NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
OVERCOMING SHYNESS IN A RELATIONSHIP
Hope you are well.
Will like to seek advice from you and BVs.
I met someone through a cousin I actually wrote to the house for advice on whether to go join him to a wedding in a nearby town remember the girl and her Ideal man list! Back to present day we met for the first time December 31st and he scored more points on my List.
Last month I got a break from work and visited him at his base, he was a good host and d guy amazed me I just had to fall in love. The problem is that he doesn't really know how to express himself and unfortunately I have same problem. So many things I want to say to him but just can't and am sure he is having same issue:
Bvs how do I overcome dis part of me cos I don't want to spoil something dis beautiful and Stella i don throway my Ideal man list oo dis guy makes dat list look cheap.
Please I need real help dis issue have been making me restless since I returned from my trip.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CHRONICLE OF A NEW MOTHER
Thank you so much for this wonderful platform. You have been a blessing to me and many others beyond words. I barely comment but trust I'm always tuned in. God bless you!
Straight to my little issue.
I'm married to a calm, loving, and God fearing man who seems to be too much of an introvert (I'm also an introvert) and it seems to be affecting our relationship cos rather than talk and probably have an argument (i argue a lot though I'm trying to curb it) which is the highest that can happen he prefers to keep things to himself unless/until it's too much for him before he'll open up.
Through out this week he has been returning home late which is unlike him but I felt it was due to work load cos his boss travelled. This night he got home late while I was about to bath our baby so I told him to be patient for me to finish with the baby. While I was at it, he checked the pot and noticed I hadn't prepared dinner yet and the next thing he said he wanted to go to a salon but I knew he was actually going out to find something to eat. Mind you I was very hungry too oh.
After i finished tending to our baby I called him to return home so he can hold baby while i cook. He sounded surprised and asked what I wanted to cook then said I shouldn't bother myself with cooking since it's about 9pm only for him to return with nothing meanwhile he had eaten something.
We had a bit of an argument and I was upset because we had previously discussed this scenario due to the situation of things and I expected him to know that my not preparing dinner on time wasn't on purpose. I usually cook while baby is asleep but this evening was just off and there was no electricity the whole day plus he is teething so I abandoned all I was doing to tend to him while I waited for hubby to return.
Before anyone queries me for not preparing dinner on time (which doesn't happen often) let me explain a few things. I lost the job i got through this blog after i put to bed simply because they don't want baby drama and my little bisness also suffered. Before then i was the one catering for us up until second quarter of last year (just before i went on maternity leave) when God willing he got a job. Though it isn't paying up to half of what I was earning, with God on our side we have been managing it since then while I'm still searching.
We stay in a very small apartment, with one entrance/exit door, that burns like an oven even when there is electricity cos air doesn't come through and we have just a small standing fan. When there is no electricity is talk for another day as we can't afford to use a gen. We can't afford baby items either and I'm alone so I can barely do much except baby is asleep and comfortable. Mind you two of our neighbor's gen sets are by our window so we sleep and wake with so much noise plus heat every single night.
Backing him to attend to chores isn't much of an option cos he doesn't feel comfortable on my back due to so much heat and I have a back problem too so backing him hurts me and because of this I was forced to borrow some cash and got a high chair a BV put up for sale on the blog. Even at that, i can't force him to sit in it when he starts feeling very uncomfortable and mind you the floor isn't very conducive for him to crawl around freely either.
Now i know that he must have been very tired and hungry however was I out of line by getting upset with his action knowing the situation of things and considering the fact that we had discussed such previously?
I still prepared the meal while he put baby to sleep and then went to bed.
Stella pls bare with me if i am requesting for too much. May I use this opportunity to request for anyone who has or knows of an apartment (mini flat) going for about 150 to 200k or less without agency fee please in a conducive environment around Surulere or Badagry axis to pls drop a contact urgently through Stella. Thank you.
Queen I know what you will say so pls save your strength for another.