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Friday, 4 August 2017

Use Protection Or Abstinence?

These days one does not know what to preach because the society has been really polutted with talks of copulating and this has affected the way most teens think...






We all know that s§x is happening and turning the other check will not help..Naaa!
What is the best- Advising to use protection and prevention measures or to abstain from sex?

If you advice to abstain from sex,are you sure they are abstaining?If you advice to use protection and even provide it,that is a closed case.

One advice gives you clear conscience and the other gives you a bad feeling.

In these times,what advice do you think would benefit the youth of our time and stop all these spread of STD;STI's and teen girls becoming mothers because they didnt know what preventive measures to use.

I used to preach total Abstinence but became somewhat confused when I saw the trend.

So what would you recommend in these times?

Total abstinence until one finds a partner or protection7prevention?


78 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Abstinence and if you can't hold body use protection

AGELESS T said...

Abstinence

sexy Daddy said...

I preach total abstinence for the singles, but the married fuck dey go! Nothing do una!

ESE EsSAy said...

Abstinence of course

Madame koinkoin a.k.a 'peace lover" said...

Abstinence is the best , but if yu re serious with your relationship (courting) then protecting yourself from std's while yu guys are not married yet is the best .

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Just sew it period. hahahahaha total abstinence because you will be free from worries.

Our youth will not hear words because we are in a corrupt world and the devil is forever manipulating so many with sweet words of fuck fuck

Mhzzbee int'l said...

I prefer protection because if we preach abstinence it will only look like you are deceiving yourself, even in churches where pastors preach abstinence it's still happening there among church members. we all should stop deceiving ourselves, though abstinence still remain the best and that's what I will preach to my children. I got to tertiary institution before I knew where p***k dey take enter p***y. I was so innocent,but nowadays, they've started having sex immediately they enter high school.

Let's preach both abstinence and protection.

Anonymous said...

Abstain! You can do it.

anonymous gangster said...

Governments put up warning signs of all sorts, slow down, traffic lights, men at work, bump ahead, curve, bridge,etc. When we refuse to obey, we suffer the consequences, even sometimes doing alakoba for others.

God has said we should not engage in sexual immorality. He says if we do (fornication, adultery, homosexuals, etc) we will suffer the consequences now (STDs, STIs, unwanted pregnancy, destroyed womb during abortion, guilty conscience, failed marriages etc) and also not inherit his kingdom.

We are free moral agents, right to choose between right and wrong. But that does not vitiate God's right to give us rules. When we obey, we benefit. Vice versa.

No sex before marriage, no sex outside of marriage. Christ even went as far as saying looking longingly is akin to already commuting.

Choice but with consequences!

Minnie Rexpect said...

The fact that the crowd is going one way does not make that way right. I'd rather be alone on this than follow the crowd. Trend or not I still preach ABSTINENCE.

St.FranKooL.... said...

They need to build more convents & monasteries for abstinence to work...

Rosemary C. said...

Abstinence is the best but most people aren't ready to do the right time.

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Abstinence is what we preach but, we will not act like we don't know that a lot of people are not abstaining from premarital sex!

Now, if you know you can totally abstain from premarital sex (oral sex included), abstain and wait until you walk the aisle. Do it.

For those who can not abstain please, use protection. STD and STI's are real. A lot of people work hard to make their money, due to their negligence, they spend their earnings on STD treatments.

I always tell my little cousin back then, condoms are cheaper than abortion and STD treatment.
Don't waste your life and future because of 30mins of pleasure.

SANDY YO said...

Hahahahahahahahaha! Here to read comments biko.

Anonymous said...

People tend to go with the trend rather than what God has laid down in his word.Christians even support premarital sex now.I would say do the word of God,abstain.

Chidinma Grace said...

All join but I am team abstinence.

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

Abstinence is key....
Protect yourself if necessary...

NORTH DAKOTA SIOBHAN said...

In my opinion, I think its a scale that doesn't tip.50/50.
If you can abstain,by all means pls do.if you can't,protect yourself.
Truth is, preaching abstinence doesn't work with some people especially teenagers..
They watch lots of TV, and are always online,they've got raging hormones. That's why most western parents give their daughters morning after pills, and give their sons condoms, inspite teaching them to abstain.
When I have kids, I am going to lecture them on both subjects.

Sharondbaron said...

Please we really need to discuss about this! I was just discussing this topic on Tuesday with some friends. Do you know it's a taboo now to be in a relationship and not have sex? It's so sad. Let me share something that
happened on Tuesday evening. I was on my way to church for evening service , as I was about leaving my close I heard a man shouting
at the top of his voice to an elderly lady, maybe his sister or aunty I don't know. But he was telling her that the girl he wants to
marry is a Virgin and that he can't go on with it, he said he must sleep with her first! He kept emphasizing on the fact that
he has to feel her first! Meaning it's a criteria for him. To the lady, she said after all who Virgin help. Then it was dawn on me
that it has eaten deep into our society.

Cathryn Praise said...

Abstinence all the way. The society has become so bad that sex before marriage is encouraged and applauded. Some give the excuse of "testing before buying". Those who preach abstinence are seen as old school and made to look or feel odd. Abstinence saves one from a lot of physical, emotional and spiritual mess.
I once listened to a lecture on Demonology and the lecturer went into details on Sex and demons. Omo,very educative! It was an eye opener. A woman in attendance was busy praying seruously for her daughters.
Abstinence, i will keep preaching.

Em jay said...

The two depends on the situation.

Anonymous said...

My dear na abstinence, all the stupid nyama nyama way person don suffer if say person no do at all person for just get peace of mind. Even the condom at times no dey even prevent common staph.

Anonymous said...

This is simple now ...if you are married. You can fire on all cylinders. Only caution yourselves why you have reached your agreed number of children by using family planning methods or protection. If you are single and a virgin....stay as one or hold body cause when and once you have broken the seal abstinence is just mere say. So use protection always. Once you taste the delicacy called sex there is no going back. Abeg don't come and tell me sex is not food o. It means you not enjoying it, you not getting it in right measure, and you not doing it with that special person with the right tools and skills. It is good food, fresh air, best exercise, great massage and wonderful experience. Still firing on all cylinders after eighteen years and you think it's the kitchen food. Abeg that kind of food don't make you smile with bright sparkling eyes on a Monday morning o. It's good weekend sex that is the secret and magic....winks!

Anonymous said...

Stella, I was with you almost at the inception of this blog and I know where you stood; ABSTINENCE! You preached it on this blog. It was like a mantra to you.
That is the truth and truth does not change! You will have a more peaceful conscience to believe the truth, practice the truth and preach the truth irrespective of what anyone thinks.
Why haven't you changed on abortion; you are a good catholic, a christian? What do catholics/christians believe about sex; isn't it in marriage?
Just like you've remained "team no snooping",in spite of the odds, why can't you remain "team no fornication, even if folks do not agree?
Did everyone believe in Jesus or agree with him? If they did, would he have died?
Think about it Stella Nwanyioma, you will be proud of yourself if you do.

Anonymous said...

I remember when I entered uni, my mom never preached 'abstinence' she always tells us to protect ourselves. Recently I asked her why she never preached 'abstinence' like other parents do, she said preaching it will be like pouring water in a basket, we won't do it, & she won't be with us 247 to monitor us. Lately I've appreciated that advice, cos I don't have sex without protection. I've been free from HIV, STD's, unwanted pregnancy, etc.

Anonymous said...

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 1 Cor. 6:18

Sharondbaron said...

As for the question, I go with abstinence!

Anonymous said...

1 Corinthians 6:15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”b 17But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.c

Anonymous said...

Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst? 17If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy that person; for God’s temple is sacred, and you together are that temple.1 Cor. 3

Ina said...

Mermaid style

Drealbarbz said...

Abstinence!abstinence! abstinence! Sex is not food!ğŸ‘Ž

TRIUMPHANT ZION said...

Why steal what you will eat at the right time and get tired. Sex for singles is no no. A lot of you don't know that you might think you only have one partner but if your partner already slept with 1 million people,that it is like you too have slept with the one million people.
Sex is a deep bond. An occultic man or woman can afford to use you for ritual because you have become one with him or her by having sex with them.
Would have listed a lot of horrible things that accompanies premarital sex but my hands are full, maybe later.

Anonymous said...

But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself.
proverbs 6:32

Anonymous said...

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrew 13:4

Cinnamon Apple said...

Lol @Married fuck dey go

Anonymous said...

But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars--they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death." Revelation 21:8

Anonymous said...

WHO opens legs for sex?Who get's pregnant?Who bears the guilt of abortion (the man shares in the consequences though; see Proverbs 6:16) and cries every second/everyday?Who is heartbroken and shattered and confused?Who has insecurity and low self esteem? Who is seen as the whore?Who has suicidal thoughts (yes you murdered a human being or more see Gen. 9:6)?Who sulks even a decade after the man has moved on, married and had kids?Who is dumped?On and on and on.LADIES, WHY NOT CLOSE THIS HOLE CALLED VAGINA UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED? THE TEST THAT A MAN "LOVES YOU" IS THAT HE IS ABLE TO RESPECT YOUR BODY TILL HE PAYS YOUR BRIDE PRICE.When the man finishes with you he moves on to the next "gullible victim" Leave such men who are only interested in you body (no; just interested in your vagina and breasts) alone and face your life and make it right with God and do not kill kids etc.Jesus says; "whoever comes to me I will not cast away". Matthew 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

Anonymous said...

A lady NYSC member serving in the north tasted and sampled until she got hooked on an alhaji all because of the huge amount of money the young alhaji was doling out (imagine giving a corps member 500k monthly). She was planning to marry him after the service year. The lady had noted that this man always wore a glove in one hand (the left hand). On inquiry, the alhaji told her that his doctor in London told him to wear it so that he does not get a chronic wound infected. In the last month of their service, she visited the man's house for the first time (they've been meeting in a particular hotel all the time). Permit me to quote her verbatim from hence; ". . .He asked if I wanted to see his wound and I said yes. He slowly pulled the glove . . . and I let out a scream . . . I wondered how on earth such aggregation of maggots were in a man's hand and never crawled out. he asked if I loved him and I said yes . . . He told me that I should lick his wound to prove my love . . . and when I declined, he sprayed a bottle of perfume on me and that's all I could remember . . ."
Well lady fi. . .(her name) was met while having maggots coming out of her vagina for 6 long hurtful years. She was so afraid of death that she couldn't believe she will no longer die even after prayers and fasting and she was healed (maggots stopped coming out). She understood from her then Alhaji boyfriend that her death after 7 years was to shore up his wealth for another girl to enjoy since another girl paid with her life for the one she enjoyed during her service year . . .
Ladies, it pays to CLOSE YOUR LEGS!

Anonymous said...

Compliance by coercion is not compliance. Olodo, because you haven't heard that immorality goes on in monasteries.

Anonymous said...

And you've been free from guilt and God's wrath too?
And free from oral cancer and herpes?
Free from the consequences of your sins in eternity?
Free from low self esteem that comes from cheapening yourself and degrading your womanhood?
Not all things taught by your mom is right okay?
On your wedding day, you will wear white (chastity) to deceive?
If you are asked, "have you ever had sex, would you say "no" and why not; guilt?
You know that you are wrong in this pathway that seems right to you but the end of it is destruction!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm. Come Sunday you'll go & raise "holy hands" to da lord. Tufia.

Anonymous said...

Gbam.

Anonymous said...

scammer u don well abi?

Blackberry said...

If u preach abstinence, it's like pouring water on d back of a duck, so i'd say use protection, cos when STDS /HIV hits d body, you'll know d difference between anger and bitterness.

Anonymous said...

All the girls are chanting "abstinence!"
Make I ask question ooo . . .
Abi na ghost dey write all those anonymous confessions for this blog?
All na market strategies.

Pastor's Daughter said...

what is abstinence? hahahahahahahaah kai my people are fucking funny. how do you tell a teenager with raging hormones to abstain? nne forget it, not in this age and time. the best you can do is buy them condoms, pleeeeeeenty condoms, teach them how to use a condom, never forget to slip three to four condoms in their pockets. give them good sex education,

my mum was so rigid and so discipline, she never taught us what condoms are, she was to tough with what ever has to do with sex. if not for the timely intervention of my aunt, who was a gbogbo big girls then, who showed us what a condom is and why we need to protect ourselves if we decide to have sex, i probably would have been a baby mama with three kids now.

its time this generation of parents and guardians educate their kids on sex or the trend will keep increasing.

Anonymous said...

So you can become one with the 'demons' in the people you sleep with but not one with the creativity, intelligence and success in them? Lol,cool story.

Since we are being religious about it, isn't there something in the Bible about lustful stare being sin?

Since thinking about it is sin and doing it is sin...I chose protection.

MISS Jacobs.

Nemerem said...

👍

lvahstherapy.blogspot.com said...

It doesn't matter what is trending,do not conform to the standards of the world.

SDK's FIRST DAUGHTER (GIFT E) said...

OMG OMG!things are happening in oh.I'm in shock!

Princess Scheherazade said...

Thank you. If you say you're a Christian, God's word has not changed because of trends.
You're free to obey or disobey but His word remains unchanged.
Remember, he who breaks the hedge, the serpent will bite.

SDK's FIRST DAUGHTER (GIFT E) said...

My dear,abstinence is the best,let no man tell you otherwise.Some precautionary measures been failing people.I know of a friend that was on protection but still took in.CD dey burst my sister.even if u use protection,how about the guilty feeling afterwards? Premarital sex hinders blessings in ones love and if you want progress in your life,stay farrrr away from premarital sex.This sex of a thing is more spiritual than physical,you don't know what somebody is carrying oh.A word is enough for the wise.

Fidel Castro said...

Abeg na Skin to Skin sure pass, if i lie ask all the babymama's in naija.

SDK's FIRST DAUGHTER (GIFT E) said...

*life

Anonymous said...

My dear, abstinence takes the grace of God.
It's possible to taste, enjoy and hold body afterwards till marriage if God gives one His grace.
Better to remain a virgin though but don't give those who have already tasted more excuse to continue in it.

Jasmine said...

Gbam.

Abstinence

Jasmine said...

Muss Jacob, there is a difference between lust and love

And also between lasciviousness and lust.

If u need more explanation, I'm ready to help out.

No matter what we say, abstinence is the best.

Jasmine said...

Even with the raging hormones, some people still control themselves.

Discipline is the key.

Abstinence is still the best.

temi dayo said...

Abstinence is the better. People do something bad doesn't make it right

Pharaoh D 7th said...

Hmmmmmmm... Let me put it this way. I love BMW. It's my kind of car. Eventually, I am able to afford one. Would I test drive it to be sure it meets my expectations ? Hell YES! I need to be certain the gear shift, response sound and automatic buttons all function well.

Life is about choices. I prefer to be well informed.

Shennel Hyacinth said...

All of them don turn women of God.... Sdk bvs😂😂😂 una dey represent well .

Shennel Hyacinth said...

😂😂😂😂

Blessing Anyebe said...

It takes God's grace, but abstinence is best any day, anytime. It prevents lots of heartache, regret and pain.

Anonymous said...

Anon 14:06 Abeg shift.
When it's time for anonymous night post, all of una go show.

Shennel Hyacinth said...

Is it your "holy hands" that she is lifting up to the lord.
Drink water and mind your business today.

Anonymous said...

Lol

Iphie dearie said...

💋💋💋💋💋💋

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Pharoah D, you paid before you tested it right? So pay bride price before you test

SWAG LAFRESH said...

God bless you.

Pastor's Daughter said...

you all shouting abstinence i hope you are are abstaining sha. dont come here and be shouting abstinence while you jump on every available dick around town.









i don dey go

Chinny said...

Abstain. Abstain. Abstain.
Child of God, please Abstain.
Sexual sins grieve the Lord so so deeply
Do not be conformed to this world
Do not let the devil have a hold on you
Do not let him steal your crown with lies and empty promises
Do not sell your birthright for a bowl of porridge
Love is a gift from the Lord
It is not sex like the world sells it to be
You cannot have love outside him who created it
Seek the Lord, for he is enough
Flee sexual immorality. Flee
His grace is sufficient to get us through
Always remember, we are NOT of this world
Hold forth, for The Lord will come to take us home
Abstain. Abstain. Child of God, please Abstain.

Pharaoh D 7th said...

Lolzz. No dear LaFresh. I test drove before I made payment. I am like Thomas, I like to be sure. I am not good with stories that touches the....

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' 😂😂😂😂😂 said...

@pharoah the what? 😂😂 abeg shift joor. Test driver

Suwa Nen said...

Haba anonymous 14:17! Not nice..

Anonymous said...

Why do all of you have answers that veer towards the religious? Not everyone is a believer.
If you want to give advice do so in a neutral way that will get across to everyone.
Abstinence is actually the best, but we have to be realistic that most can't hold body. So if one is one of the many that are unable to hold body, they should practice safe sex. Note that abstinence includes oral sex, because std's can be caught easily that way.

Anonymous said...

Its wrong for you to judge...talking about white on wedding day to deceive or not to deceive, let God be the judge of that
You could actually make your points without using judgemental words, like saying may God give you the grace to do it right ,because no one is clean, no one is perfect, we are talking about the flesh here, only God can help us make it right

Anonymous said...

I regret losing my virginity at 25...didnt even stay up to 2 minutes inside her...
Wish I waited.

Yemi7up said...

Pharaoh D when buying your milo either tin or refilled you buy them sealed and safe for consumption so should you get your woman. Women are not garri to be tasted by all before paying.

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