STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
CONFUSED UNDERSTANDING WOMAN
My chronicle bothers on my relationship and quite lengthy, pls pardon my epistle and typo errors. Your red pen will be greatly appreciated with that of other BVs and pls hide my email.
I'm a lady in her late twenties and been in a relationship with my BF (now fiance, proposed last year) for 5yrs (started dating 2011) now and been tru thick and thin and made lots of sacrifices.
He was my first and only love till date. He is a cool headed, loving and open-minded to a large extent. I met him while we were both in Uni. He wasn't in any relationship with anyone but he was dating a white woman based in US very older than him. He told me about the woman and that he needed the woman's help financially to help his family stabilise. Which I felt uneasy with at first but after much tot I decided to give it a try cos I wouldn't want to be selfish enough to be an obstacle to his hope of helping his family when I know I can't help financially at the moment.
All was going well, the white woman loved him so much that she started footing his family's bill here that she even talks to his family and knows them all through skyping daily and things started getting better financially for his family that they become stable to an extent. While all these were going on, our relationship was going smoothly too as well and getting better cos his family knows me too, respected me and adores me for been so understanding.
The white woman eventually got him visa to US with all expenses paid for. I had fears and so skeptical about the trip cos firstly I tot he wasn't going to come back again. Secondly, I couldn't imagine him having intimacy with the old woman. He assured me none of the two will happen and continue to pray for him cos we pray, fast and do everything together.
He went for the trip and after 2wks, came back home as promised and told me no intimacy occurred except for the few hug and kisses at first sight cos he lodged in the hotel while he goes to the woman's crib to hangout and goes back at nightfall. I was happy he was back to my arms and things got more better and he proposed last year Dec to me.
However, something happened this year while using his phone as i've always done. A message came in from the white woman, although they still keep in touch till date tho and I snooped which I found out tru old messages that he had intimacy with the woman and had been exchanging nudes all these years unknowingly to me.
I confronted him indirectly tho cos didn't want him to know I snooped but denied none ever happened. I felt so uneasy and betrayed tho but our years of sacrifices and good deeds was way overwhelming that it succumbed that betrayed feeling. Even tho, one fact remained that i'm d only one he's dating here in Nigeria which I'm certain of.
Now my fear is this, we both processed US visa in Sept and to the glory of God, we were granted and our intention is to migrate. We chose US after much consideration for a place easier on undocumented migrant cos we had earlier applied to Canada but denied before settling to do US. But i'm scared that with my fiance romance with this white woman in US, wouldn't my fiance be snatched away from me or cheating on me with this same woman cos I don't want to ever loose him for anything. I've been fortunate he's been my first love and I want him to be the only and last love.
Secondly, i'm not 100% in support of migrating to US illegally and trapped or being deported back to square one but one cannot seems to consider that option with the Nigeria economic. Please how do I handle this situation? Cos been giving me a sleepless night.
Thank you for listening to my epistle and looking forward to reading comments.
*You sound confused....you were understanding enough to allow your man visit another woman in another state and you are naive enough to believe nothing happened?that he went there to count the toenails of American chicken abi?
He told you what you wanted to hear.....My dear you have already settled for less so nothing should surprise you again....
I dont know what else to say,I am still marvelled at your level of UNDERSTANDING.