NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN BUSINESS MIXES WITH PLEASURE
Hi Aunty Stellz!
I am 26years old, I have a good job and am engaged to my Bf of 2years (Lets call him Mr A)
My parents and every member of my family approves of Mr. A and we are planning our introduction early next year.
Then Mr B happened. He is one of my customer and usually calls me for official purposes. Then out of the blue he called one day and told me the call was nt official. We talked about life and happenings and before I knew it we have talked for more than an hour. This became the trend and I got to find out Mr B is a dovoicee and has a daughter.
I enjoy talking to Mr B and I think am falling in love with him. Mr A is an amazing man and I know he will do right by me
Am I over reacting to the closeness and Bond with Mr B or there is actually something happening between us .we do see each other during weekends but he didn't ask me out.
Do I tell Mr A about Him?
I just want to be sure I am making the right choice
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
The travails of being a single mother
I am a lady in my late thirties with children, i might not be the most beautiful woman in the world but I'm not bad to look at, though I am still praying to God for Mr Right because I got separated from the father of my children two years ago after going through what could be described as hell on earth, my life! my destiny! But I thank God that I got out before loosing my life.
A lot of people make the mistakes of blaming the woman whenever a marriage breaks, the fact is that we women are emotional beings, about 90% of us would rather endure whatever is dished at us than leave an emotionally or physically abusive marriage or relationship all because of our children.
The reason I'm writing to all you Blog Members like Ibukunoluwa christened us is to ask some pertinent questions, that,
1. Does a divorced or separated woman especially a woman that is below 45year not deserve to get married again because she has kids?
2. Does she has to dedicate her life to taking care of her children alone without emotional or moral support for her to be deemed a good or caring mother?
This question is in respect of a chronicle I read last week where a lady said her mother did not remarry after getting divorced from her father and another one you posted maybe last year or early this year, where Betty Irabor write that her mom did not remarry because of her and her siblings?
1. What about the emotional state of those women?
2. How do we cope with sexual urges?
3. Does remarrying makes a woman a less caring mother?
4. What about when those children grow up and leave the nest? Get married and start having their own family?
Won't that mother be seen as an over intrusive mother-in-law because she has no other life apart from her children?
What I know is that when you give birth to a child, that son or daughter has your heart for the rest of your life.
Please kindly advice because I know that there are other women that will benefit from the answers.
Thank you Mrs K.
Please whenever people say they don't comment but have been visiting this blog since taytay, I can verify that it's true, I have been visiting before Mama Nnuku start sending jokes in IHN, before SDK's Lagos and PH party, a girl that collected 2 laptops ( can't remember her name now) etc and I rarely comment but I read comments.