STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIM CRIES OUT
Hello madam Stella I want u 2 help me post this on your blog I have suffered domestic violence enough from my husband and I want to speak up now to save my life.
My husband keeps hitting me because of his girlfriend a beer palour girl even the girls father is in support of their relationship each time my husband vow not to go there again the man will call my husband on phone and beg him to cone back to their beer palour. Since my husband started dating this girl last year there has been no peace in my home. He will stay with them till they close by 11pm everyday.
I have cried,begged reported him to his family to no avail. My husband turn that beer palour to his second house that is where he use to eat. He will buy bush meat and go there to kill it. The day I heard about the bush meat incident I told him was going there to report to the girls father. He beats me till I bled that day. I still have the cloth I put on that day as evidence. He said if my parents are truly d one that gave birth to me that I should come and meet him there. My husband bought phone for this girl and is giving her one thousand naira everyday for food.
The second one time he beats me was the day he was calling her right inside the house and asking her if she enjoyed him yesterday he thought I was not inside the house when he was making the call. He hits me with every object that pulled my hair right now I don't have much hair at the back of my hair. If I want to talk people will advice me not to me talk that they are egun people and they can harm me. When my husband started dating this girl my daughter convulsed twice almost to the point of death.
The second one was so terrible I thought I was going 2 lose her everyone in my street were crying for more than one hour my daughter did not wake up. It was later after the incident my neighbour told me that in the morning she saw the girl passed the back of my house around 6am. She said even when my daughter was convulsing that the girl was in my street. Later people started giving me prophecy that I should take my child away frm that area if I don't want to lose her. Since last year DEC my child have been living with my mum.
Just last nite we had a misunderstanding again before I knew it he started hitting me again he beats me for more than one hour I thought I was going to die am in serious pains now. I don't want to die pls I need justice I don't have money I am not working maybe that is why hubby is treating me this way.
each time I tell him to set me up with business he will tell me to wait till I have another child. He said he don't want me to work under anybody I am just a full time house wife. Pls help me post it I need help I need a job to sustain myself and my child parents are not well to do out of the money for food he gives me I still send to my mum to sustain her.
I want to live here before I die. I don't want money I just need a job that will help me take care of myself and parents. Pls well meaning Nigerians should help me if possible I need justice. I will send all the pix I took to you,please help me post it. May God bless you.
Madam,let me include your email address so that anyone that wants to help you with a job can mail you directly.
rose4flower1541@gmail.com or 09082587171
If your husband beats you this much,what are you still doing there?can you not run for your life?move to your mums place where you took your child?I dont understand it....
Most of you even run back to be killed after you receive help and that is why most organisations and people who help fight Domestic Violence are not so forth coming with help anymore.
I have a question for women who get into this kind of altercation with their spouses...When he is hitting you,do you try to hit back?or try to run?why wait until you are bruised all over like this and then you start making photos?why not just run?...R.U.N!!!
I am confused!!!
Poster I'm sure that girl and her father are holding your husband spiritually. As she has gone spiritual you go spiritual too. In the meanwhile leave that house. But the thing is you people will always go back
ReplyDeleteNawa o. People should try and respect themselves while giving advice on sensitive issues.
ReplyDeleteThis woman I'm seeing here is not a young lady. Let's try and be respectful.
Anyway I don't blame her. She brought her matter here for some single girls that can't even keep relationship for 6months to start blabbing not to talk of marriage.
All she needs is encouragement.
Who is god here to know if she will go back or not.
The first step is to atleast acknowledge she has a problem and ask for help. Which she's doing.
Bitter anonymous! You cut across as delusional, evil and wicked! Have you ever in your nonexistent life seen this young man beg? Cos his light shone and helpers came his way you decided to attack him. Learn to be happy for and with people so you can experience happiness too. You ooze of bile.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you
ReplyDelete@monkeynofine your head dey there babe!
ReplyDeleteNot waste of destiny bikonu... Not all men from there are that callous. Other states have their own musuns.... We all need God's discretion.. .
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@theQueen 😘
His asslicking irritates me
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't even talk like a man just to get recharge card.
Don't worry Easter is coming.
Time to start begging indirectly
Stupid fool at anon. 17:57
ReplyDeleteStupid fool at anon. 17:57
ReplyDeleteJust shut up if you don't have anything reasonable to say. You don't kick a person that is already down. Never knew you were this insensitive.
ReplyDeletePoverty na bastard..we the way the 1k a day to the side chic de pain am. Madam, take your life.into.your hands and LEAvE...
ReplyDeleteFor now, that man thinks he is the all in all so prove him wrong, shock him, leave so you can LIVE!!!
True rehabilitation will begin from outside that prison you call husbamd's house
Please where do u people meet these beast or do they turn to beast after marriage.
ReplyDeleteWhile dating a man even shouting at me is a problem i won't allow.
You people are trying abeg.
I hope that man doesn't strangle you to death one day.
How can a man strangle someone anx later have sex with you.
Hahahahahahahahahaha at Victorioushis rebranded...
ReplyDeleteAre you serious?...that woman is a clown!
See as you opened your mouth and sounded foolish!
ReplyDeleteIf you hadn't commented..nobody would have known how foolish you were.
Learn from your mistake!
Sandy neky i thought u had sense but obviously i was wrong. Biko what has weight got to do with dv. U don't always have to talk.
ReplyDelete@Beloved if to say Tonto no get small change and connection u think say she for fit move? Poor people suffer cos no money to make the rightful decision!
ReplyDeleteAnon19.20 the way u people open your mouth to lay curses on people on a faceless blog for nothing is astounding, what will You then do to someone who actually offends you. Tufiakwa unu!
ReplyDeleteDoppel honey..u use to be sensible..what happened to you..I pray u regain ur sanity..this too shall pass..#oponu
ReplyDeleteMadam run from that wife beater, forget about why people are saying. Hope you have see tontolet video?
ReplyDeleteMadam so u want people to give u a job or contribute for a business for u while u still sound like u are not ready to leave that marriage. People should strive to help u when u refuse to help ur self. This is really sad. U are wicked. Very wicked. U have a child that needs a mother and u stay with a man that wants to kill u under the pretense that u don't have money and ur parents don't too. Are u disabled? Can't u move to ur parent s house and then get a job or start something? Anything? Can't u just leave and pick up ur life from there? Tou are a disgrace and I feel for ur child who u want to make motherless!
ReplyDeleteLet no one help this woman until she leaves the horseband's house. I don't get why some people hate themselves so much. Stupid woman!! Help yourself before others can help you.
ReplyDeleteMDee, you are the senseless one here. Show me where I mentioned her fatness is the cause of her DV in my writeup?🙄Next time, you try to read and digest well before blabbing. Silly!
ReplyDeleteMadam Abeg sell any valuable item he has and run. Biko. Don't wait for job before you leave. This is serious. Jazz at work.
ReplyDeleteAll the ladies supporting d horseband are suffering from inferiority complex. Their bfs or husbands beat them up too and cos of their low self esteem, they endure. Likewise, dat guy who listed stupid reasons supporting the man's barbaric action is a beast and I'm sure he beats up his gf/wife/mother at slightest provocation. Hence his comment.
ReplyDeleteNina chocomile, u have a good heart
Queen of the blog, I'm your no 1 fan
Sit down in that house and be seeking fr advice and help u hear madam poster.with all d stories u read on Stella's blog u still dey fall hand. Continue to sit down there u hear.
ReplyDeleteWHOEVER WROTE THIS SHOULD BE AWARDED.
ReplyDeleteI AM A WOMAN!!! -
So what?
I get into an argument with a man, he slaps me,
I feel the pain, yet they tell me I provoked him.
I should have been quiet, I should have been
patient. I should apologize to him.
I get into an argument with a man, I slap him,
they tell me I have no respect, no home
training. I should have been quiet, I should
have been patient. I should apologize to him.
Because I am a woman, I don't have a right to
be angry. So, the degree of my innocence is
directly proportional to the degree of my silence
in the face of oppression and brutality.....
Because I am a woman, my husband cheats on
me, I am told to tolerate it to save my
marriage. The barbaric and stupid excuse is that
''it is in their nature to cheat, I should slim
down, dress better, cook better, pray harder
and be more pleasant to him"
I cheat, and I am called a whore, I have
committed an abomination, I have no right to
look elsewhere for the love and emotional
support I lack at home, I am an irresponsible
mother.
So I am sent packing, from the home we both
built, with all my earthly possessions stuffed into
a tiny box on my head. I am henceforth
forbidden from seeing my two older children,
I'm lucky to be allowed to go with my little one
still suckling on my left breast. Three years later,
the little one is tagged a bastard. Now, my new
name is "after-three", because I am a woman.
He is 28 and runs a company. He's tagged
wonderful, hardworking, focused, career
oriented, successful at a very young age.
I am 28 and I run a company " Hmmmm, she is
not even married, unserious, can not order her
priorities right, a hustler, loves money, let her
go and get a husband oh"
And I wonder if being successful has anything to
do with a person's gender.
Because I am a woman,
I am not allowed to have wits or be a prodigy, I
cannot be financially buoyant, professionally
successful or be treated with respect without a
man beside me.
Then I am tagged a generous leg opener, "a
runs girl". They never see the possibility that I
actually had to go through ups and downs to get
to where I am.
Because I am a woman.
A man looses his wife to death and remarries a
year after, he did the right thing, he's being
praised and congratulated for moving on, after
all life is for the living.
A woman looses her husband to death and
remarries after 4yrs, "ahhh! so early? Are u sure
she wasn't sleeping with that man even when
her husband was alive? That was why she killed
her husband. She's a witch! " Because she's a
woman.
Because I am a woman, this post will be
considered controversial, and everyone will try
to correct me.
But don't forget, that I am a woman and it does
not make me less human!!!
Sandy u see y I say u don't have sense...re u meant to be focused on her weight..who gives a fuck about that...u wey be akata y u never marry...na because say ur mouth dey scratch u dats y u just wan open ur mouth dey talk without reasoning
ReplyDeleteFor your mind now you've made sense. Otele.
ReplyDeletePoverty is the major reason for DV. Some married men including myself, will make the mistake that they can provide all the needs for their wife and children. The reality is that it no longer works, nobody ever predicted the Country will be in recession, job loss could happen. And when this things happen, the man becomes frustrated and depressed,then reacts. If he reacts who is the victim, the woman. My appeal to men is that, we can no longer bear the burden of providing for the woman and the children alone, you are not Superman. Even if you don't want your wife to work,set her up in a business, the burden will be less. I pray Men learn from this. To the woman in question, leave the house and settle with ur Parents,then set yourself up, if ure a graduate look for a job or try to get something doing. Then later if your Oga's head cool down, he can come back or God knows the best.
ReplyDeleteWow.... @sandy I can't believe you said that.
ReplyDeleteCook him a nice meal?? Really??? Smh, to think that some bvs hail you as being smart. put yourself in her shoes for a second and see how it feels. Na wa...o
ReplyDeleteAnon.19:20 Take it easy with your curses. You are even worst than the person you are abusing. God can never use people like you who will use a sledge hammer to kill a fly. Haba!
ReplyDeleteSandy what about the slim hot ones that get beaten? You think being hot and slim is the ultimate. Dont be deceived.
ReplyDeleteJust shot it fool.
ReplyDeleteEmeka ike and Ubi franklin too is now Yoruba abi.
I have rather seen more dv in your land as the women are usually housewives or some their husband is sending to school.
The only DV iv ever experienced was from an igbo guy. Though he took care of me more than my Yoruba guys. Infact to go see him alone he Will just say hold this 50k for your hair and simple expenses.
Infact he changed my life. Gave me the cash to set up my studio.
In the year's we dated I became more and more dependent on him financially. And then the he'll started.
But with the money he was possessive because at a point I was totally dependent on his because no job after service. Before i started business.
When the beatings started i had to run for dear life.
Anon 19:34 you didn't have to reply tho...the more they hate the more I elevate...thanks tho
ReplyDeleteAll these single women making insensitive comments, una doo. I know some good cooks who are working class and sexy, yet the are maltreated.
ReplyDeleteBenue whore @fuck yourself! My comments will kee you one day on sdk😂😃😄😋I didnt want to be replying your stupid comments anylonger but no way, I will kontinu to give you that audience since you are so obsessed with stupid self. Fuckaholic banzar,ashawo kobo kobo kawai😉
ReplyDelete@Spanish lantern and Tilly, I am giving the woman my own piece of advice that is bothering me so that she can get her self esteem back biko because I can see she has allowed herself to be over depressed. Make una read well. I didnt bother talking about her DV because no matter what we all tell her here, she will still go back to her horseband after this cry.#RME
Doppelganger pls take this back . don't loss the respect people have for u..u have never supported DV y say dis?imagine how hurt I am when am not even d poster..pls apologize for this statement
ReplyDeleteStrong woman.
ReplyDeleteIf the poster knows whats good for her she shldn't get pregnant again.
Bv beloved, I taya oo, just pray that God sends your own man , it doesn't matter whether you are made nor not, even some independent women suffer much than d housewives, it all depends on the kind of husband u married.
ReplyDeleteWhy attack doppel? Some things are just too senseless to understand.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind sanky neky. Its not about a woman being fat,ugly or jobless. Tonto dike is not broke,not fat and quite beautiful yet she suffered dv. Its about the man who feels that the only way to 'discipline' his wife is to beat her up. Don't be quick to blame the woman.
ReplyDeleteMy advice, always fight back. Make sure u hit him back and give him a mark on his face. He will change. I tried it and it work. He no longer hit me now. Mine didnt give bloody injuries tho
ReplyDeleteU must be all shades of wack. Really? A human like u? U need a brain reset slap for this comment. Haven't u seen tight looking working class chicks been beaten up by their husbands.
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