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Tuesday, 18 July 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

This is really really really heart breaking....



STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TRUE LOVE CRIPPLED BY OUTCAST BROUHAHA

Complements Aunty Stella and thumbs up for your hard work and good heart. My life's wish is to get to finally meet you someday. You inspire me a whole lot, and it's my prayer that your water keeps boiling.
Please don't include my email. Thanks

I have an issue and I don't know if it's a chronicle or not, please feel free to decide which one it is.

My story:I have been dating my first love in Dec. 26 2001,i had just finished secondary School, I was young then so there was no sex involved (I only wanted to play the hide and seek). At first he was annoying but we kept growing up. We have been together for seventeen years now (we had sex in December 2014 for the first time). 


He proposed, not that he was waiting for the sex to happen though. We reside in different states. I went back to my base while we made plans for marriage by Easter 2015. I sent him to my house for the marriage talks (you know the dates and all). He got the dates to choose from and my family is supposed to also confirm the date vacant so that we can fix our marriage ceremony, at least the opening part.


 But my family started stalling I called to find out why the were developing cold feet and my dad evaded answering me and said I should ask mum. I called and asked and she gave me not just a disappointing answer but a shocker(coming from her) "his family are osu". But she said we will talk about it when I get back for Easter 2015.

A meeting was called when I got back and my dad again couldn't pick a stand instead he asked my brothers to decide and they all said a heart breaking no. The robbed me of my sleep several nights cos all I did was pray and cry until there was no tears again left. My sister accused me of being selfish, trying to marry and making sure others get stuck at home. I couldn't believe that such issue could ever be said in my house. There was anarchy at home caused by me, then I threatened to disappear from the house and never to return (I thought they will be moved but it failed). 


All these times they seem to have forgotten they robbed me but I haven't.
I love him because he convinced me of true love and I can't seem to let go.
I am considering two options either to stay single or to leave the country. I told him we could leave the country and I am willing to do that but he says he does not have money but still I am willing to wait forever until we are able to be together outside this country and far away from home. And if I succeed in leaving I don't think I am ever coming back. 


I cannot throw away everything we had just because of what I don't believe in. And I am loosing my sanity. I also don't want to treat them the way they have treated me. But I have developed a great dislike for Africa for this (I'm sorry to sound like this)

Please stella use your red pen for me and bvs I need your one cent on this. I will be reading all comments please.



*My dear do not blame your family,blame the society and the traidition that refuses to go away!
Should i tell you the truth?Whether you relocate or not,if you marry an OSU,it will affect your immediate siblings and no one will want to come an inch near them...
If you relocate to the end of the world,your offsprings will also get the same treatment of rejection cos your spouse is OSU,unless they will never go near any Nigerian person...even as friends,they will be pushed to the background and receive same treatment.

Please be wise before you make any choice and realise that sometimes love is not enough...If you decide to go ahead and marry that man,even the generation of your Childrens children will blame you when they cry bitter tears of rejection.

I am sorry but i will advise you not to do it..I advise from what i see my friends go thru becos their parents married for love and robbed them of being classified as normal...
This subject is so annoying!




162 comments:

Daenerys_targaryen(For your organic soap and cream���� what's app 08112237061) said...

Hmmmmm

SWEETIE said...

I don't know something like OSU still exist. Since its like this then look else where for love though I know its not gonna be easy but you just have to in order for future purpose

Fan Emmanuel said...

Stella made this comment? Then this case is more serious than I thought!. I just dey pity this poster.

Blackberry said...

If you marry him n tomorrow they treat ur children like outcasts, will you like it?

If u want to remain single cos ur parents are trying to save u and ur future kids from this same thing happening to ur fiance, then remain so. Ur kids will hate u sef that u jeopardised their future cos of love. Love killi me!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Poster,as an Igbo babe,
I will advise you to forget about the guy!...
He no even get money to start with so why do you want to waste your time with him?...

See,Igbos take Osu seriously!!..
I would have advised you to go for him if he is rich but nne,no go enter poverty and Osu curse with clear eyes!...
I don talk my own!...
Osu people are always rich so I wonder what happend to him!...
Maybe generational curse or something!...
Listen to your people!...they will not lead you astray!...
Men never finish except you are ugly and FAT!!...

Anonymous said...

As for your situation now, running away from the country isn't a solution. You can marry without your parent's consent for you are legally an adult. Be ready for whatsoever shunning they will give you and bear your cross patiently.

Did I hear you say; "cry and pray?" To which God: The one that says flee fornication? You've been having sex for years now and you aren't married. No issue with that but please do not bring God into it.

sexy Daddy said...

Poster sometimes love is not all that matters in a marriage! Take this from a married man.Thank you. Let me come and be going......

Tessbaby said...

This Osu thing is tiring I swear. Stella is right about d generational mess it will creat but dont we believe with time dis tins will go away?


I don't even ve N advice. Let dose who truly understand how it works help u. 17 wasted years is no joke.

Anonymous said...

The way ladies and boys interchange "sex and prayers" is alarming these days. One minute you "had sex", the next minute you "prayed and cried". Why don't you choose one?

Cookie said...

Osu still Dey reign???

I used to think if you bear NWOSU, you're an OSU..... Is it true??

Poster, I'm sorry for all you're going through but just hand it over to God....... He alone can calm this storm!! 17YEARS????WOOOOOOOOW!!!!! So Sorry.....

Anonymous said...

Flee fornication. Every sin which a man may practise is without the body, but he that commits fornication sins against his own body. 1 Cor. 6:18

I only quoted the above scripture because you mentioned that you prayed and cried after having sex. Which one do we believe about you?

Anonymous said...

If you are a true Christian, I would have advised you to go ahead but you are a fornicator. You do not have the kind of faith that this voyage requires. and the man you are dating does not seem to have it too.

Greatlady. said...

Hmm. This one is strong.
I do hear of Osu but I don't really know who they are or the curse on them. Can someone put me through?

Bold Marehi said...

It is well. Please take a decision that will benefit all around you.

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

This is deep....
I'll read comments from the traditionalists...
#faithful bv#

Anonymous said...

These girls that fornicate and pray please can you folks tell me how you do it?

Bee10(mummytwins) said...

This is really heart breaking but you know the Osu issue is not a very simple one,but from the beginning you didn't investigate anything about the guy? It is good to investigate oh no matter what? So sorry about your story

Anonymous said...

I don't know much about osu o but don't for anything cut off from your family. I understand they can be very annoying cos they have showed me pepper too. Try to sort it out with them please and stay on your lane afterwards.
If what Stella said about osu is true, please for your sake and your children's don't do it. Men still plenty for life abeg. You guys should have that talk and decide. Don't deprive yourselves, children and fill good sleep please. God bless you

Ms SSS a.k.a stunning slim shady said...

End time chronicle

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

Maybe I need more lessons about this OSU stuff

.....after 17yrs??
Pls is ds very serious to forgo d love of her life?

What is Dangote was an OSU? Would ur family hv ds stand?

What I'm I even saying?? Pls someone come and enlighten me

Jeni_zee said...

Pls as hard as it seems .. let him go πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

Anonymous said...

Pls Stella can u do an expose on this issue . What is the stand of the church on this? What is the way forward? Who is an osu and why exactly are they classified as that ? I have so many questions

Ms SSS a.k.a stunning slim shady said...

All ds OSU talk annoys d hell out of me.... What is it sef? Did Jesus dies for ppl to still remain under d bandage of OSU... Mschew are still myopic n archiac in dia reasoning

Florence Dibs said...

Nawahoooooo
Best advice from u stella
Kudos

Chickyclassy Mee said...

My dear sister Osu thing is real,my cousin who married an osu is dead today,they told him not to marry the girl he insisted,that thing is real in igbo land,Christianity couldn't stop it.please start dating another guy,that's the first thing parents want to know before anyone in a house marries,Osu is a strong one o

Gold Taken said...

Did God call anyone "Osu"? People, we are in the era of GRACE, whatever the case may be.

prettyPrisi said...

This is deep!the Lord is your strength

Olivia Silk said...

SDK I don't agree with you. Again. Lol.

If she leaves the country and marries him, Nothing would happen to her siblings or family.
I for one wouldn't say No to a man just because his sister or brother is married to an Osu.

Many of you all who claim to be Christians do not know anything about Christianity.
The worst part of it all is that If I say,"Go talk to your priest/pastor" they will tell you to run too.

People who do not know God are everywhere.

The fact remains that we need to break that thinking, SDK you especially, cuz your red ink even made the whole thing worse.
Her generation? Really?

The earlier we end this now the better, cuz tomorrow it could be your daughter or son. And you wouldn't know how he/she would handle the rejection.

Poster, If you know God and you hear from Him, ask Him what to do. He will tell you. Period.

Adadioramma said...

I hate discussing this topic of a thing. Poster I am sure you are from IMO State (Mbano) precisely. There is nothing you can do about it. But for the sake of your siblings, don't do it. Pray for God to see both of you through. All the best.

IBUKUNOLUWA said...

This OSU thing annoys the shit out of me

But wait poster ,didn't u do a background check before now?

This one thing about marriage I don't like...

Check religion
Check church denomination
Check family background
Check HIV status
Check genotype
Check for Dv
Check for state of origin
Check his family especially mil and sils

Too much wahala jare

Sabongida Ora cutest said...

So pls who are those then suppose to marry the people from OSU, are they suppose to remain single
Someone pls educate me about this tradition
I don't understand it's severity and implication
Why the fuss?

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...Stella I don't think you can advise her not to do what her heart is set upon. This is 2017 and yes we Nigerians still be live with age old traditions that have wiped happiness from people's lives but who are to judge and day she can't be happy in her marriage OSU or not. What if she marries a wife beater or even a murderer...do you know she will never forgive her family for that?

You should advise her to think well about it...like I said this is 2017...its time we did away with some traditions abeg else we continue to live in darkness.

Exotic Ray said...

As far as I am concerned your happiness matters most. Just follow your heart. It is possible before your own children grow up to get married the stupid tradition will be abolished besides who says your offspring must marry from Nigeria? Put everything in prayer. God will see you through if he is the man God has chosen for you. After all God has the final say. Stay blessed.

Super Model said...

So sorry about that and i pray Jesus will fix it. Even me i will not marry an OSU bc it will break my family and on the long run it may affect my children they may suffer discrimination based on this but God over everything i pray you find money and elope.

Anonymous said...

Please girls should learn to introduce whomsoever they are dating as early as first month to their parents and guardians. That is the way to avoid these kinds of stories. women should know that they are the one to cry "age not on our side . . ." once relationships flips downhill. It helps us to make up our minds early.

Pastor's Daughter said...

wooow what is Osu? so what happens to the Osu people? dont they get married?





why should i come and pay for a crime i know nothing about? hian let me join you in reading comments dear

The Lifted said...

This is so unfortunate! I don't know why people keep holding onto this,in this age? even as Christians? too bad.
Yet they will go to the white man's country & start shouting about racism. Isn't this worse? archaic things keep frustrating innocent humans!
U can let it go, u can continue with the marriage plan if u can deal with everything that will come after...May God help u both.

Babyface Assassin said...

Sometimes love is not enough.
Sensibility has to prevail.
May God guide you.

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

If to say you just met him, I would have advised you quit but considering the number of years you have been together, my dear you dont need to travel out, just marry him in court and forget everyone. Its not easy to give up in this kind of love and marrying another is just punishment to both of you cos he will never have your heart and things will never seem right.

ARIANNA said...

Lol, come and be going o

da diva said...

Stella biko forget dat "if u marry him it will affect her siblings " ppl are still doing osu and ohu in this age and time? Hia! Nne,if I were u, I'm leaving this country with my man so long as I love him.

Let me tell u one story, in my village gan, there's this part of my village we don't inter-marry, my village n dat village don't marry atallll, deputy gov of my state is from my village and when he wanted to marry he went to marry from dat village, her ppl said over their dead body Will they allow their daughter marry him. D girl insisted and got married to him,den he wasn't d deputy gov ooo, he was an ordinary servant to d past governor. Now,he has built houses for the wife's family and all of them ve accepted him as an inlaw,why? Cos money is now talking. So dear,your family is saying no probably cos ur bf is broke,if he was a very rich guy,by d time he sends two or three of ur brothers abroad, build house for your parents,I don't think you would be here writing chronicles.

Find a way and leave please.

Anonymous said...

"bandage?"
When did being osu a road crash?

Ezenwanyi said...

Even if he is rich, don't even try it and if you insist, one your relatives will kill you.



What is this Love sef?

Osu?? Tufiakwa biko

Gold Taken said...

Totally agree with your last paragraph, OliviaπŸ‘

Chike TEFLON said...

Poster if you love your unborn kids and your sisters, then forget about the guy... Pele

ARIANNA said...

Dear Poster,
It's quite painful being denied of what you deserve, so so painful.
But, I'll advise you take some time to cool off.
Think about the consequences of your proposed action 10years down the line.
When the weight of marriage comes on you, which family will you lean on for support?
What answers will you give to your children as per the separation between you and your family?
The world is a small place and you cannot determine who they relate to. When they eventually find out the truth and be rejected for it, can you bear their anger?

There are sacrifices we have to make in life just to protect our tomorrow.

Be wise

Dietitian Nezz! said...

Osu shld marry an osu too
Poster never you take such risk cos of love that may go sour tmoro.

Pastor's Daughter said...

hahahahahahahahahahahah couldnt help but laugh at your hilarious comments. toh we cant continue to sin forever na.










kwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa

Miz Selena said...

Dear poster, just go with stella's advise. There is more to marriage than love alone. At the long run, you will look back and thank your God for not making such mistake.
It isn't going to be easy...17years isn't 17days.
Think about your generations to come and the consequences of this singular move you are about to make. Is it really worth it?
God will bring someone else to you ok?
It is well with you.
E-hugs.

Pastor's Daughter said...

hahahahahahahahahaha anon you again?







we haff hear na. is it your prayer?

Anonymous said...

Girl..dislike Nigeria and not Africa..Not every African country think's like that..

Eka Joy said...

So the Osu killed her or she died of natural causes???

BTW, I think the traditional rulers need to come out and abolish this Osu thing. People should be able to live, marry, mingle freely with everyone. This is really barbaric

Pastor's Daughter said...

we get high, we gbensh then the following morning we blame alcohol and ask forgiveness. thats it e no hard.





*hangs leg on the wall*

Eka Joy said...

Well said.

Anonymous said...

If you marry him, you may cry for the rest of your life because of what you are going to face but if you leave him, you might only cry now and laugh later.

Fan Emmanuel said...

It have do na. You've forgotten that the Bible said in the mist of multitude words there lay sins. You too na sinner. Stop littering this post with your judgy judgy

Pastor's Daughter said...

oho!!! help me ask. if the guy was super rich. am not sure she would be sending in this chronicle as her family will be all over the place jumping like grasshopper.






its sad and all i can say right now is sorry.

Anonymous said...

Osu thing is real o. If the guy is rich they will be partial about it a lil bit. But he's now poor too? Wow!!! Run for your life o.

Anonymous said...

Who are you to tell her not to call God to her situation are you God? He who has no sin should cast stones at others... Matthew 7vs 1: Judge not...

Ezenwanyi said...

Caste systems are horrible and very wrong.. but then, it here and i for one hate discrimination of any sort but Igboland is not the only place with caste sy

Cynthia Iyede said...

This Osu thing is just so annoying. The funniest part of it is that most of the people carrying it on their heads call themselves Christians. Na wa!

Poster, please leave the guy and trust God for someone better. It's not easy but you'll be fine. It's never advisable to let your family turn their back on you in cases of marriage, you need them Also try to do your findings about the next guy you'll meet before taking things far. It is well

IBUKUNOLUWA said...

I'm waiting to read explanations too

Anonymous said...

Please can someone explain this OSU thing to we that does not know the meaning... Abeg

Anonymous said...

This wan pass me ooo. Calling all Igbos, you guys are talking about Biafra & stuff. Don't you guys think it is time y'all come together and decide to do away with this OSU cast system in modern times? I mean by now it should be clear that all humans are equal under God. Abeg make una come explain why this is so difficult. Poster I feel for you deeply. All I will say to you is wisdom is profitable to direct.

IBUKUNOLUWA said...

Almost two decades o

Monkeynofine said...

Me too to see Stella wrote that long episode ontop OSU itch calls for alarm.. I feel for the poster but she needs to move the hell on!

Monkeynofine said...

Hunmmm the matter serious ni....

Monkeynofine said...

So this is thing still dey exist? Chai

Onefine Girlsha said...

They marry themselves.

Monkeynofine said...

Now I believe wen my friend told me that it's mostly OSU guys that marry from other tribes because it is hard for non igbos to decode, now I believe.

Anonymous said...

So instead of reading for her secondary school exams she should have been checking for πŸ‘†??? Nawao

Rredalert said...

All those under anonymous repeating comments about the poster having sex and praying.? Why don't you leave the judgement for God.you accusers of brethren,,, are you saying because she has committed sin she doesn't deserve God's intervention in her life.......? Became full what you say lest defame yardstick be used for you,are all of you righteous!,.? May God grant you all wisdom.
As for the osu caste system,hmmmmmmmn I thought it is a thing of the past.I was shocked at the strengths of Stella's advice, I thought the osu caste system is fast loosing it's significance in the igbo system. Nawa oh
If it were to be a white man she was to marry NKo .?
Where is the poster from SELF.
I am from MBAISE but I don't see people fussing over that issue anymore.
Na wahoo

Anonymous said...

Poster Biko leave the guy ohh, I know It's painful, but I experienced exactly the same thing, but hey ,I have to let go as nnwa afo. I would have gotten married last year December but when my people found out everything was cancelled. Guess what the guy was rich, but I have to let go

Anonymous said...

They marry themselves

Ezenwanyi said...

Caste systems are all everywhere and steps has been taken in the past to gey rid of it...

Catholic church @owerri declared osu extint and threatened that anyone will be excommunicated. But when the priest's younger sister was to be married to an Osu, he kicked against the Union..


Igwe Orizu, also came down hard on the osu caste system, he abolished it and he was told to allow his children marry an osu, he vehemently refused...


We all have an Osu friends and colleagues,we play and eat together but when it comes to marriage,it's a no go area. Who will take the first shot? You?


There are consequences for marrying an Osu and they are very serious.

Your family will be ostracized, no buying or selling,they can never partake in any active events, xannot aspire for any position eg Nze, govenor, etc etc..


Most Osu i know are very brilliant, beautiful and wealthy but will marry them or alliw my kids and other relatives to marry them? God forbid!i have great ambitions for myself famiky and wouldn't anything to down those dreams...


To any Osu person here, i apologise if my comments sounds somehow

ukwu dimond said...

Listen to Stella

SDK mama said...

Sometimes it is good to make a relationship open, not hide and seek game. So that ur family will advice u earlier. Pls don't run away with him just think bcos that love may fade away.

Anonymous said...

The only to break it is for the king daughter or son to marry an Osu in my village, but they decline reason we are still in that shit.

Anonymous said...

Abeg shut up!

Anonymous said...

Your sister didn't die because she married osu. Her time was up and God called her, simple

Anonymous said...

Osu in this modern day and age? And you'll see the highly religious and enlightened ones being afraid of that nonsense. Well, it's only the igbos that give a Shit about those things. Thank goodness my siblings and I can marry whoever the hell we like as long as the person is responsible, has sense and has good qualities. Who sends whether you are from a certain clan or not. If you wanna marry a yoruba person, we will follow you and dobale, if it is igbo, we will pay the money, if na Hausa, we go follow you chop cane... *drops trouser and flashes bum bum*

Anonymous said...

Ooh you are back. I heard most of you show up from hiding once Stella mention give away.... Welcome back o.. πŸƒ

Mrs T said...

It depends on the town you came from oh. I heard of one family that was osu in my place. They decided to leave the community totally one day and the whole town spearheaded by the church stopped it and removed whatever curse and right now,they socialize with everyone in the community.i know Anglican church in my place is strong,in fact all the church in my town fought very well against it and it yielded fruits. You can't see anyone being referred to as osu in my town.yes I'm from Ananbra. but it's still strong in some parts of abia and Imo.my hubby is from umuahia and he later told me they made an enquiry about my family if we are osu? This is someone that has spent most of his life outside the country.its a no no if your from such place and mbano.its not serious in Enugu and Anambra state believe me.

Lily Rose said...

How do u know God didn't bring this one? Abi does God recognise Osu? No He doesn't! It's all man made tradition and God doesn't adjust His will
to fit our traditions!
It's high time u African christians choose between ur traditional worship or God. You keep confusing and cheating yourselves because u want to merge both. Believing in Osu is being a traditionalist. Please, stop deceiving yourselves. Christianity or Traditionalist? You surely can't be both because they are contradictory to each other. Pick a damn struggle ooo

Lily Rose said...


It's high time u African christians choose between ur traditional worship or God. You keep confusing and cheating yourselves because u want to merge both. Believing in Osu is being a traditionalist. Please, stop deceiving yourselves. Christianity or Traditionalist? You surely can't be both because they are contradictory to each other. Pick a damn struggle ooo

Sista Jane said...

Thank you Eka joy. Haba. Whats all these osu talk na? so osu pple are not human or what? They are not entitled to love and be loved?
Look at the advice pple are dishing out? Wat about the people that are referred to as osu? Did they choose to be born osu?? Pls africans lets help ourselves. Let all these barbaric and wicked traditions stop. Let discrimination stop for God sake. What if an osu person is reading this? How do u want them to feel? Nawa o.
Look @ stella's advice sef? So sad.
If you rly love the guy, i will advise u go ahead but first let ur parents see reasons wif u. Cos the bible says we shld honor our father and mother.
Btw anyone care to explain d meaning of osu? I know it means outcast buh wats the story behind it? Thanks in advance.

Ezenwanyi said...

Will i allow*

I have freat ambitions for myself and familyand wouldn't want anything to hold down those dreams**


Typos.

Jasmine said...

My concern is about the family.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hahahahahahahaha...
Is Ezenwanyi back for good? Or she want to do us the more you look..

I know an Osu man that is an igwe in a community in Enugu state so I disagree!...
Nne,money answereth all!!...

Hannah Idowu Dideolu said...

Heavenly Father wants us to come unto him in prayers especially when we have erred. We must however be willing to correct our ways. Come as you are He says but do not plan to stay as you are.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

EzeMoney!!...
We missed you!..
Bikonu,stay a little cos I know you are disappearing soon..

Monkeynofine dey there...
It's still in existence..hope you are cool?

Anonymous said...

@Mumu Anon. Can u date for 17yrs without sex????

All dis sinners forming saint...

Anonymous said...

The only thing I can say about this matter is that pple are selfish, just because our parents didn't marry for love they refuse us marrying for love too. Poster I pray God gives you peace in your heart cos I knw exactly how it feels as i'm in a similar situation. This is why I like oyinbo pple, non dependent on any body family or not. Mtcheeeew radarada. I dey vex gaaan ni sef

Miss Juliet said...

If we can't pray to God once we sin then we can never pray to God cos we always sin everyday! Is fornication the only sin? If she can't cry to God cos she had sex den when you lie don't cry to God too

jelly said...

At times love is not enough

Super Model said...

They marry their fellow OSU or non igbos

Anonymous said...

It is not true .
Nwosu has a different meaning
And Nwa Osu is another thing on its own.people that are not Igbo always get it mixed up.

Super Model said...

they get married to themselves or other tribes esp calabar, edo and Yoruba.

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Lmao please this is time to show mercy

Rachel said...

Best Advice

Super Model said...

they get married to themselves or other tribes esp calabar, edo and Yoruba.

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Hmmm is this really our own Ezemoney
Oke nwanyi nno

Rachel said...

Shikenah

Adeniji Bisi said...

Anon16:41...u are cray cray


MC pinky

Adeniji Bisi said...

Anon15:09

If I may ask....are u God the father, the son and the holy spirit


MC pinky

Adeniji Bisi said...

Pastors daughter,,,u get time oooo

Awon Omo esu parading themselves as Omo olorun


MC pinky

Anonymous said...

Nobody has married osu for here?
Or all of una don turn biracial? Kikikkkikikkkki.

Make una tell us how far.
I'm just wondering will Osu be part of Biafra?
Or Nnamdi will tell them to go and create their own state?? Na kweshion I ask.

The people carrying osu for head are deacons and deconesses in their church es oh. Carry Hallelujah challenge like expired gala for head. Your hypocrisy is what makes your religion so distasteful to others.

Anonymous said...

Poster I advise you. .don't go ahead with that relationship again... Yes it is painful.. But please put an end to it



Don't say you don't believe in tradition Le being OSU.. .truthfully, it exist and it still does


God will give you another man


That's my own two cent






@Anonymous Orubebe

Anonymous said...

Thanks Olivia

KING XOXO MYSTERY

Pastor's Daughter said...

oooh ok. so is Beverly Osu an Osu too? abi its just a name? are the calabar and edo people Osu too?






what do i know sef?

Pastor's Daughter said...

dont mind them as if we care.








at the end of the day no be dem go judge we sinner.

Nwanyi Di ya huru n'anya said...

Not until my Iku aka did i realize the meaning of Nwosu cos dear hubby bears that surname. His people explained to us what It meant. It is NWA BATA OSU. Its meaning being that "when a child is born festivities begin". It was shortened as NWOSU

Anonymous said...

@Queen and boss, the community is in my LGA, Oji-River. We actually hav 2 igwe's in 2 different autonomous community that are Osu but wont mention them. The Two if them are bastardly richhhhh Mehn

Anonymous said...

Igbos are the most complicated set of people ever.
I dated someone from Enugu for 3years. We broke up because I am from Delta. Asaba to be precise.
I leave them to God.

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

My Dear I am from Imo State..Isiala Mbano to be precise..We take this osu thing so serious but I heard some parts of Anambra dont really anything to it..I am even marvelled when I see enlightened people talk with so much illiteracy about this OSU thing but since no one can change it for now take the following steps...I agree with Stella..My dear no matter how you run, you cant run away from your roots..NEVER!! Please forget the guy..Because you have known him for 16 years does not mean he is the one for you or you must marry him..Go on your knees and pray...And stop thinking about the bomb sex you had with him to lay claim to him...No matter what you do , they are your family..All these gragra is not necessary, u have to pipe down and love with your head and not your pussy...It is not easy but you have got to try..But Mehn these OSUS can be stinkly rich sha o, Say What!!!!

Bro Fide said...

Thank You hundred times Lily Rose!!!

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Let me educate your guys..These Osu, ume and ndiala..Ndialas are the freeborns but OSU' is an lbo word for 'Outcast'. It is simply a word used to describe a person dedicated to a deity. No one harms, interacts or marries an OSU.
History has it that it all started during the slave trade era. Men who felt insecured and weak, and those who could not fight off kidnappers or did not want to lose their family members to kidnappers who sell victims to humam traffickers or to the white slave dealers resort to dedicating their families to some powerful deities. Any person or animal dedicated to a deity bears a mark of identity and is feared to touch or harm. So kidnappers then feared to touch such people because the know the consequences.
So it was that an osu man could only marry an osu woman. With passage of time osu people multipled because all the children born or their descendants became OSU automatically.(culled from Nairaland)

Inimitable said...

Your people killed your cousin, simple. People go the extra mile to remove the stain from their lineage.

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Osus are dedicated to Alusi...we have UME but it is grouped under OSU..

Bro Fide said...

Best comment ever!!!

The scripture says God has translated us from the kingdom of darkness into his own personal kingdom and so we shouldn't allow ourselves be entangle with the yoke of bondage. apparently, this osu of a thing is a bondage

SMH for Africans. What are we doing 21st century?!?!

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ @pastors daughter.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

My church member married her Osu husband and they are living happily ever after. Oh Well... what do I even know ?

Ms SSS a.k.a stunning slim shady said...

*died

*Nigerians are

Monkeynofine said...

Ooooh my Queen with the capital Q, I am fine ...Thanks dear😍😘

aliu yusuf said...

Hmmm dat is bulshit

Bro Fide said...

Stella wrote and I quote:

"If you relocate to the end of the world,your offsprings will also get the same treatment of rejection cos your spouse is OSU,unless they will never go near any Nigerian person...even as friends,they will be pushed to the background and receive same treatment."

Now to start with, not every Nigerian agrees with the osu caste and not all gives the fuck about the supposed "consequences"

Stella, the way you put your comment makes it sound as though everyone in Nigeria recognises the tradition. And I'm surprised

Osu or whatever they call it has no stand if people do not accrued respect to it. It is just a tradition set up by people and respected by people and that is why it is still alive.

The most annoying part is that People who profess to be Christians are the ones propagating this old invalid dehumanizing odd believe.

Christ had translated us from the kingdom of darkness unto his personal kingdom and at such we ain't under the bondage of any osu

Osu has died thousands years ago when Christ says it's finished on the cross of Calvary
Osu has been demolished when Christ arose from the dead

Please we need to start a movement to permanently abolish this so called traditional belief

They should be a hashtag or anything that will permanently seal this tradition

I'm so sad that we have to face this type of believe in 2017.

Anonymous said...

She did not tell us that it was a cry and prayer for repentance. and the issue of judgment? Know your scriptures.
12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13 God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”[a] 1 Cor. 5

My two kobo said...

Truth be told,you marry a man,you marry his family!its Africa! OSU or not,if your family does not accept him,you can never have peace. You can damn the consequences and do as you wish but...well,what Stella said up there is the bitter truth. Think of your future and generations to come...
Kai! This thing dey pain sha! Na wa!

My two kobo said...

Stella pls open a folder for updates on some Chronicles. The very memorable ones...in fact all the chronicles. I still think of some of the stories I've read here honestly...

Stella Igbokei said...

It's painful but you have to put an end to the relationship.

I pray God guide u

Anonymous said...

Dear Writer, I want to tell you to f**k the your parents and family up for using OSU as a reason not to marry your love. Go with him and damn the consequences. God did not make any man OSU. It is man-made and what man-make, man-can-break.

The reason we are so backward in Africa is because we allow superstitions that even Christianity condemns. My dear if you can get out of town even to another country and if the two of you have a strong resolve and deep faith to take your destiny into your hands. You will survive the odds.

Please do not be afraid... many people were laughed at and scorned for doing something different and even considered as taboo but were found to be right after all. With the Lord on your side, no one can defeat you.

Embark on this journey of your life with the man you love. Your entire family want to keep you captive within their own ideology.

Remember that the stone rejected by the builders always become the corner stone. Move away from negativity and free yourself from the darkness and ignorance of your people. If you are willing to take the risk, happiness lies on the other side. Believe it.

Hilary Clinton said...

Poster, the things I've heard about this osu thing aren't nice at all. It's sad, it's archaic tradition, but it still exists.

I don't suggest you go in with the marriage. Firstly because your family isn't in support, which means no support system, no people to fall back on. Nothing. Just you and bobo. Secondly, it's not just about your love, it's about the stigma and emotional and psychological torture you'll be bringing on your children, yourself, your parents and siblings. Wherever you run to, the issue will still be there my dear. Moreover, if you were osu, would le boo have defied his family to marry you? Just saying o. Finally, why has bobo never told you his family is osu, all these years??? Maybe it would have been easier for you to decide if you knew years ago.
Please dear, don't go on. Hugs and Kisses.

SouljaGal*** said...

igbos like money buh not in this osu issue oh! if u like be as rich as dangote, an osu will never be a tittled man, ichie, igwe or chief. i know of an osu young man who bribed the eze to give him chieftaincy title buh the king declined. Obviously the reason ur dep Gov and ur ppl don't inter marry is maybe land dispute in the olden days or something similar but not something as serious as osu.

Beth said...

You must be new here cos Stella has done exposΓ© about this again and again

ziiij said...

Thank you very much. How people believe in this nonsense still baffles me. That is how I would have missed a man I married because of this Osu thing. 11 years after, I'm still thanking God that we went ahead. God will deliver all the people that are still practicing this. Is terrible calling someone God created an outcast

Anonymous said...

It is very serious in Enugu oh @ Mrs T, say the one you know.

Anonymous said...

What is Osu? If both of you are in Christ. You are new creations. Your family need christ

ziiij said...

Thank you very much. How people believe in this nonsense still baffles me. That is how I would have missed a man I married because of this Osu thing. 11 years after, I'm still thanking God that we went ahead. God will deliver all the people that are still practicing this. Is terrible calling someone God created an outcast

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Anon 18:20...
Gbam!!
Iji ya!..
I bu onye Achi or Inyi?...I like una abacha ncha with ighu and smoked fish,garden egg washed down with palmy!!...
I dey enter una town steady..very correct people wey dey treat visitors well...

ziiij said...

Just listen to yourself.Osu killed your Cousin, really? Nonsense!

Anonymous said...

@Mrs.T it is serious in Enugu, I'm from there. They hush about it but it's serious.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

So because the Enugu nigga dumped you that's why you called us complicated?...
If you say the guy is from Anambra,I would have believed you but Enugu people no send!...
Dude no wan marry you simple!..

Hadey Halaba said...

Its so painful especially when it gat to do with one's first love, more so one u dated for 17+years.

However, not all first love end up in marriage and unfortunately, yours is one of such.

Tradition, Religion, Science and family play a part in determining who we marry.

My advice, try to be strong enuf to find love again. Or just date another tribe and see where it takes you.

So sorry dear

Hadey Halaba said...

Ms SSS so angry ..... She murdered her tenses and spellings

Hadey Halaba said...

In ancient times (even bibilcal days), parents pick spouses for their children.

If civilization had watered down the right of parents to choose partners for their children, must we now say as long as we are comfortable with who we want, they have no say? Capital NO.

Honor your father and mother so that your days may be long .....

It will soon be our turn when our children are all grown and want to get married.

Hadey Halaba said...

And who says marrying an OSU or anyone for that matter automatically guarantees happiness?

Its like you advising an AS to marry an AS or even an SS to marry an AS all in d name of love and happiness.

When d wahala start, no be family go dey run helter skelter

Hadey Halaba said...

God bless you.

Yemi7up said...

If OSU is still in existence what what will happen to them in world of Biafra? I pity them.

Anonymous said...

@Anonymous 20:13, your stand out reasoning from that of the maddening crowd, shows you are an enlightened mind and a courageous person. The Osu/caste system of anyone or groups is man-made to serve numerous societal purposes and wrong on many fronts. Even more, when youths keep on doing what their forbears have been doing without actually questioning such despicable traditions nor possessing the courage to deviate from the pack, how does development/progress ever take place? How does one make a case against racism/sexism or other "isms" when many still believe in Osu? Could it be that many Naijas, whether at home or abroad, are merely educated illiterates without soul or spirit? QED@AllTribesMatter

Anonymous said...

And the free countries like American and European can not have a president or prime minister that doesnt believe in Bible. Every society have it's system and orders

Anonymous said...

Queen of this blog or shit! You are CRAZY AND STUPID for suggesting if she was fat! You're such a fucking idiot!!

Anonymous said...

Taa mechie onu. I know osus who are chiefs, ministers, etc. very prominent rich people. Na who dey poor him own Osu dey smell.

Anonymous said...

And poster,after all the suffering, the man will still cheat on you!

Anonymous said...

Anon u r bi polar. Or uneducated. Read it well. She didn't call her fat. I am sure u r fat to take such offence

Anonymous said...

Ume were placed lower than osu. The ume only married ume and their crime was that them and their children always died. Not even osu used to agree to marry them. Modern studies have shown that these umes were SS carriers who married each other and had further ss who died. See olden days!!

Anonymous said...

My dear I'm not Igbo but have seen what this osu issue is all about. It is serious. My osu bros and sis pls try and date from ther tribes. In the south south where I'm from such things do not matter. In fact I know many osus married to plenty people who r not Igbo and they r happy. Spare urself this heartache and use this inter tribal marriage to phase it out.

Anonymous said...

@ Mrs T.Am Shocked you said your husband is from Umuahia and Osu is still strong in some parts of Abia. Please what part precisely? I am a full Umuahian woman and Osu is almost not in Abia state as a whole.You can only find it in Umuopara and its just a family.so please lecture me again.Let us say what we know. Am shocked at ur analysis.

Anonymous said...

Let's get the point. There's a big difference btw going to God in prayer with due acknowledgement, true remorse and repentance for our sins (whatever the sin) and going to God without any of these (that is, in the belief that we can continue in our waywardness with no need for repentance). From my understanding of Scripture, the former is what is pleasing to God. Concerning the post, it is a very sad situation. However, life is in stages. What may be rocking ur boat today, may not get ur second glance tomorrow. Poster, I can't really understand the closeness of ur relationship with this person, if in all the 17 years u were together u were unable to get this information about him and he didn't tell u, even at the point of marriage. Ur ppl had to find out themselves. U can never really run away from ur family nevertheless; and in this instance that won't even solve anything. Who will be there for u if things start acting up in ur marriage somewhere down the line? Would ur guy have done the same for u? I don't need to tell u who men are. It's women who constantly like to lose their heads in love. Men tend to show more pragmatism in these things. I personally do not support the caste system but why throw one's self and one's family and children into avoidable controversy and rejection, going forward, all in the name of 'love'. U are not rejecting ur guy as an individual, u just don't want to be drawn into something u don't understand and can't make sense of. It's a general belief that the caste system will fade into history, if the issue is not constantly revisited every now and again but I don't see how that can even be when marriage in parts of Igboland cannot occur without visiting the issue. Go think it over.

Anonymous said...

E reach to ask, abeg!

Anonymous said...

Dating no be marriage. If u like date a million years. If conji dey worry u, go marry. All the arguments in this world don't change God's word on the matter. Extra-marital sex is sin and sin seperates one from God. He who has ears, let him hear.

Anonymous said...

U no know say drunkenness na sin?

Anonymous said...

Well said.

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