STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DIRTY HUSBAND
Stella Hi, please i am a big fan of you blog. please i need you help me put this up as bv chronicles, i need help!
I am so worried about my husband’s dirty attitude, we have been married for almost 4 years now and still believing God for the fruit of the womb But the thing now is that my husband’s dirty and i dont care attitude puts me off.
I am so worried about my husband’s dirty attitude, we have been married for almost 4 years now and still believing God for the fruit of the womb But the thing now is that my husband’s dirty and i dont care attitude puts me off.
I no longer find him attractive. He doesnt clean his shoes or iron his clothes unless i do it for him. he just doesnt see the need. he wears dirty boxers and litters the house with them. no matter how hard i try to put the house in other, he scatters as i am arranging.
He has these blue shirt and shorts he wears at home, he wears it everyday, even when its dirty and i wash them as soon as they dry up he wears them again. it makes me shy. I try as much as possible to be very neat and sexy for him, but he doesnt see the need to do same for me. he leaves his armpit and public hairs unshaved and smelly until i starve him with sex and insists he must go and shave.
Sometimes he even picks up a quarrel. His car is story for another day. he doesnt clean or even take it to carwash, he claims to not have time whereas he wakes up every morning ,very early lying on the bed and pressing his phone while i go around doing house chores. he wont bother to at least clean his car let alone his shoes.the thing is really beginning to put me off.
I dont ever want to cheat on my husband but he is not helping, i have talked, quarelled and even refused entering his car as he doesnt even allow me drive it. when he is taking me to work i will just be ashamed. trust me i am not bad looking and hubby too is not bad looking imagine a fine couple inside a vehicle covered in dust everyday. i m confused.
We didnt date for long and the few times i visited him while we were dating he wasnt like that. i am sure he was just pretending because anytime he came around he car was always neat. All my single years i have only dated neat guys, to think that i settled for a dirty one is really frustrating.
Sometimes when he is coming to pick me up at work and any of my colleagues wants to join us i will beg him not to bother coming i would rather jump bus. Mind you i am always buying him things like singlets, boxers, and pyjamas but he would never wear a pj, he would rather wear a boxer he has worn all day to bed. he doesnt use handkerchief in this 21st century bvs can you beleive?
I buy handkerchief and even put them in places he can easily see them in the morning but when he sweats he will still use his hand to clean the sweat. Who does that? and to think that he is cheating on me is so funny cos i wonder how the girls manage. he will not use deodorants unless he walks in on me using one in the morning thats when he will remember.
Please i am confused and almost frustrated. I DONT FIND MY HUSBAND ATTRACTIVE ANYMORE, HE ALMOST IRRITATES ME.
*Spittle was gathered in my mouth reading this and i was five seconds away from throwing up..JEEEEEZ!!!...I have a mild case of OCD and i cannot live with anyone with these traits...GOSH.
I am so irritated and dont know what to say...please forward him this link..
Let me go and wash my hands,so irritated!
Anon 16:11- pee on the floor? Oh my God!! 🙉🙈🙊
ReplyDeleteSdk is the best blog in the whole universe. Never a dull moment going through this blog. I so love you like kilode. Commenters for this blog sha get bad mouth lol. Una wan kill me with una bad mouth. Madam wey husband no d flush toilet, relocate go your kids room so only am go d enjoy the odour. Sum men sha, dem dirty like pig ooo. Can't deal with such men
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂😂 sorry
ReplyDeleteBind oh! Bind very well. It exists
ReplyDeleteRob you are not saying wise things today. Empathy should be your watch word. If this woman was you Mum, sister or daughter, what would you advise her to do?
ReplyDeleteYou are smart
ReplyDeleteI guess he wrote like that on purpose. That is why his name is villager
ReplyDeleteEmpress Cho, i do not agree with you on this one. Her hubby's dirtiness is not enough for her to divorce him pls if it was the other way round will you ask the man to divorce his wife too? Madam pls help your hubby help himself
ReplyDeleteUna no go kill me honestly. O di egwu really. Madam sorry. The Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeleteDon't I just love you and your comment simultaneously @Anon 19:35
ReplyDeleteChai eh....
ReplyDeleteU haff killed me with dis yur comment. I can't stop laughing.
Mrs anonymous thank you and God bless. How I wish I can like your post 1million times.
ReplyDeleteThe bitter truth is that oga can't change...for an adult to grow to that age without understanding the need for hygiene...he can't changd again
ReplyDeleteDid we read the same movie
ReplyDeleteChikito you are making sense. Some useless unfathomable habits disappear once someone undergoes prayers
ReplyDeleteAnon 15.04 you my dear are daft. All infertility problems must be the woman's fault abi? Better not infect the people around you with your sense of reasoning.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure the Rob is gay, probably has loads of dirty males pentrating his anus. Ewwww
ReplyDeleteRob the only thing I can deduce from ypur writeup is that you are one dirty s.o.b for you to not see been dirty an issue that needs to be addressed. She's a skank? Dude you behave like a skunk.
ReplyDeleteCan I be your friend. You hit the nail on the head
ReplyDeleteI have a colleague like that. God in heaven! His wife has complained tire, we yab him on a daily basis but for where? It's in the blood abeg and only prayers can change the person
ReplyDeleteme i have taken over my hubby Waldrop, he cant and wont buy any wears without my approval... he is very neat but cares less about how he looks and that's where i come in..
ReplyDeleteRob how can you even defend such an attitude. You expect her to clean up after him like hes a baby or disabled. He is a grown man,an adult and his hygiene should be his job. You just had to look for a way to make it her fault. Maybe she needs to tell his friends,pastor,Imam or mentor so that he can hear it from them. Since his wife is too small to talk to him.
ReplyDeleteMen dying to marry igbo ke!! Since when? With their list that is as long as a novel.Men run to us in that tribe. You know the tribe. The tribe where the women know their way around the kitchen,bedroom,etc.
ReplyDeleteDear BV na me talk me, you do not have to agree with me, it's okay and you are being civilized about it which is cool.
ReplyDeleteI am not one to preach seperation or divorce at all except it's necessary.
Clearly, many people have great tolerance range about extreme poor hygiene, i am surprised at that from the comments. More worrisome is the manner cheating is condoned in a HIV ravaged Nigeria, but that is talk for another day.
However, i am being empathetic and realistic with this poster despite how scandalous my initial comment reads. The truth is this man knows what is right about keeping clean, looking at the narrative where he faked it in courtship days, but he refuses to do right. Tells you there is something wrong upstairs with him. As crazy as it sounds, there are men who have embraced very repulsive flaws and punish their wives with their displays as an ego boost. It is a purely sadistic trait and i suspect he has it.
Believe it or not, a terrible hygienic lifestyle is a major dealbreaker for some people. I wouldn't last a day with such so 4yrs is a real major, and this poster shouldn't be made to look like she is not trying enough.
There is only so much a woman can do, clearly that whole "you can't change a man" gospel is retained for DV....sad.
The bitter truth is only God can change this man or he comes to the realization of how wrong this is and changes. Asking a woman to keep cleaning up after a man like this is beyond ridiculous. He is a grown ass man and not diabled. What is the excuse here. Good hygiene habits is not exclusive to some, it is necessary for all. Even animals practise cleaning and picking. Why punish a woman so? where is the love here?
How are you sure she hasn't done enough....read the exasperation there. She should force and nag a man to clean up, while playing wife, daughter, friend, working, worrying about having a child.....puleeez.
Cut sentiments and face reality, like i stated earlier, only God and this man's decision can make him change. If that doesn't happen, he will remain like that forever.
So why not leave on your own terms with no baby holding you back. There is no point wasting years and stressing your body and health over a man's terrible habit. It's your choice, i am not pointing a gun at you to take this advise. Seek God's face before you make your move. I know you are torn with the conflicting advise on here.
However,i will not play an ostrich and join in postponing the doom's day if this marriage continues like this.....simply because i want to join others to ask you to bend over, endure and fight to keep your marriage.
Goodluck poster!
Ehmmmm....Xoxo mystery, try HARDER.
I refuse to stoop to your level. Thanks.
Na wa oh. Some BVs got no chill. its common sense to know that for a woman to bring an issue like this to chronicles and she even mentioned that she is getting frustrated and that the husband almost irritates her goes along way to show that the poster needs good advice and encouraging words. not some of you here forming like your marriage is perfect and some insulting the man. she never said that she loves him less. atleast if she doesnt love him anymore she wont be here seeking advice. Most of are very wicked. May i never send a chronicle to this blog. Even Stella is not helping, she too do. RUBBISH
ReplyDeleteXoxo mystery, God bless you!
ReplyDeleteI know my advice might be late after seeing over 200 comments already but I just had to say what is in my mind.
ReplyDeleteMadam, whatever name you call your spouse, others will join you to call him that. Please I hope you have not complained to anyone else?
You see, some men are like children, so you have to handle them like that. First, tear that blue shirt and boxer he wears often and tell him it torn while you were washing it.
Find a young boy to be washing the car every weekend and tell your husband to give him #200, a month will be #800.
As for the shaving, turn it to a foreplay by joining him in the bathroom when having his bath and do it. Playfully pull him to the bathroom at night when you want to bath. When he is sleeping, rub him deodorant under is armpit, do it jokingly. Shoemaker passes along streets on weekends, make one you customer to come every Saturday and Polish all his shoes.
If you can afford dry cleaners, take his clothes there. If not, still ask that same young boy to come ironing for you and pay again.
I believe you husband will get the message gradually and improve.
Best of luck.
@rose... You're smart, you're intelligent...you're above your class.. .we just have alot of average Nigerians...they only interprete the surface of grammar... No intellect.
ReplyDeletePoster don't listen to these babes oo, while they are not saying anything wrong, the truth remains that they are housewives who probably collect 400k per month from hubby as expenses. Don't go feeling bad about what these ladies up there are saying. If u are a housewife and ur hubby gives u a sizeable allowance, nne it is ur job to make him look good and neat. If u have to wake up 5am to go to work, come back late, contribute to upkeep sef, that na lie, ur hubby should take care of himself
ReplyDeleteLoL. XO what do you know?😕
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