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Sunday, 9 October 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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BEHIND EVERY UNSUCCESSFUL MAN IS HIS WIFE CARRYING THE BLAME.


Stella, please I need advice, suggestion seriously,concerning my husband, because I was just been told that for my husband to be successful depends on me. 

My Dh is a good,honest,dedicated, faithful to God and to me and hardworking man as in a hustler yet nothing to show for it. He was working before he later
joined his brother in his business, the business started booming all BUT 
of a sudden, the brother said he wants to close down the business.

 DH started looking for job everywhere but nothing was forth coming, He was
introduced to somebody that gets work for people, the man started
posting him, today, tomorrow, next week and all that, later he met one
man that owns a company and the man told him to start work, getting
there they met the admin who is the mans brother stated talking to the
man in their dialect that was how the admin said bring CV that they
will call him, up till today no show. 


He has applied and applied still nothing, in fact so many cases which I can't begin to mention. On my own I said ok let me start something maybe that is where open doors will come, I applied to some places still nothing, I later got 17,000 naira job which always leave us in debt because is not enough. Feeding
is a big issue, we are not talking of good food again because basic
food is not there, my children are even at home no school this term,
because last term we did not pay.

I cant go and beg the school again,rent is almost due infact everything is upside down. We have prayed,night, midnight, early morning, morning, nothing, fasted end of the month, beginning of the week,month, middle of the month yet nothing.

Gone to Church programs, mfm all to no avail, he keeps on meeting
people they will be making promises, whenever I come back the first
question I ask is did anybody call you, and the answer which I have
been praying against will come out which is no, dh is a hustler, at
times small money will come out when he helps people do things. In
fact is better imagined than experienced because we are in a very bad
situation.

The main thing that made me write this is that on Sunday 4th
September, one woman was preaching in my Church she said that for your
husband to be successful that it is in your hands the wife, and if he fails
it is also in your hand, many women that their husbands are rich nodded
in agreement.

 Stella I was weak I started thinking what I have I done,or what am I doing that is wrong, that is causing all these I can't think of anything,I know I have prayed all manner of prayers personally,have done thanksgiving prayers, sown seeds and so many others but no result. I have not been able to sleep well and I have
not gone to my church since then.

I am asking please bvs, men that are successful what has your wives
been doing or done to help, women whom their husbands are successful
what did you do to achieve this ? advice me on what to do,Stella your
red pen is needed too because I know your DH is a successful man.
thank you and God bless.



*I am sorry but i do not understand what the woman preacher means.....
What every man needs is encouragement and as long as he has the zeal it will happen.I dont know what else to say but DH wasnt rich when we married but i saw the light behind him and just pushed and encouraged.He was just coming out of University so you can imagine how scared i was thinking if it would work or not.

Maybe you will find answers in the comment section.


174 comments:

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    1. Its true oh! I participated in the 3days prayer and fasting here for singles n married women I have a good marriage but it looked like things were just going the wrong directions my husband was having issues at work about that time I had not seen any testimonies like I had seen from those trying to conceive but then everytime I read I just had faith that God was going to turn everything around and He did.... So woman u definitely have a role becos "..

      ..finds a good thing n obtains favour from God" you are a good thing and your husband must obtain favour I suggest you go find that prayer and fasting from Stella n use it..

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    3. The same thing every anointed men/ women of GOD said about my wife. The answer is simply "he(your husband) should always make you happy and you in return always pray for him specifically. never ever say a negative words to him and always be full of hopes. My secrete to success at least we can afford three square meal and pay all my bills. Glory be to God.

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    4. As in eh...all these preachers that'll be confusing gullible people.As she said that,why didn't she tell you what you're supposed to do to make your husband successful,since she's Madam know it all.

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  2. Hmmmmmm I don't know what to say ooo

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    1. That's the society putting pressure on people. My dear u can only do as much as you can do. You are doing soooo much already, keep encouraging, praying and pushing, help will come your way.
      Stella so your hubby was just leaving the uni when you guys met na you de you de always advise ladies with upcoming boyfriends to leave or not settle for them because the person is not made. Not cool at all

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  3. looking fr were to register evening class or even adult education fr dis Lagos....

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    1. Most baptist churches have free adult education, check any closest to you (try the ones that have regular schools). And u don't have to be baptist to attend.

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  4. looking fr were to register evening class or even adult education fr dis Lagos....

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  5. Style style beggy beggy . So what should we do comman marry ur husband for you?!! Abeg park well .

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    1. There's nothing funny bout mocking others in pain. May u not be in their shoes. Silly things.

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    2. Lol, not fair

      Just pray for him

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    3. Lol, not fair

      Just pray for him

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    4. May you not be in their shoes too. Amen

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    5. Xoxo is the poster!!! Sorry o

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    6. Anonymous @ 15:10. U re a big fool for mocking someone in pain. I pray u will be in her shoes someday

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  6. As they said Behind every successful man is a woman so you jst pray, encourage him, contribute to his ideas and push forward to see his dreams come true.

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    1. You are on the right path. Do not lose hope
      My husband and i were in this same situation some years ago. Ours was so bad that he will beg his younger brothers for rent money every month till they all started running from us (both friends and family)
      Meanwhile i was pregnant and couldn't eat well but my husband tried his best in every way he could find to provide for the family.
      His mum even called him and warned him to stop asking his siblings for money. So embarrassing
      We kept praying and fasting until GOD answered us beyond our imagination
      Now he is an employer of labor to the Glory of GOD
      Everybody wants to be our friend, buying us gifts we don't even need.
      Do not give up in your prayers.
      It might seem far but it will surely come to pass in your home. Remember prayer is the master Key

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    2. Poster, it is unfortunate that we live in a society that regards sentiment over logic, yes there are cases of ill luck but most times the individual is doing things the wrong way or has a lot of polishing to do when seeking a job, be it short courses or professional exams, it increases the likely hood of getting a job. Competition is tough out there for job seekers. Masters without experience isn't even enough these days.
      You say your husband is a hustler, why doesn't he go into trading or marketing if he's unable to secure a small loan to start his business. Has registered with professional HR firms like jobberman? has he thought of exploring farming? To be honest, I'm not moved by your post, I was only moved to comment. I feel your not being 100% as to why he can't get a job.

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  7. When I tell you people to stop getting married to a poor man,you guys will start saying all sorts...
    Some men should stop bringing someone's else child to suffer in the name of marriage!...
    If you are a man,make sure you are comfortable before getting married!...
    Build a house,invest in properties,,buy your wife to be a good car,open a business for her before doing the marriage rite...
    That's why some of my Igbo brothers don't marry early because they are working hard to build their home...
    Poster,you should know that everyone cannot be rich!...
    Meanwhile,have your husband and your self settled una spiritual partners?...
    Did you and your husband offend una village people?...
    Sometimes,someone somewhere might use witch craft to be eating una destiny just to punish you people...

    If you don't gain anything spiritually from your church,abeg change to another one that will give you a break through!..

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    1. πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ‘

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    2. I have one word for you.

      Shut the Fuck up!

      God, how can a woman be this loud?

      Were you sooo poor growing up that everything is about money for you?

      Damn!!!

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    3. So everyone cannot be rich and you are saying guys that belong to this category shouldn't marry meaning they should die single???

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    4. "Build a house,invest in properties,,buy your wife to be a good car,open a business for her"

      In other words, marry a ready-made man abi?

      Oloshi!

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    5. I bet you don't know anything about marriage. It is always better to keep quiet when you don't know anything about something.

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    6. I bet you don't know anything about marriage. It is always better to keep quiet when you don't know anything about something.

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    7. Pls she just said d plain truth abeg I'm sure most of u trolling her comment r broke niggas OK make una one question would u allow ur daughter marry a broke man?

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  8. Madam are you looking for your own N500k from an Angel here? U might be Lucky ,there are too many Angels around.

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  9. Stupid preaching from a fake church, u better stop going to dat yeye church, wat did Dangotes wife do for him to be d richest man in Africa, nothing. Madam d truth is bitter but I must tell u, ur husband has bad luck, there are people like dat, they are poor not bcos they are lazy but bcos of their hard luck, u are in for a long thing, u better look for a rich guy ti date, so that he will assist you in sending ur children back to sch, u see y its good to marry a millionaire.

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    1. I hope your comment won't haunt you later in life.

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    2. Can you hear how stupid you sound?

      Dumb people everywhere. Blog has been given you right to say what you can't say to people on a good day.

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    3. God bless you, I felt like slapping that preacher badly. Na joblessness make her husband become pastor get church, now she is blaming someone else for her husband's misfortune

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  10. Poster please don't take what that woman preacher said to heart. They always find ways to crawl into people's home by the words of their mouths.
    Where is it in the bible that states that?

    Your husband is hard working, according to you. He's not a lazy man, there is time for everything. Your husband will rose again and you too will be successful (Dry bone shall rise again, all you need to keep doing is speak life into it)

    Don't be gullible, we are in difficult times, keep praying and remain steadfast in the Lord. Don't sow any seed in the life of your pastor or your woman preacher; give arms to random people instead.
    God will answer your call too, you and your husband will surely get a good job. Sometimes, delay is not denial (Speaking from experience).

    Pray without ceasing and don't forget to always pray for others first. God will surely grant your heart request.

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    1. God bless you Mrs Romas.
      Only sensible comment here.
      Nigerians are really depressed oooooo; is this what this recession is causing?
      Hian

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    2. Most of the blog visitors are overgrown teenagers so forget the advice they give, listen to people like Mrs Romas.

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    3. God bless you for the comment. I've been noticing your comments here.

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  11. you should continue praying and kip encouraging ur DH.. it will surely get better.. its jst time..

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  12. Another begging format? *side eyes*

    Eermm I know things are hard!
    So long as your hubby is not the lazy type, then you guys should not lose hope. Hold on...help is on the way!

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  13. Keep praying and believing in God. Do what is right, do your part. God is faithful, he will do his part in his time.

    My dear, one thing I have come to realise in life is, as long as your heart still beats, it's God saying, I am not done with you.

    God is the giver of all things, I mean all things, keep praying, keep believing and God will make it happen. Most importantly, keep praising him no matter the circumstance.

    I just heard a 25years old banker lost her life to brain tumour. All I said to myself was 'God isn't done with me' I forgot all my problem, and I started to count my blessings.

    You are married, you have kids, I know it hurts to see them go through the hardest stage of your life, but there are women who are paying millions just to have a child. There is someone who is willing to pay anything to regain good health.

    There is always something to be grateful for..... let that be the crack for your thanksgiving to flow.

    God will do it in his time, just be patient.

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    1. God bless you my sister for that advice

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    2. Nwa nlecha I so love you,your wise,may God bless you as u speak life into people,those of you shouting begg may God save your soul,just advice the poor woman and not commending her,bcos I knw nor of you have helped anyone in dis blog

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  14. As I always say, we wives do our best and gather blames. Even if u get a job and submit all the salary, wear rags yet they will still blame you. I have been there. Let him continue looking for a job as SDK post adverts let him apply. Change state go and work while u remain where you are also trying. Am passing through same but no one blames me in my presence because we are individuals that came together in marriage.

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  15. Everyone's success lies on their own hands. To attribute your :success : or 'failure ' to others is a lazy person's escapist ideology.

    However as a 'partner for life ', your words of encouragement, motivation, your prayers through rough times like this can all the difference, do you understand me ?

    Dont worry, you and your fam will be fine. Of what use are testimonies without the trials ?

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  16. Frm ur narrative,i dnt see where u av gone wrong,all I see is a supportive wife,wch I d key ingredient in helping a man. Instead of luking for paid employment,y not try ur hands on biz no matter ow small or dirty. For starters look around ur area and find a void e.g in my area,there is no where to buy foods or snacks at night,like fried yam,akara,etc. Sometimes we miss it,we can't all get white collar jobs. May ur helper locate u.

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  17. Prayer is the answer to your problem not visiting prayer houses put job or Abraham in your shoes u will be grateful for what u have pray never curse God ok

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  18. Everyone's success lies on their own hands. To attribute your :success : or 'failure ' to others is a lazy person's escapist ideology.

    However as a 'partner for life ', your words of encouragement, motivation, your prayers through rough times like this can make all the difference, do you understand me ?

    Dont worry, you and your fam will be fine. Of what use are testimonies without the trials ?

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  19. Jesus will fix this for you! My advice to you, stop praying! Stop! And start praising! You will soon testify maami


    odabo

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  20. God forbid that I will allow my children to get married without making money...
    I have been ringing that to their ears..
    No money,no marriage!...
    See how this poster and her husband are suffering their innocent children just because they deceived themselves with e go better!...

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    1. Poster, hmmmnn..17k is good money dear!!! I earned 15k,and I sustained my family. We drank ogi in place of golden morn. We used otapiapia,in place of insecticide!!! Yes dear,the preacher is right. Be a resourceful woman. Manage your finances,send the kids to public school,live within your limit. Pray for your DH. Love you @ I am the queen and the boss. My children will NEVER beg in Jesus name. I have set a good standard for them

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    2. Nne uwa Na eme ntuari, a rich man can become a pauper tomorrow while the poor can become rich. Na life.

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  21. Where d bad bellez n rumour mongers at?shey u people said stella's husband z an old man,haters everywhere........
    Poster,don't mind the preacher just pray sincerely for ur hubby n watch things fall into place

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  22. If everyone tell their stories who'll epp

    God'll provide dear

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  23. Did this woman preacher quote any scripture to support her claims? If not why are you perturbed. If you attend a church where instead of edification, you are discouraged, get out!
    Hebrews 3:13 But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called "Today," so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness.

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  24. Keep encouraging him. And don't relent in ur duties as a wife. God will soon crown ur efforts with success. Don't lose hope.

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  25. Poster,what is your pastor doing to help the vulnerable people in his/her church?..
    Or is he enriching his pocket with una offerings and tithes?..
    I'm sure you are one of those people that calls my daddy in The Lord names while you have not achieved anything through your pastor!...
    Stella,post her account details abeg...I hate seeing innocent children suffering because of the mistakes of their parents!...
    E go better husband!...

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    1. Queen Queen. Make I post my own?

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    2. Linda don vex

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    3. With all your gragra,I'm very positive you are one of the silent Angels on SDK. Love me some Queen and Boss. Nkemdropsmic

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    4. Madam Linda has come to her your aid and i hope you are not among those cussing her out. Oya send ur account details for the queen and boss to reach out to you.

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    5. Isn't she the same person that said she does coded give aways?
      Buhhh its none of my biznes

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  26. Ma'am, I don't think there's more a woman can do that you ain't doing ; support and encouragement is basic at times as this........ trust me, if your hubby is a hustler like you say he is, there would surely be a breakthrough ; yeah It could delay ,pls wait for itjjust keep doing your thing ; and staying strong........ it's simply a phase.

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  27. Stella just said it all...dat preacher was wrong...

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  28. Please let me read comments. I may learn a thing or two.

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  29. My dear this is a very hard one. Truth is you still have to keep on praying. Secondly try and visit a true prophetic church they might tell you things that are giving you bad luck. My mum will always say that a church where there's no vision people perish. My mum doesn't sleep nor stay at home a day without going to church. We the children even advice her to stop doing fasting and prayers because of her old age, she will start telling us her family history how no female was able to pull out as a successful woman but she with the power of God and her wiseness break that yolk . She no dey ever gree oooo to think that she's under medication. My dear wise up. Change your church..... I feel really sorry for u though.

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    1. Prophetic kwa!!!. Pls don't visit any prophetic anything o, the little change you have, them go collect. Pray and ask God to reveal whatever directly to you.

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    2. It's yoke not yolk πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ except her family was in an egg

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    3. Not all prophetic @crystal.........there are true prophets of God.

      Dont because of one bad egg Judge all prophets.

      Im a baptist by the way, mountain of fire is my 2nd church, i dont miss power must change hand every 1st saturday of the month.

      Clear your foundation and see good things come to you. We all have the power to pray our way through.

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  30. @crazyhornywife. I feel moved to bless you with a little something pls drop ur email if you wish. If I'm not mistaken ur hbss?pardon me if I got that wrong thanks.

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  31. 500k loading....May your helper locate you in Jesus Name. Amen.

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  32. This is how people go about looking for homes to destroy. I pray that your husband will not buy into this dangerous school of thought if not your marriage will hell on earth. So madam preacher did not come across Malachi 2 vs 13-16 when researching for that misleading preaching of hers? Can we interpret that to mean that is why your husband never hammer (cos that will be injustice and wickedness to conclude like that) God am mad at this! Sanctimonious women nodding their heads like agama lizards thinking that it's by their power / might that made their husbands abi? Nonsensical nonsense. God will bless him when He wants to; provided you and your husband live upright and are faithful to him. Yes some marriages are favoured in that manner BUT to make a blanket statement like that is deadly to other marriages when the avenue lies in God's hands alone.
    My sister and her husband lived in one room for 8 years with hunger and lack of money a constant companion before God rewarded their faithfulness and blessed the works of their hands...they now count in millions and a small negligible job that they did diligently pushed the door to their wealth wide open.
    Don't mind the idiots that turn the bible upside down to justify what i can't comprehend, continue looking unto God and at the appointed time all these will be a story.
    It is well.

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  33. Hhhmmmmm poster πŸ˜’
    It is well with u πŸ‘Œ

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  34. Dear poster, u said ur hubby is a hustler, what exactly does he hustle? There are so many ways to make ends meet, u can start by cooking food and selling, use ur data wisely, u can cook and deliver to people, dat was how KFC started and today he is a billionaire

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  35. Dear poster, this your tale is off abeg
    So a woman preacher, probably the type that hammers on submission and advocates that women are responsible 100% for the behaviur of their husbands and outcomes of marriages said what...And you ran down here coz you think a puzzle has snapped in place.

    I hope you don't find what you arw looking for oh...you sound like you are lowkey seeking for a spiritualist's contact or something. That comment from Madam preacher is a sensible one, but viewing it from your frustration-tinted lens..i don't mean to sound condescending or insultive, pardon me....just gotta say it..... It sounds loaded with meaning for you,and that meaning is what i dread in your quest for solutions.

    Those rich women nodding their heads could just be doing their wifely duties that's all. Do not get on that nollywood mode where underground something must happen for a good life to happen, and then later, the rich will also cry....all that insanity bla bla.

    Don't go and draw trouble trying to be a "goodluck charm" to your husband's finances. Frankly, many preachers are flippant in their talks and if you are not careful or clearheaded, you will place yourself on high jump, just as you are doing.

    Nothing is wrong with you, you are not a curse to your hubby and you do not have to do needless waka waka to find financial rain. The economy is not too good and even your 17 k job is paradise to some families now. This is not the time to start church hopping.

    If you think there is a "spiritual cause" to your predicament. Then you and your hubby should sort yourselves out. As a christian you have read about Jabez, Mordecai and so many positive stories. Pray out any suspected generational cause, pray for divine recommendation. Find ways to apply yourselves in a way money can come. If you can stomach it, famz the rich women in that church, offer practical assistance where you can get paid. Errands, babysitting,events organising and all that.

    Encourage your hubby to develop any positive skill he's good at, likewise you... imbibe humility,there is money in those little roadside work many people look down. Even popcorn,akara sales,roadside kiosk at a good site will bring something cool.
    All these spiritualizing of little problems make no sense at all. People have it worse than you do!
    I pray help finds you.
    Emotive pieces like this make me suspicious sha...All that 500k unexpected change can inspire very wifely "help meetish" essay...just saying!

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    1. I hope you are as goodlooking as your comments.

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    2. Good advice but the last paragraph was inappropriate.

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  36. Preacher from hell.

    Madam, just ask God to give you the strength to WAIT on Him. That no matter what happens, let things not beyond you. He will always come true for you. Don't give up.

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    1. It is so funny how people from this part of the world believe that every case of ill luck is some sort of witch hunting or that God has not be praised and worshipped enough. That type of ideology tries to defeat the Saying, "all fingers are not equal". The moment we all come to terms with the fact that what we sew is what we shall reap, the better it will be for humanity. You can't plant corn and harvest oranges. Our bad deeds only makes it easier for "witch hunting" to prevail. If you are stead fast in doing good, good things will come your way, it is an unbribable law of nature/God. It baffles me when tragedies happen to people and they ask "why me?". The question is why not you? Conntrary to what 99% of bvs here believe, deeds of previous lives add up like carry over. You must experience your full cycle of karma, be it at a reduced purnishment for being truly remorseful and planting of a lot of good deeds. E.g, you hit someone but run away, along the line, it ways you down and you decide to help someone who was hit by someone else, your good deed will reduce your punishment. E.g, you are involved in an accident with minor scratches.
      Thank me later

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  37. My dear, it is well. In my own understanding, the only obligation towards a woman to her husband is prayer and encouragement. Since you have done and are still doing these, believe that God's time is the best. Continue praying for him and remember you are not the only one on the boat, but it will surely end in praise.

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  38. My madam queen and boss said I should tell you to get a rich side sugar daddy for now lolz

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  39. What you are suppose to do is ask for any good Samaritan to help with a job for your husband.. Your question about what a woman should do to make a man suceesful is unrealistic.

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  40. Madam poster: the only thing you owe your hubby is faithfulness, prayer and support, as in words of encouragement.
    I don't why Africans try to push every blame of bad relationships or marital problems to women.
    Yesterday chronicle, on the comment section, someone commented that she left the guy that she supposed to marry because he is broke and married a rich man and after the marriage her hubby went broke while the ex became rich. People started blaming her telling her that she is the problem of both men. Now I ask, how is it her fault? Is she a destiny provider?
    So poster, what I'm saying is that your husband's destiny is on his hands. Two of you should kneel down with your kids and pray to God.
    Forget the preacher, he/she is just panting the sermon with honey to attract listeners. As for those rich ladies nodding their heads in agreement, most of them don't even know the source of their husband's wealth.
    It is well with your soul ma. God will bless you and your family abundantly In Jesus AMEN

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  41. I believe the woman preacher wz talking out of this popular verse, "he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from d Lord."

    A good wife naturally attracts blessings to her man. It is a spiritual thing really.

    But don't beat urself up for ur husband's present situation. It won't last forever. Life comes with good and bad times; for better or for worse. This could be ur 'for worse'. Ur 'for better' is coming.


    I really feel for u dearie but I encourage u never stop praying for ur DH. Never compromise. Don't ever stop encouraging him or believing in him.

    Miracles don't always happen over night but pls keep faith, God is faithful, it will come.

    Why not learn a skill while u are at it - beadmaking or baking, anything but don't just fold ur hands and do nothing.

    Start something no matter how little and trust God to prosper it.

    God will make a way for u and hubby. One day u will look back at this time and smile. Just take it a day at a time.







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  42. Madam poster: the only thing you owe your hubby is faithfulness, prayer and support, as in words of encouragement.
    I don't know why Africans try to push every blame of bad relationships or marital problems to women.
    Yesterday chronicle, on the comment section, someone commented that she left the guy that she supposed to marry because he is broke and married a rich man and after the marriage her hubby went broke while the ex became rich. People started blaming her telling her that she is the problem of both men. Now I ask, how is it her fault? Is she a destiny provider?
    So poster, what I'm saying is that your husband's destiny is on his hands. Two of you should kneel down with your kids and pray to God.
    Forget the preacher, he/she is just panting the sermon with honey to attract listeners. As for those rich ladies nodding their heads in agreement, most of them don't even know the source of their husband's wealth.
    It is well with your soul ma. God will bless you and your family abundantly In Jesus AMEN

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  43. This one pass me o. All I know is that it is God who blesses people.

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    1. Yes he blesses people, but what you sew is what you will reap. The law of karma is real

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  44. Dear poster,it's constant prayers. At God's appointed time,he will bless the work of his hands.dre is nothing special you are to do. So far he is not lazy,he will make it.

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  45. Chai, poster take ur hubby for deliverance. . he needs d favour of God n nothing more.
    Take up a fierce battle n pray abt ur finances. Someone somewia must hv meddled diabolically with ur progress...
    Do u kn wat they do? They cover ur face with a spiritual, evil mask to stop people from helping you. . u need a strong, man of God I swear.
    Pray more biko. .. Inukwa akuko... Kaii.. Poverty na bastard.

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  46. Same thing my inlaws tell m o,hubby is a good man but a cheater....i tell dem am nt God,infact I taya for all ds matter

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  48. Your breakthrough would come , its hardest now because it's almost over . U have done well, don't relent . For now, start giving him just thanks for open doors ... stop asking and start thanking him for blessing ur family and lifting u all out of poverty . Do this continuously , ur breakthrough is on its way.

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  49. 1st of all.. that woman preacher was just praising herself and her rich wives club members, I can boldly tell u that some women were married into rich homes and have no idea of how to make money. While some good and righteous hard working ladies are married to nobodies. No one knows tomorrow, who even knows for sure wat will happen by 7pm today. Just keep being prayerful and hard working.

    Sorry to ask this, but why haven't u been working all this while? U had to wait till ur husband's world went under b4 u decided to search and get a chicken change salary job.. If u had been working ever since d start of d marriage u wld have been better exposed and in a higher level than now. You would also have a better savings. My dear, just give it up to God and continue to encourage ur hubby. Encourage urself as well. It is well with you IJN.. amen

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  50. Poster continue trusting God,He will surely bless your Hubby's hustle..
    Keep on encouraging him
    Be prayerful
    Don't stop doing good bcos God will surely connect you both soon..
    Good luck ma


    Remember to come back for your testimony soon..

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  51. I'll read comments abeg, but u are not the cause of your husband's predicament.

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  52. Behind every successful man is a woman with a working vision. That said I don't understand why people look for jobs like the world will end. Why not encourage your husband to create a job for himself. Does he have a skill? If he does not can he do a business. Start small and watch it grow. That's where you as the woman come in. Men this days naturally are relaxed. They need to be pushed to excel and that's why a womans role is so vital to a family.

    Can you raise like 50k to 100k. Look for a very strategic location. Start a village market. Minimize your expenditure. Re invest the capital and profit into the business. Look for more locations in like 6 months. Employ someone to manage it and continually 're invest every 6 months in a new location. After sometime brand your business and grow your brand.

    I wish you success in any decision you take. However don't ever stop going to church. Nothing wrong with what the woman said.

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  53. Is well with you woman, just pray to God and be faithful to God will do it , don't go and put your hand in any evil things, there is no magic to that.

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  54. Is well with you woman, just pray to God and be faithful to God will do it , don't go and put your hand in any evil things, there is no magic to that.

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  55. Maybe u shud go to ur village n ask dem o.

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  56. What the preacher meant was for you to pray. They say the back bone of a man is the wife and the wife supports thru prayers. Why do you think when you go to prayer meetings you will see wives instead of men because women do a lot of praying for their men. Even when you go to the prayer meetings on the island, you will see very rich men wifewife coming there to pray for their man because honestly that's the only way a wife can support their husband's.



    BTW, your mail looks like you want help from blog visitors, if you aren't a scammer, I pray help meets you. But if you are a scammer, let help be far away from you

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  57. Let queen and boss tell you what to do .

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  58. Stella, you married your hubby when he just finished school? Lmao...Una wey dey look for rich men to marry like yesterday's chronicles, and dumping men with prospects, una don see am?

    You could be the cause, your hubby could be the cause, it could also just be circumstances...anything could be the cause but I don't think you should beat yourself up about it.

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  59. Stella saw the light behind him
    Lol, me sef see the light from here, Obodo oyibo lightπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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      Before nko!...
      Be there doing love...don't go and look for someone with light behind him and marry!...

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    3. Lol ok lemme me go and look for my own som1 with light behind him and marry

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  60. Stop beating yourself. You're a good wife to stick by him thru it all and your own time will come. Start by asking God to open your eyes to see what the cause of the whole issue might be.

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  61. Hello ma put NO pressure on yourself, you are not to blame for his predicament or the situation your family is at the moment, don't feel jinx in anyway since you said your husband is a good man keep hoping for the best and it shall be well.

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  62. Some Nigerian preachers! Killing relationshing, promoting lies, breaking home since 1909.

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  63. Poster. I think the main issue here is your ideology ....orientation...mindset. You need to hear right, because it seems you have been hearing the wrong things. Also, you have occupied yourself with so much activities that you ignored the main thing.

    I won't argue whether what your preacher said is true or not but it's high time you and your hubby go back to God' Word. It may sound simple and meaningless but His Word has answers to ALL situations in life. All we ever need or will need in life are wrapped up in the Word - please go for the Word.

    No man has the answer to a man's problems more than a man's Maker. It's good to pray, sow seeds, fast, etc, but do you really work in line with what you have heard? Abraham believed God and it was counted unto him for righteousness. He was confident that God is able and willing to do what He promised.

    This is the time for you guys to put your faith - in God's Word - to work. Faith ALWAYS works. I'm a witness. But how? Search the Scriptures and MEDITATE on passages that emphasize on blessing the work of your hands as a couple. Such as Genesis 39:2-3,23; Joshua 1:7-8; Psalms 1:3, 35:27; Jeremiah 17:8; 3 John 1:2,etc. Make this a DAILY routine. Repeat what God says and let it sink in your spirit. It may take time but also you can set a time for your visitation, not by being anxious or agitating that it's taking ages rather once you have that conviction in your spirit....baaam....that is it.
    Don't forget that God's promise to Abraham manifested in the physical after 25 years. It may tarry but it will sure come. God's time is the best time, He will NEVER be late.

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  64. Poster. I think the main issue here is your ideology ....orientation...mindset. You need to hear right, because it seems you have been hearing the wrong things. Also, you have occupied yourself with so much activities that you ignored the main thing.

    I won't argue whether what your preacher said is true or not but it's high time you and your hubby go back to God' Word. It may sound simple and meaningless but His Word has answers to ALL situations in life. All we ever need or will need in life are wrapped up in the Word - please go for the Word.

    No man has the answer to a man's problems more than a man's Maker. It's good to pray, sow seeds, fast, etc, but do you really work in line with what you have heard? Abraham believed God and it was counted unto him for righteousness. He was confident that God is able and willing to do what He promised.

    This is the time for you guys to put your faith - in God's Word - to work. Faith ALWAYS works. I'm a witness. But how? Search the Scriptures and MEDITATE on passages that emphasize on blessing the work of your hands as a couple. Such as Genesis 39:2-3,23; Joshua 1:7-8; Psalms 1:3, 35:27; Jeremiah 17:8; 3 John 1:2,etc. Make this a DAILY routine. Repeat what God says and let it sink in your spirit. It may take time but also you can set a time for your visitation, not by being anxious or agitating that it's taking ages rather once you have that conviction in your spirit....baaam....that is it.
    Don't forget that God's promise to Abraham manifested in the physical after 25 years. It may tarry but it will sure come. God's time is the best time, He will NEVER be late.

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  65. I encourage, pray nd support him, when he brings up an idea I put chip in where I feel necessary. Like am better grounded educational wise so in terms of writing proposals going with him if a meeting involves highly intellectual individuals. Sometimes I ask for assistance nd ideas from my old acquintances on his behalf. That way God has being helping us bt after that he does the major part of the business handling. I also scold nd criticise him when necessary but without disrespecting him.

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  66. I encourage, pray nd support him, when he brings up an idea I put chip in where I feel necessary. Like am better grounded educational wise so in terms of writing proposals going with him if a meeting involves highly intellectual individuals. Sometimes I ask for assistance nd ideas from my old acquintances on his behalf. That way God has being helping us bt after that he does the major part of the business handling. I also scold nd criticise him when necessary but without disrespecting him.

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  67. I encourage, pray nd support him, when he brings up an idea I put chip in where I feel necessary. Like am better grounded educational wise so in terms of writing proposals going with him if a meeting involves highly intellectual individuals. Sometimes I ask for assistance nd ideas from my old acquintances on his behalf. That way God has being helping us bt after that he does the major part of the business handling. I also scold nd criticise him when necessary but without disrespecting him.

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  69. One of my prayer points is that I become a blessing and open doors for the man I'll marry. The bible said that he who finds a wife, found a good thing. I want to be that good thing in every aspect of his life. This does not mean that if he faces difficulty, that its my fault. Nah. I think you should venture into business and leave jobs for now. Rally round and source for money for startup. No matter how little. Can you cook? Are you igbo? Do you stay in the east? Can you make good abacha? Or fry stuff well with stew? The thing is, leave jobs first, start up a business no matter how small then pray for God to bless the work of your hands. Also send your details to busybody so you'll be in line for any giveaway. You need a business no matter how little. Wish I could help you financially right now. I feel you just need to start up something.

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  70. Queen come and tell her where that your odeshi man is so he can help her πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†
    But on a serious note, dont stress yourself over what the woman said cos what she meant is women are the backbones on their husbands. They support, advise, encourage and push their men to greatness. She doesnt mean the women are the direct source of wealth of their husbands.
    A good wife keeps a hubby on track and shes with him through the good and the bad. Be careful also so you dont fall into the hands of false prophets that will take advantage of you.
    I know someone that is always close to mega deals but just when its to click, story enters, like 3 people have told him its his fathers people that are doing him. He has a house of his own, a business and his kids are doing well in school.
    Just keep praying and he should keep hustling and time and chance will happen to him. He would be at the rigjt place at the right time and all your tears will be a thing of the past.

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  71. Encouragement is all any woman can give her man and then you hustle hard too, that is why they said two heads are better than one.Keep praying poster and encourage your hubby because there is light at the end of the tunnel. Please Don't for the love of God envy others because you don't know the source of their riches.
    It will get bad or worst yet put your trust in God and believe that one day it will be history and you and hubby will seat and gist about these times in your. life. Faci

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  72. U should, nt listen to that preacher, probably u misunderstood her . keep praying and believing in God that something ll happen soon,. there is nothing God can't fix,it might be rough now doesn't mean it ll be forever so keep holding on to ur faith .ln a min ,God can turn things around so sister , keep believing in God,

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  73. Enter your comment...Madam, go back to that preacher and ask her to explain very well to u what she mean by your husband's wealth is in ur hand. Or go ask this se women that were nodding their heads to fill u in. Good luck.

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  74. Before a man decides to settle d own,he should have a financial stability,dreams and ambition but your husband lacks these qualities and that's why things are hard for the both of you.
    I dont believe a man's success and failure is determined by his wife.A man who wants to succeed will succeed and a man who wants to fail will!
    Dont blame yourself for your husband's failure,you only married a man who left his dreams to pursue his brother's. ..

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  75. Poster, from all you've written here, you're a praying woman who believes so strongly that her husband's story will change for good. At this point, after praying so hard, working so hard and hoping for a miracle and all doesn't seem to be working, anything anyone says will get to you. As far as I'm concerned, no one can underestimate what you've gone through to see your husband succeed besides his success is yours too and I also think that no one should judge you either directly or indirectly. I advice that you block negative thoughts, and don't allow words that don't encourage you get to you.
    There's light at the end of the tunnel.

    For thrilling stories, visit www.adaezewrites.com

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  76. Continue to offer praises and genuine thanksgiving to God, Try not to validate or justify yourself and husband in God s presence.Mercy,race and favour will surely speak for your husband.IJN.Amen.

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  77. Madam, your breakthrough is near don't be desperate, just continue to pray, nothing is wrong with you. It'll be fine.

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  78. Chai all I typed vanished.

    Your husband destiny has been stolen
    He should look deeper in his father's house. What a pity.

    Going from church to church, you guys will enter where you are not supposed to enter.

    That foolish woman that preached is mocking your situation.
    D place una do deliverance how far. Not every pastor is gifted for deliverance. It is well with you.

    I hope this one I typed will not disappear. Kai so many people are really hurting. It is well again

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    2. Kedu ije gi my sister...
      I saw your S/O...
      One love sis...

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  79. The preacher was right*
    Nothing work for me until I was told to beg my wife for a way out*
    She said she wanted to watch our marriage first if its gonna work.
    She did what she was told and b4 I could know what was happening*Money started flowing in and we are very rich now*
    Women have secret which is not known to we Men!

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  80. Your husband should locate a good man from God to wash every bad luck following him. Family altar and coven speaking against him. Chai

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  81. Just keep pushing hard

    Don't sleep with anyone for help.


    Were you trying to beg? If you can't pay school fees, take your children to a public school.

    Most public school graduates are better off than those in private schools.

    If you live in a 2 bedroom. Move to a 1room 1parlor kitchen n toilet.

    No body was born with cash tied to their umbilical cord, except those with silver spoons.

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  82. Madam, you've done the best by standing with your husband till dis moment and secondly with prayers all chain will break lose, I've been facing a lot despite I'm a young father of one, me and my woman been through a lot from her family side and my family too as well and sometimes we blame ourselves for telling people our plans towards life and it's been a problem to us bcos, blessed with a beautiful daughter and I just wish I am rich and never wish my daughter ever lacks anything. I do things with honesty and never like cheating but one thing I love doing is sharing and giving even with my last penny, I still give out and I'm always blessed through that means. Recently wifey been disturbing, she want to start something and I felt so unhappy I couldn't raise anything for her , she asked her brother for help and he kept promising until someone gave her 50k to start something and I strongly believe God for a divine turn around to grace and blessing with the little we have. God will surprise U @ poster and to everyone going through one thing or the other, mighty jesus will locate U. Don't give up, your grace will locate your story..

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      Your wife's boyfriend gave her 50k..
      See what some men have reduced their women to...
      Smh...

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    2. Hahahahahahahahahhaahhahahahahahaha chai queen nd boss,how did you know its his wife's boyfriend that gave her the money

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  83. Hmm it's well.my dear when I got married hubby had nothing.i was always praying nd fasting at a point I heard a rumor dat d mom said I bought bad luck to her son I was so angry dat I went into 3days fastening nd prayer wit belle.it wasn't long dat God answered my prayer he got a job offer dat even him was confused.my point is be angry in ur spirit talk to God wake up at midnite nd pray cry no b say neighbours go dey hear u.gve tithe bless kids around u.in no time u sef go see.nd u don't av to stop going to church u can call those women nd ask dem wat u can download. All d best

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  84. Hmm it's well.my dear when I got married hubby had nothing.i was always praying nd fasting at a point I heard a rumor dat d mom said I bought bad luck to her son I was so angry dat I went into 3days fastening nd prayer wit belle.it wasn't long dat God answered my prayer he got a job offer dat even him was confused.my point is be angry in ur spirit talk to God wake up at midnite nd pray cry no b say neighbours go dey hear u.gve tithe bless kids around u.in no time u sef go see.nd u don't av to stop going to church u can call those women nd ask dem wat u can download. All d best

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  85. Oooo, my poor African woman, the yoke of marriage is always poured on our head.please don't listen to that woman who said so, she messed up ur mindset already and it will affect you. Please don't carry that heavy burden in ur heart that you are responsible for ur hubby's lack of success, when God is ready he will bless you and I know ur breakthrough is already here just hang on

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  86. Madam I will advice your husband to acquire skill and forget about this job hunting of a thing. People with skill as in handwork are doing better this day than employed workers. With the economic situation a lot of businesses and company are downsizing so possibility of job is slim,so i advice he pick a skill it will help a lot.

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  87. Hian! poster. It is well with you oh and the kind of preaching you listen to. Some preachers sha. See poster, there is no marriage that is rosy my dear. This is your hour of trials why not hold on to God (The one whose words never return to him unaccomplished). Most of us need to have heart to heart talk with our parents I'm sure we will be told the truth about what marriage really is and how to excel in it.

    Please don't let whatever you heard control your thinking because as long as I am concerned, it is the duty of the man to take care of his home so why are you killing yourself over mere talk? Time will come when you and your hubby will be remembered and your present now will become past tense (Story). Please stop panicking and channel that energy on things that can bring you money.

    All the best.

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  88. Yes your husband success is in your hand. I was ones told same thing and i was told to pray without my husband. i ve observed that when i pray jobs comes in more and when i keep quiet things will be dragging. What the woman is simply saying is that pray for him, dontlet him know. Do your secret pray, dont go to mountain simply wake in the middle of the night and pray for HIM then wait to see what God will do in his life. I was told to pray for mine husband but i told the pastor that we pray together and he said praying together is good but praying only on behalf of your hubby is different. And he saidd being a wife/woman we have power to make our spouse to be anything we want them to be. So start, dont feel bad and remember your destiny is tied together. Your are a powerful wife you have authority but you re not aware. Dont let your husband to be struggling.USE YOUR KNEE...

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  90. In Hausa language this situation is called " bakin kafa" while "farin kafa" is the vise versa, Hausa speakers can relate with this...

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  91. God is a miracle worker your miracle is on the way dont ever give up,its not easy but continue to pray

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  92. You are not the cause of your hubby problem, kindly ask your prophetess and her goons what is the solution since she said u are behind it. It looks as if u need help here, may help locate you.

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  93. But there are too many lazy husbands these days oooooo,
    Why can't a man even get teaching as part time to help his wife's little income, and believe God for a bigger opportunity as job or business.
    Madam poster, don't blame yourself oooo
    Pray , pray and never loose your identity.
    Keep going to church for God alone not human utterances.
    All the best. Storm will be over.

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  94. i believe what the woman is simply saying is you should pray more for your dh, and be very supportive in evryway. give him all your support and words of encouragement,am sure that is what she is saying.

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  95. jst keep praying theres nothing God cant do...since hes nt lazy doors will open for sure..its jst a phase

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  96. God is still in business of changing life
    Just hold onto him
    Have faith work hard
    Cut ur coast according to ur size
    Check cheaper school and put ur kids
    Look for cheaper accommodation that u can afford
    Ur husband can go for deliverance too
    Ur tym is near hold on

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  97. Hmmm.....Nah wah! E serious no b small.

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  98. Pls, any good samaritan in the house shld pls help my husband wit a Job,before person go die of hungry.

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  99. Please look for a prophetic minister to tell you where your problem is coming from. Dnt sit and watch, some problems are spiritual so go to God in prayer.

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  100. madam keep praying for him don't be tired his breakthrough will not tarry any more in Jesus name. And speak what you want to see activate your faith. I know God can not lie, get scriptures concerning the issue remember God honors his word more than his name. And don't joke with your midnight prayers.

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  101. Anon: 17 :04. His wife got fucked and paid 50 k. Lol. Mumu husband.

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  102. POSTER LISTEN TO ME, YOU AND OTHER WOMEN ON HERE...

    Success lies in the hands of the individual and not their spouse. Even a bad spouse CAN NOT block your success unless you let them. You are not behind these down times. Please NIGERIAN WOMEN, read the Bible for yourselves sometimes. All these fake preachers and fake seers (the Bible has warned us against it but una no dey hear) will only keep you bound. Pray and keep working hard. You and hubby should get creative. It is in times of adversity that true success comes.

    A good woman can encourage her husband but a good woman can not bring success to a lazy man who does not want to work. Your husband is hard working right? It will happen for him but you need to be patient.

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  103. Has your husband applied for teaching job? Has he done manual labour? Has he done marketing with banks as contract staff (not as easy to get), has he done cleaning work? Does he know how to wash and iron well? Has he tried to be a sophisticated wash man? Has your husband tried his hands at small scale farming? Do you own a car? Has he tried public transportation?

    My sister...if your answer to any of these things is no and it is beneath us..then you are not hungry enough.

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  104. Whoever said good husband are scare is a lier. I married a wonderful man. The best. Intelligent n smart. Travelled to do masters, started Ph.D. N money finished. Came back to Nigeria to hustle n try n get schalorship. That was in 2012. Till now we still dey here. What has hubby not done. Who has not cheated him? Is it d one he will write proposals n it will work n d person will run. Or the promises upon promises . Ph.D. Seems so far away. But why will someone dat has such qualification be jobless. I try to do little work but still not enough. All we need is just one Big Bang and trust hubby, he wnt waste it. Hmmm. In all I thank God. For family n life. So sorry for my long post.

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  105. Read God's Holy Book and believe in His promises.

    Some of these motivation speaker pastors can use only one quote to reset your mindset for life....Beware.

    Poster keep praying

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  106. Madam there is time for everything am a guy too nobody encourage me but i encourage myself in God you are evening trying to encourage your husband dont worry time his coming that everything will be okay just keep on praying and going to church people that mock you today will celebrate you tommorow God bless.

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