Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Serena Williams Criticised For Saying Giving Birth Will Make Her A 'Real Woman'

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Saturday, 12 August 2017

Serena Williams Criticised For Saying Giving Birth Will Make Her A 'Real Woman'

Serena Williams has been criticised after she claimed she will become a “real woman” when she gives birth to her first child.




The 39-time singles, doubles and mixed doubles Grand Slam tennis champion is expected to give birth to her child with fiancé Alexis Ohanian early next month. The couple announced Williams, 35, was pregnant in a Snapchat post in April.

In an interview with Australia’s Herald Sun, Williams admitted that, while she was nervous about the impact motherhood might have on her tennis, she felt the whole experience would give her “a lot more confidence” in life.





I think [giving birth] will give me more strength, if that’s possible,” she told the newspaper. “I feel like I will be ready for anything. I have so much respect for so many women [for giving birth].

“I am about to be a real woman now, you know? It’s going to be something incredibly impressive to go through.”

UK Independent


*Awwwwww....The way she said it might have been wrong but i guess she was trying to say that motherhood brings out the 'woman' in every woman.
I am sure she didnt set out to hurt anyone with her comment.


50 comments:

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Stella nothing wrong with her statement..People are becoming intolerant these days and get angry over nothing..She is free to express herself, thats how she feels..Abeg those mumu trolls should take several seats..

Lipstickalley said...

I am sure she was quoted out of context. She probably didn't mean to say it like that. They should free her abeg😕😕

CHI EXOTIC said...

She was wrong for that
All women are real women

It's not very easy for some women to get pregnant, so does that make them less of a woman?

And I don't see men saying they're now real men when they become a dad for the first time.

The psycho guy. said...

The commentors are myopic and jealous. The statement wasn't out of place......

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

They're always offended by everything, American liberals are sick somewhere in their head!

Giving birth is a supernatural thing and brings out the super real woman in us. Whether they accept the truth or not doesn't change the real fact.

They should bury themselves with their bile and over-sensitive mind.

Lepa shandy is back said...

Serena is making too much noise these days...
Or I forgot! No tennis training and participations for now.
So she's idle and bored hence she's every where and granting interviews up and down and blabing...
This is too tell you idle people are every where and make so much noise.
You know your selves

Pia said...

Nowadays people are too sensitive. What she said didn't offend because I understand where she is coming from. Being a first time mother is overwhelming and one get over excited about the whole thing. I wish her the best.

Anonymous said...

Wow. So women ttc are what ??? Men??! Fucking idiot! A woman is a woman, wether she gives birth or not. Fyi, giving birth doesnt even make u a mother ....case in point:- women that trash their babies

Anonymous said...

I beg free her, that is her personal opinion of being an accomplished woman.

The Lifted said...

Whichever way you view it the statement is wrong. having a baby doesn't make you a real woman abeg.
For her to have said that she has always had the notion that one is not a real woman as long as she hasn't birth a child.
Its your substance that makes your real.

Alloy Chikezie said...

People will always talk. Even if she rephrase the statement, they'll talk.

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THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

Seconded...

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

She was misquoted by the daughters of Eve.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#If you're reading this, I hope you find the strength to get through whatever is causing you so much internal conflict at the moment*

DoppelgÀnger said...

She said it because people have always said she was built like a man and looked like one. Some people have even mentioned that she should be competing with men and not women. They should leave her alone, at least she is referring to herself.

Miss Ess said...

It was obviously misunderstood

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Very over sensitive minds

SheriKoko said...

Chi exotic is right. I understand the emotions she s feeling, motherhood is awesome buh her statement is out of place. Imagine how you'd feel if you'd been ttc for so long. So all those wonderful women out there still ttc are not real women. Pls!

Brandedme said...

Isn't it true?
Being a mother comes with lots of change

Cynthia Iyede said...

This is how she feels about herself and need not apologize for expressing herself. Let those making noise say theirs. Na wa! Everyone must have a say about others.

Anonymous said...

I don't agree that people are now too sensitive. I believe people are now less empathetic and pretty insensitive. If she had ever tried to conceive or is close to someone who has , she'll be more diplomatic with her comment. She is in the public eye and has lots of fans so her words will be taken as law by many and if that's what she said, women who don't have kids for whatever reason will be offended.

Intelligentsia princess said...

Thanks Chiee
Women are their own worst enemy
Does it mean all ladies without children are not real women?
That's a nonsensical statement coming from an intelligent mind like Serena.

Intelligentsia princess said...

Anon10:57,thanks for being objective.

Eka Joy said...

I'm sure she never meant it in that context. Read Stella's comment and you'd see it differently.... Maybe

Kiks said...

I hurriedly scrolled down to see exactly what she said errmmm... I don't think she set out to offend anyone but that statement is just not right. It invariably implies that a woman becomes a real woman when she gives birth. Again I don't think she meant it that way but that is what it is.

Omeh said...

I get ur point. But imagine saying that with someone TTC around. Nt every statement should be spoken out.

Broomstick said...

Na wa o. So people like Oprah are men? Or a friend who had surgery to ensure she'll never have kids cos of a defect? No matter how you look at it, what she said was wrong

Iphie dearie said...

These days you have to be 'politically correct' every darn time.
You can't even breathe well sometimes.
The internet gives life to words you didn't even want to come out a certain way.
There are phrases you just gotta avoid and a lot of things to put into consideration.
Serena has always been a strong woman who just recently became a Mom to be. I don't think she would deliberately put down everything she's been and have believed in.

jelly said...

That's the way she feels about herself and i don't think she said it to put somebody down

Ronalda. said...

@Lipstickalley,sweetie, she couldn't have been quoted out of context because the context in which she used the aforementioned statement has been reproduced ‎in the concluding part of the post. Quoting out of context is when a sentence is, or couple of sentences are lifted from a comment made by an individual, which can be easily misconstrued and thereby open to a myriad of interpretation. The original meaning becomes distorted, often giving it an offensive or uncouth meaning, which will be misleading.

For example, a pastor says " I enjoy sex a lot, I can have it all day, everyday but I have mastered the art of self-control, therefore ‎I have complete control over things I'm passionate about. If I'm on a spiritual exercise for three months, I can remain celibate for the duration and remain focused." One of the ways the pastor's words can be taken or quoted out of context will be "Pastor tells his congregants 'I enjoy sex a lot, I can have sex all day, everyday.' " However, if the exact context in which those words were used are published, the original meaning will be preserved and the interpretation will be limited. Unless one chooses to be mischievous, the pastor's comment is pretty clear and unambiguous. I hope you now have a better understanding of what taking words or quoting out of context entails?

Serena's words may have been taken out of context in the title or heading of this thread but the context in which you used them was a reproduced verbatim in the last 2 paragraphs. The issue is, like with a lot of comments people make, her comments are open to several interpretations by people with different mindsets and belief systems, ergo the controversy.

DON™ said...

I know she didn't have anything upstairs other than tennis.

Anonymous said...

Thought you are a grown up woman before now. I can see you are in the class of them ideato.

Anonymous said...

It comes with being a celebrity. on the other hand let give credit to mothers. Someone have to give birth before anybody can be called a mother either by adoption or biologically. That you are TTcing does not mean others shouldn't celebrate their success. When you are in the that state you will understand the feeling and the effect of the hormones. Call a spade a spade, do not follow civilization where everything is painted and equality is the order of the day. go to the world and multiply is what God said and for every great man in the bible God promised a child, a male child was what was always given. @ chi exotic you have been looking at the wrong places, A man without a child is not a real man. The ones with only female children still complain.

That Uptown Girl said...

She spoke in reference to herself not to all the women in the world. If giving birth makes her feel like a real woman she is entitled to feel that way.

That Uptown Girl said...

What about the millions that keep theirs? And spend their whole lives loving and caring for them? Having a baby is a special thing, believe it or not.

That Uptown Girl said...

Exactly! She was talking about herself.

Anonymous said...

Na wa for people. She did not curse those who have decided not to give birth. She is talking about herself. She feels having a child will make her a fulfilled woman.

That Uptown Girl said...

It implies that she started to feel accomplished as a woman with the baby. Again she was talking about herself.

oguike akudo said...

Is her own personal opinion.

Anonymous said...

They are just overtly sensitive for nothing. If she feels motherhood will bring out the real woman in her, kudos to her. Some women decide not to have children in Europe it means they will never experience motherhood.

Anonymous said...

To think that I was really looking forward to getting in touch with this Mrs R as I was thinking you are somewhere near me but being a TTCing woman, I retrace my step. Thank God for the ones you had without stress. Hmm

Ronalda. said...

So what if that's her belief? She shouldn't be bullied into window-dressing her opinion to conform with other people's beliefs or a more acceptable societal belief. Instead of denying your truth, remain silent. I think it's cowardice to say what you really don't believe just to avoid the backlash, but if you choose to find your voice, say what you believe are stand by it.

There are certain issues that may have been settled by one school of thought but they clash with other schools of thought. That you don't agree with a person's opinion on a personal matter, doesn't make either of you right. This, in my considered view, is one of those topics that doesn't have a universally right or  wrong answer. The answer depends on each individual's mindset. If she believes having a baby makes a woman a "real woman", that's purely her ideology which is neither superior nor inferior. It's an endless debate like the "nurture versus nature" ideology.

You may see her as being ignorant or you may agree with her, it depends on your mindset as well. A friend of mine told me that since I had both of my angels through C.S, I can't know what "real women" go through during labour and the feeling of pride a woman feels after a vaginal birth. Put differently, she think I'm not a "real woman" or the pride of motherhood I feel is incomplete. I respect her opinion, though I don't agree with it. I also know better than to argue with a lady with a fixed mindset. A cousin of mine refused an epidural during labour because she felt she will be less of a mother if she doesn't endure pain associated with birthing a child. That's how she feels and no argument on earth can sway her mind. Guess what? They are entitled to their opinions and I respect them for being honest, regardless of how unpopular their opinions may be.‎

What I find hilarious is, there are a lot of women and men as well, who really think a woman who hasn't given birth is somewhat less of a woman. The problem is, they are scared to own their beliefs. So they join the bandwagon and say what people and the society will consider less offensive but behind closed doors, they will even say worse. If that's truly Serena's belief, I may not agree with it but I don't think she deserves the‎ excoriation she is getting. If this trend continues, sooner rather than later, we will end up acting like robots programmed to say only what is expected of us and not really how or what we feel.

Anonymous said...

So anon you quoting Bible and look how many men and women in the Bible forego family life to immerse themselves in the spiritual world. What does this teaches us? It teaches us that whether you chose to have a family or not has nothing to do with God. There will always be those wired to have a family and those who are not, and it is the spirit of God in everybody just the same. Having a child is a great experience, but even it is not the greatest experience a human being can have. The greatest experience a human being will ever have is to become one with God on the spiritual level, there is no earthly love from another human being or experience that will ever surpass that on the earth plane, and very very few will ever experience it. This is what Jesus' work was about, to show humans they can achieve oneness with God in one lifetime. We know this at the subconscious level, and we know we are not going to achieve it so we create families which is next best thing, though, not the best thing.

Ronalda. said...

Men are even worse, it's just that society is harder on women. A man who hasn't sired a child, feels less than a man. Why do you think some rush to get someone else knocked up if their wives haven't conceived yet? They want the world to know the "fault" isn't theirs. The male ego is super fragile and all the bravado is a defence mechanism to protect it.

Why do you think men with fertility issues do all they can to hide it? Admitting they have a problem is a very difficult thing to do. Some men who know they are sterile would remain calm and claim the children their wives have with other men because the sigma and shame of being infertile is too hard to bear. When a man knocks up a woman, you'll hear his buddies hailing him with titles like "striker", "sharp shooter" "Real man" etc. Even when a newly wed couple get pregnant soon after the wedding, isn't it the man most people give the credit to? But when there's a delay, the fault goes to the lady, by default.‎

Men call each other out all the time for not being able to impregnate a woman. It's actually worse with men.

sholetoga said...

World people should leave Serena alone to enjoy her pregnancy.....na as she dey feel she talk na, wetin

Anonymous said...

She may be a world star tennis player but she's not very enlightened. What does a real woman even mean??? Lol, talent and skill does not translate to wisdom. A real woman she says?? So the last 35 years of her life she has been a fake, unlicensed, surreal woman?? What about the nuns and priests, what about those who have one inheritable genetic disorder or the other and have chosen not to reproduce biologically? What about couples who don't like children and both decide not to have any, what about those who got pregnant and aborted because they were not ready for children??? All the women in these categories are fake and unreal because they did not allow a head or leg come through their genitals or because they did not submit their uteruses to be used as ovens for baby baking. It's her personal opinion though but before forming an opinion, it is best to make sure your opinion is informed. Real woman my ass, long hiss!

Lipstickalley said...

Thank you Ronaldo, i don learn the difference today.

Her words were taken out of context, she was probably speaking for herself and not generally all women.

Thanks.

Yemi7up said...

She is so right, which ever way she says it or put it is correct. Children makes one complete, gives a woman the joy to be call a woman.
God make me a complete woman indid.

Anonymous said...

Lepa shandy is back with her mumu comments...escaped from the asylum am sure

Anonymous said...

So her sister Venus is not a real woman?

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