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Monday, 2 October 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

Hmmm....






STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A BOYFRIEND WITH TWO GIRLFRIENDS


I've been with this guy for 5 years now, like in every relationship we had our issues and we're apart for a while. Fast forward to a year he starts begging seriously, telling me how I'm the only one hes ever really loved and he wants to build a future with me.we were at it for months then I decided to give it a try. 



Only to find out 2 months later on his birthday there's someone else in the picture. I confronted him and he told me it was true and he got involved with her out of boredom when we were apart. Do you love her? He said he tried to. But no. Now this keeps bringing issues. I can't settle and just act cool. I confronted him again and he told me to just love him.I'm the only girl he's ever truly loved and he can't let me go. Its me he wants. 


How the hell am I supposed to be consoled by that? To make things worse, when I asked what he was doing about the other girl he said he doesn't want to be a bad person cos she doesn't deserve it. Like I'm the one who deserves to be hurt. he deceived me into this.Honestly if I knew there was someone else before jumping into this again I wouldn't have.


 I told him to let's go back to how we used to be till he sorts himself out at least, he begged and begged but he's still not doing anything about the other girl and I can't stand it. I love him but I can't keep loving him knowing there's someone else he doesn't want to hurt. Its hard for me to deal with. He says hes looking for the right time to do it.


 If you're gonna breakup with her, why not now? Why drag us both through this emotional mess you created. Cos there will never be a right time. I need advice.
Is there anything to fight for here?

65 comments:

Anonymous said...

Why do folks believe this lie that "there are issues in every relationships?"
I was in courtship for four years and married my best friend and we never had any issues.
Friendship, good character, Love and chastity in a relationship makes it enduring.

Lady Bug said...

Mtsheeeeew 😴😴😴😴

SWEETIE said...

Be there in the relationship and act like the other girl doesnt exist, with time he will decide who he wants

Anonymous said...

Break up with him and see if he let the other girl go for you.
Insist she has to go for you to return, and never return if she is still in the picture.

Iuleha virologist said...

Dump him. You deserve better.

Rhoda Rex said...

Mr man just wants to eat his cake and Have it. Babe, give urself brain and dump his sorry ass before u loose ur mind.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

This poster is a learner oh!
Most Single men don't date only one babe...
Guys don't put their eggs in one basket...so I advise you to do the same!...
I wonder how a sane girl will be dating only one nigga...
He owes you nothing cos he has not paid your bride price...
If you can't stay with him and give other guys a space in your life,break up!!...
During my single days,I don't nag and pressure men for love like you!!...
Shine your eyes and stop behaving like a Mugu! ...

Anonymous said...

All I see is a naughty boy sampling two vaginas free of charge.
This shouldn't be a chronicle.
When will girls learn?
You want proof??
If these two girls had closed their legs, he wouldn't have begun "dating" two girls simultaneously; would he?

Anonymous said...

If you "fight for . . ." during dating, what will happen in marriage; will you then have something to "shoot for?"

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Pls forget that guy and move on.didn't even finish reading. Women make men feel so important. Babe too many fishes in the sea abeg to be giving yourself headache over one undeserving guy

Anonymous said...

Leave him my sister. This one wants to have his cake and eat it. This is what they say. Then when you find out he is getting married to the girl he will say "but you knew she was in the picture"

Shirley said...

Them burry ona placenta together? Please leave that guy he doesn't know what he wants,don't allow him waste your time.

Atheist ™ said...

My dear, if theres any fight here, you shouldnt be wearing boxing gloves.. retreat from that boxing ring & let him sort himself out, he managed to get himself mixed up in a love triangle, only him can get himself out.
Youre creating a safety net wit options for him, if u choose to remain, help him narrow it down by walking away, his brain will reset within a short while.

GOONs Mi said...

You need to be firm dear......
Break up with him and watch his next steps.....he's being selfish here.

If he doesn't come clean, MOVE ON!

Happychild said...

I'm sorry o, but this poster is really stupid. Not an insult o, it's a fact. Stupid as in not wise at all. Please leave him and stop asking stupid questions abeg.

Cutekay said...

I don't get something. Are you a tree that you can't move? Was your umbilical cord buried in his father's compound. Someone disrespects you and you're still asking what to do. Dating someone else along side you and openly telling you he can't break up with her and you're chilling there acting confused. Confused about what?? Do you need a prophet to tell you you're wasting your time, energy and efforts. Or you have friends telling you to fight for your man. Which man? That's a silly boy. Very silly boy. Better get out of that shameful situationship. When will us girls learn to value ourselves. Tomorrow he'll propose and you'll accept then later complain he's cheating on you. Aren't you cheating on yourself like this? Abi you don't deserve to be happy. Or you're among those that scream it's in their DNA to cheat. Continue. Till you see his wedding Iv to that chic you'll cry blood.

Sally jayd said...

Nothing to fight about leave him before you embarrass yourself more. This guy is playing both of you, can’t you see it? You sound like teenager, move on.

Cutekay said...

I don't get something. Are you a tree that you can't move? Was your umbilical cord buried in his father's compound. Someone disrespects you and you're still asking what to do. Dating someone else along side you and openly telling you he can't break up with her and you're chilling there acting confused. Confused about what?? Do you need a prophet to tell you you're wasting your time, energy and efforts. Or you have friends telling you to fight for your man. Which man? That's a silly boy. Very silly boy. Better get out of that shameful situationship. When will us girls learn to value ourselves. Tomorrow he'll propose and you'll accept then later complain he's cheating on you. Aren't you cheating on yourself like this? Abi you don't deserve to be happy. Or you're among those that scream it's in their DNA to cheat. Continue. Till you see his wedding Iv to that chic you'll cry blood.

Anonymous said...

Just be his friend and withdraw excess emotions for him. Mingle with other guys. If it works out with you 2, fine but if it does not work out good. You won't lose out cus you had reduced the emotional attachment.

Omeh said...

I Dont understand. She should wait for him to choose? Nawa. Poster pls get out of that rubbish u call a relationship fast. Wat nonsense

Rhoda Rex said...

Awwwwww

Red Wine said...

Is either you give deef ears acting up like no other girl except you. You should play your own part and stop complaining about the other girl, someday he will make his choice and let one of you go. Stop nagging him, stop complaining biko. If you cannot stand the other girl just walk away and stop disturbing him all the time with he should hurt the other girl. Is hard to see a man with one babe, do not put all your eggs in one basket.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm. Hasn't it occurred to u the other girl might be aware ure in the picture and waiting for him to dump u too. The fact is he'll dump either of u wen tins get messier.so my advice is DUMP him FIRST. But If u love him reeeeeeaaaaaaaaally, u can stay and fight for him shaa...but there's no guarantee it's u he'll pick wen the time comes...goodluck though.

Flamboyant BV said...

Babe ur man loves that other lady too and don't be deceived, u can't tell if it's u he loves more. Please do not accept it the heart knows who it loves and am sorry it might not be you since he is refusing to let her go. He is selfish, do not ask him to choose cos he won't just tell him u can't and watch him.

La' Sunshine said...

And in all those years you and you bestie have not had any issues pfft how boring pls ? They are different kind of issues okay

Anonymous said...

excuse me poster, does the guy's name start with F, doing postgrad and yours with a P? please I'll be waiting for your reply o cos mumu don do.

DON™ said...

I just dey laugh.

May said...

You have your answer already poster....I'm sure you know what to do, you just scared to do it and don't want to be alone. Wait o, is the dick that good....

Anyways you are dating yourself, cause your bobo wants to eat his cake and have it (and it sure doesn't work that way).

Give yasef brain and take a flight away from him.

May said...

Chief I second you o, she just wan kiii herself on top one dick when the guy dey go about dey donate white oat. Make she sitdon dey wait make him decide. Shior

Anonymous said...

In answer to your question, No.
You are dating a child.
And you need to add some self respect to yo name.

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

My question is....hope u are not gbenshing him? If u are, then u are on a long thing


Pls give that young man some space to sort himself out. He can't be eating his cake and having it back. Give his space ad in, enough space. If he truly loves u as he claims, he will do the needful. But again, u hv to be smart because he may come up wt lies to mk u feel they are no longer together.

May said...

Leave her let her be waiting for proof as a judge that she is.

May said...

Cutekay are you minding her.....some gals can collect shits in the name of relationship.

Shirley said...

A big friend gave me this advice just yesterday to say I was shocked is an understatement cause he is a man,he was like don't put your eggs in one basket...lol

FUCKIT said...

He is also telling the other girl that he is waiting for the right time to dump you
Be wise

LUCIFER said...

So you sincerely think a man will have only one girlfriend? Wake up girl, i have four girlfriends and i intend settling down with the most patient one. We men are polygamous in nature leave him or find a side dish.

Ammy Bee said...

Is your umbllical cord tied with his? Take a walk now. The guy is chopping both of you and you are here asking for advise. Except you just dont want to face reality. This is how baby mama and side chicks starts.

Anonymous said...

Wao!
@La sunshine
Na so the thing pain you?
Why not rejoice with someone who "has no issues" in her relationship?
If you are having issues in yours, why not ask her "the secret"
Which I even think she wrote up there
How you come know say, them lives dey "boring??"
Abi you be prophetess or winch??
You sure say you be "sunshine" abi na "darkness?"

SimpleGOLD$ said...

Poster you better free the guy, his no more into you. Don't be tied down please. Give another guy a chance.

Blackberry said...

Did u eat his placenta?
What's stopping you from two timing the two timer?
Na wa o!

Shy Artsy gal... said...

People like you think they're smart but eventually end up with a SHE DEVIL. Guess that's you're type...

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a Ugegbe Chike Teflon said...

Gosh....I actually agree with you queen and as I was scrolling down seeing 'dump his ass' I was like 😐 would many of you say that if the reverse was the case? He owes her nothing. They aren't married and she's stressing him. Me, I can't stress a man who hasn't paid my bride price or given me a diamond ring. Cos not attaching myself to you gives an opening for me to access better options. And most guys don't get it. They seem to think i have too many guys on my case that's why I'm not soo interested in thier drama. Truth is even when my quiver is empty, I can't be hounding a guy for anything - not to talk of commitment. My life isnt tied to him until he has crosses some major milestones.
My dear, cut giving him cookie and treat him like a buddy, still ask him for favours so he doenst feel thrown at the deep end. I'm sure it's the cookie you're giving him that's making you feel bad. Since he's being childish (or actually really waiting for the right time) quit giving him cookie, then watch and see what he does.
Three things will happen:
1. He breaks up with her and shows you proof that he's 'clean'.
2. He doesn't and you take a walk at your own time.
3. He realises he has more feelings for her and the relationship between you two dies off.

I think you're putting too much pressure on him for an off-and-on relationship with no commitment. And I think you need to occupy the free space in your mind with other things. Leave him let him make up his mind who he wants to be with. Like I said CUT THE COOKIE and don't block off other guys until he has done what is expected of him.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a Ugegbe Chike Teflon said...

See me oh?? Abeg keep it simple with 'Simple' guys. He's acting simple so treat him lightly.

Anonymous said...

@La sunshine
she said, she got "no issues"
So what do you mean by "different kinds of issues?"
No issues means no issues.

Anonymous said...

This is exactly how my relationship was,and it even got so bad the other girl and I started exchanging text message about about who is the real girlfriend and who he loves more.My dear I had to respect myself and walk out of that confused relationship for the sake of my sanity.No doubt I still love him so much but I love myself too and I knew I deserved way better

Stella Onyinye said...

Gbam Queen I like your advice

Amacastel said...

Queen dalu for saying my mind,inukwa dying untop of One man dick.

Anonymous said...

Let him go.
I don't understand why you need to proove yourself to him. You are more than enough.
I was once in your shoes. I didn't know we were two. Immediately I discovered, I kept quiet, collected enough evidence then left. And I never went back. The man eventually left the other girl but I will.never take him back. He is always begging.

If it takes breaking up for you to know my worth, you do not deserve me.

sholetoga said...

Poster......that guy is a time waster. He's done with you, he just doesn't know how to say it. So you help him by dumping his sorry ass.
Please, ladies should stop allowing any man treat them any how . this one he's dating you and someone else, if you marry him, he will have many sidechicks by the side. Please stop taking shit in the name of relationship......

Anonymous said...

This exactly what I'm going through, I love him too much, but you know what, I cut giving him cookies, slept with him just once told him I regretted it, that I sinned against God, I dont even talk about the other girl anymore, I still show him love, and care but also opening my heart incase I meet someone, and I'm praying seriously about it cos he one man any woman will marry and not have so much issues, so I let God do the work for me, cos some people suffer before anything good comes to them I'm that person,i just ignore the other girl, but I make sure no more sex, Just do the same, be very prayerful and let him breathe, if he yours he will come back

Anonymous said...

Am just imagining what he most have been telling the girl about u. Dear poster if u can't free him friend zone d confused jigga & keep ur option wide open. Ije kings

Anonymous said...

You need advice abi? Poster if you like stay there. Mtcheew.

World People said...

The other girl must be celibate and saving cookies for marriage. He's using you to keep body & soul together till they are married.

You know what to do.

Anonymous said...

Poster you will take Sweetie's advise only if you have low self esteem.

World People said...

I thinking the fact that she has to fight for him as skewed things up. She's the prize here. A woman of virtue (maybe not) but still, hanging on a 'I hope he will pick me' is not a good foundation.

If she turns blind eyes to his cheating and hangs in there, if they are married, he will continue this way. Because that's who he is, and she accepted it previously.

If the tables were reserved would a man hang in there and be acting confused? He will kick you to the curb despite the fact that he may also have a side chick.

Please go to the market and buy self respect. You deserve better. This is not why God created you... he didn't create you to be used as a vessel by a mere boy.

Anonymous said...

Chai. Poster receive sense in Jesus name.
They are using your head to play tumbo tumbo. Why are girls dumb? Smh.

Cookie said...

Chikito, you're so right........ Pray tell why you're shouting my name though???

Anonymous said...

Well done anonymous. You did well. 👏

Anonymous said...

A man that is interested in you won't make it obvious that he is dating another. You hear poster?

Cookie said...

Sister, he owes you nothing, it's either you leave or stay.......

Start withdrawing little by little, reduce calls, SMS and visits, just reduce emotional attachment, it's easier to break up that way cos he would have turned to your 'buddy' without knowing.......


Breaking up when you love someone is really hard, it goes beyond saying it, it's a mental exercise as far as I'm concerned!!! Once my mind is off someone, that's it!!!

Anonymous said...

This guy is not good for your self esteem. Why not leave him and follow God's plan for you? Why will you be sowing where you will not reap? Why do you want to be the side dish rather than the main one?

Anonymous said...

No wonder ur Nick name is Lucifer deceiving four gals at d same time don't worry all u guys saying u re polygamous in nature remember hellfire is still very hot.

HummingBird said...

Poster please give him a break , he's not ready for you, he only pulled your leg and you fell for it. No man in love with a Lady does that.

Anonymous said...

Exactly. 👏

Anonymous said...

Well, i can't be an option.

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