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Tuesday, 11 April 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONVERTING FROM CHRISTIANITY....

Good day Stella, I don't know this qualifies as but here's my
chronicle. I need advice from the Muslim BVs on this.

I am a 22 year old Igbo girl, currently serving in Abuja.

I recently converted to Islam (easily the best decision I ever made,it was a personal choice, no one forced or convinced me) I'd been toying with the idea for ages but something always held be back,mostly cos I schooled in the East and there weren't very manyMuslims. 


Anyway, when I was in camp I went to the Masjid out of
curiosity and one thing led to the other I converted lol!

Its been about 4 months now, I've been easing into the whole routine,it hasn't been too easy (especially the 5:30am prayers cos I love my sleep lol) but I've been taking it one day at a time.

A few days ago, I was called to the masjid that the mallam wants to see me, he then asked me about marriage and whether I was ready to get married to a Muslim man cos the brothers have been asking about me, I
told him that I would get married to who God chooses for me but that right now I am no ready to get married cos I want to focus on finishing service and get a job.

Anyway I get this feeling that I am about to be set up in an arranged marriage because to them I need to be married off soon as possible to a Muslim man who would make sure I'm grounded in the religion and Islam does not permit courtship.

Please my question is do I have a choice in this, I know they are
legit scared that when I pass out and go back home I may revert to Christianity hence the need to marry me to a Muslim man. But I am not ready and would never get married to someone I do not know well.

Can I say no? Am I permitted?

*Sidenote* my siblings know and are significantly supportive my parents don't. I am the last born so my parents are very protective and this (the whole marriage ish) may cause problems especially at my age.
 I need as many opinions as possible. Thanks.


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
SUICIDAL OVER BROKEN ENGAGEMENT


Hi Stella i have been enjoying your blog so much for about 4years now more grease to your power.

I am in a serious mess right now and i know it is only God that can help me out. I met my ex-fiance on SnM and i must say it was the best relationship of my life... its very difficult calling him that.. we dated fr 2years we 730 days together and now everything has crumbled to my face.

 I would say its my fault because i knew what i was getting into and i refused to tell my parents about it knowing fully well they will kick against the relationship. My ex fiance had a child outside wedlock and i never said a word to anybody about it. 


Our wedding has been fixed to June 17 only for him to call me on Tuesday that he doesn't want to enter into a marriage with lies and that was what made me to speak out. Its really painful we could be going through this... but right now there is little or nothing we can do about d relationship anymore as my parents has cancelled d wedding. 

I almost went mad yesterday because i am moving towards depression because of how frustrated i am.. i don't know how to start my life anymore i am scared of how the next man may be i am scared of so many thing right now.... i haven't slept since on Tuesday neither have i eaten... 

I know people will blame me but i have accepted my blame.. i don't want to go into depression because i don't know what i am capable of doing... i have begged my parents to make me change environment but they wouldn't yield. I am just tired of life please i really need help 


*Are you a child?why should your parents interfer?if you and the guy are okay with yourselves wetin concern them?I am so upset.....What is wrong with having a child out of wedlock sef?Why are people so Judgemental?
GOSH!



185 comments:

Quiksilver said...

LOL

BECKY DIVINE said...

Poster one..

My dear I got nothing to contribute to this one! As you make your bed.. Na so you go take lie on top am oo!!
May Allah help you

Daenerys_targaryen said...

The muslim revert please come hold your two ears and listen to me: do not and I mean do not allow any useless mallam or alfa force you to marry. Do it at your own choosing. Not many people here will understand and probably call for your head but faith/deen is an extremely personal thing. It's one strong conviction and a path you chose to thread on your own using God as guidance. Please don't allow anyone to shame you or brain wash you telling you marriage is the next thing. That's a lie. Stand your ground. Please send your email address to Stella I'm gonna ask her for it so we can talk better.

Anonymous said...

Ist poster:

Are you for real; Igbo girl going into a religion that you know nothing about? And you are already sending in chronicles; of course the muslim man that will marry you. Pardon, that they will marry you off to will marry 3 more if he does not have them already. You are on a long tortuous journey and since you chose it, be ready for the consequences; here and in eternity.

Poster 2:

What causes suicidal thoughts after broken engagement or being dumped is usually the blood sacrifices during the courtship; fornication and abortions; see Gen. 9:6. Repentance and confessions will do you a whole lot of good.

Anonymous said...

Stella so there is nothing wrong in havin kids out of wedluck abi?...ok single girls stella don give una licence.mitcheww.anakogheri

BECKY DIVINE said...

Poster two..

What is so wrong about having a child out of wedlock? So long as dude is not in any intimately and emotionally attached to his baby mama, then their is absolutely nothing wrong with it!

You guys are not even serious? Are you sure the dude didn't use this as an excuse to break it off with you? Are you sure he didn't get cold feet and decided to take the easiest way out??

All the same, don't go and kee yourself cos of a man.. Life goes on no matter what happens! Wipe your tears and move on, you will surely meet a better man in the future! Pele

Anonymous said...

In this age is someone converting to ???? wao!
This is the most confusing thing I've read this year.
You have not been "toying with this idea", the idea is toying with you and you are toying with your life; and eternity.

Highness Gwen said...

Poster one,I wud suggest u go back to Christianity asap...go back to the religion of LIGHT!

STARRY LARRY said...

@Poster1, don't allow them to force you into what you don't want, tell them you have someone you want to marry, moreover, nobody can force you to marry someone you don't love.

@Poster2, I don't know why your parents will be an hindrance to your happiness, just tell them that you're the one marrying this man and you can cope with his child, let them see reasons with you that your happiness matters most. They even refused you changing your environment, that's very inconsiderate of them





*Larry was here*

Cynthia Iyede said...

1. Babe, it's your decision to make but also bare in mind that if you marry a muslim guy, he has the right to marry more wives and you can't do anything about it. Good luck to you.

2. What is your fiance saying about the whole thing? It seems he has given up and not ready to fight for this. Talk to your parents and keep letting them know this is what makes you happy. Get people to also talk to them too. It is well.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Poster one has been brainwashed by these people oh!...
Please what is your parents number..they need to take you for a deliverance ASAP!...
Wetin dem give you chop?...
Holy Ghost fire!...
My sister putaba putaba na efe adiro there!...
You did what?....
Olorun Maje!...

Poster 2,
What is wrong with girls of these days getting into depression because of a dick?...
Poster,Start thanking God for delivering you from that demon!...
I'm sure he is from that part of the Nigeria that don't like staying with one woman...
Move on abeg!...
You will meet a responsible man soonest!...

nnuku Sexy pant-like boxers. 08170506432 Order now said...

Madam converter . convert in peace and lets hear word na . when you were converting did u come here to ask for advice? U wan marry muslim ? U never chichom tin . that bro they wanna match make you with , you will soon find out you are wife no. 9 when u marry am finish ...

Engagement poster .. My dear look for better akpu and afang soup and eat first .. Dont kill yourself cox of a man o. Hian !

Atheist ™ said...

Poster1: Losing ones religion isn't same as changing environments & adjusting to the weather, No! There's more to it that's easily overlooked, you make it seem so trivial & it goes like a pendulum, depending on ur mood, you'd soon get burnt for real, then reality will set in. You're here online seeking for answers after the convertion has been done already, isn't that putting the cart before the horse? I've also lost my religion couple of yrs back, so i know a thing or 2 about the scenario..... It takes yrs of resesrch & digging, hypothesis, analysing history of doctrine... & a serious backpack full of courage. Last Last, its ur life, its not like any1 i getting out alive, just learn to look b4 u leap.

Anonymous said...

So if your parents have a son that has a child outside of wedlock, they will close the marriage door on him?
You see how myopic, stupid and selfish humans can be?

Ehi Grace said...

Poster one you have to be careful, before you get married without you knowing it. Also let you parents know what's happening in your life.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Poster 1, is everything alright at home? You did what?
I really do hope that this is just a phase like the one time I fancied wearing abayas and headscarfs as a little girl. Sat on my knees and pretended to be praying like the Muslims do but I outgrew and I pray you do too.
Do you know what will happen to you with the way your mallam has started asking you about marriage. One day you'd just find yourself married to some old Muslim man with no idea of how it happened.
Please go back home and let your parents know,maybe they can help you change your mind.
Step into the light dear.

Poster 2, your ex supported you to lie until the bubble burst and now you're suffering for something you could have easily avoided.
Now, you have the move on. I don't think you love yourselves enough else you won't give up so easily. Is having a child out of wedlock, a disease? If you're fine with it, why are your parents adamant about it
I do think that this issue can be resolved if you really like the guy and he feels the same way about you.
Anyway, do not harm or kill yourself.
It's either you try to get your ex to go with his people to see your people and explain things to them. You're letting your parent's have the upper hand in your life.
This isn't how to live life, you can't just up and leave everything you've built because your parents said no. What if he married you without telling you he has a child and you found out after the wedding? Will your parents ask you to dibore him?

ada abraham said...

Seriously the 2 chronicle get Coma!!

Lady C said...

Poster1:welcome to the religion of peace,pls dont make them false you into marriage,if you are not interested in anybody let it out.
Poster2:you know what you want then go for it,will your parents marry you.tell them your mind and make them retrace their steps.


ZaraOli said...

To my Muslim sister, you are welcome into the fold. Your consent is a prerequisite for Islamic marriage, if you are not ready don't be compelled into getting married. It's a long time venture that cannot be made in a haste. Wish you the best.

Anonymous said...

P1: I gat Notin to tell u, let ur fellow muslimah advice u. Hope u won't be recruited to wear bomb underneath ur hijab & bomb innocent pipu!!
P2: it's well. When there's life there's hope. Move on with your life.

Awele said...

The first poster,I can bet my white ass to the fact that you will regret bringing this topic here.Be ready to read comments like :why are you leaving light for darkness? Islam is evil? They are terrorist etc.People here are very judgemental.

Sharon Aminu said...

1st poster,from little I know abt Muslims,u have to marry who u re choose to marry, u cant say no,every religion has sacrifices
U can't eat ur cake nd have it.
And about ur parents, gud luck with that.
Second poster,is it ur marriage or ur parent own?what wrong with u?u better stand up to them

I am king EZE said...

Poster 1-let the Muslims advice you and please dont say you are igbo cos we denounce you henceforth.maybe the yorubas can take over.goodluck.
Poster 2-if he can break up with you easily over something like this, how will he be able to 'stand by' you in marriage.if you are old enough to get married, you should be old enough to take certain decisions ,stay with a close friend or relative for the main time,volunteer in an NGO,watch a lot of funny series ,take long strolls.....you will be fine .

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Poster 1..... chai na wa oooo. Light to darkness, abeg make una no vex. You better marry one of the bros, why are you askiing us. It is not an arrangee marraige. You choose your bed and you must lie on it.


Poster 2.... You want to die because of a man. Na wa. Dont worry, God will give you another man, leave that S&M man jare. Look up to God, He will give you better man. Sorry oo.

I pray that spirit of depression leave you Amen. Na the month for my sister own. Eya, yours will locate you Amen

seyi afolabi said...

Poster 1...no words for u Abeg.
Poster 2....same thing Abeg.
Both of u should go and download sense Abeg.

reemah said...

Poster one, you are allowed. No one should be forced into an arranged marriage. You have a mind of your own. Turn them down! Salam alaykum, sweetie😘😘

Poster two, as an adult you should be able to talk to your parents. You knew what you were getting into. So sit them down and ask for their support. However, things might go awry later in the future and the blame would be on you. So think things through.

Rowland Dominic said...

Poster 1
As for me I've once been a Muslim and I just feel Religion be it Christianity or Muslim is a stereotypical way of segregation in the world today.

Though I'm a strong Catholic now but I've lived amongst good Muslims even amongst the highly dreaded Fulani dudes and not those Book Haram idiots. You don't need to marry yet just to be staunch in the religion. Just read the Holy Qur'an and pray always. Insha Allah you'd overcome.

Poster 2.
No Comment!!!

sherrygirl said...

@ poster 1 am a muslim and i also converted too. In ISLAM there is no coersion. Islam gives the woman the right to either accept or reject a man. A marriage without the woman's consent is not even valid in islam. So yes you can outrightly say no. If you dont like the man pls dont accept

ifeoma lan said...

Poster 1: dumb chronicle....u obviously confused & experimenting wit life
2: is it ur parents dat are getting married?....is having a child a disease....as long as his babymama is out of d pics

Anonymous said...

Poster one, you have been seriously brainwashed. You need to retrace your steps back to Jesus, only Him can guarantee you peace of mind.

Sisi Figure 8 said...

Poster 1: Who told you that Islam does not permit courtship? Are you supposed to meet just anybody and get married immediately without knowing nada about him? Please use your head and don't rush into marriage o. You are still young at 22years to be rushed into marriage simply because you want to remain committed to your faith. Wait for true love and get Married to him. Think if your own happiness.I'm sure you know that after agreeing to the marriage your man can decide to take more wives.it's determination that can help retain your faith not marriage.

Anonymous said...

First chronicle:
I say congrats on taking the big step of converting into a Muslim. May Allah make it easy for you.
Firstly you have every right to refuse the marriage no matter how good the intentions are if you are not ready for it. Even a girl ready has a right to refuse any suitors that come for her hand in marriage. Yes, marrying now will help you stay grounded in the religion but staying grounded is usually a personal decision. You must personally be able to motivate yourself to abide by the religious teachings. This you must do for yourself first. You can also get a Muslim friend who can help motivate you. And always always pray to God to give you the strength to never go astray.
Yes, Islam does not encourage courtship but the reality is it is necessary. I know some Muslims here will say otherwise but that's just the truth. It is necessary so you can know exactly what you are getting into. No sex tho.
About your parents, I'll say you should tell them but don't let them convince you otherwise. Each and every one of us will face God separately so let each person face his/her religion and not condemn others.

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Hmmmm@ 1,ijikwa anya gi?

Sisi Figure 8 said...

Poster 2: Stella has said it all.

Kay said...

My dear.... I feel for you.

Parents and their wahala.

My Dad insisted that I didn't marry a Bini man who had a son over 8years ago because he claimed that my children will not have a say in the home later in future. Here I am in my early 30's and still single. My sister meet a Bini man with a son 3years ago and no one told them to ignore the fact that he has a son because she was 33years at the time.

I choose to forgive my Dad. I had every right to bring up the topic and make a big deal out of it but to what end? I just never spoke about it. Although I expected him to apologise to me at some point but he acted like nothing happened. I love and respect my parents so much and I know it must be very hard to go against their will. But many times they don't know exactly what's best for each child. They are humans and can make wrong calls at a child's detriment.

Pray my dear. Pray and let Gods will be done in your life. I wish you nothing but heavens best.

Anonymous said...

still confused, @ poster one, poster 2 your happiness depends on you ,not ur parent ,if ur guy love u enough like u said u guys have to talk to your parent,bt be sure about ur decision marriage is not for babies.becos babymama will also come one day.their case plenty for court.be ready @ hottie

mobby's best organic skin treatment said...

Poster I did u consulted us before joining boko? So why disturbing us with ur ish, u should be ready to follow their rule n regulations o, if they say u must be married, do be it.enjoy ur new found religion

vera novo said...

chronicle 1;it's not by force especially when you're not ready.
chronicle 2:you need an e-slap to reset your brain,what nonsense....how can you allow your parent to spoil your happiness?it's not in their position to choose whoever you wanna date for you.receive sense ijn

Anonymous said...

Also @ poster 1 just say that you are still single and you are accepting proposals but you want to take your time. Collect the brothers numbers and ask lots of questions. You can be talking to 20 guys at once, no harm! Focus on finding the following qualities: financial stability, kindness and strong understanding of the deen. Ask if he has any illness, or history of illness in his family (including mental illness) ask if he is still a virgin. If not, ask for sexual preferences. Don't be shy to ask any questions. Ask if he masturbates! What are his career goals in the next 5 years? If you keep asking all these questions, you can narrow down the 20 guys to like 7. You should be chaperoned and try to be involved in activities that will bring out his temperament, like teaching him how to cook, (with your chaperone) etc, arranging something in his house together etc. You don't need to stay alone with him. Just make sure you don't promise them anything because it is unlawful to promise many men marriage. Just keep saying that you are taking your time and doing istikhara. If you are being rushed, just say that you are having doubts and you want to do more fasting and istikhara. Be humble but don't be afraid to say your mind. The women in the Prophets time were bold, some were divorcees with children and would go and propose to young and rich bachelors who will marry dem. Remember how Khadijah was about 20 years older than the prophet. If you see any fine brother that is from a good family that you like, don't be shy to ask dem mallams to hook up with him. I can even go into details about polygamy but like I said above, if you want guidance, reply with your email.

code009 said...

Poster 1, I rather pass am not a Muslim so I can't advice you.
Poster 2, your parents expect you to convince them why the should allow you marry him so go have that talk with your mother. The man can also call them and speak his mind, let him convince them why you are his choice
Nigerian parents interfere alot

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 na you wan change religion and you no ask us that time now wey them don find you husband inside the religion you come dey call us. My friend carry your cross jor

Anonymous said...

poster 1, you are an idiot! better find your way back to Christ, He is ever willing to forgive and take you back.

Anonymous said...

Dear you met a man who loves you and want to wife you, just because he has a child, when I'm praying a guy I'm crushing on should ask me out, he has a son, but the best guy have ever seen. and the day he asked me out will gladly accept, I was the type that never ever wanted to be called a step mum, but see me, fine girl, a medical doctor praying for a single dad to ask me out. you will regret that decision, it your happiness not your parent, in years to come they will be the one to say go and marry, you better wise up, men with love in their hearts are rare mydear.

Anonymous said...

Nawa....is it yo phone or you?

Jennah said...

Do not let anyone force you into getting married. Marriage is a sunnah in islam. However do not stay far away from muslims within the community you choose to live in.

Adele love said...

Poster 1 so you think you can fool us? You changed your religion because you are hoping that one Alhaji will help you get a job, don't be deceived. I have stayed in the north for three decades and I can tell you that decision will turn out to bethe greatest mistake you have made. The devil's gift is not for free. Poster 2 let your parents be deciding for you when you enter your mid 30s they will ask you to bring a divorcee kinji ko

Anonymous said...

poster one, Islam does not force religion on anyone talk more of marriage, dont let them force any man on u, try to act maturely with those elders cos some people are extremist when it comes to religion. May the almighty bestow on you the wisdom to handle the situation! Islam is a religion of peace. Goodluck!!

Deola said...

Poster 2. Don't you know what you want? Cos the love of your life has a child outside wedlock, you made your parents interfere with your love life. First of all as yourself this: 'am I ready to love him and spend the rest of my days with him?' if yes. Please go for it. Keep explaining to your parents. You can't just give up on him like that naw... Ahnahn...

Tuscany IG, TWITTER @onimisibespoke said...

Is it everything you tell parents?
Sm1 asked me for advise a while ago as regards something more serious.
Her man has zero sperm count. She knew but didnt know how to tell her parents. Well i told her no need to tell as long as they both know wassup and both are open to adoption or sperm donors.
Life is easy, people make it hard for themselves

Anonymous said...

Please how do i get a blog ID in simple English. Tired of anonymous mode.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2. Don't you know what you want? Cos the love of your life has a child outside wedlock, you made your parents interfere with your love life. First of all as yourself this: 'am I ready to love him and spend the rest of my days with him?' if yes. Please go for it. Keep explaining to your parents. You can't just give up on him like that naw... Ahnahn...

Anonymous said...

Lol.... Anyi aju ekwensu na omume ya niile. Na ihee efu nke uwaa ojoo nkea.
Ajoo omume a agbaroo aka. Atulee ya nke OMA,onwere ike IBU na otu mallam tubara NNE ya ime. Nna ya eche na obu ya need nwa,omaghi noo nke aboki. Her mother has a question to answer

Blossom said...

Poster 1: I don't know how to advice you as I am not a Muslim. Your brother's and sisters in the faith will help you out but. All I know is that the multitude of problems people are going through in marriages these days is enough reason for one not to make hasty decisions about marriage so please take your time and study whoever the suitor is very well to avoid stories that touch.

Quiksilver said...

Food has come

Anonymous said...

Islam is darkness innit? I used to find your comments very intelligent and logical until now. This is offensive to all Muslim BVs. All of you close minded razzoids writing terrible things about Islam, I hope you guys know SDK blog is visited by Muslims too?

Winnie Omo said...

Anyways I'll just wait to read comments

Anonymous said...

I had same issue with poster 2, my fiancee didn't want to tell his parents I was a single Mum, last minute my Dad disagreed and said he must tell them or we cancel the wedding, he told them eventually and nothing happened, we ve been married 5 years now. Poster una love no strong.

Anonymous said...

@kay I feel ur pain

Anonymous said...

What kind of brain do u have? Blood sacrifices? Nigeria pls love forward

Anonymous said...

And you just lost my respect

Anonymous said...

Great advice

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Lol @ brainwashed. If shes igbo her parents will be so upset. Please lets know how it all wraps up eventually. Im interested.

Poster 2- how do your parents dictate what you do so much? I dont see the big deal marrying a man with a child out of wedlock except there are other issues you havent mentioned.
Memo to guys abeg if you have baggage tell us on time dont spring such surprises on us.

Anonymous said...

Darling trust me u know Nothing about Islam. Poster nobody can force you to marry who u don't want. Try and read more about Islam.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1.alhamdulillah on your conversion,may Allah guard your faith for you.

Pls dont let anyone coerce you into marriage.marriage isnt even compulsory in islam if u fit hold body.

Forced marriage has no place in islam

Dont let dem drag u into something cultural in d name of religion


Anonymous said...

@ poster1, i pray that your eyes of understanding be opened to see as you ought to see, and understand as you ought to understand. Christ is the Way,the Truth and Life. There is no salivation in any other but in Christ Jesus. Why the rush to get you married off? Does it not send some signals to you. Why hid your new found religion from your parents? You think they don't have right to know? Who will give you out in marriage if you continue to hid it from them? Please look before you leap and may the Lord show you mercy and recover you back to Himself, Amen.

Amy said...

Poster 2. Can't you make a decision on your own and talk to your parents.
Personally I don't see anything wrong if a guy is a baby daddy abi na single dad so long as he doesn't have a baggage of the baby mama trailing him and disturbing his peace with the kid. It's even good he came out and told you about it. Na that kain type person de find sef. Lol. Though na the matured baby daddies no be umu ntakiri boys around.
But take it easy. You kinda sound desperate for trying to finish yourself over it all. Doesn't make any sense to me though. Cos for him to wan to break up so fast when una don set date is kind of weird. I hope he can stand with you through thick and thin. Go and talk to your parents with probably an elder whom they respect that is on your side. Good luck though.

Poster 1, from frying pan to fire. That's all.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

@Awele im a christian to the bone but i dont support talking down on other's religion. Stop it.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Yori naaau... the same way we believe in our religion they belive8in theirs. Abeg dont stir controversy.

Billionaire's wife said...

Poster1:I don't know the reason why you changed religion, but you should ask yourself this question before you marry a Muslim man,can I be happy in a poligamus married?because the man will most likely take another wife.please retract your step before its too late.

Anonymous said...

Ur parents might still be right, being 30+ and unmarried is better than being unhappily married. That Boy may be a problem for u later in life, so ur parents are right.

Ibukunoluwa said...

Lol @ ur comment for poster 1
I just hope she didn't convert cos of a man

Poster 2- its not easy but u will be fine

Ibukunoluwa said...

Chaaaaaiii
Lol

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 assalam alaikum waramatulah wabarakahtu. I pray Allah makes this journey easy for you. My dear you have a right to marry who so ever you desire to marry infact Islam forbids marriage without the consent of the lady, it also encourages us to seek knowledge so please try and get books about to enlighten u,read more and be careful of the group you associate with.ma salam

Ibukunoluwa said...

Lol
Awele my comment on SP was a joke
Take it easy with the insults hunHun
πŸ‘Œ

Ibukunoluwa said...

Lol
But why denounce her nah

Anonymous said...

Where I am confused is why they think it's their duty to get her married. Wetin dey bring that kind talk sef. Poster 1 I pity you o. I pity you and your vagina. They want to destroy your destiny and you are here asking questions.

Queen George said...

Poster one
Sometimes I wonder the kind of upbringing you have that will make you so easily brain wash to change your religion to become a Muslim just few month outside your environment.if you feel you're OK and nobody force you into it, then let your parent know about your new found religion cos the way they're going about it now, very soon they will kidnap you and force you into marrying one old man with three wives already and you parent will start looking for you. I just pity for you cos you don't know what you are getting yourself into. May God deliver you.

Queen George said...

Poster one
Sometimes I wonder the kind of upbringing you have that will make you so easily brain wash to change your religion to become a Muslim just few month outside your environment.if you feel you're OK and nobody force you into it, then let your parent know about your new found religion cos the way they're going about it now, very soon they will kidnap you and force you into marrying one old man with three wives already and you parent will start looking for you. I just pity for you cos you don't know what you are getting yourself into. May God deliver you.

Anonymous said...

Just to correct you on that. Marriage isn't forced in Islam. Don't mistake culture with religion. Some people have imbibed their culture into the religion. Islam gives a woman the right to reject a proposal. Thank you.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Hian! Children are different. Me i bring up mine with them and say my mind once and for all. Meanwhile, this marriage issue in my house parents always have their own candidates. The two candidates that my parents recommend for my sisters are nowhere near the guys my sisters married now. Me nko?
Ok. So one bros in his 40s came and told them (not me) that he likes me. Yes i like guys at least 8 yrs older but that one no be am. I told my mum if hes so good he shouldnt be single (hes very handsome and has a good job). On sunday i was driving out and saw him coming to mark d usual register at my parents. I waved and passed. When i got back my mum was telling me that when she gave him food he started groaning in pain. She panicked as she thought it was food poisoning. After much-a-do he asked for the toilet while holding his private part abdomen and told her it was men's problem and he cant disclose much to her. She said he was groaning. Luckily my dad returned and he spoke to him in confidence. My dad didnt spill but the look on his face when my mum gave the gist was very very sad. So your guess is as good as mine.
Meanwhile, my mum has called me 'big eye' 'picky' cos i say i no want even follow the guy go dinner since 4 yrs hes been coming to say that gist. By now I'd probably be running from one herbal clinic to another.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 Salam, May Allah (swt) continue to strengthen you in your faith, Islam is very interesting, don't worry so much about the morning prayers it takes some getting used to, as for your questions, nobody can force an arranged marriage on you, not even your parents. So please don't listen to any Mallam. When it's time Allah will choose for you. Just tell them that you have to tell your parents, Islam does not permit you to marry without their permission. If it's God's will for you to remain in the religion even after you return to the south then you will. May He make it easy for you. Congratulations dear on your faith.

Mao Akuh said...

#1 - In as much as you are an adult, nne, you don't own yourself. Think about it, your parents trained you and are expecting much from you and all you have to give them back is this? Babe who did this to you? Will you be happy if your case become a national debate where they'll marry you off and your parents will be going from IG of Police to traditional rulers/emirs in order to retrieve you back? THINK. Even if you want to do it, why not get a job, date "whoever" you want and marry him properly with your parents consent. SHine your eyes before you become a sex slave to one aboki. Seek ye the kingdom of God and His righteousness my dear. Ekwuchakwalam!

#2- I believe you're a full grown adult. Seek ye the kingdom of God and His righteousness my dear.

STARRY LARRY said...

Then you know nothing about Muslims, where did you get this assertion from? The number 1 principle of Nikkai is 'asking the couple if they truly love each other or they were forced'?






*Larry was here*

STARRY LARRY said...

Thanks dear, that's the first question in Nikkai rite before they join them together as husband and wife





*Larry was here*

Damsel said...

Lies , pls don't mind this person , in Islam you marry who ever you chooses to marry , we don't force people, pls poster follow your heart

Anonymous said...

If there's any shameful regrets I have in my life is the fact that I converted into Islam. It's so shameful that I hate to think about it. Till date I always pray to God to erase the memory of my conversion out of my life, my parents, friends and relations who got to know of my conversion into Islam.

How it happened till date, I don't know. All I remembered was that I was so curious about this religion Islam and my curiosity led me into it play play play play Mirabel was no longer Mirabel but Aisha. Funny enough all the new converts are usually given the name Aisha. Only God knows why. If not Aisha, then Fatima.

It all happened 10 years ago. I packed my bag in preparation to serve my father's land. I arrived Katsina state like every other new corper. Settled in well, had my 3 weeks orientation and was posted to Dutsin-ma local government. Even though I was in the RCCG corpers lodge dutsin-ma, still yet I was always in the midst of this dutsin-ma college of education guys and ladies. 90% of the friends I made were indigenes of katsina studying in college of education or katsina state university. They were all Muslims. Soon I began to move with the kids of the elites in katsina. Attend their nikai(wedding), naming, wolimat etc all on invites. Little did I know that I was digging my own grave...
Is it the black washed Arabic substance I drank and all the things I went through in the cause of my conversion which I haven't said to anyone till date...
Or the other young ladies mostly IBO's who have been trapped and married off...
How I escaped from the emirates it's only by his grace. I have been planning to write on my ordeal in Islam especially when the case of ESE and the bayelsa kano keke Napep yellow broke out in the internet. It's going to be an eye opener but I will remain anonymous for security sake.
Before I forget, during Ese case, my whole family and friends kept on giving me a side look like that Stella Dog. I was just praying for the case to die down because each time the ESE case is being shown on TV or newspapers, the kind of look I get is heart aching.
I will find time to spill more.
With names if possible.
I just hope the ladies who converted during our youth year are free as I am today. Especially those who were forcefully married immediately after their conversion. Few of us escaped when the veil got removed from our eyes while the rest gave up to fate.
Sade Alabi I hope you are fine?


Back to poster 1, you are not normal. Trust me. If you allow them pressurize you into marrying any of the so called brothers, you will live to regret it for your whole life. Please and please don't rush into marriage should in case the Islamic spell is removed tomorrow.
Please drop your contact with Stella, I will like to talk to you. Probably with my story, your brain will be reset.

My decision 10 years ago cost me so many things in life. Please don't be like me. Infact it's so bad that I don't employ Muslims and I vowed that non of my kids will participate in this nonsense youth service. Let me mention here that I did things I wasn't proud of in the course of being a Muslim.

Do you know I can't travel to katsina anymore, out of fear that I might be killed because I escaped death there. If you convert to Islam and then try to keep relationship with the Christians or even convert back to Christianity, the penalty is death. My dear please I advice you to go to your father's house to practise your new religion than in the midst of this mallams. Always watch your back.
Too tired to type. I will definitely write about it so that everyone can be aware especially parents and young ladies going to the north for youth service.







Na long throat dey cause things like this.
Curiosity na im dey cause something like this



Please I didn't write this to attack the Muslims. Just my own experience.
Poster please pack your bags now and leave that environment before it's too late.

brown suga said...

Poster1.....Any religion that has to pin you down no be religion.....its a free world pls, afterall it was your choice, now they have eyes on you to ensure you don't leave....wow
Poster2...What's the big deal in having a child, so at your age you can't make your own decisions and stand your ground,maybe you are not matured enough for marriage.

Ibukunoluwa said...

Chikito she was citing examples of things Bvs might say

Anonymous said...

Did you say peace? Oya clap for yourself. Please tell her the truth jor

brown suga said...

Yes dear
Mistakes happen
Abortion is the sin, keeping the child isn't
He who is without sin should cast the first stone.

I am king EZE said...

They have heard ABEG.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1: you are very stupid and will soon regret this
Poster 2: you are also very foolish, abeg jump into 3rd mainland bridge if you are depressed much. Idiot

nina chocomile said...

Abeg anon let someone hear word! Isn't islam a religion of konk darkness? Who starts all the religious wars in this country, who has been killing Christians and both Muslims alike, who came into power and held the people captive? Pls you can be offended if you want to be. I live in the North and so I can attest to how wicked and hard hearted Muslims are.

nina chocomile said...

Nnem ojihi kwa anya ya, yawuru na oji anya ya, ogahi ahapu ebe uzo di, ga bah ni'me ohia.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Sharon you know nothing about muslims. I grew up in a muslim town. Nobody forces anyone to marry who they don't like.

Even us Christians, don't some of our parents force us to marry a particular person?

Poster 1, my only advice for you is to let your parents know about your decision to change religion.
Also, don't allow anyone force you to marry.

Please bvs, your religion is not a gateway to heaven so stop the "go back to the religion of light" talk.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

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SUGAR. said...

Poster 2... How old are you? U think you parents sees something you are not seeing.

Poster 1... Don't rush! I repeat don't rush!

nina chocomile said...

Chai, after calling her an idiot, is that how you do your own evangelism?

SUGAR. said...

You are a goat.

Daenerys_targaryen said...

Like people married to muslim men aren't happy. Christain is light abi and pastors keep using una head anyhow

SUGAR. said...

Step into the light?! So Islam is evil bah?πŸ˜•

Nigerians! Nigerians!. Kontinu.

ZaraOli said...

If she was muslim and converted to Christianity, would you still give this advise.

SUGAR. said...

Sharon you know I 'rove' you. Please delete this comment.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

The way some of you think ehn. So muslim is the devils religion and you're still alive after 3decades? Clap for yourself πŸ‘πŸ‘

SUGAR. said...

You are wise..

Atheist ™ said...

Hahahahaha.... Served hot

Anonymous said...

We yorubas don't want her, the hausa can take over!

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

@anon 16:21, I called Islam darkness? Please show me where I said that.
@anon 16:31, please does your respect feed me? Bye please.

Abenaa said...

As in eeh@ quiksilver,na atheist area we dey now.

Push up said...

Poster one, they do not just want to keep you grounded cause I have seen muslim court, just that you are not expected to get intimate, I think they don't want you to go back to your parents cus they have a way of brain washing you into believing your parents do not want the best of you, if you get married to the arranged guy, he will keep you under lock and key. You will not be able to be close to your family again as they would be referred to as infidels, I am speaking from a close family experience. Well welcome to your new religion better inform your parents. @poster two how old are you? You are no child, how can they tell you what to do, as an adult you should be able to have a grown up discussion with your parents, I am not saying you should be rude, except you don't earn your own money and if you don't better get a job

Abenaa said...

Anons, leave her naa, she has a right to her opinion....you could have used this opportunity to tell her all the good things about the Islamic religion...

GlamAffairs Makeover and Tailoring. 08111024477 said...

Sharon, it's good to ask questions when you don't know. Do not go about assuming things so you don't lead people astray.

GlamAffairs Makeover and Tailoring. 08111024477 said...

Chikito.....I have a new kind of respect for you today on your stand on the first chronicle.
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Bree said...

Oh. Sorry sorry its nwosakhadija@gmail.com. No "t".
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Bree said...

To those of you making ignorant comments no one has asked me to bomb anywhere.

You should make an effort to learn more about the religion before jumping into conclusions.

I'll answer as many questions as I can. I'm already receiving emails I'll reply soon.

Thank you. 😘😘😘

Bree said...

Lol I already have a job sis.

My parents and my grade in uni already did that for me.

I don't need any Alhaji. Please stop making assumptions. ✌✌✌

Bree said...

Loool calling me an idiot is certainly the best way to convince me to revert to Christianity apparently.

😞😞😞

Anonymous said...

@queen..who made you the judge of religion..i am a christian but i have had reasons to question the religion!islam is a very peaceful religion and a very beautiful one at that if not for those that are turning it upside down which even happened centuries ago with Christianity if not for the protestants who decided that the pope shouldn't be the alpha and omega! Muslims worship the same way all over the world unlike christians who keep deceiving themselves with twisted and man-made laws and doctrines!

Amacastel said...

Queen gorge u spoke my mind.
Am sure she is jazzed when you tell them to pray hard they refuse am sure she collect money laced with jazzed from a Mallam,or she didn't have proper upbringing, disgrace to igbo nation as a whole.

Amacastel said...

She has longer throat & a MALLAM has jazzed her with a juju laced gift, she don't knw herself again. Her mother should enter serious prayer on her behalf else she is gone.

Tilly said...

Well a true and grounded Christian will not convert to Islam or any other religion. Enjoy your new religion. As for marriage, take your time and you have to marry a Muslim so that you dont "unconvert". Also keep an open mind about not being an only wife so that you dont get heart broken or disappointed. Dont be greedy. You should be ready to share.

Amacastel said...

All the problems & bombing in the world is done by Moslems, so don't blame anybody that see them as darkness cos they kill & pick offence over little matter, they are so unforgiving.

Amacastel said...

Help me ask the brainwashed girl @poster 1

Amacastel said...

Yes oooo the moment she change to Islam she seized to be an igbo woman, we give you to them mallams free go & never come back.

Amacastel said...

No be small experimenting with her life.

Amacastel said...

No be small boko

Anonymous said...

Poster one pls is nt a most fr u to get married now.pls tell them to let u grow into the religion and inshaAllah Allah will reward you with a God fearing man.

BV kanorian

Amacastel said...

U dy mind the foolish gal if I have cane I would have flog you 24strokes of cane, even after being a graduate yet you are senseless.
How many northern girls do you see that convert to christainty be ready to carry their bomb strap to any location they want to blow u up. Nwa iberibe.

Anonymous said...

Wats ur email

NigerianBase said...

Hello! Congratulations on your new found faith as a new Muslim Convert. Am glad you willingly accepted Islam and that's great. Please resist any urge to get forced into marriage. Islam has guaranteed the rights of every Muslim lady out there to choose her partner. Forced marriage doesn't exist in Islam.

I advise you learn more about Islam. May Allah guide you to the straight part.

Anonymous said...

Day 2 of late period. Lord, have you answered me?fingers crossed.

ukwu dimond said...

Poster one rubbish chronicles, when you were making the decision to convert did you tell us, was I there? What is my own if they marry you off to a mallam? Life is all about choice, you made your decision so go ahead and do it the way you like.

ukwu dimond said...

Poster two you are not ready to settle down yet wait till you turn to 50 then you will be ready, wat rubbish are you talking about with your parents canceling your wedding, who pick the wedding date, who is getting married, who is heart broken now, who is losing now, who has no hubby or lover now, who is crying, who is having sleepless night since Tuesday? All is you and you alone poster.

Borrow yourself sense and forget about what your parents are saying, If you are happy with your man, comfortable with him having a child, love him to stay strong by him, nne do not waste any more time, fight for what makes you happy, your parents cannot marry you, they cannot make you happy, they can't sleep with you, what is wrong with a man or woman having a child out of wedlock, how many have you removed for him? If it was your brother in your boo's shoe what will you do to that lady? You better go and beg him, make up with him before another babe crab him.

Swiss Raphino said...

Poster one, you are joking with your life I swear, Islam is not like Christianity that you dump as you like, those people don't spare anyone who convert from Islam to Christianity, they will take you as a spy and kill you. You must remain a Muslim for life for the sake of your safety unless you want relocate to another country.

Poster 2, why allow your parents control your life? If you love this guy just marry him and your parents will understand later. What if you were the one with a child will your parents react same way?

Anonymous said...

Poster 1:in islam, there is no compulsion in religion. You have a choice as your consent is needed before any wedding. Since you were not forced to convert,take your time to enjoy and know more about your new faith. Insha Allah at the right time,Allah will bless you with a God fearing person that will aid in the growth and practice of islam. Salamualaikum sister.Welcome to islam... Ivie.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1.... You just converted into a religion you know nothing about. You jumped first then looked after it was too late. This is what happens when people use religion for all the wrong reasons. Religion is about having having a special personal relationship with God. Any other reason apart from that then it's politics. You already chose the political route that's why you cited geographically reasons for not converting while in the east. You also wanted a predominantly Muslim populated area that is you needed people to validate your decision for you. And you struggling to even convince yourself on what next to do now that you have publicly declared that you are a muslim. And that's why the mosque which you worship are now dictating to you.The truth is no one can help you here. You need to just ask yourself a simple question.....why did I convert? Is it to have a personal relationship with my God or to spite,rebel,or please certain class of people. You left a religion cause you are confused and joined another that makes you more confused. OYO is your case.
Posted 2.I think you are still not mature for marriage. The guy told you about the child and you said you knew your parents won't allow you to marry him. So if you knew you would listen and take your parent's advice or decision why go ahead with the relationship till a marriage date was fixed. And when will you start taking decisions without your parents? It's women like you that run back home for every little thing when the marry that makes the marriage hell. And I think your parents are very controlling. Let the guy go and wait till your parents get you a perfect man. The guy deserves someone better cause he was being truthful and open with you. What if he kept it until after marriage and you are pregnant or already have a child for him. My advice to you as dad's little girl is.....GROW UP And be responsible for your life and decisions.

Anonymous said...

It's a pity most of you can't think outside the box again. Once Stella write her gibberish red pen you all follow in drove like a cattle.

muhammed hazees said...

Poster 1: You have made a personal choice about religion and only you know the reason why you did and I must congratulate you on that. But sincerely speaking, Islam is not a religion for the ignoramus cos people will pull the ignorant ones into doing what is not Islamic and they will tag it Islam, Just like the Boko Haram sect or other terrorist group you hear of. I had a strong hatred for the religion due to so many vices perpetrated all in the name of Islam. The hatred was born out of what I hear from the media and what we were thought in church about Islam and what people generally say about the religion. Alas, I decided to study the religion after my ssce and I got a change of mind about the most dreaded religion. I converted 11 years ago and I must confess, to be a good Muslim,you must be knowledgeable about the religion and it's teachings. Why should Muslim kill when the Quran says (5 vs32) whosoever kills a person,is as though he has killed all mankind, and whosoever saves a life, is as though he has saved all mankind. Now that verse debase all form of terrorism. But my dear,ones you are not knowledgeable, then fanatical and non-knowledgeable lunatics will start preaching rubbish to you, Just like the planned marriage you mentioned. It's unislamical for parents to even plan a marriage for their daughter without her consent. A Muslim woman has the right to choose whom she wishes as husband. In summary, you have made a good choice but you must seek knowledge about the Deen to avoid been brainwashed.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Oh ibukun just saw. Sorry @awele

Anonymous said...

Which job?have you forgotten what you wrote in your chronicle about finishing service and getting a job.Abi you were sleeping while writing? pls go back and read your chronicles by yourself.who knows whether the whole thing sef na lie.mscheew

Shyla said...

And the poster forgets to go anonymous. Lol. Bree, na you?

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Anon, they did not think it's their duty. The mallam asked her a question just like a father would do. She's the one thinking south.

Anonymous said...

Amacastel, I think you need to have your big clitoris sucked. Why are you jumping up and down ?

How does the matter concerned you this much ehn??

Shyla said...

Osetigo. Hajia Bree welcome again.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Clap fΓ³r yourself πŸ‘πŸ‘

Anonymous said...

You are here feeling important. You never know whatsup. E go soon clear comot for your eyes. Better start asking your fellow muslims the time to face the moon and the sun pia isi na aja. Na marriage drag you convert religion. Ibu real otule. Ebule muru aturu gba aka nwa. Also inform your folks about this so the day they dont hear from you, let them not bother looking for you. Ifuole.

Billionaire's wife said...

*Marriage

Anonymous said...

Abeg make she stay there. One. down will mot make a difference. She convert cos e see im friends de do so. You think sey your own go be like Janet Jackson.E think sey na child's play. Dont worry about the marriage, worry about the uncircumcised prick coming to mount you.

ISYMAZE said...

πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘....@ Anonymous
You nailed it.

Olivia Silk said...

Lmao

Anonymous said...

Dear Poster,
I have just one question for you..
Do you have peace? I mean this deep satisfaction and contentment with your new lifestyle.I pray for you with the whole of my heart that Christ will bring you to the knowledge of him. Jesus loves you so much, even as a Muslim. And He is waiting for you to come back, so He can love on you for eternity. Please don't let Him wait too long that it will be too late for you.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: what if you are the one with a child out of wedlock 9ja and backward mentality

nina chocomile said...

I'm not interested in learning your religion bree. Pls just be sure of what you're doing, think of it seriously, I hope you don't regret this.

zee said...

Dear no one is convincing u to revert to Christianity, it your load and your burden to bear,dont just send in any chronicles in the future about your new found religion. I wonder how it was easy for you to just convert to being a Muslim and not even thinking about it all over again, can't imagine me shouting Allah when am used to that wonderful name JESUS,As I said earlier it you r life. Peace be Unto you!!!

Great lady said...

Wow! Anon 17:49, pls find time to send in your story. Am already curious about your experience.

Curiosity kills the cat...
Poster 1,am wondering what gave you the conviction to convert. Like play play.

queenE said...

You never fail to amuse me. No, you don't diappont

Anonymous said...

Sharon you are a foolish fool. Just because you just want to write here you came up with this. Where and how did you made the little finding you know ?

Keep displaying your foolishness just to be noticed on a blog.

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

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Omolewa said...

Poster 1: you converted to a religion that you don't fully understand. Your parents don't know,why the secrecy? If you are such then come out and learn all you can about, if you cAn withstand all the talks then I know you are ready. By the way, you need to move away from your current environment to be of a clear mind

Poster 2: sorry no advice, I didn't really follow the chronicles. Sorry

BECKY DIVINE said...

Anon 20:24 ain't you just amazingly stupid? Na only God fit epp your case

Anonymous said...

Poster one, please get back to Christianity!!! I am a Christian married to a Muslim and it is hell!!!!! Polygamy only breeds disfunctional children, and lots of juju and can u imagine a man with about 20 children from different women? How is each child meant to have that bonding with him? My husband is one of fifteen children and most of them are very uncouth, Islam is evil, they don't believe Jesus is the son of God and Mohammed wedded a girl of 7 years. Peadophilia and repression of the girl child is lit in Islam. We don't worship the same God. Remember the beheading of the evangelist woman in Abuja and Gideon Akaluka amongst other slain Christians? What other religion does this? My husband never had his fathers love and he has no love to give our sons. Come back to Jesus. God bless you.

Anonymous said...

It is NOT a religion of peace.

Anonymous said...

Sugar & co how many babies have you killed before? What is bad about telling someone who have killed to repent?

Anonymous said...

Northern girls who want to convert to Christianity are either killed or quickly married off. They hatred Muslims have for Christians and Jews is on another level, they don't allow their kids to convert. In Islam, you are killed for committing apostate.... and some Christians are embracing this? Jesus maranatha

Yemi7up said...

Another Ese loading, you better run away from them before they will kidnap you and marry you off.

Anonymous said...

My dear, you are making a great mistake. Islam is evil. You a girl are already a second class citizen in the religion. Your husband can go to mosque and come back to teach you. You can share him with other women?

Anonymous said...

If their is no compulsion in Islam why kill people who want to convert from Islam or why do their parents disinherit them? You people will not talk when Christians are butchered up north. How many Muslims fought for Ese Oruru? Instead, your leaders even flew Yinusa yellow back home from prison and you say you are a religion of peace? May all the Christian blood Islam spilled not be in vain. Mohammed that married a woman 20 years older and a girl as young as 7! Kai!

Anonymous said...

Anon 16:21 never knew we have Muslim bvs here. You guys were silent about the Ese Oruru matter, the killing of the 70 yr old Igbo woman trader and the killing of the evangelist in Abuja. The veil of Islam had blinded you. Until a church is located in your Kaaba and your Mecca and medina just as you have mosques at the birth place of Jesus and other historic sight, until you step out of your peadophilia religion and love even those who are not Muslims, you can't show me the love and peace in Islam.

Anonymous said...

Poster I pity you...u are signing in for a life of bondage Walahi... don't come and share your chronicles of woe here

Anonymous said...

Saddist, may God help you.

ANONYMOUS said...

Getting married is ur choice poster 1. If you are not ready, you are not. May Allah make practising easy for you.welcome to the religion of peace nd reality. Salam alaykum

Bree said...

Lol I do have a job. I'm serving somewhere. Duh. I want a better one naturally.

I only told him that so he'd know what my priorities are.

Anonymous said...

You were never ever a True Christian. If you really knew our Lord Jesus and he lives in you, you can never ever let him go. A lot of people claim to be Christian's but they never was. Poster I see how you are seeking attention here & thinking to yourself you are in some type of way relevant. You were never a Christian so drop that converting rubbish. You are a Muslim now, enjoy! Worry about eternity because a life without Jesus is worthless.

Anonymous said...

@poster 1, I tell you of a truth that asking u was just for the fun of it. It can be seen to that u get married to anyone of their choice at anytime of their choice. You'll only come back to yourself after your last child has turned 15. By then your youthfulness would have gone and you will no more 'toy wiv the idea'. You will not be allowed to have access to anyone anymore. Your parents, friendsetc. Not even chronicles can save u then, it would be ensured that you don't see a power pack much less.... before u decide finally, ask the Lil girls born and bred in it how much she cherishes the liberty u just flung out the window.by the way, try and prepare yourself for a life of servitude and polygamy. Jesus still loves u though, if and when u rethink and retrace ur footsteps,just like your parents whose heart you have shattered.

Anonymous said...

Wow......@anon17:32. pls write this story asap. Really looking forward to it.

Hadi said...

Hi poster 1, I am a Muslim and I beg you please do not allow any Muslim imam, Mallam or whatever brainwash you into getting married. Who cares about if they are scared you will change your religion? Please your religion is between you and Allah and has nothing to do with the imam. Tell the imam and mallam to kindly mind their business and that you will marry when you are ready to a man of your choice!

Hadi said...

Erm excuse me? She has the right to live her life the way she pleases. Same way her parents have lived their lives the way they please. No one should be forced to live their life for others even if they are your parents.

Anonymous said...

@ anonymous 23:43, it is a religion of peace. It is some Muslims who are not peaceful! You shouldn't define a religion by the actions of some of its followers.

Anonymous said...

You this Chikito. It baffles me how one person can share so much about themselves with stories camouflaged as "humble brags"! You almost always have anecdotes to share as they relate to every single chronicle.

It appears you so desperately need validation that a faceless blog is sadly your medium of choice. And anyone who dares to criticise you is instantly and swiftly chastised. I know you'll come back to read this and possibly mouth off at me, but unlike you, I don't come back to read replies. Some of us do have real lives.

Ridwanullah said...

Whilst we understand the importance of love and compatibility we must also ensure the approval of both parties. However, one must also recognize that forced marriage is a problem occurring today and Islam condemns it to the highest degree. The issue of forced marriages is not one that is limited to some Muslims, but Hindus, Sikhs and other religions also acknowledge it as a problem.

As explained above, Islam regards marriage as a right of the individual and therefore others cannot make the decision for them. If a woman/man is forced in marriage then the marriage would not be valid.
If this does not happen then those who forced the marriage and those who allowed it are both guilty and have committed a major sin.

Anonymous said...

Guys pls dnt stress about d 2nd poster nobdy is sure if she's telling the whole truth pple hold back details jst so dey can get pity party, jst my thought dou cos drez always two sides to a story.

Scarlett said...

Does your father have an older friend or uncle he listens to? Try and visit the man with your fiance and let them see the good in him. Your dad's friend will speak with your father on your behalf.

Having a child outside wedlock isn't a crime. If the tables were turned and it was you with the baby nko.

I hope your parents are learned.

Anonymous said...

@Post1: You made the right decision sis. Islam is a beautiful religion and there's no compulsion to marry when you are not ready, no compulsion to follow certain imam or visit certain mosque. If u have problems with the imam and people at your current mosque. My sister please visit a better mosque with welcoming Muslims that would help you grow in the religion. May Allah assist you and guide you aright. Ameen

Serifat said...

@Post1: You made the right decision sis. Islam is a beautiful religion and there's no compulsion to marry when you are not ready, no compulsion to follow certain imam or visit certain mosque. If u have problems with the imam and people at your current mosque. My sister please visit a better mosque with welcoming Muslims that would help you grow in the religion. May Allah assist you and guide you aright. Ameen

Biliamin Popoola said...

Poser 1: My dear young lady, people will bring to you a million and one reasons why you should not have converted to Islam. Some will coin stories to attempt thwarting your belief, while others will give experiences in Islam that may have occured out of their gulibility and ignorance.

Just as it is in every religion, there are bag eggs that use the name of the religion to perpetrate evil at different scale. So, I hope your decision to convert to Islam was born out of true conviction, knowledge and understanding. Dont be deceived, everyone has problem and no adherent of a religion can boast of prosperity or “better life” in any respect than another. So, first, setlle down in your new religion and gather knowledge.

Islam is a knowledge-based religion and gives no room for Clergy status, only that the more knowledgeable lead, teach and explain things to the less knowledgeable. But the more knowledgeable are not better in anyway in the sight of Allaah, except if they happen to be more pious, and piety cannot be measured by any man. So, take it as a personal responsibility to seek true knowledge and confirm and reconfirm from truthful people because many things taught in pristine Islam have been contaminated/diluted/distorted by people for their own selfish reasons, but the true teachings are from Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet.

Islam is vast. It is a system of life. It has something to say on EVERYTHING concerning human life and endeavour and action, so learn and apply gradually.

Now, to your poser. In Islam, there is no marriage without the conscent of the girl/lady/woman. So, dont fear at all. You have your full control of whom you choose to marry. No form of coercion or force is allowed in true Islamic teaching.

Also, form a good relationshop with your parents and siblings. Learn about Muslim predecesors how they dealt with their non-muslim parents and family. Be good to them and pray alot..

I congratulate you and pray for Allaah's continous guidance for you.

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