This looks hard...but it isnt!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WAITING FOR A BROKE-ASS LOVER VS MARRYING THE NEXT AVIALABLE
Hi Stella, I trust you are doing well.Thanks for your blog as i have found a family in this blog.I decided to pen this down due to recent occurring and reoccuring headaches i do encounter due to too much thinking so i decided to know the opinion of fellow bvs perhaps it could put an end to it.Please hide my email and pardon me as this may be long.
I will be 29 by december,i have always envisaged settling down early in a peaceful home and watching my kids grow.I visioned marriage as one that will bring all your dreams and aspirations to reality but low and behold with the kind of chronicles being reported here i began to set my priorities in accordance to reality.
I have been in and out or relationships and at a point in time i went on my knees asking God for a life partner who will be my soul mate and who i will find peace in as I didnt really encounter peace of mind in my previous relationships.
God made known to me that my prayer had been answered long before i asked for it but just that i didnt realise it.My eyes were opened to realise that one of my closest male friend had been in love with me since forever and has expressed it in one form or the other but i just called it bluff...That period surrounding when i made that prayer,(lets call my friend Stephen)stephen started showing strong interest in me and telling me that he has a strong conviction that we were meant to spend the rest of our lives together.
This time around i weighed a lot of things and decided to perhaps give it a try of which i did and still doing.
It was in the course of our dating that he revealed to me that he has been in love with me for over 10 years and as the years go by and me being in other relationships he thought what he felt will fade but it kept coming stronger so he just had to come out plain with me as he has also prayed but the feelings will not go.
The relationship has progressed for two years now and the truth is that i have encountered peace like never before in this relationship.
Stephen loves me so much and infact I can do no wrong in his eyes,he introduced me to his family as the one he intends to spend the rest of his life with and they all embraced me into the family.I have found compatibility in major aspects of our lives and i can say without a doubt that Stephen is my soulmate.
Along the line in our course of dating i was retrenched due to the economic meltdown and some of stephens financial plans for the year were also truncated.I ventured into a business but along the line it became unfavorable due to the exchange rate so I had stop.
This halted our plans of settling down this year as we had to go back to the drawing board to start re -strategising.
The problem now is that the pressure to settle down is beginning to build up as there is a rich suitor that has made it known to my family that he wants to marry me.Yes he is well to do and will take care of my financial needs (tentatively) which is what my family is most concerned about.
Stephen who i am in peace with isnt ready financially but is making efforts to and some of my friends feel he will waste my time as they cant tell how soon he will pick up financially.Some even tag me unserious as to why i should even be considering not marrying the rich man immediately but i am confused......
wouldnt i regret it in the long run if i leave my soul mate and marry someone else?...
will i be considered a fool considering my age to still stick with stephen?
Does marrying a rich person you havent courted really bring automatic fulfilment?
has anyone ever left a supposed soul mate and found peace?.....please help me answer these.Thank you.
*My dear,na only you fit answer this question depending on what you are looking at.....Peace of mind is good but a marriage without finances will eventually be troubled.
A marriage without love will eventually break down as well.
So you ask yourself what you want to gamble with cos everything in life is a gamble and a risk and no one knows for sure until the ball starts to roll...