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Wednesday, July 05, 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A MARRIAGE THAT KEEPS RECORDS OF WRONGS


Good day FAM, Stella I love u so much and I mean it, please hide my ID.

 My story is a long one, please, kindly read as I pour my heart out... I'm a 27years old now, got married Dec 2015 (traditionally) to my loving husband, I got married a virgin, I was so scared of sex, the fear was bigger than me, couldn't imagine how a big dick could enter a hole that was so small, this fear destroyed the foundation of my marriage..


 My hubby was very understanding with me, we stayed for 7months, bought lub, visited the doc for counselling yet I couldn't.... Until one night he got frustrated, beat me blue/black and forcefully penetrated me, I was in pains from the beating but was happy that my nightmare was over and I can now enjoy my marriage at last!


 But that was when my problems started, hubby got angry at the slightest provocation, and became violent, that he pitied himself for waiting for me that long, that it wasn't worth it cos he has never enjoyed having sex with me.Hmm, I was patience since I knew it was my fault (fear) and begged him for forgiveness but he hits me at the slightest provocation now, he abuse me emotionally, verbally and treat me with such intense hatred.


 He has a file where he record my daily faults in it and he's ready to read it to whoever that cares to listen. We don't discuss anything at all, we live like a slave and her Master. He wants a child desperately now cos he just turned 40. I'm a graduate (2:1) but I don't have a job for now, with this he's behaviour towards me, if I let myself get pregnant for him what will become my fate... 


He doesn't even want to feed me again cos i am not yet pregnant for him. Always telling me that i am in his house just to eat free food, that i should do and go back to my father's house or can't my father feed me? All Because i am not working..


Hmm, I see a man that can seize my child from me and send me away, cos that's all he wants (a child) I can't type all I have been through living with this man, cos trust me, it will be too long,.. he's very hot tempered and unforgiving, he still keep to mind things that happened while we were dating... but i am not a saint either, i am very blunt and I bear my mind on my sleeves.. 

But with all this beating and ill treatment I still love him and can't break free. Please I need advise from matured BVs on what to do cos I can't handle this all alone.



*Just WOW


126 comments:

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    1. At poster, your marriage sounds contractual, like u guys didn't date, it's pretty obvious u were not ready for marriage and you got in, now you have locked your husband in bondage and he is equally venting his frustration on you. Unfortunately it's never an option to hit a woman.
      7 months without gbenshing after marriage, now you don't want to give him a child. My dear, your husband is in bondage.

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    2. Dear Poster, I understand what you mean;to love someone so much and can't break free but pls be objective in whatever decision you make.Think about the long term repercussions of that any decision;will you be happy if you think about it 5,10 years down the line? We can offer advice all day but you wear the shoe, you are living that life so you'll know best the consequences of whatever action you take.
      Your spouse is childish,sorry to add this! Writing down offenses? Is he 4 or 40? *kmt* Have a heart to heart with him. There may be something brewing underneath...speaking from experience. He is angry about much more than you see on the surface.
      Last but not least,speak to God bout this. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you utterance when you ready to speak with him. It is well.

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    3. If I knew it was one of those "I got married a virgin" chronicles I wouldn't have opened it. Abeg I'm enjoying my vacay with my sugar daddy I'm out

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    4. Lol baddest puta.

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    5. Smh @ this poster.Thank God i didn't marry when i was naive, without purpose and living in fear.

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    6. Stupid woman, what advice do you want? Someone treats you like a slave, beats you and you still love him...die there oh....mumunatu....odelicious..

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    7. Hilary Clinton5 July 2017 at 22:31

      Poster, what exactly do you still love about this man? I'm happy you have the sense not to get pregnant for him yet. Please, package yourself and leave him. He abuses you physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, in every way, yet you love him???!!!

      Who read Dami (of beat FM's) tweets about her exroomate who is HIV positive now and a single mum because of this kind of "love".

      Poster, please, LEAVE HIM. In Jesus name, leave him before he kills you and buries you for your parents. How many people marry as virgins today? How many people are as smart as you? Do you see how well you write? You're just 27, you're full of good and potential, please save yourself NOW or regret it for the rest of your life!!!

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    8. Hilary Clinton5 July 2017 at 22:34

      I know people will say it's not easy to leave a marriage. It isn't - most especially when children are involved and the woman is not financially independent.

      Madam poster, it's only you. Even if you're squating with a friend, and eating garri, there is hope for you than if you die in that man's house. He's a monster!

      I'm out of words in fact, you know what to do.

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    1. "But with all this beating and ill treatment I still love him and can't break free. Please I need advise from matured BVs on what to do cos I can't handle this all alone" So what do you want from us since you have made up your mind to die or live a miserable life. Are you so blind? Don't you know it's God helping you and giving you a second chance by not letting you get pregnant? You better find your way back to your father's house. Nekwa gi, nekwa onwu gi. Ogwu ka ora m n' onu.

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  3. Really! I can't deal, I am coming

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    1. Its obvious you don't even love yourself to start with, cos I don't understand how you can love someone that treat you with so much contempt.... I'd advice you give the marriage a break. Leave him alone for a while, go stay with a friend or something and try loving yourself.

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    1. I hope her husband gets to fifty shades darker abeg,this is too much

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    2. Hahahahah

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  5. You two need to see a counsellor that's if he agress. Don't forget to go your knees

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    1. on her knees to give him BJ? okay, that might help.

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  6. Mumu poster...
    Stay there until he kills you!...
    You should be happy you don't have a child for him yet!,..
    Leave that marriage biko...
    I'm sure he is a scorpio!,..he should go and look for his match

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    1. LOL. She already knows what to do abeg.

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    2. Wetin Scorpio do you? 😂😂😂
      It seems you have issues with that zodiac sign

      They are assholes anyway! 🙄

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    3. All this people that will shout for you to leave your husband as if it's them they'll leave just like that. You already know what to do poster. Don't ever play the victim cos you'll agree that he's been patient with you. Speak to your husband very well he may be seeing you as childish lol, scared of sex. You have to try to be independent for him to see that you're capable of achieving something without him. And try to be more mature.

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    4. Qwin, don't you think it's her spirit husband that is making the sex painful?????

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    5. Babbitt you are sick and utterly stupid for your comment..so cos she is childish he should be physically abuse and keep record of wrongs? So you think she must die in the marriage? You truly have low self esteem. No body deserves to be treated like trash in the name of marriage....people have left and are happier... she needs to leave that man before he kills her

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  7. You are living in bondage. How long do you want to continue to live like a slave in your own house. To be treated with contempt and disrespect. Pick up your life and do something that makes you happy. Read books that develop ur confidence and self esteem. And probably take classes on self defence if you still want to stay with him. But you should know that this is abuse and your life is important

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  8. "But with all this beating and ill treatment I still love him and can't break free."

    😑😬
    With this statement above, 👆Its well o, may d Lord restore ur self worth

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    1. Na Wetin put me off be that

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    2. She's right. Women always feel that way with their first. they tend to love the first man that took their virginity. There is some kind of bond that is formed. I don't know how to explain it. I still love the first person I slept with. I'm married but I still love him. We didn't break up on a bad note. I broke up with him because of distance as I had to travel out for a 2yrs course. And by the time I came back, we had both moved on but we still had that love especially from my side Infact I had a boyfriend but sometimes I will go see him and we will make the best of love. Oh, our love making was made in heaven. I haven't had that kind of sex again. Like we would go and go and go and not get tired. Infact if I see him tomorrow, ill still sleep with him. So I avoid him

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    3. LMAO...it is spiritual!

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    4. anonymous 15:35 pls don't generalise. just speak for yourself, who 1st luv help? and mind you, our break up wasn't bitter. Just like yours, it was distance and we moved on. i can't even believe i lost it to him when there are better guys, i wonder what i was thinking.

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    5. All this one na Totology....your husband no get head that's why you still think about your Ex. Special Bond my foot, abeg leave story joor!!

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    6. Yea at yellow sisi she doesn't love her husband forget talk abeg.

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  9. Eleyi gidi gan

    You still love him?

    Issorait

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    1. She still love him ,that's not even the problem here, but her asking what she can do cos she can't handle it all alone. Should we come and help you receive the beating??.
      Pls carry your legs and walk away,since you v not had a child for him yet. A petty man that keeps record like a kindergarten boy. Is that one a man???
      If you keep staying there and delaying to be pregnant(which is God's doing as at when He wants to bless you), your husband will soon go out and have a child outside cos that's his sole aim of marriage from my deduction in this little writeup

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    2. U still love him
      Issorait...
      May brain fall on u before he kills u

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  10. Dont worry stay there. In short go and watch War Room part 2 and 3 you will get your answer.

    Now i see foolish women everywhere. You will just die for nothing.

    Stella make i follow you say WOW

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    1. That is enh. I don't know what we r to tell her. If u still love him watch war room nah. He beat U up and raped u and u r happy. So why take up our chronicle space??? Stella I beg write out chronicles that really need advice abeg.

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  11. I'd like to hear our husband's side of the story?
    Something happened yesterday with a friend n I knew it's not wise judging a one sided story.
    Hang in there or find ur square root.

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    1. So after you hear the husband's side of the story and he confirms that he beat her, but not for the reasons she gave, that will justify beating another man's daughter? As in, after he gives you legit reasons for putting his paws on this woman, it would make sense to you 'cos his reason makes sense bah?

      Women biko, no man should hit you for whatever reason unless in self-defense from a physical attack with knives, guns, etc. If they don't like what they paid bride price for, they can take your ass back to your parent's house and collect their bride price.

      How can my parents beat me as a child growing up, and now I'm grown, be beaten again by another man that had no deciding factor in my existence in this life? Stop eeet!

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  12. You're stupid! You love the beatings in all. Need I to say RIP in advance?

    All I see here is Virginity is not a guarantee to happy marriage

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    1. Very true at your last paragraph

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    2. No one thing is a guarantee to a happy marriage and that includes virginity however the Lord wants us to marry as virgins period. That does not mean you don't prepare for sex in marriage by acquiring the right information through books and sex education videos. For everyman who dumps you after sleeping with You, you loose some serious self worth

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  13. 'But with all this beating and ill treatment I still love him and can't break free. Please I need advise from matured BVs on what to do cos I can't handle this all alone.'

    Sweetie, the above quoted statement means only you can help yourself.
    Regarding your virginity, you probably have a low threshold to pain hence your fear BUT it doesn't excuse emotional abuse or DV. You and your hubby need help - either together (since you are so in love) or separately.

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  14. "Love kill me I die"
    Your first sexually experience, was through rape? Shudders.
    You obviously do not love yourself reason you think clinging to him will make right all that is wrong. You are married to your master and you are comfortable with it so I don't think anything anyone says will help you.
    Domestic violence is wrong and no one should have to live with it. You don't have a child for him yet and you have a degree, emancipated yourself from emotional and mental slavery. That man belongs to a prison and having a child or job won't make him great you better. You will die young living with that monster and the world will mourn you for a second and forget you.
    You deserve better and there's a good man out there who who love you for you.
    You've been brainwashed by sub par dick.

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    1. Doppelganger come on, the guy was patient really. Even though I don't approve of his methods but 7 months???? And she doesn't want to bear his child with what excuse? The guy is 40 for pitsake.

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  15. Marriage is beginning to sound like "Mere rage" in my ears... and a "Mans age" dsnt determine marurity for marriage!! That man dsnt love you, he sees u like a faulty baby machine that hasnt been prductive since 2015...
    Madam, please you need to seperate for awhile, find ur self again & catch ur breath, then ud knw if its worth going back.

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    1. Lol@ faulty baby machine. Marriage seems to be a must do for our ladies now,more reason why they stay despite the abuse.

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    1. After eating the man's money, you Dont want to give him a child @ faulty... I hope he will panel beautiful you very well so you can carry ur bags and leave for a better woman to move in... Nonsence, time waster 👎

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  17. " he still keep to mind things that happened while we were dating... but i am not a saint either, i am very blunt and I bear my mind on my sleeves.. "

    You probably insulted him. Probably cheated on him when yall were dating.
    HELLO! All men take note of this and serve you back when they can. No two ways here.

    So while yall were dating, he didn't fuck. After marriage, it took him 7months to fuck, only to discover the pussy wasn't shit. Have u bothered to think of how he feels?

    He's probably thinking "shit, this woman played me. He pussy ain't shit. If I had sampled that ass before marriage, I wouldn't have married this female. Now I'm stuck with this mediocre pussy for now. shit!"

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    1. oya clean ur mouth, u don talk ur own

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    2. Please...kindly expatiate..what pussy is mediocre and what pussycat is extraordinary?
      Notin wey person no go hear..

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    3. You sound harsh and raw but you made a very BIG point. Even though I'm totally against domestic violence I'm just imaginning how the husband to this poster is feeling. Eyaah!

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  18. Please kuku join Mercy and Tonto for fight against DV. How can u love a man dat raped u and always hits you? What does he mean by free food isn't it his duty to feed his wife? Better leave before u have a child and it becomes hard to leave. If u love ur life just pack ur bags, go find work pls. U are 27, too young for this kind of life

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    1. Stockholm syndrome: The psychological mystery of loving an abuser.

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    2. Hahahha Atheist so dats d name abi. Thank you jare,

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  19. His beating you at the slightest provocation is not ACCEPTABLE! Mehn I praise you for still loving him, if na me whatever I felt for him would have died since.Chai!! I feel for you.

    Writing down wrongs is so ungodly like,the minute I tell you "I am sorry" or we make up please don't bring up the issue again.

    Your hubby needs to:
    Get help fast(Psychological & Spiritual)

    You need to:
    Get something doing fast and be more prayerful.Prayer changes things.

    This Is one of few chronicles that touched me.. Chai verbal and physical abuse is a bad combo.Infact it's unhealthy.

    May God heal your home..I once read "marriage is a union of two forgivers" your husband needs to man up and stop all these childish things.

    I dey vex here.

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  20. He abuses you both physically and emotionally? Let me not condemn the man already since I've not heard his side of the story.
    Women before you get married, please look out for all these signs. I know men can try so hard to hide their flaws, but they can't hide it forever. I advise girls to court before they get married, ask questions. Secondly, you not having a job shouldn't be an excuse,look for something to do no matter how small it is. May God give you the wisdom to know how to handle this situation. Marriage is too complex for outsiders to wade into, you're the one in it so think over it and know the next step to take

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  21. Noro ka nwoke ara kugbue gi.

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    1. Translation stay till that mad man kill you.
      Foolish poster

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  22. Poster honestly I got angry when I read the part you wrote you denied him sex for 7 months because of fear. So if he did not beat you, you would have not open the cookie for him? You brought the beating upon yourself... Once a beater is always a beater..

    I will advise you to pray to God and give him hot sex...

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    1. so wait oh, he couldnt distract her & insert b4 she knows it, he must beat her up? how can u even sustain an erection wen ur wife or any woman sef is in pain from hitting her

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    2. @Atheist
      Honestly I don't support domestic violence but before you kill me did you read this paragraph
      "My hubby was very understanding with me, we stayed for 7months, bought lub, visited the doc for counselling yet I couldn't.... Until one night he got frustrated, beat me blue/black and forcefully penetrated me, I was in pains from the beating but was happy that my nightmare was over and I can now enjoy my marriage at last!"

      With this it shows that the man has tried so many distractions, but she only enjoyed it after the beating.
      Before you judge hear the husband's side of the story.
      Our people said "adighi eke ikpe na onu otu onye.

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    3. What I'm trying to say is that don't make a man hit you because once he start he will never stop.

      BTW, Atheist how long can your patience last while trying to convince your wife to have sex with you?
      Anyway it is easier said than done...

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    4. Chike truly your brain is fried. How do you justify violence?Of all physical violence?
      Please think of the poster as your sis and imagine if you can stand anyone laying a finger on her all in the name of she denied me SEX.

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    5. im starting to doubt the husbands sex game... in Australia they say, if u want to slaughter a sheep & u let it see the blade, fear will sip into the bloodstream & the meat will turn sour, they shldnt see the weapon of choice... in this case he mustnhb been waving around his cock like a trophy knowin well she has phobia for it... start with long foreplay & the use of the smallest finger nxt to the ring, then gradually proceed to the middle finger (fuck u)... then she'd begin to relax to accept a well lubricated thumb, b4 the cock cap. a month shldnt pass by she'd have swallowed u whole... play her body like a spanish guitar, everythg is not big prick.
      and yeah, ive slaughterd many sheep & non ever saw the blade, im bad like that *winks* #AtheismRocks

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    6. @anonymous 18.34,chike is actually right, while I don't condone domestic violence, why on earth will my sister get married if she fears sex??? She could as well be a reverend sister and not to put a man in bondage. That's wicked, people are coming here to criticize the man, no one has proffered a possible alternative to beating her. It is the same woman that will write a chronicle if he impregnated another woman outside within that seven months come on guys. The guy tried, where I feel he was childish was writing down her misdeeds. Asides that the lady clearly was not ready for marriage.
      Who marries without the thought of having sex and raising children???
      Are you Oprah Winfrey? Even Oprah with her terrible experience DE gbensh.

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    7. Hmmm you guys, Ayam really following your analysis ooo... poster shey you dey follow?

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  23. This is irreparable
    You better leave the angry man while you re still alive.
    See your prospects dying,a graduate with second class upper.
    Dust yourself and go look for work.
    Pursue your own happiness first and love will find you.
    You re in a situationship.

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    1. Her self esteem is already in the can and as Atheist threw in, Stockholm things ti take over...

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  24. Do not get pregnant,I repeat do not get pregnant 🤰🏼!

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    1. Mayday! Mayday!...lmao... remember she loves her husband, and that changes everything...

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  25. When Adam and Eve sinned, God placed a curse on the woman in Genesis 3:16. " That the man will rule over the woman and her desire will be only for the husband" after reading this place, I discovered why women even on top the beating and ill treatment from their husband will still be saying I love him and I can't leave because of my children. Is not because of any children because look at this lady's chronicle, no child yet and on top the beating and all d maltreatment is still saying I love him and can't leave him. It's the curse God placed on women, so any woman that had enough and left deserved to be praised because she really fought demons and conquered. Please my fellow women look well before you reap. And you my dear is not your fault, so work on loving yourself and take a walk before he kills you. Stop saying I love him because when you die, he will forget you in a seconds and remarry.

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    1. chai.... see wetin dat ancient childrens book don do u...book of lies.

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    2. Atheist is it the holy Bible you are referring to? You must be very silly. Make God forgive you sha

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    3. Fan emmanuel u don de find trouble, leave Atheist to God to judge, his mouth is also poison

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    4. Atheist you remind me of that professor in " God's not dead". But you sound more of an agnostic to me. Na you get yourself sha, but the Bible conversely, is THE TRUTH.

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  26. I was reading this with my eyes O.O
    No kids yet I will advise you to leave him o. Like you mentioned allbyout concerns already. Babe... Run!!!
    Man way no fit forgive. I am weak.
    I am not married yet but I am sure I will never stay in an abusive marriage. People will say fast and pray... I Can't subject myself to that because of one Man. I will walk away o.
    Dear poster, I hope you make the best decisions.

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  27. Madam you and your husband need counseling.Look Inwards there are things that attracted him to you at first place.You people should work on your marriage.Im tired of hearing divorce issh here.
    Let me ask is the men only the bad people in today's marriage?What about the women?

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  28. U still love him with all the beatings,maltreatment,slave and master thingy,record keeping,hunger,abuse etc?Babe what do u want us to tell u?

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  29. Stella abeg let me Join you in wowing o madam na death you dey find o

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  30. I think u should take a walk since domestic violence is involved

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  31. Isi gini?😊😪😱😱😱😱
    What is all this hatred for? He is abusing you emotionally and physically.Is sex all there is to marriage? This man is a wicked person.None of his anger is ur fault.He just want a sex and baby machine.His expectations were cut short and he is taking his frustration out on you.

    You are educated not a timid lady.Stand up and help yourself. What if He has fertility problem and you are okay?

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  32. The foundation of your marriage has been destroyed from your shying away from sex for 7 months? Wow. Who won't be frustrated. What do you mean by how a big dick will enter your tiny hole? Which hole did you think you came out from in your mother's body? Please you both need to go back to the drawing board.

    In his part, I think he has always been a violent person because I understand forcefully sleeping with you that day, but I don't understand the beating. Or the continues beating.

    My dear , if you feel you can't cope please leave the marriage as it's still early.

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    1. The hubby may just be feeling you don't really love him. Sex is his love language and mumu button so go learn. Take him to God in prayer and make sure you make him understand that you will adjust but you cannot take beatings or abuse. If he continues then you have to follow through and take a break. Don't go and die for love ooo.If after you have improved and he still beats you, I would advise you to quit totally. The truth is nothing justifies domestic violence.

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  33. You still love him with all the beatings and the ill treatments he's giving you? It is well with your home.

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    1. But with all this beating and ill treatment I still love him and can't break free. Please I need advise from matured BVs on what to do cos I can't handle this all alone.

      Here is the advise, write your will.

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  34. Why can't you read the handwriting on the wall? Sex and children do not make a marriage or companionship. Women like you are what gives some men the ability to ill-treat you. Please borrow sense and find a life for yourself. If he does not enjoy sex then he does not know how. But by the way are you sure you told us everything?

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  35. You are already doing what you want to do and you are asking for help. What advice do you want ?okay let me tell you Runnnnnnm for your dear life

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  36. MOST BEAUTIFUL5 July 2017 at 15:37

    Madam you pushed this man soooooo hard! 7 freaking months after marriage and you didn't let him enjoy what he paid for??? You were scared??? Oh common you were just selfish and you are still selfish for not trying to get pregnant for your husband. The man is 40 damn years, don't you know that pregnancy can change him? I'm not justifying the fact that he beats you. It's your marriage! Fix it woman!

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    1. Paid for? The ideas some of you have of marriage beats me...

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  37. Wow..just wow...and with all you've said he does to you love no gree commot for your heart abii?...ngwanu stay and continue being a DV victim.
    Had such an encounter with someone with the same personality but the only thing he didnt do was raise his hands on me coz coz i'm way bigger thank him so where e wan start from, but emotional abuse and laying of curses with his bible raised up high was the order of the day....he couldn't provide ordinary two square meals per day to save his own life o..but d same person will be like 'belle seff you no fit get' and i'll be like "wetin u wan take feed am? Love died a natural and unhindered death and i left. Now i'm as happy as can be. My dear, the man hates u and u dey der dey claim love abii...okies. When you master kills you, hides ur body and takes off without a trace...den'll be too late for u. Pls stay...thats my two cents..afterall na ur choose be dat.

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  38. hmmm! this kind husband. it is well o, maybe u can leave this marriage now that u don't have a child. my problem is dat his beats you, abusing u emotionally & physically, don't die in that house o

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  39. The blunt fact is,
    You don't love that man, you don't want to have sex with him and you don't want to get pregnant for him. You must have married him for some other funny reasons.

    What do you want? Do you want to stay or do you want to leave? Brining a child into that situation will make things worse.

    Both of you should go for counselling. Intense counselling, rebuild your marriage before bringing children inside a toxic situation.

    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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  40. Things are really happening in marriages that I feel why then is it necessary to be married,poster I feel you should be alone for a awhile far away from him,ask yourself whether you still want him or not and also make your final decision whether to go back to him or not.

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  41. Swear they're proper animals walking around in human form, that dude is crazy. Wait though, it tool 7 months to consumate the marriage? And the animal resorted to rape to do so? Nawa o.

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  42. Your horseband is the definition of what my friend in Deutschland will call animal in human skin. Is that even marriage? It is only a matter of time before he hits you in a place that God forbid you won't live to tell the story. What are your parents saying? Better leave that sham of an arrangement and be grateful you have no children yet.

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  43. Madam, I honestly think from this point it would get worst. Please don't bring a child into this because he will make you suffer more from the beginning to the end of the pregnancy. I know it's hard to leave,but you have to. My dear valve your life o. Before you know it you will start having low self esteem and your husband will be there enjoying himself. My dear marriage is not by force. Do what is right say no to DV.

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  44. Chike did you say she brought the beating on herself? Wow!

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  45. I wonder how and what the attraction is between two people before they marry. I totally lost hope reading your last paragraph when you said despite the abuse you still love him but the question is does he love you? And do you call what you have love? How did you meet? Why should a man who knows his wife is a virgin beat her black and blue and rape her the first time after waiting for 7months. I don't get it. Are you lazy,dirty or have some irritating habits?What advice do you want when your husband is in total control,in charge, has all the power. I think he dislikes you for some reasons best known to him and is trying to frustrate you out of the marriage. And you have such a low self esteem and you don't love yourself one bit.I think you are not telling us the whole story probably your husband's side of the story will connect the dots.
    My humble advice is leave now that you have your life, get a job, retrace your steps on why you are her on earth. Are you a source of blessing or a parasite. Even a full housewife supports their husband more than you can imagine by giving him peace,advice, complimenting and completing him as a man.
    You are not all of that so it's better before you start bringing innocent children into such an abusive home. Get control of your life and add value to yourself and humanity.

    #come back and thank me later.

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  46. Wawu. madam your solution is in your hands. Wetin i know sef.

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  47. It rains everywhere, it just depends on the magnitude of your "rain"..it could be negligible, mild, optimum or simply excessive.. But one thing is sure, it has to rain (on either side) cus no one is perfect...
    I'm not excusing his beatings but babe you are childish..
    According to you, he bore your silliness for 7 months.. What more restraint do you want from a man?..You don't even sound like you hate sex after you had it, if that was the case,i would have excused you but no... You just didn't want to cus you were 'scared'..
    Good thing you know that you've got loopholes too... You opened that tap, you've got to try and close it.

    My first advice is that you grow up,not for your hubby but for yourself. Every relationship works with conscious effort from both sides and most times one person bears the greater burden of keeping the relationship together. Give it one last shot with your first love, one last shot, and if it doesn't play,you can walk away knowing that you gave it your best shot.

    Pull your acts together, be the woman he thought you'd be..Stop being scared of almost everything, be strong. On a nice warm day when you feel the atmosphere is less tense.. Let him know how you hurt when he does these things,let it all out calmly..

    You've got to know how to please a man sexually.if you claim you love him then sex shouldn't be a biggy..just touch him the way you love him..

    If you clean up your acts and he's still violent and insulting...babe! dust it off and leave him.

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  48. Upon all the beating...you still love him, if your husband has started beating you now..he is not going to stop in the nearest future, except there' are something you are not telling us here.

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  49. I was just shaking my head while reading your chronicles I bet you were tormenting your friends that you got married a Virgin and now you can't leave the marriage. Which stupid you love him after all this treatment this man is mounting in you ? Gosh women ! see babe what I feel for you is just pity I don't know what to tell you, do whatever you want to do if you like stay there and die mtcheww.

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  50. I was just shaking my head while reading your chronicles I bet you were tormenting your friends that you got married a Virgin and now you can't leave the marriage. Which stupid you love him after all this treatment this man is mounting in you ? Gosh women ! see babe what I feel for you is just pity I don't know what to tell you, do whatever you want to do if you like stay there and die mtcheww.

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  51. Please don't bring a child into such toxic relationship. Leave while it's still early.Do not make a mistake that you'll regret all your life and do not raise a child in such home.

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  52. with all these you typed and you still love him.. Na wa oh.

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  53. Since you still love him and want to make things work out fine for the both of you, I feel you should get pregnant, search for a job, at the point you get pregnant use it to get small money from him and start a small business if you are unable to get a job. Every man want a child, a child may come in now and your worries will all go, since your husband is doing well not as if you guys cannot feed, try to allow things be a little, allow pregnancy to come in. Who knows pregnancy could be the answer you are looking for.

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    1. Are you for real, you are seriously advising her to get pregnant under such toxic marriage, real Nawa for u oooo

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  54. Just short of words..a lot of chronicles I read here just de make me vex some times...










    This marriage of a tin sef dey scare person...as a woman,u are sacred to be treated badly n as a man,u are scared to marry d wrong woman.


    Then who is who?




    MC pinky

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  55. Poster.......what I can deduce from your writeup is that your self esteem is so so low. I observed that it's like you've accepted the way he treats you as what you deserve........
    Please poster, you need to work on rebuilding your self esteem and confidence and believe me with that the mindset you have now will change. How do you even love someone who treat you so bad...........I don't gerrit

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  56. Madam poster you are a bad person, I dont need to wait to read from your husband.
    A man didn't make love to you all through the courtship period and he married you but still couldn't have sex with you after seven month of marriage? Abeg go your papa house no need staying in his house any longer.
    You can't imagines how his dick will enter your tiny hole, at 27 years?
    Nonsense talk.

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  57. Most marriages these days r really something else. Cos couples have refused to follow the guidelines provided by the originator of marriage,God.

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  58. life is too short use urs wisely.

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