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Friday, March 24, 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Unbelieveable!!





STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MOTHER IN LAW INTERFERENCE...

Hello Stella,
I wanted to send this Chronicles in but I haven't had the courage to.  .


I met this guy when we were both in our 100l at the university. Hes very cute, above average (doesnt blv he is though) he is really shy And also an introvert. You won't believe his friends don't know deep details about his personal lifellife or our relationship.he says he doesn't think it's any of their business. People tend to like him and there were hot girls flocking around him before and while he was asking me out so you can imagine his friends and mine's shock when they found out he was going serious with me.


He is really honest, I mean I'm all over his social media page, gallery, wall paper and stuff and before you say it's not about That, it's been 9 years of dating and I have never caught him cheating once.


He goes out of his way to provide for me ( I'm not demanding), in fact he got me a phone from his first salary and even though it was a 40k phone (back in 2013) it meant the world to me.
He applies for jobs for me ( I dont even know anything about my cv and cover letter), drives me to d interviews and comes back for me. He is literally everything to me.


We are always with each other, we spend all our free time together and I can boldly say I haven't cheated on him once. And we have had our share of pregnancy scares and I even aborted once (in 400l) I was really scared, sometimes I wish I had kept it but with recent events, I'm just grateful I didn't.
He finally proposed last year August and we did our introduction this March. His parents embarrassed me in front of my family and friends that day that one of the most beautiful days of my life turned out to be really sad.


Prior to the introduction day, the mum cAlled me Nd told me to wear something old I had at home for my Intro! How's that possible, I have waited for 8 years and the fact that she thinks I should wear something old was just painful to hear, abi how Can, I'm the only daughter in my family and my mum was getting ready to go all out and this woman is here talking ********.


 I  said I have heard, well her reason was that I shouldn't waste her sons money. I decided to get something nice for myself (abi she doesn't have to know it's New). Few days to the intro, that was how bobo's cousin called and told me how her aunt (bobo's mum) ordered her material from dubia(For this same intro oh) and how expensive and beautiful it was. She said I should better go to d market and get something new and I shouldnt mind her. I told her thanks and I just smiled.


The intro day came and you wont believe this woman did aso ebi but thank God my mum went all out, we were all ready ( will send you pics Stella but don't post shogbo), she first nagged about how late we were and how my make up was too much and I just smiled. After the intro as per Yoruba tradition both family heads would sit down to discuss the wedding date and prep, my dad is late so it was my mum, my bros and bobos parents and uncles.


 My mum told them she wanted August of this year, na so MIL start to they shout that wats the rush and how I am just a common trader ( i sell Dangote sugar in wholesales at mushin, i sell more than a 100bags a day) and how she wants her son to build his career , and how she thinks her son might not be able to feed me blah blah, my mum kept telling her there is a grace that comes with being married that he would definitely feed me ( bobo earns a take home of 250 oh) and that things can only get better. 


Na so MIL craZe that so I want to become a liability. She sha calmed down when i told her my business is doing well and to make her rest easy i would look for a white collar job, she then said we can't get married till next year March! My mum called me and bobo and told us it was our decision to make and that we should say when we want and we said January was fine ( just so we cld meet in d middle) and bobo's dad said ok that he would call my uncle ( stands like a dad for me) and finalise the date.


He has called oh and guess what he told my uncle Dec 2018 (lol) ... That his other children( they all stay in the US)has to attend and they won't be chanced till next year Dec. My uncle told him they don't have to be there. I called bobo and guess what he said there's nothing wrong with waiting till next year that I'm just being inconsiderate !

 Egbami,my brothers are in US too and they are not coming because August would have been perfect for them but January isn't so convenient becos of tax whatever! I wanted my siblings there but they Can't make it, I have accepted my fate and now they want to push my wedding to Dec 2018, we are not even close to Dec 2017 oh.


I just think it's not fair and the fact that bobo thinks I am being selfish is just driving me insane! Stella, i cant wait till 2018, if there was a good reason, maybe i would have but for his siblings! Lailai.


My aunts think I should continue dating him but I should leave my options open, my mum thinks I should pray for him (bobo would be the first to get married) that's its spiritual, my brothers think I should move on. 

I really want to move on but I'm scared, I can't even gist with another guy for 30mins , I get bored and start looking for the "him" in "them"! I don't even have to talk, he gets it.i am tired, restless and confused.
You guys shouldn't mind the join join story, please bear with me and forgive all my gbagaun.
Please I need quality advice! God bless you all.





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    1. Wha is Yeye about this chronicle? Just say u hv nothing to contribute,, poster u need to chill n let God do his thing for u

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    2. The reason they are giving for the long wait makes no sense. His family don't like you. They just don't want to tell you.

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    3. Seriously!

      Young lady...
      Please I'll just tell you to keep your heart open in case this guy fucks up, don't get too emotional and too obsessed with the relationship, mingle with other guys and time will speak for itself.

      Your comment will be visible after approval.

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    4. Very very yeye indeed. Gold digger alert. God loves the guy and his family are dodging a bomb in disguise.

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    5. How is it a yeye chronicle. Must you comment.

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    6. What is yeye about this chronicle ?if u don't have advice to give just shutup.chronicles is not for babies U hear

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    7. Wait for him. You have stayed for 8 years, 20 months is nothing.

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    8. Will u keep shut! Trolls bby n damabigs And for anon 15:43, I'm not ur mate. I was 15 years when u were born mumu

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    9. The way you address your MIL in your chronicle is the reflection of how you talk to her and you expect her to be good to you. You are very rude, imagine your fiance is reading the chronicle or someone that knows you perfectly well is reading and can relate it, because you already have clue you sell sugar @ Mushin.Do you think you will ever have happy home if you eventually marry this guy and he got to know how you talk to his mum? You haven't entered you're creating core enemy. Mil can do and undo. Wedding is ceremony so far introduction has took place and both family has come to consensus that you guys should marry, I'm sure they will bless your Union that day so what else is marriage, you can decide to pack in if you can't wait,date shouldn't be wahala,but you are even sceptical about the guy family, you love him but you don't embrace his family I can deduce that from your chronicle, you are selfish indeed me and my husband things. This is a trivial issue but you already considering having someone else .Did I hear you say you are committed to this guy?

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    10. @miyaki: funny enough,my family is more well to do. I am not a gold digger.

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    11. I think u should not have agreed to do introduction in the first place , becos a lot can happen in 2years, keep ur options opened , I honestly don't think he is ur husband . When u find someone better pls move on

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    12. @ miyake, u sound very stupid , how wud u call dis a yeye chronicle and the girl a gold digger ? . Are u better than her?. If u don't have anything to say , just shut that poultry mouth of urs and let reasonable pple comment.

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    13. Poster
      Do a court wedding,don't do too much preparation/paparazzi, let him wear a suit and you wear a cute dress not wedding gown o so it won't look serious.
      That way you know you are married and you can start having kids, when Dec 2018 comes you can do your white/trad with the American crew and your lil boy or girl can be your lil bride/groom.

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    14. @miyake..how exactly is the poster a gold digger?Do you know what it means to be a wholesaler and to sell a 100 bags per day in mushin market? A stupid monkey like you would ( if you a girl) wear your 9k dress and 5k shoes from balogun market and work as a receptionist for a man or woman that pays you less than 60k a month but poster would look like an average house girl because of her hustle and have over 50 million in her account...Dumb bat!

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    15. I scroll through all the comments,chikito where are you?did I miss it or Stella has not enable your comment yet.trust chikito to come here to write epistle that same thing happened to her cousin sister niece blahh blahh blahh..omo wereeeeyyyyy....lol

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  2. God is showing you signs and you are there doing stupid love...
    Babe,give other men a chance!...
    Your man's mom is controlling him and you shouldn't even think of settling down with a mummy's boy!...
    I pity you in the marriage already if you finally get married to him!...

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    1. Exactly, which kain man is that??? That can't even make his choice. The worst thing u can do is marry a mama's boy, especially one that has a mean mother.

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    2. You only show up here these days, hope you're good?

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    3. Poster, stop sleeping with him.

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    4. Cherry wine,I'm fine dear...
      Na work that is keeping me away from my favorite blog...
      Thanks for your concern!..

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    5. Tell him you want to stop having sex until dec 2018, let him also know it feels like to wait, then make yourself very available to other guys o, cus I don't know where it was written that he is your hubby

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    6. Just leave your options open and don't ever thing you can't stand any man,,there equally good men out there who will finish your sentences too, don't just conclude and give up.

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  3. Do you think going into a family like this one will benefit you in the long run? All this time dating and from your story it seems your MIL didn't meet you till introduction day.
    Honestly, I wouldn't like to be in your shoes with a MIL like this one who doesn't think I'm good enough for her son and a man who is a YES man to his parents.
    His he marrying you for them or for himself and because he loves you? Like you've been told leave your options open. Anything can happen worse than this one before December 2018 and as far as I know it's a woman's family that's picks wedding date.
    Your family should call their bluff and fix a date convenient for you and if they don't accept it tell your bobo to marry his mother or let his mother choose a wife for him.
    You have technically tied your life around this man and you aren't even married to him yet just imagine what and how your life will be when you do marry him and he starts to misbehave because he knows how much you adore you.
    Don't enter a marriage with people who do not respect your family, you will never be able to redeem the respect back.

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    1. Exactly doppel, its the woman's family that fixes the wedding date.
      Poster, God is showing you the signs now, you are busy doing mumu love. Though it won't be easy, but start disengaging your heart gradually from that guy and open your heart to other people.
      Well, if you still wanna hold on to the guy, then be ready for continual prayers. Keep praying and waiting on God to change the situation for you.

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    2. Aunty, the signs are there. Better run before you send us another chronicle of bad MIL.

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    3. Respect Doppel! @poster,this the best advice for you.Use it!!

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    4. Word dearie #word#

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    5. I quiet agree with you Swag. Poster sit your bobo down and make him tell you what is family have against you that will make them wait till 2918 DEC and why he have to agree with, if he doesn't have genuine reason or reasons tell him you can't wait and if he doesn't have another woman that his mother prefer the wedding should be January or you are considering other options.

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    6. One type of in-laws to stay clear of is those who think you are 'Chopping' their child's money! Poster, I'd say move on so you are able to give somebody else attention. Leaving your options opened would mean playing safe but what if you are unable to love the other guy because you are still holding on to this guy?

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  4. To me get pregnant for him so pregnancy and after delivery and taking care of ur baby can take all of that time till the Dec 2018.or if you don't buy this idea, try and date someonelse without his knowledge.pls let urself loose so in case of any dissapointment your egg wouldn't be on one basket.

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    1. White berry your brain has left your skull to do some begging, which kain advise be dis?

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    2. Choiii dis gal ur head dey shake...very stupid advice....hian

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    3. White berry this your comment no follow come at all,she is having problems with her in-laws that hasnt been resolved yet but the only thing you could say is for her to get pregnant then the guy will definitely ask her to abort for the second time or you think woman marry the man only,she marries his family join.

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    4. "In one basket" dearie ;-)

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    5. Get pregnant for him?at this age n time?who hooks a guy with pregnancy? I bet u want her to end up a baby mama,poster,if u marry this bobo,u do so at your own detriment, it would get worse as far as u guys re still in Nigeria with the mum,believe even if u guys relocate, she will continue to call d short. If you know you are cut out for this kind of drama ,then wait for bobo,if u want peace of mind wait on God.

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    6. Loool... u think getting pregnant for a man can keep him? Ur on a long thing... well I know d poster has sense not to take dis ur advice....

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    7. Poster abeg don't get pregnant o!
      Sies!

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    8. And why did I just support this your comment .100likes!!

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    9. Smh @ that your first sentence. Get preggy for who?? Poster, you better not get pregnant oh, you'll just regret it

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    10. Worst advice ever. Like seriously. Keep showing yourself after you'll be begging for forgiveness. Mtcheee

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    11. R u for real white berry?

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    12. Hahahahaha @ anon. 16:06 You have got no chill at all!

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  5. Not fair at all.
    Side u've waited for 8yrs, one more won't hurt naa, if u r leaving ur options open, don't get caught.

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    1. I don't know the reason for the introduction if you have to wait another 2 years for marriage proper. You know your mil, the question is what do you think is her perception of you? From your writeup, it looks like she does not approve of you and your fiance is not even strong enough to defend you so are you sure you can cope with that kind of mil? Pls, keep your options open and seek God's opinion about the union. It is well

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    2. And pls, stop having sex with him. Tell him, you want till your wedding night, he cant be having it steady when he doesn't see the reason to speed things up and marry you. Don't try to trap him with pregnancy either cos it may boomerang and please dont mind people saying you sound desperate, to me you don't. Your fiance's family for wanting a wedding 2 yrs after intro doesn't make sense. Your hubby is working and you didnt state that he's not ready for marriage and everyone knows getting a white collar job is not easy in Nigeria right now, besides you are not idle, some people who do white collar job don't earn as much as you do monthly so what's your mil's stress?

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    3. *dont get caught* cheaters code, not every woman double dates.

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  6. You guys are not yet married and trouble is flying up and down. Decision lies on you, what u can't tolerate in the future, don't accept it now.

    The guy's mum is a manipulator, the dec date is her idea. Can u cope with her?

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    1. After they get married by Dec 2018 d next thing d mil will say is not to get pregnant till 2020...

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    2. The mother is the head of the family!!!

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    3. I can honestly relate with this MIL.
      Poster nor get work, nor fit do anything by herself. Bobo is not rich, e dey manage. In this economy, each person has to pull their weight ooo! The woman nor want make her son come go die unto say he marry woman wey no get anyth tangible to do. Clearly her bobo feels same way as his mum hence he isn't objecting to his mums seemingly ludicrous demands.
      Poster get urself a proper job, more lucrative biz or find urself a wealthy man.

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    4. @the observer did you read this chronicles at all?wher dis she state that she was jobless

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    5. The observer...are you blind or is it comprehension that's difficult for you? People like you just take delight in hurling out insults to people anyhow.
      Didn't you read where she wrote that she sells about 100 bags of sugar daily. Do you know how much that is? People like you believe its until someone dresses cooperate with high heels PR suit and tie and then go out everyday by 4am and return by 10pm, that you believe the person has a job. SMH

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  7. Hmmm...

    Eleyi gidigan..

    Dear Poster,

    I won't tell you to go ahead or stop. But, I think for the guy to change his mind suddenly, there might be a manipulation. By the way, you didn't tell us how old you are...
    That would go a long way to determine if you can afford to wait or not.

    Be that as it may, from personal experience, I don't subscribe to long waiting period especially after introduction. Once introduction is done, atmost, 6 months is ok for marriage proper.

    I would say you should take it to God in prayers, ask HIM for forgiveness for aborting a God-given child, and ask him to reveal every hidden thing concerning your marriage.
    Then, have a one on one chat with the guy, but keep your mind and eyes open. He may be having 2nd thoughts... DECEMBER 2018!!! ahn! ahn!! Maybe this is God telling you some things..

    Also, SNOOP!! don't be caught unawares as a victim biko. Time waits for no one.


    Cheers..

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    1. This family isn't good for you. Keep your options open. It's shameful the mum has to make the decisions when the dad is there. Very shameful for her too be dishing out orders on the day of introduction! A day men speak to their fellow men. Again, if it's true you sell as much bags of dangote sugar as you said, it means you're making far more than him. Nobody should push you into white collar jobs if you're okay with what you're doing. Our people have this complex. They feel white collar jobs are better even if you're making just 50k a month! I will repeat this, this family isn't good for you. That woman will make you regret the day you ever met her son. Finally, you shouldn't have told us about the abortion episode. Some things are better not said. Believe me, from your story, some people must have coded who you are.

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  8. Sweetie, since your guy can't make his decisions and he is already calling a selfish person, I think the best thing is to flow with with him, you guys keep dating, pray maybe he isn't the one for you, the number of years dating doesn't signify you are meant for each other.

    Try keeping your options open and don't totally take him off the picture.

    You good dear, don't rush, marriage is not smth you rush into love.

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    1. Love is blind and marriage is the eye opener. You are letting love blind you from seeing all the red flags and also the sex too. Anyway keep your options open and give other guys a chance. If youmarry this guy his mum will make you regret it. If your family are well to do than his then why are you lowering your standard omo that D must be good fa. Youwill meet a better man very soon. Stop the sex with him and use your brain not your heart. Good luck

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  9. So you never marry this man and you're facing all these from his family? I reject such in-law in my life. My dear, back out, start living your single life till another better option shows, if not, you've not seen anything yet, he's from a troublesome family, can't deal abeg, need to remind you that your MIL does not like you at all





    *Larry was here*

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  10. I like the your narration

    The one prayer I always pray about for my siblings and I is that our spouses's families and our family be united.. Once the center holds, it's very difficult to break out
    Your MIL already have bad vibes about you and I think she have a right to. You seem too relaxed, boo is there providing, you trust him too much to always be there for you. This in itself is not a bad thing but when you seem like your world revolves around him, you become a liability. His mother is able to see through you, yeah she has her own excesses but except your MIL is about witch, you have the power to change the impression she have about you

    About the wedding, let the wedding be in January.. If your siblings can make it, it's fine; if they can't, you understand why they can't!

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    1. Liability ke,she said she sales sugar in bulk and on dailies she sales 100bags,a bag of sugar is close to 20k multiply by 100bags, I bet she is richer than her salary earner boo.

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    2. He doesn't provide for me. My family is financially okay than his.

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    3. Rocky Jan is fine with her, it's d man's people that don't like Jan cos her BIL's won't be around Abi no be wetin I read for up?

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  11. anonymous gangster24 March 2017 at 15:12

    Now this is more like a proper chronicle! Oya make Una wise people begin yarn.

    My dear, you Wey don date for 9 years, abi how long you call am, and claim the bobo is a catch, what will 2 more years take from you?

    Use the intervening period to build your finances. That vert thing his mum used to poke you in the eye, get busy making money and building wifely and motherly qualities, so that

    1. They'll respect you
    2. Should he somehow fall hand you'll still be in a position to attract good men.

    Have fun!

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    1. I have a business with two staffs. I am a Dangote and flour mills sub distributor.

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    2. I like this comment of yours.

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    3. It's funny how the MIL isn't on her sons neck to get a better job so HE CAN PROVIDE for his wife the way a real man should. Why should she be putting her eye on your finances? I don't think you should marry this man. Where was she all the 8 years you guys dated? You would've dated 4 guys by now and possibly gotten married assuming you spent 2 years with each. You've really tried, but I think your heartbreak is loading.

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  12. Poster you dated him for 9 years and because he fixed your wedding December 2018 you are here giving Chronicle..

    Chill abeg.

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  13. Hmmm, is this your guy a man? Can't he take decisions on his own? From your writeup, u guys aren't as close as you think oh! Can he even defend you before his people? Love alone isn't enough in marriage. You need a male that would be a MAN as a husband. Check well and talk to God. Cheers.

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  14. Hmmm, is this your guy a man? Can't he take decisions on his own? From your writeup, u guys aren't as close as you think oh! Can he even defend you before his people? Love alone isn't enough in marriage. You need a male that would be a MAN as a husband. Check well and talk to God. Cheers.

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  15. Wow a hard one

    Your mother in law is bad news, I fear for you darling!
    You have been with this guy for 9years and counting.... You guys are literally married ooh. My dear, where do you want to move on to again? I understand why you are tired of moving... Something you haven't done for years, no they are telling you to start all over again with the dating stuff, hello hi nonsense and all that crap!

    If I tell you to stay with bobo, I fear for you bcos his family have no respect for you and it seems bobo listens to them attentively. And that is really bad bcos every decision he must consult with them first.

    I can't even tell you to move on, you guys have invested so much in each other and wasted each other's time as well. This is why I don't advice this kind of decade old relationship, a woman should know a man's intentions towards her latest one year or two of dating!

    I suggest you stick to the devil you know and hold him tight. Reason with him that this marriage is between you two not his family, tell him reasons why you feel you can't wait till Dec 2018 and hear his own side!
    Hear his own side bcos it's not all about you anymore, from there you guys should be able to each a decision.
    I wish you the best

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    1. Babes high five,low five and baby five,this your comment is the true.

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    2. If you see devil, you go fit know am?

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    3. @Lady C thanks mami 😄✋✋✋


      @Henny yes I can! By their actions we shall know them. Just focus and you'll see their true colours 😀

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  16. I know how u feel because I am in the same shoe, my parents Inlaw control my husband, my home, the make decision to the extend of wen boo will do De do if you know u can't wait move on Abeg 🏃 🏃 🏃 because it won't stop even after marriage

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  17. Dey are just trying to frustrate u. Would advice u leave. U nvr enter e bi lik dis, wen u con entet nko?

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  18. Poster you are over speeding. Chill. You sound desperate and that's why your mother in-law is taking you and your family for granted. My sister did her introduction Dec 2007 and wedding 2009.

    Stop being desperate

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    1. That your sister likes to be Lord of the ring doesn't make it ideal, be sensible with advise, stop spewing trash

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    2. After 9years! I'm desperate! This is new.

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    3. Introduction is usually done 6 months or less or at most a year before marriage in yorubaland. Please, don't call her desperate, she has been dating this guy for 9 years for God sake. Don't you feel her husband's family dont really approve of her from her writeup? Their excuse is not a genuine one at all, if it were genuine, then I will understand.

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    4. So Becos ur sis did d same she should follow ur sis? Abegi poster open ur door ooo for other men cos dis is going to be bad for u

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    5. Chiks she is not desperate,9years is not beanz

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  19. This is what yoruba call "oso si ni lenu obuyò si"
    Your boo's fam are very selfish and inconsiderate.....
    There are 2ways to it, uve waited 8yrs like u said, so waiting a year 9months aint that a biggie BUT be ready for ur inlaws excesses. They would wanna control your hubby and he might have little or no say when they talk.They sound very controlling to me. Babes so weigh the pros and cons then decide what it will be, cos at d end of d day bv's wont live with u in your home, na you and your head ooo. So rhink carefully and decide wisely. All the best.

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    1. It's not 9 months oh, more like waiting 21 months

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    2. Lol@eka I think Anu meant a year and 9months, which is the same as 21months.

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  20. You are fighting the wrong battle my dear. The battle is for your husband to be -not you! There will be many situations that will come up in the future where he will have to face his own family. You are not the one to deal with them. He should.He knows them well and knows how they are wired. If he allows his family to take decisions for him on when he should get married, then so be it. But on a more serious note, January 2018, December 2018. Well, is your bobo willing to wait that long? Since he is already eating from the cookie jar, there actually won't be any reason for rush for him-unless you tell him that you want to close the cookie jar till you get married and if he is willing to wait till December 2018, then its fine. There's really nothing to rush for anyway-trust me. If you have more time, maybe you should just take the more time...After all you say he has never cheated on you-neither have you cheated on him.

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  21. You are so petty...What's wrong with you? You've been through a lot with this guy..you closed your eyes to religion and had sex before marriage, you risked your life and your future by aborting, you shunned other guys for 8 good years...In return, dude stayed true to you (according to you) and loves you pieces (quite obviously from what you said about him). If you waited 8 years then what's the biggie in waiting a few (maybe not) more months.
    GRANTED MIL is undeniably ANNOYING but we know that's typical of most MIL. Drop your EGO and wait. THE LOVE BETWEEN YOU TWO IS ALL THAT MATTERS.

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  22. my dear don't rush into marriage. bobo don dey fastforward the date unnecessary. pls do something else with yourself nd don't make him feel asif you are desperate. pls put a price tag on yourself and also leave your options opened.if he's not excited to marry you,then he's not your husband. don't false it! don't push it! don't beg!!!

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  23. Too bad! continue dating but leave your options open, don't b too surprise if Bobo gets married to another babe before that Dec 2018.

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  24. Pray gurl, pray! Methinks your man is your soulmate. But pray to know where God will lead you, he may be under satanic manipulation or simply think you don't love his family enough to work with them. It is well.

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  25. What's yeye about the chronicle? U r an idiot. If u don't have advise for her, shut ur trap

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    1. Who loose this lunatic? Can u walk back in to that cage b4 I whip u?

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    2. Go and get lost first fool and then I'd shut up.

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    3. Yes, na yeye chronicle @ annonymous 15:22 this Bobo never ready mentally to marry, its this Sisi that's ready to marry by all possible means without thinking.

      Poster, your eyes go clear and your brain go enter reset when mama land you slap in presence of your Bobo right in your matrimonial home.

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  26. Na marriage u want abi? Make una go court and wed, then Dec'18 do the traditional.

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  27. Can't you guys have a registry wedding asap and next year, you will have the big one that comes with the whole enchilada?

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  28. You sure say that guy Don ready for marriage abi na you dey push am? Anyway,I'd advise you to keep your options open as well and look for another source of income. If you were worth six figures, no one will dare disrespect you in his family.

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  29. But thread softly because it seems your bobo's mum does not even want you as a DIL

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    1. Do registry nd big wedding next year simple ! But keep ur mother inlaw at arms length. Don't be rude to her but avoid her nd be prayerful

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  30. Olu whatever must u talk?
    If you can't give sensible advice shut d Fuck up.Yoruba goat

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    1. Who are u to tell me when to talk? Are u insane or u lost ur direction? Am I d cause of hunger in ur family? Breath Breath before u loose it!

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    2. Annonymous 15:25 you are a fool. What make you different from the Ola you're​ calling out ?
      Did you make any reasonable comment here ? NO!

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  31. @olu how is it a yeye chronicle na wa o dear maybe the person below me will advice you am short of words

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  32. My dear I think you should pray about it o ...this one na strong thing.

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  33. On the real, the signs are all there. They chose the date knowing fully well that you won't wait that long. Also, "another situation" might happen that will make them cancel the whole ish. Talk to your guy, ascertain his interest and pray. Since you're still hung up on him, pray and desist from conjugal relations with him. If he's getting it steady, he might not have a reason to rush

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  34. Movement on but keep him on the side...

    He won't marry you, whether you wait till 2018 or 2020. Maybe he's told his mom somethings he hasn't told you, and has concurred with them..

    Move on

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    1. This guy has cold feet. Same thing happened to my friend and she was later told by her fiance that he wasn't sure he could proceed after the long wait cos his family doesn't approve. My dear use ur tongue to count ur teeth. My advise give him an Ultimatum n tell him if not he should stay on his own till further notice. Be open minded u may or may not end up marrying this guy this is already a bad sign.

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    2. I agree with u Lolo. Can u imagine next year dec? Wtf They are wasting your time. If the guy can't stand up for u now to his family believe me he never will. You are bound to be frustrated with this family in future.

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    3. After dating for 8 yrs. Jeez I'm so pissed. That would be 10 yrs of ur life wasted n 1 abortion for this guy n his troublesome family? I must ask is ur self esteem that low. I can't deal men. U have to do better pls.

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  35. Madam, i don't get? you have waited for eight years why the rush? if you truly love this guy n deep down inside you cant move on why not wait...except you are considering leaving cos of his mum's interference apart from that i don't see any problem in waiting.

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  36. On the real, the signs are all there. They chose the date knowing fully well that you won't wait that long. Also, "another situation" might happen that will make them cancel the whole ish. Talk to your guy, ascertain his interest and pray. Since you're still hung up on him, pray and desist from conjugal relations with him. If he's getting it steady, he might not have a reason to rush

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  37. Come to think of it, I am Yoruba too and it is the bride's family that gives out date for the wedding na. This one that your bobo's family is giving you date is all shades of wrong. Abeg, thread softly

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    1. Wanted to say that too. Better still the couple decides. Babe you have to be smart. Seems your man is the mama type.some women can be selfish. Can she take such if you were her daughter? God will settle you.
      My in-laws wanted to change my wedding date about one week to D-day..... hubby said no and told me not to interfere. I cried my eyes out.

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  38. hahahahahaha 2018 is round the corner. Just hold on my dear.

    MILs are something else. Manager her and manage yourself. Keep doing good girl until bobo puts the ring

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    1. Forever is too long to be managing. With this story above, it can only get worse.

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    2. After marriage MIL will still hv say in there marriage oooo... I can't enter dis one Abegi

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  39. It is well dear.I would advise you pray,keep your option open and while at it please be very smart not to be cut.If the guy is yours,you guys will get married and if not your own boo will locate you.Abeg stay away from sex for now so that you can concentrate and make your decision.Shallom!

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  40. Which kind rubbish be this for hot afternoon ?!

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  41. Listen to your Aunty.......

    Use that time to build yourself, pray more, you don't know what God is trynna do with this..... SEEK HIM!!!!

    But then, what do I know?? I'm as single as a PULPIT, lmaoooooooo

    Ps: y'all that date for so looooong, how do you do it?? Won't you get bored??choked?? I'm just asking ni ooooo😕😕😕

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  42. Obviously his mother has an unhealthy control over him. Hes mother will maje him change when u guys get married. I think you might regret it. His mother will show u fire and he will just be looking. You need to cool down and take a closer look at the situation.

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  43. Hmmmm this is a though one Dec 2018 is too far now they would have considered na haba. It's there no way u can make him see reasons to change his mind?let God intervene cos I feel d mother has an ulterior motive

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  44. @Olu Vee, how insensitive can you be. If you hae nothing good to say then don't say anything. Poster just give ur bobo sometime then have a heart to heart talk with him and pray about it too.

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    1. How am I insensitive? Must we have same opinion? Were we meant to be? I talk mine,u say urs. And where's ur own good advice here madam ITK?

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  45. 9 years is a long time to be tied down to a man in courtship. Turns out this man is a boy after all cos he can't make his own decisions.
    Pls take walk babe. With a mum in law like that, your marriage will be hell.
    Who says you can't find happiness elsewhere?
    Sit his butt down and tell him what you feel. If he is unwilling to take his own decisions, he should go his way.
    Stop searching for him in others. You are used to him cos you have spent such a long time with him that's why it seems so.
    Take a walk!!!!

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  46. Sweetie, you've waited 9 years. What is 18 more months to be with the man of your dreams. You are already gbenshing so it's not as if they are depriving you, nau.
    Better the devil you know ........ Don't go from frying pan to fire.
    I just worry about this inferring MIL though. Is she going to ask you to wait 5 years before babies etc.

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  47. Sweetie, you've waited 9 years. What is 18 more months to be with the man of your dreams. You are already gbenshing so it's not as if they are depriving you, nau.
    Better the devil you know ........ Don't go from frying pan to fire.
    I just worry about this inferring MIL though. Is she going to ask you to wait 5 years before babies etc.

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  48. If you cant wait then go look for bobo's lookalike but I think you should wait,2018 is fast approaching just be patience.

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  49. V neck, how e take be yeye? This one na serious matter... why will there family interfere in the first place... I will advice you to keep praying, tell al to God, u both have come a long way to fall off.. pls calm your family, follow your guy and his family with wisdom...tell the devil that u are smarter than him...

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    1. This poster need nobody to the her that she's walking into a furnace with her eyes wide open.

      Your boyfriend is a momma's boy and his mother is going to preside over your wedding and be ready for a long bumpy ride because this woman is going to drive you round the bend.

      I believe you see all that but you just want you get married by all possible means then later you come and bore us again with "chronic" chronicle.

      All the handwritings are there for you to read but wedding won't let you reason well.

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  50. Poverty is like a punishment for a crime you didn't commit. Your future mother in law detest ur humble beginning,so sad!

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    1. I am not poor. I don't know How you guys got that notion! My family is more well to do than his.

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  51. Tell him you re no longer interested and Watch his reaction. And just like your aunt said, be open. You guys are not even married yet and his mother is already trying to take decision for him. What will happen after the marriage?

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  52. Dear Poster, trust me, it's not going to get any better when you eventually get married.Your hubby's mum will want to count the meat you cook in your pot at every opportunity she gets and she will continue to embarrass you till you drop. my dear sister, in order to avoid future problems with your marriage/home, you have to ask yourself if you can continue with the bullshit cos it will not get any better. a yoruba adage says oko buruku shey fe, ana buruku ko shey ni( you can marry a bad spouse but you can't afford to have a bad in law)

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    1. Pl turn ur ass let me lick it ooooo... best comment

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  53. Abeg u no get story what are u rushing, intro has been done, wait na if possible carry belle and born as you una dey wait. There is no issue here

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  54. Honey,

    You have a piece of work MIL but you need a husband who will have a backbone. This is why you do not compromise too much for men, when it is your turn...they act as though you do not exist. Do what pleases you sometimes and they will comply (not to say be selfish but really think of you). You were quick to dismiss your own siblings and this man is willing to wait almost 2 years for his. If you continue with this man, be sure to not become a foot mat.

    Please take charge of your life more. You are a hardworker from the looks of it, do not leave all your affairs to a man. If you do end up marrying him, please do not leave things to him in the name of blind trust. His family is a piece of work. Know what properties are owned by who and when purchased (do not like your CV and cover letter, be clueless to affairs).

    If you love this man, both of you can talk and come up with a date that works for EVERYONE. Just know this, men are inherently selfish and will do what pleases them. Even the really good ones.

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  55. This mother inlaws na wa ooo. But I tot it's between the couples to choose a date that is convenient for both of them and then relate to their parents. Well me sef don tire for this marriage matter.

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  56. Ur MIL will still dictate what time U should cook for her son when U finally get married...Must his siblings attend d wedding?My sister,please don't stop praying o...God will intervene

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    1. The question is why is the potential mil acting this way? Is it that they are looking down on poster, or they have somebody else they prefer? Watch your bobo closely, have many conversations with him. Action speaks louder than words. In short, you do need to wait, don't rush into the union until things are cleared up and you are sure that you can handle being his wife...ooo and close that cookie jar for now, as others have said. God bless you.

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  57. Poster it all boils down to you both and if he is all you say he is then you both have to communicate well and understand each other

    It is your marriage but your families wedding okay

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  58. Please If you must abort or have aborted before kindly take note of these facts:
    When one kills (or encourages the killing of; see Prov. 6:16-17) innocent children, the consequences are three. 1. You deny yourself the joy of having a home (remember the Hebrew midwives who spared babies against Pharaoh's advice to kill them; God rewarded them with families; Ex.1) 2. You risk "sudden death" in the hands of another fellow/accidents etc. remember Gen.9:6 and thirdly, you deny yourself eternal life! What a life! God isn't going to call you to glory if you do not repent. Jesus said; come to me all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest; that's Matt. 11:28. If you do not repent, you'd keep on laboring for the Serpent. But if you repent and make Jesus your Lord today and begin to read your scriptures; you'd find peace and the above three lots will not be yours. God bless you.

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  59. Your guy is still tied to his mother's apron. I wonder why his parents should be the ones to fix a date for the wedding. It's your wedding not theirs. I'm a man, but I hate it when some men allow themselves to be controlled by tbeir parents. One should love and obey ones parents, but one should be able to make decisions for oneself even if it means displeasing ones parents sometimes. If you marry this guy, his mother will make your life a living hell, and your man won't rise to your defence or do nada. Even though you claim he loves you, his actions have clearly shown that he is not ready to stand up to his family and put you above everything else. From your story, we can infer that your fiance's people think you should be grateful that their son wants to marry you. They don't see you as someone who their son should be lucky to have. Don't break up with the mama's boy yet. Keep your options open. As hard as you may find it, try and date other guys. You might just find someone who is willing to stand up to his family and demand that they respect you. When his mum told you to wear an old clothes, that was when he should have called his mum to order. If my mum tried this, I'd sit her down and respectfully talk some sense into her. You don't tell a lady to wear old clothes on a day that is most important to her. Sometimes when I read things like these, I find it hard to believe because my parents can't and won't do a thing like this. Pls, shine your eyes. That woman will make your life a living hell if you marry her son.

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  60. Lol na wa
    My dear run for ur life.. ur guy is a mummy's boy. Can u imagine?no mind of his own sef.
    I can't deal biko!

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  61. Poster,please u two should do court wedding .. Next year,do the traditional

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  62. I think you should pray about it,may not be ordinary and talk to your pastor

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  63. Familiar territory. Mum has convinced son. Why do you think non of his friends knew nothing about him back in Uni? He is too close to mum. How do I know this? I live with one but God is making a way.

    We decided wedding modalities few years ago and we had an idea of what we wanted. Guess what, mother in law came in and was asking we change almost everything! My outfit to venue to aso ebi. When she started, she started with my outfit and u didn't say anything. Her son spoke to her and he said he was standing by his wife. That was the beginning of true colour showing.

    Following week, he changed tone and he started changing tone till we got married. Didn't lift a finger, they didn't cook for the day. I stood my ground all through.

    He has started seeing the real world and thank God things are changing for the better.

    I believe standing my ground made her realise I am not a push over.....

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  64. OK...me sef need advice, lemme wait for comments

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  65. You can see girl that your supposed home is slipping out of your hands. You know the reason?
    You killed a baby (or babies) and you " are happy you did"? You do not have "any regrets?" Go and read Exodus chapter one and understand why. Until you give yourself to godly sorrow which brings repentance, even when you get married to this guy or another, you will have pains; like the mother in law thorn in the flesh that is already rearing her head!

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  66. Hmmm.... Your boyfriend who is suppose to be a man is still in diapers and you have been baby sitting him for 9years and his mum is still not ready to wean him. The two shall become one ....the marriage is all about the two of you and your day. The way your MIL who can't keep her nose to her face by sticking it into everything her son does will make things really tough. You dated him for 9 yrs didn't you see the signs. Or what were you guys taking about and observing about yourselves and your family. You should have seen this coming. The way everybody is dictating how your wedding should be and when it will hold even the family dog will have to shift it till 2020 cause that's when he has time to bark. You should listen to your aunt, support from your brothers and be strong and take charge for your mum's sake. Mothers always are more sentimental about issues like this than being practical. Read the riot act to your boyfriend and tell him he needs to take charge and be a man. You seem not to be sure of yourself too. You said you have a good business and your MIL to be wants you to pack it up for a white collar job that pays peanuts. Who does that. Tell your boyfriend to test his mum by saying you guys have decided on a small registry wedding and that's what the two of you want. If he can boldly hold his ground and take charge then there is still hope but if he can't even sell them this dummy idea the I guess it's going to be a community marriage. Or you start considering what your aunt said. After 17 years in this marriage business I always say the two of you must stick together as one from the starting lineup or else it's a lost race. All the best.

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  67. Why are most Yoruba boys tied to their mother's apron strings?
    Is there a "juju" control that these women use? Please those in the know should come and educate us because I am yet to see an exception. Please I am a guy and I am sincere in what I ask.
    But you poster, you no try at all; so you killed that innocent baby and you "do not regret it?" Are you kidding me? So you do not know that the blood of that baby could be out to make your marriage a nearby hell like you have begun to feel? Please set right your paths.

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    1. Most Yaraba mothers are the ones raising their children alone without the help of their husband or baby daddy!...
      You know their women are hardworking...
      When the children grow up,they don't have any option than to worship their mother...
      Another observation I noticed is that dem dey waka"spiritual waka" for their children especially their sons...
      Most successful,wealthy yaraba men have their moms doing underground spiritual runs for them...
      No woman dare put asunder between mother and son!...

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    2. Na big fat lie.

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    3. Na big fat lie.

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  68. You can see girl that your supposed home is slipping out of your hands. You know the reason?
    You killed a baby (or babies) and you " are happy you did"? You do not have "any regrets?" Go and read Exodus chapter one and understand why. Until you give yourself to godly sorrow which brings repentance, even when you get married to this guy or another, you will have pains; like the mother in law thorn in the flesh that is already rearing her head!

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    1. Shut up judgina!...
      I have done several d and c before getting married and I have never experienced those rubbish you wrote up there!...
      So shut that smelly hole you called a mouth!..

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  69. Ì will advice you to wait, it may be hard but it will be more difficult to find a guy like him if you truly love him. 2018 is just by the corner is you ask me.

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  70. My Dear, his mum doesn't want you to be her daughter inlaw. Work on yourself. Try your best to be somebody. And most importantly pertaining to this your case Pls don't put your eggs in one basket. Your fiancee is a manbaby.

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  71. Ì will advice you to wait, it may be hard but it will be more difficult to find a guy like him if you truly love him. 2018 is just by the corner if you ask me.

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  72. Hmmmmmm getting married to a mummys boy is the worst thing that can happen to any body. You never marry her son yet you have started seeing hell. Hmmmmm shine ya eyes and fine another bobo. She obviously hates you cant you see?







    *hangs leg on the wall*

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  73. His family doesn't like you, that's why they're doing lots of paparazzi. Firstly his mum don't want you to look good on your intro, telling you to wear old cloths, secondly she condemns your business so bad like its a piece of sh*t, thirdly she picked date which is wrong(wife's family is supposed to pick date) fourthly his daddy even shifted to dec with flimsy excuse. All this facts shows they don't want you in their family. It could be a deliberate act on side to frustrate you, so you'll leave, tryna matchmake their son to someone else and dissolve your togetherness. She just doesn't see anything good in you. That's all. She'll be so bosy in your marriage, run affairs of your home even tell your husband when to gbensh you and how to treat you. Start praying now, you need God's intervention

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  74. Pray for God direction
    Seek his face if the guy is your hubby
    If he is God will reveal it to you but if not he will also reveal to you
    If he is pray to God to intervene in the situation to favour you
    Once your in-laws don't like you, you are in trouble, you can't win the battle when you and hubby have issues
    2018 is too long for a courtship to be solemnise it
    Pray always, the battle line has been drawn and face your biz, make sure it grows well and if possible start a career too

    Tiwa

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  75. This is the time to commit everything to God, He alone can remove any obstacle on your way if you trust in Him.
    Let me tell you guys one secret... when a guy proposes to you, start praying that anything that will stand as obstacle God please take it away, and grant you favour all around. Tell God that I have done mine please perfect Your will and if you know any motherless baby home, just jejeje rush there and sow a seed in their lives without announcing it.

    Back to the matter...
    20 months is long to get married and equally ok to get married to someone else. My dear commit everything to God's hand and do not nag him but be nice to him, God can change their hearts over night. The only person I'm angry at is that your guy, it seems he can't take a decision without involving them and that's where he's making mistakes and I won't be surprised if they send him to abroad just to frustrate you but hey, they can't because you've a Big God that can do all things. On your MIL side, she doesn't know morrow whether she'd be alive to witness it or not. Just believe and even if you wanna give other men option, please beware and they might try setting you up. Also - Get a white colla JOB.

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  76. You dated him for 8 solid years and in the course of those years,you took life decisions all becuse you were in love with him,so I will say why not still wait if you are trully convinced he is the one for you.

    But yet again,you should also keep an open mind cos of his controlling mother.

    In as much as it is risky to wait,i'l advice you wait cos he genuinely loves you. All the best.

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  77. 9 years of ****ery, you might as well wait for 1 or 2 years.

    Then again, it's obvious your MIL doesn't like you, maybe you didn't get to meet her before now. Your man is a mommy's boy and you don't want to settle for that, because your chronicle(s) will never end.

    The reason for the wait is not acceptable, but your man unfortunately doesn't know what he wants, is always better to do the wedding as soon as possible after the introduction, else negativity kinda sets in.

    ☺Talk to that bobo of yours nicely and see what he says.
    ☺Give other guys chance,because I see wahala coming.
    ☺Be financially independent just incase

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  78. The only reason they postponed the wedding date is becus they hope u guys would have broken up before then, so keep ur options open. And if somehow u guys make it to the altar, and every single thing uve said is true, God help u with a mother -in- law like that. All the best.

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  79. This na pure manipulation o! u need prayers seriously.2018 DEC is far na! well my own advice is 1.Pray hard, 2.keep ur eyes & mind open, 3.Be very careful & wise in following dem so u be able to understand & know their motives along dis period 4.plan & take ur next action. God help u o.
    This world is too deep o.
    As u said he's other older siblings r not married I think they are under a cause or demonic manipulation in that family that is why u need to pray hard!
    I know of a man three of he's siblings r married but him & the younger sis.He wants he's gf to be a baby mama,he won't just marry her but keeps telling everybody she's he's wife. He's girlfriend found out in a dream dat d man is under spiritual manipulation & he won't just get married else d wife will die.dats how d gf left him asap...so many people r like DAT, marine powers r manipulating their marital destiny so they can't get married...

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  80. Young lady, use ur head, it is clearly spelt out that ur prospective MIL doesn't like u, don't be surprised if she already has anoda girl in mind for her son. MIL can be something else ooooo, use ur brain oooo. Ur bf or "fiance" is still a mama's boy, a grown up man shud make decisions on his own.
    Moreover, don't get too emotional about the whole thing, give other guys a chance

    Broken courtship is better than a broken marriage
    Use ur head

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    1. I often tell people that when a man is mature enough, he commands respect even from his home. They can trust his decision especially who he marries and when he marries. Families tend to protect their sons when they think they don't have balls and some girl is just trying to take advantage of them. Poster, find yourself a man. This boy ain't ready to be a man if his mommy doesn't think he is grown enough. After all she is his mommy.

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  81. Is not as if the 2018 is far but your mother in-law shouldn't be the one to decide it and with the look of things your man will be agreeing to his mum decision which i don't like, for now use the time to prepare yourself very well if it work out fine

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  82. Poster u are seeing the signs now and ur claiming love,remember love alone can not keep a marriage continue na,I see another chronicles loading

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  83. Oyo is ur case, the truth is u will regret marrying this guy, write it down today. u better look for husband somewhere elsem

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  84. My Dear as tough as it sounds you do have a battle to fight. You need to intensify your prayers for your fiance and your union. Speak to him about the long wait and agree on a date. Most importantly,stop sleeping with him. Concentrate on building your business empire and trust God for the best.

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  85. Dear poster pls I want to do ur kind of biz but is it only sugar u sell? How do I reach you?

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  86. Babe the problem is your man. Yes! He has told his mother and family about how he takes care of you and helps out maybe your family as well ( maybe unknowingly) and his mum is just trying to protect her son from too much responsibility that comes with marrying you. I won't advice you marry him because if he has embarrassed you this much to his family there a more that awaits you in that house after marriage. Pray pray and pray. Pray yourself and ask God to fix it if you really want him. Men marry women with no job yet their families don't complain.

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  87. My dear poster,pls thread carefully. U are dealing wt a woman in charge of d whole household. Her hubby and children are all under her wrapper.
    Wake up at midnight and talk to urself and ur maker.
    Are u ready to face d epic battle of ur life?
    Are u ready to detach ur guy from d mother's apron?
    Are u emotionally, physically and spiritually ready?
    If u can answer all these questions in d affirmative, then wait for d guy. But if NO, pls borrow Usain Bolts shoes.....
    Yoruba says 'To ba Ko waju si o, Ko ta, to ba kehin si ko ta. To ba Ku iwo nikan, da ero arare pa....

    AMBER

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  88. Thats the problem I have with Africans...Who says a person you dated all your life will give you peace of mind? Try weigh other options. #my2cents

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  89. Look Poster all the signs are there that you want to enter the wrong marriage. Your eye will see more than pepper+aboniki+sniper join. The type of mischievousness your never imagined possible will be visited on you and your husband will not say a word to defend you. A sample was already shown to you when MIL asked you to wear something old while she ordered her own dress from Dubai. If not for inside information you received they wanted you to look like a househelp at that introduction. It would've been okay if the guy will come to your aid when the snobbery, pettiness and disgrace start but lailai, a mummy's boy will never stand up to defend his wife, he will just be looking, will even support mum against you and blame you. You will wonder if that was the same guy that cared for you like an angel during courtship. You will age in a jiffy and then start endless prayer and fasting. They will treat you like a rag. It is better to be single than to put your lovely head inside this trap. So many examples are all over the place suffering in silence. That will not be your portion. Pray to God to show you your real husband who will protect and defend you as his rib and a family that will accept you with genuine love like their daughter. Marriage is not a child's play and is not by force. Happiness is more important than marriage.

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  90. PPoster look beyond what is going on now. Wait on GOD, He may be trying to use this delay for you to know what you are about to walk into. Look beyond the delays, God is saying something. Be attentive enough to listen!

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  91. you are already living in sin. Get pregnant and the wedding will be hastened. Another thing to consider is that your mother in law doesn't like you. She is likely to frustrate you in future. If you marry him, don't live near her. I know someone in your shoes and her mother in law don finally use jazz to make the marriage scatter. The reason they are postponing the wedding could be so your relationship will end. Some misfortunes are blessings. I will advise you to keep dating him but spread your tentacles

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  92. Seriously I got angry reading this! Pls hope he is nt d only egg u r having, cos if he is, u jst hv to widen your wings...

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  93. Poster the mother inlaw hate you & she don't want her son to marry you Pls pray anyhow u can't cos that woman is an enemy fight ur enemies spiritually, hold ur man drag him to court for court marriage. Then if they want they can do the trad 2020 if they want & don't forget to play nice girl till u balance wella.

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  94. How old are you? If age is on your side you can wait if you really love him and same on his part. But if not, try to get pregnant before then, you'll know the wait was worth it. I tho see d family not welcoming you. The ball is in your court to decide what you want. If you decide to go ahead, you have to learn to stand very form for what you believe big not, you won't enjoy your marriage. What's the business between prospective mother in law and what you wear for intro?

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  95. Brown sugar said it all , do a quiet registry be married and then wait for wedding ceremony. MIL just wants to be star in another person's wedding. Nawa

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  96. Poster if you wait now because his family said so, you would have many more similar ish to put up with! Can you deal?

    MrsBee

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  97. What if they postpone the date from December 2018 ?From your write up,I don't think u need a white collar job before getting married since you have a good business.Love is not enough to sustain a home.Fight your battles on your knees,don't discuss the issue with your fiance again till you have prayed seriously.May God direct you.My sister,prayyyyyyyyy.Let Gods will be done

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  98. Speaking from experience, Poster, it looks like you haven't met your husband yet.

    1.He is easily manipulated by his mother.
    2. His mother doesn't like you and she seems to have led the rest of the family to follow suit.
    3. They have a complex that's why they would tell you to wear something old while they went for something big. They want to establish control and upper hand not only over you but over your family. They want to call the shots.
    4. If at all you end up marrying this boy, things are only bound to get worst.
    5. You should have met informally before the formal intro. People who haven't made the big decisions shouldn't make any formal rites.
    6. If at b all you marry this boy, make sure there is mutual respect between the family. And makesure the relationship between you and his mother has improved greatly. This marriage will be hell if your relationship remains strained.
    Yes, keep your options open. He may seem right but his circumstances aren't very right for you. Marriage is tough but with bad families on the background, it's impossible. Love will quickly be replaced with frustration and hate. All the best.

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  99. If you're having sex with him, STOP it now. Sex clouds everything

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