Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Brouhaha Over Monthly Allowance From Spouse

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Thursday, 29 June 2017

Brouhaha Over Monthly Allowance From Spouse

Are you One of those women who depend on Monthly allowance from your spouse before things can be done in the home?Hopefully you are not!






If you are,what amount do you get and how do you manage it?Is it enough for you or you always want more?
This post by Alibaba got me thinking of why some women are not fit to be called wife at all......




64 comments:

Jeremy Abidoye said...

Na wa o

Finish 200k a month how?
The woman should stop lying abeg
But this babymama thing don turn job o

Esther Okoro said...

I'll read comments.





God Bless Everyone.

Anonymous said...

Calling bs on this bs. Husband, you are on track. That woman wants to ruin you

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Women go out and work or learn to trade so that you wont have problems with hussy everytime

amanda favour said...

Hmmm....
Stella she's a baby mama and I guess that's the means she's using to 'tax' her baby daddy.
She can't spend the whole money on the child alone...mbanunu
Na them sabi oh!,if the baby daddy is comfortable paying her 200k monthly,let him do it nah..
If I'm in her shoes,I'll be saving that allowance for the rainy day.

Anonymous said...

Nysc should release date for stream 2 already now, its so annoying to keep waiting on them, release date and let's get this nonsense over with. It should be scrapped already please.. I am tired!

orela said...

Wawuuuuu.....this is not a wife o...from the chats she is a baby mama if not why would she ask alibaba to verify from single mothers

Serves the man right, put your dick in your pants ,,naaaa.they would get foolish girls pregnant and say they can't marry..why bed a lady you can't wife in the first place.?

This lady is stupid.. Serves her right baba Toyosi should continue shopping for his kid..she turned the lil girl to job and she is not smart to even invest some of the money. She is settling friends in .life of a prostitute.
Some people earn less than 200k and they cater to a family of a husband wife and 2 kids..does the 3 year old consume a safari?

Ladies if you can't be independent to opt to be willful baby mamas..some single mothers are as a result of death of spouse or even divorce. That I can understand. But to get pregnant and hope he marries you .I don't subscribe to that. Before sex exhaust all preventive measure as regards pregnacy and diseases then if one gets pregnant keep it and get some sense. I am prolife . i hate abortion.

Anonymous said...

Aswear some women no get sense, money wey u suppose dey collect with respect dey appreciate d man. Now he don stop d money, thy Lord is ur muscle ooo

Electronic City said...

The little girl's father have taken the right step. He should also visit often to know the age when to take custody, let the mum be visiting. Make she no raise d girl to depend on men. She is not grateful for what life has given her. I support my husband 100% with what I earn except I dont have. They are also my children. Life is once...make most use by sharing n not being idle or selfish.

Anonymous said...

This one weak me yakata, abeg Stella I dey go house go faint before you say u don finish all your space.

Monkeynofine said...

Well u can't judge the wife, who are they in d society? Some broke ASS will say it's enough to manage that amonth but do u know the kind of life they live? We have first class,second class,3rd class citizens including the lowest class! U don't expect first and second class peeps to manage 200k in amonth never ! Except feeding money is excluded if not that amount ain't enough. How much is 200k in dollars again? If the wife is working she can add has and manage it.

Anonymous said...

I am a woman, I think just sitting there waiting for monthly alawi b4 things get done in the house is utterly disgusting. Women/young girls should learn how to empower themselves financially. Don't just sit there waiting for the man, do or strive to do something lucrative. Some women use this as an excuse to cause wahala in their marriages and when husband starts to drift away, alas the chronicles folder would be full. It just stifles the man, he feels choked up. Don't get me wrong, I believe the husband is head of household, provider etc. But then, the woman is the helper. You can manage what is given to even surprise the husband the next month. It's not just 'give me' 'give me' all the time. It's boring,this is one of the things that would put out the flame of marriage.


That's why, beauty,'light skinned' into marriage does not cut it. If that's all some women/girls have to offer...is no longer en vogue.

In the same light, how many women do gift their husbands substantially? Especially the young girls, who have the mindset of take, take, take. How would some guy feel you as wife material sef? It's not just beauty oo. That's why some would be cussing somebody choice of a wife.. she no fine sef..etc. You know what? The guy looked in the inside, the heart, to make that choice.

Monkeynofine said...

Ooooh she's a baby mama didn't even read to the end. Ooh well!

orela said...

Stella ..you need to see the comments and subsequent posts. They are hilarious.. God help this generation

nina chocomile said...

It beats my imagination why a woman will want to depend on a man, be it hubby or bf for everything that has to Do with cash and expenses. I just don't get it. Even if she isn't working, there are lots of business she can do to make money. In as much as spending hubbys money is my constitutional right and gives me pleasure, I can't let him shoulder every single responsibility in the home, when I'm not a cripple or an illiterate. Women should stop this nonsense, your husband won't even respect you if you can't contribute anything in the home.

Fab Mum said...

不 不 不 不 不
This woman is not from the Lord, that's all I can say
200k monthly for just 1 child?? That is 3yrs old??
She's not from the Lord.

nina chocomile said...

She's even a babymama, mschewwwwwwww. Iranu!

nina chocomile said...

She's even a babymama, mschewwwwwwww. Iranu!

Lady Bug said...

Anonymous said...

I don't understand. Even if she is a baby mama like some people have insinuated as bad as things are who spends N200k on a 3 year old for monthly upkeep. And I am a married man with even grown up kids. It's a big lie that a baby girl needs is more than that of a boy. At that tender age it's almost the same. What cosmetics does a 3year old girl need than the usual cream and powder which also a boy needs. The only difference is the hair making which is more frequent that the boy. She is just a lazy,jobless and careless mother. If she works then she will appreciate what her man is giving her. She should be able to even save some in case of rainy days. It's women like this that give a man a bad name by asking for the list of her needs and shopping for it and giving her. My brother in law's wife was once like that so I told him to ask the wife to do a list of everything she needs and he gives his office assistance who is a woman the money to shop for him. And even gives her good tips. He discovered that he was now spending less than a quarter of what he use to give her. Na she come knee beg him and ask for forgiveness. Some women need to be disciplined to know that your man is not suppose to go bankrupt because of house upkeep allowance.

Monkeynofine said...

Yori Yori princess, not all men wants their wife to work dear, some want u to stay at home so u can take care of the kids while they take care of the bills cause they are capable enough! I fought hard to start up my biz cause my husband never wanted me too do anything and he place me on monthly salary which I accepted at 4st but I later got bored staying at home, he took the grace of God and some family members intervention before I was allowed too go back to Wat I was so passionate about. We shouldn't blame the women all the time!

Monkeynofine said...

I just realised that she's ah barbie mama. Well she can't be doing all the work without getting some change for herself. They both enjoyed the sex the man should do the needful if he's capable!

Lady Bug said...

But it's just for the little girl's welfare,not a family upkeep.

Bold Marehi said...

Na wa oh, 3 years old child finish 200k for monthly allowee say wetin happen. #speechless.

Bee10(mummytwins) said...

Na slay mummy now

Anonymous said...

Stella, no mind d girl. Thou, I wait on oga, for monthly allowance. With 3kids and our help he gives a 100k and still supports other things, he is the busy type and he wants a stay at home wife, I fought it, talked even family members got involve at least if is a shop to support, but he refuse. And I don't bug my life abeg. But I pity him, is not easy, I manage very well and save some amount everymonth. Just that is like no much progress in the family, because I have to wait on him for everything. He is trying for real. Me, I don't joke with the little I save ooh. I know soonest God will touch his heart and I will start doing something.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Ohhhh I agree with you. It was in the 80s, 90s, that men dont want women to do anything but it is rare for now. Congrats to you. You did well

O. Y. O said...

Of course, I want to work but no job out there,after giving birth, I intend to start frozen food business. My husband salary is not much at all but he manages to give me 5k/month and I still save out of it. The worst is not to make my hair or buy body cream, I sha manage it and am very hopeful that my business will make way for me. My mother worked and she spent on us, so why must I always depend on husband before buying ordinary 50naira salt? Sometimes, things don't turn out the way one expects but I pray God will lift my family too up financially
Amen

Anonymous said...

That babe is just a thief, yesca big one @ that. 200k one child a month and it's not enough haba now. Even me of family of 6 oh na 200k be my monthly allowance and i dey get enough money left at the end of the month. Feeding is not really an issue of you buy in bill, it's only bills that eat up money. In this period of recession one has to adjust. Me na even ph i dey stay way cost like 2morrow no dey. I no the different prizes of my food items in various supermarket, so i no were to go to pick up what and save cost. Places like spar i hardly shop there, too expensive. Everyday is also getting same. There are smaller sup癡market that sells same things @ reduce cost. Places like welcome you etc. So madam I repeat you are a big thief ole barawo woman.

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Na wah oh!!

ukwu dimond said...

Reading comments.

Anonymous said...

Even if she's a baby mama, there are standards. If she is the type that flies 1st class for example, and going on a trip she needs the baby daddy to buy 1st class ticket for his child to travel with her, he shouldn't flinch.
There are millions of families that depends on 200k monthly and there are people who spends 200k and more daily.....one size doesn't fit all. No one should think it impossible for a child to spend that much monthly.

MrsBee

Anonymous said...

Monkey no fine,thank you,200k is not enough for a lot of families,for prawn curry sauce,I spent almost 20k last night_-jumbo and medium sizes were 13k plus-4 tins of mushroom,sweet corn,and the vegies_carrot,green pepper etc,your family lifestyle determines that,i stock fresh fruits_apple,English pear,bannana,garden eggs etc weekly and different cereals,200k is not much.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm my husband gives me 300k we have 2 kids, and am still crying for increase,although h pays for all the repairs,he buys the fuel ad diesel, he also fuels the 2 cars weekely. Am grateful sha but I still wat more lol

Anonymous said...

And some weeks,I buy a basket of oranges for orange juice to go with breakfast especially during rainy season for vit c against cold

Firstlady blessing said...

Lol

Chiclahot said...

I get 30k each month from my husband and add 30k to it as well.That amount caters for our medium class life style.some months we spend more especially if we have to buy rice and yam(i buy that in bag/50pieces).
My home is filled with enough to eat.Hubby buys gas,fuels car(I help out sometimes),fuels gen.I buy shoes,clothes,pay lesson fees for our 3kids from my salary.I spend 25-28k on provisions(milo,milk,butter,g.oil,egg,beans,gaari,toothpaste,I make my liquid soap,flour,sweet potato,seasoning et all),I prepare soup and stew everyweek with 6k(3k formeat).I have run my home this way now for 3years and we have never lacked.I have 3kids aged 13,8,6.we save too using office coop.I count myself blessed.My future is bright.This is not a gloat.

Anonymous said...

You didn't read the part that the baby daddy stopped giving her money and started buying everything the daughter needs himself. The guy now days it takes less than 50k a month. She isn't getting the money again.

Anonymous said...

Seems you didn't read it at all. The money is upkeep for the child, they aren't married. And why do you talk of dollar equivalent? This is Nigeria and the vast majority don't earn in foreign currency. That amount is what some families get a month and they're surviving.

amanda favour said...

You are enjoying oh!!
Stay blessed

amanda favour said...

Enjoy oh

World People said...

Mumu.

The 200k is not to feed her generation but the 3 year old child.

Anonymous said...

It's possible jare.
How much is 200k in this present naija? Yes some people spend earn less than that and have 4 kids true but we all have different standards of living. Some people only go to shoprite during the festive period while some shop there weekly.
Let's try to break it down:

(1) PETROL: 1500(Let's say overnight from 7-7) 1500*30= 45,000.

(2) UBER: School runs daily 1200*20=24,000.

(3)FOOD: 50,000 (Kids food are more expensive than adults cos a kid must have a balanced diet)

(4) Ijekuje: 15,000 (cold stone icecream with waffles is approx 1500)

(5) General flexing:: Cinema (twice a month 2000) etc... let's say 5000.

(6) Miscellaneous Hair (500*4 =2000 (depends on where they live, some salons charge 1k for kids hair on the island)), Lotion (Aveeno baby is around 5000), Hair products 2000.

(7) Mummy I want that toy, I want this is want that 5000.

(8) General transportation 10000.

Total: 163k
I don't think 37k is too much for her to keep LOL

Anonymous said...

How your brother inlwaw matter concern you? Gbeborun home breaker. You better mind your business. Ode

Anonymous said...

Abeg continue your contribution and face front jare. Iya Alajo, nonsense. My money is my money and my husband's money is OUR money. Rubbish

Anonymous said...

Ahhhh Monkey,God bless you! Over smartness they worry you.

Anonymous said...

Mumu supporting your husband while he's busy spending for side hens hahahahahaha

amanda favour said...

NNE I'm on same level with you
I guess I will learn how to make liquid soap as well. Everything you stated here is almost as mine.it's good to be contented in whichever level you find yourself

amanda favour said...

I forgot to add,stay blessed nne.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

hahahahahaha Anons 16:36 nothing do you. See as you finish the mathematics here. I hope you pass maths in your waec?

Anonymous said...

Please chiclahot I have few questions for you 1. Do you live in Lagos? 2. How much goes to the lesson fees for 3 kids monthly? Have you thought of how much it would have cost you if you were the one to stock the house with food, fuel for gen, transporting fuel to take the kids to and from school? Gas, clothing, diaper, hair, moisturizer, soap, laundry, tv subscription, weekend treats? You make soup and stew for 6k every week, i.e. 24k for that in a month and yet you sound like all of these expenses is from your 30k+your hubby 30k contribution. And even after all that expenses you still get to save right? I hear ya

wideawake naija said...

Hahaha. I don hear another one today again.
"Not from the lord"
Lwtmb.
Hahaha

wideawake naija said...

Wehdon to you and your BIL. Una try well well. When it comes to money issues office assistant now does the work? My father always says something to us. "Even if my wife or children dey chop my money, na my wife, na my children and na my money, all na me get. Na still d same pocket e dey enter"

wideawake naija said...

Better be grateful and always kneel to say thank you before he will slash it for you. I expect you to even save at least 100k from it sef.





Oh
What do I know? I never even see garri drink sef.

wideawake naija said...

Kai. I need to learn from you for the future. Wise woman. I'm sure your kids will still be shinny and looking ajeboish. Stay blessed.

jelly said...

Lol, them say na inside soup money some women get pocket money

Anonymous said...

They are very stupid! Nonsense

Anonymous said...

Are you the side chick? Thunder from above strike that your dry yansh! Amunsu

Anonymous said...

Anon 13:46, agbaya no mind your own home oh...be there putting mouth in your BIL's business. Bizzy body...long hissss

Anonymous said...

Anon. Who are we going to ask ? Keep assuming! I'm sure you ate this prawn curry sauce in your dreams. Who even asked you? Ode.

Anonymous said...

Evil man. You don't need to tell us you are poor because only poor men, be it financial or mental, will do what you did. How can you advice him to give money to another woman to shop for his wife??? Gosh! You are both sick.

Anonymous said...

Anon 16:38. You are the ode. Some families are close and not like your disjointed family. Didn't stick my nose he came for advice just like the poster is asking for. And rather than let the matter turn to something else he tried to see things for himself. And he is a grown man to be going around shopping for groceries. It's idiots like you that will see such a man buying things like groceries and start calling him names.
@Anon 18:34... Read the post through again. It's about a way forward to a situation not a permanent solution. Why is the poster friend buying things by himself. He just wanted to make a point that the woman is being wasteful. Some families don't earn as mush as that and they still save. Even if she is a full housewife can't she still save part of it. It's upkeep money not money for rent, school fees or major bills.
Guess a lot of people on this blog are numbskulls who just comment without thinking and have never had a life but come her to form know it all.

Anonymous said...

Relax jare... It's 11th of July... So start preparing

Anonymous said...

Stella. Love you, love your blog but the way you introduced this topic is arrogant by saying 'I hope you are not'. So what if they are? You have to wear people's shoes to know where they are coming from. Some women depend on their husbands because the children are little and need attention especially with all these stories of demonic househelps. Some lost their jobs and haven't got another yet. If you ask many women in this situation they do not want to be a liability. First time commenting in 3 years.

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