Are these group of men those with cupboard mentality or are they right?
''Stella, kindly post this in your couch session so different views can be aired.
Growing up in a family which comprised of both guys and ladies, we were trained to work hard in school and hustle. I schooled in a federal university in the west which has accommodation for students but because of the neat freak that I am, I opted to rent a self contained apartment outside school and this became a part of me.
From that time onward till now, I have always stayed alone. From University to NYSC and when I started working , I enjoy living alone, I have friends. a fiancé and family but after work or spending time with my loved ones, I prefer to come back to the privacy of my own house. its like my sanctity from the craziness of the world. My two elder sisters stayed alone before they got married, its like the norm in my family, nobody sees any big deal to it.
my parents do not believe it is over protectiveness that keeps a lady decent. Their motto is do your best to instil the right values in a child and submit them to God when they are adults and trust that they will not depart from it.
So imagine my surprise when I met a guy during the first S and M and after we went on a date in a restaurant in VI, he asked who I stay with and I said alone and his countenance changed. I asked why and he said he doesn't think a lady that stays alone can be decent and ladies always need someone around to guide and monitor them.
I was like 'huh?', I couldn't relate to it.
I do not mean to brag but my husband will be the first man I sleep with and I have stayed alone for years, so his opinion doesn't hold any water, at least in my case. His pre-colonial mindset put me off and needless to say, that was the last time I saw him. I got even more pissed when he asked if I will consider moving back to my parents house so we can have a future together .
I am due to marry in a couple of weeks but I am asking this now for my friend/colleague, I would refer her here to read comments. She is going through a similar issue, her boyfriend insists she moves to her aunt's house and he doesn't like the idea of her living on her own. She asked for my opinion and I have decided to throw the question open.
Is something wrong with a single lady living alone?
does staying under your parents till you move into your husband's guarantee that you will remain decent? don't girl's do runs right under their parents' nose? Maybe other single ladies can learn from the diverse mindsets that will be expressed here.
Thank you Stella for posting