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Wednesday, 23 August 2017

Rejecting The Pregnancy..

Hmmm..... this Couch talk is between the man who rejected a pregnancy and the woman whose pregnancy was rejected .....



To the men,What was your reason for rejecting the pregnancy? 

To the women...How did you cope with the pregnancy and baby? If he wants a come back, will you give him access to the child he once rejected?

I have heard of some men who rejected pregnancies, got married for years without a child and are now TRYING to contact and make peace with the women whose pregnancies they once rejected.

Women please Tell us how you handled them
Men please tell us how you went about it and if you were accepted or rejected. There are people presently walking the aforementioned path and your replies will definitely help!.


128 comments:

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

Guess pple like us are here to read... Will come back if I remember any true life story

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Men rejects pregnancy for some reasons:
1. the news came as a shock.
2. most are mama boys and dont have money too much
3. unfaithful girlfriend or bae
4. Too young to be a father
5. the woman he pregnant is ugly and the baby will not look fine
6. Still in university. Let me not put secondary school
7. cane waiting for them at home if they ever come with tales of my girlfriend is pregnant.

abeg make una add una ooo

BLOGBRITY said...

God bless all single mothers! You're the real MVPs

Miss Ess said...

This is a very serious couch discussion. I don't have any experience or anuone i know. Let me read comments

Bianca BRUNO said...

The men will never write.

Eka Joy said...

If a man rejects my pregnancy, he should just kiss that baby goodbye cos he will never have access to that child ever

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Will be reading comments... But I can't imagine rejecting a pregnancy that one knows they are responsible for honestly.... That's your blood and kid you are forsaking for crying out loud

Anonymous said...

A girl decides whether sex should take place and girls are so foolish to think that marriage will be hastened by getting pregnant. They bring trouble on themselves by so doing. Wait until your bride price is paid before opening legs.

Bianca BRUNO said...

If I was ever in such a situation, the man will never see the child again. If I'm ever to forgive in the future then he will pay a hefty sum.

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People should stop sleeping carelessly with partners they wouldn't be proud to have a baby by or marry thou to avoid all these rejections

IBUKUNOLUWA said...

I can't even get pregnant for you and you will open your mouth to tell me to go and abort,not to talk of rejecting the baby.

Why would u reject my baby? Its like u want blessings to reject u too?


No man can ever try that shit with me,if he does...you're as good as dead to me and to the child!

Daddy Code said...

If a girl I'm with tells she's pregnant, I'll gladly take it.. I will never reject the pregnancy, even if I suspect it's not mine. I'll just do a coded paternity test when the child is born..

Anonymous said...

I am currently not married to my baby daddy. I clocked 30 in 2015 and didnt want to be pressurised into narriage by my folks so I got pregnant. My bf and I agreed to have the child while he supports me financially. Although we had issues here and there, I still pulled through and had my child even without my folks knowledge. They got to know after like four months by amebo people. My boy and I are doing fine and his dad comes to visit once in a while while he pays his bills. Although I dont like tbe fact that he barges into us without prior notice but ive gotten used to it. The only major challenge I had walking this lane was during my pregnancy and the loneliness I had cos I was out of the country and didnt have anyone to talk to. I've bounced back now and in all good shape now doing my thing and chasing money. I love my boy and the dad is an asshole once in a while and we like it like that. Before u do what I did, make sure u have ur own money cos it aint easy boo.

Anonymous said...

Well, this happened to my brother, so i witnessed it all... he loved this Calabar graduate scatter, always travels from Akwa to see her in sch, the love was enviable even to a blind man, and they sustained the union for 4yrs, then he complained shes beginning to change, after several months of her denying there was no problem, he snooped and discoveres shes giving attention to another man, so he got furious and she denied with ladies favorite line "hes just a good friend"... it became too obvious that she was comparng and contemplating who to choose for marriage..... so my bro being a guy man na, he backed out n dumped her, after 3months she came begging that she wasnt herself and was scared n confused, but she chose him, being that she has his mumu button he took her back, so that week she initiated sex without condom, and started talkn marriage like never b4, he was happy being that he loved her wella, then 3weeks later, she announces that shes missed her period, he was happy again, till sumthing sparked in his head, he said no wahala na.. but no engagement ring or wedding plans till u give birth, she said why? my parents will kill me bla bla bla.... he said "im now confused" i need time, besides i need money for wedding things... but im not denying the baby, she cried n cried, shes 4months gone now.

Anonymous said...

Got preg d 1st time i had sec,was 18 and didnt knw i was preg till i was six months gone....told him,he denied...anoda case of "there was no blood"...well had to abort it with a traditional medicine a friend helped me get...5yrs after he came back to apologise and want me back ...told him i have forgiven him but cant take him back...i'm 27 now and he is still claiming love and wants to marry him,but i cant...maybe i would have but he is a muslim aand i dont want to marry a muslim..i'm a christian... i regret losing d baby,but there was no way i could have kept it,my dad would have killed me...i miss my baby..it was a boy :) yeah i saw him, cute baby..wish i kept him. : ( .. Anon ti take over ..kikiki

sexy Daddy said...

Any able bodied man that rejects a pregnancy he knows truelly well that he is the one responsible for,and goes a head to denied it, is digging his own grave.

Because karma will surely catch with the said man!
Let me come and be going...

Anonymous said...

My man wants me to get pregnant sharperly. our relationship is just about four months old but he is advanced and has a child outta wedlock. I like it too especially as i am in my mid thirties, but i told him that if after pregnancy enters and he starts dragging legs, i will not look for him ooo. He is a good guy sha but very naughty in a sexy way. Lol.

Anonymous said...

I erroneously took in towards the end of my youth service. My boyfriend then was not ready and told me his parents must not know he has gotten a girl pregnant before marriage. I on my part was not ready as having a baby was the last thing on my mind then.

I ended up taking pills to bring back my period cos the pregnancy was just six weeks old. I might have kept it if the guy insisted but I was not ready and now im successful and happily married with beautiful kids.

I have asked God for forgiveness but I think i'm better off carrying another person's baggage.

Debi said...

What about married ladies who got pregnant and their husband rejected the pregnancy?

Well for me, I got pregnant for my second child, my ex husband rejected it. His excuse was financial bla bla bla. Our doctor injected the 2 weeks old baby out. I was sad because I was already looking forward to my first child having a sibling/playmate.
OK fast forward to some months only for oga to give our help belle. This time our help no remove am ooo well maybe oga get money to finance her baby.

Sincerely if asked, I'm glad I took the injection... I prayed to God for forgiveness and I am forgiven...


Ooops celebrating my total freedom (divorce) in some days to come.

gorgeous baby said...

The child comes from a married man

Lipstickalley said...

That is still not a guarantee.

Some opened legs and produced 3 kids before bride price was paid and are still waxing strong

While some opened leg after bride price was paid and after 3 kids, marriage ended.

Anonymous said...

What about the men who do not wait before marriage, the girls aren't sleeping with themselves you know. The man is as culpable as the woman, why put all the blame on a girl? Reset and rethink my dear.

Daddy Code said...

If he pays anything, you didn't forgive him. He bought you over..

Lipstickalley said...

Be wise about it Darl.

Anonymous said...

Shock? But having sex does not come as a shock
Too young to be a father but not too young to commit fornication?
Woman is ugly to be his wife but not ugly for sex?
"Still in University" (sic), why not concentrate on his studies?
If he is still a mama's boy, boys do not occupy themselves with women, they study or learn a trade.

Are you sure Yori Yori that you are a lady, you sound depraved.

Anonymous said...

see ur thinking na.
The baby nko? u think he/she wldnt want to find the sperm donor or father?

Anonymous said...

This is always a bad idea, you can't deny a child his father cos of the vendetta you have against the father. The kid will be the one to suffer, children shouldn't be used as pawns in the hands of their parents. If the man shows interest, for your child's sake allow them a relationship, even though it might hurt you but its for your darling child's benefit and mothers will do anything that will positively benefit their child's life.

Anonymous said...

Girls should realize that boys want sex irrespective of whether they will marry or not.
It is desperate girls that give them sex and saddle themselves with the consequences while the boys walk away leaving them sulking and depressed.
I learnt from my mother never to allow a man see me naked until he has married me properly.
No matter how he plays the love tune. I married an amazing man who shared my values and waited for marriage to have sex.

Anonymous said...

You brought your period back? You had an abortion. I know it's hard to admit. Coat it all you want to . Whatever makes people sleep well at night.

Beloved said...

Mimi Orjiekwe toh bad

Beloved said...

Confam

Daddy Code said...

Dear ladies, everyone makes mistakes.. If you've ever had to abort a child due to circumstances and not just for the sake of it, ask for God's forgiveness and forget about it. Shit happens..

Beloved said...

What about EπŸ™‹

Anonymous said...

Sure you are proud "doing your thing", collecting more penises and making babies outside marriage you mean?
You allowed "an asshole" to come in between your legs? Then are you saying the child you birthed is as*hole too?
Please be respectful and don't be bitter. The fact that he did not marry you does not make him all you wrote up there.
He did not rape you; did he?
You decided to have sex outside marriage, deal with the consequences.

Beloved said...

Please don't do it

Anonymous said...

Hope foolish girls are reading this?
He will not marry you because you got pregnant.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Anon 13:43 you are just foolish. Why dont you comment yours? You are more than a foolish man or woman

Isolde Fontaine said...

Anon 13:43, How does she sound depraved? Na wa oh

Beloved said...

Jesus Christ....help? For real? Not only in movies then

Plenty hugs Jare.... Dance like Tonto danced when it happens

Lipstickalley said...

Please send in your own Chronicle....gave house help belle? Upper Iweka is on fire

Anonymous said...

You saw a "muslim" and gave vagina what where you thinking?
You are a "Christian" yet you fornicated and killed a six month old baby?
You father would have killed you, huh but you never thought about what your heavenly father will do?
Regret isn't the right word, you have to graduate to "repentance" to have peace.
As it is, you will still kill again given the opportunity.

SANDY YO said...
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SANDY YO said...

Nawa o! Some men are just unbelievable.πŸ€” #Scum

Anonymous said...

Write it this way:
"I ended up taking pills to kill him . . ."
Nice to know that you repented of your sins.

SANDY YO said...

The truth is some men wants you to get preggy first before anything. Well, It works out for some.

Anonymous said...

I was just out of a broken relationship @30, gave another chance after a year and one way or the other got pregnant guy is a fresh graduate and begged i should keep it, was so happy...after 3months guy got a job went for introduction and had our registry before baby was born. To God be the glory we had our traditional wedding December 2016 with 3 lovely kids and we are waxing strong.

Anonymous said...

Anon 13:43
Did Yori Yori hit a raw nerve? You sound bitter.

She is right on every account.

Anonymous said...

@13:40
Who is the babymama?
Who bears "the prostitute" label?
who sulks and gets depressed?
Who goes through the nine months course and has her life put on hold?
Who do suitors reject because of being a used tire?
Who is suicidal and dejected?
Why go through a route that is filled with pains and heart break.
Whereas the man moves on, the woman is stalled and seen as "stained"

Anonymous said...

Girls have the shorter end of the stick,
that is the truth, it is not only bitter, it is factual.

Anonymous said...

Let me go anon on dis..Stella I have been wanting to send u mail bcos of dis but I always forget..

The three men I have ever aborted for in my life are now married and childless.
D first one wanted to marry me but I got pregnant along d line..We later went for scan and d stupid scan pushed it to one month earlier.. which shows dat I got pregnant before sleeping with dis guy..but it was all lie.. I didn't sleep with anybody..i didn't even know how d scan machine made that calculation.. He dumped me..I cried and begged him to allow me have d baby first then we will go for DNA test,he refused and got married to someone else.. I cursed him on my abortion bed(d day I went to abort d baby bcos I can't take care of myself then) I cursed him dat he will not hear d cry of a baby in his home as I am aborting dis baby..
This year is d 14th year dis guy got married still no child.. He don beg me taya.. I have forgiven him oh but I don't know why God refused to give him his own kids..

D second guy came into my life with lies and got me pregnant again.. initially he accepted but later ran..i even had to go meet his mother..Dis woman insulted me eh and told me not to come into her compound again.. I begged dis guy to even take care of me so Dat I can have d child even if he no wan marry.. but he was mean and adamant.. I was frustrated.. I went and had a painful abortion.. I aborted my 3 months pregnancy..it was painful(long story). D baby had formed.it fell out of my body..i picked it up,cursed his father and buried him(yes I know it was a male)with his father 's pic and some of his items with me an d placed curse on him while naked and with tears. I cursed his life and business too..
Today it's been 12yes of his marriage to d lady he later wifed yet no issue.. They have been moving from one church to d other in PH still no show.. He said I went to d native doctor for him. Me wey no know road to native doc house.. If not dat his wife is doing well and carrying family responsibility ,dis guy would've been wretched.. I cursed his business then he went from grace to grace..all his goods were seized..he sold all his landed properties too..Stella I could go on and on..

D third guy nko,his own story long Gan.. He is still TTC with his innocent wife for 7 yrs now. Running from pillars to post with d curse I rained on hin..



I have begged God for forgiveness of all d abortions I have committed in d past.. I am highly fertile.. I don't even have ovulation period cos immediately after my menses til d next one are danger period for me..Even if I have sex a day before my next menses,i will still get pregnant.. a even withdrawal sef dey get me pregnant. Condom dey break aswell..

But I thank God today that i'm married for 5yrs now with three boys and God showed me mercy.
Stella i will one day send u my full story..

So I think most of d TTC women are suffering bcos of d curse that were placed on their husbands by the women they got pregnant and abandoned..Karma is very real..
I had to force my DH to swear to me he had never gotten a woman pregnant and dumped her before marrying him so Dat I won't come and be suffering for what I know nothing about.


My advice to young men out there, dont ever deny ur pregnancy even if u don't want to marry the girl..Taje care of d girl and allow her to have d child..dont kill an innocent child or force d girl to abort and cuss u.. any curse placed on u in dat situation must have ana affect I swear down..
When my younger brother got a secondary school girl pregnant and want to deny her and run away..i forced him to accept it and we took care of d girl till she put to bed..He didn't know d reason why a carried d matter on my head like gala seller. I no wan make any body curse my kid brother oh make he no go turn TTC with im wifey tomorrow..

Pls pardon my typos..i wrote in a hurry.

Anonymous said...

well i got pregnant wen i was just 21 still very naive and the young man involved rejected me and the baby this was someone who was very loving before and he is doing well and also ripe for marriage good looking so i dont know why he dosnt want to settle down. though my family pressured me to marry him he refused blatantly he even gave me money to abort the baby but i was scared cldnt do it infact i used d money to register for antenatal.though wen i was pregnant he didnt take of me financially, it was after i put to bed that he started sending in money small small, and later improved up to the extent of paying my rent my daughter's school fees and sends money every month since 2014, but since this year he said he wont do again. i have handed him over to God it hasnt been easy but God will not let shame to be mine.so far me and my daughter have not begged for food we are pushing it small small. i was heartbroken wen he rejected me bcos i tot i loved him then but iv come to c him for whom he really is so am glad we neva got married.

Anonymous said...

Same thing happened to me last year my boy friend denied it with no genuine reason(she cheated on me oya with who,did u caught her or saw something no, just that someone call me they saw her. Okay who is d people I don't knw ) I just jejely waka had my baby last month and we doing great. I no fit die for one stupid guy. Waiting for that day he will come and say forgive me, my only prayer is that God to give me strength not to kill him.

trish said...

Pls don't ever go back 2 that guy oo.na u sabi sef!

Anonymous said...

My dear dnt feel guilty joor.
In most cases of unwanted pregnancy, it's better u have an abortion dan have d baby... Aswear.
Talking from experience.

If I had known i'ld have aborted d pregnancy and my life wldnt have bin this bad/poor.
Only if I had known.
Pls u pple shldnt castigate any lady/girl dat does abortion,cos it's d easiest way out.

Anonymous said...

He showed me love and we were heading for marriage. My then boyfriend; an illiterate I dated after my youths service always say he will like me to be pregnant and gets annoyed if i mis my period. I thought we were inlove. I later got preggie, he was happy choosing names for the unborn child even asked me to register for antenatal. Like play he started avoiding me and my calls and my pregnancy advanced to three months. I went to his house unannounced, saw his traditional wedding card to another lady from their village, I got devastated, he said his father wants him to marry from their Anambra. He gave me money for abortion(my greatest regret and mistake) the child that should have been ten years now. meanwhile they don't have any child till now. Ever forgiven God gave me a medical doctor sweet husband, I'm now a mother of three (my boy and twins boy&girl). My elder sister alone knew about this from my family. I've never told my husband this secret.

Anonymous said...

Awwww, you saw him,your narrative just killed me.

I was married and had a miscarriage, I couldn't bear to look at the residue... Even after the nurse told me there was no baby, it was just the sac. I would have died over again if I saw the baby. Sad!!!!

trish said...

He's using his naughtiness on ur brain.no try am!

Anonymous said...

I had a fling with a doctor guy when I was doing my NYSC, we met online when i was in school,chatted for a long period,we became very close even if we didn't define the friendship.
Next thing we planned a visit(mind you we were not in same state),I got back to my state of residence & the naive me started reasoning what if I get pregnant from this escapade,my worst fear was confirmed when my next period didn't show up.
I died several times. I told him about it,he got mad,didn't wanna talk to me for some days,he just asked me to get rid of it,This period was the lowest period of my entire life,he promised to send some cash to go through with it but never did.
I cried my intestine out,I couldn't tell any family or female friend of mine,I didn't know who to meet cos I don't know much people in this town. I only told a male friend of mine about this,(my best friend till date)he really helped me out,arranged a meeting with one of he's doctor friend,who examined me & decided I should take some pills to flush it out(medical abortion I guess) since it wasn't up to a month.
My friend stood by me all through this ordeal. It was a really scary event,I thought I was going to die, the drug made me eat so much like I would just die if I hadn't loaded lots of food in my stomach that morning I took the damned drug,cos I even had to eat more as the drug took effect. Take lots of beverage after.
I hated my self for agreeing to go through such. I kept on calling the doctor, he promised I wasn't gonna die,I should just eat & rest more.
Finally after some months I went for a scan/checkup as I was really scared my womb might have been damaged. I thank God for my life.
few months later the idiot doctor that put me in the condition wanted us to have an HIV screening as he was scared we didn't use protection, we did & we both was relieved we weren't in danger.
Since then I so locked up,condom & postinor2(well in case of emergency)became my best friends.
#story of my life
I still try to forget this but it keeps poping in my conscience .this post brought back memories. Any pregnancy that happens this womb must be born,abortion is never a choice ,the psychological effect alone is worst

trish said...

Inukwa!Hugs dear.

trish said...

Exactly

Anonymous said...

you and that Eka sorrow πŸ‘†πŸ‘† think so shallow

Chike TEFLON said...

The man is not man enough for running away from his responsibility.

The lady should not accept him back because he is coming back for his selfish interest and not because of Love. God forbid if the child die and the lady is not able to birth another one he will still run away.

SANDY YO said...

Easier said.. One cant really tell when it comes to things like this.

SANDY YO said...

Tell ya fellow men o.πŸ˜’πŸ˜’

SANDY YO said...

Hehehehehe!

Anonymous said...

What did she write that warrants
Your senseless response? Did she write anything bad about him? Next time read well before typing. Didn't you read that she said they agreed to have the child together? Didn't you read that she said he can be an asshole sometimes but they like it like that? Did her write up sound like she was complaining about his behaviour? And why do you think every girl making money is sleeping with men for it. You need a mind reset. I wonder how you were raised to have such poor mentality. Who died and made you judge over her?

Anonymous said...

Stella and dear bvs, my own case get k leg. I am from cotonou my ex igbo owerri but i school in nigeria that time. We got pregnant he took charge till I birth her through a very painful cs, after my daughters one year birthday he went and got married. I am on the ugly side but he married a pretty woman. He calls me and my child but for close to four years now, he don't call nor send me money for my child upkeep. he never enter cotounou to see the child. I do small business that give me little money. The wife threatened me never to phone her husband again that they have kids to take care of. She called me an idiot and whore who get pregnancy out of wedlock therefore I shoud carry my cross alone, she said my daughter will die if I disturb again and she mean it. The man too stop calling. I swore never to disturb his family again, no call no text I will continue to train my child alone till I see better person to marry

Anonymous said...

**I don't even have safe Period **
Sorry for d error.

Licia Nuella said...

sex and it's outcomes (pregnancy)are not the only thing that makes a relationship work..no be only sex man go chop...mind you that while gbenshing his intention was not to give you belle..first work out on some goals that can help your relationship with your man..don't add up to his stress a beg and u the lady save your self from heartbreak cus to take kid of a child no be moi moi...even though it worked for some people but that's not enough reason to do same....hmmm Stella u have got a new bae... #nwanyiAbakalikiwashere

Red Wine said...

Will be reading comments.

Anonymous said...

When I was in Uni 3rd year, I got pregnant for a guy I just started dating,less than 4months,I didn't know how it happened because we always used condom,he had a really big penis so after it happened i guessed he probably removed the condom in between d love making or the condom got torn without us knowing.
I told him & he decided we inform our parents but I was too scared of what my parents would say. I told him no I wouldn't tell them yet, along the line he was already drawing back he's stand,he went back to he's ex,they both tormented my life, I was practically a living dead!
I cried all night for 2weeks,he got arrested,yahoo related issues, he was later released but was still on the run,
he's ex gf was on my case,always calling & threatening my life,o boy I was really devastated .One day I made my decision to terminate the pregnancy, I met one aunty,told her about my heavy problems she recommended her gynecologist baby daddy who own a clinic to do the job & assured me I would be fine she said she has gone through the process that it won't hurt. She called her baby dandy,told him about me & he gave me a time to come,I went there,did some test & body examination b4 undergoing D&C .
I was in tears all through.
all these while I didn't hear from booboo cos he went into hiding as regards he's police case.
When things got settled the idiot started coming back with stories but that was the end for me,any guy who can put me through all that east worth any tears,he kept begging ,I blocked him off. this was years back, just last year he reached out to me again & apologised for all he put me through, & begged if I could still give him a chance @ making it right ,I told him it never wasn't going to happen.
@anon 13:19 you r right o, I'm also considering having a baby for my boo @ d moment but I am being restrained as my source of income is shaky @d moment, once I'm stabilised & sure I can do it I am gonna try to get pregnant again

Anonymous said...

Hmmm my husband's family rejected my pregnancy at first they refused to give their consent because they said their son was still a kid and too young to marry though I accepted it like that it was hell for me at home my mum couldn't stand me as I had made her enemies rejoice over her my proud dad too eventually did not accept my the proposal after they came back a year later we had to beg him very well he was wounded by the too young to marry excuse and sometimes I wish I had followed his plan to relocate abroad and the advise that been a single mum is not the end of ones life

SDK's FIRST DAUGHTER (GIFT E) said...

He's so wicked and heartless. Its good you left his ass,I hate him already.

Naan Adams said...

Gaskiya kam very correct

SDK's FIRST DAUGHTER (GIFT E) said...

3kids?or you had triplet?

Anonymous said...

Stella asked we share our stories and didn't call us for a counselling session can you shove yourself goodytooshoes

Anonymous said...

I was 21, she was 25. Months into our relationship she told me she was pregnant. We were classmates in the university. I went home to tell my mum, she was happy( l am an only child). She wanted to meet the girl, her family, see if they will agree to a marriage. My mum had the resources. All was going well, only for the girl to tell me the pregnancy is not mine. I moved on with my life. Months later she came claiming the baby is mine. I foolishly accepted but my mum rejected the child and told me to stay away from the girl and her baby if l want to live long. I married almost a year after my university education. I don't have any regret about sticking to my mum's decision. Mummy's boy? Maybe

Anonymous said...

A lot of girls get pregnant out of spite when they find out the guy slept with them and he has a serious relationship
Girls if you have not been to mans house to see if he lives alone then don't spread your legs

SDK's FIRST DAUGHTER (GIFT E) said...

This is deep.

Beloved said...


πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„
Men Do you see this thing under a woman's skirt....Fear it

My ears Don full

Anonymous said...

Annon 14:08 don't just make the mistake of telling your husband, if you do he might hate you. forget that, you not the only woman keeping a dark secret from her husband

Debi said...

@Beloved. Yes our help though it was his girlfriend abi second wife in disguise as a help... It's almost 4 years now and I'm glad I took that injection if not I wouldn't have been dancing now lol.

@lipstickalley. Sent long ago. It's well.

@Sandy Yo. True...

@Trish. Thanks

Anonymous said...

I had sex when I was 15 and got pregnant immediately, never knew I was pregnant, told d guy responsible but he denied claiming it was only once he sex me. I was scared but an area aunty took me for an abortion, I did and said I don't want to get pregnant again and that the man too will never have children of his own except his wife brings in another man's pregnancy home for him. Some years Later,he came begging I forgave and started another relationship which did not yield anywhere. I got married 2008 was TTC until 2012, since then till now,no other pregnancy. I heard his wife has 3 kids now,don't know if what I said that day was the cause of been TTC again.

Anonymous said...

That's how one of my sister's girlfriends foolishly hooked a man she barely know with pregnancy, thinking it would work sharpaly as per proposing to her and marriage.
Guy man bone her patapata, she had begged, sent friends , did all sorts for the guy to accept her pregnancy, for where.
He simply told her, he's not yet ready to be hooked. Meanwhile this my sister's friend had told her how one of her colleagues hooked her bobo with belle. So when hers happened my sister was shocked she went down the same road .
Some girls are so desperate to get married once they see you hold small change.

Anonymous said...

I was raped by a friend when I was in my final year and i discovered I was pregnant, called the guy up and told him he said that small thing and said I should go and look for who got me pregnant meanwhile like 5mnths prior to that no man had even seen my pant...I cried and went to look for a clinic and had it aborted. Thank God for his mercies I am married now with 2 children.

Anonymous said...

Osheyyyy maaami oshoronga!!!
Awon aiyeeee !!
I carry my yellow yansh for u!!

SANDY YO said...

Awwwww!❤

Debi said...

@SDK's FIRST DAUGHTER... Hate is an understatement.

Cutiebee said...

Sometimes I wish I had aborted it when he told me to, if I had died with it, it would have been better than what I am passing through now. The shame, humilliation, suffering are too much.
He had proposed when I became pregnant. He was my first. When I told him he said I should abort it that he doesn't want a child yet until after marriage. I refused and he abandoned me. When my family contacted him, he denied the pregnancy. My friends said I should abort, I was too scared as it was 4months already. I had the baby, my family abandoned me saying I brought them shame. his own family too said their son is not the father and so had nothing to do with it.
Till today, my son have not seen his dad before. This man just abandoned us, I don't even know his whereabout. I suffer alone feeding and clothing him, he is not in school as I type, some of his mates are already in primary 3.

Anonymous said...

We were happy when we found out we were going to have a child, introduction was done, family got involved, all of a sudden he changed, called me names and said the baby isn't his, my world crashed, I begged, cried, for where? I later found out he was dating a friend and colleague😲 kai! I almost died, this same guy made me leave my job but I was somehow relived when I knew I was not the cause of his actions. I made a decision that day to have my baby no matter what! Thank God for the support I got from my parents, doctor and my cousin who choosed to be there for me. To the glory of God, I had my wonderful baby boy, who is my joy, peace, love and friend, who will never bear to see me sad even though he is 8yr old today but the smartest, sweetest soul I have met. I am glad I kept him against all odds, did I tell u he is the carbon copy of his dadπŸ˜€ today I am a fulfilled woman. Though still unmarried but I don't want him to be my only child, still want one more kid but with a good man. SDK that's my story oh!my single mothers out there, it will be tough but hang in there it will get better with timeπŸ˜™

shandy sleeks said...

My dear, you made a gravy mistake by going back to him. You have contracted the curse you heaped on him. Shame on you, after removing belle for a guy, you still went back to him, he sabi fuck wella na. Fish brain!

trish said...

Breath in,breath out.oluwaooo

Anonymous said...

All I can say is Hmmmmmm. Real deep

Yoyo said...

Debi I read your chronicle back then and also read where you said you overcame your problems. Pls contact me, I need you to lecture me on how you scaled through. I m sick and tired with a daughter to cater for. Even the sugar daddy that I was looking for, I did not see. Maybe God is telling me something. Pls, I'm also in Lagos like you.

Baby_kingsway said...

Let me cut my long story short.
I got pregnant after my first sex and I was 17... I was a shy and an introvert and couldn't open up to anyone after I experience the first trimester signs. The dizziness, sleep and hunger was on another level. There was no one to talk to so i just ignored and lived in denial.
The dude was in school back then so we only met whenever he was around.
Mumsi later found out when I was five months gone and when she approached the dude and family he denied it... Even denied knowing me sef.
As a shy person that day will forever be the most embarrassing moment of my life. I still think of how things played out that day and cry.
All through the pregnancy I cried all the tears I had inside, I had a very high BP and lost weight. My skin started going white and my mum was scared I had no blood. I quit church, I envaded friends, I was a jambite then and couldn't go for my post-utme. I just stayed at home and withered.
I was so mad at myself... I wished I spoke out on time and had an abortion instead of been stuck with that dude.. Oh I even prayed for a miscarriage, I punched my tommy several times in the bathroom. I prayed the child should die during birth.
I managed to overcome my depression after a while and thank God for safe delivery.
Dude started coming back and apologizing but me and my family wants nothing to do with him.
Now I am done with school and on a job that pays peanut but I am grateful
I have forgiven the dude since because I tried to understand his reasons of been in school and that he wasn't sure the child was his.
I was like okay.. fine... come and take responsibility now... Na there we dey for about 7 years now. it is one story to another, I carry the responsibility alone with my family. When i ask him to send money he will form quarrel, cut off and show up months later. I denied him access to my son since i noticed his unstable person. Even on birthdays he can't even show up.
I have accepted it as my fate and moved up long ago. We just talk like four times a year and when we do i get mad because he keeps professing love... I keep trying to tell him that I can't stand the sight of him. His presence irritates me. I guess at a point he will get it and move on.
My son will be 9 come September 2nd and Relationship wise I have tried one or two and I have resigned to staying on my own. I don't like the idea of passing my baggage to another person. I am planning to move out soon with my son and start our lives all over.
I am a single mom.. some days are good and other days are... I am 27 now and no I don't think I want kids anymore.

Daddy Code said...

Lol... She's very well, thanks for asking 😊..

IsaacBABA (BUY CHEAP MTN DATA FOR AS LOW AS N700 for 1GB, N1300 for 2GB, N1800 for 3GB and 2400 for 4GB...call 08066929956 for more info) said...

Sandy I will lol..... How are you dearie

Lipstickalley said...

Hmmm Daddy Code, not all men think like you.

Let's say for instance your real life Boo Miss E *winks* says she has aborted once as per (everyone makes mistakes) would you marry her.

The wife said...

My own story is very different cos I'm already married with a child when it happened. After delivery, he started cheating. He had lost his job in the bank and was jobless. He was cheating with on of his former colleagues. I did family planning but it failed, I took in again. He said I should abort it that he did not want another child for now as things are somehow. I was like, why would a married woman abort when its only one child that I have? I wanted to do it at a point maybe he will change. But decided to have my baby after I was advised against it here on this blog. Last month, hubby just packed his clothes and moved in with one of his mistress. Meetings upon meetings with his family, they called and called, he did not come back home. Some say it is charm that is working on him. my mum who came to help me out have taken my first born to the village with her since I can't feed everyone as I'm also jobless, doing menial jobs, I had to drop out of my tailoring training. He doesn't even pick calls anymore. Hmmm. I heard his new 'wife' just delivered on Saturday, meaning he impregnated her before I took in. Somebody I was pitying because of his jobless state. My God will judge you Goddy.

Ajagbe adeola hannah said...

To everyone bearing the pain of rejected pregnancy and having to take care of the child alone #crying# my prayer is with you. Do not worry, we are not better than you. The lord will see you through and reward you.

Anonymous said...

We met in uni. He lied to me about his age but later confessed he was 2 years younger than me. By tgat time i was already inlove with him. He begged and begged begged that he knew i wouldnt say yes to him if i knew his real age which is very very true. Anyway i forgave him and we continued dating, i met and knew all his family, i wasnt a stranger to any of them and they woukd joke we will one day get married.

So one day he told me that we should have a child that it will help us get married quicker but i said i dont want a child out of wedlock. I got pregnant on our first try and he was draging his feet when it came to telling his family. He finally told them when i was 4 month pregant and they didnt take it well they called my son a bastard. Anyway he kept sending money for upkeep till my son was 11months. I told his parents the truth that thr baby was planned because he lied to them it was unplanned.

On my son's first bday we went to his family house to stay as they had invited us over. The day after i asked him what is happening with us because i want to move on. He started shouting at me his family got involved shouted at me and insulted me. I told them not to worry i dont need or want anyting from them but that i will look after my child.

I went to bed crying. I got a call from.my aunty aunty and he told her that him and his family have decided that i should leave they want nothing to do with me and my son. I cried to sleep and layed curses all night to him and his family the next morning i left peacefully and i have been looking after my son alone since then he is now 4. A few months after i left his mum called me insulting me i told her one day they will all come back and beg me and my son on their knees and i will be stepping on them that she should write it down. I keep hearing they are looking for us but i dont care as they know where i live.

This is a man i loved unconditionally and was loyal to him. I have left them all to God, some days are hard and some days are easy. Like today i am depressed and got so much on my mind.

Im a hardworking, career focused single mum and i love my son.

Love.Eating.Pussy said...

I wish the men would read this and take your advice sincerely.


LEPπŸ˜›

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Make I join you

Love.Eating.Pussy said...

Cutiebee it is well.
Dnt loose hope, keep to your faith and things will work out for you soon ☺☺☺


LEPπŸ˜›

Beloved said...

Ife Na eme na uwa nkaa mputara...Dear take heart....it shall be well

Beloved said...

Take heart Cutiee Bee...Again start thinking positively too.. It helps
How?
Your subconscious thoughts has a way of controlling what happens physically/Consciously.
Instead of saying “I am a failure ” say "I am a success “I will succeed!”
Stop slipping into negativity

It might be difficult at first dear but practice makes everything perfect.

Hugs dear... Uwa bu George kaanyi Ma, Onye tooghe nke ya... Igba fuo

Beloved said...

Kisses to your Prince Charming

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

hmmmmmm too many sad stories. It is well with everyone Amen. May God give everyone joy in Jesus name Amen.

trish said...

Lipstick I never thought of that.u do av a point there o.

Anonymous said...

I think it's majority fear

Anonymous said...

15:22
Married with 2 kids does not make you a mother or confer on you a family.
It does not change the fact that God hates hands that shed innocent blood
who of course are unrepentant of it.

Anonymous said...

@14:07
Your guilty conscience is your problem.
You want your association to gather.
Why not simply talk to the creator in repentance and move on.
When someone quotes God's word you call it "castigation?"

Anonymous said...

Want to know the reason why they are childless, read Ex. 1:15-21, Proverbs 6:10-16
God gave the Hebrew midwives who spared kids their own families
And he said that he hates handS that shed innocent blood.
In other words, he destroys the works of such hands. In your own case poster, you repented of your sins.

Anonymous said...

That your boyfriend that helped you abort is not a friend at all.
Think of it this way, supposing you died in the process, would he have acknowledged that he knew you?
God simply had mercy on you and you don't seem to have learnt from it seeing that you are still opening your hole to be sc*ewed.

Ammy Bee said...

Babe you are not ulgy. God will give you yoir own hubby and provide 4 you to take care of yoir child. Keep being strong.

Anonymous said...

Story of my life.

Anonymous said...

i am going through this ordeal right now. been dating my bf for 6 good years and in my late 20s,believed every single lie he said. i am 5 weeks gone, told him and he asked that we abort the child... hell no, i said and i got so angry when he wouldnt even accept his responsibility after everything we have been through. i am keeping my child with or without it, thank God i have got a job and my mum has been really supportive.i have blocked his irresponsible ass off my phone and every social handle. he should watch out for an amazing child with the coolest mum ever.

Anonymous said...

I got pregnant 19yrs ago when I was in year 2. He had graduated when I found out and there where no gsm. He was in abj I was in d west. How do I communicate. I eventually told him, he denied, his cousin called me a gold digger. People mocked me in sch. Told my parents at over 6 mths.He eventually sent his parents few months after I gave birth . He abandoned us for few years but he wanted me to wait for him. After some years he came back but I had moved on and wasnt interested againMy child is in university now. He sends money to her now. We both got married to different people 10yrs ago. This experience mmade me know how to pray and have faith in God.

Debi said...

@Yoyo. It's well. Send me a mail

Anonymous said...

So you didn't think you should conduct a DNA? My mummy said, my mummy said, what if the child is yours? I am sure your mum is still controlling you, mstchew.

Anonymous said...

Yes i am 1 such woman today now. It happened to me!
Mine is a very long story & that my only child, son is 26 years old today, very handsome boy, healthy & balanced human being & a highly successful & blessed young man today.
I have moved on & very accomplished woman and happily single & independent. I also have grandson today from that rejected son. His father has been begging, crying blood ever since after sabotage, humiliating me & shaming me.

As far as I'm concerned he is forever blocked in my heart & to me it is a HATRED LIKE THE ISREAL & ARAB!!!
I don't care anything about him, his mame mentioned to me or photo highly upsets & annoys me. And my son & grandson have also become aware & understanding of the heavy resentment I have for him forever. *** Btw: He traced his son after over 12 years of his birth & connected & bonded with him. They have a good father & son relationship & often spend time together with him & his wife & other children & family members all love & adore my son & grandson now today. But the hatred & deep resentment I have for him is out of this world.

I actually threw his son away & gave him up for adoption, but things & events changed. Very long story & hurt & pain for every one involved.
It's a real tragedy indeed!!!

In my own situation & experience, he did it thinking he was playing smart & also mostly miscalculated by thinking that I'm the type of girl or a woman who will beg a man to marry her & to be accepted by a man.
But unknown to him & everybody that infact I hate men & the idea of " nigerian marriage mentality" annoys me & I can't just tolerate it when a man feels like he is doing a woman a favor to marry her.
I have sworn to be single & unmarried & unattached to a man forever now.
I only "pretend" that I care for Nigerian people or their way of life, but people don't understand the real me & how I hate Nigerian men & intimacy with them, marriage & their way life so much.

It's very sad life, truth is I'm badly damaged person from that experience of a man rejecting his own child, flesh & blood thinking he's a sharp guy.

My only responsibility & obligation to my son & grandson is to make them be men totally different from their grandfather. And so far so good, because those my 2 boys today r very wonderful human beings & good people!

Anonymous said...

My advice for any girl going through such predicament today, is BE YOURSELF & LOVE UR CHILD UNCONDITIONALLY!
*** But please move on!!!
Don't wait or worry about what could have been...this & that.
If u see a good man & responsible & kind to accept u & ur child 100 % then marry him & start a new life quick!!!
It's a game that devil, enemy wants u to drown in rejection forever. DON'T LET THE ENEMY WIN!!!
LOVE URSELF ABOVE ALL & BE WILLING TO MOVE ON EITHER AS A SINGLE & SUCCESSFUL WOMAN OR HAPPILY HAPPY IN MARRIAGE TO ANOTHER PERSON.
***DON'T LOOK BACK EVER FOR A RECONCILIATION CHANCE BECAUSE IT'S AN ENEMY GAME STRATEGY.
ANY MAN THAT REJECTS U & HIS CHILD IS AN ENEMY FOR LIFE, NO MATTER WHAT EVER HAPPENS LATER ON.

Anonymous said...

@ 20;15 blv whatever u wish! Some women have DAT power that once they curse ,it sticks. I cured my exes till date me know how far with them. I still cursed the last one sometime in 2012. Naked full moon. Dude b doing anyhow and running back to wifey. I told God 7yrs max bring him down to his knees!!! I already forgot,made up but d curse still follow am, e come do d worst recently. Na grave e just dig. I sure will hear his end b4 2020! Rip in advance stupid man. So oga( cos am sure u r a dude) blv whatever u wish. NNE I love ur style CURSE them!!!!!

General Zod said...

You sound very silly Anon 19:59. She is a mother and she has a family.

General Zod said...

Quite dull Anon 13:52. Read the story well again.

Anonymous said...

Yes I hav to comment.Anon 13:52 I knw u very well ur name is judgina trolln pples comments in matters like dis to judge dem.tk several seats madam cos I knw say u be woman n u no be virgin.very sure of that.live n let live biko.wat is ur problem.religious pple be forming like it's only fornicatn dat is d only sin in d bible.if God wer to be like dis.i dnt thnk u'll still be on dis earth.learn d deepness of God's love n stop being bitter over pples lives.am tired of typing abeg.

Anonymous said...

Hello,Miss I-dont-need-a-man-because-i-am-happily-single.Please,you NEED a man!...Sister, I know that you're hurting,but you also need to hear the truth from somebody,other than yourself.How can you bottle up so much hate(American) inside of you, & expect to be happy?... Didn't your physics teacher teach you that what so ever you give out(energy & all), is what comes back to you?... Why waste so much of your time & energy hating on someone,whereas you could just help yourself by just forgiving & letting them go?...
Please,you need love. In fact,you need Jesus!...(in madea's voice).In psychology,anyone that says she doesn't want to get married or doesn't need a man,actually does!(it's called reversed psychology). You think by hating your baby daddy for what he did to you, actually makes it okay for your justifying your singleness,but it doesn't. You think you have "moved on",but you haven't. If so, why can't you stand hearing his name around you, or seeing his pics around. Why are you hiding from society?...Please, if you decide to remain single,becos you choose too,fine. But if you choose to remain single because of what your ex did to you, then you need a psychologist. Cry, shout, break some plates, write a letter of your vilest thoughts towards him & burn it,anything!...as long as you let go of your hatred & bitterness towards your baby daddy.Rememba, you can't move forward, while looking back(whether with past thoughts,feelings etc).You just have to flush out all the wrong emotions so that the right ones would come in. By the way, who did hatred & bitterness help???... Has it paid your bills,kept you warm,etc.Also, when you see your son & grand kid laughing with their dad/granddad,how do you feel?.. Pls, think!...

Anonymous said...

Shut the fuck up anon. Insecure nuisance. Leave this woman alone! Without the so called imbecilic man, she has made a good life for herself. If you were satisfied with your life you will not write an epistle on why someone else needs a man. Get out of here my friend and face your miserable life. I bet with your silly marriage you are not anywhere tangible in your life. Thunder fire you there. Misery does indeed need company.

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