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Tuesday, 1 November 2016

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Oh Dear!




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FROM THE EYES OF A CHILD.

I am a silent bv on your platform and trust me, my day is incomplete with reading the chronicles, WNB, LRD and the likes. But something happened today, in a way, I stumbled upon a 'diary on domestic violence' and thought I should share mine. It will be a long one but I feel the need to share coupled with the fact that I was tensed and seemed like everything was playing at once in my head. Forgive any typos, pleaseee.

I am a young lady of 22 years.

So, growing up for me wasn't so much fun. It seemed like a bitter-sweet experience. My mother is the most dedicated wife and mother I have ever known. I can't wait to make it just to see her experience the true meaning of care.


In my tender childhood days, I already knew what torture meant. I saw it played out from my dad and meted to my mum. I watched him beat her badly, broke her teeth, made her have a miscarriage, ridicule her in the public even to the extent of throwing her out naked for neighbours to see. But, she always held the fort.


It wasn't funny as I was the only child then. With time though, I would always look out for her when the devil in him reared its ugly head. I would jump on him to stop, be in the middle, shield my mother from his fist. It never stopped a thing. It kept happening! (My own little way of protecting her).



In the whole home thing, I was doing well academically. Thanks to my mum! (The real MVP! ). I graduated from secondary school with the second-best in my set. I was happy! Not just because of the success but that I was leaving home! I didn't get admission to the university of my choice, I should have waited but I just wanted to leave the house! So, I opted for the polytechnic option. Even with that, I was never happy. I still got report from home that his abuse was increasing by the day. It did affect me in some way but I needed to make good grades.


I completed my studies at the polytechnic, had to come home. It was a mixed feeling because I will be there to help mummy but I wished the session never ended all because of the 'battlefield'.


It was time to go for my HND programme... He(my dad) swore he would never sponsor my education further. As the girl that I have come to be, I knew my life couldn't end with an OND. I was 18! I had to look for a job to save up some cash and yes I got one that paid well for my age and qualification.


During the whole drama, of him (my dad) swearing not to sponsor my education further, it was hell for me and my mother! I always looked pale and tired because the home front was a stressful one. Arrghhh!


One day, in his constant manner. An issue happened. Prior to that time, Mummy always warned me to keep a close eye to everything he does to her. I agreed though it was not easy until this incident that completely turned the only bit of affection I managed to keep for him. He beat her silly, cursed her and all that related to her even me (all this while, I was quiet! ).


He was dragging her out naked. I had to do something! It was then I pushed him away from her, gave my mum a wrapper to cover herself with.

When he gained balance, oh my! He beat the sunshine out of me that I passed out, I do not know for how long though but I woke up to see my mum trying so hard to revive me with water and begging that I wake up while he kept beating her. With that, I stood up and pushed him with the little strength I had crying and saying 'is it not okay?!'.


Stella, you will not believe how the society (his family and people who do not even know what's been happening) reacted when he fabricated the story to make him appear as the victim. Every time he gives a narration, he is always the victim. It made me realize the reason why most women will never speak up.


Fast forward to now, with God on my side and my job(had to change jobs twice). I have been able to pay for my school fees at the university for three years now with little or no help at all. I can't remember the last time he provided a 3-square meal for the house.


I cry often... It's getting worse. I feel for my mum because like most women who are abused, the usual talk is ' I can't leave because of you, if I do and u want to get married someday. People will say because I didn't endure with, you will definitely follow in my steps... So, I need to stay for you). But really, who cares?! Whether good or bad, they will wail!


Mind you, my mum has a business of hers not a full housewife. She is very hardworking. She paid for my tuition in the first school I ever attended. Only that business haven't been positive lately.


I feel sad... We(I and my dad)are like complete strangers in the house, not with the constant cursing which I know by God's grace will not be made manifest in my life. He doesn't know how I feed, how I clothe myself infact nothing! Sometimes, I wonder why he still tortures me, it's like he is frustrating all of my effort to be happy and become great and I am not a reckless person, everything I do is always to honor his name since I still bear his name as my surname. It feels bad that sometimes I just stay up and cry.


Presently, I feel the need to save up to get an apartment. My mum have being talking about her decision to leave but the cash is not forthcoming since business is shaky and my savings is dedicated to school fees of over a 100 thousand yearly I honestly do not know how to go about it but I know that I just need to leave in order to experience peace of mind even if my mum changes her mind on her usual philosophy.

The whole experience is affecting me psychologically. I get scared easily, forgetful, always lost in thoughts... Its worse when I hear or read of domestic violence, it is always like my heart is beating faster than normal and my head begins to ache.


Stella, it is a very bad situation to live in. I will never pray such for myself nor enemies. Domestic violence is real and it kills slowly.

I fear for myself especially my mum! Please,I need all the help that I can get!




103 comments:

Anonymous said...

space taken with my big bumbum. coming back to comment.

Doppelgänger said...

You don't need advise, what you need is help but are you sure your mum is willing to leave your dad? Are you the only child from the union? Why is a child saddled with this kind of responsibility though? All the best.

Becky Divine said...

Say NO to Domestic Violence!!

My dear, your mom should leave already. There's no excuse for her to still be in that house till now... She needs to leave asap.

Oh well.. I pray you get all the help she needs! It's well

Loveme Jeje said...

hmmmmmmmm na wa. Please you and your mum should go and rent a room and a parlour somewhere your money can afford.

Your father really needs spiritual flogging. Na this kind father, children witches supposed take am to their shrine and roast him alive.

Your mum will soon die, let her be there and be doing i am a MRS.

sorry nne. help your mum, if you cant get a room and a parlour, go and get a one room face me i slap you.

Tilly said...

How can a man be this wicked? He is sowing a seed and will expect to reap positively when he is old. Your mum has endured fir tok long. No one should suffer like that even for the children. What good is she if she dies feom constant beating?
Soon when he is old,he will need someone to come and take care of him. Take heart. Make plans to move. God will provide the means. Keep being positive

Chidinma Gift said...

Chai wish I could be of help to you, but as it stands i can't(for now) but don't worry will put you in my prayers.

STARRY LARRY said...

You and youe mum should go and get an apartment PERIOD




*Larry was here*

Uchechi Jane said...

Odi kwa egwu. God help us.

Licia Nuella said...

To bad

GORRETI BAE said...

Oh my!! I can feel your pain. Having to be in the middle while two parents fight is an experience I won't wish an enemy.. Me I don't have money I would have helped u move. The Lord is your strength 🙏🙏

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Oh I see where the chronicles is going ...... Sideeyes@angelray
In which way can I epp?

I-cee Rachel said...

Poster you will get through this, but first you and your mum need to leave that toxic environment. God is your strength.

white Berry said...

God is ur helper, just talk to him in prayers, he will hear you out and also change ur dad into a better person.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmmm.silence is so bad that one can even die,i fear for you and your lovely mum.
I will advise for your mum and you to leave,i bet your mum have her own family too
She should go to her father's house or get an apartment so that you two can live in peace before it will affect you in future.i don't know what next your father might do to your mum when you're not around to defend her..seek refuse elsewhere and I pray God keep you and your mum safe.



Missylynn

Anonymous said...

In other words, bvs should raise money so your mom can get out of the house?

queen hadassah said...

Poster I wish u can drop your father's phone number or have someone send him the link to this post. Let him know that BVs see him as a sick man that should be locked up in jail, where men would beat and rape him on a daily basis.

Blackberry said...

Na wa o! Can't you guys report him to any DV centre?

deola said...

O dear!! My heart is wit u...u should surround urslf wit friends. I mean gud frnds who u can trust.. Fun loving people.. So dey will help u see d fun part of life...

Justina Michael said...

Hmmmmm, why are some men so wicked?

Robyna Fenty said...

Are you looking for financial help or what? Cos you already know that being in that environment isn't healthy. No sensible man will say he won't marry a girl he loves cos her mother left a man that was beating her. Alot of couples that divorce today have parents that are still married so I don't get the stigma that follows kids from broken homes. You are already an adult so she can't say she is still staying with him for your sake. Also he doesn't help you financially so why are you both enduring the physical and emotional torture? Watch the news and see how DV cases are ending up fatal.

Anonymous said...

Poor little innocent soul caught up in a terrible marriage!! It is well with u little one . Drop ur email in the comments section pls

Anonymous said...

Please try your best to leave that house and take your mum away from that demonic man it ll only get worse and the torture ll not reduce. Please the lord will be your strength and grants you wisdom. You are an adult already and u know wats going on u ll know how to defend ur mum if any loud mouthed person talks about the separation. We all have one life to live, you and ur mum deserve to be free and happy. I pray God turns her business around so u guys can get an accommodation fast.

Zoe said...

Ggg

sandy banks said...

Be strong for your mother,don't let your dad's insult get to you.Learn to develop a tough skin. Your mum will survive.Ensure to graduate with a good grade so u can get a good job inorder to take your mum away from that toxic environment.GOD IS WITH YOU

teetee said...

Madam tk heart.since your mom has decided to die in dat house, pls u deserve a shot @ life. Pls leave dat house or else one day as young as u r u'l hav HBP n stroke. Bt all in all i lways pray to God for patience bt not dis kind of ur mother's. I reject her version of patience. Amen

Anonymous said...

What do you worship girl? If The Lord Jesus, fast and pray for your dad; he is under a "manipulation". No sane man pounds his wife and only child the way you mentioned. And your mom should join you but if she is able to leave the house for now, that'd be good. Both of you should form the prayer squad. This spell will come off your dad's being.

Blog Member Ibukunoluwa said...

Dv scares the shit outta me!!!!!
I never want a man who will even drag my cloth cos he's angry
God help me o

Anonymous said...

@poster,i also watched my mum go through all sorts of abuses except the beating aspect from my dad and trust me it affected me psychologically. mine is even a polygamous home and is really affecting my thinking and actions towards my husband. i dont know what real love means, i doubt my love for dh i think i just marry him coz i was already 29th and didnt want to clock 30yrs in my father's house to avoid mocking from my step sibblings or d other wife. i need help of a good counselor's contact bvs help me with this, my husband loves i and my kids but i'm stiff i dont know how to treat my hubby right. i am always defensive infact my heart is hardenend towards men due to my dad's ill treatment towards mum. stella i sent you my chronicle but you refuse to acknowlwdge or post it, d reason for that is best known to you. bvs pls drop contact or suggest a good marriage counsellor for me.

Giselle Lawrence said...

I read your post in tears, I have just this to tell you. "The Lord is your strength and very soon, you and your mum will smile again"

peace maker said...

Good to know

doris metuh said...

Sorry to hear that dear. I guess you are seeking for financial help through stella's blog. Hmm my dear, feeling sorry and pitiful will never help matters. Dont you have relative? Even if you pay school fees yourself its no big deal. I paid my school fees in school all through my years in school becasue i was working and going to school full time with no help from any man or woman. I still gather myself up without feeling sorry for myself but accepting it as a challenge. I feel for you but no matter how someone help you people finacially it will never help till you and your mum stand up and take a stand by managing what you have or even relocate to your place of birth (i mean your state of origin mum). I guess you are still in school and you dont know your right for allowing your dad to hit your mum. Hmnnm i pray this story is not real the way its been written here not in this BUHARI's era. Takecare dear, it is well

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Kelly_Shuga said...

Sis this is a very terrible situation to grow up in. I don't know which state you are in, but please look for a women's NGO and run as fast as you can, you and your mum. You have to try by all means to get mummy out of that situation since she's in it for you...only the living can testify...I join you in prayers, from your lips to God's ears...Amen

CherryCee said...

This is sad.
There is an organization that deals with cases like this. BVS will help with that.
You dad needs to be locked up..,the keys thrown into the deepest of the deepest ocean!

Anonymous said...

Only cowards hit women; Only weaklings abuse their wives:

But One thing you will not tell us is how your mom uses her mouth when she has a misunderstanding with your dad. Tell her to bridle her tongue if that is her problem like most women. If he continues to beat her, she should leave and both of you should stay in even a room which is far better than a "house on fire".

Anonymous said...

IF U LOVE YOUR MOTHER, YOUR SANITY AND YOUR LIFE, THEN FOR GOD'S SAKE, LEAVE THAT HOUSE WITH YOUR MOTHER. YOUR MUM TALKS ABOUT YOUR WEDDING BUT WHO TELLS YOU SHE WILL STAY ALIVE TO SEE DAT DAY, NOT WITH THE KIND OF ABUSE YOU HAVE DESCRIBED. YOU SAY THE LITTLE MONEY YOU HAVE ARE MEANT FOR YOUR FEES BUT WITH THE SITUATION ON GROUND, HYPERTENSION MAY KILL YOU BEFORE YOU GRADUATE.SWEETHEART, YOU HAVE THE MEANS, NO MATTER HOW LITTLE. MAKE A MOVE, EVERY OTHER THING WILL FALL IN PLACE..., BUT YOU HAVE TO MOVE FIRST.

Anonymous said...

Where is the chronicle here please? You want what advice?

HAMPERS IN PH 08071503818 said...

What a sad environment to grow up in
All this our African mentality has to stop oh, imagine 20+ years of torture and physical abuse and she has no choice than to remain there.
Dear poster, you are a strong woman... i only hope you dont have alot bottled up that will affect you when you want to build a relationship.
Please make it clear to your mum that you appreciate her points but you want her alive to carry your kids.
God ll provide and you ll both move out for him to have space...
I pray to have to sow in your life

Candid naija now hampers in ph.

Cindy Babs said...

Poster is it when your mum dies that she will leave that hellhole. My advice for her is to file for divorce in a law court to dissolve that marriage or better still go the nearest FIDA office closest to you and make a complaint. They would take it up from there. DV is real,women walk away as soon as it starts. When you die,those children you don't want to leave will then suffer in the hands of another woman and then the children have no where to run to.

charitybino said...

It is well. Abeg you people should get an apartment as soon as you are done paying your fees.

IFEANYI NWA NSUKKA said...

Hmmmm bad!bad!bad! The lord will c u through.Dont worry help is here already

Bold Marehi said...

It is well with you. I pray your helper locates you and at the end of this phase of your life it will be a glorious story to tell.You will be successful and your attitude towards him will change. Amen.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...this reminds mi of something too ..take heart ..his on d throne . nothing happens without a reason...n he knows d amount of hair on our head ..only him can know DAT!

For a time now, i av fallen out with God bcos of sin but guess wot, last nite as I slept, d evil ones came for mi, mehhnn..i twas tough! I usually scream jesus! N dey all vanish but last nite I struggled like never b4. Its like God was tranna tell mi 'its not by my might'

I was later rescued.. He opened my eyes n I saw my rosary hanging on ma neck, shining ! Funny thing is in reality , my rosaery was in ma bag!

Why this story ? D point is DAT HE still got his eyes on you despite everything ! Take care of you n mumsy! Continue holding on tight!

Its b4 d morning .

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...this reminds mi of something too ..take heart ..his on d throne . nothing happens without a reason...n he knows d amount of hair on our head ..only him can know DAT!

For a time now, i av fallen out with God bcos of sin but guess wot, last nite as I slept, d evil ones came for mi, mehhnn..i twas tough! I usually scream jesus! N dey all vanish but last nite I struggled like never b4. Its like God was tranna tell mi 'its not by my might'

I was later rescued.. He opened my eyes n I saw my rosary hanging on ma neck, shining ! Funny thing is in reality , my rosaery was in ma bag!

Why this story ? D point is DAT HE still got his eyes on you despite everything ! Take care of you n mumsy! Continue holding on tight!

Its b4 d morning .

bukola fagbemiro said...

This is serious, may God lead you right cause am short of words.

Madam Small Chops said...

Dear Poster, the only option you have now is being strong.At least for the sake of your sanity and your mum.

The devil has carried a chair to sit at the centre of your dads heart.I dont know why a man will bring out another mans daughter from her fathers house to be this wicked to her and also to his own daughter.

There is a place for prayer here for God to change his heart of stone and give him a heart of flesh.

Your mum is not ready to leave him but you can report to her own family or arrange visits for her to her siblings so that she spends less time with your dad.

The worst kind of hurt is the one that comes from family.. Its Well

Anonymous said...

don't be silly. They are talking about life and pains here.

lastborn said...

Truth is,unless ur mother is ready to leave/seek help,nothing changes. the only thing is to be strong for her,pray,and make sure u do no derail frm ur studies. Lastly do not leave her in dat house alone and move out without her. Ur father day of reckoning will come. Jst stay strong and be focused.

Adanne said...

Let her report to a DV centre.
Go back to her parent's house or rent a room for now.
Good luck lady

Anonymous said...

Of course, financial help would be beneficial.

Anonymous said...

Babe Na lie, You and your mother is in a house they are beating and breaking her teeth? I hear you, she get business and she cant feed you, she cant pay your fees and you dad is not helping either, did she date another man? Cos I don't believe you father is just that mad to beat you mum for no reason. Since she has decided to stay put so does she run her mouth when your dad is angry? Cos even a fish will not be caught if it doesn't open its mouth. Are you an only child? How committed are you to God? And in you local church? Cos this place should be the last resort to beg. No friend no cousin are you living in foreign land. No vex I wan understand.

Anonymous said...

When I hear or read stories lyk dis, I go down on ma knees n thank God 4 ma lyf n dat of ma family. Some people r so unfortunate 2 find demselves in such situation. Ma God help n strengthen dem, give dem d courage 2 walk away n do gud wit their lives. Its well wit ur soul poster. #diamondindhouse#

Anonymous said...

I just hope this is not a well articulated scam like that other lady that said a man wanted to give her $30000 for a night n she refused.

Sista Jane said...

And your mother has been enduring this pain and trauma since u were a child? Even up till now that u are 22? Really? All the beatings? Throwing her out naked? And ur dad telling fam members forming victim? Not paying your school fees? And all....... Why is she making life difficult for herself. Get it str8 now, she is not staying because of you she staying bcos of a reason only known to her. Cos if she had died in d process of d beatings, u wld still have lived. Probably grow up in d arms of another woman.
How can sum1's child endure such pain nd trauma from anoda person's child. She does not like herself @all. Guess d beating is part of her. You growing up in a broken home is better than this situation u grew up wif with both your parents 2geda. Cos dis ur own is not broken home, but destroyed home. She should have moved since. Even if its to even stand up to him one day and fight him. Fight him with everything. Its not good to be too weak as a woman. Not good @ all.
Sum1 like your dad is not a normal human being, he should be caged with animals like him. How can sum1 be so wicked.
The best thing is to leave that house. You guys can meet up few fam/frnds to help you with money to secure accomodation. Even if its a room apartment. Then from there you can think about how to move further.
Sum1 like your dad should be reported to d police not family members. His case is not what family members can handle. They dont have any punishment for him. Only d law has. He is so wicked.
May God send helpers to u nd ur mum to start afresh. And may God give u ur own husband. And may u never experience such. Your dad is evil. Only God can forgive him.

Miss Juliet said...

Please what is this poster saying?
Your Mum can't leave so when u want to get married dey won't say what? Rubbish talk..life has no duplicate,u guys should stay there he kills u both! Nonsense

doris metuh said...

Hmmm really me too i wonder if this story is real because it all sound so weird. I guess she is seeking for financial help from stella or fellow BV. I pray God see her through and open her eyes to see and do the right thing for herself and her mum, instead of looking for sympathy. God will see her through and come down to help her before the father kills her mum then she will know its a reality.

Miss Juliet said...
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Anonymous said...

Arrange touts to give your dad the worst beatings of his life, they should break bone of one of his arms, let him feel pains like u and your mum have been feeling. make sure u sympathize with him, dont leave any traces of you. also never confront him on issues between him n your mum whilst your exit. peace!

Mrs bum bum

Dee said...

Hmmmm.... dear poster, I kept checking if I was the one that sent this in because you just sent in the story of my life. Exactly, only that I just graduated, while you are still in school and trust me I know what it is and how it feels. But just trust God, I am not made bt I am definitely in a better place and I'm taking my mom out of that house soon. Let the wailing wailer wail for all I care. I would rather have her alive.just hold on and be steadfast. The God that gave me comfort through those times will help u too. Just hold on......you'll see. God never sleeps dear *sends you e-hugs*

Anonymous said...

Rev. Funke Adetuberu, you need counselling try to call her number : 0802 324 2389

Anonymous said...

it will affect her just the way its affecting me right now. unless she seek professional help fast.

Anonymous said...

Isi gini? Are you ok?

benjamin simons said...

Its sad reading this..wish I could help..Always remember that sorrows never last joy comes in the morning just keep the hustle on..be strong and I'll always remember u in my prayers.

Vivilicious said...

Poster are you sure that man is really your father????

Miss Juliet said...

He beats u and doesn't give u money or provide fr u.so wat d fuck are u staying for? If he beats u nd provides for u we could ve said u are staying for d money.but u are just staying for stupidity..is it not better to die of hunger dan to die in a man's hand? Am not in a position to say u came to ask for money but ds post doesn't make sense at all..your mum has just one child nd she's still there when ppl dat ve 5 children run for their lives d moment ds kin tin starts.. Be there nd keep sending in stories

Anonymous said...

Honey your mother already made her decision to stay in an abusive marriage. I fear for you instead. You really need counselling cause this might kinda affect your union with anyone of the opposite sex. You are damaged pyscologically.

JAA said...

@ Doris Metuh. Why are you asking whether the poster doesnt have relatives? Did she sound dull, retarded, slow or stupid in her write up? If she had relatives that could help her she won't wait for you to remind her. That you actually worked and paid your fee doesn't mean that everyone in your situation should do same and not seek help, especially with this unique circumstance of domestic violence. Pls, if you can't help don't be asking such questions.

It is sad when people allow the hardship they went through to make them insensitive, hiding behind the 'I did it so you can too' cliche.

Stella maris Baby said...

@ poster what of your mother's relative,and their opinion about the whole issue.
Not understanding oooo..

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Please leave the devil out of this. Everything we attribute to manipulation. No 'sane' man you said. That man is insane. Can be a mental problem.he gets satisfaction from physically and mentally abusing people he is supposed to protect.
What can I say? Another reason to understand why anonymouses always troll my comment with bitterness. Poster If you need funds to rent house for you and your mum, speak up and send your account number to IHN tmr let's contribute what we can for you. Of course, with proof. Shikena.

P.S: I just fell in love with my dad allover again ❤

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Jesus

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

That's the marriage counsellor I suggest

Anonymous said...

Yes, such people are mental cases. They are sick. They get there kicks from abusing those they "love". Just pray that you or your loved ones never jam an abusive man. They don't need to be talked back to. For example, if he walks in the house and there is a cup on the floor he only needs to ask who kept it there. The next thing is curse, slap, punch, kick... Even if u walk on egg shell u are never sure what will trigger the next beating.



Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

If you are truly a christian you won't start by judging her story. Did you even read it? And youre now making blank accusations. You now end it by insinuating she gets committed to a local church. Are you committed to a local church? You don't sound like someone who is. And people like you are the reason why people don't speak up about family issues even in church.*hiss

Anonymous said...

Borrow some sense!

Nwakibabe said...

This chronicle reminds me of a lot of things that have happened. Thank you Lord for strength

Anonymous said...

Leave matter! No be everything be prayer, who tell you say she no dey pray? Is it her job to use prayer change her father? Abeg commot for road.

TRIUMPHANT ZION said...

You need to go for deliverance or for prayer boost. What you are experiencing now is the beginning of a big war against your destiny,but it can be averted if you start praying real hard.from your write up,you are a catholic,join charismatic if you don't know how to pray or declare at least one day fast for yourself once every week with serious warfare prayer against foundational powers. Not just praying with your chaplet but serious warfare prayers. I repeat do not ignore this. You will be great but you will need to pray yourself out.
Start now!!!!!! God bless u.

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Anonymous said...

My dad was worst and yes my mum endured, and now, when I ask Her, she said it was because of we Her children.
And I told her to thank her God she didn't die, cos we would have still suffered. That the best thing was to leave.
But in all, I give God all thanks that what lasted for 20year did come to an end.
And mum is really enjoying now, yes because she was their for us although.
She gets all the cloths, money,love, attention, care birthday cakes, name it.
God please bless me with a Good, loving and caring man. cos we suffered in the hands of my dad. Poster don't worry everything that has a beginning has an end. please move your mum from that house before she dye's. my mum and us have got so much physical and internal scares. may God come to ur aid. Amen

Monkeynofine said...

Lol u read my mind also.....After reading half way I have to check again to see if was reading "the chronicles" or where u think it was going😃😃😃 ure right anyway.


If ur mum can endure all this right from day 1 why is it now did she decided to move out?

Anonymous said...

You will surely get a husband if your mum leaves your dad. My dad left when I was 8years, and my siblings and I...4 girls all got married. It is a lie that people will say because your mum left you will also leave your matrimonial home. Things have changed and will continue to change. People don't really think that way anymore, and I wish you all the best.

Uju of the sky people. said...

I feel your pain girl. Reminds me of 2 scenarios: 1. My friend then, her boyfriend would beat the living daylights out of her and she'd still stay. Beg her up beg her down to leave him. For where? 2. My older sister. The bastard started beating her while they were even still dating. Beat her in church, bus stop, park car and beat her, take her out and beat her from restaurant to home. Even had the guts to come beat her in our house when my parents travelled. But she kept making excuses for him and even married him against my parents wishes. Now she just stays away and doesn't tell us anything. Nobody can visit her otherwise more beating. It has definitely made me a young bitter woman and i'm very wary of men.

Hadey Halaba said...

Seems like u took the words outta my mouth.
Toor, as in nobody to talk to ehn? No mums family members to rescue their daughter? No religious body to come to your aid?
Then u finished OND and then u r in year 3 in d university when u stated u wanted to go for HND !!!

we all know DV is bad but something is fishy about ur story.
Its not a chronicle but a "super story"
All I can say is IT WILL END IN PRAISE and when it does, pls share the testimony.

I AM THE ANALYSER

Anonymous said...

GBAM!!! Thank you anon & Chikito.

Anonymous said...

Amen

Anonymous said...

If u check very well this anonymous 15:25 is a male. Them think say woman calling na to come endure their shit for inside this life. What nonsense!!! Insanity is you applying same action but expecting a different result. Now the mom must have prayed the entire years she's stayed in that situation. Have u asked yourself what gains she's had? What if she had taken the bold step after enduring just after one year(at an earlier stage) by now she probably would be fulfilled much more in fact way beyond where she still is. Life is too precious to spend it fixing an adult who's determined to ruin everything in his path. Just leave him. Can two walk together unless they agree?

Marjorie

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Mosi Jubelo said...

I don't know what to say


Mumsy has to leave, you also have to leave. God knows I can't tolerate DV, I have zero tolerance for it. Jeez!

Anonymous gangster. said...

Hmmmm. Una kill d old man Abi? Hmmmm

Anonymous gangster. said...

Hmmmm. Una kill d old man Abi? Hmmmm

Amacastel said...

Poster ur safety & dt of ur mum is more impt than that ur education, if u have money pls postpone ur education use dt money get a house work for another yr raise money for ur education trust me if u & ur mum leave dt useless father of urs her bizness will turn around cos peace of mind brings in success. Things will change if you & ur mum leave dt devilish house. Pls you have to be strong u are not the 1st person to have a terrible dad . I had 1 & dts what I did me & my 4siblings pack out of the house for him & when he couldn't pay for our old rent he left for village marry another woman dt he beats like hell sotey the 2nd wife went deaf out of his numerous beating she ran out of the house when she lost her only child with my dad my dad left the village to Abuja working as a driver in 1 sch he is being payed salary he eats his money alone while me,& my mum train my remaining 3 sisters 1 in d poly 2 in d university. So be strong. U are not the only 1 in dis fatherly mess.

Starjoy said...

Your father is the devil himself i think it's best for you and mum to move out.

Anonymous said...

MOTHERS WHEN YOU STAY YOU AFFECT THIS CHILDREN NEGATIVELY. STOP IT. STOP USING THEM AS AN EXCUSE. STOP IT NIGERIAN MOTHERS.
Seek help and leave for your children. A sane and happy single parent is BETTER than a dysfunctional two parent home. This man is a beast and not a man. He is a coward who needs to be left in the wild to stay with his kind. God does not and will never push you away for divorcing your evil spouse. Marriage will not give you access to Heaven. Do not listen to these devilish advisers who say a divorced woman (watch how they never say man) will go to hell. God is not Nigerian and He does not operate as foolishly as we do. LEAVE. DRAG YOUR MAMA AND LEAVE. Provision will come, if he makes one move..he can end her life.

Anonymous said...

My own father did not hit my mom but he abuses her psychologically, and whenever an issue arise. This man will cry like a baby in front of family members and tell lies against my mom. My mom is a very intelligent business woman so she left him, let me add that he didn't really contribute to our upbringing or pay any school fees from primary school to university. But his day of reckoning has begun from 2015, he now remembers he has a family after seeing how successful his children are.

Anonymous said...

I can imagine how you feel, although I am unmarried, I feel exactly like you wrote

Anonymous said...

U and ur mum should leave before he kills u both.

diamond said...

U and ur mum should leave before he kills u both.

Flutter said...

I just shudder to think of what trauma this lady is going through. I thank my mum everyday for saving me from such a life long experience. People will talk no matter what decisions you make. Imagine if the lady had died while trying to save her mom. What reason will she have for staying in the marriage then.
I have a close friend in her shoes. She ll rather stay in school, or visit the home of her friends rather than go to her house for holidays. It takes enormous strength for a mother to leave a marriage and take care of her kids alone. Until people stop having condescending attitudes towards women who take the stand to protect themselves and their kids. More women will stay in such abusive homes and keep mute.
It's been years, but I can never forget carrying a stick to hit my dad if he continued hitting my mum. I can still remember their shocked expressions...me so short and little with a long 2 by 2 stick which I found in one of the uncompleted rooms in the house.. lool I was 11/12 and their little princess who knew nothing of the world. Mum collected the stick from me, and sat down to cry while my dad walked out.
May God continually be her strength and fortitude since she doesn't want to leave. I pray you find favour in the eyes of God and man.

Anonymous said...

What about u want to leave and the man refuse giving your kids??? Reasons y most women stay is because they don't want another woman to take care of their kids

Anonymous said...

Why are some saying this story is untrue. Even from the comments some are attesting to the fact that some fathers are like this. If someone did OND,I don't see a reason why the person should start from year one again.The person will freaking start from 200 level for that Anon asking silly questions.If you cannot help the poster don't discourage those who can. I thank God for the kind of father I have, we didn't have much but he gave the little he had with joy and love.
May we never find ourselves in an abusive marriage.

Poster, I pray you get the necessary help you need. God bless you.

Anonymous said...

I can't even imagine a man insulting my mother not to talk of beating. This is the very reason why I would not beat up a lady. God pls keep helping me.

Anonymous said...

Because most of them are sociopaths and psychopaths. They were born without a crucial part of their brain that empathises with fellow human emotions. They are usually manipulative and very wicked , hence they are grouped into "anti-social personality disorder" in psychology. Sadly, there's no treatment for this type of people. The best her mom can do is to move away from that monster.

AmakaG said...

Because most of them are sociopaths and psychopaths. They were born without a crucial part of their brain that empathises with fellow human emotions. They are usually manipulative and very wicked , hence they are grouped into "anti-social personality disorder" in psychology. Sadly, there's no treatment for this type of people. The best her mom can do is to move away from that monster.

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