STAND ALONE NARRATIVE -UPDATE
RE- WHEN YOUR BOO HAS A BOO
Read the first story here
Read the first story here
Dear Stella,
I'm the same person who wrote about the cheating Boyfriend. Nne I'm just tired and confused. The story long but I'll shorten it.
So on Friday, after reading Your advice and that of BV's. I deceive to do some more snooping and guess what? The lady has 3 kids (Grown ups) and all guys.
Men and their different needs and wants!!!! God help us..
So whilst I was snooping, I mistakenly added her on Facebook and cancelled the add when I noticed. Hoping she had over looked it o. Before I woke up the next day, I saw messages from the lady. Talking too much.
Nne I will attach pictures for both you and BV's. Na so I just replied saying it's a mistake add and she replied me with that which I was afraid to hear. See attachments below. The thing tire me! I'm literally confused as to how to react in this situation.... Help me ooooooo. Help me receive some sense.
This is going to be hard for me to understand and bear. I need to realize it's over Stella..... I'm very sure that this lady has reached out to him but he doesn't want to call. I'll just keep quite because that's the best I can do atm.
Nne Jisike. Thank you so much for this help
Nne Jisike. Thank you so much for this help
Did I forget to mention she referred to my relationship as PAST!!!! Didn't know we broke up o
WOW...I think at this stage a confrontation is very necessary..WTF....
serial bullshit!
Dont keep quiet and do goody two shoes,it wont get better from this point on,you need to ask questions.DO NOT GO AND VISIT HIM AGAIN.
Speak to her and tell her EVERYTHING!!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster, you guys never marry na, why you wan tanda for there? Commot na. If you no commot how you go fit see fresh man marry? Wetin again you want make we tell you? E no better sey you don know now? Abegi I don commot.
DeleteMy dear, Like I said earlier, tell her all she needs to know na... is it only you that will come and go and be hurting? Heia....
DeleteWhat are you waiting for before you confront cheating bobo? No time to waste na... someone who will make you happy is closer than you think. What are you afraid of? Hurt? don't you know it is part of life?
Face your fears,prepare for the worst and look forward to a beautiful future.
Tips for handling heart break:
Cry belle full
Pray to God to heal you
Begin to day dream of a beautiful relationship that you look forward to having
Keep loved ones around
Give it time and you will be fine, looking back at this time and wondering why u didn't trust the process.
Best advice. Tell her everything then leave them both alone
DeleteAll I can see is a timid girl.
DeleteHere's the key;
DeleteNo 1.If ure a single lady and you snoop and notice that your boo is married with kids, then you should first of all thank God for the revelation.
No 2. Then gather all the necessary facts that you need before thinking of confronting him about it. Of course you don't expect him to simply agree when u have 'spoilt' his game for you.
No 3. And finally, drop him like a hot pot. Just let go of things ASAP and move on with ur life.
Will u be hurt??? .. Yes!!
But it's better ure hurt now than become a baby mama for a man who already is married and will be blocking possible suitors for me.
You will heal with time.
Hope no be Manny for London? Cos he is very married
DeleteI'm very sorry dear, take heart and find yourself into the market as you're now very single and ready to mingle. The guy is a complete time waster, God will punish him
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Poster,maybe the man is just using the woman to pass time since you are not around. I think he wants to marry you. I don't think he will want to settle down with a woman with three children. At this point in time,you have to confront him and see his own side of the story.
DeleteHe wants to marry her and lied to a woman with 3 boys that his relationship with her was in the past? Hian!!!
DeleteI guess the man is rich that's why ure trying so hard to reach out to him..
DeleteAs for me, this is the best Christmas gift u an get. Please leave the man and run for ur life. A married cheat is the worst cheat u can think of.
Listening mode activated!
ReplyDeleteFree d guy Abeg.
DeleteTell the lady everything and hear what she will say, she sounds matured
DeleteCan you please put some more info on here? I'm married to a Mannie/Emmanuel. We're civilly married and we've done the traditional marriage. We're currently planning the white wedding and we have a baby but we don't live together yet due to his work, he lives in another state but we plan on moving together in a couple of months when I switch jobs to his state. I don't think this is my Emmanuel but one can never be too careful these days. More info on you guys' Mannie/Emmanuel please.
DeleteJust negodu! Men with their deceit and lies! Gosh!!!
ReplyDeleteBia Sandy,I saw your reply on my comment about Laura's proposal.I really do like you especially cuz of you've been a giver on this blog.Let's keep it that way.That's all I'll say for now.
DeleteYou will just kill yourself for nothing.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what else you want to hear, the man has obviously told her about you even though he mentioned you in the past but he has never mentioned her to you.
So it's cLear where you stand with him
Confrontation or not, this man is not yours to keep. Move on already.
I remember telling you not to stalk for your peace of mind but like the stubborn goat you still did and I hope you're ready for more heartache.
Ngwanu, go and Confront him with hour discovery.
First, he'd blame you for not trusting him and snooping. Make you feel stupid and you'd hurt more.
He now knows you know reason he hasn't called. Let it go and ignore him too just as he has.
Doppelganger that is were you are wrong. Him telling the lady about her doesn't mean he likes the lady more. Which man would tell his wife or main girlfriend about the other girl? It is always the other way round. In fact catch the man red handed if he likes you a lot he would still deny knowing the other girl. Talking from experience. The other girl obviously knew about me but when I suspected via Facebook about her the idiot denied. I was engaged to him. Introduction date fixed. He denied having anything to do with the chick in front of his family too but the girl obviously knew I was there but I didn't know why she was stupid enough to still agree to be with him. Well in my case It was the case of 99 days for thief and one day for the owner. In this case they were both the thieves....lol! God saved and delivered me from them.So she might not be the side chick just cos he told the other lady about her while she doesn't know the other lady exist.
DeleteIfe ne eme ma sister things are happening na waooo ITS OWK.....
ReplyDeleteHonestly , I do not think you should ask questions.
ReplyDeleteWe all know it's over, silence in this case is golden.
Let him figure it out.
Poster do everything and anything in your power not to reach out.
Speaking to a male friend of mine , dude kept all men know what they want . They might choose to string people along till they find the 'one' which I find totally distasteful .
It is well poster , I can assure y
Abeg Poster leave that Mad man....
DeleteHe is not worth it mbok
@Galore
*saying
Delete*You
@Poster, now I know you can never be wise again even if d doctors open your brain it'll not WORK.
ReplyDelete@Tee_y
Silence is golden.
DeleteDon't bother calling him,try and heal,then if he calls,it will be easy on your part to confront him with a clear head.
Don't call him.
Let him go.
Madam.are u still on this case? Why is it too hard for u to accept reality and move on? Why is it too hard for u to get a man in d country u live to love u ? Stop acting rude,unreachable & too hard to get to them.
ReplyDeleteJixox!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou v got to have respect for that name @Akinbobola...
DeletePoster kindly confront him with this munch and get to hear what he has to say. If he keeps denying her then kindly walk away from that rship...
Noted!!!
DeleteYou've been a side chick all along and probably the reason the real wife goes to the mountain. Some men are just plain evil, leave him alone now you know that he's married.
ReplyDeleteThis story just reminded me of my roommate who was dating a soldier that's married(unknown to her). Because of this yeye soldier, she turned a blind eye to her other toasters because the soldier felt so real. This soldier man, usually allow him visit his camp, introduced her to his friends as his "unilag iyawo", funny thing is that this friends knew he was married but they would smile with her and call her "our wife". She became comfortable with all of them(they are all soldiers), had their numbers, would gist with them, He even got her a soldier's jacket and she was allowed to wear it with them in their camp...
It was this same facebook that saved her oo, she was snooping, clicked on mutual friends and bla bla bla. Apparently, her bf impregnated the wife and has a child with the wife. They had done their introduction and engagement ceremonies but the girl went back to school and the child is with the girl's parents.
Now, the girl is back to Lagos and soldier man has stopped calling my roommate, I guess the real wife found out about my roommate. When my roommate confronted his friends, the friends were still trying to defend the soldier boyfriend and we're telling her "they thought she knew" when they clearly know she had no idea of a wife. The friends too are doing the same thing, most of them are married but would throw their wedding rings away because they want to 'chop and clean mouth'
My roommate eventually left his sorry ass alone and she's moved on now.
....so my dear poster, move on but don't do it without teaching him a lesson -the nerve of him!
My dear, that's how Facebook saved me too o from one short Yoruba demon I met on snm, He even has 2 facebook accounts and I discovered he's been married since 2011. I confronted him and he still denied it . Men!!!! Thank God I refused to see him before my discovery, I just jejely blocked the fool . Ladies shine your eyes, be extra careful, don't be swept away by there sweet mouth, dem full snm.
DeletePoster please move on, pray for God to send your own man to you. I know it hurts but you'll be fine. All the best
Na waoh
DeleteSee epistle.. Lol
DeleteAtheist, I have noticed you
DeleteHow are you?
Lol, i'm fine
DeleteChooooi
ReplyDelete@Poster,in order words the same prik that hv been forking ur Toto skin to skin is doing same to that of a mother of 3 grown up guys.
ReplyDeleteMbok, look for another guy, this ship has sailed or one of the is the sidechic.
ReplyDeleteHe's gonna come back begging watch out!
Give it time.. You will heal!!!
ReplyDeleteJust move on already,you already know what you need to know.
ReplyDeleteNever make anyone a priority when you're only an option to them.....cry if you must but pls move on...I know it's easier said than done but pls, try and move on......
ReplyDeleteMy dear jux move on, no need gettin to d root of the issues jux move on with ur life
ReplyDeletePerson no fit use name in Peace. Na wa o
DeleteIt is well.oooooo
ReplyDeletePoster please move on.
Pls if you need a flatmate or roommate I am available
ReplyDeletePoster, you are over flogging the issue. Just let go mbok. Or do you still want to be in a relationship with yourself? Or play second fiddle? I bet they will be rubble their various tummies while on bed and laughing at how much of an understanding pathetic desperate driven fool you have been. Don't give them that satisfaction. God will heal you, I know it's not easy.
ReplyDeleteJust negodu!
ReplyDeleteIf ur wife is pregnant and u're honey,what shd the person do?Any one who can help drop ur number
ReplyDeleteHave sex with your pregnant wife ode did they tell you that being pregnant stops the woman from having sex.
DeleteHave sex with your pregnant wife. Give her a good massage, rub her feet and the. When rubbing her back, turn her around and slide in from behind. Its a great bonding time for couples before the baby comes and disrupts everything
DeletePoster u already know d type of man he is but u still want to die there. That's d problem with most women, once a man hv been forking u skin to skin for some time,u will hopelessly and shamelessly fall in love with him + he must automatically marry u even when u know d union won't be a happy one.
ReplyDeleteJust forget and move on already
ReplyDeleteBut why re some men like this? Why keep promises you can't fulfil? Is it because of the cookie?
ReplyDeleteNoooo talk to him. Were you born yesterday. A woman is saying you are past and you want to move on. No free. Hear it from your man. These women be lying to push out the competition. Your man may not be sleeping with her
ReplyDeleteIs this Manny resident in abuja? Is he Igbo? If he is the one i am thinking, he's my friend on Facebook and I think he's a nice guy. My dear confront him and after that withdraw from the relationship. Don't over think it or go jumping on another relationship o. Just withdraw.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,if i were you i will put a strain in that their relationship. Its obvious that shameless old cargo is claiming your man.Go back to her page and tell her that Emmanuel is using her to hold body,because after everything he will still come back to you and you will see they will scatter and your guy will come back to you but don't go back to him,i repeat don't go back.Torture that lady with words,i just don't understand why they always think they own our men.Nonsense
ReplyDeleteNice comment dear ...Torture dat lady with words b4 u move on,Tell her all u know about the man
DeleteUmu nwoke. Na wa
ReplyDeleteSorry o. You be side chikito. How come he prefers after 3 than you the omoge. Check your self and move on
Poster, move on leave this man with his baggages. You will be fine...
ReplyDelete#A bad habit is like a nice soft bed, it’s easy to get into and hard to get out of*
ReplyDeleteHmmm, *the fear to start all over again....!!
ReplyDeleteLol@ I ask with respect and confidence.
ReplyDeleteThis his girl is not playing.
Whatever you do,don't go harrasing her.
If you can't let go...confront the so called Bobby or Robby. Hopefully he doesn't scream at you and then lie to your face.
Confront him and just make up your mind to move on. He's not straight forward.
ReplyDeleteAre u still on dis matter Nne? U no go waka go? U wan die put for dat Dumbfuck? U had beta delete d guy frm ur system!u already know wat u want to know so wats ur stress? Move on jor! Stella sd she wd do anoda single and mingle ds december, mk u do apply!maybe u wld meet ur mr right der! I wsh u d best of luck inugo?
ReplyDeleteI know it really hard 2 move on, but u just have 2 move on,cos d man is gone.....when will men stop cheating???
ReplyDeleteSome men can be very wicked sha.
ReplyDeleteChallenge him with the facts.
Fb evidence cannot be contradicted.
If he denies it, tell him to rebutt what the lady is said by writing on her wall that she should stop trying to ruin his relationship.
Confrontation? That won't be necessary. Ask him for flight fare since you are due to visit him, then quietly walk away. good riddance.
ReplyDeletePlease tell that woman everything and just move on quietly
ReplyDeleteConfrontation with serious washing... Mtcheeew
ReplyDeletePoster, move on with your life. Learn not to go into relationship without investigation in the future. A year and four months is enough to know if a guy actually have a lady in his program. Stop trusting men when you have not tested them. Involve God in your next relationship but remember the God you do not obey will not take you serious when you need him.
ReplyDeleteIs well.
ReplyDeleteEya pele...as said Before prepare ur hrt for d worst n be ready to move on, which has finally come...Time is a Healer n pain is a teacher..move on n maybe ur perfect Match is @ d corner dear time will tell.
ReplyDeletePretend nothing is going till he comes visiting ask confront him esp why he told the lady that u are his ex
ReplyDeleteListen to him cos the lady might be lying to you so Dt u will breakup with hi, calm down & don't act too fast nothing good comes easy. But if he is married to the lady Pls try & break up with him.