Last year January,my mum in law was planning a big party for her 80th but a few weeks into February,she suffered a stroke and went into Coma,whilst in coma,she suffered a heart attack and spent over three months in Coma.
My kids were traumatised,everyone was and i watched my hubby who is her last child go very quiet and not say a word about what was happening.
She has been at home recovering and every time I visited,the light in her eyes and that special smile for me was awesome.
This week she had a relapse and everything is going down...The Doctor said to leave her at home for her last moments.....This Morning we got a call and my sis in law said she is in her final moments and to come but not bring the kids....My boys cried before they left for school cos I told them their Oma was going.
My parents in Law live in their own house a few streets from mine and I am just coming from there *sigh* and all i can say is that in Death beauty and ugly are the same,so those of you who love beauty, the outside of a person,please,get a new mindset.
My mum in law had three boys and one female and my hubby is her last.She crossed her Tee's and dotted her eyes and all her kids are successful..she put her home in order but its time to go and her body is fighting to go but she loves us so much she is fighting to stay.
Her Oxygen is shutting down and her fingers have turned blue...I dont know how long she has but I know that she is heaven bound becos of how she lived her life...Now her Candle is going out and she has to answer the call.
Shocking for me especially cos it feels like I am losing my mother all over again.I have lost my smile and I cried like a baby this morning when i stood before her,my hubbys older brother was making jokes and trying to get me to smile but i couldnt stop...
Those of you who cry and worry about tomorrow,live whatever life you have and make merry.Be happy for today and forget about tomorrow.
I love that woman and everything i know about babies and kids,she taught me.
I am on alert,I dont know when she will go but i will go back later in the afternoon to say goodbye again.
*sigh*
I guess it is easier when you hear someone has died than to watch them going,it is a frightening and shocking experience....
Forgive any errors,my hands are shaking and i wont edit.
Take heart Ma, I lost my dad 11years ago, when my mum finally got back on her feet, I lost my immediate younger sister 11months ago just 3days after delivery, to say I was 7months pregnant when she died. Sometimes life can be so unfair. This just brought tears into my eyes.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry Stella, it is well. God be with you.
ReplyDeleteThe pain of transition. Take heart dear Stella. May God see your family through these trying times.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry Stella... please be strong.
ReplyDeleteBe strong Stella , be strong for your kids 😘😘 It's well .
ReplyDeleteOh I'm so sorry stella. Please be strong
ReplyDeleteAmen, so sorry I pray she passes on peacefully.
ReplyDeleteIt's well stella take heart may the lord will comfort you and your family.
ReplyDeleteOMG. So sorry dear. God bless her soul n give your family the strength to bear her loss. It's well.
ReplyDeleteCheer up Stella, she's going to a better place where she'll be free of this weight we carry around, where she'll be at peace in Gods bosom. Cheer up cos that's the last gift she'll want from you.
ReplyDeleteGifted hand you would be fine. May her soul rest in peace. So sorry to hear about your mother inlaw Stella. The lord is with you and your family. Gifted hand pls send your email under my comment if you can. I will like to be your friend. I never knew my mum the way a child should. Please for give me Mama. I love you so much and I miss you so much since I became a mum myself. May your soul continue to rest in peace. NA
ReplyDeleteso sorry to hear this Stella. like you said, she has lived a good life, now it's time to rest eternally in the bosom of God. may the angels receive her and may God strengthen you all as you prepare for her passage to the great beyond.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about this. It is well Stella.
ReplyDeleteI am so so sorry stella... please find comfort and inner peace in the lord. Take heart and be strong.
ReplyDeleteThis post just reminds me of my best friend who passed about 6yrs now. She passed on after a severe asthmatic episode. i still feel somehow responsible for death. We were supposed to meet up the evening she died but on getting to her junction, in a spilt second i didn't know how i got distracted and went to the market instead (my mum said maybe God didn't want me to experience her death). i checked my phone later to see about 6 missed calls and remembered i was supposed to be with her... i was like' this babe will kill me'. I didn't have credit to call back then and just made a mental note to call her when i get home. Unknown to me that my friend was dying and her brother had called me in desperation. I wish i had picked up her calls or even called back early... i would have seen her one last time before she passed.
Mary... its been 6 years but i cry everytime i think of you, you stood by me all through my teenage pregnancy saga and you joked about how my boy will call you Aunty. I can still feel how much my heart broke when i called back and your brother picked up and told me you died.
I miss our bickerings... I miss you... i wish i told you how much you meant to me. keep RIP dear.
Losing a loved one is so so painful.
Stay strong Stellz. May God grant her eternal rest when she finally leaves, and grant your family, the fortitude to bear her loss. Kisses
ReplyDeleteAre you that insensitive?gussshhhhh!
ReplyDeleteMy condolence stella
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry Stella. May God strengthen you through this trying time. Amen.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry! All is well.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry Stella...so so sorry. You'll be fine dear; you'll be just fine. Time will dull the pains and one day you'll talk about her without shedding any tears. Be strong for your hubby and the boys, do take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteVery sorry Stella mi koko but Mama's time has come. May she rest in the bossom of the Lord and may God comfort you, your husband and whole family with His peace that passeth all understanding, amen.
ReplyDeleteMy condolences are with you and family
ReplyDeleteSorry Stella nor cry. Let me check my list to see who is next:
ReplyDeleteTony Ihekire the dog killers and all the women that have aborted their babies, y'all are next in line