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Wednesday, 4 January 2017

When The Clock Tick Tock's On A Woman...

This is something I really want to discuss about....





What should a woman do when her Biological clock is ticking and there is no Husband in sight?

What should she do when in this circumstance she badly wants a child of her own?....
Would you suggest she goes to a sperm Bank to buy sperm to get pregnant or get a baby daddy?.....Remember that both cases still makes one a baby mama only that one is without the baby daddy drama.

I know someone who is thinking about these choices and i have told her to follow her heart because honestly speaking I would choose one.....


Does the Bible have a specific passage that frowns at one being a baby mama/daddy or is it just Society?

What would you do if you get to an age where your ovulation has dropped to one hour every month and the Doctors tell you to hurry up...

-Believe God and hold on
-Get a baby daddy
-buy sperm and get pregnant.

Remember that you are equipped with Solomon's wisdom by default!

If i didnt make sense,then you make sense!


298 comments:

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BluntIjebuChic'*GiFTED'* said...


Sensitive issh.,brb for my epistle..

shola akorede said...

Can't say anything but make I read comments

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Adopt a baby or hold on and wait.
Janet Jackson just had her first child at 50.
Nothing is impossible for God.
I know a lady who adopted and later found a good man at old age.
Not everyone who start a race will end it at the same time and not everyone must start a race at the same time.
God is the ultimate.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

If you are approaching 40 and comfortable,please look for a cute,sexy nigga with a good blood that would get you pregnant!...
It's not everything in the bible that we practice biko...
I don't trust buying of sperm cos you don't know the generational curse following the sperm you are buying...
Don't die a frustrated gwegz!!!!...
Have a child that will look after you at old age!...
Rita Dominic take note!..

queen hadassah said...

Do what Janet Jackson did if u can afford it. So that whenever Mr Right comes there will be eggs for his sperm to fertilize.

FolyFrey said...

Hhhmmm...I will just read comments.

Anonymous said...

I know of a beautiful lady, a graduate but no job yet, and sometimes she come across guys well to do that are ready to settle down but due to no job those guys sometimes do turn her down and she has come of age so u can really relate to this ur write up Stella.

Aboki Na Mallam said...

Isaiah 4 verse 1.

It's happening

HeartBreaker said...

If I can take care of my child, honestly, I will look for one reasonable man and get pregnant.


I don't pray to be faced with such difficult choice but that's what I will do. Time waits for no one.... It's man's greatest enemy when not utilized well.

Dilemma said...

This is a serious dilemma o. My big sis is facing it right now. She was 40 last year. I know part of the things keeping her from just getting pregnant is the disappointment it will bring to our mum.
Besides that, she's still hopeful.
Hmmm, it is well o

code009 said...

if she can take care of the baby let her select a man and get pregnant. Sperm bank is risky the genes are not sure. It might be someone with a down syndrome gene or madness. She maybe buying her relatives sperm. So it's better she gets pregnant for a man friend and pretend to take pills only to get pregnant and avoid the man

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Buy which sperm, when there are handsome guys who would not mind being a baby daddy, the woman must be financially stable to take such decisions just incase the baby daddy is irresponsible, the bible frowns at nothing abeg.

Peppi said...

Don't go to a sperm bank... Useless people donate sperm there . You may end up raising a child with a bad DNA. Y don't look for a sharp guy to do the job. N ofcus being a baby mama is better.

Simple said...

SDK change this couch naa?

Aboki Na Mallam said...

Read Isaiah 4 verse 1.

It's happening.

Sometimes trying to make sense out of what is happening is futile. A prophesy cannot be changed. It may be delayed but never changed.

If God said it would happen, it will happen.

Christy Odoo said...

Wait on the lord.. Buy a sperm...

God help us....

Anonymous said...

To hell with everything. Am getting pregnant aso soon as reach certain age. Doctor or no doctor orders.
Who gonna help me in my old age when I need help ?
Society can't help me rather they use me as an example to others.
This is the 21st century. Ladies, go ahead and makes BABIESSSSSSS
PLEASE wait for no one's opinion. I don't know about the bible but I live by one rule which dad taught me which is TO ALWAYS TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY I WANT TO BE TREATED WHETHER THE PERSON IS AWARE OR NOT !
I will go ahead and have the baby BUT, CLOSE YOUR LEGS TO MARRIED MEN ! Goodluck making babies. I wish you twins!
FINISH !

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Let me read comments biko!

Micheal get me a chilled zobo from the fridge!

Obaro Evaborhene said...

Believe God

Chenille A said...

I'm definitely sitting on the couch for this one

Chidinma Grace said...

Till am there! But for now nothing.

Anonymous said...

Please if you need an egg donor/ surrogate, am willing..if you indicate I will mail you.. am serious

Quiksilver said...

mtchew

Anonymous said...

Dnt knw wat the bible says abt baby dada or baby mama but to me getting a baby daddy is so wrong,just wait on God's time and it will surely come.

Anonymous said...

Some of us married sperm donors by default!!! She should chose a white donor to have mixed race kids . I would if I were her.

Imoh Sandra said...

Get a baby daddy mbok no time,is better to have a child even if it means just having a baby daddy,instead of wasting time and resources.I have someone that is supposed to have been married with kids,but due to one misunderstanding or the other,wasted the whole time,now no adoption,no child,and all the money who will inherit it?just wondering.

Imoh Sandra said...

Get a baby daddy mbok no time,is better to have a child even if it means just having a baby daddy,instead of wasting time and resources.I have someone that is supposed to have been married with kids,but due to one misunderstanding or the other,wasted the whole time,now no adoption,no child,and all the money who will inherit it?just wondering.

Anonymous said...

I go with option b, look for a dude to shine my congo with no strings attached. I should at least know the father of my child

Candy YumYum (MIND SO MILITARY) said...

marriage is not for every woman/man.

i would have bought sperm to avoid d drama that may come with baby daddy.

if I'm in such situation i will get a baby daddy with a good gene and family history i will have d number of kids i want and we will both move on but we can be kpanshing once in a while if he he is good at bedmatics.

Jessy Oriflame said...

As for me, I will wait on God and hold on. If it's God's will, it will happen and if not, well....

Quick Weight loss with Green World Slimming Capsules Abuja. 08037495373. said...

I wouldn't advice Sperm bank because of the Psychological trauma that may have on the child later on, a child may just want to know who his or her father is, whether or not a relationship is established. Firstly, make sure you are at a healthy weight range because overweight affects fertility, Secondly, love yourself and keep yourself happy and stress free while you effortlessly try to make a baby with your "HEALTHY" boyfriend. Avoid another woman's husband while at it because if you attend when women pray and hear the prayers they send to side chicks ehn...you will flee from married men. Good Luck.

Joke said...

I'm standing on the promises of God that says none will be barren in the land and none shall want their mate. But it is not easy ooooooo I'm 44 and at times v v sorrowful. May God please have mercy on me.

Tayan Taylor said...

Many ladies are the cause of their ish,they will be looking for the likes of otedola,dangote, used all their young days for fronting, not knowing that the younger ones Re growing up fast,that their time will eventually xpire,beauty fades. At the end your happiness will be seeing your kids, when you die your siblings will used your money anyhow, you will forgotten in a couple of weeks. Make hay while the sun shines, many of the successful young men of today don't value women caused of this I must be with a rich guy,some started with a woman from the scratch, so they should dump her for you or what.
They will be going from church to church rubbish

popeyes said...

Freeze your eggs

Rosemary Ezeji said...

Pls she should follow her heart

Sewa Joseph said...

Personally, there is nothing impossible for God, also depends on your level of faith, a lot of the stress we put on ourselves are just unnecessary. unless she has written herself off and thinks she isnt deserving of love and a proper family then please go ahead. Janet Jackson is 50 and gave birth recently to a healthy boy, people become single parents most times not by choice so dont do this to yourself but if it makes you happy please do you!

Esther Mgbolu said...

Hmmmm...this is serious,very serious.don't no what to say,i'll read comments

GALORE said...

No woman prays to marry late or not to marry at all...But when this happens...I suggest the woman should go and get a sperm donor or she should adopt a baby....Take the case of @Nike Oshinowo....Look at her now with her lovely twin babies.



It is well



@Galore

Atheist ™ said...

Chai... This post get luck say i get stuffs to do at the moment, i have alot of light to shed on this topic.... *sad*

La Sweet said...

I will adopt


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Skills said...


I was in this situation three years ago, I was married for seven years and we didn't have kids neither was he ready to sort out his fertility issues, the marriage ended and I was to either get married again or have a child somehow, getting married wasn't going to happen immediately cos I needed to meet the right guy and go through the whole dating process then get married, not sure when that will happen so I decided to get pregnant. A worthy father came through and we have a child.I have no regrets but sincerely I will prefer to have had my child with my husband but it is what it is and life without kids at certain age is not sexy...my opinion o.

Anonymous said...

Not happy...... My boyfriend promised to be in Nigeria this new year and he disappointed me after anticipating for his return. Now everybody is on my case asking me to get married to one of the suitors. I don't love any of them, I don't want arranged marriage, I want to marry for love, I want to be happy in life. How will I face my family? Why can't they understand me? I need True LOVE. Not like my boyfriend is not rich but he says he wants to put things in place before he comes, he said he is doing it for us, for our future. The pressure is just too much. God please direct me.

Chiamaka L said...

This is a real case for me as I am 30 and no sensible boyfriend in sight (the one wey I bin get na AS and we don borrow ourselves brain). I am really thinking of the baby daddy route, though I hope to go through it without the drama. I really love kids and since I have a very good job, I can afford to have a child, I also think I should also enjoy the process *winks* any which way, I still don't have the courage yet and my mumsi fit think say na her enemies at work. its not an easy decision especially in this part of the globe

Anonymous said...

It is well, be it unto you according to your faith.

Madam Small Chops said...

Ive always said it to peoples hearing that if i get to a certain age and am not married and i have the financial capability to take care of a child, I would either adopt or get knocked up by a whity.


I don't need a doctor to tell me clock is ticking before i do the needful.

Thats my opinion and ive been told severally i dont reason like an African.

Well who African reasoning epp?

becky naka said...

I hate seeing matured women without kids, I support having one or two kids when there is no husband in sight but you must be financially stable, it is biblicaly wrong though. "do not commit fornication"

ooooooooo.ki said...

Life is full of complexities. This is a complex situation, why?. The reason is at times our happiness on mother earth conflicts with securing our eternal life. My own case, i didn't want to have child out of wedlock and till date no child, no wife, no marriage but i now envy my peers that engaged in premarital sex and had children. Just last week, one of those children won a scholarship to study in the US. Truth is, when it comes to children whatever way they are conceived(adultery, one night stand, insemination, etc) or whatever the circumstances are surrounding their birth, it doesn't count when it comes to their destiny in life and u can always ask for forgiveness. GO AHEAD!.

Anonymous said...

We are not God and so don't know tomorrow but we can definitely influence it. There is no guarantee that you will have a child when you get married. If you are comfortable financially and otherwise to have and take care of a child,then my dear go to a bank select whatever race you want and avoid baby daddy drama.Lyn was here.

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Anonymous said...

Stella I am in similar circumstances. I was jilted 5yrs ago, my fiancΓ© then married someone from his village, went home during Xmas to do his trad and told me he was just visiting, find out from a friend after the wedding, and since then no serious relationship.
I am 35 this year, have a good job, money, even my own flat I bought last year. However no husband, no child. Not because I don't have men asking me out but they are all married.
I have 3 married men on my case right now, rich men o. But what I want is a single man, I might even be richer than him. So far he is educated, a career man doing well for himself and has drive.
I even began to wonder if I have a problem, why is it that only married men are approaching me for relationship. I don't want a married man want my own family. At least 2 of them told me they are married, the 3rd one lied to me, but I later found out he has a family in Abuja with 3kids. I had to cut him off.
The remaining 2 are in their 40s and are very rich and well to do. I had to explain to them, this is not what I want. My friend said I shld get one of them to get me pregnant, that time is going. I will never do that and destroy someone's home.

I haven't lost hope, I know one day he will do it. But I will not be going to destroy another woman's home just because I need a husband and child. I also will not listen to people who will tell me to look for just any man and have a baby.
I will do things the proper way. Find my own man, not another woman's husband and have my baby. Even if I do it at 40, God forbid but I will not destroy someone's home because I want a child.
Please to all the ladies on this blog in their 30s leave people to keep calling you gwegs, just ignore themI know women that got married 37, 38, 40 self. Don't loose hope, just keep praying, take care of ur self, make sure u keep your figure, dress well and socialise with friends, concentrate on ur career. Keep praying.
I have decided to keep myself happy and not make this whole marriage issue weigh me down. Because some single ladies wear this sad look on their face, always looking sad and angry with the world. Anyone calling you gwegs let them provide you with husband since they are God. Iv just learnt to be positive and live my life as best as I can.

Anonymous said...

Has anyone been given appointment letter for lagos state education officer?am curious cos i sat for tje exam nd i heard somepple has been given appointment letters

Anonymous said...

Buying sperm from a donor bank is not fornication/sexual immorality; is it?
What God frowns at is fornication/sexual immorality (an unmarried lady opening vagina and accommodating a penis or a married woman having sex with a man that is not her husband!) Yes, I had to define it for clarity sake.
1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.

That said, having a baby from sperm bank will not guarantee her fulfillment and eternal life. Having Christ in her life will!

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Honestly I am seriously considering one of these options in this new year. What I won't do though is for a married woman. I wear the shoe and I know where it pinches. Every woman deserves to have a child of her own.

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Honestly I am seriously considering one of these options in this new year. What I won't do though is go for a married woman. I wear the shoe and I know where it pinches. Every woman deserves to have a child of her own.

Grace@work said...

Well pipo would say hold on to God, but i wil say get a baby daddy, so u dnt get to explain sperm donor story to ur child in the future,

over and out

DOMINA said...

Too bad that our society these days measures marriage as a yardstick to success.

Yea, it's good to be married and I'm sure a lot of ladies would like to settle down to start a family, for love, companionship, stability, security etc

But when you have guys around you and nobody proposes will you marry yourself?

A lot of things people marry for can be achieved these days without marriage e.g having kids, living together or having a steady partner etc.

It all depends on you, your orientation or outlook life, pressure from family and friends or society, your personal goals etc.

All I'll say is, whatever state you find yourself, married or single or dating, try to be happy. Let your happiness not be dependent on anyone.

Make the most of your life, pray and hope in God or whoever you believe in.

I pray that all our dreams come to pass

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La'creamie said...

Make una answer ndi onu ncha...

Busola Tosin said...

she should buy sperm and get pregnant

Anonymous said...

If the woman is financially okay she can get a sperm donor because time dors not wait for no one
I once advised a church member to consider that but pastor was encouraging her to wait on the Lord. She don wait enter 54,no husband,no pikin,same church people on dey laugh her,to crown it all she has lost her well paying job. For me I just discovered I am pregnant at the age of 44 through a brief relationship I had w with my ex and yes I am keeping it as money is not my problem and I consider this my christmas present. Husband an come at anytime but once a woman gets to a certain age pregnancy becomes harder and even unachievable even with the almighty IVF. Someone will ask if the child doesnt need a father,ofcourse YES but always remember God is the ultimate father. This is a very sensitive issue and only mature reasoning will help. Thanks.

Anonymous said...

There is not a scripture from the bible to condemn one who goes to a sperm bank to have a baby. What the Lord hates is sexual immorality and abortion. Lady;
Do you open vagina for a man that has not paid your bride price?
Do you have sex with a man that is not your husband?
Do you abort in any form, a baby that is in your womb; either by taking drugs to "flush it" or D&C?
Do you have sex to "trap him with pregnancy" out of your desperation to be married?
Do you ignore every entreaties to make Jesus your Lord and repent from your sins?

If you check any of the above boxes, then you are preparing for a judgment of damnation from the almighty God.

Going to a sperm bank to have a baby to raise in a godly manner will not disqualify you from the kingdom of God. But please, if you have any position in the local assembly/church where you fellowship, relinquish it and be ready to explain to your pastors before hand what you are embarking on. It is for the sake of the "weak" who will be "offended by your actions". Hope you know these scriptures in First Timothy 3:12, Titus etc.

Intelligentsia princess said...

Hmmmmm...lemme read comment
This is beyond my grasp.

Anonymous said...

Why doesn't the lady whose clock is ticking and is well off financially adopt all these poor and abandoned kids everywhere. If she raises them, they will know and call her mommy and she will be better off with them.

Classic Chic! said...

Yeah..IRS really sensitive.
Well..

If I'm d one, I will do d three!
If I have enof faith to last me, and I strongly follow God bumper to bumper, I will just hold it up n wait for him! I have an aunt whose actually doing this..and I love her! Cos actually, God has reviewed to her how her life is gonna be like,n its so beautiful.


If I don't have enof faith,I will get pregnant for someone ( will just trap a guy i like!) and keep d bebe. Or better still I will go to a sperm bank!

Waiting for other comments!

RiRi said...

Hot topic.
Make I wait for comments.

Anonymous said...

I'm on the same boat. With stage 4 endometriosis. I have explored egg freezing. My mother is ready to pay for it because she is in her 60s with no grandchildren. But I heard the success rate of unfrozen embryos surviving is quite poor, so I have kinda put that plan aside. I am giving myself a time table. 35 years. I am 30 now with no boyfriend. If I'm in Nigeria at that age, I will find a very rich Muslim polygamist. I'm a Muslim, ergo it's not hard to handle the situation. I would be the fourth wife. I don't want to be the 2nd. I will meet co wives who are used to the polygamy life. I would not be a baby mama or single mother. I prefer the synergy and stability of a 2 (or 5) parent home. Before then, I will rack up my CV and career like crazy. Network and pile on at least 3 degrees by then. I will be the most educated and travelled wife. I will be the Sheikha Mozha of our husband. I'm not finding a divorcee or widow. I am not wishing anyone's wife dies.

This is not an acceptance of failure, it is a pragmatic and strategic plan.

Anonymous said...

Go to the bank and get some sperm. The world has moved on. Nobody has time to wait for husband please.

Isolde Fontaine said...

hmmmmm tricky one

Beautiful Eagle said...

This is a sensitive topic but I would give my own two cents.
Stella, you mentioned a sperm bank. Artificial conception is frowned upon by the Church for obvious reasons. Imagine if as a society we were allowed to do as we wished in this regard. It could get to the point where children made from the same sperm (brother and sister) could unknowingly get married. That's incest!
Children need to be brought up by both fathers and mothers. This reduces the cases of children becoming miscreants because of daddy issues (when they are solely raised by mothers). As much as possible, this should be prevented.
I believe that all hope is not lost for this lady. She could meet the perfect guy after getting the sperm bank baby and then what would happens?

PLATINUM said...

I think in case like this,a sperm bank is most advisable.

Joyonsky said...

Honestly speaking will get a baby daddy and have a child that will take care of me during old age. The idea of buying sperm is not all that good to me, because of so many reasons involved, like the character of the donor whether a thief etc.

Anonymous said...

I will be 29 this year and still a virgin. I just need a man who's working, living alone in @least mini flat, with a car, who's above 30 and AA Genotype, so am I asking God for too much? I know this is not too much for God to do for me and I know he will grant my heart desires this very year

cutie said...

This is a very difficult situation.
In as much as I trust God but considering my biological clock and health stand, I would strongly consider the sperm bank thing especially if I have all it takes to raise a child

Loveme Jeje said...

What would a woman do, is she the cause of her staying unmarried. So many things can cause it, spiritual and physical.

If she wants a baby, she can go for I'd or adopt.

She is good to go when she has money. Money can buy babies and husby

Anonymous said...

My sister is 36yrs old,no husband but she doing very well and loaded, she is trying to get pregnant so she can have a child of her own but bele no free enter ooooo she is getting depressed by the day.dear Lord pls have mercy

Anonymous said...

I'll get a baby daddy and field the responsibility alone. Then depending on my income, I'll adopt about two more and train then together.

Slushious said...

If I'm 25 and unmarried, I'm having a baby..

Isaacson said...

Marriage is not for everybody and time after time we have seen or heard of people who entered into marriage simply because of thier age or because of pressure from society,few enter because of having kids to be fulfilled,some marriages that did not produce children though it may be filled with problems or pressure are more happiness and love filled than most marriages with kids...so if you are a woman out there and your clock is ticking and age is not on your side and you desire a kid of your own but do not want that to be the main reason for getting married or you are yet to find love but you seriously want a kid of your own and do not want to adopt,then it more advisable to get an anonymous sperm donor to get you pregnant Than just settling to get pregnant for a man you do not want to get married to bcos time over time baby mamas usually encounter problems later on with thier baby daddy and to me it is not fair to the child later on in future,so to me I will say the anonymous sperm donor is the best and you can spend the rest of your life with that child and you both being there for each other and making each other fulfilled but when the child is of age you should explain your reasons to that child because they will want to know about thier father and if you want your child to have a father then seek any reasonable guy to get u pregnant but to me this always backfires in the end

My two cent

Anonymous said...

stella, what do you do when ur married, and still dont have a child yet, after try all medical options and biological clock is ticking? I need answers pls .

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Very serious topic

xxxTrinityxxx said...

This is a very sensitive subject. If your biological clock is ticking, no husband or serious partner is coming your way, you can have a child.if you live in a country where you can get sperm from the sperm bank do it. It's better than baby daddy drama. Or if you live in a country where you don't have access to all that but you still want a baby and you can take care of the baby comfortably on your own, get pregnant for a guy and end things with him (not a serious relationship) and don't tell him you're pregnant. Have your baby and take care of it. Only thing is he might find out later and come look for his child. Or he might never. Depends. I know a woma who is in her forties now with a fibroid and keeps saying she wishes she had a child while younger but she was waiting for a husband till she entered her mid forties. She's still single today. To each one their own. One man's meat is another man's poison

Aya Williams said...

This topic is sensitive ooh,would check back for comments,trust our bvs to tackle it.

Anonymous said...

Get pregnant any which way. No. 1 is not an option because as she holds on the clock will be ticking. Eventually her holding off pays, but the clock has stopped ticking.

Chilax said...

For me believe God and hold on, God's time is the best.

Becky Divine said...

Husband matter again? Hmmmm

Iyke Emma said...

Get a baby daddy! The stigma of one being BASTARD is.... My opinion.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

30 and you're giving up already? My dear, hold on to God and he will do it.
You can meet 'the man' in 2017 and everything will just fall in place like a breeze.

Anonymous said...

My dear I think sh should get a responsible man to get her pregnant ooo don't buy the idea of sperm donor cos you don't know whose blood is getting into you. She can even look for a married man sef wey she go date wey go give her belle then she move with her pikin ooo @ list the father is somewhere not just getting a random sperm donor biko.@ list if she gets a man for herself the child can trace his origin later in future. Except na Oyibo people wey no care where them from.

Spanish Lantern said...

You just had to mention Rita. Smh

Bisola said...

I would do neither.
See, there's more to life than marriage or children. You get less out of life when you focus on those things.
Now, I am not anti marriage, nor a feminist. I am a Christian. And it is God's wish that we marry and be fruitful, but God wants us to walk in PURPOSE. Purpose is what we will give account of on the judgement day. There are lives attached to your own life, there are people that will die before their time out of ignorance or lack because their lives are attached to yours and you refused to walk in purpose.
Apostle Paul did not marry but a lot of the New Testament is written by him. He walked in purpose. Jesus Christ did not marry on earth but he walked in purpose and according to what his father wanted.
We need to ask ourselves why we are on earth, and how far we have gone to achieving it? If you don't know yet, then it is time to find out.
FYI! Your career may not be your purpose. I am a lawyer, but that is not why God created me on earth. However some people can be lawyers or doctors and use it to impact lives, that is their purpose.
Some people will also never marry until they discover their purpose because the person they will marry is living in purpose, and God will not allow you pour garri in the sand of that person. Lol.
The desire to marry or have kids should not become an idol in our hearts. And it is something God has warned me about?
What about God and our relationship with him? What about purpose?
There was a comment in yesterday's spontaneous post which talked about women and purpose too.

Fifteen habits you need to do away with in 2017

Anonymous said...

God hates pre-marital sex and frowns at kids outside wedlock.if I am faced with such I will rather adopt an abandoned child and keep her as mine,that way I have a child without offending God..besides I know of a woman who reached menopause before she found love in a widower who has 6kids and all kids too her as their mum,u won't even know till you are told...just trust God and put all your trust in him for he never fails.

Spanish Lantern said...

25....shoouooooooo....

Anonymous said...

So Abdul has been MIA for some days now.. I really miss chatting with him. If you get to see this : I hope you are good? Please who is chatting with him?

Spanish Lantern said...

Stella, it's a very sensitive topic.
I support adoption though.

Na me talk am (after 3year) said...

Jesus!! U r not simple o.. but I follow.. na new year b dis.. SDK pls do... Hehehe

Anonymous said...

Well i took that decision and am not regretting it. Had to look for one cute guy when i clocked 30, had my two boys and am living my life peacefully. Thank God he doesnt meddle in my affairs, am 34 now.

Anonymous said...

I love you for this...if God says it it happen it will indeed happen

Pipi Lee said...

Hahahahahahahahaha...Chief!!!! Chief!!!!

Emilia Peter said...

This topic is senstive, if is it me, I will just met a guy I love and get pregnant but I will not let him know about it.

Anonymous said...

Trust me,a lot of Nig. Girls r on this age cohort right now! Find a reasonably baby daddy birth ur child and move on. Let's look at Sahrah in d Bible ( although am not very good with d scripture) when she cldnt conceive, she pushed her husband to have a child with d maiden( this is to show the importance of a CHILD in this life) in d same bible it says, go into d World and Multiply.... Let's look at 50% of d great and greatest men in d scripture, they were all with more than a wife! Solomon the man God loved dearly pls can sm1 help me count? I will say this over and over, Wen it comes to culture the Hausa way of marriage is better , my reason , Census/ population count clearly states that women ratio to men in Nigeria is 3/1 abeg na who wan marry the ones wey no get husband?? Everywhere in the world, women population is more.... Show me in d same scripture where is written, if u have a child outside wedlock u won't make heaven.. Let's stop fooling ourselves with husband this marriage that , ESPECIALLY my IBO sisters. At 40 u no get pikin u still dey wait husband, I hear u... C the Yoruba's r very smart b4, at 30/33 they r after one straight, no time to waste .. No b by pikin wey get Daddy and mummy they mk pikin turn out well( most times sha) some women were raised by a single woman yet they turned out ok. Training grooming nurturing a child in Gods way is all that matters. Heavens gate won't close on u for being a babe mama so long as u keep d 10 commandments ( speaking of the 10, still it didn't say don't b a babe mama,it only said to men , do not covert ur neighbours wife,u c not ur neighbours husband o) listen pipo. If u know u r a "holy NWA UsU'pls as u don dey reach that kin 50, try enter convent turn revd sis. If anybody abuse me ehen...

Anonymous said...

Some of them are d cause, they date married men and waste their youth, when they are old, they start going to shiloh or mfm.

Pipi Lee said...

We would all be needing extra care and love when old age comes, do something and get yours while you're younger, nobody will take care of you better than your own.

Anonymous said...

At30?you are just an idiot..go get a career or ssomething

Anonymous said...

Maybe d man's wife is firing prayers that's why it's not entering.

Nne nwa said...

sensitive ish

i no a lady that was hitting her biological clock and she was always having stomach troubles

she went to the hospital and the doctor told her womb needs a baby else she might die.... bh no hubby nor serious relationship.

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Miss Ferragamo said...

It's better to go for a baby daddy and know that your child has a father somewhere that you know

Anonymous said...

It's ur culture, u don't have a problem.

Pipi Lee said...

Ask God for wisdom Yomi, Infact I don't think you'll be needing it on this case cos yours have been settled already, IJN.

Pipi Lee said...

*in

Anonymous said...

Lol

Anonymous said...

You ready to cause another woman sleepless night? I'm sure you are yoruba.

Anonymous said...

And start asking for child support.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Get pregnant and have your own child.
Period

Anonymous said...

Janet Jackson had a child at 50, have u thought about how old the child will be when janet bcms old and helpless. Moulding a child's character is important. It's good to have ur kids at a young age, train them bfre u get too old to do that. For me, no need of buying sperm. Trap a guy nd get pregnant bfre it's too late , don't let him know but be sure u can comfortably take care of the child.

Anonymous said...

Hahahah NNE bi ka NRA GI d otu o!

Anonymous said...

SP too
*runs away*

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

****married man**** I meant to type

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

29yrs,there is time
Just chill

anonymous?lol said...

Chichi, just 30 & already desperate?? Chai! You need a good talking to!

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Not easy oh especially in Nigeria

Anonymous said...

I am 40 and it feels like my time is up. I have no boyfriends in sight and it will be a miracle if a man come close and chat me up.

When i am out there, it is as if people don't see me, no hello, no nothing. Am i under a curse or what?

The last person i dated, i found out he was married with children of his own. Imagine wasting your youth with somebody who has no prospect for you, not your interest at heart, but play the game so well that you fall in love.
I am no longer bitter, but have accepted the fact that it may be my fate to be childless and without a husband.

I do worry for my future because i see children as an investment.
My brothers' children might not give me the love and attention that a biological child will. And as my aunt said "your brothers' children are not your children, have your own!".

What will happen to me in old age? Who will i turn to if i am to weak to manage anything? Who would care whether i eat, i am sick or dead? Who will visit me?

I cannot impregnate myself, neither have i the courage to use a man for the sake of being a mum. What will i tell my child if he queries about his identity? Is it fair on the child?

Eh God, i long to hear the cry of a baby, to feel what it is to be pregnant to full term and deliver. I long to have a family i would share my life with. God, i beg you to make this miracle possible for me, if not, i will for ever be empty and my tree would have been cut short.

Fate will decide for me. In the meantime, i will do everything to take care of myself and enjoy being healthy and alive. Do i have a choice?

Anonymous said...

That's hw i read Ik obonna sayin trash bout being offerd 20m for his sperm... Such blatant lies

queen hadassah said...

Your big sister should freeze her eggs while waiting for Mr Right. If he doesn't come by her 42nd birthday then she should opt for plan B. Plan B is to get into a relationship with a guy and get pregnant at once! Or choose plan C which is to look for a sperm donor.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Nice
Most gwemz should freeze their egg.

charitybino said...

May God direct those who find themselves in such situation.

Anonymous said...

Who the lord don ever epp?? And i'm not an atheist.

anonymous?lol said...

Anonymous 13:06, may Jehovah grant you your desires, I love your resolve, decency & faith! Please don't change!

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

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Makason said...

God's time is the best..He must perfect His words..
I so much believe in His words.

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Anonymous said...

I predict this post to clock 700 and above! This is d real deal! This shyt is real! In every street there is a single lady of above 37still single and confused! Watch pipo

Eminado Onimisi said...

Every one has his/her God given time for everything. Some people life has been planned to get married earlier than others. Those that get married late are not unlucky, they are living their lives' calendar. If God wants you to marry at 40 to die at 100, will you rather marry at 20 to die at 60? That you married in your twenties doesn't mean you will live a more fulfilled life than some one that married in their forties. If you are single, maximize your waiting period by being productive. If you want a child get a sperm donor, you may not need to go to a sperm bank, negotiate with a friend with an express agreement. And please let us try and stop calling people gwegs. Life race is not by desire or power, it is by God's grace.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Still hold on...... 30yrs is not that bad.
There is still time

anonymous?lol said...

I feel sorry for all those who want children because the kids will take care of them in old age. Wake up, see the reality of the end times we live in!!!

anonymous?lol said...

Wow! 25?? Abi I mean 34/45?? Na wa o!

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

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Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Still hold on small..... U can also freeze your eggs for the main time

Anonymous said...

Respect Sis!Ur heartfelt desires will happen sooner than you imagine Esp in this new year.Amen

Suwa Nen said...

May God look upon you with his eyes of mercy and grant you your heart desire.

Anonymous said...

Have you tried surrogacy?

Simply Divine said...

Eyaa.it is well with her. The right man will come.

Anonymous said...

LMAO! Queen u no well. LMAO @ generational curse.

DaRevolutionist said...

This is a very sensitive topic. What works for A might not work for B.. Nigerian society frowns at this baby mama stuff so most ladies prefer to go into a loveless marriage. In Europe and America, the scenario is different, some might get married, if fed up, they divorce while some go to the sperm bank and finish the process.

God factor and the lady's faith, perseverance comes into play, if she can't wait then she should choose any of the options but if she can, then let her wait. She never can tell when God will pick up her call.

Besides domestic violence is now getting out of hand so entering a loveless marriage is like a one chance situation. So whatever decision she wants to take sha

Anonymous said...

I'm 35, drive a Mercedes and have my own house. Single and no child yet. I cried my house out lastnite in my luxury apartment. Sat on the floor naked and almost took my own life, it took the grace of God to stop me. I have been celibate and alone for 5years now. I trust God I know 2017 won't pass me by I'm holding on to my faith like the woman with the issue of blood. God is faithful and i thank him for all he has done, doing and will do. It's not easy holding on but my God is bigger than all my problems and I'm blessed that he made me wait like Sarah. I will have my child of promise I'm Jesus Name, Amen. I pray for all single out there believing God for marriage and children this year is ours in Jesus Name, Amen.

DaRevolutionist said...

Did Rita say she is frustrated. She is better than those staying in a loveless marriage and enduring domestic violence

Makason said...

Seconded.
Nice comment

Quiksilver said...

You are just 30. calm down... You will find a worthy man soon

Anonymous said...

My dear church pays.i am a living testimony.people criticised me for being single(gwegs).he gave me the kind of guy girls die for.from a reputable home in nigeria.i no fit call in name cos of social media.wat God did for me he can do for all.even if them make dat mistake,no judge dem 4 being old.u no be God.any situation is reversible.God did it for me.CHURCH WITH A RIGHTFUL HEART PAYS.PSALM 92 vs 14

Frannie AA said...

For me I would wait on God... The bible says none shall be barren so its up to you to believe God or the doctor. If God was okay with being a single mother, he wouldn't have told Joseph to marry Mary. She could have raised Jesus alone. My personal view

Shy Artsy gal... said...

Does she ask them to date her?... Maybe the guys she comes across sense some form of desperation in her... Tell her not to be anxious... Guys can smell neediness and they run away from it...

Anonymous said...

My dear church pays.i am a living testimony.people criticised me for being single(gwegs).he gave me the kind of guy girls die for.from a reputable home in nigeria.i no fit call in name cos of social media.wat God did for me he can do for all.even if them make dat mistake,no judge dem 4 being old.u no be God.any situation is reversible.God did it for me.CHURCH WITH A RIGHTFUL HEART PAYS.PSALM 92 vs 14

SWAG LAFRESH said...

I can only adopt a baby

CrazyHornyWife said...

Think of adoption!!

Whirlwind said...

Adopt a child and love the child like yours.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Doppel yes she had a baby at 50 but remember she had a billionaire husband so they must have tried all the IVFs and other stuffs since money Is not an issue. I don't think janets situation counts in this cos how many have that much money? My opinion though

The General's Wife said...

Hahahhahahahaha

Chief Chief!!!

Kedu nke etulu gi?
Oji efi International!

Odum 1 ekenee mu gi o!

Tata said...

Life is a mystery. Not everyone will get married,not everyone that gets married will have children,not all children will live long and be good children. Live life. Take the days one day at a time. Its unfortunate that some people will find themselves in this situation but the bottom line is choose to be happy regardless. Easier said but your happiness will give you life.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

I totally agree with you. The sperm bank can work in some cases though

CrazyHornyWife said...

Find a guy to get pregnant for!!!!
Nobody should gimme Janet Jackson story here biko! People's grace are so different!!!
D only sad part is how our people look down on single moms,but if you know how impt you want d baby,then don't give a hoot about them!!!!

Ehi hairs and wigs UK said...

Gbam! Well said Chief Mrs.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

You're just 30 not 50 calm down. Your own will come

The General's Wife said...

That's the Spirit Baby!

I love ur warmth and ur spirit!
You understand that Every one's race is different but u my dear are so getting married to a young bobo sooner than u think.
I just need u to stay beautiful for ur sweetheart.
Sending u loads of warm hugs😘

xxxTrinityxxx said...

When you're praying make it a prayer point for God to make single men attracted to you and not just married men. You'll see changes

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Trinity, my opinion is still better than the one you dished up there.
Get pregnant and not let the guy know? Really? Is it that serious? That you will deceive a man and leave him out of a thing of joy.
I don't think a lot of you consider the future when you say some of these things.
Adopt a baby and you can tell the child about how you got him or her but to lie to a child like some mothers do about a dead father or one that abandoned them when it isn't true just shows how devilish most women are.
I won't argue with anyone on this but remember that there is another human apart from you who will be involved in this.
What happens when you have the baby and meet a man who wants you with the child but you can't even explain the paternity of the baby.
How will the child feel growing up probably in a situation where you now have children from a legal union,how do you explain to that child who his/her father is.
Trinity please don't get me upset, it's too early in the year.

The General's Wife said...

The rib of your ribs shall locate u real soon darling.
Keep the Faith baby!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Eyaaa...
Go and settle your spiritual husband and your ogbanje!...
Check your characters too...

The General's Wife said...

Your breakthrough is almost here dear.
Keep the Faith ok?
Sending u warm hugs and kisses.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Chai!...
You need a spiritual work!...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

This can't be true abeg...

Chinny Baby said...

Let me read comment

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

You are right on some points but the same bible says that what God has joined together,let no man put asunder!..

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Coreect!...

Becky Divine said...

Hugs darling
Don't think about taking your life again! Your miracle is on the way

Dija Arewa Finest Diva said...

if you are scared of baby daddy drama den go to a sperm bank. this is a very sensitive issue.
or better still get you a sexxy hot guy that will knack you skin to skin get pregnant without telling him and move on with your life.
all these guys disposing sperm upandan in a condom can help these ladies without attachment but greed wont let them do such for free.
i dont understand how you can dispose sperm in a condom anyhow and wont want to dispose it in a womans vagina whose only wish is to have a child?

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Correct babe!...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

She has not gotten a REAL man that can get her pregnant!...

Royal Naomi said...

Anon 13:20, av u considered asking God what he wants? You have a list of ehqt you want from Him, but have you een paid attention to what He is telling you? Most times, we miss it because all we care about is ourselves, and we do not listen to God. We just keep talking and talking, without listening. Eventually you'll discover these things were never even problems. Shalom

Anonymous said...

Its expensive to freeze egg o

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

True!...

Cynthia said...

I think I will wait on God and have faith. A friend of mine once told me ... that his daughter keeps asking him' daddy when will you ever come to pick me up from school ? All my friends ... their dad comes to pick them up.. and the friend said imagine if he were to have a child with me and I live in a different country ... how will he be there emotionally , physically for that child?... so you see baby daddy drama isn't the best.

We are in a scientifically modified age.. where we have assisted reproductive technology for giving birth irrespective of your age. Janet Jackson 50 just gave birth. My pastor 50 just gave birth to twins. Sooo it's better to give a child the best moral parental support needed. So have faith.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Eyaaaa!...

Anonymous said...

Anon shut up. Most of such ladies are good ladies who didn't do open and close. All the ashawo in my class for married while sisters in Lord nothing. Even brothers in the Lord prefer ashawo. It's a wicked world

Tayan Taylor said...

Very good

Tayan Taylor said...

You are lucky,

Princess Iyabeji said...

While going through this post a song just came to my mind: Donot give up on God because he willn't give up on you, He is able. God purpose for everyone will surely come to pass.

Ego Oboh said...

Well said Trinity. We need to be real. Every woman has a biological clock so don't feed in to the paranoia instead do something. I would have a baby with an anonymous donor but I would never ever trap anyone never. That's very selfish.
There are options where you can contact the donor when the child is an adult. Everyone needs to have that sense of belonging. So please whoever you is the prospective 'traper' or "trapee' please let them know what you want to do.
Also be aware of the financial responsibilities of taking care of a child. Let God be the judge. Amen.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Kwakwakwakwa...
Uye G nwanne mooh!!!...
Kedu ije gi nwanne Madu?...
Ana etum "oso di eme ogo!!...

Anonymous said...

@Anon 13:20.. drop ur contact. I will definitely contact u.

Ego Oboh said...

With reputable hospitals There is always a brief history of the spermatogenesis donor. Age, sex, medical history, height, hair colour etc. If there are any underlying negative factors you can sue and yes sue in Nigeria. All the options of having children have their own risks. Even the ones we give birth to are no where near perfect. Who is?

Anonymous said...

To all seeking d fruit of d womb,weather with a husband or baby daddy or a baby donor. I am a 3days dry fast and every day I visit d Sacrament! I decree that u WILL conceive IJN. He will send u a father to your child, he will give u a child and u will cry and worship him in blv IJN.... Imagine I got pregnant in Nov after so much trying, in Dec I had a miscarriage. I almost killed myself but I found comfort ans faith in GOD, he said do not give up hope, keep blving keep hoping keep ur faith alive I shall visit u again and again. So my sisters ,there r pipo with Worst stories out there but ur courage to keep fighting with praise in ur heart is what matters.

Yellow sisi said...

Amen

Anonymous said...

Just hold on to God and trust him ,that is why he is God he would grant you ur heart desires

ADA JESUS said...

What a life we live in. May God grant every lady 40 and above grace. I got married and stayed married for 7 years. No child came out of the marriage. the guy turned me to his punching bag. The emotional and physical stress became much. I have scares to show for the constant beating. I nearly died but God kept me. When I heard the guy had married another woman in another city without informing me. I left the marriage empty. Its 3 years now. No boyfriend. No husband. No child. I cry myself most days to bed. It feels so lonely and hopeless most days. I have prayed. Fasted, praised, yet seems God is still preparing the best for me. What a life we leave. As someone said. I can't in-pregnant myself. Can't marry myself. Can't write a warning letter to God informing him am 37. The only option is still to wait on him. Baba God. please I need a miracle husband in my life this year. I need my own husband who will also be my friend and companion.

Anonymous said...

I'm a guy and i have learnt so much reading all your comments..

Ego Oboh said...

Please don't call anyone names. What is gwemz? It's derogatory.

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

Will read comments too 🍹

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

My queeeen is back!! πŸ˜‚
I missed you oh.... honestly. Let the humor begin

The Lifted said...

If she's financially strong or OK,she can go ahead have a baby daddy preferably, have her baby,enjoy her life,it won't stop her from having a husband in future joor, but if shes not financially OK let her forget about having a baby,live her life,she will be alright.

Candy YumYum (MIND SO MILITARY) said...

anon. 13:52pm

flush!

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Start traveling. You need to adjust your circle and association. Start traveling. I repeat start traveling more.

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