There's no formula to these things Jare. If u are lucky, you get a good wife or husband, career woman/man or not. I pray to be lucky.
Lol... Everyone wants to trend
Please lets not be silly, don't state 2 extremes & leave out viable & plausible middle grounds.More often than not, homes will do well & happiness will reign when the mother does work that allows her focus on her family & even herself. Our fathers weren't saints, but most of our mothers were able to raise decent children pre 1990 generation. Once mothers began pursuing careers & sometimes equality with men, homes began to deteriorate. From 1990 banks grew, hiring women as marketers, using them as bait, later other companies joined. Its not been the same ever since. More often than not, pursuing a proper well paying career leaves the worst casualties; ill brought up kids, broken homes, infidelity, name it. Doesn't mean its a 100% guarantee that the middle ground is always best, but quite often homes with mummy being often available are happier, more stable.
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Foolish Ezralana Design or what. You are just foolish.Career women makes the best. Go and ask before you bring foolish statement here.
Either way, being a good wife is not a direct function of these two factors. I've seen housewives who are careless in the home front as well as career women. Being a good wife is a virtue. In these times though, it's makes more sense when the woman supports the man. The house wife thingy is no longer appealing.
I am domineering by nature and my hubby tells me sometimes that he is grateful to the Almighty that he doesn't need a kobo from me. Lol. Know yourself and pray for the best situation.
Abegiiii, this one na mumu talk. so i should seat at home and wait for the man to buy common bra and "pata". I dey come you hear, how would you take care of eventualities?? oya answer the question oooooo
That is not true pls! I wont blame you because you are entitled to your opinion . I am a career woman and i am a very good wife yes i said that. i have time for my family i am very successful in my career and hubby is not threatened . So run along and housewife
This person has nothing to say. Probably woke up from sleep with cerebral edema. Mtshewww
mschew wots this one saying? She just wants to trend n Stella nwunye Korkus had given her 5 mins of fame.
Real men are not intimated by careers women.This tweet was to trend and create unnecessary chaos.Even in the olden days, our mother worked either as farmers or petty traders.A man who sees or thinks a woman should be a house wife clearly doesn't like her or his children. So when he dies tomorrow, where does that leave her? How does she start? Then she has in laws who come in and swoop away with what he has worked for then she turns to begging. Enough said, if you are a woman and you look to a man to provide everything you need up to your pad then you're as good as useless. It's different if you are job hunting but to just deliberately sit back and call yourself housewife huh.
Can't see pictures sef
Lemme read comments...
Hmm.. so this young Doctor I met 4 months ago that calls me his future wife suddenly wants to borrow money from me? Red alert! I don't know the type of men out there these days. I took off with my legs touching the back of my head. Me... give my hard earned money to a man... oga, park well well.
Again with the foolishness.1. A career woman can make a fantastic wife and mother. I know quite a number of them. All it takes is a bit of compromise from a loving, understanding, supportive and unselfish man. ( Mind you, these are traits men want in their wives, so there's no reason why they can't be same )2. That a woman has a high flying, successful career does not mean that she's more successful or makes more money than her husband.Her husband could be equally or even more successful. 3. It is only a REAL man who can live with a woman who's more successful, yet not give her stress for being the major breadwinner and at the same time, not be a leech.
BRING BACK OUR COUCH!
There is no clear cut answer to this. Each to her own.For me, Family first, every other follows.If a career woman can balance work and family, I don't see how she won't make a good wife.
It has to do with the person. Some housewives are more draining than career women. The main thing a career woman should master is how to balance domestic duties and office work. An understanding and wise husband is also essential.I have always said it that I will always choose being a career woman over a house wife. I can not allow one man to come and pour his frustration on me because he is the only one paying the bills. I need my money please. What is the essence of life if I do not have my money?
Keep kwayet!!! (In mama peshe's voice)
This is true!..Especially when the woman is the breadwinner!...she won't have any single respect for the husband!...The man have to be doing like a Mumu just to allow peace to reign!...That's why most men that are married to these women dump them after making some money!..On the other hand,it is not good to be a house wife in this age and time!...Get something doing no matter how small!...earn your own cash so you can be able to buy whatever thing you like for your self!...
Everyone has something to say these days #smh.PS: There is nothing like a woman who balances career and home and a man who supports her 100%. I am a very ambitious career woman but the minute I get home or when I'm home, I put on the full cloak of a wife and mother! The greatest danger is a woman who has no source of income and depends on her husband for every single thing. There would be no respect whatsoever. I believe the same way women want career men is the same way men want a financial supporter and not a liability.
The key word there is if she is more successful because men are wired by nature to be the providers and when the women earns more they will like to shift responsibilities to her. which would bring trouble to the home. It's good for a woman to to earn her own money but if she earns more than the hubby or equal to him she should keep quiet.
there are career women who are great, humble and respectful wives and great mothers.what matters is combining both such that non is at the detriment of the other.
So what happens to my dreams,my God given talent?so i hav to let it go just because i wanna get married? For me while growing up,i wasnt raised by just an ordinary woman,i was raised by a super woman who made things happens on her own and while she was it..momma taught humility...so scratch that and speak for your family and stop discouraging women giving it their all*mcheew*why should i wait to demand money for paent when i can ask him to change my wadrope.
Her last paragraph is true for some men.
Please anyone who has 100k that you are not using for 6 months please borrow me let me pump it into my business ejoor e shanu mi.
Y'all need to watch AdannaDavid vlog on YouTube for clarification
Who came to your mind? .you shey?There can be a balance,it depends on the indiviual.
My own story on the topic,3 months to dating my boyfriend now my husband,he start with 30k ,after a year it increase to 50k and I have my salary and with trips outside the country n shopping tons,making sure am very fine. We got married and he increase it to 100k pocket money and I have my twins boys then moved to 200k. I don't even spend much ,bcus I bless people a lot to God be the glory. Now he's asking me how much for my business,cus I am home with my twins. Really for me I don't live 5- 9 job,the main career woman thing no no no,I want to be busy with my own vision business,buying and selling what am interested in and the waking up from 4am from mainland to island? Na work ooo. But if you're a career woman,just give time to your family .
Yeye talk. If you have nothing reasonable to say, why not keep shut?
And this coming from a woman? Soo daftGet married first and start depending on a man for all your needs ehn.. that is when you'll know how important it is to be independent! Olodo
This is your own opinion and it cant be related to everyone....a career woman can be a good housekeeper and not every housewife can keep a home.
And this was written by a woman. Smh. Do you know how many women that are the breadwinners because of one circumstance or another?
Your views please
I don't believe in this talk about career women not making a good wifeYour career cannot stop you from been a good wife depends on your home training and mentality. Know what you want and how to achieve it both in your home and job.
Not completely right thou but up to an extent I agree with her
Hmmmmmmmm brb to read comments. All I know is I will never be a house wife who just collects every every from the hubby. Where the 'respeck' wan come from na in the first place. I refuse to be seen finish by a man. God forbid!!!
Story for the gods. What of the woman shouldering d whole financial burden in d family. Not true at all but to each his/her own
Biko where did all these girls migrate from? I no want vex o. Lolll. She can be a full housewife na her biz and let's see if her hubby will appreciate that for long.
I totally disagree with this...you can always find a way to balance the two but being a full house wife.no way
Well its becomes challenging when there is just one source of income. Most times men feel overwhelm by the pressure, they might not say it. But tru their actions you can tell. By the way being a career woman is as challenging as being a housewife, people need to learn to understand that. I know of a Msc holder who is a complete housewife. Her husband asked her to stay at home and take care of his home .She wakes up by 4am make breakfast for the entire family, get the kids ready for shcool, drive them to school, come back home and start doing dishes and laundry, clean the whole house up and trim the flowers, start making lunch for the husband as he doesn't eat out, goes back to pick the kids from school after making lunch, the driver comes back to pick her husband food and next thing she does is take the kids on extra morals, after that she ensures the kids dont burn down whole house or kill themselves as a result of fighting each other bcoz of who owns which toy. she keeps the whole home intact while waiting for the husband to come back from work eat and carry out her last duty of the day which is a 45 minutes marathon sex. That for me is exhausting. At the end of the day the woman is drained up and the husband expect her to fuck him like his side chick outside would do. So imagine someone doing all of this for a very long time.Worse part is the husband feels she does NOTHING that's why I always advice my friends to work no matter how small the salary is work. Make an income and you both can workout a way of taking care of the home front.
that's a lie from the pit of hell... what matters most is the woman ability to balance her career with her home, she should never allow her career become more of priority to her...
Bollocks.... In this age and time when one job cannot even sustain one person for a month, how can only one man be responsible for the upkeep of an entire family? Times have passed that only men bring income into the family... Housewife ke? I cannot imagine being a full time house wife... Then, why did I go to school? A real woman should learn how to balance family and work... One should not suffer because of the other.
To the person that wrote that thing, is like your brain is paining you?
One has to place an equilibrium between family and work...Very tired,lots of work on my desk.Hollandia yourghut to the rescue for energy!!!😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
I think she's blabbing or dreaming. Those around her should wake her up.
Won't be surprised if this is coming from a jobless, frustrated house wife. Everyone does what suits her. And need I add two incomes in a family makes a formidable force to reckon with. Balancing the work and family life is all that matters. Not encourgaing laziness.....Stells ma, I sometimes wonder where u dig out these....these...these...pheew
Most career women don't make Good wife dat is d truth..Many pursue money and leave their husbands at d mercy of house maids..It is always difficult to balance tins up for some..Although it is very possible to balance all
Godbless you Tet!Your head is more than there.
Well said. while a career woman is busy pursuing cash, her kids her being raised by nannies who end up abusing(physically and sexually) the kids. Their kids end up growing without the motherly attention they need.
Runs girls pleading their case on twitter. I won't even advise my brother to marry a lazy pretender of a woman. It will spoil a generation. Such a fool will find justification for her son's not to do a honest days work. She will twist it that they will be away from home too long. No disrespect to stay at home mums. But idiots like this should be put in their place. Her argument is stupid and senseless. Probably a university drop out hoping to marry from twitter. So the first step is to justify her failure in life.
I have heard a lot of homes crashing because the wife's a successful career woman. I believe a strong man should encourage his wife to build her career . Such marriage would stand the test of time. Both of them should be able to support themselves both in carrier and at home
My good people, pls come to my aid. I've been job hunting for over a year now, yet no luck. I was forced to resign from my former place of work because I was transfered to another location (office politics things) Meanwhile I was a nursing mother then. The financial strain is begining to tell on my husband and our child just started school. Please anyone who can assist me with a job should please help me out. I am based in Lagos and have over 7 years corporate work experience. Thanks and God bless.
You that you are a hustler, married and fucking everything that moves nko? Probably because you are mostly jobless and idle with too much time on your hands. You need work like farm work to upgrade your brain. Your comments are an insult to educated, working and thinking people
There's this new thing where people just seek to land on @instablog9ja and on other blogs. You know, go viral. And they use outrageous posts to get people's reaction. It is not real.
Talking from two sides of your mouth.Jobless woman who finds solace on blogs.You are a housewife also and so find beans to start frying akara.
My dear sandy neky, whenvi buy anything my hubby gives me ×2 back and gift on top. What should i do. He hates when i use my money to buy stuff. The respect he has for me sometimes i thank God no in law lives with us. They will think i did 'something' lol.
Total crap is all there is to this write-up. So a woman is created by her maker to be useless abi? Oshey! clap for yourself. It's even a shame that a woman wrote this.
What's this one saying? Rubbish!
You are right,Linda get something doing no matter how small, so you won't be begging for money to make ur hair
Let her be there yanning dust hissss
Don't mind her jare, anything to get followers hissss
U vex pass me 😂😂😂😂😃
Your last paragraph is bae!
This must be the biggest joke of the century. I earn over 2million a month without much qualification as a career woman plus the extra dough hubby gives life is good biko
So sweet just seeing all of the sweet post now, career woman is the best,who sitting house wife EPP?? just that the kind of a country that we are now, some women never wished to be a sitting house wife doing nothing, but the long and short of it all, career woman is the best.I wish to be one soonest ijn
Conclusion just like that? Single ladies please don't believe this crap! There's nothing like earning your onw money and having a supportive man by ur side. Sometimes I feel spending all days with my kids , seeing them cry whenever I am traveling out of town always breaks my heart but dear I have to run the race! And I am managing it so well⏳
She should zip it already... It depends on individual difference.. My neighbour is a house wife yet her house is always dirty, her son always looks unkempt, she nko? Hmm... Story for another day. she cooks late into the night. She's just too scattered and disorganized for my liking... Is that one not housewife? Spare me jare!
Your husband's gratitude for the fact that he doesn't need a kobo from you speaks volumes.
It depends on the woman's ability to strike a balance between her work and home. Moreover, there's no rule to a successful marriage,just do your best.
Anything DAT rocks ur boat! I think we shld do wot we love.4me, I love being a career woman. Nothing can change DAT.
Abeg who house wife help, even in the olden dayz mothers engaged in petty trade, farming or hand work. Career women rocks biko
She is on her period I can feel it from her that's why she is blabbing, you can't just generalize just like that, I have seen career women that are good and submissive house wives.
Being a career woman can not stop you from being a good wife it all depends on how you plan to manage the two (career and home front) but for house wife I jump and pass no be meooo
But Aunty Stella of life this discussion cushion need to be repaired or replaced biko, na rat chop am okwa ajuju ka m juru
I'm a guy and I can clearly say this is false. Career women can make very good house wives. The only issues I see it BALANCE. If as a career woman you still know how to put your family first and have that balance, then you are already winning. This is why as young men we should be mindful of a woman's job before marriage. When you marry a medical doctor for example, you should be ready to cook your food and sleep alone some days of the week.So if you cant cope, leave matter for mathias.
#If you ever feel like giving up, remember that there's someone out there that looks up to you. Do it for them*
Sharp girl, you are smart and I like you, if you give him that money you will never get is back. Men spend on women not borrow from them. He might use it to take another girl on a dinner date for you know sef.
Being a housewife is one of the toughest Jobs to do, especially abroad. I did it for three years and decided to find my level. Much respect to the house wives in the house!
Well, sad but at least 70℅ true.
My husband used to say that to me before he lost his job and I became the bread winner. He became humble by force o.
People just wake up and want to trend.. You have it You have made it to Sdk blog Adviser of the universe Say no to idleness Say. No to waiting for you man to give you every dime
Lool! Good one @Iya! Honestly, thats exactly how its meant to be biko. Enjoy!
My dear how I no go vex??? I would work for free just to leave home. When you're always at home, see finish must surely enter.
I think it is a stupid write up with no truth. The work or no work does not determine if the woman will be a good wife. Whichever makes her happy. Dont be misleading people with rubbish like this
Full stop. Nuff said. Nothing to add.
Anon 14.16, you take pleasure in the fact that you have humbled your husband? Hummm..
Gbam! Well said ma'am!
1 Million likes!
Exactly! He'll always feel She does Nothing but leave him with the kids for 3hours... He'll go crazy. There are "housewives " who are not full time. They have businesses and help/maid who do the chores. The lady should get help before she gets old for her age
But the truth is that a career woman cant do what a full time housewife will do, except she's a robot. A Successful career woman has good support system she can pay for. Nanny, driver, after school services to buy time, music /reading club weekends, a cook or caterer to cook soups to save cooking time, drycleaners instead of diy, especially in this crazy busy lagos
Yimu! The woman is not a robot. The hubby cant eat his cake and have it at thesame
Rubbish answer my mum is a career woman & she raise 5 sound kids. My sister in-law is a house wife to bath her kids no way, feed them wahala, give her husband food story for the gods, cleaning her house that 1 Na mission impossible, Wetin she sabi Na to quarrel & fight anybody that try to correct or advise her, her husband kukuma relocate visit his kids once every month cos the guy no wan die for one useless woman, beside an ideal mind is a devils workshop.
Stelz I hope u ain't talking about teebliz?
She looking husband, so she will say whatever to make herself look good. Tons of men love successful women, It's a feather in their cap, and they have a woman they can have high level conversations with. Not everyday man want to talk about price of tomato at the market or potty training, sometimes they want to discuss which stocks may be a good investment or if the family can afford a vacation home.
You people must be really backwards o. So it was only in the 90s that you first heard or saw career women? So you don't know any of our grandmothers and great grandmothers who were teachers, lecturers, secretaries, lawyers, nurses, doctors, broadcasters sef and raised decent responsible children in while working full time abi? No wonder!! Let me not insult your background sha but it explains your logic. *omojeje says so*
Because you are a career woman does not mean you will earn more than your husband na.
Please wives, have a source of income. I particularly find it painful to ask for money. The only people I didn't mind asking for money where parents, but after a while, I got tired of that and began to save big-time. I only ask Hubby when I'm broke and I ask with shakara un top because it's not a daily thing.
What is this one saying? Is business not a career? *smh*
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