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Wednesday, 28 June 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

Na wah eeeeh!!!



STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WAHALA ON THE JOB

Greetings to you our madam general and my bv friends. My people I'm in serious need of good advice and your prayers.
I came here few months ago thanking Stella for providing this platform ‎through which I got a job. 


I was so happy because I've been looking for it for a long time. But now, this job has turned out to be a nightmare. 

My MD (the owner of the company) hates me for reason best known to him. I cry almost all the time at work. Is it the name calling? The abusive words? The insults? Just name it. I have an exercise book where I wrote every single bad thing he said to me. I pray against each word and ask God to cancel all the negative words in my life. 


During the interview, he said there was going to be an orientation. But till now, nothing like that. So everything I know about this job, I learnt by observing my senior colleague. I met her the day I was interviewed and found out that we went to the same school and also studied the same course so it was just normal to be close to her, talking about school stuff and all.


 Then another girl was employed and things changed. Long story short, my senior colleague had an issue with my MD and left. A week later, my MD called and asked me when last I spoke with my ex colleague, with a clear mind, I told him and he started accusing me of telling her everything that's happening in the office.


 That I'm not a good person, I talk too much and all that. I was confused, I tried explaining to him that I never discussed office issues with her, but he didn't want to listen. Calling me a liar and that I'm dust (which I rejected within me immediately). He said it's because I'm the only one close to her so I must be the one that told her things. 


Since that day, I've been called many names that will make a dead person recoil in his grave. I kept enduring it. But it got to a point I just had to call the girl and ask her why she told the MD things that I did not say to her, she told me that it wasn't me. That it was the new girl that told her what the MD said during our meeting at the office. But already the new girl has automatically becomes the MDs favorite, he doesn't like to hear us complaining about her. He doesn't see anything bad in her at all. 


So now going to tell the MD what really happened might or might not change his behavior towards me. But if I keep quiet, I might end up loosing my job, if I talk, he will say I'm trying to paint the girl black. Which he has said so many times.
I really don't know how to go about this.


 I'm no longer happy getting a job. He frustrate my life all the time, as it now now, if by Gods Grace‎ I see a place that will pay me even half of my salary here, I will happily take it.


 That's how bad it is.
Please my people, what do you guys suggest I do? How do I go about this and it won't backfire? I need suggestions please. Thanks Stella and everyone.




57 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Hmmm....You better start looking elsewhere

Tipsy said...

Babe abeg begin find new job.

STARRY LARRY said...

You mean that your MD is a BV, which job are you even afraid of losing? Only if you're not being truthful about how your MD is treating you. Please call out such MD and let's hear his own side of the story





*Larry was here*

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hian poster,
Insult dey kill person?...
Let him continue calling you names nah...
See,no jobs in Nigeria so you better accept the name calling and develop a thick skin!...
Reduce the way you talk in the office and stay on your lane!!...

Anonymous said...

You mentioned "God" in your story and I assume you believe in him.
Wait upon him; fast and pray and allow him to vindicate you and he will.
Most times, we get worried unnecessarily about issues that are beyond us.

SWEETIE said...

Report the new girl to ur boss by letting him know she is the one filling the other lady with the happenings at the office

Anonymous said...

While you apply for another job, begin to record the discussions between you and this "new babe" on your phone. Like bringing out your phone to check your make up in the camera but you are actually setting up recording once she nears you.
She is the new FBI as set up by the MD to nail you and you must be careful about the things you say or not say in her presence.

Doppelgänger said...

If you know your worth then you'd know you're worth more than verbal abuse and this she said and he said business. Your MD is childish and doesn't know how to separate business from personal issues.
If he wanted to sack you, I believe he wouldn't need to go this low to do so. I'd advise you mind your business and not join issues with him further. He already has his opinions about you and I don't think anything you say now will make him change his mind, it might make it worse because it would look like you're scared because you have something to hide. Does he have proof apart from assumptions? Then relax.
Keep praying not just to find favor with him but for God to give you a better job. Let God deal this because clearly you're on your own.

Anonymous said...

Why not ask the 'NEW GIRL" to tell the MD herself about the things she said if she really said them?
Tell her the troubles you have gone through and ask for her to help you out.
Be careful too because she is spying on you.

OLOLADE said...

How did your boss get to know everything the new girl told your senior colleague? Your senior colleague might have told someone with a loose mouth,most probably a worker in your company. if you can find out who that person is you can stylishly tell the person the New girl is the bad one. be rest assured whoever it is will tell your Boss about it. aside that I can't think of a possible solution o. God will help you.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

I think i saw something like this some weeks ago.

Just continue with your prayers and then try and do everything that the office requires. Be calm and do your job. stop joining issues with people. You dont need anyone to validate you in that office and keep quiet and do your work.

Abi make i say your village people don rub shit on you spiritually that makes the MD hate you. Anyway what i can see is that your case is from your village people or from your family that must have done something spiritually to you or the girl must have gone to Ijebu to do make my Boss like me.

My dear, you self go and knack pigeon on your oga's head since both of you are doing competition on him to know who like pass.

Abeg make i carry myself comot jare. Nothing concern me with una matter again. Every man to himself jare.

Barbiegyal said...

Just tell him d truth maybe d hate might reduce or not.what do u have to loose anyways, it's a win win situation.

Anonymous said...

Seems you have posted this before

Anonymous said...

My sister pls look for a real job, this one man biz sh** isn't a job. MD asikwa MD asiro, what nonsense!!

Anonymous said...

Babes, there are a lot of possibilities;

- Your M.D wants to sleep with you but you come across as the type that will be tough so he's putting you down to get you to a place where he weakens you; love and hate are two sides of the same coin.

- He just hates you and really he's a childish person.

Whatever it is, repeat the following to yourself;

- THERE ARE A LOT OF JOBS FOR ME. GOD IS ELSHADDAI, THE FULL BREASTED ONE AND HE HAS ENOUGH FOR ME.
- GOD LOVES ME AND I AM ENOUGH, HE FAVORS THOSE THAT FAVOR ME.
- ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR MY GOOD BECAUSE I LOVE GOD.

Most importantly, pray and ask God to reveal his plan, most times when we are to move to the next level, God brings a love test our way.

Anonymous said...

Hahahahaha. This lady sef. Thanks for making my day with this your advice. It is well. I'll surely overcome

AMMY BEE said...

I think you should just ignore your MD, I wonder why he is so much in your face or are you is PA?

Ensure you carry out your duty professionally and the next time he accuses you, tell him you have never talked about the company to the ex staff or any other person, once you say that just keep doing your work. with time he will learn to respect you. Ignore his insults, just tell your self back to sender,when ever he starts ranting. You will be fine.

Learn to manage your boss, until he learns to behave or you get the opportunity to take a walk.

Monkeynofine said...

Relax my dear, manage your job till u find a better one. I don't know how insult get to someone badly to the extent of sending in chronicle! No be corse? He dey affect ya salary? Biko manage what u have for now.

Ehi Grace lace_material_uk 07448776953 said...

Look for a replacement job and at the same time don't show that you are weak or vulnerable at work. Try as much as possible to stay out of his way, there must be something he heard or saw that's making him behave like this. Hope you didn't contribute to the reason why your friend and ex-colleague left

Chidinma Grace said...

Just do your job and maintain your lane. Things will sort itself out.

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Start looking for another job ozugbo..Dont tell him anything, probably he is fucking the new girl..Its a one man business right? That's how they behave to young ladies...Make sure you are diligent at your job, start throwing your CVs around..And never bring yourself low with your boss and the new girl..God will fight for you keep praying..I know you are going through emotional abuse..It is well

Anonymous said...

Poster,your story get K leg..their is something you are telling us!!your boss just can't start hating on you all of a sudden without you doing something!

Justyswt said...

One of the ish of one man biz! Poster, just be praying and at the same time be looking for job elsewhere.

sholetoga said...

Up Queen and boss, am on the same page with Queen and boss. So far he has not been physical with, my sister abeg, dust off the abuse and name calling away anytime he starts with his name calling.
See my sister don't report the other girl. If the pay is good,please just do your assign job and return all his abuses back to sender in your mind. And don't forget to be saving money should in case he sack you out of his bad belle.
My sister make the place enjoyable for your self, don't let anyone hold the key to your happiness, inugo.........
Stay happy dear

LOLO IDEATO said...

She should call out her MD and get sacked. Are there excess jobs for her to lose this her daily bread?

LOLO IDEATO said...

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😘😘😘 My chief

LOLO IDEATO said...

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💃🏻

Miss Juliet said...

Looool same thing i wanted to tell her o. As long as he still pays u, ignore the fool till u find something.. Don't leave nd stay idle

Anonymous said...

Is your office around Shogunle? Does his name start with S? If it does either you learn how to ignore him or you run

jelly said...

Poster just be prayerful and focus on your job right now until you get replacement job

SANDY YO said...

Inukwa! Loool
Theres nothing like staying on your lane in the office.😍

My two kobo said...

I almost swore that I knew the person typing this but a few details were off...hmmm dear poster, Leave that place before it pollutes your mind. Your story is similar to my experience at my last work place but the work environment was much worse that yours. Very Acidic people everywhere, very canterkerous environment, a lot of lying and backstabbing that I still cringe when I think back. Tufia!!! The painful part was the job you're assigned to do you can't do because of the acidic environment. Worst of all, the MD encourages such behavior cuz he goes around getting people to snitch on others and fish for info/dirt on other employees...very nasty place. No orientation was given, no training et al.
Hmmm...I had to borrow myself brain and start applying elsewhere. The first opportunity I had to leave I took it.
So my dear, start looking elsewhere. Actively start searching. If you can, ignore the crap and face your work,if you can't, please leave. Nothing beats peace of mind I tell you.
While no work place is perfect,where I currently work is so much better;everyone faces their work, no time for idleness. you are so busy before you know the day has ended.
Nothing beats peace of mind!

Money making machine said...

Don't fear, settle it on ur knees, the spiritual controls the physical

Bold Marehi said...

Please develop a thick skin. Leaving the job is not an option what if that is what your boss actually wants, for you to be tired and leave, don't give him that satisfaction. Always make sure you come to work early and do things rightly to avoid him insulting you. Take note of those things you do that makes him insult you and avoid doing them, you will be surprise how his attitude towards you will change because you will be flawless that he will have no option than to change. Also, take it to God in prayer there is nothing that is impossible for God to handle.

Jasmine said...

Exactly. Poster, take this advise

same girl said...

Instead of you, why cant the former colleague tell the MD her source? Thread carefuly. Mind your buisness and be careful of your discussions with new girl

Anonymous said...

Not a good idea. She should just put everything in prayer and fasting and believe me she will laugh last.

Anonymous said...

Why worrying yourself? An adage says "those who pointed accusing finger at you, the remaining 9 is for them. The remaining curses goes straight back to your MD even if he uses charm. Just believe in the lord, fast and pray faithfully and you shall be vindicated.

Anonymous said...

Thought you seek for advice in the comment section sometimes ago, not long now? Say your mind even if you are going to lose the job.

Great Lady said...

Madam just respectfully resign before he does so with trumped up charges.

Anonymous said...

Ok, she is asking for a job.

Martins Aboy said...

@Poster;ANYTHING THAT COST YOU YOUR PEACE OF MIND,IS TOO EXPENSIVE TO BE KEPT..

Nothings kills the spirit of a fellow to working in a place where negative energy is being emitted;and not being appreciated no matter how little.

You know what is good for you as a person,and only you can choose to stay or leave.

#Goodluck

@MARTINS ABOY

Unknown said...

I have been in the same position before, although there wasn't verbal insults, the unspoken actions were worse. Honestly, work is where you spend 40hrs of your week- you shouldn't be uncomfortable there. In my situation, the person eventually resigned but before then i was already looking for another job. I suggested you stay calm in the meantime and keep looking!
All the best!

First Comment ever- i'm ready to be officially inducted into SDK family- e don too tey!!!
EnnaH

edie said...

wait ooo.. y is d MD even making it an issue? is d gal using d information to sue d organisation or wat... pple and their wahala d thing tire me

Anonymous said...

I looked for your comment when I sent in my chronicles 'career options'.I was quite disappointed that I did not see it. You,atheist and chikito. But you have been commenting on other chronicles since then. Maybe una no like me.lollll.

My two kobo said...

Loooollll! Same with my former MD o! Hmmmm...go for the latter...RUN!!!

ukwu dimond said...

Start searching for another job, if possible call your ex colleague let her come and talk to your boss and explain things to him before you lose your job. That your ex colleague why did she open her wide Mouth to tell your boss what she heard? She is childish, if you cannot cope with your boss is best you walk away.

Doppelgänger said...

Anonymous 17:15, awwww sorry love I was probably offline that day because I don't remember seeing a chronicle with that title. I like you though I don't know you, trust you got other opinions to work with.

DaSuspiciousJoe said...

In life, you must learn to be you and be real at all times and as well u should learn wen to talk and wen not to talk. before you speak ask yourself:
IS IT KIND;
IS IT TRUE;
IS IT NECESSARY;
DOES IT IMPROVE UPON THE SILENCE?

Once you answer these in your mind, you will know that it's not all things that deserve a response and most often all fights are not worth shedding blood for. Let them reign for now. Be diligent at work, write every task given to you and agree the timeline for delivery making sure they are achievable and leave all the insults inside the trash can and as the days roll by, you will know that your worth and diligence will speak for you. Hold no grudges against no one, ( MD nor NEW Girl).. What has joined them together will separate them soonest.. Cheers...

Anonymous said...

She should call out her boss on a blog?

Really.

Have you thought about the implications of this on future jobs?

Obviously, you've never worked before.

Rappakatakata said...

It will be difficult to ask you to throw in the towel just yet considering the much you sought for before getting this job. And just like Doppelganger did say, it's clear you're of some value to the organization and his intention is not to get rid of you else he would have done so already.
Sometimes life serves us some unpalatable circumstances to teach us a few things through a different mean. I would advice you simply mind your job and try the much you can to stay off his path and while you are at this, pray more, and see how God will use this situation to both mold you and make a way for you where you can presently see none.

Rita said...

oh! please call your MD out if he is a BV, CROSS UR MIND SAY NA TWO WAYS... ITS EITHER HE GETS ANGRY THAT YOU DID OR IT TURNS OUT BETTER FOR YOU.
UNTIL YOU DO SO, PLEASE KEEP PRONOUNCING THE THINGS GOD SAID ABT U, AND REBUKE THE NEGATIVES.

Gold Taken said...

Tough situations never last but tough people do.

Anonymous said...

Poster that man is still going to fire you. Don't bother reporting the girl, just start searching actively.

Adebiyi Ayorinde said...

Calling you dust is not an insult, it is written, from dust you were made and will someday become dust. So its just like dust calling another person a dust.

I feel there is more to this, a man cannot just turn into a monster, maybe he expected reconciliatory moves from you when he sacked his favorite staff, or maybe he is only trying to bring out the best in you.

Advice: study him, manage him and try to refine your acts in the office. Don't allow him to win every time he complains, make sure you have a reason for any action taken, and stop apologizing every time. And a talk back once in a while brings respect and can even win back your self esteem. Good luck

Hadey Halaba said...

Don't leave that place. What if same happens in your next adventure, will u jump ship again?

Concentrate on your job. Don't let personal issues affect u, don't compete with the new girl. Be yourself

Anonymous said...

you have no idea how frustrating it is to work in an environment where you are treated like you do not belong. it is distracting and it does not allow you give your best as you do everything in hopes that you do not get scolded at for no absolute reason. although i just started ignoring and went on with my work as i was not there to be liked by anyone but to do my part in the growth of a company.

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