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Wednesday, 8 March 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Seems this happens a lot?WOW..I cannot even imagine this!




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE....
RIP TO A FATHER THAT HAS NOT DIED:

Good day super Stella and BVs.Been a blog visitor long time so let me get straight to the point, I don't know where this fall into but please i need advice. Sorry for the long story, tried my best to make it short. Stella please hide my ID.....i sent this few months back but it wasn't posted so i am re sending it again


forgive the errors that would follow,i am a lady , my parents met while my father was doing his NYSC in imo state,my mum is from IMO. my mother got pregnant with me when my father was about going back to the west, because he is Yoruba, they both agreed to abort for reasons best known to them, when he left, my mother found out that the abortion didn’t work so she decided to have the baby and bear the cross alone because they lost contacts.

She had me, got married but my step father refuse to have me in his house after some time into the marriage. That’s after my mum has already given birth to a son for him. She left him because of that and raised me and my brother alone, she suffered but she tried her best, she insisted on me answering my father’s surname because she believed that someday we would meet.she really loved him.


Long story short she met him when i was like 6 years in Lagos and he was interested in meeting me and all but my mum was leaving the country and had left me with an aunt in the village so he wasn't able to meet me.after my mum left the country and lost contact with him again. I was left with only a framed picture which he said should be given to me. (Picture got misplaced through my aunt i was living with,i was so little so i cant even remember the face right now )



I started looking for my father when i got admission into the university, asking questions and checking Facebook. after i lost my brother to the cold hands of death i intensified my search for my (father).I found him through Facebook, I know what i went through before i did. Saw his nephew on Facebook through the surname, i had to lie and somehow the guy gave me his number .this was last year February. I will be 30years in March. I was so nervous and happy that finally i have to meet this man, and put a face to the name i have been bearing.

I called him after deliberating for 2 days what i was going to do, he was as surprised to hear from me and said he was going to call me back,2 good weeks he didn’t call and i finally told my mum and she got his num from me and called him. He later called me and apologized for not calling back explaining how he lost my number and the rest. 

He explained his side of the abortion and later meeting my mum story to me. i told him i just wanted us to meet get to know each other .he said he is based in Abuja and is married with 2 kids. He picked a day for us to meet only for him to disappoint, I didn’t hear from him and I decided to let him be for few months .i called him again and he apologized that he lost all his contact.

this past xmas I decided to call him again so we can meet, I explained to him that I didn’t want anything from him, am done with my schooling and working so I just wanted to see his face. 

He agreed that we should meet on the 24th of December, that’s how I didn’t hear from him again. I sent him a text that if we didn’t see and 2016 runs out that he is dead to me, he didn’t call or reply the text.i still cant let him go ,i told myself to delete his digit and let it all go but i cant bring myself to do that .


P.S -  his nephew that gave me the num don’t know am his daughter and he told me he is a lecturer at NOUN in Abuja ,I live in Lagos and he was in Lagos this xmas ,he told me himself


Is it bad to want to place a face to the surname I have carried with me for 30 years?

Should I just forget about him and delete his number??

What could be his reason for not wanting us to meet???

I have met someone and i think its leading somewhere the only issue now is that i told him am from Imo because i didn't want to explain all the above to him.should i tell him now??



*Please move on your father does not exist.#Spermdonor ..
DO NOT TELL YOUR MAN ANYTHING cos he might use your story against you later......He doesnt want to meet becos he is scared you might want further contact and he doesnt know how to explain you to his wife and his family.
Stop hurting yourself,please move on and be Happy.




137 comments:

ukwu dimond said...

Atchoo chronicles don land


I say atchoo na d way forward.

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becky naka said...

Another delicate matter, if he doesn't want to meet with you, let him be.

Anonymous said...

Why do Yariba men ejaculate semen everywhere?

Blackberry said...

Forget who doesn't want o.

Blackberry said...

You*

Anonymous said...


What is this again?
Another Yariba demon story; when are we going to get tired of being bombarded by these depositors of seminal fluids?

Debi said...

Poster please move on and be happy. Not everyone will have a father. Many are sperm donor. Abeg forget about him.

ukwu dimond said...

Forget about your dad and move on, If he want you he will look for you. Is not by force to knw the face of the person you are bearing his name. Let him be please,. He has a family already, do not tell your man any shit, lock up and play cool.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

poster forget about that man and move on with your life. stop contacting him. you have done your own part by trying to reach out to him severally and since he is not interested leave it. the day will come when he will look for you and by then it will be too late or him. You survived not knowing him all these years, you can keep living without him. Your mom is a strong woman. not every woman would walk out of her marriage because the man refused to accept the child she had previously. many women with kids care about just their happiness and dont understand the kids need to be happy too and not pushed aside so i respect her for that

BECKY DIVINE said...

Aww I feel your pain darling

Finally y'all witches and wizards here won't accuse this poster of coded begging right? Wicked souls mshewwwwww

My dear I'd suggest you let him be for now, since he doesn't want to acknowledge you as his daughter....then leave him alone and be happy you still have your mom!

As for your man.. I'd suggest you not lie to him. Nothing that happened in the past is/was your fault.. So I suggest you explain things to him! Leave the abortion part out of it, just tell him your mom and dad lost contact..and since then you haven't been able to meet your dad. Simple!

That way he won't think you lied about being from IMO state, and you guys can do the marriage in your mother's place since your selfish father doesn't want you!
I'm sure he'll come looking for you sometime in the future, don't mind him for now. At least you tried your Be
best by searching for him and making contact. The rest is left to him

#My Opinion

Anonymous said...

Cowards!
They ejaculate and run away!
They are only good in lifting skirts and depositing sperm.
Why not man up to the aftermath?
Failed promises and tongues that ejaculate lies!
Why are demons like this?

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Why so much fuss my dear.
Since your conception he didn't care, 30 years later you think he'd start to care? When he now has another family to call his own.
Maybe I don't understand it because I have both parents but please the hand writing is on the wall, let the man be and be glad you had at least one parent.
He probably doesn't want his family to know about you either and seeing as he made no effort after meeting your mother and learning that she kept you after their agreement to terminate he won't be bothered now.
You just met someone and you guys aren't official yet please don't be in a hurry. Yes you might get sympathy from him but that's the best he can do.
You can tell him you never met your dad but at least you have a mother and that's just good enough. Some people don't have either parents and still live happy lives. For example orphans. So why are you beating yourself up. If it's surname disturbing you please go to court and change name to your mother's maiden name, it doesn't cost an arm and a leg.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

You see why I hate men from that part of the country?...
Gosh!!..
I hate them!...none of my generation will marry a man from there..olorun maje!...
Na to fuck and get women all over the place pregnant without care...that's the only thing they are good at!..
Nonsense!...
Poster,it's obvious that this man does not want you in his life!...
Biko move on with your life and delete anything that would make you remember his existence again...
The mistake your mom made was giving you his rubbish surname to bear!...
That's why I love my culture!...if you born a child outside wedlock,the child most bear your father's name not the sperm donor's name...
Useless father!...

Anonymous said...

mention his name and someone would send his photo to Stella from NOUN :)

Monkeynofine said...

Make good use of Stella advise.... I know how u feel babe but please move on!

Yemi Ayeni said...

Stella be giving advise like its very easy to move on. I have seen this first hand ,one of my aunt gave birth and left her baby boy for one babalawo to care for him. Long story cut short, he started looking for his mom but the woman was too ashamed to meet him, could not bring herself to face him. Maybe that's what your father is feeling right now.. My supposed cousin later met his mum and together they looked for his father who is a prominent politician in ondo state plus he turned out to be the only boy.. Poster don't mind Stella even if it's once get to see him and clear your mind.

redbotafly said...

Your father doesn't want to meet you.... His wife must be a jezebel.
Move on already.
One day he will be the one looking for u everywhere and until then, do not contact him anymore.

peace maker said...

I am not surprised.People from a particular race in Nigeria are very wayward and irresponsible. They have most of their children all over the place & outside marriage
Poster. Don't tell ur man about ur complicated family now. U can let him know in d future after marriage and maybe a child or two when two of you have bonded,and inseparable

Kels... said...

Please tell your fiancΓ©e, cos the truth will definitely come out one day, save yourself the stress of explaining to him and convincing him of why you chose to lie. You didn't cause all these...please forget about your dad, even after all these years, he isn't responsible.

Fan Emmanuel said...

My dear you better go and marry and move on with your life. He doesn't want to meet you because he's afraid of his family (Wife and kids)and some scandals being that he's now a public figure.
So my dear move on. Stop asking to see him. Besides,I wouldn't want you to go and scatter a peaceful home simply because you want to reunite.
Personally I wouldn't take a love child,no matter the circumstance that brought it.I
will always consider him or her as a threat to my marriage. So girlfriend go and marry,and leave trash for ndi ESWMA

Purity J said...

It's really not easy to forget but just move on,with or without him God's got your back.

Christiana Ellah said...

My dear poster I may not understand how u feel not haven't walked in ur shoes but I think I can picture myself feeling the same way ur feeling and wanting to be connected to the man who gave u life. My dear do not loose hope or come to the conclusion that he is dead to you. As human beings we handle stuffs differently you know a lot of time has passed between you guys and he might not know how to bring it up to his family especially his wife that he had a child after 30 years and it does not mean that he may does not love you or wish to be your father. Please still hang in there keep reaching out to him and also pray for God to touch him don't be surprised if he would be the one to ring you up asking to meet up. As for your suitor open up right away and tell him the whole truth about u. if he truly loves you and is the one he will cross this hurdle with you. so you guys can start planning how to go about your lives journey before you meet with his family so he can know what to tell them as in where exactly you are from. Cheers i pray you reunite with your dad soonest.

Isaacson said...

Poster I agree with Stella...all the excuses are too much..its hard but you just have to move on poster,be strong

Chidinma Grace said...

NNE move on and don't call him again.

Anonymous said...

Poster don't tell your guy all that stuff. He might use it against you with time. Keep somethings to yourself.

I have you go annonymous my wife to be dey read, I no wan Maha she use this against me sha.. πŸƒπŸƒπŸƒ

April said...

Stella i disagree with your advice on the part of not telling her husband to be cos tomorrow he might hear the news from someone else which will be more painful, forget your father now dear poster, i know someday he will come looking for you, but please don't lie to your husband to be about it,pray to God for his understanding when you relate it to him and i bet you he will support you and love you more except he is not your God ordained husband.

Atheist ™ said...

That's what blood does, the connection is stronger at ur end than his end, he sees u as a mistake made on a date, comin back to today! You wouldn't rest till u see him face2face, i guarantee u, even if u delete his number, u will still search for it.... Seeing him reject u to ur face will gv u closure, that's wat u need, closure! Keep digging, if it means contacting ur half siblings or step mum. Too many nonchallant n carefree sperm donors out thr.

Christiana Ellah said...

My dear poster I may not understand how u feel not haven't walked in ur shoes but I think I can picture myself feeling the same way ur feeling and wanting to be connected to the man who gave u life. My dear do not loose hope or come to the conclusion that he is dead to you. As human beings we handle stuffs differently you know a lot of time has passed between you guys and he might not know how to bring it up to his family especially his wife that he had a child after 30 years and it does not mean that he may does not love you or wish to be your father. Please still hang in there keep reaching out to him and also pray for God to touch him don't be surprised if he would be the one to ring you up asking to meet up. As for your suitor open up right away and tell him the whole truth about u. if he truly loves you and is the one he will cross this hurdle with you. so you guys can start planning how to go about your lives journey before you meet with his family so he can know what to tell them as in where exactly you are from. Cheers i pray you reunite with your dad soonest.

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Chai see one of the things that should make one never to think of becoming a baby Mama. Poster look for him to satisfy your curiosity, you will never have peace of mind if you don't do this.
Ideato your reply of yesterday's chronicle really made me laugh. If I wanted to solicit for their help, would have done that a long time ago.

Anyafulugo1 said...

Irresponsible sperm donors everywhere!

Ndidiamaka Ndidiamaka said...

Ndi ofemmanu are fond of being irresponsible ... Nawah ...

Fan Emmanuel said...

Yariba kwa? Hahahaha...

Fan Emmanuel said...

My dear they will never change. Odi ha na obara

Robyna Wenger said...

He doesn't want you in his life. Deep down you know this already. He has a wife and kids and he doesn't know how to tell them about you. I think he doesn't want to tell you directly so he wont hurt your feelings. It's better you move on.You have survived without him for 30 yrs, you really don't need him. I disagree with Stella, don't lie to the man in your life. He will eventually find out when it's time for the trad marriage. If he really loves you, that won't be a problem. It's a good thing you are a woman. You can get married and completely embrace your husband's side. Good Luck.

Anonymous said...

Abeg ask me o.I pity other tribes that marry them,only their women know how to deal with them.

Anonymous said...

Why the useless surname sef,poster go change that name and don't ever marry Yoruba.

Fan Emmanuel said...

Hahaha
Just passing!

Anonymous said...

You will understand because that's your people's lifestyle,don't blame Stella she doesn't understand your tribe's way of life

Anonymous said...

Why do you want to lie about being from Imo?
Just tell him you have a father whom you have never met and that your mum has been your support.
What's the big deal in that?
I help you thank God that your mum did not leave you.
Forget your father for now, he'll come looking for you later.

To yesterday's chronicle poster: why didn't you call out your mum also. I'm sure you know her name and her surname.
Don't you get in touch with your maternal grandparents or their family anymore?
Call her out, she deserves it.
You might not know her recent surname, use her parents surname. C'mon
God bless you

Fan Emmanuel said...

Lekwa this one! So orphans should go and die? What if the man has died,will she enter his grave and reunite? Nne inakokwa bullshit! Abeg abeg

Fan Emmanuel said...

Maybe she's my kind of jezebel cos I no go fit take love child. Except if the mother is dead. Yesooo,it's that serious!

Yemi Ayeni said...

This is the first time your comment doesn't make sense.... What a shame

Blossom said...

Poster.i haven't walked in your shoess but my close friend's situation is similar to yours.

She never met her father and her mother never spoke good of him. She against all odds,got his number and they arranged to meet. He didn't show up and it went from one excuse to another. She eventually gave up and got married last year.


If he doesn't want to be involved in your life,pls move on and don't hurt yourself the more. I wish you well.

Wendixx said...

Dear Poster, I think I like Atheist's advise. I know you will not get closure until you meet up with him even if it is once.

Since Mohammad has refused to go to the mountain, you know his name and where he works. Simply storm the venue during office hours, make coded inquiries and meet him one on one without scheduling it with him.

Tell him your mind and whatever happens, I'm sure you'll get the closure you need.
Also, PLEASE TELL OUR FIANCE IF YOU'RE SURE HE IS REALLY READY FOR MARRIAGE. It helps to build trust.

God bless you

Cheers..

Yemi Ayeni said...

And you're proud of that your culture?

Fan Emmanuel said...

I think the woman left her marriage because she's still in love with her baby daddy and was also thinking that someday somehow she will meet and marry him. You don't know some people na anwo ka ekwensu!

Anonymous said...

This chronicle is like one Filipino drama (on the Wings of Love) later the father regret it

Anonymous said...

You hate them and u are speaking their language, mumu is ur name

Cherry topaz said...

Poster all I have to say is that your mom is a true hero. Reminds me of my mom, may she rest in peace.

Anonymous said...

Tell that is a wrong advise if you ask me..never you keep secrets from your man.no one knows tomorrow..if he eventually marries you and found out,it might turn to another chronicle..Let your father be..don't worry conscience will prick him..

Anonymous said...

Stella that is a wrong advise if you ask me..never you keep secrets from your man.no one knows tomorrow..if he eventually marries you and found out,it might turn to another chronicle..Let your father be..don't worry conscience will prick him..

Anonymous said...

Tribalistic bigot. Must you join Queen and boss by intentionally mis-spelling YORUBA?

Mao Akuh said...

Na wa for ndi ofe.

Anonymous said...

Tribalistic bigot. I hope your son(s) get married to people of that tribe. God help you if the lady(ies) has/have mothers with your mentality.

Anonymous said...

Pot calling kettle black. How many IDs have you used on this blog? Wayward tribalistic bigot. Mscheeeew

beeolah said...

Follow Stella advice

Anonymous said...

I have to be anon to write this, I remember few years ago , a woman and her daughter went to meet my aunts and told them her daughter is my dad,s child, that she was pregnant for him over 30 years ago, now she wants to get married and needs to do her trad in my father,s house, my mum flared up, I tried to beg her to allow the girl to do the trad only , she said no, that her mum will now ask for a space and start with her child being my dad,s first child,my mum said she didn't want an issue, like cold water my dad was mute, she didn't accept the woman and her daughter, though he explained to us that he knew the woman many years ago but like a one day relationship and he didn't know she became pregnant cos she was seeing other men so he didn't take her serious, I heard her daughter looked so much like me and doing so well, I felt awkward but didn't know how to convince my parents, so the girl stopped calling my dad cos then she called my dad always on the phone, one time I even picked her call and she spoke nicely to me , each time I remember the incident I feel bad, the girl works in an embassy, I was even like oh I would have gotten a visa through her, so poster, his family may have done same thing like my mum,she doesn't want u and has warned her husband, I wish I met that my half sister, she sounded nice on the phone

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Anonymous said...

Add edo too

Anonymous said...

LMAOOOO! I love this! But since he doesn't want any relationship with you, forget him and build your life. Don't make the mistakes of your mother.

Anonymous said...

Why do eeboh women receive semen everywhere?

Anonymous said...

They both agreed to not keep the child only to find out 6yrs later your mum did otherwise.

You need to understand his position. He moved on, he's got a family now. Perhaps a peaceful and happy one. Your presence in his life wouldn't just affect him, it would affect his kids and his wife, his home.

If I were you, I'd have continued with just phone calls. Get comfortable with each other, get to know each other and be patient enough to let meeting up be his idea. You were eager to meet, he was scared, not ready and ran off.

The text was too harsh though.The situation isn't exactly black or white, there are grey areas here.

Anyhow, all the best.

MISS Jacobs.

Anonymous said...

I just wanted a relationship for fun, now he's talking marriage and it's giving me a headache. I'm 25, he's 34. He's RICH, works hard I love him but I'm not ready.

Chi best said...

Move on with your life and forget about him. Who fada help? Pls open up to your man cos none of this was your making.

Princess Scheherazade said...

Why? To what end, really?
I don't think this is necessary. Not wanting anything to do with an estranged biological child isn't a criminal offence.

Poster, pls ignore him and face your life. It's a pity your biological father had to be a spineless fellow.

Please tell your man the truth, so that if he cannot handle it, he can take a walk now, better a broken engagement than a broken marriage.
What happened isn't your fault so I don't see why it should affect your relationship but perchance it be an issue for him, the earlier he knows, the better.

If you don't tell him and your dad comes to beg for your forgiveness later in life ( which he will) what will you tell your hubby?

Princess Scheherazade said...

People from a particular "race" in Nigeria?
You mean TRIBE...

finest said...

Stella I think she should let her fiance know about her Dad. He has every right to know...

Meanwhile I want to blow a very big whistle 😁😁😁😁 jhw hold me back pls

Anonymous said...

I lied to my fiancee about my age,although I look quite younger than my age.I'm 28 but I look 24.Do you guys think its a big deal to lie about ones age?

Eegor said...

You brought an innocent child into this world who is literally begging to glance at your face and you give all these flimsy excuses *sigh* the world is truly wicked. My dear it is not easy but you will survive just like many orphans do. Forget this man and forge ahead. He is DEAD to you indeed.

Anonymous said...

Dry, get another name

Anonymous said...

That was how my father left me and my mom at the hospital the day she gave birth to me 28 years ago. I never even bothered to look for him because he don't want me and my mother that was why he left us at the hospital he parked all his things and ran away till now we have not heard from him

finest said...

Don't go into details about abortion stuff to your man, pick your words.dont sell off your papa in the presence of your dad to avoid mkpari in the future. None of these is your fault...

SDK I'm excited about this whistle I want to blow. Is it the 5% or what? πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

Anonymous said...

Get a job, 6 comments on 1 post. How do you feed without a paying job?

Dope PH BaBe said...

Hello BB, howdy.

Fan Emmanuel said...

Hahahaha.. Ndi otu gi erika!

Kay said...

Sad sad sad

But I think you should tell your man what's going on. ( but wait till he proposes so u r sure he is in it for the long ride ).

As for your dad, let him be.

life has taught me that to avoid bitterness in our hearts we should pray for the people that have hurt us deeply. Pray for him every time u pray, free your heart and let him be.

May God fill your heart with love, joy and laughter and give u peace.

Dope PH BaBe said...

Are you older than your man that you have to lie about your age?

Una no dey get conscience at all

Anonymous said...

πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

emmanuel odionye said...

My dear
Men most times are afraid to me up with there past.... He feels he owes you and can't come to terms with his mistake.... Persist but don't involve his new family.... Shalom

Henny said...

Individual differs, if i was the one i would have moved on tey tey.

Dope PH BaBe said...

Sorry poster, just incase you didn't meet your father before you settle down (marriage). Tell your hubby that your father is dead. No stories ooo cos the way he will use it to mock you, you might drink insecticide

Anonymous said...

Best reply....I love this

Anonymous said...

Well said Kelsey,,,Hugs

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

hahahahaha Peace maker has arrived. Chai. My man crush

Anonymous said...

Well said Kels,,,Hugs

Lilly simple said...

I agree with you ASAP

Dope PH BaBe said...

It's not easy, just like atheist said she needs closure.

Sparkles said...

Earnestly it's not easy to move on, find him and get closure else it'll keep hunting you for as long as you live. Is it easy to move on? You're 30 and you've'nt forgotten him so stop deceiving yourself look for him and satisfy your heart then move on. The man probably doesn't know how to face you given the fact that he suggested an abortion. There's sooo much going on in his mind you wish you knew. Moreso you can't just walk away from who you are so please find his house and knock on his door one day, respect him enough not to introduce yourself to him alone and walk away forever if he doesnt contact you. He is your father whether you like it or not and you cannot change who you are.
Concerning your Mr Right pls explain the truth to him because one day he will definitely find out, if he does so behind you your relationship will be dented for life but if you tell him things will be easier, the truth will set you free! Your mom is Igbo I can tell you earnestly, traditionally her people will not collect your bride price the will merely acknowledge the in laws, is that what you want? That's more scandalous. A man that loves you will stick with you through thick and thin. As for your father, when he has collected bride price his work is most likely done in your life.
Please deal with him respectfully he may be having cold feet for many different cogent reasons.
Godspeed dear.

#Miss Kay# said...

Stella, why will you tell her not to tell her new serious man, an imo girl bearing a yoruba surname, what's the explanation. Poster please tell your man everything you just typed here, he will become your family soon. If you wait till later he will think u are a liar. Only a goat that won't understand It's not your fault your father left or is acting the way he is now

Anonymous said...

He doesn't want to hurt his wife..he might think poster want to spoil or scatter his home..Their is no way the poster won't be calling and if she's getting married,she's gonna expect the man to stand as father..so thereby exposing the man to his wife..it's difficult for him to come to her without informing his wife..which is the difficult part..he's just taking his time,he will definitely reach out..the man is just confused,he never bargained such..

Anonymous said...

Madam I know it hurts. After Mr kola said sweet lies to you and fucked you raw and even anal oshofree for good two years. Even committing several abortions and looking your womb on his behalf. Ordinary malt he never bought for you,meanwhile you cooked all the oha soup and nkwobi for him with plenty bedmatics.
He now blocked u from his phone and married a sweet yaraba virgin.
I feel your pain.
Stop being a septic tank for yaraba demon and go to MFM so your womb can be restored.
Awon omo ale. They will keep fucking and dumping you. Nna never see

Anonymous said...

Actually, he may never look for her one day. Poster should not wait for that day when this selfish man suddenly grow moral scruples and then decides to seek her out. That's not a guarantee. Poster, why put yourself in so much agony over someone who sees you as nothing but am inconvenience?

Africans, you put sentiments where it doesn't fit. He may have donated sperm to have you but that doesn't mean he is your father. He was never a father to you and even now, he isn't willing to be half a father. It's okay to forget him. Life is shitty. Get over it!

Some people have great fathers, some have horrible ones. We have seen father's who rape their own daughters, some murder them, some do the unthinkable. So are those children supposed to kill themselves or torture themselves over the fact that their own father did that to them? It could be very hard but they move on. They may have horrible father's but hey, they could have fantastic lives, filled with love and joy from friends and their own new family. Heads up and forge ahead. That man is bad news. You don't need him. Thank God you have a wonderful mother. A child only needs at least one stable parent. You had one. Some people were born orphans. You have been favored.
Happy International Women'should Day. Good luck with you and your man.

NB
I'm not a huge fan of telling your partners stuff that's for nothing to do with them. Yes, your dad is Yoruba, you never met him. End of story. If your man has a problem with that piece of info, he shouldn't be with you in the first place cos all that mess isn't your fault.

Anonymous said...

And oh, please ditch that name of his. He doesn't deserve that honour.

Anonymous said...

Please drop his number here am ready

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Poster call his niece and meet with his parents after explaining to ur niece and begging him to know his family, I know people would say don't call ur dad again but na u know how e de do u, I know u want to see him and that's y am saying u should get close to d niece nd beg him to let u know other members of the family, them take it up from there. Am saying this because I know u want to meet ur dad irrespective of his behaviours

Anonymous said...

Fan Emmanuel, what retard you are!

Jeni_zee jewellery uk +447459753657.. choker beads!! Pearls !! Coral!! said...

But fan she is 30 already nd would get married, she isn't going to live with d father or ask for money, so y u no go fit accept an adult love child?

Chike TEFLON said...

100% sure talk.

Anonymous said...

That's very evil of u, what did d love child do to u? U are wicked o, is d love child coming to live with u? After all this venom and I no go gree attitude of women like u, na casket everybody go de!! Life isn't hard like that! Haba

Chike TEFLON said...

If I say Yoruba and you put demon na you talk am.


The only place wey Yoruba man no dey coward reach na to lash tohtoh.
But Every other things na coward them be for the matter.

Jeni_zee jewellery uk +447459753657.. choker beads!! Pearls !! Coral!! said...

Good one atheist, no matter what anyone says here, she still wants to see her dad, so people should stop saying forget about him cos she won't

Chike TEFLON said...

Poster bone that man. Maybe na him wife be the bread winner. You wan make him lose his daily bread when his wife find out?

Just move on with your life.
Don't agree that you have Yoruba blood in you.

Chike TEFLON said...

Loud it bro.

Anybody that call you bigot should come and tell me the lie in your comment.

100%sure talk.

Chike TEFLON said...

God bless you Fan Emmanuel for saying that he is a public figure.

He has many kids out of wedlock, so his fear is if he gather the nation (so many kids) he has produced how will he feed them.
He is a coward in human form.

Chike TEFLON said...

Not everywhere. Be specific next time by saying Yoruba land.

Chike TEFLON said...

Chop kiss

Anonymous said...

If he has a problem with age, you both deserve each other. All the best.

Anonymous said...

The truth shall set you free. LITERALLY!!!

Chike TEFLON said...

It is obvious that you did not do baptism.

You need it.

Chike TEFLON said...

He must be a Yoruba demon.
Sorry.

It is well, even inside well

Anonymous said...

Karma is a bitch! Your mom will reap hers before you know what. It was your dad's mess. She should have let him deal with it. Pray to God not to take it out on the innocent. Very unkind species human beings. Selfish selfish wicked under the guise of fear.

Anonymous said...

Poster, you a miracle. A force beyond human power. Your destiny is greater than a quest to be acquainted by a man who doesn't want to be your father. He was an instrument God used to bring you here on earth to shine and nothing more. Don't beat yourself. We all can't have the same things. It's not peaches every where even for those who have fathers and mothers. It is only an issue if you make it one. Live free!

Fan Emmanuel said...

Well,I can accept that kind of stepchild. If the child is already doing well,I will accept him or her!

Blackberry said...

I'm cool dopes.

Anonymous said...

Anon you are the one Karma would catch, if u were in her shoes u will feel same way, women run from trouble alot even u won't accept a step child, let it happen to u first, only to house someone women turn to devils and won't allow u have peace and live with them, talk of a step child, it is your mum who will reap, she did absolutely nothing cos I saw her fear but I still wanted my half sister, by the way her mum is fire so my mum has a point for refusing

Fan Emmanuel said...

Jeni did you not read that the mother is currently single? Ha,my sister I have to protect my territory ooo

Anonymous said...

Anon 16:16
Throller!! Pained much!!
Throll every comment that rightfully describes the demonic, female beating, sperm depositing and lazy ass idiots you have as brothers!! Your men are cursed! Saboteurs!!
Ohh & I ain't igbo!!

Anonymous said...

What does that mean? I still haven't told him yet, he has seen my parents and they like him. He's a good man. I just smile and nod but in my heart of hearts I know the marriage won't last up to 1 yr. What do I do

Chike TEFLON said...

Anon 15 :42 God bless you abundantly for the truth.

@Yemi Ayeni that is you people's way of life (culture)so you understand the situation better than Stella that is a Biafran.

I'm singing :
Fire pursue them ×2
Anywhere demons have gathered
I say fire pursue them

Anonymous said...

Lmao! Fan is a case...so u will only accept the step child that is doing well? Lmao

Ndidiamaka Ndidiamaka said...

True talk mehn! Yoruba demons constituting nuisance everywhere !!!😦😦😦

Cherry topaz said...

Omg πŸ˜„

Anonymous said...

*loosing

Anonymous said...

Fan Emmanuel your pain be say yaraba men no dey look you.
We usually like fresh yellow clean igbo girls.
You are too dirty and ugly for us.
Breast you no get, no ass with face like baboon that escaped from ibadon zoo.

Anonymous said...

Why your sisters keep going for them.
It seems your men have small dicks.

Anonymous said...

Princess u lied..Who told u it's not a criminal offence?...If she were to be abroead,the government would've forced him to take care of his child..U think abroad is nigeria where our men do anything they like and go scot free?
Over there if u impregnate a woman and deny her,if she reports u,they will force u to do DNA test,once they confirm d child is urs,u will start paying child support immediately.

If dis girl seriously wants to know and see her father, she should send Stella his name and make it public..d shameless man will own up to his responsibilities..Useless man.

Anonymous said...

When would Igbo ladies stop receiving the deposited semen by Yariba demons?

Is it that the D is sweet?
Or that the Do is good?
Or that they are better than the Igbo boys?
Or that the Igbo babes are loose?

anonymous gangster said...

I know its a bandwagon but I'm gonna jump on because its the right thing to do: Stella, you fall hand. Deception & hoarding info & telling lies, too much. Speak truth, no matter what!

Anonymous said...

Anon 18:09....Ndo. this yoruba demon must have dealt with u so much,to make u this bitter....Oya lick small sugar. And yes...i'm yoruba;proudly

Anonymous said...

You make the most sense on this matter,I commend you for that.... The thing is most of you people commenting and reigning curses on the man won't know what accepting a love child into your life when you are married and have a family of your own is like.her coming into is life will affect not just him,but his wife and children as well.so you think the wife will cross her leg and watch another woman with her love child ruin her home.a lot will go on over time,first it will I just want to see my dad,gradually they push boundaries together with the baby mama,I am talking from experience and I know it won't be easy,even the man may change over time and be going out of his way to please the love child and ignore his wife's feelings.They may eventually break his home cos it's obvious the poster's mother is very much in love with this man.

Anonymous said...

Tnx Fan Emmanuel (u made sense with those phrases) ....@local ph babe... Better learn to waka pass when u don't have anything reasonable to say

Anonymous said...

Poster please try and move on with your life. Tell your bf you've never met your father just in case the man comes to look for you in future. You can leave out the part about them trying to abort you so he doesn't use it against you when you guys fight in future.

I know someone that just found out who her father is. Dude is married with kids and my advice was to let him be. I know it may not be easy to do that. I don't know if he was ever aware that her mum was pregnant but since her mothers family took very good care of her, education, money etc, why go and disrupt the woman's home? If the man was childless, it may be easier for him and maybe the wife to accept her but she has her kids. May God grant you wisdom to do what is right and will give you peace of mind.

Anonymous said...

Poster,hunt him down or you will not rest. You know where he is. See him physically, talk with him. You will have to be smart about it so he can't run and hide and continue posting you. But be ready for rejection. If he shows that of a truth he wants nothing to do with you, has no love for you and is ashamed of you, kick the dust off your sandals and go face your life. But as you succeed in future this same man may still come crawling... Mtcheew.Tell your fiance the truth. If he reacts negatively you know up front he ain't the one and you keep it moving. Your fiance has to know because your children have to know so they won't go and marry their brothers or sisters in future.

Dope PH BaBe said...

Lol and e pain you. Go drink sniper joor

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Anonymous said...

Tell him everything. A man that loves you and wants to stay will stay.
As for your father, whether you like it or not, your heart will still yearn to know him. It's natural. But since he's not forthcoming, let it go. He'll find you when he's ready. If not, you tried.

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