGH YOU CAN STILL FALL IN LOVE WITH THIS RICH MAN OR NEVER GET TO LOVE HIM IF YOU MARRY HIM AND WHO KNOWS WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS FOR STEVEN.....HE MIGHT EVEN BECOME RICHER THAN THE RICH MAN IN FUTURE AND YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND REGRET....OR STEVEN MIGHT DUMP YOU WHEN HE BECOMES RICH FOR A BETTER GIRL (IT HAPPENS AM A LIVING TESTIMONY) OR SO MANY THINGS WILL GO ON AND ON.....SO HEAR ME OUT THE SAME WAY YOU PRAYED TO GOD FOR A HUSBAND IS SAME WAY YOU SHOULD GO BACK ON YOUR KNEES AND ASK GOD WHO YOUR "BONE" IS AND AFTER FOLLOW YOUR HEART WITH GREAT CONVICTION AND MARRY WHOM YOU ARE AT PEACE WITH....NO MATTER WHAT WILL COME OUT OF IT AFTERALL ITS FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE TILL DEATH DO YOU PART! TAKE THE RISK AND DONT FORGET WHICH EVER ONE YOU PICK THEY WILL BE SACRIFICES YOU SHOULD BE WILLING TO DO ...NOBODY IS PERFECT EVEN YOUR STEVEN.

DonMayor said...

Wow.. na only you stand alone here. Thank God everybody didn't join the band wagon.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Is that what that daft girl said?
SMH

Sparkle said...

I concur ezigbo tufiakwa

DonMayor said...

Shebi you prayed to God before now and He showed you Stephen. Why are you here now asking mortal men questions ?
Do what will make you sleep at night.
You are a confused child.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

1million likes

Anonymous said...


Church rat no mean say, the doors of the church are closed and the church rat can't go out and become a city rat the next day.one thing I know is this, when your husband finds you and when you see him you will surly know, no body will tell you, u will just know. Most people I know that have a good married life, always tell me that the moment they saw their wife they knew she was the one and some also went futher to tell me that at that time they dint even have money or a job, but some how they did the wedding and after the wedding God blessed them as he has promised in the bible.im not talking of all those that stole somebody's wife or husband o!, not the fake pastors "God told me this is ur wife thing and finally not the marriage for benefit, my husband is rich and my wife is a beauty queen type of marriage. Some times we do miss our husband or wife for some reason. I use to have a girl friend when I was 20 and she was 17, the moment I saw her I knew she was the girl for me, we were both in school then my parents had money while hers dint have any. So pressure from her family forced her to marry a man they tot was rich,though I was so so angry at her action, I dint blame them,what do you expect from people that dint have any, little can make them do anything, she married him and they are living just okay. I still love her and she still loves me too, but we are enemies, we don't talk, we have not talked for over 5yrs now.cos we know if we do, she will cheat on her husband and I don't want that, but from where I stand the life she lives now is child's play compare to what I have today. The car she and her husband has put together can not buy one of my cars. Who wan vex make he vex cos me na one of the few Nigerians way recession no near WHO JA HAS BLESSED NO MAN CAN.........

Anonymous said...

stella.. why did u deactivate the like button... I need it for this comment. . pls go back to God.. And be rest assured that Stephen will do Everything to provide for u.. forever is too long to tolerate a relationship because of money.. if he's not lazy then both of u should take your plight to God as a couple and watch doors open for u

Sparkle said...

Hmmm those that are telling her to wait for Stephen when the dude hammer pounds now,he will definitely go for a younger gal. Poster biko go for that rich suitor ooh.oge adirozikwa

Anonymous said...

Nne life is not just about money.

If money is all the rich man can offer her, he is poorer than he thinks.

Eegor said...

The devil is trying to entice you with money stick to Steven. He makes everything beautiful in his own time. Patience is key dear.Do not rush and then regret later my two cents

Starjoy said...

Poster tell the rich man not to rush you into marriage that he should give you sometime like 6 months to know him and his family well, if not I will stay with the one I love.

Anonymous said...

Must you marry now now ?? Why don't you wait till the time is right? If all the factors are not right, then don't rush into it.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#You know it's over when you feel more in love with your memories than with the person standing in front of you*

Anonymous said...

Is Stephen the hard working type? Or a lazy person, if he has a vision. Stick with him, I know someone that had so many suitors but insisted on marrying the poorest/teacher among them. Not long after they got married, he got a job in shell and they are very happy now. 10 years and counting... So poster ask God and let him lead you so u don't regret ur decision

jane okudo said...

Hmmmm u DNt determine the love of a man Wen he is poor!! He might become rich tmrw nd show u pepper,bur then Uve concluded he's ure soulmate, nd u might regret it in future if he becomes wealthy,while ure sad,rich nd married to the rich guy, bur then try getting to knw the rich dude, hang out nd learn more abt him...the outcome of marrying both the poor nd the rich is almost the same tin, they will all cheat!! Bur then crying on a big car is beta ohhhhh !! Wat am I even saying...lol get to knw the rich man first!!

Anonymous said...

Is Stephen the hard working type? Or a lazy person, if he has a vision. Stick with him, I know someone that had so many suitors but insisted on marrying the poorest/teacher among them. Not long after they got married, he got a job in shell and they are very happy now. 10 years and counting... So poster ask God and let him lead you so u don't regret ur decision

Iman Bella said...

Stick with Stephen
Follow your mind
Most people here will advice you to go for the rich guy
Perhaps God is just testing you with a trial

favy said...

Life is all about risk but if am to say...you alone knows what you want in life...your life is 100% your responsibility so go for what will favour you

bim ples said...

Pls stay with Stephen and ignore the rich guy.

Anonymous said...

Bae,let me tell you my small story. I come from a rich Igbo family.My parents were after class and glamour. I left my then struggling BF!! He ain't rich and he got no class!!! Today the tables have turned,He is a big boy (if I mention his name,you will be amazed). Now,i'm the breadwinner in my marriage. Things have been rough for my "then" rich husband. I'm not complaining o. But hon,take a cue from my story. God is no respecter of persons. Things may turn around for Stephen tomorrow. The choice is yours dear

Anonymous said...

Na u be d dude abi?

Anonymous said...

Thank you .The man who is rich today can become poor tomorrow and trust me that would be going from bad to worse be a use you don't love him. Stephen on the other hand is already broke the only thing that can change is his financial status and for the better. Listen when I say, God who gave you Stephen will make everything better in His time. I know because I was in your shoes . In my case, I was financially ok, but the love of my life wasn't. I did not think about it twice because I was conviced God gave him to me. It took five long tough years during which I also became broke and trust me it wasn't easy but our love for each other and most especially our love for God and his love for me pulled us through. Look, people of the world will tell you all broke men are loving but I tell you if God truly gave that man to you he will love you regardless of his financial status. Today God has blessed us beyond measures and my husband loves me even more. It is not an easy journey but as long as you put you trust in God and work on being each other's best friends (don't take it too seriously) it is definitely worth it. ....my 5 cents :)

Anonymous said...

Poster you know what you want. I can't tell to wait for Stephen because broke men knows how to love. When I met my boyfriend he had nothing, I prayed to God to show me if he was one for me I kept seeing him in my dreams as my husband because of this I stood by him. Sometimes when I go to his house I won't see anything to eat I will use my money and cook I make sure there's food in the house,give him money every week. He asked me to borrow him 500k that he will pay back I gave him the money cos I trusted him so much thinking the love he had for me was genuine. Everyone around us was jealous of our love b/cos it was so much. After he made his money he proposed to me fixed a date for our introduction. Last month I noticed some changes he doesn't call,no massage. I called the friend to know what I did the friend said nothing, I told my boyfriend to tell me what I did that made him change he said nothing that I am a good girl humble and caring but I talk too much and I was like how, he said because I called his friend to find out why he doesn't call. What does he aspect me to do when he refused to talk to me, I begged him to forgive me that I will never discuss our relationship with anyone again his refused and said I should ask for anything he will do it for me cos I am a good girl. I kept begging he told me never to call or chat him again I said ok I will never call or chat you again so now when am I getting the money you borrowed he got angry again and said so I wanted my money all this while I should send him my account number I sent it. Is being three weeks I have not gotten alert he hasn't call or text. I have given up on love. Poster never you trust a broke guy you will know his true colour when he's rich. Im still thinking what to do to dis guy hv not made up my mind yet but he must pay for everything he made me go through, the tears, the heart break, the rich guys I refused all because of him He must pay in his next life he will never play with people's emotion. Poster go for the rich guy

ROCCO said...

Just take a quiet time and reflect o what stella has written dat was the best advice..not all dt glitters Is gold,don't trade ur happiness for money u may find it difficult t comprehend though.

dazzlinstar said...

If you're a Christian like you said and God revealed Stephen to you, then know that He is not an author of confusion. Money is good but not all that glitters is gold.If you genuinely ask God for direction, you'll sit and see things unfold. Until you lack peace you may never appreciate it. My suggestion: go back and ask God to take any of them out of the picture that isn't for you. Give God time and He never fails.

dazzlinstar said...

The economic situation has blinded many even Christians to do as they think and not in the will of God. "For what shall it profit a man to gain the world and lose his soul?"

Anonymous said...

You prayed and you got an answer. Or are you lying? Please my dear I will pick Stephen over, over over again. You never mentioned Stephen is lazy or driverless. Sometimes somethings take time, that doesn't mean God is not aware. The choice is yours to make. Remember nothing last forever!

Anonymous said...

He that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God who is a wife read prob 31 sometimes we are beclouded by our surroundings forgetting that as women we have the gift to actually tell the end of a relationship that Gods given instincts just tells us were are heading for doom even if it looks good my dear not all that glitters is gold too so look in within and ask yourself who is this one and definitely know that once you perform your duties as a wife it will definitely work out well

Mosi Jubelo said...

Angel Ray, lol.

Poster, stick with Stephen, the rich guy will just see you as a possession, you guys won't be friends. At least you said you've known Steve for 10yrs. Shebi he isn't lazy?
My own two cents is that chill with Steve, he looks like he has potentials.
The rich dude, won't respect your family.

In the future if Steve leaves you because he is now rich, you have the right to kill him, it's allowed.

Mosi Jubelo said...

Abi o

Mosi Jubelo said...

Tor

Mrs Power aka MP said...

Pls marry d right person not d right bank account. Stephen could turn out to b a horrible husband with time n d rich guy could b an angel. Just bcos Stephen is poor doesn't make him a better man n den again d rich guy could be a beast. Pls study dem both n marry d right person. I love d person who adviced u to abstain from sex until marriage from now on.

Marriage has no manual we just write our own stories as we go. Stephen sounds like a cool guy n hopefully hardworking. This recession won't last forever, things will eventually change.

Its a good thing u r a praying girl. Just go to ur father in heaven. Pray, I'm sure he will reveal d best man. Don't b hasty abt d choice of a life partner. If d rich guy can't wait den, adios to him.

Just marry d best man forget abt what they don't have or what they have. Riches doesn't guarantee happiness I hope u knw. Good luck in whatever decision u take but make sure u can live with ur choice.

kaycee said...

See how the ladies are advising her to marry the rich guy, u all are bunch of hypocrites
A guy who has loved for many years, and u have peace with him, u want to leave and marry a rich guy from no where.
Let me tell u d blunt truth,marry Dar rich guy and u will be sending another chronicle few years from now.
The economy is in recession a wise lady would be looking for a way to support her man n make things work out, not looking for the easy way out

Mosi Jubelo said...

Lol

kaycee said...

God bless you sis for saying the truth,he who has ear,should listen

ROCCO said...

Most of d advice you will get here will come from Alice and stella's blog is her wonderland. Many girls here suffer from the 'Alice I wonderland'syndrome some of them feed and pay their bfs bills but will be here to tell you otherwise, just think we'll before making a decision.

Atheist. said...

Lol@ 17:34.....
No i'm not the dude, finance cnt keep my love away frm me.

Vivilicious said...

Poster that rich man is a temptation from the pit of hell. Do not fall into it. That Stephen is poor today does not mean he will remain so for the rest of his life. Besides if you can trust God to give you a husband, why can't you trust him to take care of you and your husband.

Anonymous said...

Begger giving advise

Ebony Doc said...

That got me LMAO!!! Hahahahahahaha! It's a pity. So is d groom old?

Unbeatable said...

Anon 15:42
Sweetheart, I will advise u allow sleeping dog lie.
Don't confront ur hubby or dad. Pretend u know nothing.
U can't handle d problems dat will come w it.
It might seperate father and son, u n FiL, or u and hubby or hubby n ur mom. Bury it forever.
Just live as normal w him as possible.
Atleast now u know how much ur mom loves u

Married man said...

My dear, most of the advisers here are not married and even Stella who is married can't advice you because she is not in your shoes. You are the only one that knows what to do but if you still need advice, consider mine: marrying a rich man might not solve your problems but it sure helps and waiting for a poor guy is a dangerous venture.Being a poor man is different from being a man without action if the poor guy truly loves you, he can marry you in court with less than 50k other forms of marriage can follow when you guys are buoyant. Suggest this to him, back it up with your age, the pressures your are getting and the fact that suitors are coming don't be specific then wait and hear his reaction. His reaction will be your advice. Good luck.

chiamaka said...

Table this matter before God. He is the only one that can help you make the best for you right now. Remember he wrote his thoughts for you is of good and not of evil to give you an expected end? You are His before any one else babe.

chiamaka said...

Table this matter before God. He is the only one that can help you make the best decision for you right now. Remember he wrote his thoughts for you is of good and not of evil to give you an expected end? You are His before any one else babe.

Ruth Amos said...

If i were u i will marry the rich man who is ready to settle down with you now, what if after waiting for Stephen and he makes some money and decides ur not good enough for him , what are u going to do? Think about that and why still thinking and finally decides you dont want the millionare abeg give am my no.hahaha

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm...You have peace with Stephen. i'll give you some instances,my Sis waited for her now husband for plenty years even when one guy that felt he had money came knocking,she still stuck to her now husband. You know what,after some years the rich guy died, if she had married him you wld have been a WIDOW by now. My friend left her boyfriend cos he didn't have money but she never had peace with all other rich guys coming for her till she went back to him. They are wedding soonest and will be relocating to the U.S. When God leads you, he leads you in the way that will profit you. What if the Rich man marries you and u don't get to see the money and what is the guarantee that Stephen will never be rich. I know Love without money is boring but Money without peace is a nightmare. Don't allow anybody pressurise you into your doom. Go back to God and he will make a way for you.

Anonymous said...

10years?? I'm sure he will be servicing another pussy secretly behind your back... Clap for yourself πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ˜€Holly

Anonymous said...

Boring😯

Anonymous said...

You made a rich man poor after marrying you....😒😒😒

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

Stick with Stephen, if a lady must marry a rich man it shouldn't be solely because of his wealth but in this your case you are considering the rich man only because he his wealthy. Do you know if he is a wife beater? I think Stephen is your best choice for now. Life isn't a bed of roses this phase will surely pass.

Anonymous said...

Just ignore it... ... You don't have to tell your husband anything. Do you want him to start disrespecting your mother, even if he hears it please denied it jor☺

Passenger said...

From wat I can deduce from ur write up, you've been in and out of relationships which i'm sure why u're out of some of dem isn't abt the money but u've never had peace. Again u said, this Steven of a guy has been ur frnd of over 10yrs and loved u since but patiently despite u been in relationships. Moreso, u said he was financially okay just like u were too before the recession affected both of u financially. Even despite Steven assertion of his love for u, u never agreed until u went to God in prayer and ever since its been peace of mind all the way for you. Until suddenly a rich man came which is now the issue. Although u didn't give much information on d man except being rich but seems the question is Money Vs Peace in marriage...Both are necessary ingredients, but if u could go to God in prayer for confirmation, den go to Him again but if I were in your shoe, i'd stick to Steven cos d rich man is a distraction. However, since man proposes and God disposes fast and pray to God for direction and let HIS will prevail.

Cissy said...

@ naya, kisses dear...like the rich man can't go poor tomorrow. It's just a phase Stephen is passing through, it's not like he isn't making any effort...the rich dude can marry you and you will be noting but a piece of furniture to him.
Only a fool will think marring a rich man solves all problems...if he ain't generous, he ain't noting

Blackberry said...

*sits down and starts thinking with pussy*

Actually I added that part as a reminder naa.

Hehehehehehehehee

Anonymous said...

Na so later they will blame guys who do anything to get money

Greenland said...

My dear, God’s ways are not your ways. The Stephen that is poor today may become rich tomorrow, so my dear, pls stick to whatever God has told you and pray for your man.

Anonymous said...

Is it possible for all of us to be the same?the answer is No so not all men cheat,I have been married for 15years and I have never cheated.

Anonymous said...

But you can never give your girlfriend that kind of money,girls hen,maybe the guy is even wondering where you got that money from

Anonymous said...

So u dis potty u av not learnt abi? Ideato will soon open d oda smelly part of ur craw craw yansh don't worry! Stupid thing!

Anonymous said...

Hahahahaha this girl! I'd like to meet you someday.

Bank nwa mummy

Anonymous said...

MADAM!
I'm 33 years old with no serious suitors and here you are forming ....youre aging?

Anonymous said...

Please stick with Stephen who nor get today nor mean say e nor go get tomorrow . table dey roll

Anonymous said...

I tiya

Xclusivebae. said...

Bae pls don't marry BC of money marry for love. Am married now but full of regrets. Mayb if I had bn patient enof wit my ex probably now I'll b d most happiest woman on earth. My now hubby is rich but no peace of mind.I married for d wrong reasons and am regretting it.which I cld turn back the hands of tym then I'll choose my ex over n over again. Be wise

barbie micheal said...

Anon 16:47 hafa? I miss you, call me

barbie micheal said...

Poster, what if this your rich boo's source of income closes,and he reverses to level1 will you still love him and be confused?? Answer this question and make a decision

cindy (the die hard feminists) said...

Anon 17:31 abeg who is he? I want to be surprised and the blog visitor , follow your heart, that's all.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Eyaaa...
You girls don't listen that's my problem with you people here...
Shey I keep advising you girls to stop giving men una money!...
Now see how this one has used and dumped you!...
He didn't know you talk too much when he was eating your food,fucking you front and back,taking money from you...
See,if I were you,I will make sure I tie his destiny spiritually!...
Nonsense!...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Abeg allow you mom to enjoy joor...
They have both lost their partners so what's the big deal?...

Anonymous said...

Leave things as they are. Let your mom handle it the best way she see fit. So your mom was dating a married man? Hope she won't mind when your husband does the same?

Onyeka Okeke said...

AS FOR ME, I WILL CHECK THE RICH SUITOR OUT FIRST.. IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HE HAS MARRIED BEFORE AND HE IS NOT TELLING YOU OR YOUR FAMILY? IS HE A WOMAN BEATER ? JUST GO OUT ON A SEXLESS DATE AND JUST CHIP IN SOME KAIN GISTS LIKE DAT TO KNOW THE MENTALITY OF THIS RICH PERSON FIRST.. THEN YOU MAKE YOUR CHOICE.. BUT MAKE I NO LIE OHH. AS I HEAR "RICH SUITOR" ,NA SO I BEGIN SALIVATE LIKE DOG WEY SEE BONE...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

You need a deliverance!...
Serious one at that..
See how your ogbanje made this two men poor!...
Your ex picked up immediately you left him....
Even if you married him,he wouldn't have been where he is now...
You are a badluck to your husband!...
Ask your mom or grand mom where she initiated you to when you were a baby...
I have seen cases like yours in my church!...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Hahahahahahahahahaha...
Lmao at make kwa sure!,..
Choi!...
I love my language mehn...Igbo atoka!..

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Kwakwakwakwa...
Take of a broke ass!...

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster let me take space here.
Thank God He isn't man. You are writing that young man off for a rich suitor?
When one of my sis wanted to marry, my dad didn't accept her husband with open arms cos he felt he would 'take time' to blow by his projections. My inlaw is a geologist and hd only just finished his masters (PetGeo) from Heriot Watt when he made his intensions known to my sis. My dad objected and asked her to marry one rich guy from our home town. Dude was very high up in the bank then. In his 30s and had chased my sis for like 7 years (thru my parents). But my mum (thank God for my praying mother) told my sis not to bulge. Mind u, my inlaws dad is actually a very rich man but he as a young man just hadn't found himself professionally. My sis waited.
Do u know after about 18 months, he engaged her with a huge diamond rock? How? He got a job with one of the big oil companies and started earning in foreign currency (cos he's British by birth). My father projected 3-4 years. But God did it in less than 2 years. Today, my sis is every ones prayer goal. She herself got a better job shortly before they got engaged. God just elevated them.
Now, the 'rich' suitor decided the bank was too small for him. As he started making friends with top shots etc. He floated his company and seemed to be doing well. Infact! He got married shortly before my sis and even came to show my dad a 20m car he bought - all to make us regret nau. Do u believe that as of mid last year he was asking my sis for a loan of 500k? That he needs to pay fees. My sis said she has to tk permission from her husband to disuade him. He said no problem. If you know how proud and rich this man was, you won't believe he could ask my sis for help. She gV him 100k saying that's all she had. He still went to her office to tax her for 20k to buy fuel the next week. With a very rickety car. She called me that day shaking. All this has happened within 6-7 years.
This life no one knows tmr. Why are you listening to ppl? Can't you do a small wedding and start life? Would u hv peace of mind with that rich guy? Will all these ppl be there when you start to feel incomplete in your marriage? Are they God? How can they project how far he would go within a time frame? Go and read 2 kings chapter 7 and see how stories change over night.
How does the rich suitor make his money? Na one hit wonder? Does he hv future plans? Is he doing 419? Does his family even like you? You don't know. Because of teething issues you're having second thoughts. Okay. I wish you well.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Hahahahahahahahaha...

QueenLA of SDK Baby said...

This one pass me. I will just read comments. But pls follow your heart and Pray again. Kizziz in Falz voice.

Mosi Jubelo said...

Anon, I feel sorry for you. Please don't take him back even if he begs and begs to come back. Try and get your money back by all means and try and get over him. God will do it for you and you'll meet your soul mate.

barbie micheal said...

Key word fam"more than 3"

Dauntless Cersei said...

I wonder how this thier relationship dey worry you. Na your life abi na your totoh? It's not like the man or your mother is married

Anonymous said...

Lol...I concur. Evil advice

Anonymous said...

You were definitely a runs girl when you were still single. Also, it shows those your lovers are broke. 3 small fishes. If you have class at all, you won't be dating 3 broke men

Anonymous said...

Leave them alone and face your marriage and baby

Dauntless Cersei said...

I concur with Stella's Red pen but before you make your decision please call Stephen and ask him what exactly his plans are, like when is he likely to marry you? Would he still wife you even if you don't get a job later on? I mean he should give you a date or his word that he won't leave you after waiting for him like 5 years from today because then you will be plus 30 and he will now start seeing 19 year olds. Nne if you truly love the Steve pls let him marry you ASAP, your wedding must not be Carnival like, you can make it small with what finances you have.

If I were in your shoe though, I will marry the money bag, love without money for me na just talk. God forbid but it would be nicer to cry in my latest model Range Rover and my Gucci sunshades on than to laugh and be happy inside keke Marwa and smoke , dust and sand wil be entering my eyes.

Pray harder my sister...this time of your life is precarious, one decision can truncate everything.

Anonymous said...

Eeyah...sorry. hugs

Anonymous said...

Such bad advice from queen. Please do not marry for money. It cant sustain a marriage. The rich can become poor and the poor can become rich. Friendship and live is important. You can be in a marriage with a rich guy and be very sad and frustrated. Dont listen to this money conscious ladies here.
My husband has been my friend for over a decade before we wedded.i was earning more than him then. But now he has a better job and is doing very well. Do not listen to bad advice. Advise yourself.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

*they...

Anonymous said...

If you are very sure that stephen will marry you, go for him, let him start the preparation no matter how small, cos where was the rich dude when you were praying n crying for true love. Otherwise go for the rich dude.

D'Arc Ed said...

Nice story @Chikito. God works in mysterious ways.

Poster, Choose peace of mind, happiness and contentment any day while working and praying for God to take you guys to your greatest height.

The blessings will come, peace and happiness will help you enjoy it while contentment and godliness will take care of pride and greed.

May God guide you as you decide.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

*tale...

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