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Monday, 12 December 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Na Wow!!!



STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
YES OR NO?


I am 24 and in a relationship with this loving and caring guy, we have been dating for 4 and a half years . There has been so much fun in the relationship, even friends and family use our relationship as an example. At the beginning of the relationship, I told him, s3x won't be involved until marriage and he agreed(tho we kiss).


Few months ago, he started asking for s3x, he said he can't wait again, I pleaded with him to just hold on since he has waited this long, the remaining time is so short compared to how long he has waited. I told him to propose and let us get married, he said next year by God's grace, I was really happy that OK, I won't have to wait long again. 


Last week, he raised the issue of s3x again and he said he is not proposing until 2018 n getting married 2019 n am not ready at all for sex. Since then, he has been acting somehow
I don't want to lose my virginity and I don't want to lose the guy. Some of you might want 2 crucify me and say who virginity help, but then it is a thing of the mind.


*My dear i dont think you have your cake and still eat it or vice versa...you might have to be forced to choose one..Choose the one that matters the most to you.
If you cave in and give him what he wants,it is no guarantee that he will marry you when he is ready...
My advice?NO...Dont give him the cookie....let him go if he makes it a condition for being with you.


174 comments:

Villager said...

No.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Na u sabi, choose between ur virginity and the guy, the man u are keeping your virginity for, is he also a virgin? I rest my case.

amanda favour said...

If you want to loose your virginity on your wedding night,leave the guy

Baroness X said...

Hmmmm..... it's not by force to marry this particular guy. Like stella said even after you surrender the cookie, you won't still be able to guarantee that he'll marry you.
Please tie your legs and continue being the mermaid that you are inugo.

Marygift Anumudu said...

Hmm, wonder.

Becky Divine said...

You can't have it all

The guy has really tried sha. 4years without nothing no be beans oo for a man lol

Tell him to wait till marriage or walk! If he walks, he is not the man for you

stunning slim shady said...

Noooooooooooo

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

You are a very selfish person!....
You don't want to loose the nigga and your virginity too...just lookatew!...
The guy has left you mehn...
Move on and continue waiting for that guy that would love you without sex!...
If I'm a guy,I most chop before buying!...
Inukwa?...

danny fisiye said...

Read



#GODWIN

Stella Igbokei said...

No don't give him. let him wait if he truly want to marry u

Anonymous said...

My dear, don't mind Stella, you can eat your cake and still have it with few guys, there are some men who can wait. I'm 28 and still a virgin, dating this guy for 4yrs now, I don't even know maybe he's aware that I'm a virgin cos he's never asked me the question, he's coming home next year for our wedding. Try and encourage him to wait alittle bit for you, if he's financially capable, what's he still waiting for?

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

The ball is in your court poster, be wise!!!

corisande said...

Why does he have to force you to have sex. If he does love you he can wait since he has intentions of marrying you. That guy will ball on you after tasting your cookie.
Insist on not giving up your virginity and if you want to,let it be at your own time not under any pressure

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Sex is sacred and should be enjoyed. I can decide to tell you not to indulge in fornication but that will be me probably wasting my time.
Sex is to be enjoyed, don't let any man bully you into giving in to his sexual demands because you'd regret it for a long time.
If you decide to have Sex before marriage, do it with someone you love and because you want it not because he wants it.
He used the marriage talk in the first place to make you cave in but it obviously didn't work. You shouldn't be with a man like that. Besides is it that you want to marry so early to have Sex or because you're ready? Either way, have Sex for you. Don't be bullied into it.
This guy is just playing you and you are not the person he wants to marry, he just wants Sex and the minute you give in that's all. Give him space till he does the proper thing.

Tilly said...

Poster u will blame yourself and feel regret if you give in. You will feel even worse if u guys break up afterwards. Having sex doesnt guarantee that he will marry u. Have that in mind while you make your decision.

Jasmine said...

Don't give in. If he's urs, he'll wait.

What's the guarantee that he won't run away after the sex?

Let him go if he wants to.

Your man will come and will wait.

Beloved said...

The guy will be forming as if he is not touching Down elsewhere. Abeg let him go jare
Why do we put so much emphasis on "sex"
Make I no talk too much sef

Blackberry said...

Either you open leg or swerve!
Choose one!
Goodluck.

Anonymous said...

Sorry girl; you don't have a "boyfriend" you have a "toyfriend", an inconsiderate, seriousness bully. He is a time bomb and the blast is aimed at the heart.

Anonymous said...

You told him to propose? Anaaa m

Minnie Rexpect said...

If after telling him you want to wait till marriage and he's still asking for your 'kpekus' then it questions the love he has for you.
Whether you give or don't give doesnt assure you he's taking you down the aisle, I'd advice you stick to your decision of keeping yourself till marriage. Don't settle for less.

Mrs I said...

My dear don't give inn...he will run away afterwards

Awesome R said...

My dear, your virginity is very important to you then Let your NO be emphatic. Damn the consequences. If he truly loves you he would respect your decision.

Anonymous said...

WHO opens legs for sex?Who get's pregnant?Who bears the guilt of abortion (the man shares in the consequences though; see Proverbs 6:16) and cries every second/everyday?Who is heartbroken and shattered and confused?Who has insecurity and low self esteem? Who is seen as the whore?Who has suicidal thoughts (yes you murdered a human being or more see Gen. 9:6)?Who sulks even a decade after the man has moved on, married and had kids?Who is dumped?On and on and on.LADIES, WHY NOT CLOSE THIS HOLE CALLED VAGINA UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED? THE TEST THAT A MAN "LOVES YOU" IS THAT HE IS ABLE TO RESPECT YOUR BODY TILL HE PAYS YOUR BRIDE PRICE.When the man finishes with you he moves on to the next "gullible victim" Leave such men who are only interested in you body (no; just interested in your vagina and breasts) alone and face your life and make it right with God and do not kill kids etc.Jesus says; "whoever comes to me I will not cast away". Matthew 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

stunning slim shady said...

For how long will d cat have to wait for d fish whose aroma it can't resist. My dear virginity help sombody. Don't allow ur love for him make u give away ur cookie. If u stupidly give him ur virginity, u will lose ur esteem, u will lose him also. SooooooOOooo keep zipping up. Waiting is worth it.

Anonymous said...

Run away from that guy

GenevieveNwa said...

Don't force it, let it go! If he's meant for u, the both of u will end up togeda in d end still... Don't loose ur virginity for someone unless u want to, U are ready to...

shandy sleeks said...

My dear,the guy won't marry you and if you give him the cookie,you will regret it because he is no longer into you.

peace maker said...

Madam poster, why are you doing boyfriend girlfriend when you hoarding ur Toto? Can't you stay on ur own until you marry?

Bukipreety said...

Let him keep ranting, in fact free him and let him go.

Lilian Chisom said...

Enter your comment...pls don't oooooooooh.

June said...

You and this your stupid comments..chai

Nerd Fashionista said...

Genuine love doesn't come with stress , so if u are being forced to do something u aren't comfortable with,let go of the relationship.

SANDY NEKY said...

Poster, I assure you that this particular guy will waka once he chops your cookie. Not that I am against sex while in a relationship..naah but I stand with Stelz on this. A big NO! Not after waiting for this long, let him waka. Instead loose your virginia to another guy*side eye*YES!

Uzu Anwuli said...

Don't pull down your pant,please don't.its no guarantee that he will marry you,am a virgin and my ex and I didn't break up because of sex.i don't have the mindset that it will guarantee me a successful marriage,i have more to bring to a relationship/marriage than sex but on a more serious note,is it true that it gets more tight with age?I mean the hymen

Dolapo Kosebinu said...

Jesus! Blimey!

June said...

Exactly my thoughts..Stella
If he loves you..he'd wait..giving him the cookie isn't a guarantee that he'd marry you
Be wise!
Know what you want and go after it! Don't give in to his sexually desires all because you feel he'd marry you.
Unless you want to write another chronicle for usπŸ˜•
And me I kukuma love reading chroniclesπŸ˜ƒ

Uzu Anwuli said...

And don't let anybody deceive you that who virginity EPP?if their own no help them,your own go help you.

missylynn said...

NO.
So he is after sex now
I'll advise not to give in just because he wants to marry you,go with your made up mind dear.

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

When you agreed to no sex, you shouldn't have allowed kissing or smooching!

If you say no to sex, also say no to everything related to sex for your own good and safety.
If he doesn't want to wait until after you get married, let him go. He might already be getting it from someone else.
Still talk go him, he might change his mind but if not, wave him goodbye. Some worth it will come your way.

peace maker said...

Poster you are not a nice person. U guy hv been dating for 4 & half years and u hv been denying him ur Toto all along.And u shamelessly claim that u love him? U guys kiss and u don't used to allow him to touch your something? U hv been torturing him needlessly. He must be a mumu man. Abegi free him

RICHBEE said...

You mean you've been dating this guy for 4and a half years? Why are you even dating if you're not ready to have sex and you're not also ready to get married? My dear you're tempting yourself and the guy... my advice!!! Don't make mistakes when making your decisions

Rocky said...

Doppelganger!! You are so right. The guy just wants to go in between her legs. Poster, don't cave in. Like Doppelganger said, if you want to have sex, have sex because you want to not because someone is trying to manipulate you into it

RICHBEE said...

I tire oh, is that not temptation

Empress Windy. said...

No oooo

Atheist ™ said...

This is a tricky one..... The devil & the deep blue sea, but then you've got the key to the gate, & uve stood guard for 24yrs, that's rare, i applaud that... Imagine how rusted the padlock will be by now, it would be an easy task. Anyway, i get where he's coming from, i wouldn't also risk buying a house by mere standing outside the gate & viewing from a distance, i need to take a walk in & see the size of the bedrooms & if the wall is screeded with roof leakages, or narrow doorway, cus my furnitures are italian, & we all know italian furnitures are big... Just incase upholstry is needed, we can start makin the necessary adjustments while we keep going to the bank.
That being said, life is all about risk, just weigh the pros n cons.

nnuku Sexy pant-like boxers. 08170506432 Order now said...

Keep it na abi
You av already decided.

Zinny Chocolate said...

Sit him down and talk about this sex issue with him. Its either he wait for you or you break it up amicably with him. Sex isn't what you go about having just because he already promised to marry you. What If he doesn't marry you tmrw? Then you will regret ever given in to his demands. Be sensible and know that some men ain't worth it at all.

SDK MISTRESS said...

Babes your testimony would have been complete if it was I dated for 4 years and married as a virgin @28...
My dear between now and next year, a lot can happen. But I wish you well sha

SDK MISTRESS said...

Judge Judy have missed you, where went thou?
Pls change this intro in the new year, this one don old ooo

success micheal said...

"Do not give dogs what is sacred
#WORD


@FREEMAN

Classic Chic! said...

But its been 4+yrs , y d sudden change?

So he dsnt want to lay down money for wedding but
Wants u to lay punani down abi?

Don't give in. That,that is good is worth waiting for

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Mscheww, you are dating a boy and not a man.
Does your body belong to him that he wants sex?
What guarantee do you have that he will marry you even after the sex?
Please, free him. He needs to grow up first

Lacey Love said...

You just nailed it. poster just take this advice.

blogprincess said...

Issorai

Anonymous said...

Smh

Nonye Inspired (James Bond's Girl) said...

Poster Please listen to Oriaku Stella..This sex is overrated i swear..You will regret it if u give him your virginity, let him go he is not a serious person at all..

FOOTBALLMOLE said...

Dont ever force him to propose/settle down with you.What's yours will always be yours with or without s3x...

Imu Wiya said...

Poster, don't allow him blackmail you cos there's absolutely no guarantee that he won't renege on his words about marriage after he has sex with you. A word is enough for the wise

temmy yemmy said...

If he place you on a condition then let him GO. Anyway u know wat's best 4 u.

@Tee_y

Atheist ™ said...
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Atheist ™ said...

Or anus....

Martins Aboy said...

@poster;its just A matter of personal decision..(wont say you are selfish tho,cos we all have our choices to make in life)

One thing you need to understand is that the way the hormones of A man work isnt same as that of A woman(especially when aroused)..

If he is acting up because of you not giving in to sex;just know its quite normal for most men..
but if he breaks up with you cos of that reason;he never deserved you at first..

Love is patient and understanding!! **remember that**

On the other hand;you know what you need...if you cant give in,then be ready for one out of three..

1) he either cheats with some other lady and still play along with you

2) He leaves you after he must have tasted another ladies cookie

3)He endures and wait for the D-day..

#goodluck

@MARTINS ABOY

Anonymous said...

Don't give in to dis guys cheap Antics! If u give in,he wld chop u and clean mouth!let him go! His not ur husband! God Wld Give U Your Own Husband! Just Pray And Watch God Perform Wonders!

Anonymous said...

Let him go. He doesn't want you. If he does, let him marry. You are not a baby and you are ready for marriage.

Loveme Jeje said...

Na wa. Keep your virginity and lose the mofo. If the guy is rich and handsome give him, if brokeass throw him inside lawma dustbin.

Brown Sucre said...

Follow your heart,he won't stay after sex,so choose,once a man gives a condition like this,it means,he is not into the situationship again.
You have the yam and the knife.

peace maker said...

Had a fine yellow tall babe like this in the past.When she visited me for the fourth time, I tried to enjoy her but was doing guy. I cajoled + promise to give her d money she has been asking me and the money big ooo. After so much petting she allowed me to suck her very big yellow boobs.If I carry my hand go under she go hold am tight like Wonder Woman. When I got tired of her shenanigans I just allow her to be. She enjoyed my Mr Biggs fried rice with salad +chicken +fruit juice
When she want go she asked me the money I promised her.I gave transport money + told dat I made d promise cox I expected her to give me her something to do. But since she no allow me I will not give her d money. She started raining insults on me in different languages. She for even beat me join if not that I am tall and athletically built. I even thought she will return the transport money due to her annoyance but no way

Christy Odoo said...

All this men n cookie jar..
Poster my 2 cents,,,
Don't give him the cookie... I'd he respects nd loves u well enough. He shud wait for wedding night...even if he proposes,, don't give him...

Anonymous said...

hold on to ur virginity

Monkeynofine said...

Keep your virginity since u already 1! Stop dating and face your life. It's difficult to find a man who can cope in a relationship without zez!

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

"Someone who is "

Blossom said...

Men these days prefer to have it before the wedding so you are the one who will decide if you can compromise. But yet again,if you do,will he marry you?

Tilly said...

Stella where my comment na?

Anonymous said...

La petite u have bad luck.

treasures said...

LA petite what happened. is it the issue of fake pop,if it is something can still be done.some ppl are fraudulent, report them asap to support

DonMayor said...

Wetin happen @ La petite ?

Anonymous said...

Kwakwakwakwa...
Hahahahahahahahahaha...
Onye ara!...

Atheist ™ said...

That man prick don die since 1992, why should he be bothered? Your chronicle de load...

Anonymous said...

He wants to leave you but doesn't want to go empty handed that y he's disturbing u fr sex. Avoid him fr now cos he can rape u since u don't want to give in. Let him go. There r a million n one guys who would kill to find a virgin in dis corrupt era where sex is nothing anymore. Stand firm in what u believe in. Goodluck

Cookie said...

Always on point as usual, but I want to ask: why would he wait for 4 years just to have sex with her?? And can't he just get sex elsewhere?? I'm not supporting the guy or anything but like Stella said,chooese the one that's most important to you poster!!!

Daisee.... said...

Lol... James James... I hail ooπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ

Cookie said...

I'm cookie and nobody is giving ME away..... πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Anonymous said...

Babe, he has already told you when he is proposing to the main chick and when they are getting married but you are still in denial. My advice, please don't give in. I am 90% sure he wouldn't marry u even if u do. My dear I understand u, I am also a virgin, it's not that u don't want to, but it's something u already built up in your mind that till u get married that's why u are scared.
I have been in your situation, trust me, after he persuaded me and I refused he moved on to the next girl after all d 'I go die on top your matter. Please and please don't.

Adanne said...

That got me, she told him to propose, haha haha haha, umunwanyi, have some self respect bikonu.

Please leave that guy, don't be bullied.

Anonymous said...

LA petite how did that happen. Did u pay and the person didn't confirm?

Anonymous said...

Then how will she marry. Senseless fool

Anonymous said...

MMM did not defraud you but your fellow participants like you.

Anonymous said...

It doesn't get more tight with age,virginity keeps you physically and mentally safe.illicit sex comes with loads of consequences,avoid it like a plague,follow the bible and you will never make mistakes.

Inimitable said...

Hahahaha. U cldn
t hv said it berra

Anonymous said...

God bless you for this comment,if I tell you how virginity help me eh

Anonymous said...

Your head correct,her body belongs to her husband so she must not share it with a boyfriend.

Monkey Face said...

It's sooooooooo not true

Oyanu Enenche said...

Free the guy, let him go jor

General Zod said...

Break up for a while. He will come back later and wait some more.

Atheist ™ said...

Lol... As the Maje that you IS nau...

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Lmao,I'm with you on this one.It's ok if you want to remain a Virgin or you're celibate and want to remain so.It's totally your choice.But don't expect me to go on the journey with you,that's do unfair.I keep saying it,I personally can't be in a sexless relationship,mbanu!!

Truth is,the niggur has really tried.I can't say why he wants it now,but if you don't want to give in yet,then be ready to let him go,cuz truth is there's no guarantee he'll marry you even after you cave.Choice is totally yours.

Cisca Chesca said...

La petite, how?
Plz explain before I enter one chance.

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

He is coming home next year? Meaning he doesn't reside here? Mscheeew,abeg shift jare.We are talking about people who see each other often and still maintain their stance on the 'no sex' thingy.Personally,I can't deal.

Cisca Chesca said...

Lol
You never disappoint.

Cisca Chesca said...

Gbam

Baby Oku said...

Anon 15:5. U have a distance relationship. Wait until he comes back to u in person. Then u can start ur testimony as @sdk mistress said.

Plus nigga is fucking steady and masturbating steady.. hope u knw that.

Soji wale said...

Onyeoma learn to suck prick... It will buy u time...

Anonymous said...

Bia June abi July is my Quenn and boss ur mate? Is that how u address ur mom or u don't know that woman can birth not only u but the first son of ur mother? Take ur time n be guided! Mschwee

L Angelique said...

Dear Poster, snoop first to know if there is someone giving him for free or not. Why the sudden change on when he wants to get married.
Don't give ooooooo! Hold your two ears don't give if not you will come back here for another chronicle!

Anonymous said...

Lol @ Sdk mistress. U are mouthed tho! Be guided as well

Anonymous said...

Doppeginger abi Wetin them dey call u? U too like long talk. Always try to summarize mbok! Is that how u talk in real life?

Anonymous said...

Anony, ibiakwa! Which one is seriousness bully again? U go fear English on this blog. Ok bye!

Anonymous said...

Afi don't give 'inn' una no go kill me hereπŸ˜‚

Anonymous said...

Gbam@ Awesome R✅✅

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Do not get upset with people or situations, both are powerless without your reaction*

Anonymous said...

U re πŸ’―% Correct u slim someborry but how long did u keep ur own kpekus/Virginity? Na queshion oh no pun intendedπŸ™„

Anonymous said...

Peace marker ask am oh! Am not understanding this I no wan do I wan do for these children. Did I read the part we kiss? Hehehe *evil laugh*

Atheist ™ said...

She must have hurriedly confirmed a fake uploaded teller without receiving alert from her bank.... That na, one click, one chance na... Don't condemn MMM cus of ur mistakes, abi would u call a bank fraud if ur ATM is stolen and made use of?

Anonymous said...

Sandy say after me

Lose
Lose
Lose


You're welcome Omalicha😘😘

Anonymous said...

Dear poster, please keep your viginity.have u sat down to think about GOD.I have had sex 3 times and I contacted deadly infection that refused to go..I took every drug I knew for years I even worked in one of the best hospitals in v.I.until I returned back to my maker and asked for mercy and vowed to serve him and never engage in pre Martial sex..GOD had mercy and healed me..poster its not everybody that is preveilage to receive GOD'S mercy..read 1st and 2nd Samuel.. Leave him to go..A good man will come...bless you

Nike Victoria said...

James James only u all dis tin happen to nna na wah o

Anonymous said...

Oh puleesssss July! When did u lose ur virginity? @12yrs I guess. Everybody be giving advice as if they re better. Anyway, I blame those bringing their matter on faceless blog hence every nitwit dishing advice. Mschweeee

Anonymous said...

Bloody Atheist, End time Atheist! U too like Nkogheri

Anonymous said...

Gbagam!

Anonymous said...

Absolutely✅

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Can you ever change this your comment? Like have you ever written another comment apart from this one?

Anonymous said...

You must have confirmed a payment that was not credited to your acct,call the participant,some upload wrong slip just to buy time so they won't be blocked.The onus is on you to ensure the credit is actually in ur acct before you confirm payment.report the participant with the detail to SUPPORT.

Anonymous said...

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Ibu onye apari

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Anonymous said...

I suspect he wants to dump you so after waiting this long he wants to eat the cookies before leaving. I agree with Stella if he makes it a condition for staying in the relationship then don't give him.

Anonymous said...

Have bin dating my boo for years naw as in since sec we dan start and still togeda till university stage..he has bin keeping me And my virginty dou we do d simplicity...so babe cool down,if he is ur true guy he will surely kip and respect ur decision

ukwu dimond said...

Rubbish, tell him to go to hell for all you care, babe never you open the cookie for him.

Jumiasalesagent contactme. said...

LMAO..'I told him to propose' na wa o ,I thought marriage proposals are surprise kind of thing..this one you are asking him to propose..

Yemi7up said...

He is just looking for an excuse to leave you, a man that could wait this long and you guys didn't have any problem is either seeing someone else or he is talking to wrong people telling him its better to test before marriage. Poster thank God you are not garri they eat before buying, tell him you are well concealed like peak tin that is sealed and you can only have a taste after payment so he should do the needful first and eat the cookie. God bless you.

Jenny zee said...

Lol u nor de tiya.. judge Rinder

Yemi7up said...

Then if he has tried then he should marry her now or let her be.

ukwu dimond said...

Is better

Jenny zee said...

So because of imbeciles like u that thinks everybody laughs at your stupidity and foolishness,she shouldn't obey God? U are a foool

Yemi7up said...

Cookie you are right or he is talking to wrong minds that have polluted his.

Jasmine said...

Richbee, r u trying to say it's only those that want sex that are involved in relationship?

Jasmine said...

The guy try? Abegi!!! I know a couple that the man waited for 10 good years. The wife doesn't say it coz she thinks it makes the husband look weak but guy man dey talk am always and it's a thing of pride to him

Anonymous said...

Someone got engaged to a girl just so he could take her virginity. Left as soon as he ate d cookie. My dear. Learn from this.

Jasmine said...

Kikikikiki.

Dude, you are mad sha

Jasmine said...

Gbam!!!

Jasmine said...

Don't o...

Don't listen to this advise biko

Bunny PJ said...

Please if he wants to go, let him bounce!! You decided to keep your virginity, you alone should decide to lose it, don't let anyone pressurise you into giving in, he's been with you forever this long, a few more years won't kill him if he really wants to marry you.

DonMayor said...

Lol

viva ciara said...

Lol
You are a very stupid somborri

la petite said...

@others, it's not that I was paired and the person didn't pay. I wasn't even paired. My friends too weren't paired. One of them did 500k since September till now they refused to pair her. The other did 250k they didn't pair her since October. They have written to support, they were asked not to write again. They've given up. This season is too bad for one to be scammed like this. I don't know my offence. My friends too don't know. It's really painful. I have proofs.

Anonymous said...

We were together for 3yrs before he traveled out late last year, and yes, he's a complete man because we do kiss and I do feel him

Anonymous said...

Putting the cart before the horse.
How do you reason again?

Marjorie

BeQuiet Instead said...

Most of the BVs' comments lay blame on this guy but no one remembers where poster says they kiss....obviously do other things. Poster, and other young ladies in her shoes, I notice your concern is on marrying a virgin which is not actually (sexual) purity.

Poster, what were you doing since FOUR solid years plus with this guy? You must have been leading him on once in a while but when he wants to have sex with you, you then remember your virginity.

I advice young women, virgins or not, to flee ALL appearances of the devil in the area of pre-marital sex, IF YOU WANT TO REMAIN SEXUALLY PURE, if you do not want sex before marriage, do not touch, kiss, caress, smooch each other, FLEE AND FLEE don't tempt a man and expect him to keep mute because he loves you.

It is ONLY God's grace that can keep a prospective couple from sexual immorality before marriage when they are 'dating'for more than ONE YEAR in this age and time, ONLY GRACE.

Let those who have ears hear what the Spirit says. Amen.

Anonymous said...

I experienced same scenario, I allowed him to go,4yrs later, our parts crossed and we have been married for 3years.

xceptionalchild said...

my dear,SEX outside marriage is not right..most times,we dont understand why we shouldnt express our love to our partners in this way but u hv to simply obey God knowing that he knows more than u could ever know..i hv two things to say to u
1)u dont get married just to have sex.marriage isnt about sex.u shouldnt hv told him to marry u if he wants to sleep with u
2)every man wants to hv sex..infact,any one who is dating u shld feel attracted to u and look forward to sleeping with u but a man that loves u will consider God's law,thats if he is godly and secondly,ur interest..if a man loves u,he doesnt issue ultimatums to u just so u will sleep with him.he cares more about ur wants than the sex.so my dear,dont sleep with him..some one who claims to love u does not foerce u into giving him ur body.

Anonymous said...

I disagree with Richbee. Look ehn poster, I dated my hubby for 9 years and we didn't have sex until we got married, infact he couldn't penetrate me on our wedding night sef. If this man wants to marry you, he'll wait for you. Your virginity is your pride dear.
Ps: I married @28

Anonymous said...

What do i know. Let me sha read comments.

Chidinma Gift said...

No don't give it to him please, if he can't wait let him go.

Anonymous said...

Anon 17:33 you're even more gloriously stupid than Queen. Shameless less of a woman.....I pray they eat your daughter's too. Disgrace to womanhood. Because you sold your virginity doesn't mean if is appropriate. See women that can birth children but can't advice them not to sell their body...rusty brained she-goats.

OmaBuoro said...

My dear don't give him your body he doesn't deserve you.my husband waited because he said why rush what you will eat forever.I believe if he is yours he will wait.The man that is for you will come.I have great respect for virgins no matter what people think.

Anonymous said...

Don't mind, this chronicle people always need this your message. Welicoome madam.

Anonymous said...

As soon as you give him the cookie, you will start feeling guilty and to compensate you will agree to give him the cookie anytime he wants it. Which will be a lot. After everything you will discover him gradually distancing himself from you and giving you excuses. Until you find out that you are the side chick or just the one he bangs for free and he has someone else he is seriously planning to marry. Then your heart will be broken. I could be wrong ooo. It's your decision. But if what I have said eventually happens, you have got no one but your self to blame.

Anonymous said...

So you mean a relationship always has to be about sex? This your lousy mentality is what is wrong with the world today.

Anonymous said...

He is obviously showing you he is all about your pussy, him no fit hide am again. Also he knows he will eventually leave you, so he wants to taste it first before he moves on. Poster are you a commodity? If you like chook head. Stella has said it all.

Anonymous said...

Exactly!

Anonymous said...

17:58 what did July say wrong? You are trying to bully her. Na wa ooo. I am sure she no send you sef.

Anonymous said...

My dear poster you are not a house. You are a dear princess created by God. Follow the instructions of your manufacturer, who is God, who dearly loves you and wants the best for you. The atheist doesn't believe in your manufacturer, so he can liken you to a house. So tell me after the man has browsed you like a house and seen he doesn't want you, he will just dump you? Brazen shallowness and lack of commitment. Poster stick to what will give you peace.

Anonymous said...

And 18:03, men who kiss and tell are not men, worse than boys they are asswipes.

Anonymous said...

You are soooooooo cheap! Tueh!

Anonymous said...

Rubbish!

Rib said...

Weigh the consequence(s) of saying yes or no to his request. Be sure you are ready to face the outcome.
Remember, giving your body to a man does not make him stay faithful or stay with you forever. Be wise, let wisdom guide you because it is profitable to direct.

Anonymous said...

Hey this is not going to get serious with you my dear your relationship with him is like living with his sister. Something you needs to know the service you are paying for. On that guy mind right now is what if? So my dear figure out what you really want with this man. Body non be firwwood.for 4 years.

Anonymous said...

So because she has lost her virginity, she shouldn't support someone that wants to preserve hers? World pipu!

Anonymous said...

*upholstery

peace maker said...

@Bequiet instead, you are d second intelligent and wise person here after me. Romantic kissing among unmarried couple is also a sin as the having sex itself in the eyes of the Lord.

Anonymous said...

na wa for men o. me wey be 35 wey just meet a guy wey dey ask for sex nko after i told him no sex before marriage/ its in their gene. men love sex mostly if they are attracted to you. that is why i love churches wey no dey support relationship except you are ready for marriage.

Ronalda. said...

My darling, a man who truly loves you may huff and puff and threaten to pull the roof down when he is sexually frustrated because you refuse him sex but he will not leave you. He may satisfy his desires elsewhere but he wouldn't call off the wedding plans just because you choose chastity.‎

That you are a virgin doesn't mean you have to be obtuse and naive. You can be street smart and well grounded in the way the mind of the average man works. You can't keep a man from cheating on you ‎with sex, no matter how good the sex is. At best he will cling to you because he enjoys what you dish out but he still wouldn't be faithful, so perish the thought that giving him your virginity make him faithful. Even if you decide to sleep with him, remember you're a rookie and you can't become a "sex goddess" overnight, it takes practice. For a guy who knows the joy of sex, he may find your 1st encounter with him, boring and that might as well chase him off. The point I'm trying to pass across is, having sex with him now could be counterproductive because the very thing you thought would keep him will be the very thing that would make him leave you.

I find it curious and a bit peculiar that a guy who could wait and has been waiting for four and a half years suddenly implores the fire brigade approach in demanding sex from you. Something is wrong. I also noticed you stated that you asked him to propose so you guys could get married and you were delighted when he said he will do so next year. Are you sure he's in a relationship with you because of marriage? I have noticed a lot of ladies mistakenly assume being in a relationship with a guy must lead to the Altar, this isn't so. A guy who desires to have you as his wife, doesn't need prompting nor bargaining. Marriage isn't necessarily the license to have legitimate sex, marriage is way more complex than having sex without judgment.

If I were you, I'll choose my virginity over a guy who, in spite of the years we've been together, can act cold because I refuse to compromise on a decision we both agreed on at the beginning of the relationship. For all you know, he may have found someone else but doesn't want to breakup with you without first "sampling your goods" in order not to make his years of waiting wasted. Some guys are cunning like that. This sudden change in his behaviour is tethered to something sinister. Please, honey, tread with caution. Don't have sex with him because I can promise you, you will regret it. You've come too far to give it up just like that. If he truly loves you and hopes to marry you, he would wait.

#e-bearhugs.‎

Anonymous said...

He wants to eat cookies. End time boyfriend.

Anonymous said...

He wants to eat cookies. End time boyfriend. @ nattnathaniel say so

Hadey Halaba said...

Hey poster,
I'll be blunt and short
No sex or plenty sex in a relationship dosent guarantee nothing. While sex helps couple bond better, but hey, u guys ain't a couple sex.

* be prepared to loose the guy if u give him sex
* be prepared to loose him if u don't give him sex

Either way, a good guy will remain with you always but he will find a way around it if
*he is already sexually active.

All is well with you ma.

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