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Tuesday, June 27, 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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Abroad husband


My story goes..... I have been married for 10 years( this is my 10th year) but I have never lived with my husband for straight 2 months consecutively.

I dated him fully while in school, he was three levels ahead of me in school.when he graduated, we agreed he should get his masters in Europe, while I finish mine.

After I graduated and served, he proposed and he came back and we got married. Matters arising, he didn't make it to London but was in Germany and didn't get his masters but was hustling in Germany. And wasn't ready to come back to Nigeria, we made several effort to live together in Germany but each time the German embassy denied me visa for different reasons and at different times with my children as my family increased till I had four children.


Now we are basically married strangers, I'm crazily lonely and my children has never lived with their father, I carry the preggy alone till delivery and nurse alone till they are up till 9 months old before he comes home again. He comes in once in two years but now comes in once a year.


Sexual starvation is something else, soooo lonely it cracks me up. All the men see me as prey , so I stay well out of their way. He provides for myself and kids financially but zero contribution emotionally or psychologically,in fact he is just a yearly visitor to us., he never understands what we are going thru and never In touch with our experiences.


My family are unhappy about it and his family are too, but he can't come back and be unemployed here in Nigeria, he complains too of the hardship on him and loneliness too and how unfair the situation has been to us. We are soo frustrated with the situation that we almost hate each other now, angry words and attitudes.


I used to live in owerri but had to relocate to Lagos cos poeple were laughing at my situation and making jest of our marriage. I stopped working cos I had to be the father and mother of my kids and they are to tender to leave on their own. ( leave home early to work and come back late, with no parent on standby)I started a business , then became preggy and had to close shop till I put to bed and nursed my baby to 1 year.


I became hypertensive cos I am so pressured and no outlet for it, . I wished I could emerse myself in work to forget my loneliness and sexual starvation but can't seem to get the flexible 9 to 5 jobs. 

I am one of those kind of ladies that can only bond with guys , never quite understands what ladies are talking about but because I don't want anyone to get the wrong impression about me or give the guys access to me as per status, I get to keep to myself. Also I'm very sensitive to scorn or mockery.


I don tire to write....Summary of all........


I don't believe in divorce at all, I'm stranded in this marriage and bad situation.my hubby has turned into a bitter individual, harsh and volatile and he keeps telling me I must be keeping a boyfriend in Nigeria cos he can't believe anyone can be celibate for a year or more.......

NB. He lives alone. Not living with a woman( but I know he definitely does his thing)


Abeg make una talk for my matter.


106 comments:

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    1. I don't even understand while women say, they are sex starved

      Sex starved bawo?

      When you have a vibrator or a big DILDO to work with


      Better still, we have ladies now in the university that rather do married women and take their cash than sleep with broke ass campus guy

      Madam.. .you can enjoy jarre

      The sky is your starting point


      Make yourself happy


      Since you have been sex starved for years, the only person that can work magic and give you sexual satisfaction is a fellow woman like you, they know what and where to touch right


      You go thank me later

      You need to have the baddest orgasm @Ma'm.




      @Galore

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    2. Your husband is a selfish bastard. Because he's cheating, he thinks every one is also cheating


      If not for the fact that u r not financially strong, you should dump his stupid ass

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    3. Nne am in your shoes too, I have different types of dildo , without his notice, in other not to cheat. But am sure he is cheating over there. Long distance marriage is not a joyful thing, especially for the kids upbringing. And mine is so jealous, he doesn't like me keeping friends, the only advantage is that I lack nothing, am his manager. People at East here poknose alot, but am cool. I can't wait to see us live together forever. Can't imagine myself cheating on him either.

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    4. He comes home to impregnate you and go. Na wa na real wa. Four children? Bi bawo? Smh

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    5. Poster, you guys should consider the option of relocating to Canada as a family since Germany isn't working for you.

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    6. Women and stupidity.....you are frustrated, living in bondage called marriage, sexually starved, don't believe in divorce, knows the man is cheating and u still want to die in the marriage Abi? You will wake up one day and find out you are 60 and have never enjoyed life...I must be answer mrs syndrome..till women learn to place value on themselves men will continue to treat them like trash...I pity you

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    1. You write so eloquently, I do not understand how you came to have 4 children.

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  3. With your faithfulness he still thinks you are cheating on him? Though not your fault thatbthey denied you visa but like you said you have to keep on keeping on.

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    1. Poster, I dnt even know u but I like you. U have stayed 10 years already, God will continue to see u through. Be strong for your Kids. Jst see urslf as a single mother. I think you should get a help at home while u start a business.

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    2. Yeah u are right God will continue to see her through. But I would advice she stops having kids 4 is enough if u ask me and focus on taking care of the children. She should keep applying for visit visa so she can go stay two or three months with him

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    3. At poster for your husband to be visiting Nigeria, it means he has papers and can invite you. Since Germany has been denying you visa, apply for another country tourist visa like Hungary or poland. Then use the visa to enter Germany.

      You can go with only one child. When you get to Germany you and your husband should look for bigger accommodation and invite your other children.

      I think they are denying you visa because your husband doesn't have good work and good accommodation.

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  4. Wetin yhu wan meck eye tolk kwanu???

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  5. Its your cross, carry it, after all you have carried it on your head for ten years. Nothing anybody can do for you here as you didn't even believe in divorce or what are you expecting to hear? Abegi!

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  6. Wetin make we talk na?
    U hv made ur bed, lie on it.
    If u divorce him, what difference does it make, u already living single anyway! And who go come take care of ya sheeedren? Stella?

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  7. You would have encouraged him to marry an oyinbo for papers and divorce her later at the initial stage of the marriage but I guess you were blinded by love and jealousy!...
    Well,it's now late!...
    Just don't birth another child!...
    Focus on raising your kids alone the way you have been doing it and open up your business again to keep you busy!...
    Don't mind your husband and get a side bobo or a lesbo partner in the same predicament with you!...
    So many women are in your shoes nne!...you are not alone!...
    I hate abroad husband with a passion!...
    Me that can't stay if my husband travel for only one month...
    Hmmm nne you dey try oh!...

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    1. This your advice wear high heel and bicycle cap.

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    2. U are advising her to cheat on her hubby?re u crazy or what?

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    3. I mean the get side bobo or lesbo part

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  8. You don turn yourself to baby making machine na. When he visits, he deposits and goes back.. Smh Women and marriage. Mtchew

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  9. This kind of marriage is very common in Igbo land. I pity those girls because they suffer and people will be monitoring them to know who they are sleeping. One of my friends is at the risk of being sent packing because the husbands mother accused her of using church activities to cover up her wayward life. She doesn't come to church again or they will throw her back to her fathers house. She is so depressed now with 4kids and alone. The man will be outside abroad enjoying himself o. If you can't leave, then stay and pray to God for your own visa to push through.

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    1. Very common in Igbo land. I would have asked her to leave but with 4kids? My darling keep on praying and at the same time keep begging him to come back home. You never can tell, he may get a better thing to do here or both of you may start up a business together.

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    2. Fan I see you oooo

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    3. Igbo women and desperation for indi abroad husband....is it by force? All to answer mrs yet living in bondage. Tufiakwa

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  10. I don't understand what's difficult about coming back home to be with his family. Sending money home for upkeep doesn't cut it or make him a good father or husband. This is not the marriage God promised you. You need to get a job soon and quit the whining. You've only stayed together for up to 2months yet you kept getting pregnant till you had 4 kids not 2 but 4. Woman, get a job that can at least buy pad because someday soon your husband's supply will stop coming in.
    You and your partner need to talk real fast on the way forward. It's either you both separate and get it over it or he makes a compromise just like you've done for years. You have lived a life of a single mother while letting the cloak of marriage stop you from realising your potentiAl. Why give up so much while the man gets it all. A faithful wife he can fuck whenever he comes into town and kids who bear his name. You need to free yourself. Stop thinking about other men, you have 4 kids to cater to, think about that and remember that the economy is hard.
    Your husband needs to pick between you (family) and the supposed better life keeping him in Germany. He can come back to Nigeria and start a business. There are jobs everywhere, it depends on what you're looking for and where.

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    1. The man must NIR be legal haba. 10 years is too long. There are so many other countries he can try that two of u can go. China Ethiopia. Worse come to worse come back to tour country and tough it out like everybody. Being savings ans start business. He doesn't love u. If he did he won't pick money or stability abroad over you and ur children. He's probably married abroad self.

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    2. Doppel am officially team ass licker for this your comment.

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    3. Fancy I follow you dey wash the ass with my tongue

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    4. Babe, I just love the way you dish it out correctly.

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    5. 'Bestest' comment ever. 😍😍😍😍

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    6. Let me share a story of a family nemeber I know. Maybe this will help you. Just like you, her husband lives in Germany, for 22yrs, they lived apart. He in Germany, she in Nigeria. Embassy denied her visa severally. She resulted into prayers and fasting. After 22yrs, things turned around for her. Hubby filed for her and she was granted cictizenship. Pray to God to intervene. Goodluck

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    7. Ethiopia? This anon wicked gan. Who goes to ethiopia? Hows Ethiopia different from Naija. Stop abeg
      Poster as dopple just talk...start something meaningful. What happens if that man stopa picking up your calls and leaves you with the kids.no job nothing. You better wake and and close your legs

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    8. Citizenship bawo. You mean residence permit.

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  11. Hmnnnnnn.....
    The only way forward is for him to come back and be by his family while he hustles here otherwise....there is nothing much that can be done.

    You are more like a single mother with 4kids.

    Sorry situation.

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    1. Poster serious side eyes at your hubby. 10 yrs? If your husband way pure you should not be applying for visa but some form of residency. Use genuine agent to get the visa ( shebi your husband has money). Except you are not telling us somethings

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  12. After 4 children, what other advice do you want? Four children with overseas husband, My concern is just your lovely children being denied of fatherly love😯😯

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  13. What are the reasons why you can't join your hubby? Tell us so that we know where to start from. Cos it's not that bad that for 10yrs, you've not had or created an opportunity to be with your hubby whether made or not.

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  14. Sum wheel sey yhu shool gate a somborri wit big casava so dart banana can olwaze fal on yhu, bet the shoice is yhuas...

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  15. Madam what advice do u need ? Are u saying we advice u to leave ur husband or have a side guy to keep u company? I so hate De aspect of ur husband not trusting u. Madam De choice is urs.

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  16. poster;if your hubby realy want you around, i fit talk to am and dia will be solution.
    contact stella' and i´ll ask her for your hubby contact !if this makes any sense.
    Best of luck.

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  17. Another one, what advice do you want us to give u . Am at home at wuye finance quater fct Abuja n lazyness no allow me go the sdk party

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    1. Thats what we have been hearing. Cold feet thingy. You know you dont match your blog personalty.. Yinmu for laziness*

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  18. Girls during dating/courtship, you hold the ace
    But after marriage you hold the short end of the stick
    But you know the funny thing, dating/courtship no longer exists only f*cking; different styles
    You never planned or had any values with this stranger you call husband

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  19. You have endured for ten years, best to say just let things be.

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  20. My blog people here go say::


    Madam, you are married to yourself oo

    Let me copy that to you mbok



    @Galore

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  21. This is a sorry situation. The only solution will come from God, keep praying about your situation, God will make a way for your family

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  22. Madam concentrate on your children and maybe start something.

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  23. Girls do not date anymore; no engaging intellectual discussion just see money, have sex and marry
    But here, there are a lot of "unemployed" folks in Nigeria that are married
    You and this boy just hung your bag where your hands can't reach; it is called greed
    For him to have papers to work in Germany, he married a German woman and even has kids

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    1. Not only is he married, she is not telling the full story or maybe she doesnt know. No embAssy will deny a man'/ wife and 4 children visa if he is not already married... there has to be a reason they keep denying you. You need to ask questions or find out why.

      My advice to you
      1. Since you don't make any money, Ask for money for something else. Use that money to hire a private investigator in Germany, find out if he was previously married to get his papers, if he has other children, legitimacy of his job, kind of job, how much he earns. This information will help you either confirm how truthful he has been to you and how to move forward
      2. With all the information you have above, if his ways are straightforward, there should be no reason why you can't join your husband. HIRE AN IMMIGRATION LAWYER and see if they can straighten out things for you. If he is secretly married over there, there is nothing you can do they will keep denying your visa.

      You need to be smart about it.
      Step 1 he doesn't need to know
      Step 2 only subtly not pushy about it so that he cooperates with you, you need his support

      In meantime request (make up a reason/reasons start saving until you have the complete amount or hustle hard for money to be able to cover fees) I don't live in Germany but German folks abeg help this lady with reputable private investigators numbers

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    2. Yea that's why you can't come. He is probably married. Pls whenever he comes home stop sleeping with him without protection. Go on the pill so you have sex but don't get pregnant. He is now angry at you but guilt will not allow h abandon I and your children. Don't u have people there? Fins someone to investigate and fins out.

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    3. Anonymous 15.16
      One can work in Germany without papers. Once you find a job you tell the arbeitamt it will be approved. The only difference is that you are not allowed to travel.

      At poster for your husband to be visiting Nigeria, it means he has papers and can invite you. Since Germany has been denying you visa, apply for another country tourist visa like Hungary or poland. Then use the visa to enter Germany.

      You can go with only one child. When you get to Germany you and your husband should look for bigger accommodation and invite your other children.

      I think they are denying you visa because your husband doesn't have good work and good accommodation.

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    4. Anon 18:28, they are denying their visa because he is PROBABLY married or was married to someone for papers and it's too early to file for someone else.

      Madam you already have 4 children divorce won't help your situation, do you homework quietly and in peace. In fact don't quarrel with him at all in the next few months while you are working at finding the real situation you are in.

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  24. Are tired n want out? Cos there's noting to advice u on except u continue to close ur legs n enjoy d moolah n stop nagging.

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  25. #If you are unsure about your future. Just keep doing what you know is right. What is meant to be will find you. God will make sure of it*

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  26. Abroad girls
    Have you noticed that most chronicles these days depict the absence of "knowing ones spouse"
    Looks like there's no courtship anymore
    girls now equate dating to sex
    forgetting that they suffer the consequences

    Poster, you strange husband has to make a decision, return to Nigeria or . . . take you there.
    Better still, find out what kind of papers he has there

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    1. Anon 15:21 can you shut the hell up and stop ranting up and down. What's your problem with those who started their r/ship with sex. If you like have the most intellectual conversation whist dating a guy, plan from now till the next century a marriage that won't work will not work. My parents are 35 Yrs in marriage but started with sex.
      I don't get why some women are so obsessed with their fellow woman opening their legs before marriage. Make una focus on una totoh n leave other peoples own alone. Mtchewwww!!

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    2. Anonymous I don't think she is particularly against sex before marriage. She just said they bare replacing getting to know the person with sex. You can daily do both. That's a very good idea.

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  27. Am thinking something,let him return to Niger and Starr up something with whatever savings he has made at least you've tried nau,10 years now.you never knew things its gonna turn out this way,you really wouldn't have embarked on it.but just discuss it with him in a friendly manner for him to come down since he can't take you and ur kids there

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    1. That man Na resemble person wen wan return back to Nigeria


      He is hiding alot of things

      For him to doubt his wife's faithfulness. .that is even beyond me


      A woman can keep herself for years without sleeping with another man

      But I can't say same for men



      @Galore

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    2. Even if he is struggling in the abroad. How can he come once in 2 years. Only once! And ahe even agrewd to that nonsense. Clearly he does not care. Me and bf war apart for a year. Between that time he came 3 times I went once. We were not married then oh. Not to talk if marriage with kids. She had such poor advisers.

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  28. Madam na women on Adetola Aguda lifestyle be this you are living.
    Am sure your husband has one oyibo woman over there.
    If you truly love him, pray he has his paper and divorce the oyibo with him. He won't tell you the truth.

    For now, look for work so that you don't think much. Business in this country is hard unless you are a shrewd business woman.

    When he manage come again. No let belle enter oo because na you go still be father and mother.

    It is well. Just manage your marriage and be happy

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    1. I swear your first line made me laugh 😂😂😂😂

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  29. She needs a lesbian sexmate.
    Queen please make urself useful for once!!!!

    We are handing her over to u.

    Poster. Na woman i say make u fuck ooo. Nor go find man!!!

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    1. Please I need the woman contact too....am also in her shoes

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  30. What? I hope your first child is not Michael 🤣 Are you not that my moody neighbor when I was in nja briefly? You drive a wine Toyota Camry and I got to know you and that your fine kid sister were being serviced by Jonathan your gate keeper. Didn't you make sure they sent the boy away when he started disrespecting you?😄😂 Konji na bastard so I don't blame you all together, but you should go miles away from home and your kids to do such next time.
    Your kid sister made it known to her crush who is my gateman that all you want to do is to travel out reason you agreed to the arrangement initially. Don't give up hope, many didn't happen until 15 years and even more.
    When I had a long distance relationship back in the days, I had lots of male friends for hanging out purpose and some were my free meal tickets. Sex was never on my mind. You can have fun, get out of that moody self by grooving at least once in 2 weeks, but if you must have sex then I don't know how without your husband

    MrsBee

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    1. It's ur type of person I would never allow myself to mingle with. U never like to mind ur business, always want to put ur nose in others business at all cost. And I wonder how it concerns u that the gateman sleeps with her and her kid sister. She asked for advice not exposure of her secrets(if what u say is even correspondent to her). Oversabe dan.

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    2. I never knew foolish gossips.
      .....then here came Mrs Bee. See as you dey run mouth like watery pap. Iberibe ju gi n'isi.Efulefu.

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  31. Poster is not really his fault that you were not given visa to be with him, just continue with the way you are and stop having children and be prayerful that things should turn out for you the way you want

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  32. Abroad husband the way our igbo girls are killing themselves over it ee. That is how one that said he lives in germany came to pay my cousin's sister bride price he got her pregnant immediately and wanted to travel back my anty said no that he must do traditional marriage he said he has no money for it now my anty gave him money for the trad immediately after the trad on easter tuesday he travelled on friday now my cousin sister is battling with hypertitis B and she is five months gone oo

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    1. Haaaaa.. Got her pregnant buh he no get money fr trad?? Buh he get sperm to give? Ndi ala. I can't even imagine not sleeping close to my husband everynight,after cold finish me as a single girl e go come again wen i marry?God forbid o

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    2. Wow

      He gave her hypertitis B?



      @Galore

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  33. Hmmm. Look how you have short-changed yourself. Because you lacked foresight, did you never ever think of a plan B?

    Why have that many kids? When you could have stopped at 1 or 2 & get on birth control without his knowledge. You could have easily opted out and maybe got into a better marriage. But Look at you now.

    Anyway no use crying over split milk. Your man might be married over there, you both are now strangers and I don't think he would want you guys over to be honest. By now he's pretty much set in his ways and used to his lifestyle. (Married but living single)

    I can't advise you commit adultery & there's no need for divorce because it's not much of a marriage to begin with. You are alone right now, after the divorce nothing will change except you can now have sex with different men. But how many would be willing to carry the burden of 4kids? Assuming your hubby stops sending the money? Anyway since you are even against divorce, Collect enough money from him, inflate the school fees etc, get a store close to home and let your kids join you there after school.

    Stop being lazy, get up and start something! God forbids but what if something happens to him? If a misfortune befalls his enemy, he gets sick or missing, How would you find him? What will you do then? How will you cope? Who will help you?

    Be wise!

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  34. Poster.....This is not a peculiar situation. Madam, there are many men and women living like you and they are doing well . At least I have like 3male friends that their wives are based abroad with the kids and they visit them like once or twice a year.
    I think what compound your own issue is that you don't have something doing. If he's well off financially, let him give you money to buy a land and supervise the building, that will keep you busy. That will give you things to talk about and he would also be assured of an investment in the country. I suggested that because that's what one of my friend did. The hubby is based abroad and she and the kids are here. She convince him to give her money to buy a land and that has been keeping her busy.
    Also you can send out your CV and get a job that can keep you busy.
    But on a lighter note, madam you dey very fertile for your hubby to always get you preggy anytime he comes home......His game must be very tight......lol

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  35. Haa Poster i confuse pass u o.. 4 kids???? Mehn just close eye and continue.. God is ur strength.. Imagine being faithful nd d man still dey doubt. Eiya, ndo

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  36. hello dear,
    i understand what you are going thru.
    i am in the same but better because he comes more frequently.
    but there is nothing like having your man around all the time.All these years ,
    he should have established/invested business as a transition. He is able to travel so he has work
    permit. You can not put a prize on family being together.

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  37. hello dear,
    i understand what you are going thru.
    i am in the same but better because he comes more frequently.
    but there is nothing like having your man around all the time.All these years ,
    he should have established/invested business as a transition. He is able to travel so he has work
    permit. You can not put a prize on family being together.
    he can apply for visiting visa so that yu can visit.

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  38. Forget Germany for now. Why not apply to another shenghen country then you travel via train to go pay your husband a visit in Germany.Look for a good agent that can run it and only go for a business visit. Make sure you buy stuff and spend only the amount of time you requested for and come back home.Then, apply again for the German Visa. I don't think they will deny you.

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    1. Poster take Efe's advice... the only useful one I have read so far

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  39. Ur husband has settled down over there and is unlikely to relocate anytime soon to a chaotic system like Nigeria. Focus on ur children and get back to the biz u had before childbirth or any other biz that's profitable and u enjoy doing. Sex is not everything. Many women live without it and the sky hasn't fallen. Consider the reason/s for which u have been denied visa and work round it/them. Otherwise, why don't u both try another foreign country, if family life is paramount to both of u. Urs is not the worst situation on earth. Don't act in a manner that will complicate things. Pray to God to help u overcome ur challenges. Ur blessings will come one day if u abide. It's just a phase.

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  40. apply for a shengen visa to spain or Belgium then use train to visit ur hubby. get visa for 6 months or so. but make sure u return when u r supposed to. stay small n travel again

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  41. My dear Poster, your husband is married to a German lady and has kids with her. He is guilty that is why he thinks you have a boy friend in Nigeria. You have really tried to stay in the bondage you call marriage for 10 years. How can you be married to an absentee husband for 10 years? You deserve a trophy. My dear, open your eyes and face reality. By the way, what do you tell your kids when they ask of their father?

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  42. Lol. I have sooooo much to say and of course an accompanying story from my years of experience. Let me book space and gather my thoughts, before write epistle.

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  43. Hmmmm, Madam, only God knows how you feel. Our trials in this life comes in various shapes and sizes. But trust me, God sees your heart and labour of faithfulness.
    Don't be weary in well-doing. You need to have a long talk with your husband, if he truly wants this marriage to continue, cos his accusations about infidelity signals a lot. I say so, cos if he truly appreciates you, he should be doing more to ease your plight and live with his family, whether in Germany or back at home. Since you were denied visa to Germany, have you tried other shengen states' visa? Just a thought. But plz, ignore anyone telling you to cheat on your husband. It may work for them, but it may not work for you dear. Concentrate more on your precious kids.
    I have been celibate for nearly 10 years now, which is by God's grace. About to get married but my fiancee lives in The States, so I know what long distance relationship feels like. For me, I can't advice you to divorce your husband cos I don't believe in divorce and I have seen it's effects on the kids, unless your husband wants one. Just commit to God cos someday, I see your story changing dear.
    A word is enough for the wise...

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    1. He is already not there for the kids...

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  44. I have read some of the comments , and some of them makes sense. With 4 children, i am really speechless i don't know what to say again. Your husband is very married over there that's why they keep denying you visa and it will continue like that. This is not a matter of fasting and praying to get the visa, because it will not happen.Unless he divorce the woman other than that , nothing. Look for something to do like business, there is no organization that will employ you with four kids because you will always have reasons to leave before closing time , come late to work and also call in for sick leave for them.SPOUSAL VISA IS VERY EASY TO GET. Take heart.

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    1. There's nothing prayer can't do... With God all things are possible..

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  45. i have been there too but with no kids after two years but i dump his german's ass walk away from the marriage. in other not to cry too much but now i am happy that i did walk away..my people said you only find a black goat in the day but you can never find a black goat in the dark..poster sorry that you let love keep you in the dark for ten good years

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  46. To enter germo na war.
    You were denied visa probably because:

    You husband has too many responsibilities here and doesnt have extra to fend for an adult.every age bracket get expenses price tag.
    If you applied for a family reunion,you gatz get at least A-B level for language.
    You can enter germo with student visa, there are lot of free tuition schools no matter the age.i have a 42 year old man in my MBA class.
    I salute your courage,after 4 years i was already getting tired but my wait was worth it.

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    1. Hello Anon, please advise, which schools have free tuition please Thank you

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  47. @ anon1.43, if you are the OP, pls pls pls go and do your research. Google is your friend, google german schools with free tuition or scholarship or fellowship.

    Check it yourself and do not wait to be spoon fed the info. This our Nigerian miracle mentality rather hard work mentality does not work for Obodo Oyibo things o

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