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Monday, 26 June 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

Hmmm.....




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
FEARS!


Hi Stellz, pls kindly post this for answers and advice from fellow bvs. Hide my Id pls. 

I am a 26yr old lady and not married. I want to say I have never been pregnant before in my life even in my careless moments. I know this is not a proud thing to say owing to the fact that I am still single.


The reason for my fears is that my fiance thought about it,I guess because he called me one day and asked me "dear,if you want to get pregnant, what do u do?" I was shocked to my bone. I told him nothing, that it's God who gives children. We are planning our wedding but suddenly he begins to drag his feet and isn't so keen about the preparations anymore. Jesus, Stellz....I have never been pregnant before, talk more of abortions.


Recently, I went to the hospital for check up, the doctor said I have infection, so he placed me on strong antibiotics,I related it to my fiancé and he treated himself too. 

Has anyone experienced this? 

Will this cause delay in conception for me in marriage?

 I am becoming so uncomfortable, especially with my fiancé s attitude towards the wedding preparations. 

Any suggestions for me from fellow bvs?

 Should I be worried? 
So many questions on 
my mind

68 comments:

LOLO IDEATO said...

Hmmmmmmmm. It is better you both are ready mentally to carry whatever comes in the marriage than a man to burden you with his immature questions

Is he a sucking baby? What kind of stupid question is that

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Poster,
Go and settle your marine husband and friends!...
It's good you started early!!...
I will be worried if I'm in your shoes...
Sorry to say but you are an ogbanje!!...

Anonymous said...

#1 twale

peace maker said...

Hmmmmm!!! How did you get the infection ie std ? And how long did it stay in ur body b4 treatment?

SWEETIE said...

Relax you are fertile

Anonymous said...

Sex b4 marriage and you are worried. Kontinuu and be going upandan 4 shild instead of trusting Baba God. I C U

peace maker said...

I don't know why you are hiding the nature of the infection ie std, it will help in giving u a meaningful input.

GALORE said...

Doctors, over to you


Help this lady


What I have to say is that, Jesus loves you



@Galore

Gold Taken said...

Your concern should be if you will be happy an fulfilled with him not whether you will get pregnant or w not because certainly you will get pregnant.

Anonymous said...

Dear poster,am 29 years and never been pregnant mistakenly. I was worried, I confided in my aunt, they recomended clomid and all and I never took any drugs, my fiance was worried, I was surprised when I missed my period. Infact he was the one that noticed I was running temperature. Am due next month. The pregnancy wasn't planned for but God is faithful.

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Dear Poster: Why not go with your fiance to the hospital and do a comprehensive fertility profile to show you are ok except there are other information you have not told us or dont want to share..Does he want you to be pregnant before you guys get married?? Just have a heart-to-heart discussion with him and know where you stand..

Fan Emmanuel said...

My sister you should not be worried, children are gift from God. There are some people who has been pregnant before but at some point they start ttcing, children comes when they wish to come.

Btw my darling Sharon I saw your question the other day weather my baby has arrived, you better stop asking cos by the time this baby will come ehn, you must be busy with your early morning sickness. In fact I can't wait to laugh at you cos I trust you will gist us. All the best to you darling!

agbo ruth said...

My dear u are not barren...it's God dat gives children...My Aunty in ph has been ttcing 4 15years now but me I'm a single lady i have done ********* twice...Sometyms i feel lyk lending her my womb so dat she can bear as many children as she want but it's not possible...so u see my dear lyk i said earlier is God dat gives children..Go ahead wit ur wedding...God will bless wit kids at d appointed tym..Don't be afraid..

Blossom said...

Since you are not on any contraceptives and you haven't conceived before,its good you run tests to know what's up with you.

Anonymous said...

You are already worried, it is always better to be chaste for marriage, peace of mind

Greatlady. said...

This your chronicle has parallel K legs.
You have never been pregnant while you were single even in ur careless moment. Are you supposed to be pregnant in ur single days?
You are having fears of not getting pregnant. Do u have any medical complication which you were told it will be difficult to get pregnant.
You are having infection, placed on treatment and you are asking BVs if it would affect your conception. Are you a baby? As in you are 26,but sound 15 years.

Paragraph 3; you haven't said whats wrong with you. How do you want anyone to advise you when u are unsure of your problem. When you confirm your problem, come back for advice.

Highness Gwen said...

Lolxxc

Chike TEFLON said...

In other words you people are trying to overtake God by testing your fertility before marriage?

What if you get pregnant before marriage and miscarry it after marriage and never get pregnant again? God forbid...

Treat yourself very well and sit your man down and talk sense into him..

Child is a gift of God and HE gives it at his own time...

Anonymous said...

Thus one is really not too strong. It's unfortunate that it was @ this sensitive period (wedding preparation) that an infection was noticed. Bcos there has never been conception, bcos hubby is desperate for a child, nd d infection wahala it calls for fear sha. Now my question is - did the doctor comment on ur chances of conception? Cause that shud encourage hubby. Otherwise am afraid. Be cos the infection wud leave him wondering about the genuine of ur reproductive one or two. Just try and get doctors certification about ur repro health.

Cookie said...

Lmaooooooooooooo

I'm Sorry but this is soooooooooo funny!!

Queen, you know how to crack someone up abeg!!

Cecilia Solomon said...

Am sure you are on a strong substance today . Maybe the hang over still dey worry you . What kind of comment is this ?

LOLO IDEATO said...

See how you disgraced yourself with your ID! Bvs never forget

Anonymous said...

Your fiance is dragging feet now because you have transferred your worries and anxiety to him. And he's seriously bothered so he asks the question- what will it take to get you pregnant? Its not a tap you can turn on and off. I married as a virgin- I had never had sex before. And it still took a few years before my first baby came. So its not what you do or don't do.It is when God decides who He wants to create next...So trust in God. And your fiancé!! Stop infecting him with your fears and worry!!!

Justyswt said...

Poster, just go and see a gynaecologist. If anything is wrong with u, it will be treated.

Fan Emmanuel said...

Very true sha

But bro Chike why you come dey fear MMM? You be woman wey dey fear anyhow?? Abeg take a risk and join the millionaires

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' 😂😂😂 said...

It is a good thing to do all medical checks prior To the wedding. They also advise that during marriage counselling. So everyone knows what theyre going (or not going) into and how to channel prayers.

Minnie Rexpect said...

Choi. You people have really overused this God is faithful. Do you continue in sin that grace may abound? God forbid! Na bible talk am.
Stop encouraging sexual immorality with your comment. What works for you might not work for the poster.
Poster you are still young and not married. If you were chaste, such things won't bother you. Close your legs, pretend to be a mermaid and wait till marriage. The right environment is key.

Chike TEFLON said...

Lol

Anonymous gone wrong

Fan Emmanuel said...

Hahahaha @Ideato so someone can not make confession in peace? You won't make a good Rev.ooo

Chike TEFLON said...

Lol

Fan Emmanuel Nwa oma... No be MMM make Dangote richest man in Africa.

Anonymous said...

Even people with a good medical history do experince delay in conception.Tell him at the right time babies will come and if he is not comfortable leave.Marriage is too long a journey to be entered with doubts and fear. I have an irregular menstrual flow sometimes it stays as long as 4months before coming,i was also raped in a shrine and bled(with thick blood cloths) i have child now even though........

Sharon Aminu said...

Lols
Amen ijn
Save delivery dear

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' 😂😂😂 said...

Talking from experience, they're coming for you.... You might want to change your ID before you comment again.

Anonymous said...

Poster put your mind at rest,you will conceive when you get married. I am a living testimony, I never got pregnant until I got married and I never had an abortion.

Anonymous said...

Don't bother, this is my story but I got pregnant the first month of my wedding.

Anonymous said...

I don't think you are telling us the real story and that's why your story sounds a little funny. You have a past and like every human we get worried about some of the bad things we have done. But that's conscience for you.
Now my main issue is the STD thing. You didn't say how you got it but your boyfriend too was not shocked when you told him about it. Now that is a major issue. I suspect your boyfriend has a history of STDs and that's why he feels worried and ask you that question. And the fact that the two of you didn't make an issue out of it gives me the shock. I guess a doctor has raised it with your boyfriend and he is scared of not being able to father a child and that's why he is delaying things. He would rather have you pregnant before tying the knot. Again you seem not to be faithful cause a faithful woman will raise hell for his man if she discovers she has STD. You just brushed it off like a slight headache.
So I strongly advice you get treated by the same doctor and both do a fertility test after the successful treatment. Then try getting pregnant.
My reason is if you don't then the two of you might be on the edge when trying for a baby and already your boyfriend is already raising the issue. So sit and talk to him about his concerns,your STD status,your treatment,cure and if he is wants you to get pregnant before tying the knot. Then if it does not work after a given period then the two of you can go your separate ways.

If you rush into marriage you will rush out of it. At 26 I feel you still have a year or two to get it right.

#come back and thank me later.

sholetoga said...

Poster......stop working yourself up, go and see your Doctor. Worrying yourself at this stage doesn't worth anything .treat yourself and put your faith in God.
Chike is right, there are people that got pregnant before wedding and had miscarriage after the marriage ceremony. So our journey is all in the hands of God.....Stay positive dear

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Que sera, sera.....Whatever will be, will be*

Sexy Asa said...

Lolz.just passing

Push up said...

What are you talking about, there are plenty reasons why one doesn't get pregnant, he can't just put it all on you, plus you haven't lived in the same house, what if you have only been having sex during your safe period, so what are you saying, no hospital would take you serious as couples are expected to live in a house for atleast a year. My dear he should also check himself, cus a friends hubby was saying the same thing when they were dating but later found out in marriage he had low sperm count, which was fixed and they now have a baby. He should wed you first before thinking or children, afterall God created it in that order

sholetoga said...

Poster.......I would recommend that you start using this drug....Bromergon 2.5mg after marriage. What it does is to regularise your menstrual cycle if it's not regular and ensure your ovulation is regular too. Then believe me pregnancy is sure but use it after marriage. You can also mention it to your doctor

Anonymous said...

Queen sometimes i know say your head can knack pigeon on itself but today i agree with you.

Anonymous said...

Most of you making noiseand chastising others hete are even illegitimate children. Some of you, your mothers dont even know who impregnated them.

Anonymous said...

God will hv mercy on whom he chooses. Its possible God wants you to get married properly before having babies. And remember those that condemn you here are worst than you will ever be.

MERCY E. U said...

Hmm, good step u have taken by going to the hospital. God i must testiy

'Tide said...

I don't know if this would help.
I was in the same situation,25,never been pregnant even in my careless moments.I got worried,thought I had endometriosis because I always have the most painful period,I usually take "felvin"to ease the pain...in fact I went to the hospital,it was discovered I had cyst...but the cyst wasn't the problem cos it was harmless.
I decided to stop taking the felvin drug just to see what will happen.So for two months,3days each,I suffered unimaginable period pains.Month 3,I got pregnant.(I don't know o,I'm just saying this is how I solved my problem).

'Tide said...

And also on keeping up with the kardashian,Khloe once went for check up to find out why she never gets pregnant.The doctor told her, her ovaries were like that of an 80 yrs old I think but in the most recent episodes she was told to lay of contraceptives.She did and went back for check up and her ovaries are back to a 31 yrs old.

Hadey Halaba said...

You don't have problem joor

Rappakatakata said...

Don't you think you're been frugal with vital information in this your Chronicle?

Justyswt said...

Can't someone confess in peace again? Abeg u guys shld leave her o. She doesn't want to be anonymous. Lol

Stella Igbokei said...

Queen u didn't recommend prayer and fasting. Poster your children will come when the time is right

Anonymous said...

All through my years of dating I never got pregnant.was worried too tho, met my hubby when I was 26 we dated for 1 year then I got pregnant and after that the kids started coming so I think you should try another relationship because was with my ex for 4 yrs no show and he even insulted me saying he's dating a fellow man but after 1 yr of meeting my husband i took in without any medications or what do ever so i think sometimes if your blood does not really match with your partner it makes it difficult to get pregnant

Anonymous said...

The problem you have is not with conception, but with the man-child camouflaging as a husband that you have.

My two kobo said...

I almost thought this was my sister till i read the full story.This is the exact same thing that happened with my junior sister.in fact her then fiance asked her to get pregnant cuz all the while they were together she NEVER ever took in. She also went to the hospital,they treated the infection she had,controlled her prolactin level etc.long story for another day. When the guy realized this he called off the wedding et al. She is now married though and just gave birth a month ago...
so many things can cause you not taking in but I'd advice you treat whatever infection you notice, track your ovulation,check your prolactin level and hormones/HCG ... you don't necessarily have a problem but its better to be safe than sorry.Good luck

SouljaGal*** said...

That your ex is mad, he hasn't married you and all that insult? you should have insulted him back nah saying , you are dating your fellow woman who can't get u pregnant. Rubbish

SouljaGal*** said...

This poster should be more concerned that, they are not married yet and he's asking what to do to get pregnant and he doesn't even love you. A man that luvs you will only be concerned about how to wife you properly first for now and children will come when God says so, people ttcing for years nko? i pity u if u marry this man and the problem is yours, you will be the one seeking for solutions while he will be trying his luck else where.

GALORE said...

Lol

This cracked me up big time

"Someone can not confess IN peace again? "



I love my @BVNs



@Galore

Wild Rose said...

Dear poster, has it ever crossed your mind that your bf might be the one with the problem. What if his spermatozoa is not meeting the standard in terms of nos, motility and morphology? Don't let him stress you unnecessarily. He might be the "causer" of you not getting pregnant.
I wish men and women can go for fertility checks just before they get married to avoid all these unnecessary heartaches.

Anonymous said...

James the peace maker,welcome back.We missed you.

steel said...

Nawa ooo
People can't just get their shit straight

ukwu dimond said...

Delay in conception is not what one can say or tell how it can happen, some people have been pregnant when they were single but when they get married they have delay in conception.
God is the givers of children, if you both feel you want to get pregnant before you both get married is best you relax for now and take proper care of yourself before getting married.

Person Peekeen said...

Hmmmmm#Wonderment...To confess in "PEACE" sef dey?
#SDK and BV's
Lol

Anonymous said...

@Minnie Rexpect. Very well said.

Anonymous said...

If your aunty has the money for surrogacynu can offer to be a surrogate mum for her.its very possible...

Anonymous said...

Are you for real, bromergon lowers Prolactin level and in your illiterate mind, you think it's just a drug that regularize menstrual cycle? As for you poster, keep fornicating but where is your mother in all of these? Who raises these kind of girls???

ChiamakaTheGreat said...

So many questions in your mind and you did not pour them to the doctor?

Go back to the doctor. Atleast you now have their medical card that permits you to see him at will.

Anonymous said...

@ Minnie respect,my introduction and court wedding was done before I knew I was pregnant and also coming into a family that my mother inlaw always insists the wives get pregnant before the son will marry them. She never discussed that with me and have never been pregant.so when I said God is faithful, I knew why I said that.my eldest sis is 38, she is ttc, she always get pregnant and have miscarriage but imagine me that has never been pregnant.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 08:29.will you keep quiet abt "whr is ur mother in all of these". You hypocrite. Is her mum sup posed to regulate her having sex or what.why are u sounding dumb.she's an adult.d only person she answers to is God.now go fuck yourself.

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