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Tuesday, 14 March 2017

Forgiveness Is Gender Sensitive?

WOW @ the topic!!!




All I know about this is that some people have hearts of steel and do not know how to completely let go and forgive...Others find it so easy.

The way one forgives may have to do with the kind of pain inflicted.
I think a man forgives easily...Women are too complicated and they never forget....



89 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Women forgives "men" easily but it takes forever ro forgive women like them. In general I think men forgives quick.

The Observer said...

This one hard ooo
I think generally men forgive easier than women except in cases of fidelity.
Women nor dey forgive easily o,they can absorb n move on without forgiving.

white Berry said...

Men forgives easily but for women can keep malice with you till thy kingdom comes. And one bad thing about not having the spirit of forgiveness is hindering of blessings, so its good to let go of past issues thats to forgive easily so blessings can come one's way.

beeolah said...

True talk stella

redbotafly said...

From experience i'd say men forgive easily.
I find it pretty difficult to forgive and let go.
God have mercy on my poor soul.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

It is both ways.

Men forgives if they are having bottle of beers in their front because strong drinks make them forget the hurt.

The ones that dont drink, abeg fear them.

Women dont forgives but they dont forget.

So for me i will manage forgive but dont forget what you have done.

Sam_Cranked said...

I forgive easily, I know some girls that do too. Really can't say.

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Truly, women find it very hard to forgive... However, the truth is it is better to forgive, unforgiveness is deadly abeg

Istanbul said...

Men do and very easily unlike women

Minnie Rexpect said...

Men forgive easily. Women can keep grudges for years and they won't flinch. They'll sometimes tell you, you've been forgiven but quick to jump back to the former issue when another arise.
Men who behave like women don't forgive easily.

Daenerys_targaryen said...

Women forgive easily and let go. Men on the other hand...

Fab_divas online store for designer bags, footwares and clothings said...

Individual differences apply here Stella. It depends on individual. I forgive easily and am a lady.

Flexibility said...

Ha Stella the answer is so clear nau.men forgives untime but women never, they even do it here on this blog,once you've done something wrong they keep saying it even you tender an apology for where it will worsen everything so women don't forgive easily.its just in our nature but not all women.

Pipi Lee said...

Forgiveness isn't gender specific!
If you insist it is, then women forgive easily, once a man's pride and esteem has been affected, forget about forgiveness except Jesus intervenes.
Women go through a whole lot in relationships with the opposite gender, they are wronged a dozen times, he cheats, he beats, and he begs and 'we' forgive.

BLOGLORD said...

Women forgive easily than men that's why men get away with a whole lotta bullshit.

shes fab said...

Men forgive easily

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Forgiveness is based on individual. Some men will drag things for years and keep reminding you why they can't ever forgive you for that particular thing. Same with some women. Some don't even let it see the next day before they let it go.

I forgive easily and also forget.

Phenomenal woman said...

Forgiveness for me, is more of an individual thing.
And also on the level of damage done to that person.
Forgiveness becomes even harder when the pain is inflicted by someone you love and trust and perhaps never expected that the person would be capable of such.
However, women are more prone to harboring resentment than men. This is because of the complexity associated with women.
Men on the other hand are easy going and less complicated.
Thus, for an average man, if he claims to have forgiven you then he really has. But for a woman, except in very few cases, forgiveness is only a shallow sham and never really exist.
That is why men can still be very close friends with their male friends who offended them even after forgiving them but women, hell no. The relationship with the offender is severed for life. Quote me.

Fuck you said...

Stella u think is everybody u can forgive and let go...there re some people u will forgive and dey will still hurt u..me I can't forget even if I forgive

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Women obviously.

Most men are vindictive in nature.

Francdol said...

I share ur view that forgiveness may have to do with the kind of pain inflicted, but woman forgives easily, but they do not forget

Anonymous said...

Men hardly forgives but women forgives very easily.. Let a man catch you cheating he wil never forgive you but if reverse is the case she will forgive you..

Atheist ™ said...

Has bedbug attacked the new couch already?

1st of all True love 4gives the most!!
Most women hv alot to lose in a marriage if they don't 4gv eventually, society has shaped & twisted the mindset of people, giving men the upper hand, even wen they're as guilty as sin... Permit me to sway alittle, imagine a lady in Saudi Arabia flogged & humuliated for calling out her rapist! Female voices are starting to echo from dark corners in this iGeneration, & technology is gradually taking off the mute, but it'd always remain a mans world, but enslaving women as it has been right from the bible belt wld change.

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

I think men forgive easily too women are so fucked up that they would rather die than forgive you for gbenshing their husbands. As if they will carry the prick to heaven lol.
Truth is i forgive easily sometimes i dont really remember the wrong sef, all i need do is get a bottle of my favorite wine and booom i don forget. Tho e get one wey one silly bitch accused me wrongly and the thing just dey my mind like that, i have long forgiven her i just cant talk to her not bcoz i havent forgiven her oooh but bcoz am trying to stay clear her evil ways.









*hangs leg on the wall*

Alabi Ganiyat said...

Men forgive easily and they rarely keep malice for long... But Obirin... errrmmm # i raise beyonce hand for una

becky naka said...

Forgiveness is an individual thing but men have a harder time forgiving than women.

"MEN DO NOT FORGIVE, THEY FORGET. WOMEN FORGIVE EVERYTHING BUT NEVER FORGETS"

happiness said...

Nope, it's not gender sensitive, it depends on individual....

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

But damn that nigga up there is fine, stella who be that guy is he single, rich and searching? Lol







*runs outta post*

Francdol said...

Forgiveness also depends on individuals, or the sober level of the offender

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

I think it has to do with individuals not necessarily gender.
I can forgive like 77 x 7 times. Yea thats me. 😄

Bee10 said...

Men forgive easily

Girl Next Door said...

Well, I wont totally agree with the title forgiveness is based on who you are.
There are men who forgive easily and some women who forgive easily, it takes a whole lot to forgive. Forgetting is also on another level.
Well, for me, I forgive easily, I don't even know how to hold grudges.
It is just your person.

sexy Daddy said...

Stella to be honest with you eeh men forgives more easily than women!.Women are vindictive in nature! It only takes a grace of God for a woman to forgive you.

tulip said...

It depends on the individual..some ppl r stiff while others forgiving

Anonymous said...

When one fails to forgive one's offender, he/she risks being held accountable for every wrongdoing by God. For the word says:
"Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us".
The condition to enjoy forgiveness and peace of mind is to forgive others. God did not make gender discrimination in terms of expectation for humans to forgive. God did not create anyone with "Heart of stone". If one has gone to Satan to acquire the things of this life, such a person will as well acquire a heart of stone. Jesus heals and re-creates.

Anonymous said...

Women hardly forgive even when you try to make peace with them ,they feel too big or think you actually need them.
But what baffles me is that this same set of women go to church and talk to God.
Do you think God listens to someone who keeps grudges? You are just an ordinary sand.
If you die tomorrow do you think u will make heaven? When offended let the other person know why you are angry.
Don't be the God of your own self.
God forgives ,who are you not to make peace and forgive?
You better make peace before it's too late.
Life is very simple ,don't make it look hard and complicated.
A word is Enough for the wise.

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

It depends on the issue at hand,i forgive easily

Anonymous said...

A lady was "barren" for almost two decades. The very month she forgave her mother in law who opposed her marriage was the month she missed her period for the first time in her entire life. You know the end of the story after nine months! Oh what folks rob themselves of by harboring unforgiveness!

Oluwadarasimi™ said...

Some men are just too hard, unbending and unbearable. They find it xoxo difficult to forgive regardless of how it played out. They hold unto anger tightly like a lifeline. Some even spit venom. Once you have a misunderstanding, especially when its you at fault. They will block all their sense of reasoning and wouldn't bulge regardless of all the apology song you might want to render even if you put it on re-play mode. Women forgive more, they have a large heart.

Anonymous said...

its not by the sex of a person, i believe its the temperament of a person that determines this, all the same, The Holy Spirit helps our weaknesses.

Anonymous said...

I forgive easily but its hard to forget at times

Anonymous said...

Women forgive easily except my mom.

Lagos shopper(for your personal shoppings and goods directly from the popular lagos markets to anywhere in naija,07030493148) said...

Hmmm,one can't be sure with this kind of topic ok,u know women are quick to forgive and forget their cheating hubby?but if it's the woman na back to papa house most times.what I'm sure is forgiveness makes life easy you move on but then some sins are really unforgivable!

white Berry said...

Thank you for the write up, I never read about yours before I wrote not having the spirit to forgive hinders some blessings

Peaceful peace said...

I forgive too easily, family and friend take advantage of me now they know all you just need to say is sorry and i genuinely move on. But to be so softhearted must be a curse, cause people take you for granted. I wish i could be so mean too :(

Anonymous said...

AL***'s depression after her "sex partner" (using her own words as she later realized he was no lover) left her reached to a point that she began to pull her hair and eat it! She caused so much pain to herself that she confessed that the only thing that will take away her pain was if she could stab him on the chest and cut off his pe*is. Even with counselling and . . .(well she was starving herself because she couldn't fast seeing that she was boiling with unforgiveness). It was when she had intestinal obstruction from eating her hair that she landed in an emergency theater for surgery. Al could not wake up from anesthesia for 3 good days. All around her were praying and fasting. The doctors said that probably, the anesthetic drugs in her fat cells (the girl has big buttocks and really men perch on it like flies) were responsible for her coma. Well on the third night, she woke up screaming "fire!, maggots! Lord help!" . . . It so happened that Al was live in the flames of hell where we were told that the fire quenches not and the worms do not die . . .She did say that while "briefly in hell, she was still eating her hair and gnashing her teeth" (really the doctors complained of her moving her mouth all through the surgery). She said that the "man that came and brought her out" showed her the reason why she was being sent back was to join "these three ladies. . .": Al described the two ladies (she knows) who were fasting and praying for her but surprisingly described the third lady whom she had never met in real life and who was praying in another location outside the country (this lady confirmed she wore orange attires while she prayed on the third day in the church). No one needed to tell Al to fast and pray or forgive the heart breakers etc. She is not yet married but I can tell you that she's serving the Lord faithfully and has much peace. Al's main concern is to serve the Lord in bringing prostitutes to Christ aside from her work as a professional chef.

white Berry said...

If its with the opposite sex women forgives easily but with themselves that means a fellow female like them,it takes everlasting.

I'veBeenTouchedByAnAngelWithLove said...

Women forgive easily but then remember we have different classes of women. And forgiveness depends on which class we fall into
1. Mother: towards a child,the forgiveness of a mother knows no bound
2. Wife: we have read many comments/chronicles here, judging by that alone you will understand some sins are unforgivable especially dv and adultery. Still some wife are ready 2 forgive if their dh changes for the better
3.Mother in law: Biko, don't count on forgiveness from this particular class except in very rare cases.
4. Girlfriend: most times forgiveness depends on how much the guy is spending on them
5. Female boss: do the maths, you know the answer to this one
6. Female friends: they will forgive but never forget.
P.T.O

Fuck you said...

My bf dosent drink...and he's good at keeping things in mind I literally learnt how to keep things in mind and pick people's word when they talk cos of him..dammm Ure right love me jeje

Sassy Meruche said...

Dunno for others,but I don't forgive easily...Infacy,e dey hard me to forgive.I might let it go for that period,but it won't leave my mind. I'll always bring it up.Though I'm learning to forgive now sha.

Justyswt said...

I will only speak for myself. I as a person, I forgive easily and move on.

But I don't agree with u Stella. Cos most men will never forgive a cheating wife! But a wife will easily forgive the husband!

Women don't forgive themselves easily.

Ndidiamaka Ndidiamaka said...

Women forgive easily but they dnt forget

Atheist ™ said...

Id 4gv her easily if she has bomb pussy, bomb pussy is a magical eraser, u'd 4get her offence.

Christiana Tee said...

I feel women don't forgive each other easily, but when it comes to their bfs or hubbies women tend to be gullible and emotional, its very easy for us to forgive our guys, but most men hardly forgive their women o, they dont forget and even use it against them in their actions. Men however forgive each other and over look little things that would ordinarily spark a grudge among ladies.

EESAH (ORDINARY ME) said...

Its not gender sensitive kan kan. It's an individual thing.

SANDY NEKY said...

Well, I feel its a too way thingy! Me can forgive and forget easily sha.

Anonymous said...

Mean thing it will work for you as friends with XP. You fit each other. Tueh!!!!!???
And fuck you too

Anonymous said...

I'm a woman and I forgive too easily

Olori footwear said...

If I start to talk for this post eh, e no go end. Women ♀ forgive easily

Anonymous said...

I left my last relationship because of forgiveness issue. i believe both men and women have this problem, just depends on the person. whenever i think of it Hosea in the bible comes to mind(we should all read the story again). i told myself that there is nothing i shouldn't be able to forgive and let go. its had according to many but to me it isn't and that's the truth.
the min you you profess that "i will never forgive you", the devil picks that up and creates a battle field in your mind, destroys your happiness, you can never be completely whole. you seem to be looking for something but cant find it kind of feeling comes. we all can learn to forgive. its a command from the scripture not a plea.

Anonymous said...

I think it depends on the person,i forgive easily depending on how the person offended me but there is this babe that offended me deeply like that,wot i feel for her is more than hatred sef,I pray God give me d hrt to forgive

Empress Windy. said...

Forgiveness can be a powerful means to healing, but it does not come naturally for both sexes, men have a harder time forgiving than women do, but that can change if men develop empathy towards an offender by seeing they may also be capable of similar actions. Then the gender gap closes and men become less vengeful.

oguike akudo said...

If you feel that men forgives easily, cheat on your man and see How he will forgive you.
A woman can forgive even her cheating man.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Some things go too deep to be forgotten*

Anonymous said...

As for me, I will never forgive my husband for d kind of pain he has inflicted on me. Not only did he cheat but fucked her on our matrimonial bed, told her lots of trashy things about which she in turn uses to mock me.she has all my secrets in her palms and to think that she is 10yrs my senior still makes me wonder.This man beats me at will sef that I miscarried. Abeg Stella and fellow bevees, how I wan take forgive this heediot?

Bootylycious diva said...

Men forgive quickly ,women we to full of concubility

Tayan Taylor said...

Yes forgiveness hinders blessing, so you guyz should forgive white Berry too

Tayan Taylor said...

Men forgive easily, women pretend they forgive but they don,just like the vindictive women in this blog

my opinion said...

Stella men forgive easily because society gives them a pass to act on impulse! They do as they wish; so they forgive fast so they can move onto the next game! But their forgiveness no reach fidelity matter! Infact if a man forgives infidelity so easily, be WORRIED!!! Just let him go and start from begining!

Women on the other hand don't forgive easily! Even if they do, it is for momentary peace! The deep wound will be stored up! Most times when they say they have forgiven you; they are pretending, especially in cases of infidelity. This is because they would rather forgive and still have you than let the other woman win. Some will lie it is because their heart is too kind, they love u too much and they understand. If I hear! yimu*

Anonymous said...

Men forgive women
Women forgive men
Men forgive men
Women don't forgive women.






Mother Nature.


Intelligentsia princess said...

SDk blog has made me realize women find it very difficult to forgive and let go. They keep malice as if their lives depend on it.

Justyswt said...

True talk @yoriyori princess. When they drinking they let go easily sha.

Mao Akuh said...

Women can easily forgive men but can't easily forgive their fellow women

Fuck you said...

Na u know

Kwikwi said...

Generally most dudes take offence lightly and by default forgive easily. In most seemingly happy homes what you tend to discover is that the father stylishly agree to the mothers views in order to let peace reign. I believe women love hard and hate hader.

Anonymous said...

Judging by the comments you leave here, you are yet to grow up. You feel entitled to everything and you must be a mean person. Pls change your ways

SHILZ said...

Personally I forgive and forget easily,i don't keep things in mind,I don't know for others.

SHAKITI BABY said...

Women forgive easily but a man will remind you of any little mistakes.

Anonymous said...

No man ever forgives a cheating wife. He might pretend but that relationship, that love can never be the same.

Anonymous said...

No man ever forgives a cheating wife. He might pretend but that relationship, that love can never be the same.

missylynn said...

Women can keep malice more than men and then again it depends on the person's heart

Olami said...

Women forgive easily. Check out a cheating husband, the woman still opens her arms wide to receive her husband.
but let a woman cheat and is caught, the whole world won't rest cos the man just can't forgive

Ronalda. said...

Is forgiveness really gender specific? That's highly improbable. I think it depends on each individual, the gravity of the offence and the degree of affinity between the offender and the offended. It's easier to forgive a person you have strong feelings for, especially if the offence isn't bordered on betrayal. If it is, the reverse is the case. It's quite bearable when a person you have little regards for, betrayals you but it stings and leaves a resounding echo of pain when the one you love betrays you.

Personally, I feel men easy squash the beef they have for one another, unlike with ladies. The average man can reconcile with his buddy over a cold beer or a warm handshake/ bro-hug less than 6 hours after a quarrel. For ladies, however, it appears we have the stamina to hold on to grudges years after the fact. Some even "recruit" their friends to join the "snub squad". Of course, to every general rule or pattern, there exists a few exceptions. Some men can hold grudges longer than the average lady, while some ladies can't keep a grudge.

There are a lot of variables when it comes to forgiveness. Apart from the ones I mentioned earlier, another factor is remorse or the likelihood of the offender being a repeated offender. It's easier to forgive a person who truly shows remorse especially if there's the likelihood that "affliction will not arise a second time" , than a person whom plays on your kindness or takes you for granted. 

SANDY NEKY said...

Two*

Elizabeth said...

Oh Lord please forgive me of all my sins. I know I am suffering this shame and reproach because of all my past.sins. Pls God show me mercy today and grant my heart desires . Tamper justice with mercy Lord.

Love EATING pussy said...

Women hardly or should I say "Never ever forgive".once you mess up they never allow you back into their heart no matter how much you try to fix things.women have tender feelings and once they r hurt or the trust is broken, thats the end...#love issues

Sabongida Ora cutest said...

Forgiveness is not gender subjective but personality subjective.

I think in comparison though , a woman forgives a mistake , when genuinely made.

But you go and consistently repeat that mistake... then you'll know what truly it means for a good woman to be scorned.

But people feel men forgive easily ... that's because men don't want to handle that painful hurt.... so they feel trying to let it go quickly is best for their sanity.... but doesn't mean they have forgotten.

nuel said...

forgiveness is not gender sensitive.... it depends on who would bend to become the bigger person.

optimisticlady said...

Anony as Judge Judy that you is......

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