Five years to date her.....na PhD congrats to Vivian jawe
She should waste all her young days and age on a guy who is not even sure of what he wanted. Vivian you took the best choice by accepting the ring from another guy that knows your value. Let his friends let the girl be joor.
I don't really know what to say!The girl was double-dating, and she went for the most serious guy.The guy on the other hand was not exactly ready to wife the girl. So, he should go find another girl.Is not who starts the race first, but who finishes first.Some people dated their now husband/wife for more than five years (myself included)He should move on and cut every form of contact from the girl.
Men can be so bitter ha! instead of them to do the right thing they blame their faults on others. Well done Vivian, good luck to you in your new relationship.
That bro should move on... Na God save Vivian from am
Id be happy for her if she's happy after 3yrs of marriage with this new man, marriage isn't treated like shopping, if the product ure searching for isn't in Spar, you walk into another & pick the substitute if found, without considering the expiry date.
Before all d ladies CME n start pouring invectives on the guy,how old are the?when did the begin dating? Dose it include university days or school days?I have a cousin who has dated the same gal for eleven yrs now,BT the started dating in sec school,so before u judge, find out the truth,including u Stella DT just jumped into conclusion as usual because it involves a woman, ur so gender biased n that is so wrong for a blogger
Olodo. The guy had been cheating on her & he didn't think it was wrong until u intervened. Does that sound like a good hubby material? You sound as if u and ur friend were doing Vivian a favour, and that type of thinking is the problem with Nigerian men. Always feeling entitled & expecting women to take their bullsh*t all the time. Why are u feelong entitled? Did she sign a covenant? Is it by force to marry ur cheating ass friend? Would u take that from a woman? Besides, You guys dump women all the time & expect them to move on. So what is the problem here? The girl is a sharp babe & I wish all ladies were like this instead of waiting for cheating, disrespectful cows the way Toke Makinwa did. I wish Vivian a happy married life biko! Good riddance to nonsense.PS: she refused his proposal cos she knows better than ending up with a cheat. Pray that u have a daughter that smart. Mumu.
Why is the guys friend vexing like na him dey date the girl..Abeg chill joo
Thunder fire u @mazi obi.Thank God she dumped ur childish ass!You expected her to wait for a time waster like u as a horseband material that you is naa.
Well, I really would not blame the lady for accepting the ring from someone else. If her boyfriend did not see her as a wife material, he should have cut her off from his life, after all, marriage is not by force and not all relationships must lead to marriage. Five solid years and you expect her not to jump ship? But the girl sef should respect her engagement. What's she still doing with the guy after getting engaged to another man?
Congrats Vivian, thank God you realized yourself before he turned you to Lord of the Rings.
Hmmmmmm dicey..but do I blame the girl NO. ask her she will have something to say. Am in that state right now even if its a month and I see he is serious and I can cope with his weakness am off
She probably stayed with him, just whiling away time till her "ideal man" came along. It's also possible she knew all about his cheating ways and wasn't gonna have none of that. Dude got a ring but didn't give it to her because she "discouraged" him? Taaaaa! He was drawing his feet. Vivian probably saw this too. Oh well, congrates to Vivian if this story's true.
Wise babe! High 5 to her
Vivian thank God for the gift of sense that you received.For your own good, stay away from that guy and his friends.When people brag about taking a babe to Dubai, I just wonder the kind of upbringing they had.
Why did it take your friend a whole 5years? And to Vivian why did you spend the weekend at his after accepting another man's proposal? Before you know it now you will get pregnant for your ex and tell your new man that the pregnancy is his right? You will marry this guy and be going to fu*ck your ex right? Nah wah for some girls! Nah your type dey send chronicle.
I will love for the guy that proposed to see this and dump your cheating ass if truly you went to spend the weekend with the other guy.
Stella 5 years is nothing. U don't know if they started dating from their school days and yet to get a job. ..... If not then I see a smart babe there kudos!
Serious 5years of studying her. He should be awarded 5yrs in sexuality according that meme.
All relationship most not end in marriage. Y take the ring and still go ahead to gbensh the innocent dude I see a cheating wife in the making.
Congrats girl for taking the ring.This same thing happened to my colleague .She has been dating bar for 4yrs.she clocked 29 this yr and guess what....She said yea to bros that has been on her case for 9months.So bae of four yes was busy cussing her ....like she should HV been patient .I follow curse the useless bar.29yrs and be patient for wat?Congrats abeg.I wish u HML biko.
With five years I will have a degree in law
Hmmmm.....i am happy for her o&she is my name sake. No basket for rotten mangoes, say no to times wasters. What has he been waiting for..ProudlyDeltan
Mazi okoro leave her alone and face ur work...am happy for d girl
I don't know why people think you must date for donkey years before you commit! When a man wants you, he goes all the way to prove it! Congrats vivian on accepting that ring and dumping that time 'waster' in human form!
Let's assume all he said here are true. Why was the girl following him to "Dubai, spending weekend" and sleeping with him in any available bed space if she has taken "the ring from another man?" Why hide the ring in her purse; how are we sure she will not take the ring from another bigger fish if he shows up and hide it too waiting for another much bigger one? Is there an awakened prostitute inside every girl? Must relationship involve "spending the weekends in a man's house and in Dubai hotels?" Why the fornication everywhere? If sex happens all through dating, what happens in marriage? With all the sex and possible abortions, on wedding day, she will wear white inside a Church and pretend to be chaste. When it is time to "kiss the bride" she will be shy like it was happening the first time while she has been a pro in sucking penises and getting her vagina sucked"; now that's the definition of hypocrisy!Some will soon rush here to tell me that "she spent weekend does not mean they had sex. . . I know, they had prayer vigils".
Good for the guy,why did he wait that long and still waiting till she eventually got engaged by someone else. I would do exactly what the girl did if I were in her shoes. She put to good use what Linda Eze preaches on this blog..
Abeg..congrats to the girl...haba....5 years ..You planned to propose and still you didn't bsc in delay and stagnation emotionally....serves him right after all that's how some guys would date a girl for 5 years too ,wake up one morning telling her it's all him she should get someone better and in 3 months time he is not only giving out an engagement ring he is walking down the aisle. ...Vivian thumbs up ..I just hope the new guy is the real deal cause he can still am keeping her Lord of the Rings. .
Lol. Real time waster
I have one also she's a family friend . THEY started dating during their sec sch days and finally got married last year after eleven years of dating.....
The babe no sharp at all why go back to gbensh ur EX if u really happy in ur relationship? THAT guy will still continue to gbensh her after marriage.
I tire oooo y go back to d guy? THAT line vex me. IT shows all she want is d ring. I hope that ring gives her all the happiness she want in a marriage
A bottle of chilled Gulder for you bro.
This is what happens when you don't own your shit. Imagine this nkapi talking about how his friend took vivian to dubai. Chaiiii! Sorry girl. I'm yet to see a guy talk about an independent woman with such disrespectful tone talk more of an ordinary friend. And if she decides to marry someone else after five years, it's her choice and the best you can do is to respect get decision. Men do this all the time. I see no reason why this guy is vituperating. The temerity he has to bring the matter online though.... Everybody now wants to tweet 'tales by moonlight'. Smh...
U supporting the lady because the guy cheated on her RIGHT hope u read dat d babe is engaged and now going back to gbensh her ex @oga/madam is the lady not cheating too? I pity the guy who gave her ring.
I join you Stella to yinmu.Have men not been getting married without telling their supposed "girlfriend ". Doesn't mean what dis girl did was good but perhaps she doesn't have age on her side again and the guy wasn't forthcoming like a lot of Nigerian men like doing. They feel they are doing us women a favour by marrying us.But Stella about this 5yrs thing. It depends on what age a girl starts dating a guy. If you have a sister that started dating her boo at 16 while in secondary school and the guy too is 16 or 17. Wld you expect them to marry after 5yrs. They will just be 21/22. Just finishing school.A friend of mine started dating her man and 16 and he was 20. They dated for 10 yrs before marriage. She at 26 and he at 30. By then they were financially stable.This is not to say you shld start dating someone at 25 and that person expects you to 10yrs.Let's be careful about this how many yrs before marriage thing. The age they both started matters.
Time wasters...five years for what nau....u don't want to eat it nd u don't want to throw it away..she made right decision
Reading some comments here now I know that we won't stop reading sad chronicles OF SOME MARRIED women on this blog CHAI the only thing u guys care about is the ring....no one care about her happiness. this babe isn't happy in her present relationship, if she's happy y go back to gbensh her EX?
Lol@lord of the Rings.
If she could accept another man's ring, just seven months into the relationship says a lot about her ex.
Gals just like complicating Deir own lives....now she has accepted to marry anoda guy and yet still spending weekend with her ex....I pity d new fool who proposed to her Thu....how can u meet a gal who dated for 5yrs and proposed to her within 9mnths as a sharp superman dat u is na....I wish Vivian and d new hubby well...but tho d jilted ex...make sure u keep fucking d hoe anything she comes spend weekend....fuck her ass and her pussy well...she's a whore, a cheat and a confused greedy woman....she deserves no respect wat so ever....and d new fool deserves her....ju man, meet gal within a year propose....ok nah....cos marriage na like shopping abi?
Five years is too long.Brother, what are you building??It doesn't even take up to 5years to build a castle, so, what's up?Move on already.
#God's "no" is not a rejection, it's a redirection*
My problem is that he said the guy is/was a cheat throughout the relationship until he intervened. I guess the girl knew all along and was just waiting to pay him in his own coin. Who knows how much tears the girl has shed due to heartache throughout the relationshipa as a result of his infidelity.she saw a bettrr option,she bounced.
5 yrs. I guess he was waiting for the perfect time. Not everyone can handle time wasting. 7 months is enough time to date and know that you have found the one. If you are not ready, pls free the girl. He was discouraged and refuse to propose. He can as well become discouraged and brwak up d relationship
I honestly hope she truly fancies her new man. Getting married isn't really about who proposes 1st. I'm not saying she should cling to a guy she has been with for 5years in spite of the fact that he wasn't as serious with the relationship as she expected him to be, but saying "yes" to a new guy may be counterproductive, unless she's truly over her ex and she really likes the new guy.I have seen several similar cases where a lady dumps her long time boyfriend for a "new kid on the block" who seems to adore her. They get married soon after, only for the lady to start jonesing for her ex. In one of the cases, the lady in question started or should I say reignited the sexual relationship with her ex. The new marriage crumbled after only 6months. The irony is, the old boyfriend may still not marry her but the point is, you don't get married simply because a new guy tells you all you've always wanted to hear from your ex.Marriage is one of the most important institutions in life. You have to be EXTREMELY careful because one wrong decision could end your life or leave you feeling trapped and miserable, forcing you compromise your values and do things you never dreamt you would do. The pleasure you may derive from such acts will never quite fill the void.Personally, I wouldn't root for the lady just yet until I know the facts. For all we know, both men may not even be the right ones for her. Her fiance may be a rebound guy and she may not realise that until much later. I think it's better to end a relationship that isn't working for you, get closure, reevaluate and allow your emotions normalise before you start a new relationship. Unless, of course, you are lucky to find "the one" while you are still in a relationship but somehow you just feel it in your guts.Life has no guarantees but it's always better to play safe. I hope she's really done with her ex and is really into her fiance. If that's the case, I wish them both a happy life together.
Thats too long...but the story aint complete....
Ma thought exactly...and he wanted proposing earlier...even though he didnt mention the year...
Its his best friend na...and he so much likes the said vivian...hes gotta feel the pain...
Thank you anon 13:20.
Correct girl..👍.why wait till eternity for the mumu guy who isn't bold enough to put a ring on it...carry go girl.nofin does you at all
I agree.We should look at the big picture.
Shut up your mouth.it's your type that keeps a girl waiting for ages and not get serious with her. Small body old papa.it's your head that you re insulting not my darling Vivien. .he-goat like you.
And the stupid girl got the ring and went back to gbensh the time waster. Three things are clear here 1. she doesn't love the new man 2.the new man is not good in bed 3. The new man is a broke ass.Conclusion: Vivian doesn't know what she wants. Idiot.
Eva Banjo Gaza gyal, you are saying thank you okwaya? How many years have you been dating that you Rastaferian boyfriend? Hope it's not 13yrs, has he engaged you? For how long now? I would advise you to start hunting for another boo. Age is not on your side o.
Thank you aunty Monkey, the stupid Vivian is cheating on the new guy with the time waster, what is she?
Lessons to guys:you don't need to wait for eternity before you put a ring on it..if she's good and you love her then why wait...go ahead and wife her before another guy will take her.
No Blessing, she has not yet realised herself. If she did, she won't be going back to fvck that other man.
Why should he keep her waiting for the past 5 years
That guy's friends can break her engagement by revealing to her new man that she still sleeps with the former guy.
Anon 13:03 you forgot to mention the people the women are having the sex with. Are the people they are having sex with not men?, you chauvinist pig incapable of calling a spade a spade.
I pray the new guy sees this too and also confirm its true. Why go back to sleep with the other guy after collecting the ring? I pray they both dump her. Ashawo girl
Aunty Monkey, your head correct jare. If that guy marries her, she will cheat on him.
12:28 iq's required 2 understand ur logic,sadly in this case it's absent sigh
Shut ur stupid mouth. U want to tell me now dar u have just one gal. That u aren't double dating abi. If na man propose now come dey fuck her ex u go hail am. As d super man that he is na. But since na woman now, story don gbanje. Anuofia.
Same here Stelz,infact happy is an understatement. Over joyous de worry me for the bae..she knows sup! Yeye guys everywhere. That's how one want to make me lord of the rings,i just woke up one morning and took the ring to his house cos my conscience didn't allow me sell it. Met his absence,had to give it to the gateman to give to him jare as I didn't want to return back to my house with it. Namsense! The rest is story for another day..
I think she went to Dubai with him hoping that he will propose so that she can return the ring to the other guy. Who are we to judge when we have not heard the whole story?
anon 12:28 d iq required to understand ur logic's missing here
Sharrap der, Yoruba DEMON! What do u know about marriage? ... no be only shopping. Mtchewww
I like your comment @ Mawi.
I wonder why u guys failed to read where he wrote that the guy proposed to d girl in dubai but she discouraged him..she had a plan daz why she refused to get engaged to him..Most of u bvs don't read before commenting..U are quick to join d bandwagon and tow stella's line..read and assimilate before u jump into conclusion.
As in ehnn, I wonder when babes will learn 2 ball on deir own. See mouth like he took hr 2 dubai, like srzly?? I guess she's beneath deir social class that's y
Even u Orela??? Didn't u read where he wrote that d guy took the girl to dubai in her final year to propose to her but she declined saying she wasn't ready for commitment..Now u guys are blaming d guy for wasting her time for 5 good years whereby it was d girl who wasted his own time..I can see d several heart breaks u girls have been experiencing have made u all to sound alike and senseless too...
Mazi should take a chill pill and stop crying more than the bereaved.
You're so right!
She accepted another man's proposal. She would hv left quietly. Dats how it's done!
*dragging his feet
Well, it could be 'pity sex'. Cos she felt bad for dumping him that way. They dated for five years, she must have felt some guilt. Heck, maybe it was goodbye sex! How sure are you that she was happy in her past relationship?
I am happy for her too
*spreads mat here*
Common gerrout!! Imagine, so all those guys dat wii kip a girl tie up her destiny and goan marry another gehl without having the courtesy to tell her oh she will just hear from the grapevine that he has gone to do TM, meanwhile he just slept with her and cleaned mouth the night before, what do u call those ones? You have the mouth to come here and cuss her out. I give her props, I hail her for having the courage to take a stand and move on. Nonsense.
My major cause of concern is that Vivian is hiding being engaged and sleeping with the 'supposed ex', it's a red flag for me, maybe the Mazi's friend should be the one thanking God for shielding him from adulterous nature of Vivian.
Maybe the Dubai thing was before the new guy came along
@ Atheist 12:27 I totally agree to this......"I'd be happy for her if she's happy after 3yrs of marriage with this new man, marriage isn't treated like shopping, if the product ure searching for isn't in Spar, you walk into another & pick the substitute if found, without considering the expiry date."Stella you just pissed me off with your gender biased comment. You didn't point out that she was double dating but if na man now you go don call men all sort of names..........If you like don't publish my comment.....*side eyes*
@monkeynofine, babe I follow you ask same question. She's one hell of a confused person. Let's hope she doesn't get dumped by the present boyfriend.
Choi! Choi! I support you😂😂😂😂
Why that one dey kill imself for matter wey no concern am, he should stay there very soon im own girl go do am the more you look the less you see
Yes you are right... she has gotten engaged why continue with the boyfriend. My bf of 3yrs when I met a better guy I dumped him and never looked back. Not even a flash. Wetin we still dey communicate for? That is an ashewoish character.
Calm down folks. Na only engagement o! Dem nefa marry. Marriage go show am pepper. Cow wey no dey hear enter America go come back as corned beef. All this drama on top engagement? Not even trad or white wedding.
Cho choi, I'm with you on this. The guy is a time waster and yet went to his house with her hidden ring in her purse? I yam not understanding. What did she go back to pick?
Oh oh. I concur @ choi choi and monkeynofine
Easy with the cusses, she couldn't wait but she had to go back and gbensh?? Mazi, tell your friend to go for thanksgiving, the girl is a big fool.... It would have been better if she had collected the ring from the other guy and stayed out there... Not collecting ring and coning back to her vomit.... She's just desperate for marriage abeg
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pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee be my friend, you are so full of wisdom!! You and doppelganger, you give salient points without cussing out and all... Thanks for this write-up jare😘😘
That's how my ex girlfriend left me for no reason apparently (to me) for someone else, saying I'm not ready to settle down. I begged, tried to make her see reasons to stick with 'us' while I sort out myself.....for where. She left, man I was broken, took me a while to get myself together. She came back after six months, obviously the other guy just chop clean mouth and she wants to now settle with me. My people, I have forgiven her ooo (in her mind) me I'm just gonna waste her time until! I'm ready to marry then I dump her sorry ass. Two can play the game no be so???
Abeg...anon.15.40....Have an ID when next when next you want to chastise me....And yes even me...The only issue I have with her is ,why she had to go do send forth. ..That alone speaks ill of her character...asides that anyone can break up with anyone for whatever reason they deem fit...And they should move on completely and not look back..
Abi o. Like my SIL who has been with her bf since I gave birth to my first. My son is almost 11 yrs now. Good prospects, she shld wait for him to be sure o jare. *yinmu
I had of the story personally and its confusing when a 22 year old girl who still is not done with school despirate for marriage because her friends are marrying. Its painful because as i heard she was cheating with the new guy for months before the found out and the day he was to engage her was the day he found out which she begged him and i heard he did alot for her forget about dubai , he did alot for her, and the ex planned to come for intro this december and after one week of seeing the parents the very next week she accepted the other mans ring and was still lieing to the ex. My question is was she actually that despirate? And i know the new man does not even know anything about her and the whole thing was a rush just for her to leave her ex not because its actually came from the new ones mind. So i guess when it comes to cheating it was the girl who cheated and lied. Because the new one does not even know she is not done with school yet. Anyways i wish her well as well. Just for those that didnt know the story. I have seen both the girl and the ex.
I had of the story personally and its confusing when a 22 year old girl who still is not done with school despirate for marriage because her friends are marrying. Its painful because as i heard she was cheating with the new guy for months before the found out and the day he was to engage her was the day he found out which she begged him and i heard he did alot for her forget about dubai , he did alot for her, and the ex planned to come for intro this december and after one week of seeing the parents the very next week she accepted the other mans ring and was still lieing to the ex. My question is was she actually that despirate? And i know the new man does not even know anything about her and the whole thing was a rush just for her to leave her ex not because its actually came from the new ones mind. So i guess when it comes to cheating it was the girl who cheated and lied. Because the new one does not even know she is not done with school yet. Anyways i wish her well as well. Just for those that didnt know the story. And she never cut her ex cheating so they should say he cheated and she cut him. He's best friend only told jim that when the relationship was not so strong yrs back.I have seen both the girl and the ex.
She is not done with school and 22yrs . What are u saying ?
For someone that is 22yrs and not totally done with school , and the new man does not know she is not done with school . What are u saying?
Hmmmm we girls sef! Now am hearing she is just 21 years old!!! Exactly where the rush is coming from, I don't know???
For where! He didn't give her any ring ooo, na the new guy... who is ofcos ignorant of the fact that she has been gbenshing the both men for a while ..... using him for her financial upgrade. Smh Karma
one was good for money and the other was good for keeps, 21 year olds done they hustle tight....
Vivian is 21 years old, How much of her time has she wasted?? The idiot has not even graduated from school to empower herself as a woman.
5 years counts from 17 to 21 years old. Of which she was a Virgin two years innnn. So????
Word Bro!Only God sees the heart. And Karma is a bitch....
And she started cheating on her brand new guy with her old timer cheater.....Oho chics are so dumb
21 year old Vivian...... feels like someone is wasting her time. And still runs to her Ex with all her problems
Cookie you are Goat!! See as your mate vision dey hustle at 21 you way done old still dey body goat. Blatant Pig!
Another lesson is, we guys who rush and put ring on it, did you ever consider she would go back gbenshing the ex five days afterwards....??? It goes both ways my dear
She kept using him to upgrade and then says she can't be with him cause he is from Niger Delta and she is Ibo....meanwhile she and her family have been draining the poor guy with their wahalas
@thelma Cakes, the date is January 4th..... go make them give you cake contract.......
She tried to keep the both, it blew up in her face when he the Ex found out..... meanwhile she kept her needs met by him
Disgrace to family....... her mates do this and succeed, now she has made a show of our normal code as women. Mumu Vivian once your new guy sees this, your own done finish as the Ex too nor go reason you..... Good luck
Well, Well, Well facts are 1. She is 21 years old. 2 . She is still a student. 3 . There was no dubai trip whatsoever, it was planned for an intended engagement party. 4. She refused him on grounds as tribe, his age, and finally some fickle story about her spiritual mother seeing a diabolic vision on their union.5. He has done so much for her and get family than anyone she has ever met. 6.She has been dating and fooling the two men until the supposed Ex found out and mounted pressure. 7. She travelled all the way to Niger delta to visit her Ex, had multiple sex with him and took a womb full of sperm back to her new engagement. With intention to pass on the baby. You see, it was all beautiful till deceit made its way in. I pity this new guy.... hope he sees this....
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