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Thursday, 11 May 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
UNFORGIVING FIANCE

Hi Stella bae, I need urgent advice from you and my fellow bvs. I am really confused right now. The story is very long but I'll try to be as brief as possible. I am engaged to a guy I've been dating for almost a year now. I absolutely love this guy and I've been trying so hard to make the relationship work.


It wasn't all rosy when we started, but for some reasons which I can't really pin-point, I just felt he was the right person, my mind and heart just kept choosing him, I also prayed and felt at peace. I chose to be with him despite every other suitor that was better financially because I didn't want to go for the money but for happiness. But for some reasons, we kept quarreling.


 At a point, I thought I made a wrong decision, I tried to break-off the relationship because I was very unhappy. He pleaded for another chance which I gave and we got engaged not long after.

After this, my ex’s issue came up, I was still in contact with my ex(I told him from the start that I was and he accepted). Well, he felt like there was something going on and after a lot of quarrel, I stopped communicating with him.


 I also had another friend at my work place whom we quarreled about too and I had to stop communicating with him too. Since these happened, it has been from one quarrel to another. He thinks I cheated, he thinks I slept with them which I didn't (I know my boundaries, I know where friendship should end). 


I have apologized, prayed, sworn (he has made me swear that I would die during childbirth and on the highway if I actually slept with them and I swore).


I have been depressed to the extent that I felt like killing myself. I have given him proofs that I didn't, I have sworn at the middle of the night with my nakedness. There's nothing I've not done to show that I didn't cheat on him.

The problem now is, he still doesn't believe me, he has no trust for me, he claims to have forgiven, but he still accuses me of infidelity at the slightest provocation. Recently, he accused me of not being where I told him I was and demanded to speak to a friend that is always with me, but I refused. I refused because I was angry, I was so conscious of not missing his call so he won't think I was somewhere else. 


I don't know how long I would keep up with the begging for what I didn't even do. I don't know how long I would have to have proof for everything I say or do.

He is not a saint, he has done somethings to me, but I have always forgiven unconditionally. Right now Stella, I'm confused. I just have to ask; will I always be made to pay for my wrongs when we're married? Since he can't trust me, is there any hope for us in marriage? 

I get scared when we are all good because I don't know when and how the next quarrel will come and it always does. I know couples quarrel, but should it be like this? I am tempted to call the whole thing off, (note, we've done our intro already and planning for the wedding in Nov).



*WHICH WEDDING?...WITH WHO?...YOU BETTER LOOSEN  YOURSELF FROM THAT BONDAGE YOU CALL RELATIONSHIP 
BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE AND GO FOR DELIVERANCE FROM ALL THOSE THINGS YOU SWORE WITH...........Child birth whether wrong or right is not something you tamper with..dont ever do it for any man again,it is not worth it.

I would have sent you an E-SLAP but whats the use?

My dear end this end time thing you got going ooooh...not by force!


198 comments:

Daenerys_targaryen(For your organic soap and cream😍😍 what's app 08112237061) said...

Mstchew!!! Go get your self esteem from whoever you dashed it to.

Madam Small Chops said...

My Mantra: If there is no TRUST then there is no need to continue.

Anonymous said...

Any relationship where trust has been murdered is dead before arrival!
This "fiance" is bad news; he can kill you due to pathological jealousy.
But I have a question; how do you girls "pray" have "sex" and be "at peace"; at peace with which "god"; the one that says; "flee fornication, every other sin a person commits is outside her own body etc.
Please tell me you are all joking with eternity!

Rocky said...

She's even considering marriage.. what a joke!

Poster, you are not in a relationship so I'll advise you to break the bondage you are in. How can you save in this kind of rubbish and refer to it as being in a relationship? You even went ahead to swear with one of life's sacred event- childbirth! How silly can you be? To what end??

Anonymous said...

This girl sef, so u mean u can't see the hand writing on d wall?abeg enter the next bus n Waka, unless u wan waka enter 6 feet?abeg just walk away

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hmmm...
Poster,what's this guy's zodiac sign?...
Is he a scorpio?...
I will advise you break off the engagement!...
A relationship without trust no dey work!..
If you marry this guy,your name is sorry!...infact,we will be reading your chronicles everyday!...
A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage!,..
Na his type dey chase anything in skirt sef....leave this guy abeg...
He is not your husband!!...

miss Fee said...

Please take Stella's advice.

You see all those divorce stories and domestic violence in marriages increasing on a daily basis; here's where and how they start... ladies ignoring the signs in relationships, because marriage is a must. a stitch in time...

Chickyclassy Mee said...

So many dumb ladies.

Oluyemisi Olotu said...

Girrrrrrrrrrl!! You better run! This guy is cheating on you. Even if he is not, he is emotionally abusing you. Anyway. RUN. Do not look back. He is not the ONE.

Anonymous said...

Whenever a girl talks about "killing myself", then know that she has killed before; and you know who she killed?
The baby in her womb:
Genesis 9:6 “Whoever sheds human blood,
by humans shall their blood be shed;
for in the image of God
has God made mankind.

Lady C said...

God!!!!I hate insecured guys coupled with bossy attitude,if you love him enough to handle his attitude goodluck with you but dear you wont be able to cope.

Lady T/ am worth more than a thousand dollars said...

This is bondage not a relationship. Slavery I beg your pardon. Is he God that you have to swear with your nakedness etc. Common lady. Kiss this relationship good bye or you will die in it. He has trust issues. He will never trust you so pls stop trying.
Say good bye to him. Someone else will come and you will have peace.
The peace that you will sleep with your eyes closed and not have to swear up and down. Haba! Pls let this guy go. Pls pls pls.
I don't know which peace you said you had about him. This is a no no.

LadyPrecious said...

My dear poster better RUN!!! This is a form of emotional abuse from insecure, most times older men. It will get even worse when u get married. How in the world will you swear with child birth, road accident or your nakedness? My dear borrow yourself some brain and leave that unhealthy relationship now.

BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

A relationship without trust is headed for disaster.

Mrs Albert said...

my dear..so if u r already doing this

"I have apologized, prayed, sworn (he has made me swear that I would die during childbirth and on the highway if I actually slept with them and I swore)".

before entering the marriage, pls tell me , what would you do when you've entered the marriage. Dance naked in the market place to prove you've not cheated???..

someone that's making you do all these and swear does not love u one bit and will end up killing you before ur time

U r just in the relationship defending and defending and defending yourself for no reason..

Your fiancΓ© is insecure, and controlling and im not sorry to say, will be the type that will practise the whole act of domestic violence on u..

Im sure u know where ur feet are..

u better take ur two left legs and run as fast as you can..not walk..run

intro ko, end ni..

mscheeeww

Anonymous said...

These girls that "have sex", "pray" and have sex are playing with the Grace of God, they are calling an unholy thing the blood of Christ that sanctified them.
They are playing with the consuming fire; REPENT!
Or stop deceiving yourselves and others by choosing the world of sex. God is too holy to behold iniquity; let the person that name the name of the Lord depart from iniquity! Choose where to live; in the world or in Christ?

IbukunOluwa said...

Walk away
Break free
Usain bolt
Pick race


Sha don't stay there

STARRY LARRY said...

If your brain is still functioning well, listen and listen good, break up from that demon, if not, he will kill you one day. He made you swear that you will die while giving birth if you ever cheated on him, and you're still with that animal? Please leave and never look back




*Larry was here*

cutie said...

End tym fiance, babe run as your legs can carry u, i am a living testimony from that kinda r/ship.

Chidinma Grace said...

NNE Run! That relationship is not healthy. Remember that woman that was killed some time ago by her husband because he always accuse her of infidelity? That's how abusers start.

Anonymous said...

This one is not relationship at all, it's a situationship... Better receive sense and give ur self some worth

Anonymous said...

Stella you are so correct!!!My dear if you continue with the wedding ,you will be sad for the rest of your life.Trust issue is a very big issue.I am talking from experience,I just asked myself basic questions and i moved on with my life.He will keep referencing it,I AM 100% SURE OF THAT,ontop something wey you no do...Eish. Marraige is already complicated you dont need to carry extra baggage,Swear for what?say wetin happen....abegyyy..All the best.

BECKY DIVINE said...

Poster first of all.. How old are you? Why are you so stupid?

i) You have met richer guys than him, but you rejected them all because of this fool

ii) Right from the start, you guys always quarrel and yet, your heart foolishly kept choosing him.

iii) You were actually crazy enough to swear you'll die during childbirth or die on the high way to prove you didn't cheat?

iv) You swore with your nakedness by midnight just to prove to this one fool that you didn't cheat. And he still hasn't forgiven you!

v) And now you're actually considering marrying this Arsehole?? Oh my God!!! This one is too much!

Poster are you sure you're okay? I think you're under the influence of something dangerous. Because I just can't believe one person can be this stupid.. I refuse to believe it

Tueh! Don't go and ask God for forgiveness for all that curse you've laid upon yourself, by yourself and for yourself. Stay there and be professing love to that dirty idiot that probably has tons of babe out there. An idiot i'm sure is thinking you're too FUCKING CLINGY and DESPERATE.. who's also seriously thinking of ways to dump your Silly Ass.
Rubbish

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Hahahahaha Stella i was just thinking of our E-slap until i saw your red biro comments.

Come and take a big KONK on your head not KNOCK because knock no go do anything for you. If you be my sister, na me go carry you put for 21 days DELIVERANCE.

Foolish girl. You allowed the idiot to swear for you that you will die with your baby before you born and you agree.

Thank God i no get stupid sister like you

SuperMom said...

Hian!!!!! Please runaway from him. Why are u allowing the devil entrap you with all these swear.
Abeg o u don't need this toxic relationship. Save yourself before we hear stories that touch.

Anonymous said...

PIs I beg u,Ieave that guy ASAP,its bondage oo,if u want ur peace of mind,pIs I adviCe u Ieave him.I broke up with my ex 2 months ago cos of the same tins.funny enough,I feIt as if I hav been free from bondage.

Mrs anonymous said...

A relationship without trust is non existent,he's abusing you emotionally.Please let this guy go.I have been in your shoes ,broke up with the abuser and moved out of Abuja completely for a year because he was so violent

Veenus said...

Lmao @ e-slap,me sef im tempted to as well.Dear poster all i see her is a toxic relationship dat will end in regret u better stop before its too late cos i can sense another chronicle coming up if u stay with that man,not only will he verbally abuse u,u might end up being domestically abused as well,the signs are there,take to ur heels

Laeffizy said...

This is why I don't comment on chronicles, cos 90 percent of the time they are annoying.
Poster so you don't have sense? You swore to die during childbirth for something you didn't do? You Dont know even the devil has a sense of humor?
How dare you allow this guy rip off every bit of your self esteem, and throw you into depression? If you both get married in the end, he will be the cause of your death, and he will make himself seem like the victim. Better get out of that toxic situationship which you are calling a relationship. If you insist on marrying him go and borrow Linda's pigeon and knack on his head....hian!!!

CHI EXOTIC said...

SMH
He made you swear
Said you would die during childbirth and on the highway and you're still hoping to marry him?

You're unbelievable!!!
Gosh!

Fuck you said...

The funny thing is people who act like this cheats the most...confam serial cheater...and poster u must be mad to say u drove every other person because of this guy...u better start opening ur heart now before u lose...relationship is a win or lose ish...free urself from that bondage

Ralu M said...

I pity you dear, I so pity you for entangling yourself with a man who has no atom of trust for you inspite of all the swearing and whatever which you ought not to. Obsessive, suspicious, jealous and controlling men are time bombs waiting to explode & it will kill you in the process.
A broken engagement is better than an abusive marriage. A word is enough for the wise.

Anonymous said...

which kain thing i jus read so?

vicky U said...

Babe save your self from bondage.
This one that is doing monitoring spirit over you and You swore with your unborn child?
Close this guy's chapter and date someone else.

Jules Louis said...

Poster, u don't need a soothsayer to tell u your fiance is a control freak na. This is how domestic violence starts o. Small time slaps and beatings will enter. Marriage should make u happy not all these. Why do girls so desperately need to get married despite seeing d ugly signs. Why?????. Pls dump that insecure baby likes its hot. You even swore for him. If u like kill yourself for a man who doesn't have an iota of love for u. This isn't love. This is not love.

Cookie said...

See why I hardly comment on chronicles?? Same story, different pattern, y'all senders must think we are stupid or jobless, dishing out the same advice daily, and you said you're a BV?? If I type what's on my mind, I'll just insult you....please carry yourself and go, what rubbish!!!

Abeg lemme come and be going....... Shior!!

Janelicious said...

Dear poster your guy has a serious issue, you better run imagine you had to swear with childbirth and still is not enough. Believe it or not once you people get married it will be worst.

DON™ said...

Babe leave this guy now that guy can and don't give another chance.
Just lean back please!

Anonymous said...

what mumu we..mini

ifeoma lan said...

U said u abandoned rich guys for him....what special thing has he done for u...senseless girl....u deserve each other....u have no self worth

sexy Daddy said...

Every day I read chronicle here it must be fuck,date,and love!Gosh!Why not you people seek advice on investment, business ideas or how to serve God with your hearts!
Poster, I have no advice for you,go and serve God!

Obianuju said...

Jeez! You want to marry someone that made you swear you would die through childbirth or on the highway??! It seems you love this guy more than you love yourself and that my dear is a sin. Love yourself first and set boundaries. The Bible says you can't swear with even a strand of your hair yet you swear with your life! This is the worst chronicle I've read on this blog. How dare you put your life in danger like that and for nothing!!!

Blackberry said...

Very unhealthy relationship.
U swore....hahaha
Swear for a guy who's fucking another babe without your knowledge.

Candy said...

This is no relationship. This is serious bondage. Ah! Ah! He made u sewar that u'll die during childbirth, and u sef open ur mouth 2 swear. Na wa o. U try. I can't deal abeg!!

vicky U said...

Ok funny question. Endure with me biko.

How did you "proof" to him you didn't sleep with your ex or your friend? Did you open your kini for him to measure the elasticity or otherwise?

He hasn't married you and he is suspicious of your whereabouts and your communication with any man.

If you be ma sis..I beg you to borrow brain and face front.
No two marriages are the same.
This man isn't it abeg.

favourite girlfriend said...

This kind of bondage flee that's the best advice before you come and say he hit after we got married

Ella said...

Just one word " toxic" maybe you should postpone the wedding to knw if things will get better if not abort!

Thegoodwife said...

Run, end this mess of a relationship. It doesn't get better...learn from me. I married my mr swear for me and 13 years later we are still unhappily married. I have never cheated and don't to plan to but Oga is convinced that i want to sleep with every man I come across. He is very insecure and knows he doesn't deserve you and instead of rejoicing, he's projecting his insecurities onto you. Save your self decades of headaches and heartache and moveon. I wish i listened 13 years ago to run ;(

Anonymous said...

Are you 23?
I ask because a while back, that was the golden age of stupidity for some of BV's here.

I won't reply you because I don't want to believe you're this foolish. No human being can be.
Pls carry your cooked tale go front abeg.
If this story is true, then na beating you need, not advice.
Continue in the relationship and you will surely get that beating
Mtchewww.

Minnie Rexpect said...

Jeez! Just when you think you've seen it all. You swore? Heavy words swear? Are you for real?!! Sweety that was your first mistake, now he's gonna be using your head anyhow as you've showed him you like him more than your life.

You are still tempted with all the glaring signs. You better run from that toxic thing you call a relationship. Think about it. If he can be this way during courtship, what will happen in marriage?

Unless he changes, just know that your entire stay with him will continuously be hounded with stories from your past anytime there's a misunderstanding. I'm sure you already know what a relationship without trust does not to talk of marriage.

You should be lucky you saw the signs , others weren't. How will someone be using info you told him against you just because he wants to hurt you when you two aren't in taking terms and you are still using the word 'tempted'.
My advice is for you to KELE(RUN).

Pure Nigerian said...

Girl, set yourself loose. Swore upon childbirth? The one that I witnessed two weeks ago abi which one? That isn't something to joke with.
I cannot stay with someone who questions my intentions on matters such as fidelity, finance, spiritual and other major ones, constantly and consistently. I cannot swear on any matter because the bible has instructed me on my yes being yes and my no being no.

Adadioramma said...

Jeez, swear with die during child bearing? Poster how old is your guy? You self why take such oath because of love? Sorry dear, I don't see the marriage working out. Please have a rethink.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

DOA- dead on arrival.
Search yourself and you'd see that even if everyone tells you to leave this man, you won't.
Trust is very important in any relationship because once lost it's very hard to gain back.
You mentioned finacial instability and not choosing wealthier suitors because you don't want to be tagged materialistic.
GIRLLLLLL love can't buy you those expensive things, it is never enough. Stop doing yourself a great disservice because in all honesty there is not price for long suffering.
Also, what's your issue with keeping up with ex's? Aren't they your ex for a reason? You need to watch it for the sake of future relationships that's if you leave this man who will drain you emotionally if you settle for him.
You sound drained and tired from your write up, it's best you release yourself from his grip.
He will drain you dry till you start to live life the way he wants. He would graduate to monitoring your movements and controlling people who should be your friends or not and trust me a man who has a lot going for him won't have time playing on his insecurities and monitoring his partner. Maybe that's why he is not quite rich because he focuses more energy on subject matters that do not yield money.
You better check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Marriage is not by force, it's for life.

Adele love said...

Did I just read that you swore using death through childbirth because of a man? Even going naked at midnight! Pls take a walk aand never look back if not be ready to walk mad on the street swearing cos you want to prove your innocence. Pls know your self worth.

mbonu vera said...

Seriously stelzz..she need E slap....plus you should have indicated your age..mk we know if you are anty desperado.....cuz i dnt knw hw someone who claims to love you, will make you swear with childbirth..what if the wrong angel was passing..abi u never watch that film by Stella DAMASCUS.. wen she swore buh d angel of darkness grabbed it and she saw hell..

Neva you swear ..if he doesn;t trust you now....sweety how will he trust you in marriage,wen he thinks he finally owns you and can harass you emotionally..this is emotional violence...lolzz

Talk to him one last time..watch him for two weeks..if he doesnt change..bbe call this torture off...Yours will find you eventually ok......smile bby..

Anonymous said...

My dear you need deliverance from the curses you placed on yourself and from the demonic man you are engage to
How can you take a oath to please mere man. Listen no matter who you do,you won't please him.
Run for your life before you die young

Tiwa

Glow! said...

Poster I'm not sorry to say but you're the biggest fool that ever liveth!!!
On behalf of SDK receive E-Slaps πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹

Gold Taken said...

Hmmmnnn! Poster, if you want to repeat the cycle of "managing in marriage and yet suffer and smile", go ahead. You are just a scape goat for his chauvinistic nature. From my heart to yours, YOU DESERVE BETTER!

Brenda said...

My dear....the relationship you're into is already a destructive one. You are dating a man who u will never enjoy in marriage...you're already tired...worn out emotionally, psychologically and mentally and you're still holding on? you said you had/have peace about him..pls where is the peace you're talking about? Is is him telling you to swear naked and wish yourself death in childbirth? Like seriously!!!! Ontop wetin naa? its not by force naa. Please release yourself from this kind of demonic person you claim u love. you say wedding is by Nov? U had better run for your life!!! you will be better off being single and having your peace and sanity than marry this kind of evil hearted demon in human form... Its not even as if u actually commited what he's accusing u of..if u now do am nko? that means he'll poison you naa!!!

My dear...if you love yourself and you unborn children RUN NOWWWW!!!!!!!!
Go for full deliverance to annul all those nonsense swears you sweared....

Evil Marriage is not by force oo....it will derail your life..path...destiny and every good thing that has been ordained for u. He will come back and beg u and say he has changed..but beleive me when i say its the real him is what he has shown u and he cannot change..
...........But after all said and done....the ball is in your court...be wise!!!

Anonymous said...

He doesn't value you AT ALL, else he wouldn't wish u dead ever in his life no matter the wrong, talk-less of you swearing that yhu die by childbirth.....what the hell, better men that will cherish yhu are out there, better late than ever, please leave him. God bless yhu.

Anonymous said...

See the things he made u go through, this is not love at all. Its obsession and it'll definitely lead to DV. You better end the relationship now, else we go dey expect another chronicles soon as a DV victim. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.

Oh Lamee said...

Isn't it funny u swore....4 dis kain 21st century...a man u r in a relationship with and he doesn't have an atom of trust for you...my dear...stop loving wiv ur heart alone o...biko use ur head as well...a man that loves you wouldn't make you do all those...pls call it off asap...u ll meet d man for you soon...dnt give up

HRRT FBI said...

You will be a joker if u marry this man. After seeing this fire that wont quench u are still talking about wedding in Nov??oya go ahead before or by Feb 2018 you will send SDK chronicles because of how miserable he will make your life be..Be swearing very well you hear?

The Lifted said...

Endtime fiancΓ©e. the guy has trust issues, some men r funny o! whats with the plenty swearing on swear?on a serious note watch it babe,this guy could end up being abusive,tell him u can't marry him bcos there's no trust,delay things to see if he will really change for good,if not run for your life cos with hes character u won't have a happy family life after marriage

Justyswt said...

Poster this ur relationship is toxic. Pls run now that u have the chance. A better man will come for u. Or u will pleading for the rest of ur life.

Anonymous said...

Soon he will ask you to swear wether or not you "messed" . Deliver yourself dear, RUN!!!

Ishola champion said...

My dear you will need to hold on before you proceed with the wedding, trust really matters as it is he doesn't trust you anymore, even after swearing with such big life matter. But let me tell you your fault, "what's the play of Lion and dog" why still keeping up with your ex, the way you said sounds like the contact is regularl and you still tell him personal things about you. Imagine your guy ex still hang out with him will you feel secure? Forget the fact you asked him and he said no problem he just do the wanna be a jerk. For the other guy at work ladies need to know there man and respect there relationship, when you already have serious relationship i think there should be limit to how cordial you relate with guys, men too have jealousy​ intact more than women. Imagine you are chatting with a guy till around 11pm and you expect your guy not to think otherwise, or you visit the guy weekends he takes you out ,he is on your favourite list on call log contact. Let's call a spade a spade even if it's you that noticed a lady clinching your guy like that you won't take it easy.... Respect your relationship, you can't relate with guys the way you do when you're single or on bf/gf level. I'm not saying you shouldn't have male friends but let there be boundaries.

Chinelo said...

Exactly like my ex. Will tell u to swear with holy bible. Chai women dey suffer sha. Inferiority complex is a big disease. E no dey hard am say 'his spirit tells him i will cheat on him'
Brother cheat where? Mtcheew

Atheist ™ said...

.....But but but, ure not xactly happy na, ure literally counting down to the nxt beef....."A relationship whr u can fart & not say "Am sorry" to ur partner can cause wahala, is that one a relationship? Imagine the lenght uve gone to jst to prove ur innocence & yet he still doubts u to the core, is his name "Thomas"??
My dear, like i always say "Happiness is Priority".... You chose to be with him over money or bigger dicks, lol, cus trust me there's always a bigger one, so as i was sayin..... If ur purpose of being with him can't be fulfilled, u better press eject, its just intro, afterall, some guys with smokey minds will go as far as doing intro with a girl they hv no intention of marryin, just for the pussy, & then they're gone! Intro dsnt bond u guys, ok bye *side eyes at Sisi eko* #SickAtheistMind

Nekky Cynthia said...

Jesu! I am not one to comment always but biko remove yourself from that thing you call engagement. Babe please give yourself sense and run far away from that toxic relationship cos you will still continue to apologize and swear if you eventually marry that dude. If your love yourself get on your knees fast and renounce all those curses you have heaped on your head all in the name of love that fiance of yours have made himself your God.
Ahn Ahn. Intro or not engagement can be broken. #RUNFARAWAY

Nma said...

How can you swear with your life because of a man? I'm so pissed reading this whole thing you wrote here.

Xanatia said...

You guys are only dating and it is like this what of when you both marry? Did you do anything to trigger his trust issues but if not then quit,even if you did my dear just quit because he will not forgive easily and marriage without forgiveness is dead on arrival.

Rachy said...

Lol πŸ˜‚ Stelz E-slap, that got me laughing

RadioHead Steelheart said...

Dear Poster: What Peace of mind and happiness do you have with him when you are obviously working on eggshells..Why are you so desperate like this for a man who can never guarantee your tommorrow..Its like you dunno the gravity of what you swore about?? Childbirth and accident?? Wow..when will women learn and you want to marry who in November..You better end now.A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage..SOME people are purely despicable..Go for deliverance to break those utterances oo..

marriedchick said...

please drop him like a bad had habit... marrying him will be your worst mistake ever. I know it might be difficult for you due to the fact that you love, but babe love yourself more and work out on him... see as I dey vex for the matter wet no be my own.

Anonymous said...

Please end it right away, his is too TOXIC. What is the point of a relationship that does not have trust. Biko, avoid unnecessary chronicles and stories that touch and for future use, please stop swearing to prove a point, not worth the emotional stress abeg!

Iphie dearie said...

This man is gradually 'mutating' into an abusive person and you don't even see it.

How can you live this way? He will soon prevent you from even interracting with family and friends.
So this is how you will swear about everything all your life with him?

He proposed just to have control over you while the relationship lasts... Not because he will stick around for the wedding. That is why he can easily tell you to swear with your unborn kids cos he knows he ain't having them with you.
No man in his right senses will ever want you swearing with his unborn kids because of something as stupid as an unfounded suspicion.

Read about the South African girl that got killed and burnt by her boyfriend. It starts witt this obsession.

Ivy Brown said...

Why would a man make you sweat to die during child birth? Presumably his own child abi? Then on the highway too, maybe with him at the steering. The sort of things we women do in the name of Love.
If he loves you, even if he knows you are lying, he would never make you sweat to die. He would prefer to have you alive and lying than dead.
Even if you are telling the truth, better pray and revoke the evil curses you have put on yourself. Some mischievous demons may just grant you your wish even though you are not lying.

Tima said...

Why on Earth did you swear?
If he cant read it in your eyeballs that you are saying the truth, that means he is a
cheat as well.
Love is not wicked,this guy is not in love with you.
Please don't marry him.

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

Poster,they will finish u here today

Obviously bcx u r a ....
Let me not curse u bcx pple dt will do are typing already.


What da fuck!!!

U dnt love urself at all that's what I see

Kels... said...

Poster I am helping Stella send an e-slap. How can you swear with childbirth and highway? Engaged to someone you met just a year ago? How won't your mind and heart be at peace when you were praying and seeing his face? Better break everything tying you to that guy and plead to God for mercybfor swearing foolishly! How desperate can a lady be?

Anonymous said...

Where do these kind of ladies come from? Don't you love yourself? Ahn ahn, Chai.. I feel like slapping you seriously. Wtf? Which kain human being thinks like this? He asked you to swear and you did.. All for what if I may ask.. To be a Mrs? Sometimes when I see this DV cases I fault the women, you open your mouth talk say you wan marry this kind of person? Whn he graduates to beating you now cos your mother called you, you go know.. Sincerely, I wan insult you wellll, but make I just leave it here, must marry by force.. Mmttchheew, as if say men don finish for the world.. Even if you are sixty years old, this kain man is a no no.. Haba! Let's say, there is no section like this for people to advise you here na so you go marry this man.. Even if hin b Bill Gates pikin, this man no b am.. FLEE FROM ALL APPEARANCE OF EVIL.. you will only end up being a miserable person, forget introduction, beta Dan getting a divorce

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Ademide said...

Stella's good advice in ages, wish I can give you an E-hug but whats the use? Madam story owner you better Use your brain wisely, the truth is that deep down you already know your future with this man, it will continue and get worse, when you tell people your story they will ask if you didn't see the traces while dating,a man made you swore at the middle of the night and even child birth, and u think he did it because he loves you? Looks like he is benefitting something from you. Any way it's only the intervention of God that can settle it and as it is Baba God desk is full, deep down you know what to do,follow your intuition, mine don't fail me,don't know about yours, after you will cream domestic violence. That's my ventless advice. Goodluck Darling

Blesso said...

Please move on, if doesn't trust now he won't your married.

SANDA said...

This chronicles is a lil disturbing... But then go and buy goron tula... Ehn Ehn!!! The things we read on line😯

NIRVANA said...

You call this man your fiancΓ©? Someone that makes you swear with childbirth and accident? Have your parents that gave birth to you ever made you swear to such? Sorry to say this but your fiancΓ© is all shades of evil laced with low self esteem and jealousy. Does he have a small dick, is he broke or is he a one minute man that makes him think you're getting the D elsewhere? You were supposed to have left this guy before he even proposed cause you can't tell us you didn't notice all these from the very beginning but as usual you tried to create some sort of humanity for someone who obviously has none. Get ready dear it's gonna get worst when he married you. Stella save your E-slap, she's not going to leave him.

better pikin said...

My dear run run run I repeat run with your heels touching the back of your head. It is not worth it whether introduction or not. You will keep paying for a sin you didn't commit and you will be in bondage without knowing you are. I am talking from experience so I repeat Ruuuuuunnnnn.

Bunmi Kenny said...

My dear sister,pleaaaase ruuuun as fast as u can away from dat relationship.

My goodness,hw could u have sworn with childbirth?! Do you kn wat that mean? If u die in d cause of childbirth,him go remarry sharp sharp! U wan kill yrself bcus of an unforgiving man?! Hian,borrow yourself brain fa!

All the best

Kim Na Na said...

Love can sometimes be blind sha..!
The reason I hardly blame all these poster is because I have been in their situation before! Poster, d sign is so glaring now, please leave that toxic relationship asap...
Divorce rate is so high now..i pray u won't have to send another chronicle if u don't do the needful now... It is well with u..
Peace out

Anonymous said...

May God punish you with DV if u proceed with that marriage. Very silly girl!! What else do you want to see? No man should make u go through all these please!

NIRVANA said...

Marries**

Baby Oku said...

When I say so many girls do not love themselves, they won't agree? Do u even value ur life? Or u jst want to be with a man?like u must get married to him right? Sigh. Too many dumb women on this planet.

Anonymous said...

I dey tell u o, exactly Wat is happening to me.. He knows he doesn't deserve me....he will start wt his emotional violence,... So insecure, inferiority complex ...d list much abeg...wish I had left him 3years ago....

IbukunOluwa said...

Lmao
My sister haf vex

blessonbaby said...

Dear poster, please if you love yourself and want to live long,stay away from this dude. He will reveal more when you both are married. Trust issues is very important in friendship not to talk of marriage. Don't fall victim and come back complaining about your marriage.if a man make you swearing for irrelevant issues,trust me he is evil and will never change. Love only cannot hold a marriage.

IbukunOluwa said...

I don tire for them
Man man man issue everyday!

No common I'm too successful and i need people to help me spend my money kinda chronicle πŸ˜’

IbukunOluwa said...

I'm telling u

better pikin said...

Listen to this poster I am repeating myself. I wish I had a way to draw your ear to listen.

Anonymous said...

Scorpios love with everything in them, they protect their lovers and guard them jealousy. No Scorpio will wish someone they love such harm.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Oh my.... I can relate with your story.

I can narrate my experience here.

Please leave. You're not in a relationship.
Don't marry him. He will hit you one day.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Can't

Chy Ozo said...

Maybe he has big dick.

Fifi said...

Re-read Stella's counsel and pls RUN! Marrying this man will be a mistake that will ruin d rest of your life...forget intro or wedding plans, RUN and never look back.

Anonymous said...

Lol, what does this one know about zodiac sign. I'm sure you just read one bogus article about zodiac sign and you decided to come and famz with it. Park well abeg.

Blesso said...

Please MoveOn, if he doesn't trust you now he won't when your married.

Sexy Bride said...

Sweetheart I know it is not easy to quit after the introduction and everything I know you genuinely love him by your write-up, but love alone cannot make a marriage work, trust is a vital ingredient in marriage, and no marriage can stand the test of time without trust,that is why most marriage fall, please run as fast as your leg can carry you now you can not minding what people will say.please don't forget to go on your knees and ask God for forgiveness,cos childbirth is not something you swear with, that guy must be a heartless soul.

Chy Ozo said...

U dat is always talking about sperm and donating sperm to TTC women upandan? Why don't u talk about other things like investment and business idea? Remove d log from ur eye silly daddy.

Anonymous said...

Anakoheri. Mcheew. It remain for you to swear with your ancestors, amadioha, sango, et al.

Tessbaby said...

Poster was ur placenta tied 2 his dick that u had 2 swear with ur unborn children just to keep a man? Ure sick. I didnt bother reading further when i got to that part. Nonsense.

Tessbaby said...

Silly is an understatement.

Tessbaby said...

Silly is an understatement.

Anonymous said...

Let me give you my humble advice..... You said you have been dating in less than a year. Lucky you and this is what dating and courtship is meant to reveal before you totally commit to a long lasting relationship. Now from all what you have said I Will say you made some mistakes but also it's a blessing in disguise. You should always severe whatever relationship with an EX before going into another relationship cause it's always messy and it's like you are not over your EX. Now your boyfriend is a very insecure man and won't believe JESUS if he appears to him in person. Now why do you have to swear with all sorts. If your word is not good enough then there is no bond between you. He is the kind of man that will enslave and imprison you once you marry him cause he is going to suspect every action you take and every man that greets you he will accuse you of sleeping with. Introduction is not marriage but an intention to ask for your hand in marriage so you are still in a position to wait,watch and wonder on the next step. I will say postpone the wedding and slow things down. Demand for your respect now or it will get worse. STOP swearing,cussing and trying hard to prove your innocence. Relationship is about TRUST. He is intimidated and scared of the type of people you interact with and I see him as a suppressive person who won't allow his wife to be successful. Be careful before you go further in this relationship.

Tessbaby said...

If d guy like make e b python theres a limit to everything. Scorpios re naturally very jealous but are very good lovers n they go any length to protect what they love not this shit πŸ‘† there.

Classic Chic! said...

Hian!!!😱
Things we hear

keke driver said...

The funny part is that you know the truth, you know the right thing to do, but until you appear on Tv like Tonto, Mercy Aigbe and the likes, your sense will not come back... You had better run while you can.

Chy Ozo said...

Well said.

Shyla said...

Nne no vex. I no sabi cuss but today I musto do am. You are very foolish(in Bobrisky's voice) . How on earth can you swear with your life? Which kain stupid relationship is this. Desperation to answer Mrs? Well done.

Jewel lin said...

You swore with childbirth!!! Like are you even Ok?!.
Let me share my own personal story with you. It's so similar to all you've written except for the part you wrote engaged..We met at work just after I left a relationship and started dating. To say that was my worse relationship and worse time in ny life is an understatement.
He is everything like you've described yours to be.
He had(will always have) trust issues, never believed ANYTHING I told him, too jealous and insecure.
I had to reduce communication with my male friends then ,because he always thought I had something to do with them apart from being just friends.
We had disagreements which soon escalated to quarrels and I started re-thinking if I made the right choice at all.
It got so bad that even at work he stopped me talking with one male colleague of mine because he thinks this guy may one day start going beyond boundaries and looks better than him.
He warned people to stop talking to me because I was his "gf" then and I should stop entertaining male friends even at work when it just formal talks.
I became the topic at work for weeks..It got so bad that when we quarreled the day before and the next day I decide not to talk to him just so I don't cry or get upset, he would frustrate my life and called all names in the world.
I remember on two occasions he pulled my hair and pinned me hard to the wall at work because I walked off when he was shouting at me (I only did that because of the environment, as I had to bite my tongue).
Long story short he always believed I was still seeing my ex, when in reality I didn't even know if this ex still existed.
I swore many times(normal "i swear to you i didnt") whenever this came up and he in turn rolls out the name calling (doesn't miss the "prostitute" word).
I was always scared for myself just like you as I didn't know when another argument will come and this made me scared for my life as well. As i noticed when he starts he gets so angry and I can't get words to make it better..sometimes I was scared of getting hit by him due to his anger.Not to bore you, I prayed to God at the beginning of this year and told him to take this relationship from me if it's not his will. I prayed for this because I've tried breaking up before and he says these words " you think you can leave me after wasting my time and energy on you, I will frustrate you and you'll know who I am). Those words were scary and made me stay whenever I wanted out.
After that prayer, God worked out a smooth exit for me.
Before January this year he was already misbehaving, won't call unless I do, won't return messages or WhatsApp chats, would ignore for days until I call back myself.
Unknown to me thjs was God's handiwork. Before the end of January we had naturally drifted apart and he was putting up this I don't care attitude which unknown to him, I couldn't be bothered if he called or not.
I gave myself brain and spoke to a friend about it (all through the rltshp I never told someone what I was going through). I needed someone to talk to and let it all out.
I finally found peace after we went our separate ways (note I never told him I wanted a break up) it all went according to God's plan.
And today I've found that peaceful life where it's about me and making better decisions in life.
All I'm trying to say is this DON'T GO ON WITH THIS MARRAIGE.
He's everything to what I've narrated and I felt I wrote this chronicles.
If he makes you swear now, what happens when you're married? Will he beat you when he doubts you, or will he ever become more trusting after marriage..
Marriage is for life and if these signs are glaring, it's not worth going into..
I couldn't imagine being with such person as my ex before it gets to that point where he will beat or slap me.
My darling CALL OFF THIS WEDDING and PRAY TO GOD FOR HEALING.
P.S. Stella post this one ooo..

Mao Akuh said...

and I swore).

The signs are there I won't lie to you and the day he will beat you eh, he might even scatter your phone so that you won't call anyone. Common Sense doesn't cost anything and pray to God to help you take a good decision.

See eh, I just dey pity and also dey vex for Mercy Aigbe.

Anonymous said...

If you're having all these issues while still engaged, what will he do when you're married. Give yourself brain and gerraut of that shackles you've gotten yourself into. You will be alright sis.

Sharon Aminu said...

I hate stressful relationship, u are suppose to b happy, to fine joy,peace,abeg leave..
This remained of my ex..
God I tank u

Valerie said...

How old is the girl you should ask. Imagine swearing during childbirth as if childbirth alone is not a matter of life and death. Abi na highway. The girl is just silly. Abeg both of hem fit each other. We are too populated. Let those that want to use their hands and reduce the population do so out of stupidity and foolishness.

RadioHead Steelheart said...

I am so angry sef..This girl did you also make him swear that he will be shooting blanks whenever it is on top of a woman or he will die as well if he cheats..If he did not swear as well then u are a big IBERIBE...AM SO UPSET dunno why women will allow a man to strip away their self esteem and all just to answer Mrs..Just ask God for forgiveness and go for DELIVERANCE and am serious...

Anonymous said...

I bet you for even daring to swear with your life as you have been made to, this man will not miss you one bit when you finally die.

Anonymous said...

I could swear he's a scorpio. Na dem dey behave like this, very useless signπŸ‘ŽπŸ‘Ž

Ed said...

That's why he's God,he forgives and doesn't judge like humans.... Besides,they are planning towards marriage so I don't see any big deal in it....
My advice to the poster, please listen to Stella's advice...

Swiss Raphino said...

Why do ladies prefer relationship like this all the time? Dear poster so you are still with that guy with chronic trust problem, I guess you are waiting to swear ayelala and ogun before running 4-40

Henny said...

In fact i don't know what to say to you, because i am very angry. If i owned a blog and you send me this type of story , i will send it back and block you forever.With one mouth , you said you prayed and you have peace of mind that he was the right person for you,with the same mouth you started spewning thrash that he doesn't trust you and he made you swear all manner of swear and you did. When they advise you young girls to wait to be mature enough to do the right thing , you will say no, that you are above 18 years. Even wiith the story that is thrending now about Mercy Aigbe, you still refuse to learn, if you get married to this guy, he will do the same thing to you, even worse.It is because of people like you that men doesn't have regard for mature ladies.Desperation in high places. Your mates are thinking of owing companies, building careers, expanding in business and affecting lives positively , you are here crying over a man.

Ed said...

I really don't understand you ladies sometimes ...even wen the handwriting is boldly written on the wall,you are still asking questions.... And to top it all, yu swore......Is d relationship really worth that kinda swear?

Push up said...

I can't advice you cause I used to be like that before I got married. Thank God I married someone who understands my person, he knows I get skoin skoin from time to time hahahaha

olaedo said...

Poster if you see how angry I am with you now eh, you need to be slapped back to reality.
How dare you swear with childbirth because of an animal that calls himself a man?
You are on the verge of destroying yourself because you want to answer Mrs,you deserve better.

Free yourself from this torture and slavery.

MrsB said...

Someone makes you swear you'd you'd in childbirth, birthing his own child oh and youre here asking questions????
Are you people normal!????

Anonymous said...

So he made u swear with childbirth? My gahd!
No offence oo but i think u a stupid and desperate 'chigago'.
Tomorow he will ask you to swear with ur childrens life n u will stupidly do.
Dem never born the man wen go try am with me... Thats y some men need beatings from us sometimes to let them know there are tigresses n there are women.
I had an ex that told me to my face that my father (baba mi) is stupid. Heheheheheh, i beat him that day with slippers, locked him inside his room with his key, threw the key in the bush and went home. There was no spare key bkos i took his n the one he gave me initially and threw all away. Landlord called me, his mum called i didnt pick. Next day i left the state. How can u insult my dad when av not even said ha ho?... ........

Anonymous said...

Did i read this to the end? the answer is no cos i stopped where you said "you've had to swear in the middle of the night" This script right here is my story.

Hmmmm i don't know why we can't see with everything happening around us, is it a do or die marriage?

Better let this man be, no trust now never will be all you'll get will be beatings, please allow him to go and marry someone else.

I had to let my ex be and allowed him marry someone else in a space of 3months he had engaged someone else, meanwhile i dated him almost 10years and didn't get an aboki ring from him.

DO NOT MARRY THIS GUY COS IT WILL END IN DISASTER. USE YOUR HEAD.
YOU LIFE IS MORE PRECIOUS THAN THIS.

Henny said...

In fact i don't know what to say to you, because i am very angry. If i owned a blog and you send me this type of story , i will send it back and block you forever.With one mouth , you said you prayed and you have peace of mind that he was the right person for you,with the same mouth you started spewning thrash that he doesn't trust you and he made you swear all manner of swear and you did. When they advise you young girls to wait to be mature enough to do the right thing , you will say no, that you are above 18 years. Even wiith the story that is thrending now about Mercy Aigbe, you still refuse to learn, if you get married to this guy, he will do the same thing to you, even worse.It is because of people like you that men doesn't have regard for mature ladies.Desperation in high places. Your mates are thinking of owing companies, building careers, expanding in business and affecting lives positively , you are here crying over a man.

Tilly said...

Living in bondage.

Why do we find it hard to see the handwriting on the wall? Are u waiting for a witch with a magic ball to tell you that he is bad market. You dont have peace of mind with him. You had to swear that you would die giving birth or on the highway? What kind of person are you? Let your yes be yes and ypur nay be nay!!! Swearing naked and all that is belittling yourself before him. If he does not trust you then be gone!! You dont need that kind of insecurity.
If you have to walk on thin ice or keep trying hard to make it work, you are in the wrong place.

Kim Na Na said...

*Never...
See error ooo
I reject it ijn

Anonymous said...

Being able to trust your partner, is one of the most important part of a relationship, when absent, the relationship is dangerously compromised and can be termed 'toxic'. Two things may be responsible: either he does not really know you, because trust is based on track record, or he has trust issues. If it is the first, then his professed love for you is a pie in the sky. If it is the second, it might be as a result of any of these three:
i. He has a low propensity to trust - based on factors like personality, experiences, beliefs and values, culture, etc.
ii. Unrealistic expectations - it is so far removed from reality that at your best, you still can't measure up to his expectations.
iii. Past hurts - results in dysfunctional form of self protection.
Your guy sure falls into at least, one of these three. His problem is in him, not you, ie, assuming your story is true. He will have same problem with another lady. It is difficult to cope with such a person, you can be miserable to a point of suicide. If I were you, I will quit and suffer the consequential pain and be healed than to suffer all my life with him. Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Relationship/Marriage Counsellor

Anonymous said...

Look girl this will be a big mistake if u consider marrying him,I know how they operate these guys can beg u to forgive them with their last breath and still go back to their manipulative way,you have to decide you don't want this man in your life else you will regret being with him.

Sexy Asa said...

Na wa.Babe just give yourself brain for once.Do you know what child birth feels like,or do you know what it feels like to die on highway?
You are very desperate that's why the guy is treating you this way.
No man is worth all this your swear,God forbid if u die tomorrow,you are replaceable.
Receive sense Pls .

Anonymous said...

Nne ehh.. you need to work on your self esteem. Leave that guy. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. He doesn't even love you enough and he dis trusts you too. Believe he will graduate into hitting you one day if you go on. Leave and start a fresh. He's not your husband and God won't give you somebody that degrades you like this. He doesn't derseve you one bit. Just take a long walk away from him to God.. let God heal you and make you understand you derseve more than that guy. God bless you dear. Bv Amara

Greatlady. said...

Eed the disturberπŸ˜’πŸ˜’

Greatlady. said...

Lmao...stella Don vex.
Poster, come and kneel down here, let me pray for you so you receive sense.
Are you that naive? Not even naive sef, I mean are you that (searching for right word) ?
I can't even say what I have in mind sef, this one weak me

Ed said...

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Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Unforgiving? Haha. Honey He's not unforgiving. He's a controlling manipulative, selfish, low self esteem, cheating, slimy, demanding, suspicious creature and HE WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE A LIVING HELL! Ask old BVs when I complained about my ex who threw my phone from how many floors at a hotel in Dubai. Same thing of accusing me of sleeping with every guy I talk to. They will make your life centered around them and before you know it you won't even have friends. I didn't even let it get to this point of yours. No be person tell me to pick race. You will sign up for a life of doom, unhappiness and your self esteem will be reduced to shreds. Now that you've identified this rubbish attitude pack up and RUN. As for me, the moment we got back to Nigeria that was the end. I don't have time to teach a grown man common sense. See how sad you're feeling? Haha. You're gonna feel it 247, just go ahead with the wedding and see. There's a pool of better guys out there and don't you dare feel, think or imagine that you're the one who's gonna fix him or its your cross to carry. Drop that baggage and walk free.

And get ready, because once you break up he will start accusing you of cheating with one of the guys, that you're not to be trusted, bla bla. He will bombard you with texts and/or emails. So please block his number and his email from your box. If he's desperate he will get another SIM card and keep getting more until he lets out his sorrows. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Tell your gateman not to let him near you. Worst case you run to police and file a case.

Hey.... I'm just painting worst case scenarios to you. So don't fret. Breathe in breathe out and DROP THAT GUY!!

Fan Emmanuel said...

I tell you, this kind guy no dey even stay faithful. Poster my advice to you is out of experience, this guy is a BAAAAD news!

Fan Emmanuel said...

Ana akogheri!

Queen Ada said...

poster is this guy's name prince? coz this is an apt description of a prince i used to know.. if it is him..pls run...

Queen Ada said...

poster is this guy's name prince? coz this is an apt description of a prince i used to know.. if it is him..pls run...

Anonymous said...

Jeez Stella before I saw your reply I was about to send her an e-knock to open her brain. Poster nor vex but you be fool? I want make you wake up because you dey sleep. So because of a man you were getting naked and swearing upandan and y'all ain't even married yet? Yikes! I am sure you weren't dropped on ya head when you were born. Biko sister I am being hard on you so you can quickly snap out of this foolery you call being engaged and run with your Nike's so fast that your heels hit the back of your head...chai! I don tire...oya poster abeg do wetin you wan do. Mtcheew

Anonymous said...

The man doesn't sound like he is sound upstairs... poster die there nau, mtcheew, why bother sending the chronicle? Because you sound like you have already sealed your fate with this man. Hope your foolishness has not led you into a blood covenant? Afi I must marry, mtcheew. And you said you had other toasters? Adontbelieve you.

Anonymous said...

Many​ BVs only advised her to walk away without talking about the factors that triggered the lack of trust and insecurity in a relationship that was once joyful
My dear you will need to hold on before you proceed with the wedding, trust really matters as it is he doesn't trust you anymore, even after swearing with such big life matter. But let me tell you your fault, "what's the play of Lion and dog" why still keeping up with your ex, the way you said sounds like the contact is regularl and you still tell him personal things about you. Imagine your guy ex still hang out with him will you feel secure? Forget the fact you asked him and he said no problem he just do the wanna be a jerk. For the other guy at work ladies need to know there man and respect there relationship, when you already have serious relationship i think there should be limit to how cordial you relate with guys, men too have jealousy​ intact more than women. Imagine you are chatting with a guy till around 11pm and you expect your guy not to think otherwise, or you visit the guy weekends he takes you out ,he is on your favourite list on call log contact, immediately you finish dressing up you send him your selfy direct, you end chat with him with love you dear, sweet dreams (fine there is nothing between you guys it's 21 century but remember everyone get en level of jealousness). Let's call a spade a spade even if it's you that noticed a lady clinching your guy like that you won't take it easy.... Respect your relationship, you can't relate with guys the way you do when you're single or on bf/gf level. I'm not saying you shouldn't have male friends but let there be boundaries.

Anonymous said...

This poster, what I am seeing in you is that you have a proclivity for abusive guys. Your type will not appreciate good guys. But hear me good, you better change yourself by all means. Go see a shrink or something. Because I am telling you, it is also your type that ends up six feet under enduring in abusive marriages. You need to get emotional healthy and recognise sick guys and stay far away from them.

Anonymous said...

Kikikikikikiki the guy must be very good in bed ooo? Because ayam not understanding the rove ooo...

Anonymous said...

Hello dear poster, I am a living witness to your predicament, the same way that was how my own started, and now I am a victim, he kept on begging that he will kill himself if I leave him , that he can not leave without me, I married him out of sympathy believing he will trust me after being married and lived for sometimes , but little did I know the marriage does not guarantee trust or love, I got in without him trusting me because I am very pretty and tall with lovely curves, I don't know if it was his obsession that laid him to convince the doctor that examined our genotype before weeding and he lied that we were compactable to live together as hubby and wife, now I have 3 Anemic children, he got himself into trouble in his place of work and ran away leaving me with those three sick children. who will marry me with 3 sick children if not by God's divine intervention we are living.

My dear take a very lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng bow from the mirage you call relationship and for Christ sake don't ever in your life swear to convince any man for your innocence, if you say yes or No the person refused it go your way. somebody somewhere a better person for that matter will marry, love, cherish and worship the step you match on the ground ok? step up your dignity. My run-away hubby has caused so much set back for me , but I kept telling God to heal my children to vindicate my commitment to the union for this 10/11 years.

Please dont go in break out in good tone not quarrel, just let him know you cannot continue to leave in fear to make him happy or to make him trust you. let him go get the angel from there heavenly village. All the best and you adhere to BV'S advise/suggestions.

Anonymous said...

Hello dear poster, I am a living witness to your predicament, the same way that was how my own started, and now I am a victim, he kept on begging that he will kill himself if I leave him , that he can not leave without me, I married him out of sympathy believing he will trust me after being married and lived for sometimes , but little did I know the marriage does not guarantee trust or love, I got in without him trusting me because I am very pretty and tall with lovely curves, I don't know if it was his obsession that laid him to convince the doctor that examined our genotype before weeding and he lied that we were compactable to live together as hubby and wife, now I have 3 Anemic children, he got himself into trouble in his place of work and ran away leaving me with those three sick children. who will marry me with 3 sick children if not by God's divine intervention we are living.

My dear take a very lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng bow from the mirage you call relationship and for Christ sake don't ever in your life swear to convince any man for your innocence, if you say yes or No the person refused it go your way. somebody somewhere a better person for that matter will marry, love, cherish and worship the step you match on the ground ok? step up your dignity. My run-away hubby has caused so much set back for me , but I kept telling God to heal my children to vindicate my commitment to the union for this 10/11 years.

Please dont go in break out in good tone not quarrel, just let him know you cannot continue to leave in fear to make him happy or to make him trust you. let him go get the angel from there heavenly village. All the best and you adhere to BV'S advise/suggestions.

Anonymous said...

No mind am. Na from clap dem go enter dance. Mtcheew

Anonymous said...

They will say they have long been blog visitors, yet still repeating the same thing and sending in the same chronicle in different forms. Mtcheew

Joy Okanje said...

E- slap I guess you should get, what is wrong with u, u apologize and beg for something u didn't while courting only in marriage u will definitely appease the gods . and u swear by childbirth? Tufiakwa GI desperado

Anonymous said...

And you call yourself sexy daddy, why not investment daddy? Ayam jus asking ooo, nor vex, btw haf you wanked for your sperm bank today?

Anonymous said...

Oya poster read this well.

Anonymous said...

Exactly!

Anonymous said...

This yeye chronicle jus make me vex today, mtcheew...

Anonymous said...

Atheist you know Bible well well, you dey always refer to am... hehehehehe

Anonymous said...

He is...na small small dem dey show demself until you enter finish...na there the real gbege go start.

Excel said...

Please run for ur dear life. Don't make d mistake of getting married to d guy and go for series of deliverance to avert all d curses u placed on yourself cos of Penis.

Linda peters said...

Babe, without mincing words u be ode! That he asked u to swear with child birth and u did! Come, are u that desperate to be with this man abi u dont have self esteem? Receive deliverance now and be free from all those curses u have laid upon yourself. Run as fast as your legs can carry u biko. Hahahah! Deris God o! Secondly when u find another man dont give him room to suspect u. All that your ex stuff is nonses just stop contacting them if u dont want them again, tell them their calls are not healthy for your new relationship.

Anonymous said...

@queen..I'm sure if you married a Scorpio ur life won't be in the kind of mess it is right now..sleeping around with every dick and Harry..u ain't happy I your marriage..be truthful to yourself..it hoozes from the advice u dish out..
Ewu!!!

Fidelis said...

My name sake..Olotu

Immagold said...

Poster,receive sense

Joy Anyanwu said...

Excellent!!!

Joy Anyanwu said...

Excellent!!!

temitope bunmi said...

domestic violence alert babe how do u think the beating start? it starts when a man start feeling insecure and jealous. he loves you 20% while you love 100% you better borrow urself brain now and walk away why are u so desperate to settle for these even if you are a Gwen isn't it better to be patient and have d best ... trust me if you marry that guy u are doom don't say we didn't warn you

Anonymous said...

You are delusional, you are pathetic. Come closer let me wooze u one clean slap to reset ur dysfunctional brain. Nonsense & ingredient.

Ed said...

Gggggrereeeeaaaattttlllllaaaddddyyyyy😘😘😘😘😘😡...Wetin I do you?

Chummy cho cho said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
OMG I laughed so hard at this your comment Anonymous.

Thanks for making me laugh. Its been a messed up day, but I was able to laugh, finally. Lol

Anonymous said...

Exactly! Scorpios tend to be manipulative. All this fear he's putting in you is so that u wnt have mouth to talk when he is chasing women. This is why I Love Linda sometimes, you can read between lines.

Anonymous said...

You never find husband o, tell God to remove the satanic covering over your eyes.

ukwu dimond said...

That guy does not live you, you better take a break and rethink, the red flag are up, do not ignore it, he will not change after wedding night. If a person cannot trust you then there is no love, why do you want to kill yourself over one prick? Life is too sweet to die over a man.

Anonymous said...

This one na fool next biko

Anonymous said...

Damn good reason I dislike chikio

Anonymous said...

I guess all these is because you are enjoying the sez all this small girls following what they are not supposed to know if you were my junior sis I will beat you and leave mark

FRUITILICIOUS said...

I hardly comment on chronicles but! hmmmmm
Hey dear, you need to do away with any form of relationship for now and focus on God and yourself!
Know your worth darling, you need to rediscover yourself!
Don't let no man determine how happy you are!
You deserve better! Be happy with or without a man!
Dump his ass fast and look ahead to better days.
God's got you, stay strong.

Anonymous said...

The girl brain don knock na. Na mumu dey worry, and she is still thinking marriage. After marriage another chronicle, Madam poster suit yourself, but thunder must surely strike you if you come back here with another chronicle after getting married to him. Since na swearing things una dey do, me don swear my own for you. The hand writing is boldly written on the wall,but you've decided to be blind because you wan bear Mrs. Kontinu!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing, though I am not the poster.

Anonymous said...

How can you swear with childbirth? cos of a human like you? you disgust me!

Miss Wealth said...

Poster, it's like the witches in your village have join hands in agreement to destroy your life, na shit yansh dem use siddon for your brain. That's why you can't reason well, because this your chronicle hasn't depicted any good thing about this fiance of yours, but then you still want to go ahead and marry him. I won't talk about all your swearing and all because there is no need to, since na Mrs you wan bear, the thunder that will strike you into pieces if you come back here with another chronicle after marriage to this useless good for nothing mistake of a manipulative bastard is already in motion. If you like, get wisdom from the comments. I don talk my own finish.

yasmeen s said...

Poster WHY?

DaSuspiciousJoe said...

From the way you write, it is evident you are learned and have good education but it seems you only passed thru sch and passing thru life witout letting sch pass thru u not letting life teach u a lesson... so wit all this it is only one thing i see which is that you actually LOST your VIRGINITY to this guy which you have personally sworn to stay wit whoeva tasted it first.. but who are we to blame you if not to tel u to open your eyes and take it as one of those life mistakes.. gather ur self esteem and move on to pursue ur career and a beta life and who told u all guys wana marry a virgin...#OpenYourBrain

Anonymous said...

poster,if you love yourself, you better free yourself from that bondage you're about putting urself in the name of marriage, if not, "Had I known" will be too late for you. The handwriting is already on the wall and you're too blindfolded to see. It's a pity.

Anonymous said...

Dear Poster,

this is my first time to comment on this platform and all i can say to you is to run from the relationship.

my dear if a man doesnt trust you and you marry him, he will even suspect the food you are giving to him . so my candid advice is. pray to God to give you your own man that you will be happy with.

Anonymous said...

There was nothing joyful from the get-go. Poster has no self esteem, swearing stupidly for one useless man.
This is a typical case of domestic violence about to happen. Poster, receive sense!

Anonymous said...

you know what. you never loved him. you only used him. he outgrew it. move on dear.

Anonymous said...

and no curses will not work. he is a child of God. face you future. he is not in it. be productive. don't die for him.

Anonymous said...

don't engage somebody that don't love you. it is not by force. love yourself enough not to want to do Anything to hang unto a Man. Wish him well and move on. wish his future well and move on. only then will you find anything close to fulfillment. if someone is mentally not with you?? hanging on to them makes you look more than desperate. just saying 😊

Anonymous said...

don't engage somebody that don't love you. it is not by force. love yourself enough not to want to do Anything to hang unto a Man. Wish him well and move on. wish his future well and move on. only then will you find anything close to fulfillment. if someone is mentally not with you anymore?? hanging on to them makes you look more than desperate. just saying.

Anonymous said...

You don't know God. if not you would pray genuinely and ask for directions for your life and destiny.. how did you start out. on what foundation
Christ or sex? manipulation??? if you manipulate a guy to stay with you no matter how good your jazz is. it will one day wear off .and everyone you made look bad will once again look good to him. cheers and God bless.

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