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Saturday, November 19, 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

JESUS IS LORD!



STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.
A MARRIAGE THAT ENDED ON THE WEDDING NIGHT


This is going to be a long chronicle but please bear with me, I will make it as short as possible.

I sent my WNB that my marriage ended on the wedding night.

 here goes the main gist

I met my ex, Mr. Cee (to identify him ) through his cousin let's call him mr. F. I was in a friend's birthday get together when Mr f came around and sat close to me, my first day of seeing him. We started gisting with other guests, after the party he told me he likes me a lot that I am very calm, respectful and I laugh a lot (truthful observation) .

I said thanks and jokingly said he wants me to be part of their family and that his cousin would like me because himself is married BT we just laughed it off. 


Days later the celebrant called me that Mr. F called to ask for my number, I was sceptical BT the celebrant guaranteed me that Mr. F is a long time friend and a very nice man though the cousin he has not met but has heard about him. So my number was given(i was single) and Mr. F called me, after plenty talk, he said Mr. Cee will come to our state to see me (me and Mr. F live in same state BT Mr Cee lives in a nearby state) . 


One Friday morning my phone rang and one of the sweetest voice I have ever heard with a british accent introduced himself as Mr. Cee and said he's in town now and somewhere close to my house with Mr. F if I could come see them. I went there lol and behold, Mr Cee looked as good as his voice. 


We spoke and right there his father called him to ask if he has seen me, he said yes, na so would be father in law say make dem gimme phone, I talked to him, he sounded excited and wanted to see me.

Fast forward, me and Mr. Cee started talking , Mr. F calls me often to know how far we were going and if everything was perfect. Two weeks later, father in law called to see me, after much excuses which he won't take, Mr Cee came over to pick me to see his dad, the old Man was happy to see me (he's divorced) after much gisting Mr. Cee proposed right there and then, I said yes because I was already liking him, he was gentle, and was acting responsible, he wasn't rich BT he wasn't poor either. After then they started talking marriage this na one month gist oh. 

I said no and delayed for another three months before I finally agreed for introduction and wedding date was fixed for four months time. Simply because he was in another state, we weren't seeing often cos my parents believe not until after marriage you can't be going to stay with a guy, they will say intro no be marriage. So we were always talking on the phone, I visited him few times before the wedding but he was always coming to see me. 

Shortly before wedding I was no longer feeling right about the whole plan, i felt i was being rushed but my parents will not hear of it, they had told everybody their daughter was getting married and I can't disgrace dem. I allowed. 


At this point till my wedding day i can swear Mr. Cee had the best behavior, he would call me first thing in the morning and last thing before he goes to bed telling me what he did for d day and where he went, never got angry with me, he treated me like a queen even when I went to his house, he won't allow me pick a pin. I never cooked for him because he does the cooking,he says cooking before wedding is meant for men, cooking as a women is meant for wives not girlfriends, he can't be suffering another man 's child as a girlfriend, prayed with me, encouraged me to always go to church and also tell me all the sweet nonsense girls like to hear. 

After wedding, a week later little argument , Mr. Cee descended on me and beat me blue and black, injuries and blood everywhere, it took intervention of neighbours to hold him. 

That was when I realized I was in a big mess.

 he apologised,drove me to the hospital for treatment then I started getting the shocking revelations. Mr. Cee takes all the hard drugs you can ever think of, and drinks any kind of alcohol which he knows I detest (I never knew). He became violent, I was not allowed to leave the house if he wasn't going with me, if I had to answer calls and he's there it has to be on speaker claiming he doesn't want anybody advising his wife wrongly. 

I started walking on egg shell in my matrimonial home because any little mistake, he will become violent either physically or verbally. I became a mumu so as to avoid wahala. Its as bad as him telling me when to go to bed.

 he refers to me as "hey you". 

One day I called him and asked him why he married me, he told me he never loved me, women means nothing to him but the pressure from his family was getting too much so he told them to look for a wife for him, whoever they find he will accept that he just needs kids after which I can go if I want to go, he told me all the times he kept quiet and played cool before the wedding, he was actually pretending and laughing at me for believing all the lies and that i could ask his family, if they are truthful they will tel me. 


I couldn't believe my ears.

 He would insult me and my family at the slightest provocation and tell me even if I leave him, am already second hand and no man will marry me. I called his family they will beg and tell me he's been like that but thought he would change after marriage and we should all pray for him, I couldn't tell my family yet because I was ashamed and I also wanted to gather enough evidence to show when I finally come out . 

I started to snoop, looking for evidence and I found out he was gay. 

OMG. 

I don die, no wonder he keeps his friends away, they never come home or come anywhere I might be. On top all these his only sister will be controlling me and him upandan, whatever she says stands. I decided I have to leave before he kills me. 

A good day when he went out, I parked stuffs and I ran away into hiding. Mr. F called me and I told him I can't cope anymore. Then the wahala started, Mr. Cee said I am his wife he won't let me go, I said no wahala, with all my evidence I got, I contacted a rugged lawyer, after the lawyer heard my case, he told me not to worry. 

When Mr, Cee saw all the accusations in the divorce letter, and the evidences against him I had, he started to beg, he loves me, the devil pushed him and his sister told him to ensure he subdued me by force because she feels if I have freedom, I will control him, that's why he did all that, that he got wrong advises the same person that didn't call me when I left his house oh. I said it's over I can't cope. When he saw that water had passed garri he let me be, he refused coming to court oh, reasons best known to him . Na so judge take grant me divorce after all the adjournment and he refused to show up. 

I left the marriage barely one month after it was contracted. My only happy moment as a married girl was my wedding night. My family stood by me all through. My story is like a movie, even me that it happened to is finding it hard to believe, I was broken, I was shattered, I cried and still crying thinking about the divorcee title I now have at this young age, i felt like dying But i still trusted God believing He had a reason why it all happened because I know something is wrong with him spiritually because even though i am not trying to praise myself I can confidently say that I am a very quiet and peaceful girl, I never insulted him, even when he hit me I plead and scream for help, I never raised my hand against him, so his reactions were not provoked.

 I may not be a princess but I still fine, slim, flat tummy, tall, and in my 20's.

 When Mr. F asked him what was his problem, if there was something I was doing that offended him, he said nothing, it was manipulation. I have forgiven him, I have forgiven Mr. F but I have not forgotten, I can't even forget because I am now a DIVORCEE.

I am still very single but I know love will find me soon, a man that will reciprocate my love and respect.

I introduced him to this blog and I hope he still visits here so he can read his story. Attached is my pic as a fine girl that I IS nau and the pics of the injury I still have on my phone, this particular one was less than a week of the wedding, for your eyes only please. 

I am putting this here for people to see how wicked some men are not for any  advice of me giving it a second chance, watch war room or drink coconut oil (lol)because I am already divorced, my life is very precious to me. hailings to queen and boss, ideato , chi exotic, doppelganger, I love your comments.

Stella boo, my village near your own so I be your sis, isoko wadooo. lol


Oniovo,i read your story like five times before posting..my mouth is still hanging loose..dunno what to say!.
Thank you for sharing your story babe!




156 comments:

  1. Moral of the story.MeN pretend as much as women.her man was a saint.she married him.He turned to Satan.posted I thank God for you

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    1. All this arranged marriages sef, God help us, same thing happened to my friend, dude was gay. Babe in d end u ll be alright, I married a fresh dude and I was divorced with a kid.

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    2. Poster na only you waka come oooo. Talk of all the evils in one package.

      Good thing you walked out alive. Don't worry, God has got your back!

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    3. Point of correction Trinity, men pretend way more than women,they can bottle things up and start punishing you 20years later.

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    4. Poster I admire your courage.Your life and sanity is paramount. I pray love finds you.

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    5. Whaoh! I'm just so shocked !
      I'm happy DAT u ddnt think of a second chance!
      Mrhnn we gals need to learn alot!

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    6. Poster, don't mind what he said to you. You are still very young, love will find you. You will marry a good man In Jesus Name AMEN

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    7. Honestly, this story shuts all those people up who believe there are signs. It takes the grace of God to choose the right partner. It is not how well you know them or how long courtship last. Some guys are really good at pretending,,,,i blame the family of the boy, In fact as I was reading, I was so furious. This is how people bring innocent girls to marry men wiv mental health issues. See as the father and cousin put clay on your eyes,, you were feeling accepted by all, u no no say na scam!!!! Pele

      You're a very lucky girl!!!

      Sometimes, that gut feeling we overlook is God talking to us to be weary!!!!

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    8. Please, I want to understand something. All these pretenders that act one way during courtship and act another after wedding, what do you expect your partner to do?! Stay?! and receive all the BS?! God forbid! I thank God for me and my siblings, its not enough to be book smart, you all have to be life smart! With the confidence of royalty.

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    9. So divorcee title. Is a stigma?na u sabi.im not even divorced and that title has brought so much men to me,i dey choose sef.they fall ontop each oda for me,buying things for me and my kids.do u owe anyone anything?stay der na.and for the silly haters im not divorced yes if e pain u oyaa fall down and die.

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    10. Is Mr F wicked or nah? His reward for your pain is coming to him as a Christmas gift.

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    11. Families eh!!!

      Fear families oh...
      They can hide secret like cat de hide shit, knowingly leading hapless ladies to their downfall. That's how my colleague was led to marry a guy with mental health issues.. Tufia

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    12. Seyi Etaje you are wise. Some men are good at pretending. Master manipulators.

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    13. Sterra Choi! Dis na chronicles of chronicles!

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    14. Poster, nothing to be ashamed of. Being divorced isn't a crime. Be thankful you are alive and well. Love will find you.

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  2. DV 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

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    1. Being a divorcee is way better than being dead, you did the right thing honey. I guess he was frustrated with the fact that they made him choose something he wasn't (married to a woman) so he took it all out on you. Oga why did listen to your parents when you knew you weren't going to make it work, it just shows you are a devil. @poster I am happy you moved on and to other single ladies learn to date longer, not saying you have to be lord of the ring but never rush into anything especially when you don't fully trust it, walk away.

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    2. Dating longer is not the issue. Men can pretend. The only time you will know the true colour of a man is after wedding and when he's very rich. Courting a guy for long will never make you to know his character if he doesn't want

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    1. Poster,we bless God on your behalf that you left before people will advise you to stay and pray,its not all things prayers can solve,some things you've to use the wisdom of Solomon.

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  4. Na wah oh!,,.
    I'm happy you left sharply!,,,
    Single girls should be careful with men that are rushing them for marriage!..
    I'm sure it's the same spirit that is controlling his father too...
    They are cursed mehn!...
    Poster,chill love will surely find you soon!..
    A perfect nigga!...

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    1. Queen u are right, dat family is cursed, am sure his father treated his mum same way, abeg move on jare,thank God u are not pregnant.

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    2. Poster is wise and acted promptly before the beast kills her

      You're a strong woman and another man that would worship and treat you right is coming.
      Ha some men are evil sha!

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    3. Queen you are Mia wht happened?

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    4. Nwanne you can't say better than this. Poster thank God for your life and your courage. Some girls will be like what will people say and die silently. Let him continue his gay life.

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    5. I gats to agree with urhobo chick here.

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    6. Queen, ur first intelligent comment. Who r u and why have u hacked Queen's phone?

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    7. That's how somebody will naw come and say everything is not ordinary she should have given him a second chance, yinmu

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  5. My darling.
    You are not less of a woman because you are divorced. You are not secondhand, neither are you incomplete. You are a princess because your Father is the King if Kings.

    I am so very sorry for all you went through. Sending you love and hugs.

    You will find love again. Real, never-ending, happily-ever-after kind of love. Nd this will only be a phase of your life that you will soon forget.

    May God strenghten you, and cause His face to shine upon you.

    It is well with you.❤❤❤❤

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  6. Being a divorcee is not a crime na Hian!
    I'm glad you got out alive

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  7. Na wa o.. See chronicles na. 🙌🙌

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    1. My happiness is that you didn't get pregnant cos you wld have been attached to him forever. If you really have a good attitude like you claim, getting remarried wont be a problem. I'm happy you found peace. Some women will stay in a marriage where they are being abused just cos they don't want tongues to wag or so they don't lose their Mrs title. Smh
      Arsenal nearly gave me a heartattack today. Still unbeaten since opening day tho. *phew *
      #coyg

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    2. Pamela me sef follow 🙌

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  8. Some men are very wicked...Jeez

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    1. As in ehn, some men have tin foil in place of hearts.

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  9. You will find another man jor!
    And u don't have to sound like a divorcee has no hope!
    Chin up!
    Shame on Mr. Cee, may ur arse be busted ruggedly! Take care of woman u no sabi! Oloriburuku 'baskard'

    Hopefully Mr F won't lure another babe into d den.

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    1. That's my fear. They will keep luring and enticing unsuspecting girls to doom. Let them leave the man alone to be his true sef.

      Betterstill, he should relocate to a country that supports his lifestyle.

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  10. I couldn't control the tears, it's shocking. I salute your courage for leaving the sham of a marriage,others would have stayed behind due to society side talks.God will provide you with a good man who treat you right and show you the good side of marriage.

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    1. I tell you, society side talks and mockery are the major reasons ladies in horrible abusive marriages stay put.

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    2. Society side talks and mockery is a big problem o.


      God knows I can never please society to displease myself. Never

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    3. Yeah including yeye side talks and derogatory terms like gwegwe used by some BVs.

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    4. Poster
      I must commend your swift action with documenting evidence to support your exit.
      You are smart and the fighter. Your self worth is rated very high. Who gives a damn what d world thinks or says? I know u will get that right man someday to value you as much as you deserve to be loved. *hugs*

      Marjorie

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  11. Hmmmmm what a sad story. Take some e hug my dear. Its well with you. You survive this and live to tell it. Thank God for life.

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  12. God Abeg help us oooo, me I have to do testing wella, I even provoke him to know if he will even make an attempt kam breakie his head gbawaa door to avoid stories that touch

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    1. Is tasting the problem here?
      What are you even saying? Please learn how to read and assimilate.
      Always talking off point

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    2. @ fan mu, I have noticed you oh,dont try me, if you think you have bad mouth I will show you mine is baddest, skip my comments when you see them, I dey talk wetin concern me

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    3. Hey, Fan Emmanuel make sense today. Beautiful.

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    4. Stella you post their insults but you don't post my reply..now I think you are taking it personal,when my fans troll me I have to give them a reply na

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    5. Let me tell you if the man wants to pretend there is no type of testing that will catch him out. Nobody could have tested a man more than I tested my ex. I was feeling smart. The guy was too nice, seemed too good to be true. So tested him wella and he remained unchanged. All his family and friends vouched that he's just a good guy like that. Till I married him and his true colours came out. All the vouchers disappeared. He gan told me korokoro that he was just pretending. I am divorced now, happier and wiser. Just know that finding the right guy is by the pure grace of God.

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  13. I already had my suspensions about him being gay,before I got to the point where you mentioned it.

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    1. No be only suspension, na timing chain

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    2. Hahahahahaha
      I swear both of you are mean fa
      Correct her na
      My belle oh.

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    3. Suspicious of him being gay..

      Y'all calm down it could be auto correct on her phone.. Awon ominiknowest 😏😏😏

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    4. Kwakwakwakwakwakwa @Expulsion nko? BVs been entertaining me since 1900.

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    5. Suspections, suspension, suspect all na English. All you riff raffs low lifes, who your English help?

      Still in low level since you guys were born.

      Poster I love u too. Been so busy. Attended Bobriskky's brother's wedding. Still dere

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    6. Ehi darling, it's suspicions not suspension.

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    7. Una sef! Ofcourse a typo...

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  14. This is so sad. Always trust God he will give a better spouse and learn to take little things to God in prayer.Your fine bobo wey God prepare is coming.

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  15. *One chance Marriage*
    N speed lane...... Risk it all & jump out not minding the bruises you might sustain.
    *Destination, 6feet*.... No traffic stop!!!

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  16. @poster you did well o jare
    You cannot come and die on top marriage

    At times I fear marriage sef

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    1. Poster is brave. She took the bull by the horns.

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  17. Oh wow! All this happened in a month. Thank God you walked. But his family members ar meanies. They knew all these and still arranged wife for him. Is it by force to marry? He's even homo ontop. Hian!
    Sisters abeg look before you jump. Not leap

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  18. congrat dear for leaving dat worthless marriage before he break ur two legs.dnt worry the lord will perfect ur life nd u will get ur groove back k.

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  19. "Hey you", lol. Whenever a girl starts delaying her wedding plans and later goes ahead with the wedding, it always turns out bad. Our instincts always warns us but we normally ignore it bc we want to please our parents. Thank God you left, another better man will come, you hear....

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    1. Exactly. Our instincts never deceive us but ourselves.

      I rejected two offers... the first one, his mom was totally against "us" and the second guy smokes weed,stay out late, drinks et al. I had to walk away. I will heal after the break up which I did.
      Our instincts is always right.

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  20. You are lucky you have no child for him. Me I have a child and the wedding ended before a month too.

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  21. You are a strong woman for leaving that hell called marriage very fast, some girls in your kinda situation will only come here to ask us what they should do and still end up staying in that sham.

    i hope you have done different STD tests especially HIV coz gays are prone to contacting HIV.

    make sure you are healed before starting another relationship.

    do only things that make you happy and don't listen to whatever people say concerning your DIVORCEE status coz i see you emphasizing on that word; it doesn't define who you are.

    Above all, don't forget God factor.

    regards to your mumcee.

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  22. Poster thank you for sharing, I hope all them war room watchers will read this and learn from it. A man will be pounding you like cassava and you won't leave. Did you see the man bring violent to his wife in the movie?
    That Mr F is not a good man, he knew the guy had issues and yet he went ahead to play matchmaker and even encouraged you to marry Mr Cee. Reminds of a time my ex was fooling around with one girl and I went to report him to his best friend. The best friend came around and spoke very harshly to him. In my mind I was happy, unknown to me the best friend was dating the girl's flatmate, he was even giving my ex tips on how to handle the babe. when I found I walked and left them to enjoy their orgy. The best friend saw me the other day at a wedding and became uncomfortable, as for me I have moved onto a better man. Someday I will send Stella, the full story so others can learn.

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    1. You will find a better man jare.

      Shoutout to all the 'yeye' ex that we have.

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    2. Yes ooo we wan learn

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  23. Thank you for sharing your experience and thank God you got out when you did else maybe na different story we for dey talk. Hopefully prople would realise marriage us not a do or die affair and prayer is key before settling down before person go marry devil

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  24. This story is touching, stay strong dear and believe God will do the best for you. all this domestic violence dancing up and down in marriage. it is well , na why I dey fear be dis.

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  25. Choii, even me wey be man. This one shock me oo

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  26. Jesus is Lord.

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  27. Speechless!
    Girlll... thank God for ur life! I'm glad u found the strength to flee. I don't even know what else to say. Choi!

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  28. Poster u are a very smart and strong girl. I admire your courage. Being divorced is not the end of the world. I know divorced women who remarried to even better men. Love will definitely find you. Take care of yourself.

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  29. wow...Thank you dear for taking that bold step, u took d wise step dearie, am still in shock, all these happened in juz one month. God, na ur hand I dey oo, no gimme the one wey big pass me

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  30. diamond in d house19 November 2016 at 15:50

    Wonders shall never cease. Dats d reason I advise young people to seek d face of God b4 marriage. Even if u v kwn d person 4 a long tym, still ask God 4 His will 2 be done. Marriage is not friendship. Its a spiritual journey so u need God's guidance b4 u embark on it.

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    1. Anon 16:19.
      May you receive divine intervention and mercy in JESUS name Amen.
      Parents please raise your children to fear and revere God in EVERYTHING cos as parents you will lay account of it.
      This heartbreaking comment shows the level of depravity in our society all in the name of feeling fly..
      I weep for this generation.

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    2. My dear God dey help ooo. If you truly seek his face in truth. He will speak to you.

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    3. Seeking God's face helps o.

      Seeking God's face saved me from a big mistake.

      Would av been a divorce now

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    4. You.Anon, you. God has helped you, He is helping you and He will continually help you. You are only able to write this comment because of His help.

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  31. Thank God you came out with your life.Don't worry love will find you.
    I want every single lady to know that most guys that barely know you but are in a hurry to marry you have something to hide.Anything that seems too good to be true is too goodto be true.Take it from a veteran in heartbreaks.lol

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    1. Hmmmmm it is well my sister. Still short courtship works for a few.

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  32. Am glad you took a bold step out of that situationship and not think of what the world 'll say about you abandoning your home for barely weeks of your engagement, na person wey wear shoe know weda e get as the shoe be inside.Always try to be strong, I love the fact that you 're not giving up on love and your self esteem is raise to power 100.take care of your self and pray for God's guidiance .

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  33. May peace reign in your life and may God direct your ways poster. Amen

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  34. The kinda woman beater, disrespectful in form of men we have nowadays eehhh, only Jesus can save!dr, dis guy will only push u to a beta man!

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  35. My dear first of all I congratulate you sincerely!!. For having enough self love to leave that so called 'marriage' aka bondage. You did not sit there crying and complaining and get pregnant hoping 'he will change after a baby '.

    I am proud of you as a woman. Please continue to believe in yourself and always believe you do not deserve to be treated badly.

    I pray you find a man who will value and cherish you BUT I encourage you to build yourself. I hope you have a job or business. If you do not, forget man for now and soldier on. It is so important for a woman to be empowered.

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  36. Asin this story got my mouth wide open jeez he pretended all dose time. Oga I hail u,my dear tank God u safe
    So young ladies like me please never rush into this thing called marriage yea it's a necessity in our tradition but biko look shine eyes double b4 joining that institution

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  37. Yea you did not ask for advice but my advice is to all young ladies out there (and you are still young; aren't you?). Do not rush into marriage no matter how nice and rich a guy is. Ladies got the shorter end of this stick called "marriage". Do you best to study the man and pray and have a conviction by yourself and not what a parent, friend or the man's friend told you. When you become a "divorcee" like in this case, your friend, the man's friend or parents don't become "divorcees".
    Most times, the albatross of most ladies is when what the see; riches and the "sweet nonsense" deceive them. You know they are "nonsense" yet you get swayed by them.

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  38. Thank God you are alive to share your story some people never come out alive from domestic violence

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  39. It is well with you

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  40. E-hugs dear, may God compensate you with a good man.

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  41. Wow!!..Poster, people get married after divorce all the time so keep your head up. If a friend's mum could get a man to marry her after 5 kids when he had none at all, know that true love will always find you😘

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  42. God have mercy
    Poster, it is well with you

    My friend got married to a man she met on Facebook a month later
    God, please let the marriage favour her
    I Hate sad stories
    It breaks me

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  43. Aren't yu even lucky that you don't have a child from him,cos he would v used it to deal with you so badly. Thank God for sparing your life. After them go say women own worse pass...

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  45. Am glad u took d right decision to leave,but babe one month is too small na person wey u no knw b4 and immediately his father don dey call you.
    Moral Lesson: All dat glitters is not Gold. Watch and pray

    @Tee_y

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  46. dear ladies, sometimes if its too good, it might not be true.

    always be on the look out, no perfect man anywhere, pay attention to details.

    there is always a sign, do not ignore.

    you are worth more than Gold or silver dont let good fuck/money cloud your sense of reasoning, or you might end up regretting your decision.

    don't be too desperate to become a mrs somebody.

    married women stop making excuses for a motherfucker, its better to be a living woman than being a dead wife.

    thank u

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  47. this story sends a cold chilling down my spine.. poster God is with u.. The best is yet to come

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  48. Hmmmnnn... There's so much to learn from your story, this is why I have always been an advocate for long time courtship.
    4months only and you don run enter him house. You should be happy that its only your cunt he ate excluding your anus as the gay that he is.
    Anyways, long or short time courtship na baba God dey see us through. Poster, forget about being a divorcee, package yourself well, enter town, you will come across Mr right soon enough and if you like rush off to the altar with the new man again in the name of "I'm lucky I found a man to settle down with me again"
    All the best.

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  49. Seems we have more gays in Nigeria than in other African Countries.....but they'll start screeming noooo na SA get gays pass.....rubbish, they're hiding their devilish acts.

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  50. You're very brave. Thank God you didn't fall for the lies he was telling after you filed for divorce. Men and wonders!

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  51. GOD DAMN IT, I AM SPEECHLESS AS WELL. HOWEVER THE FAST FAST PREPARATION SHOULD HAVE RUNG A BELL NA.. THE GUY'S PARENTS NO TRY. THANK GOD NO CHILD IN THE EQUATION....

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  52. A man's faith or belief doesn't stop him from being a wife beater.. Same way, my sis "born again" husband hit her a week into d marriage, babes pls give him all d test, get him angry, check how he manages his anger, find out if he is always hitting his sisters....

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  53. Wow you are a very strong woman.I am proud of u for thr fact that you ended that nightmare of a marriage on time.May God bring you your soulmate who will treat u like a queen till the end of your days.Next time do not trust so easily,take your time and select the best.

    Love U SDK!love to all BVs!

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  54. Dear girl, you will find that man who will love you for who you are. Being divorced is not the end of the world. Hmmm! Stella, my cousin was in this situation too, long story sha. She has two boys for her ex husband. The man almost killed her o. The annoying part is that my cousin is hard working; she covers up for her ex hubby yet he maltreats her. I don't speak on a matter until I have facts.

    He kept accusing her of sleeping with men to get money. As if that was not enough whenever he sees her with female friends he calls her a lesbian. I had to play detective for three months to see if truly my cousin was messing around.
    Honestly, not because she's my cousin all those accusations were false.
    The good news is: My cousin is happily married to a handsome and caring man. Her new hubby adores her like a goddess and he takes care of the two kids from her previous marriage. You will never notice that he's not their biological father.
    Women should be wise!

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    1. Abusive men are always like that. In their heads their wives are always cheats and they always have some kind of fake proof to show anyone willing to see. #Mental case

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  55. Wow you are a very strong woman.I am proud of u for thr fact that you ended that nightmare of a marriage on time.May God bring you your soulmate who will treat u like a queen till the end of your days.Next time do not trust so easily,take your time and select the best.

    Love U SDK!love to all BVs!

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  56. jesu.... Tnks for sharing dear and i pray love finds u soon. This is a big lesson to all singles.

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    1. A big lesson!
      I was reliving the moment like I was there
      May we not be led into a bad marriage.

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  57. My dear thank God for your life,I had a similar experience,there is nothing like you are a divorcee now,don't tag yourself.You are single,simple.Enjoy that for now.Time heals all wounds,real genuine love will find you in time.

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  58. Chin up babe, I am on my second missionary journey eyes too, married to my dream man, it's been 3yrs of bliss and fulfilment, blessed with a cute son and we have never talked about my past marriage. Ex don kuku die sef.
    The day I woke up and ran for my life with just few clothing and a pair of shoes. I wasn't sure what the future held but I knew if I stayed in that marriage THERE WILL BE NO FUTURE.
    But now, the future is a dream come true.

    So dear, your story can be better than mine but you need to embrace God (like I did), let him know you are broken and needs fixing, trust me, he will fix you and make you better than brand new.

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  59. Dammm I just typed epistle and didn't hit publish button. I was recently engaged to a very good guy although broke but I was busy trying to lift him and let him see his potentials, while we were together, I was cooking one day and the heat from the kitchen made me stand by the door and he was in the living room with his younger brother, and I saw his hands in his younger brothers pants fondling his penis!!! The story is scattered and I really wish I could put it together and share it one day!!!

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    1. I would have loved to read your story
      Please find time to type and send to SDK.

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    2. What!!!!!!!!
      Please send the full gist to Stella

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    3. I wish I could UN see your comment. I regret I read it. Disgusting......

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  60. I'm happy you divorced him not minding what people will say. May God punish Mr F that introduced you to your ex hubby and may God punish your ex Hubby's father too. If you were their sister or daughter would they have lured you into a hopeless marriage?? People are very wicked!!

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  61. Good for you for getting out of the sham marriage, Mr F should be sued for manipulating you to met his dodgy family.

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  62. It is good you trusted your instincts, brave that you walked out on your abusive marriage and great your parents believe in you.

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  63. I was going to ask if this is real then I read the part that says you don't believe your own story. God deeply loves you dear. No matter how bad it has been, it can always get better. May He give you beauty for ashes. You are loved.

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  64. Stella, pls the lady need to contact me ASAP

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  65. Thank God you left that crazy mane before he kills you.

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  66. Awwww poster sending you hugs and kisses. Trust me, everyday you wake up is the first and best day of the rest of your life.

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  67. Don't worry. God makes all things beautiful in his time. Love will definitely find you bit please remain the good babe you are and dont let this affect you negatively. Stay blessed.

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  68. As for Mr.Cee! I know you read this post! You and your demonic family need to change your ways before the wrath of the almighty visits you.

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  69. Hmmmmmm just scared of marriage after reading this chronicles. Is well with u lady

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  70. WHAAAAAT!!!!!...Anonymous 17:23 please mail me your gist osiso!!!!

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  71. I congratulate you for your bravery,you are still a young woman,pray to God for guidance and please try and be patient,you will find a man who will treat you right.

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  72. Glad you were bold enough to leave because the Nigeria culture and church will have told you to continue enduring, fasting and praying!

    My other grouse is with his sister! A fellow woman telling his brother to subdue you! Yet she will want her own husband to be loving and liberal with her?!

    Don't worry yourself, you will be genuinely loved by another man.Being divorced is not a death sentence. Wishing you the best.

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  73. I am really almost in this type of predicament. I heavily suspect my husband of less than a year is gay.all the signs are there. Plus he quickly married me. No courtship at all barely a month after we were married. Please single ladies appreciate what u have .and don't rush into marriage no matter your age or ticking clock. Hmm.

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  74. i don learn something today. may God deliver us from strange spouses. chai

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  75. Sweetheart,my mouth just hang open as i dey read this your story...but guess wat?you are not to be blamed!when i say to people that this world is full of very wicked and desperate people,i know what i mean!

    i pray this day that your pains will soon be replaced with Joy!Love will find you and God will grant you rest and peace on all sides..

    move on with your life and yes! do whatever it is that makes you happy....

    hmmmmm

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  76. Sweetheart,my mouth just hang open as i dey read this your story...but guess wat?you are not to be blamed!when i say to people that this world is full of very wicked and desperate people,i know what i mean!

    i pray this day that your pains will soon be replaced with Joy!Love will find you and God will grant you rest and peace on all sides..

    move on with your life and yes! do whatever it is that makes you happy....

    hmmmmm

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  77. girl who are you telling? I almost landed into the same trap but God save me. Dude is gay as fuck! couldn't even hide it! left his looney ass and just heard he defiled some1s child where he lives. Yoruba people have issues

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