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Monday, 14 August 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BROKE AND INSECURE BOYFRIEND BROUHAHA
Hi Stella,

Please post, Thank you.

I really don't understand my bf and I don't know what to think of this situation.

Here's what happened, I've been with my bf for almost 2 years and it's the sweetest relationship I've been into. 


Different down moments and trust issues on both sides which we overcame or maybe he hasn't overcome it. I've never cheated on him but  he acts so insecure sometimes.


 Initially, I thought it was because I told him to chill on us getting married for now as I saw that we're both not financially ready, I mean I always end up broke before month end and I don't even like asking him for too much except for tfare to work when I'm extremely broke and this is because I know he doesn't have so much either. 


We came to an understanding to have another source of income so we can have a solid financial back up before getting married ( or maybe I thought he understood). The thing now is that, to the best of my knowledge, things have been perfect between us, I'm as open as possible but he can just wake up one morning and start talking about the relationship not going well or start complaining of something about me that I don't know. I ask him to go straight to the point and tell me exactly where I'm missing it but he ends up not saying anything clear.


 Things have been going well for sometime now even up to this morning but he suddenly called me and said the relationship is not going well and he doesn't think we should continue. I asked what's the problem but he couldn't say anything clear. He has done this a lot of times and I barely even understand what he wants as he's not communicating it in clear terms.

I really need your suggestions on how to go about figuring things out.

Thank you



*Hmmmm,wont this guy wake up one day after marriage and its not working out and he has to go?...Please let him go..A man who is insecure and broke is a dangerous ringtone!


76 comments:

Miss Ess said...

I think he is having a second thought about you

Tilly said...

Both of you are not obviously on the same page. You should try to talk things out in a way that both of are clear about things. His insecurities could be as a result of him thinking there might be someone else because you are not ready to settle down.

Blackberry said...

Give it time, but while you are at it, keep ur heart open, cos that guy is eyeing another nwababy with all those vague excuses.

Anonymous said...

What he is saying is that he had had enough of the vagina and want to move on to a "more lucrative one".
Will girls ever learn to close legs?

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

You're patient and understanding but for how long? He clearly has a lot of emotions running through him and if he can't express them to you then you both would keep having issues. Communication is key to a great relationship, both of you can hear and speak so I see no reason why one party should keep something bothering them to themself. You already know you can't marry this guy unless his finances change which isn't happening anytime soon except a miracle happens. If a guy is undecided about his feelings for you then let him go. Don't waste your time with someone who feels or thinks his financial problems are your fault. He should be a man about it and buckle up instead. Stop weighing each other down, let him go. Who knows maybe his or your luck will turn and you both can work things out in future.

Anonymous said...

These days, and stupidly so, dating is same as having sex in the minds of most depraved girls. Yes, girls because, we decide if sex should take place or not. The boy is probably fed up by too much "cookies" so there is nothing to marry again for. It is a coded way of dumping!

@sugarcassie said...

This is a red flag that will also be an issue. Let him go since he thinks the relationship is going nowhere. Focus on your own financial growtg and stability. When your financial dream is bigger than your partner (male) they become incoherent.

Anonymous said...

According to ur chronicle it appears that its only u who feels everything has been going on well,he doesnt see it the way u do. Can u allow this guy go pls to avoid stories that touch in future

Anonymous said...

lol...na real dangerous ringtone

Anonymous said...

Sex in most relationships usually end this way. Sex in marriage is different because it honors the marriage bed, it is divinely sanctioned and fulfilling. So here girl is a consequence of sex before marriage; used and dumped like humpty dumpty.

Chike TEFLON said...

Poster is either he is seeing someone else or he is scared of his financial status..
You guys should take a break to cool your heads.

But from your write up, is like you are forcing the relationship to work by all means.

HighlyFavoured said...

My dear check the single and mingle post. It came timely for u, cos right now, u r dating urself.

Anonymous said...

@Stella
You don't get this "gist" do you?
This guy is not insecure. He is just overfed by this girls cheap vagina. He wants to move on to another.

Jasmine said...

Dude is insecure because he is broke and now that he is picking up, he wants to start giving excuses?


He is a weakling. Let him go please and put your mind at rest.

Anonymous said...

Let him go mama

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Since you have tried to ask him alot of time what the problem is; and he's not open to you, i'll suggest you give him space.

I hope you have not invested in any business with him? If you have, please make sure you keep the receipt of all your spending.

Let him go, he is not a stable guy, he doesn't even know what he want, so let him be.

You face your life, try and setup a side business to help your financial stability and security.
My dear, never you invest into any business with a boyfriend, same thing I say to men. Marriage is different from relationship.

Anonymous said...

If this girl hasn't opened legs, by now the guy would have been very eager to get married; including looking for alternative jobs or supplementary earning means to augment his present income. But this is what happens when sex is served cheap; meaning before marriage.

Cynthia Iyede said...

He's not serious. Let him go. The one who is ready to stay and work things out will come. I know the economy is really frustrating guys but then, he's not alone na. Don't force it. When it's time, things will fall in place.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

hahahahaha Anon 15:05 thank you jare. boyfriend at this age and matter. You no serious at all. the guy don see another mugu to chop.

Dem say make una no dey do wife duty for boyfriend mba una no go hear, instead una go call people gwegs. Oya wetin you want to figure.

You better disboyfriend him fast fast

orela said...

Lol...babe..free the guy..broke guys are insecure. They are always paranoid.no matter how you explain they think you are managing them waiting for a better person financially..
When a guy starts hinting on calling off a relationship don't bother pushing he has thought it over..help him call it off

Glow! said...

Anon 15:05 spot on!
You hit the nail on the head jare

Lipstickalley said...

I no gree for give it time. The lad is unstable who wakes up one morning, breaks up his girlfriend of 2 years without even giving a good reason for the break up and the much needed closure. Nooo let him go, she needs stability in her life right now

Intelligentsia princess said...

Poster take it to they Lord in prayer.
What is meant for you will never pass you bye..

Adadioramma said...

The Bberry herself, nothing do you.

Brandedme said...

Na ogbanje dey worry am


He shd avoid his village pple

Ada Aguiyi said...

Please pray about this. Yes pray. Tell God if it's not meant to be let Him scatter it. It's better to have a broken relationship than marriage.

AGELESS T said...

Usain Bolt shoes...

Bibire said...

If he says it's over,move on.Cry if you must but don't ever beg any man to stay with you or force him to stay.And I think it's better you let him go now cos an insecure man is not reliable

Ms SSS a.k.a stunning slim shady said...

Move on my dear
..... Oge adiro

Gold Taken said...

I will go with Stella on this. If you always beg a man to stay and love you as you deserve to be loved, Na your cycle be dat. No value, worth- that's his view of you in his eyes even if he professes all the sweet things to you to get the cookie etc, They always leave. So save yourself the heartache and move on.

sexy Daddy said...

Poster,let me finish eating my oha,missed with bitter leaf soup(badass combo)drink water then come for the advice I will give to you!

Boyfriend matter? no no for me,as I only give my advice to marriage issues.

Wish you good luck.

Emmy yayo said...

POSTER....YOUR MUMU NEVER DO?...

Chidinma Grace said...

Oyo is your case because this is the matter of see finish. Move on babe.

John Edet said...

You think leg opening only benefit the guys.So ladies don't get horny. Grow up.the pleasure is both ways but if you are using sex as a means to keep him then you need mental examination.

KIDJO said...

Cookies or not,nothing can stop a guy from leaving if he wants to leave. Most girls come here to pretend to be celibate but are not.What about virgins that were dumped, what's your take on that? Sebi it's too much cookies that made the guys to leave them as well?😞😞😞😞😞😞😞

KIDJO said...

πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…When you tell them to keep spare tyres, they will say you are bad. Poster, oga is broke and can't meet your needs again. .go look for another boyfriend......
Who date broke guys nowadays? Who does that...A broke man has no right to ve an erection😞😞😞

Cute hajia Omo Mummy said...

My dear run for ur life o. Person wey never get money dey treat u like this, if he blow u go hear whin!

Anonymous said...

The guy obviously has gotten another girl richer and willing to settle down at all cost as you doubt his capabilities to take care of you move on sis

DON™ said...

Poster, follow this advice to the letter. Go fetch new guy from snm sharply... Lol

Anonymous said...

Poster, My then boyfriend (Now husband) used to wake up and break up with me, sleep and break up with me, eat and break up with me. If I say I can't see him today, till tomorrow, he will call me back and tell me not to worry about ever coming again that we should just call it quits. Hian.

One day, after he broke up with me, as usual (I was deeply hurt each time he did this. It wasn't easy), I broke up with him for real. After about 2 weeks, he came back begging and rolling on the floor. I agreed. Today, we're married, we have gone through major challenges that he will always tell me that we should end the marriage, maybe we weren't meant to be together, maybe he married me too early, bla bla. Hmm.

The issue is with his insecurities; His inability to accept that he can't do as much as he'd probably like to and the hurt from loosing his parents earlier in life which led to the feeling that he doesn't have anyone in life to depend on.

Wetin I wan do? I don marry am finish. Life isn't always as we planned.

So, poster, pray about the marriage and make up your mind. Are you willing to do this with him? Because I tell you, there is a 90percent chance that he will break up with you more times if you marry him.

Cheers.

The Lifted said...

let him go! he needs to set he's life on the right track,he needs to fix himself first b4 anything.he's not just ready to continue this relationship anymore.

Oma maranma said...

I quiet agree on closing legs during relationship. Infact I'm actually team mermaids.

But not having sex doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. Cases of people marrying the one they slept with on first date have been read here. So its not sex but the guy man is the problem. Whoever will marry you,
will regardless of sex. It's better sef he broke up with her now. Imagine if the girl is saddled with this kind guy forever under marriage.

It's better to break up than marry someone who only marries you cause he hasn't slept with you yet (that marriage is headed for disaster). I have heard of virgins being treated like tramp in marriage. It's not sex. The guy just don't derseve the girl. And things has a way of leading us away from people we are not supposed to stay with for a lifetime.

Poster, please leave that guy. He is not meant to last a lifetime with you. Get busy until your husband comes around and FIND YOU.

Anonymous said...

So i read of a Catholic babe who is dating a Jw bro in one of the post. Listen to me if that guy isn't trying to convince u to join him in JW or him trying to join ur church. There is actually no way he will marry u. He will shang u n ur congo and go get married to a sis quietly or he might already have sm1 he is dating there but u are the cheerful giver.be wise girl!

Oma maranma said...

No sex doesn't keep a man. A man that want to stay will stay regardless (but no sex only for the sake of God! Not to keep a man. That's deceptive and you might use it to tramp a demon that will deal with you after sleeping with you in the marriage) . Just keep ypur fingers crossed and wait for God to lead your own man to you. He is to Find you btw, not you finding him. Getting married and to a good man only depends on God. So why you're waiting to be swept off your feet poster, get Busy!

SHILZ said...

Even if u convince him to get married to u this evening, one story will come up why he cant marry u.let the BOY go u will find a MAN!

Anonymous said...

Let him go!! You don't want to beg your husband to stay after marriage. You are lucky he is doing this now while you are still dating

jelly said...

Give him some space... he will come back running after you if he is the one God has destine for you

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Instead of sending this, u for do singles and mingles..I hope you participated in it yesterday..Please eject that guy from the DVD Player of your life...unto the next one **In Jay-Z's voice**

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

Is difficult yes, but you have to let him go. Thats why is called a relationship sometimes it works out other times it doesnt. Brace yourself and move on with your sweet life is his loss not yours.

Anonymous said...

Yes, girls get horny but
who sulks when dumped?
Who gets pregnant, called baby mama, prostitute etc.
Who goes on the abortion table and gets saddled with the guilt or probably loses her life
Who plunges into depression and suicidal attempts for it all . . .
Whose time runs out in terms of "marriage and kids?"

@ John; If your sister's or wife's excuse for opening her legs aghara aghara (anyhow) is because she is horny, what then is the definition of "whore?"
And if you dump girls because the "pleasure is both ways", how do you sleep at nights?

Girls should know that we always as a matter of the rule hold the shorter end of the relationship stick and we ought to be wiser and beat randy men at their games!

Anonymous said...

The thing is that when a girl is dumped after refusing to open legs, she goes with her dignity. she doesn't lose both ways.

Anonymous said...

Most of the boys these days that girls succumb to for sex have the videos to watch later; believe it or not.

Anonymous said...

My humble and honest advice is you break up with him. You are his unstable plan B. He has another girl he is shadowing and from a better background financially or has better paying job than you. But he doesn't know his stand with the other girl. Each time he gets or feels the other girl will accept him totally he comes with the that conclusion that your relationship with him is not going no where. Better start looking for someone who will treat you like a queen rather that this guy that is using you as a spare napkin to be discarded after use.

#come back and thank me later.

Anonymous said...

@Ada Aguiyi
"Prayers" and fornication do not go together. Tell her foremost to repent of fornication if that has been the case which most probably is.
Then she can pray with a clear conscience.
And that your second name means crocodile; sure you get it?

creamy crystal said...

But women do this a lot of times and their guys if truly in love over looks all these and keeps pushing.I did it so many times before settling with him not because of anything but because I was afraid of loosing my v n couldn't find a way of telling him.he kept begging and being until I opened up.he promised never to disturb me till I was ready to go through it.and he kept to his words.but this your guy playing the role of a woman,he may be seeking attention or wants to be petted always.comsider buying a feeding bottle dear.its well

Anonymous said...

That mam na fake jw. No proper jw man or woman will look outside, much less date. Even if dem never catch am, hin go suffer the consequences, God cannot be mocked or deceived.

Anonymous said...

That John up there sounds like a playboy
girls on this blog beware!

hope amasowomwan said...

dear poster, if he is so indecisive about the r/ship, let him be. The most painful thing in marriage is for ur partner to be insecure.

Ada Aguiyi said...

Anonymous 16:38 do you stay with them to know if they are fornicating? Or are you God that answers prayers?
Oh yes! I know the meaning of my name and I don't bite. Lol

Anonymous said...

He is just forming...Say ok next time he says it
.and he will come begging...He loves u..and scared u dont...

onomebonny said...

Pick up your shoes and walk away.

Single Father's Diary said...

If he says you guys need a break, take the break. Sometimes breaks are good in relationships for both parties. Both don't write him off yet tho. He has got plenty on his mind and he might eventually tel you.

chim_oma said...

All I see here is a man that wants out.

chim-oma a.k.a. Miss Kapusu

Anonymous said...

Please Aguiyi, allow the person that ate Okpa to drink water. Did the poster employ you as an advocate? Abeg no bite me o!

Blackberry said...

Lmaoooo anon have again!
Abortion n fuck fuck advocate.

Anonymous said...

Sister, you are dating your self. No matter how you try to paint him good because you love him scarra the feeling is not mutual at all..... You are in love your so called boyfriend was in list(which has faded) so O.Y.O is your name. You better look for new boo and leave that time waster alone.




@just bella

sholetoga said...

Poster.....I think what you should do is to call or text him that you are also fed up with the relationship and don't want anything to do with him again. Believe me, if he really love you, he would be at your door begging you. But if he doesn't call or come over to beg you then dumb his broke ass......WTH

Anonymous said...

@Blackberry
What were you doing when you forgot to (add) "come"?
Read your first sentence again.

Anonymous said...

18:50 she was opening her legs collecting big prick while typing

Anonymous said...

Your boyfriend is in lust..... Damn! Typo error!




@just Bella.

Anonymous said...

@19:08
Your mind is polluted.
I asked BB not you.

IJAY said...

Poster ,please forget about him, his either I involved with someone else or is tired of you shikena, you can't start a home like this

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

Lol. The shit ladies take in the name of a relationship. My boyfriend says that to me once, I break up with him. If he begs i will give him a 2nd chance after 2-3 months of persuasion and a reconciliation list.
Now he comes and says that shit the second time, that's the END. Who has time to go on an emotional roller coaster with a supposedly grown man? The true test of a man is in his character, and how he handles his shit. What's all this rubbish telling you he wants out and you're letting it get to you. Please that child isn't ready and its high time you find your 'crown'. Leave that joker or be like the anon up there that has to listen to the same story from a man who has married her and given her sperm to birth kids.

I don't know why we condone these jokes from men all in the name of 'love'. Na wa oh! Someone who is supposed to carrying you like egg will now come and asking for a way out. How???!! E chop winsch

ukwu dimond said...

What he is saying is that am fed up with your expired totoh, I need to have another babe, he want to settle down but you are not giving him light. If a man does not trust you in relationship he will not sell trust you in marriage.

Sister let him go for good, another man will come, he threatens you all the time as if he is dating you out of pity. Back out pls

Anonymous said...

You see this lady and those experiencing domestic violence I don't know if they need a magic wand to transfer sense to them. Anyway I think its this mentality of " you said I should leave him then you owe me a boyfriend/husband". Time has a way of taking care if things if you like leave now if you like do nothing but you see this your guys spec? You will eventually leave and it definitely won't be what you want to do and then you'll be bitter at him. Being in a relationship does not validate you, of course its great to have a companion that you do things with but bad company isn't better than no company. Nobody should make you feel they are doing you a favour by being with you.

Anonymous said...

Poster pls go and read the story of engr Mrs Sylvia chinyere Akaleme. If care is not taken that is where u r heading. Leave now!!!

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