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Saturday, 8 July 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Hmmmm....





STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED VIRGIN


Dear Stella and my fellow bv's good afternoon and hope this meets you're all well.

 I am a 22 years old virgin and not in a relationship presently because I want to be careful in choosing who I'll date and I don't believe in kissing plenty frogs all in the name of finding Mr. Right.

 I have however met a couple of guys that I like and would probably date and one person stands out amongst them, let's call him Mr. Perfect, this guy seems perfect to a fault we've known for about a year now and have been very good friends,though he is more than a decade older than me(12years older) he looks younger than his age, extremely God fearing, mature, well to do and supports my dreams and ambitions.


 he has however never dated before and not asked me out directly though he tells me that he believes friendship between a man and a woman would eventually lead to a more intimate relationship but he sees the need for him to be a brother and a friend to me now, I just don't know were we stand for certain-



*At his age he has never dated before?did he tell you his reasons?sounds strange!...FIND out why he prefers to be your friend and brother right now before you end up with someone who swings both ways or not into women.

This is the last story in the Chronicles folder.Send in your chronicles if you have or we close the folder unil we have more stories.




56 comments:

Oly Benny said...

A nam abia



Olybekee
Amawbia ugbo ogiriga

Miss Ess said...

Interesting.....34 and never dated before?coud he be lying or he has an internal problem.l?

AGELESS T said...

You are still young. Take it that he wants friendship for now.

Anonymous said...

Are you both afraid to mention the word "marriage"
What do you mean by "friendship with you will lead to a more intimate relationship?"

If it is too good to be true, it probably isn't true
Be careful young lady . . . and prayerful too
You need "he that sees all hearts " to decode this kind
And please let your legs remain closed till he that you shall marry pays your bride price
sure you read chronicles here

MrsB said...

He's 34 and has never dated? An obviously just wants to be friends only with you? Here's where you stand:
Nigga is gay. Punani fall on him.

Teemah said...

Stange,stranger,strangest...

Blackberry said...

He has never dated before! Lol, light brain.

Wait until he pumps u like a pro.

I am king EZE said...

Mr perfect is gay.

Madam Small Chops said...

Plain Jane +Plain MrPerfect=


Well he lacks experience and doesn't know how to go about it IMO.I hope he is not catching his fun somewhere and pretending to you.Not after swaying you off your feet now and you give him the cookie story will enter.

Press his buttons and see if he is that "Perfect", If he really is,enjoy jare na your luck.

In summary,find out if he is for real before finding where you stand with him.

Anonymous said...

If you are not a virgin because you fear God the creator, you will most probably lose it in a silly way and whine, sob and be depressed. In the scripture, it says; how can a young person keep his way pure? By giving heed to your words.
Keep your way pure lady and seek God to know whom he is
His character will soon show
All of us has flaws and strengths
If your see genuine flaw, help him out but if lies surface run!

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

Yes stella there are guys like that...... They feel dating isn't their priority until they are fully ready for marriage. I presently hv one and he is just too focused to start thinking of ladies n their wahala

Poster relax and see where dt friendship/brotherly love leads I guys

Anonymous said...

This is interesting and appalling
So dating now means "sex?"
Folks are getting "fake social media education"

Anonymous said...

I dated my wife for four years and did not have sex with her, that was how she/we wanted it
Trust her with my life now!

Stella Igbokei said...

Very strange. 34 years and he hasn't "sampled"

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Be careful of that brother young lady! Since he has not given you the green light, just play along as a sister and stop catching feelings.

Interrogate him well, why hasn't he dated any woman before now? Does he has any health issues that is scaring him away from women? Is he trying to prey on your naivety?

Be very vigilant and don't give your body and purity away out of desperation.

anonymous said...

He lied - except he is gay. But then, gay/lesbian people also call what they do dating abi? He lied!

World People said...

He might be gay ?

Anonymous said...

He is a married man. Find your square root

Fan Emmanuel said...

He told you he has never dated before at aga 34? The truth is that he just sees you as a naive girl. And I have a feeling he wants to eat and clean mouth, you better be very careful with such guy before you end up being deceived.

Blue said...

Just ask d guy if he is ok medically or check his phone,u will know if he is gay,abeg be careful

St.FranKooL.... said...

Poster, if you don't know where you stand with someone, that's all the info you need to know about that person...

Cookie said...

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Cookie said...

He said he wants to be your brother abi?? Sister up naaaaau and stop catching feelings!!!

I don't know if he's gay or not, he might even be married or just not interested in you in that kinda way...... Enjoy the friendship, must you date him?? They are always 'perfect' as friends, wait till you become official, true colors begin to show!!!

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Bravo!!!

Anonymous said...

He told you he has never dated before, and you foolishly believed him? Are you alright? I hope you don't have body temperature? My friend shine your eyes.. That guy is either codedly married or he is GAY


@Anonymous Orubebe

Martins Aboy said...

@poster,he is just accessing you to know if you are his spec or not;and the funny truth is that you arent the only girl he has placed in such category..reason being because someone his age is looking for a wife and not just a girl he is to date..

Is he in love with you yet? No!!!!
Reason is because you would be swaying his feet if he is all over you by now;but since he is still accessing,he is still busy figuring out who the right woman to wife is.

Stop expecting anything from him or giving yourself any sort of high-hope..
If he is yours,he would come for you! Its just a matter of time..

He could be impotent or gay tho..**just an observation**

Why did i say so? Cos na them dey like give virgins this kind condition of "brother-sister" or "No sex before marriage" or "lets just be friends and see how it goes" talk..

Yea,there are good men that stick to the above;but its very rare and their percentage is low..

Goodluck!!

@MARTINS ABOY

Anonymous said...

You never had sex? How about masturbation? You did not run your prick at any time? What of your wife,? She did not suck someone's nipple at any time?


@Anonymous Orubebe

Anonymous said...

He is definitely gay and she is an intending bicurious


@Anonymous Orubebe

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

What makes you feel he's lying or that he's gay?

They're a lot of men in Nigeria who are just into their businesses, they're so focused and they see dating as a distraction.

I know some Igbo guys back then who didn't have girlfriends, they always tell me, after we're made, we will find the girl that will come and enjoy life with us.

One of my doctor female friend married an Igbo guy who was a general, he never dated any woman before he met my friend. And he was almost close to forty.

Chike TEFLON said...

Kikikikikikiki@ he has never dated before... Akuko Mike Ejeaya... So what do you want me to advise you? Do you want to know if he will marry you or if he is a Virgin man?

@34 he has never dated anyone and he is not into a serious relationship with you... My dear let me tell you the direction of your relationship... He is going to Ijegun and you are going to Lekki.

Great Lady said...

Simple & short ask him what his plans & intentions for you both are. Ask him to clarify the relationship between you both.

Anonymous said...

I feel a lot of people judge by their standards on this blog and not by being objective. It could be trusted that by "Mr perfect's" standard he has not had a serious relationship. He could be the extremely shy type that has buried and hidden himself in his work and too shy to come out to ask a woman out. He feels confident to interact with you cause of the age difference and afraid what people might say if he says he wants to date you.
Let me ask you a few questions... Does his work takes most of his time? How many female friends do you see around him? How deep is your conversation. The best way to get him to open up is chat on the phone with him? Tell him before hand that you have something bothering you and you need his advice as a big brother. Then narrate your story. Hear his advice then tell him you have a crush on him and he seems to be leading you on that can he date you. Because it's via chat you might get him to open up. He is older so worst case he will exhibit either a matured approach or a childish approach then you take the feedback and either move on or it might be the beginning of your friendship. If he says something childish just keep a straight face like nothing happened and move on.

And be on your toes and observe him if he decides to ask you out. You might just be the one to open his eyes to the beautiful world of love.

#come back and thank me later.

Grace said...

I am the only woman my husband has ever dated and I met him when he was 35yrs. People couldn't believe their eyes when they see us together because they thought something was actually wrong with him. He was in the choir and had a lot of girls around him but he said he made a covenant with God that the day he transgress will be the day he'll die which has always kept him in check. He also said he saw no reason to date when he wasn't ready to marry. He believed that when he's ready, he will meet someone who fits him. So if your guy is a good Christian he might not have really dated before, but he should be straight about what he really wants from you.My husband turned out to be the best man I have ever met.

Cipcy said...

Hmmmm.. ...

Cipcy said...

I was 21 years old when he also gave me that statement too he actually said " can I be your mentor help bring your dreams come true" what hurt me the most was that he was already engaged form his days in college I had ask him so I don't cloud my mind of saying he loves me am sure till today he still regret not telling me.
Ask him dear so u don't keep ur hopes high.. ..
#Cipcy💖💗💖💗

Anonymous said...

My brother is 36 and has never dated! Never ever! He is totally born again, well educated, clean, slim, dark and tall with a good car, house and job. He seeks a born - again 'Jesus freak' Yoruba girl for marriage and I know he'll find one soon. My other brother never dated until he met his wife at 35 and married her within 6 months of meeting/courtship. They are born-again too and happy with their georgeous kids! So, guys, you can be 40 and never dated;depends on ur values.

Anonymous said...

But what exactly has being a virgin @ 22 got to do with this story? Can't you just say whatever without talking of virginity? I bet there are over 30yr old virgins on this blog that just keep mute! Biko nu!

Anonymous said...

Poster, is he tall and dark? From kogi state? Does he play the bass guitar and piano? He lives somewhere around Okoko but works on the island? If he fits this description, he is married with two kids and was just recently ordained a Pastor in his church.. Ask questions, keep asking, above all don't let him lie to you

Push up said...

He may be gay and just keeping you around so no one would suspect. I may be wrong but pls stop being emotionally invested in people that are not totally interested in you, never mistake being caring with love. He isn't ready, and has never been

Madame koinkoin a.k.a 'peace lover" said...

Correct! You just said it all

Anonymous said...

Victorious Ehis, please is this guy very mature like on his 40s?

All these small boys who are always behaving like dogs on heat are damn irritating.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' 😂😂😂 said...

Lol. Boldly ask him to define the relationship. At this age you're most likely naive and trust me guys can smell that. If you let them they will help you waste your time. Don't assume 'oh he cant' if it seems like a person is wasting your time, cut them off and focus on more important things

Weed Chic said...

He could be taking advantage of you and lying about never being in a relationship. He could be impotent. He could be married. His way no pure. Rare to see a guy wey reach 30 n never date

Anonymous said...

Babe check ooo! Is he gay? Something ain't right! Aside that, he seems to have friend zoned you, which means he ain't interested, which means you should find your square root and begin from square one.

Anonymous said...

Shey his kini is working? Ok ooo, issorite!

Anonymous said...

Pushup on point 👍

Anonymous said...

SDK decorders on d move

Anonymous said...

Drop your brothers contact, I'm a born again too, I attend mfm, was born in deeper life. I'm interested in your brother's spiritual life cos I've been looking for someone like him. Thanks

Anonymous said...

What has you being a virgin got to do with your story??? Smh for you. The way Nigerians carry this virginity thing on their head one would think there's any benefit to it. Then they get married start struggling with sex, their spouses start cheating and still bring back horrible diseases and infections. I am inclined to think that if single people start having more protected sex,they would have the energy and motivation to focus on other aspects of their lives other than marriage. Sex is great! You should enjoy it while you are young and agile. This is coming from somebody that got married as a virgin at 25. Now 12 years later,I look back and I am like what was I thinking denying myself and body of natural biological desire. Contrary to what I was told,there's no special blessing that comes with marrying as a Virgin. You would still face the same struggles as every average couple out there be it financial, children related, in law related or just character or behaviour related. I just wish there was all these religiosity aside when it comes to sex. Anyway, I have nothing to advise you honestly. You including your virginity and that you don't believe you have to kiss a lot of frogs just turned me off. Like those who kiss plenty frogs planned for it. In fact you should envy them because of their wealth of experience and you know when they find that one, it's all the more sweeter for them. For your type, it's best to go to your church pastor and ask him/her to match make you. That way you won't kiss a frog and you'd be married after I guess 3months. But if you want to date like those who kiss frogs date,then be ready to at least peck a frog.

DON™ said...

What's your virginity got to do with what you wrote up there. Abeg make person hear word.

Anonymous said...

You get sense!!!

Anonymous said...

That Virginity is nothing special!
Ode!!!

BeQuiet Instead said...

Dear poster. I don't think your first paragraph is necessary. Since you are not married yet, then you are expected to be a virgin esp at 22.

It's a pity that the world now takes fornication as a norm. I wonder why so many blog visitors insinuate that a 34-yr old man is gay or medically-unsound bc he has never dated.

Poster, I will advice you to face your work/school and stop being friends with this man - at your age, your male friends should be your age mates. This man may likely take advantage of you bc he is far more mstured than you. Moreover, your first paragraph shows that you must have told him that you are a virgin so he may want to scheme to "eat your cookie". Pls it is NOT NECESSARY to be advertising being a virgin - you should only inform any man that has asked you out....started a relationship with you ...and is taking it to another level.

It's also a pity that most relationships these days are merely all about sex sex sex....even those who claim to be born again. And yes I know thst being chaste is not the only way to fear God, let your life be balanced. God loves us all.

Anonymous said...

If u can't encourage somebody in her fear of God, why not just keep ur advice on extra marital sex to urself.

Omolewa said...

Gay or married. Either he's not being totally honest and at 22. You're still naive

Nnukwu Nwanyi said...

Na So.

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