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Tuesday, 25 July 2017

Chronicle Of Bog Visitor Narrative...



Tough one!



STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED ASAP


Hello Stella. You have been doing a great job here. Please, I need advice from you and bvs.
Chinwe is my best of friends, we have been close since primary school days and we are both in our "mid-twenties" although I am few months older than her.


Chinwe and I are close that we pass the night at each other's place, we gist about everything; education, religion, choice of career, family, choice of family we both want and desire, boyfriends, men issue, domestic violence, movies and life in general. Although we left secondary school together,I gained admission two years before her but that was not a barrier to our friendship.


She had a guy six to seven years ago and she told me everything about the relationship ( of which we do even till present). They later broke up and she told me although not in details and we advised each other about moving on. I could remember that she told me then that the guy is a shy type. I am not always eager to see anyone she's dating just to avoid stories like the one disturbing me of recent.


Two years ago, a guy started chatting with me on WhatsApp and it was this my friend ex of seven years ago, ( Nmor). He did the introduction and his name clicked. I asked on how he got my phone digits and he said he saw it on his phone saved by my name. He later said my friend used to call me on his phone back then.I did not argue because we do that a lot if we want to inform each other about our whereabout. This guy started asking me out and I turned him down.


I made him understand that I can't break sisters' code because he was my friend's ex. He claimed to know me well when I told him that I have not even set my eyes on him.He calmed down and we stopped talking. I also noticed that he is not a "pushy" type just like the way my friend described him. I informed my friend about everything and she even saw the chat. She shrugged it off and said that Nmor isn't serious.


The funny thing is that my friend's younger sister and Nmor's younger brother (Chinedu) are also in a relationship and they are waxing strong; they may wed next year. They got to know each other through their elder siblings and started seeing after Chinwe and Nmor broke up. This affected me because I knew it won't be easy for my friend but on her part, she told me that it's nothing to her. Chinedu has been treating my friend's younger sister well and the two families approved their relationship.


Two nights ago, chinedu messaged me on Facebook. He said he wanted to see me concerning his elder brother(my friend ex) who had been disturbing me for a relationship. He told me that I was too harsh on his elder brother and that he wants me to give his brother a trial. We dragged the issue for hours and I was bent on not breaking the sister's code. He said that living a life of side attractions won't make one live a good life. He further said that his brother likes me and that I am free to discuss the issue with my friend but he wants me to just listen to his brother.


Chinedu promised to call Nmor to tell him to travel down this weekend so as to see me.Few minutes later, Nmor contacted me and I pretended I had no chat with his younger brother. We talked and he said he would travelled down to see me this weekend. I have not promised to see him but I told him I will inform my friend about it and he said I am free. I told the two brothers that I am in relationship and they said that being in a relationship is different from being a married woman.


I have informed my friend about it and she was just laughing on the phone. I would have gone to her place to see her but my health is not on the good side due to malaria. She apologized on their behalf and she said that she's confused. She promised to see me today to check on my health. She later made a confusing statement. She told me to play along and see the guy. Left to me, I will never meet with the guy but she insisted on me seeing him just to hear him out.

I have noticed that I am always on the good side with guys. Guys tend to treat me better than her and she knows that. What if I meet with this guy and he starts treating me well unlike how he treated my friend? What if the guy becomes serious and starts acting lovey dovey? Should I listen to her and see him or should I maintain my stand?


Stella, please advice a sister. I am confused.


150 comments:

ukwu dimond said...

Hhhhhhmmm

Spirit said...

The Lord is your strength. God help us all. Amen

Ms SSS a.k.a stunning slim shady said...

Very tough, tougher than "kanda"

Alloy Chikezie said...

As the hearts leads, just do what makes you happy, so long as it doesn't violate someone else right and you ain't doing it at the expense of another person.

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DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Why do you want to play along and see him because your friend said so? Do you know what will happen if you meet this guy? You'd fall for him because from the way you sound you have taken a liking to him and only hesitant because of your friend and some damn sister code. I won't date my friends ex and from the way you met him it shows intent. He searched and found you out. How are you sure he isn't trying to date you to hurt your friend? Your sister's relationship with his brother is no guarantee to anything that dating him would work. There are billions of people in the world to meet and date, leave this guy alone and don't encourage him. Tell your friend you don't want to play games and let him know too that you two are better off without each other. If for any reason you end up with this guy, trust me it will be stressful and hard convincing your friend that you didn't set out to hurt her. Nothing you say will speak otherwise. Do not meet him,you are an adult and this isn't a movie. Let him find another girl to love and you ain't that special so I don't see why you think men prefer you to your friend, maybe because they can sense your naivety and easiness.

Theyvid Adebayo said...

Dem born una together abi,if you feel you can date him why not give him a shot.you going back and forth won't do you no good.

Jeni_zee said...

Ok !! U sound like u are In love with the guy and just want us to give u approval that everything would be fine, ur friend might be smiling now but angry nd bittter if u date this guy, u sound interested in him because u want marriage

kyla perky said...

What you cant eat dont smell...babe live dat guy alone...am sure u no dat ur friend said u should see him out of jealousy...hmmmmm men plenty for nigeria oo..it doesnt have to b NMOR

kyla perky said...

What you cant eat dont smell...babe live dat guy alone...am sure u no dat ur friend said u should see him out of jealousy...hmmmmm men plenty for nigeria oo..it doesnt have to b NMOR

Monkeynofine said...

Hisssssss I put it to you that you're already catching feelings for this dude, if not why this long episode? Is it by force to date a guy? Why do u want to meet someone u know clearly in your heart that u can't date him? If u wanna date him please do so and stop giving is headache!

Shantelle's Empire said...

Even if you are in a relationship,give him a chance. However insist on no sex.Forget that sis code shii...who cares? Na the same placenta una follow come or you both suckled from same boobs ni? After 7yrs of breakup you are now carrying their lost and forgotten relationship like gala. Shupe!

Minnie Rexpect said...

Don't toy with peoples emotion. What is play along and see the guy? what happens when one or both of you start catching feelings?
Do you want to be an enemy with your friend over a guy? she might seem cool with you going to see him what happens when the relationship begins to flourish?
The sisters code says it is forbidden to eat the remnant of your sister's apple. it is good to share no follow for here.

Unless you want to be the bad person in this story then you can go ahead. You sound like you want it but need your friend's approval so if kasala burst tomorrow you can say she gave you the go ahead.

Brenda said...

My dear....just how sure are you about your girlfriend? You've known her for a long time and you should be able to tell how understanding she is as a person....but one thing is pretty much certain...if the guy wins you over then you'll loose her friendship for life...and why must it be you? why cant the guy respect your friendship and look for anoda lady? its all very dicey...but be careful...it can all turn around tmorw and bite you on your behind...

anoNymousdonor said...

You have to. Choose Between ur friend and nmor. What if u choose nmor nd u guys later break up?. Why didn't nmor and ur friend end up together. Ask qqs girl, U have A brain

SDK's Sister said...

Wow, this is Really hard. I don't pray to be in your shoes. Truth be told, you never can tell if he's your God-given husband. They broke up a long time ago. It's not like their breakup was caused by you. I 'll suggest you see him and hear him out. If you both love each other Please go ahead and get married. Although this may cause a strain on your rship with your friend. Just let things flow btw you and Nmor, but please be a mermaid when he comes to avoid stories that touch the bombom. What will be will be.

Anonymous said...

My dear.. DONT C HIM

I am king EZE said...

Dating a friends ex is not advisable, how will you cope with the awkward hangouts and visits. Meet up with your friend ,have a heart to heart talk with her,forget she is laughing about the whole situation, she could still be hurting inside. If she is sincerely cool with it,meet with the said guy,use your head and don't rush into anything cos I don't understand this bull "Guys tend to treat me better than her and she knows that".......

Blackberry said...

Apart from nmor no other guy has toasted u? U were single till nmor came along?
Oyo oh!
I can't like my friend's ex!
Laiye...unless na jazz.

Anonymous said...

You are "confused" because you are interested in what your heart has rejected.
Now ask the younger brother if his fiancee goes to see some other guy how he will feel. Since "being in relationship is different from being married. . ."
Let them deceive themselves. But the choice is yours; choose between trying this guy and losing your friend.

Anonymous said...

If your friend does that to you, will you still be friends with her?

Happyheart said...

Don't play along. Block both chinedu an nmor.your friend will not tell you but this will badly hurt her.
Don't even consider this yeye marriage. Other men will come.
Goodluck

Anonymous said...

It's easy. Do to others as you will like them to do to you. If your friend dates your ex, how will you take it?

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I see both of you clicking and that sister code eventually broken. But, its no crime. And your friend is laughing because she thinks he isn't serious, that laughter will turn to something else the moment she finds out how serious he is and worse if you see him and like him.

Don't see him if you are not convinced to see him

Anonymous said...

Why did the boy break up with your friend? You did not tell us this important fact.

AppleofGodseyeoriginal said...

Maintain your stand please,a better guy without drama or entangled relationship will come by,besides you and your friend need to grow up,its time to become adults, stop mixing friendship with relationship. Good luck.

ukwu dimond said...

You see Stella did not say anything cos you have a small brain, if it did not work out between your Friend and him does not mean it will not work out for both of you. I feel you should talk to that your friend and ask her well if she still feel a thing for him, if am in your shoe I will allow the guy come around, we get talking but I will mind what I tell my friend and what I do with the guy should in case the chip get down, I will have no shame to cover. Allow the guy to come, you guys should be friends for now, let the both of them clear the air they are not in love again.

Anonymous said...

Don't go.

TheLagosShopper(Goods and services 4rm the popular Lagos markets to anywhere in naija?07030493148) said...

If you know you can't date him,do not let him travel all the way.ask your friend very well when you see her o,cos na she go get issues if/when the guy and you fall in love!

L vanilla said...

Dont even start abeg, carry your two legs waka.

Anonymous said...

I will advise u give d guy a chance, since she as said so. N moreover d younger sister is dating is brother n nothing happened. If ur friend didn't have issues with the sister so y u? Just hear d guy out OK. No harm in trials.

Anonymous said...

I will advise u give d guy a chance, since she as said so. N moreover d younger sister is dating is brother n nothing happened. If ur friend didn't have issues with the sister so y u? Just hear d guy out OK. No harm in trials.

Anonymous said...

If you value your friendship or like this your friend. Cut communications with Nmor, this is just common sense now! Your friend telling you to play along is just trying to be a strong girl. No one likes to hear their exes is running after their friend trust me. No need to long this, cut him off block him and look ahead for better things

Anon M.

SMURF said...

You already know the end result. Cant you just find another man else where, And remove you eyes from this one. But if you are ready to lose a sister or friend, then go and see him.

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

Go ahead and date him if you know he's your type....... There's no where it's stated that one can't date their friends exxxx, what's sister code if I may ask????.....be wise!

Blackberry said...

She's already falling for the guy, my own is, she shouldn't open leg immediately she meets him.

Anonymous said...

my dear, leave story. if u were not interested in this guy, this would ordinarily not be an issue. Haven't u had guys u were not interested in toast u? u know how to shun what u don't want so stop acting like u are not interested in at least something in regards to the guy. i don't know what it is ....... but it might be that u are flattered at the fact that the guy wants u over ur friend ( which of course u are starting to see as one of ur traits ).

Ask God for his opinion on the issue instead of asking mere mortals like us. He will surely direct u in the right path to take before u will miss ur missing rib or meet ur Waterloo.

GCD.

DON™ said...

Don't go that way! Don't start it. He's not the only man. Do it at your own peril sha.

Anonymous said...

Dear poster, if you value your peace of mind leave her EX alone, Spread your tentacles elsewhere because i doubt she would ever be sincerely happy for you. Moreso, try and put a limit to what you share with others so it doesn't turn around to hit you in the back.

Anonymous said...

Block the guy...

gagaga said...

Don't venture into it please. Look for your own man. If you do it, the relationship will not lead to anything serious because the guy might use the excuse of dating your friend previously to withdraw and by then, he would have added to your body count. Leave him. Years to come, you will remember this and thank God for not doing it. Shalom.

sholetoga said...

Poster......try and ask your friend what happened between them. After confirming that fact, you can then decide whether to see him or not. The thing whatever it is that caused their separation, the moment you agree to date him there will be trouble between you and your friend.
So the best bet is if you have someone else in your life, then forget him . But if there's no one now, and you think there's a good chemistry between the two of you then give him a chance and damn the consequences from your friend.......
Stay happy dear.....

Anonymous said...

ask your friend that how will she take it if you n nmor become serious or marry? So she wont blame you in future

Bold Marehi said...

Don't go, before it turns to something else.

Adadioramma said...

The name Nmor though. Chose between Nmor and Chinwe sha. My 2 cent.

Anonymous said...

Once the topic is "marriage or prospect of it" girls brains freeze.

Anonymous said...

What you will NOT eat DON'T bring it close to your nose to smell! Don't meet him or play along EVER!

Your best friend is only laughing about it in your presence but within her,she is sad. And your last paragraph is already showing the difference between you two.

akudo ukazu said...

Are u sure this is not a trap? Wel for me I think u need to really find out why they broke up and then hve a meeting with both of them after seeing the guy differently. So u make sure that your friend gives her consent in front of th guy. For me it's no big deal cos I see my ex as an ex I don't care who he dates.

Anonymous said...

Don't mind her! Mk she waka na!wetin u de find,u go soon see am! As if his d only one in naija for u to date! Someone uv nt even met,u are already catching feelings! D guy go kukuma shine your Congo and dump u d way he dumped ur friend! Someone dat saved ur nos wen he was dating ur friend!does dat not show dat d guy is vry irresponsible? He knew wat he was doing! U had beta respect urself and ignore dat guy! Besides u sd u always get ur way with guys and ur friend does not!hw come with all d guys uv bn dating, non of dem hv deem it fit to wife u?poster abeg gv urself brain! Free dat guy and look for anoda guy!ur friends EX is nt d only guy in dis naija!respect urself!

Anonymous said...

7yrs is a long time for ur friend to move on,if u like him then date him,he might just be ur husband for real,dont miss it so u wont regret it later. Ur friend shoulndnt be bothered she should b happy for u sef. If ur heart is there,then go for it.

World People said...

Hmmm I wonder how you will seek her advice when you and nmor start having problems in the relationship. Would she be your maid for honor at the wedding? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. Imagine if she and nmor rekindles whatever they had behind your back (okafors law) . The only way this would work is if you are no longer friends with your best friend. Simple. But you can't eat your cake and have it.

Anonymous said...

Fact is they don't even respect her..Boy just want to hit it..to get back at your friend...

Anonymous said...

You will cos there is no other guy in the world except him. .How would she face her friend if it doesn't work out with her ex? Never date your friends ex..that's the rule..it just is

Anonymous said...

She should not ask her..cos she obviously will play tough and say it ok. .even if it not..Girl..All those guys that treated u nice..why ain't u with one? I put it to u..that u are a jealous frIend who wants to just have what your friend had..I had a friend like that..All she ever does is to go after my ex''s or guys that likes me..but all the guys told me..You know the guy didn't save your number..you freaking initiated this whole thing..mtcheew

Anonymous said...

This posted is a liar. She saved the guys number and not the other way around...She is jealous of her friend...

tush baby said...

Jettison that bastard and disembark fast from that action. Wida you na. Abi you be back stabbe.you had better watch your back if you blindly go into this.what the fuck. You callback her your sister whatever which means she is like your bone tug and yet u wona let her down. Abi u no no say na shame u won give her. Wen she laugh na u she de laugh u no no.babe pls don't do this to your friend. But if you do chances are that u may not even be happy in the relationship. Trust me. You know why - cos it was built on the foundation of betray.set ur compass well for ur fortune to last long. Signing out.

Motola Famojuro said...

Ask yourself if the case has to be reversed will you be able to take it? Which am sure you wouldn't my sister if you really value your friendship as you've claim I suggest you bone this guy. Tell me are you the only lady on earth which it has to be you his ex best friend that means tomorrow he might do same thing to you that alone should have put you off those asking you to forget Abi them born you together will later tell you that you deserve to be treated that way when next he repeat the same thing to you borrow yourself brain and look for another guy on a plain level or else be ready to terminate the long term friendship youve nursed over these years. Abeg I want chop jare

Anonymous said...

Madam poster... your level of buffoonery is epic! You're in a relationship and tolerating this rubbish talk and game play from another dude? If he's an ex to your best friend, why doesn't try and get whatever she's looking for by herself?Let me ask, if whoever you're in a relationship with does exactly same thing you're doing now & you find out, how would you feel? Whatever your answer is, that's the advice you need. Tomorrow now, you'll scream blue murder how men are two timing and slimmy meanwhile you're a giant African snail with slime smoothered on you

Anonymous said...

You sound like a confused human being. You are not a child. So, stop acting like one! Go back and read what you sent for strangers to help you figure out. It is women like you that encourage men to treat other women badly. I don't want to insult you but I'm really pissed. You claim "men treat you better than your friend"..LOL. keep deceiving yourself. If you know what is good for you, block that IDIOT'S number and distance yourself from that man and his brother. They obviously have no moral compass! Like WTF! I feel like slapping you silly.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

Excuse madam, is it with hot malaria you sent this message? Be Like say the malaria don enter true true.
Since we are in dreamy mode: imagine a giant bowl of noodles -hot, steamy and in that spicy sticky sauce that clings to you when it dries up. Imagine the giant bowl has a side door and your friend, her ex and his brother at opening the door urging you to go inside. Would you go? No matter what they tell you about it not really being as hot and intertwined as it looks, would you step into that bowl?
Stay out of anything that complicates your life and relationships with people you care about!! This isn't about girl code etc it is about the fact that if it works out well your 'still single' friend would most likely be jealous and you will have a family-wide bad name. If it doesn't work out well, the guy would have gbenshed two bffs for life (I'm assuming y'all not celibate). Note that if you eventually get a bad name it will also affect her younger sis and his younger bros relationship temporarily or permanently - and you will be blamed. There are many other guys in the world leave this one and retain your respect as a woman - not as a friend (cos friendship can be ephemeral no matter how far you've come) but as a woman who dignity, pride and sense to live a drama-free life.

Anonymous said...

All the excuse to explain why you a snatcher? Lmao

Dada Toyosi said...

A million like for dis comment

Anonymous said...

He might just be..and what if he is not? Let her go and find another man

Sharon Aminu said...

Tank u
They dated for 7years
Pls leave him

Anonymous said...

If u think he's worth more than your friendship.Go ahead

Anonymous said...

As in! I don't understand the poster. She's already having feelings for the guy from the tone of this message. I really don't understand how my best friend's ex can have the effontery to approach me for a relationship and I will be debating in my mind whether to agree or not

Push up said...

My dear, you are playing with fire, if you end up falling for him be prepared to loose your friend, cus she will not just come and tell you know, if she left the relationship it's different, but in this case he dint treat her well. The guy is funny so he just went scrolling through his phone and decided he is "in like" with this person, nawa o, all the likeness he has for you is based on the good things your friend said about you, you can find another guy abeg

Anonymous said...

Stay away from the guy...your friend just wants to know how loyal you are....and for me if you are really a good friend of hers just tell him to back off....this shouldn't be a matter of confusion you also mentioned that men treat you better than her anyway..... so chill another man will come and treat you better than Nmor be wise....

Anonymous said...

Dont meet up with the guy at all. What kind of play does a rat play with a cat? There are many guys out there, let another one find you!Your relationship with your friend will never be the same again if you date this guy.

Anonymous said...

One thing is sure that am certain of....Either way you end up with a friend and an enemy. So if you don't want drama keep the guy out of your life and keep your friend and be careful with your friend cause I see some envy in your friendship. You are already having feelings for him and I have a very strong feeling he broke up with your friend because of you. He likes you but unfortunately ended up dating your friend back then so he kept your contact,waiting for the heat to cool off and came after you. Everything is calculated and I feel your friend suspect that was his game plan. The other option you have is drama all the way. Meet the guy, date him, severe your relationship with your friend and even if it does not work don't make peace with your friend. Some harsh,blunt decisions requires harsh blunt actions but you must be strong willed to carry it out.

DON™ said...

Hian?

DON™ said...

Jealous friend. She want what her friend cherish the most. You are a bad friend, Poster.

Dainty T said...

Dear Poster, stay away from Nmor. Forget about what you friend is saying or not saying, but trust me when I say she'd prefer you not dating her ex. Something similar happened to my roommate about 2 years ago and it almost destroyed the friendship she had built over the years with the other lady. Move on!! You're in your mid 20s, you will still meet a lot of men in life. Be wise girl

Hadey Halaba said...

You sound lonely and desperate to me. You said u are in a relationship and guys treat you better than your friend but its a lie.

If u r treated "better" as u claim, then this write up/chronicle wouldn't come up.

Whatever pleases you.

Sabali said...

Go ahead and date him like my useless cousin that dates all my ex.Disgusting element.

beebumble said...

c babe from wat i read here, u hav alrdy fallen for d guy but u dnt want to believe it. dis guy is ur frnd's ex dnt even involve urself in this mess bcos u wld regret it. he is not d only man in ds world mek ur choice else wia and believe me dis is a planned deal beta be careful,weda ur frnd is taking it cool or not u cn neva knw wat/how she is taking the whole thing. be wise

Lipstickalley said...

I swear Anon 16:45pm, see explanation shaa.

Aunty, if you were not in a least bit interested in this guy, why go through all this trouble.

You want us to advise you as how? When you already know whats right and wrong in this situation.

Next....please

Lacey Love said...

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trish said...

Hianest?

Gold Taken said...

Well said, Doppel

Blackberry said...

As in ehn, there's a way u'll carry yourself and ur friends ex won't have d liver to play okoso with u, the respect he'll have won't let him unless he has no manners.

trish said...

Lol@ hot malaria.chikito you no go kill me oo.

Blackberry said...

Do you know if the guy wants to fuck her left, right, and center, just to get back at her friend?

trish said...

3rd world war loading 4 u.RECEIVE SENSE POSTER!

Jeni_zee said...

Did the guy date her friend's younger sister? Poster u better forget this guy

Jeni_zee said...

For her to send chronicle means she is interested CIA I don't know why u are sending this if u don't want to date d guy, there are no go areas nd u are deceiving yourself

Jasmine said...

God bless you. What if he's the right one for her? Madam poster, give the guy a chance and if u fall in love with him, then enjoy your relationship

Jasmine said...

I see them getting married self.

Jeni_zee said...

She went cal to meet the guy lying he saved her number, if your story is true, which responsible man saves a number his girlfriend uses to call nd start asking his ex's friend out

Jasmine said...

Gbam

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 16.45, that was not nice!!!

Jeni_zee said...

Exactly

Miss Juliet said...

Everybody saying look for another guy. Abeg guys no plenty again. Make she dey with Nmor make we see people to date abegπŸ˜‚

Poster the only question i have for u is, if ur friend was the one planning to date ur ex will u be ok with it? If u will den go ahead! If not den respect ur self

HummingBird said...

Poster please don't let any one push you around. If you don't want him take your stand.for me I won't date my friends ex.

HummingBird said...

Supported

HummingBird said...

He who has ears...her eye will clear when the guy gets inbetween her legs

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

@blackberry oho! Dem go dey fear sef say that one Na no-go area. Be like say poster don dey give them side eye since 1900

@trish- what would I say? You never hear say malaria dey make people dream and see visions? #isokay

yellow sisi said...

Madam what are you saying ?? Let the sleeping dogs lie, he is not worth it at all. Even though I don't understand this your chronicle, you want us to give you the go ahead? Respect yourself and the word called 'friendship '. A word is enough for the wise.

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Dear Poster: Did you ask what caused the breakup between your friend and the guy..My dear You need to respeck yourself enough not to be involved in this "COBWEB" of friends cause you will get stung at the end of the day..It doesnt have to be you..Walk away from the guy and with what you are saying, I see a gangup amongst your friend, Chinedu and Nmor..You have to be very careful, and end anything you want to start with that guy..Infact Forget him, another man will come your way..Abi You dont like CHASSIS .What is with ladies and ''second men'' sef??

Iphie dearie said...

Its the M word he dropped that got you all jiggly.

I really don't believe in the Whatever code πŸ’―
I know there are exceptions to everybrule,but yours isn't one of them.
What makes you think that he will like you any better even with your Guys-treat-me-better-self???

I see you already like this dude,talking about his brother Chinedu and how great his relationship is. BE CAREFUL.

Kendrick's mum said...

Exactly!! Poster u mentioned u r in a relationship so why bother to try what will boomerang at d end?and how come the so called Chinedu is the one telling you what to do,pls free that guy sharply.

CHI EXOTIC said...

What nonsensical sister code sef? Mtseeew
Leave her let her keep talking about girl code
That doesn't exist in my dictionary
If my friends ex asks me out and I like him, I would so go ahead and date him

Girl code kor, boys code ni.

CHI EXOTIC said...

Gbamer!

Pastor's Daughter said...

So all these epistle na untop person ex boyfriend. Wooow i put it to u that u already have fallen for this man.





Of all the men in the world na your bestie ex you wan fuck ?


Its forbidden to date a friends ex. No matter how the thing sweet you.

Anonymous said...

Poster I must commend d person dat photocopied ur brain,left u with d photocopy and ran away with d original.if men always treat u better Dan ur friend, u would v been in a great relationship by now instead of chatting ur friend's up and telling us he seeked u out.I had a friend like u,my ex banged her brains out and dumb her like a bad habit.and fact dat u think men treat u better Dan her speaks volumes about ur kind of person.from d rubbish u wrote up there,u sound like someone with a low iq.

Stella Igbokei said...

Hmmmm

Fuck you said...

Aunty poster gwegwegwe leave ur friends boyfriend alone...it's a lie u don't get better men like ur frnd...if not u won't be thinking of dating ur friends boyfriend...Go and look for ur own...if na me I go just dey look u dey laugh...just dey poison u small small

Kiks said...

The fact that he saved your number from your friend using his phone, all shades of shady. Face your front. Leave the guy don't play along like your friend said. Have respect for yourself.

Anonymous said...

Gbam@Jeni...The Poster is a liar. .she called the guy...How do u know he''s saved every single number her ex called people with..smfh..

Anonymous said...

How come u never met a "sister like" friends bf? Liar liar liar...She probably told lies about her friend to the guy..and is the reason they broke up...Jealous friend.Which decent guy would even save a number their gf called. ? This poster called the guy..dude sent u no freaking text. You not scared he will save numbers u call too..mtcheew

Anonymous said...

How would u know, he saved every single female number his ex called? Do u know who next he would call?

Anonymous said...

She is lying..she saved the guys number from her friends phone..She wants to go see the guy..not the other way round..She just Lied to get sympathy..Liar..Jealous friend

Anonymous said...

Problem dey there oooo. Abi you nor read sey the guy's younger brother is marrying the friend's younger sister? That means if she marries the guy, it would always be like rubbing it in the face of her friend. Besides, from her write up the friend did not give her a clear go ahead, saying the man is not serious and laughing, what is that? People should always try to avoid complicated situations, there are many fish in the ocean. Also generally, I would advise anyone in a relationship not to go blabbing too much to friends about your boo, that is what made this poster to quickly develop feelings for the Nmor. Abeg enuf said, poster you go still do wetin dey ya mind sha.

Jeni_zee said...

Cos I don't know*

Anonymous said...

Hehehehehe...

Anonymous said...

Going with Nmor is destroying her friendship. Poster you have to choose one, Nmor or your friend.

Anonymous said...

Your friend said you should play along with him and at yiur age you don't have a mind of your own. You are acting like a juvenile, hope you won't learn your lessons the hard way ??

Anonymous said...

I think so too. Life has taught me. Keep your relationship details to yourself. While her friend was dating Nmor and giving her gist, she was salivating and wishing she was in her friend's shoes. Now she is yarning dust...

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

I can't even stand a guy that asked my friend out doing same to me not to talk of reaching this extent. Poster you have always been interested in this guy, such a greedy friend you are. Do what pleases you I'm out

Anonymous said...

Don't. Even. Think. About. It. He wants to use and dump you to get back at your friend. You also have have unresolved issues with your friend. It's obvious. You are envious of her although you claim guys treat you better but it's probably untrue. That's why you want to get with the guy. To pepper her. Better borrow brain and tell the guy not to come

Anonymous said...

You never met the guy..but knows your friends sister is dating his brother..You even know his brother..smfh..You saved the number from your friends phone..the guy didn't call u..You are the one after him...

Anonymous said...

And she claims she never met the guy, but know his brother his dating her friends sister..This poster is annoying..just lying to look good..

Ajagbe adeola hannah said...

So, I read the comments. All I can say is, your friends ex, and you, you deserve each other. For even considering him. Your friend is the good person and winner in all of these. What was she doing with that guy, and you to start with? I hope she has the wisdom to walk far away from people like you and her ex. Your friends ex has so much guts sha, and I think you gave him audience. None of my friends ex will walk up to me to talk trash like this, never! Not even in their dreams. Men get along with you than your friend, that's your consolation right? Enjoy it. You deserve your friends ex, and he deserves you.

Anonymous said...

Bvs, thanks for the advice. To those that said I called the guy, what for? A guy that I haven't set my eyes on? Anyways, thanks for thinking that way. Maybe, that's what my friend is thinking or would have thought in the future. I sent the chronicles about 9 days ago immediately I discussed it with my friend. I had already cut ties with the guy three days after because I am not desperate and I am not ready to jeopardize friendship. I was even thinking the email wasn't sent successfully only for me to see it this evening. Stella,thanks for posting it. Yes, I am in a great relationship and I am a good girlfriend. #Poster

Timaro said...

No mind her.What I want to understand is DT you want us to believe you have never seen his pix on her phone or on his whatapp dp.U didn't check him out and started catching feelings?
Stay there and deceive yourself.You like the attention,the fact that you are being chased and I'm sure you must have dug out in your memory the few times he was nice to your friend or probably inside you you think you are different forgetting that its something that triggered that guy to suddenly chat u up.
By the way,is it every guy that seeks out your time that you pay attention to?
Assuming he was a petty roadside vulcanizer, will you even give him a sec of your time?
Anyways we are all wasting our time as you will still meet with him just to prove a lame point.

Timaro said...

Guys treat her better yet she is single,cos if she was in a relationship she would have stated it here

Anonymous said...

I have slapped my face before your slap came #poster

Anonymous said...

Miss Blackberry Carrier, how do I carry myself before someone I do not know slash haven't seen before but claims to know me pretty well?
Professional Anike, you may be right because I was treating malaria when I sent this chronicles

#poster

Anonymous said...

No element is disgusting.

Anonymous said...

Sense received

Anonymous said...

Are you sure you are not the "said ex" that her brains were banged out and dumped?

Anonymous said...

Wehdone

Anonymous said...

Wehdone

Anonymous said...

Liar liar....So that's the only comments that got to u..Abi? You are the one after the guy..and i know u won't stop..but trust he won't take u no where..You two deserve each other. .

SisterSledge said...

Gbamest!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

You are just a confused girl and you are a wicked friend. What are you still chatting with him for? Why can't you simply just tell him you're not interested and you have someone other than that long useless explanation you're giving. Mtchhww!!! I'm sure you're enjoying the attention, feeling loved and treated better. Let your boyfriend catch u and break up with you. Wicked and vile friend.

my opinion said...

Nawa for BVS

Y are you guys so angry* she said she has better luck with men than her friend? How is that jealousy? If you haven't experienced being the favored one amongst ur female friends, u may not understand where she is coming from with that statement.

However, poster i don't date my friends ' exes. Don't think it is right. A gf of mine tried it in the past. I didn't mind so much because I was done with the guy and truthfully wanted him off my system. But till date I don't take the girl serious anymore and we ain't friends again (not bcos of dat sha). It was even the guy that told me about her moves on him...

Just avoid this drama in your life. If he is truly your husband as some are insinuating, it will find another way to happen. The way it is coming is too cunny and degrading. Something messy is cooking for you. Please run πŸƒ πŸƒ πŸƒ

Anonymous said...

Poster is dat you? I must v hit a nerve..lol

Anonymous said...

Lol..no wonder u attacked me up there..you r in a great relationship and you wrote epistle untop your friend's ex.Poster this your fabu no Dey add up..

Anonymous said...

Shame on you three ...

Anonymous said...

Thank GOD

Because as I dey read the post this early Wednesday morning, I dey shake my head... I think say the SPIRIT of @Stella DANA don fall on you... You no see any single guy, Na guy wen get "portfolio " u wan date

Congrats

Greet your friend for us




@Anonymous Orubebe

Anonymous said...

The guy be just wan fuck her PONYOR free of charge.. As Dem dey talk for phone, the guy don see say she don begin dey catch feelings


May I not have a best friend that will want to date my ex.. That kind girlfriend can KILL you.



@Anonymous Orubebe

Anonymous said...

#poster you gatz me laughing kikikikikikiki, you nor wan know, lol

Anonymous said...

Poster it is well with you. Inugo? Don't let the anticipated mess mess you up. As for BVs, we always mean well.πŸ˜ƒ

Radience said...

Dating your friends ex ain't a good thing to do. You're falling for him already. Forget about what your friend said and do the right thing. If he's meant for you, it will happen another way not like this. You might loose a close friend if you decide to do the wrong thing. Remember that your didn't actuality give you the full details of how they broke up.
Be careful what you do dear

Madame koinkoin a.k.a 'peace lover" said...

Poster abeg receive brain and do the right thing. Follow your mind if truly yu re not already in love with that guy. Don't break the trust between yu and your friend. You do not expect her to tell yu never to see that guy, just be wise about it sha, I ll tell you to maintain your sister code and focus on your relationship since you have one.

Onyima Judith Peter said...

We think alike

Onyima Judith Peter said...

We think alike

Anonymous said...

"I have noticed that I am always on the good side with guys. Guys tend to treat me better than her and she knows that. What if I meet with this guy and he starts treating me well unlike how he treated my friend? What if the guy becomes serious and starts acting lovey dovey? Should I listen to her and see him or should I maintain my stand"
Just negodu!!! Listen to yourself and @ the end if it you would have answered your question.... You are strict and at the same time desperate.

Daddy Code said...

Doppelganger, i don't know if you'll see this, but if you don't, anyone who does should call her attention to it. This your advice to this lady is the dumbest crap you've ever put up here (and believe me you do put up a lot of crap)... read what u posted and realise how insensible it is...

Anonymous said...

Nice write-up Push up especially the ending part.

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