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Wednesday, 15 November 2017

Shocking Confessions Of Parents Who Hate Their Own Children

As any parent knows well, raising a brood is no mean feat. But some parents have taken to anonymous confessions site Whisper to reveal why they secretly 'hate' their own children in a series of shocking revelations. 

















Culled from Daily Mail.co.uk



*Kids can drive one crazy alright but this here is extreme to hate a child with so much passion.

63 comments:

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Bad mothers

Em jay said...

Orisirisi, I stopped reading half way,i cannot come and be hating my unborn kids.

Shirley said...

This got me sick in my tummy.
How would hate a child you gave life? It alright to have a favourite child but hate any?thats sickening

MISS TRUTH. said...

My husband and my children are the BEST things that happened to me. I LOVE them unconditionally. I don't get where this their hatred is coming from. #shocked.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

All these oyinbo psychos!...
Ndi ala ndi ala!.,.
I can never hate a child I gave birth to biko...
God forbid

Blackberry said...

Horrible parent!

Miss Ess said...

This people are more than mad.

Anonymous said...

wicked people.no reason can justify hate for a child you brought into this world.
i love children.

Chika Vincent said...

Abeg I did not bother to read o..

Anonymous said...

Haba!!! How can you hate you child? My first born is a handful, I just "enter one knicker with him" ie I don't spare him at all. To an outside, it might seem like I hate him but I love him to bits. I can't imagine my life without him. He is so book smart and caring.

virus detected said...

I know some people will come here and be acting self righteous. I’m also sure they don’t ve kids!
Some naughty kids can drive you insane, frustrate you and make you wish you never had them. Especially when that child has been disgracing you in public. To make matters worse, you find yourself in a bad, loveless and abusive marriage... it will definitely drive you crazy.
Let us all pray not to ve children that will make one regret being a parent.

DavinaRose said...

When I tell people not every woman is supposed to be a mother, they will be quoting bible for me.
My ex roomy back in school (of blessed memory) was hated by her mother. I have never seen anything like that. Yes the woman is her biological mother, a splitting image in fact. The woman sent her out to leave with a couple in Benin when she was 5 years ( a couple she barely knew) just becos she couldn't stand the sight of her. She hawked from age 6-9 paid her own fees in primary school cos the couple refused her going to school. They sent her back to her parents at 9 after all the heavy maltreatment.
Her mother nearly killed her. The wickedness was too much, her fathers' younger sister had to adopt her before her mother kills her. This girl suffered eehn. Did menial jobs, worked during hols just to train her self through the Uni. With plenty suffer cos her adopted mum has other kids she left behind when she died in her 3rd year.
She died during service and was taken to her biological parents to buried, to say the mum was happy was an understatement.
My Sweet Onyi, may you continue to RIP.

Amaka Ani said...

๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š What??๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿฝ Gini?? Adonbelievit!

Anonymous said...

Yea. I never meant to hate my child/children. I never planned it.
But if I had aborted the first i wldnt have had the others and my life wld have been better.
I dnt hate them but I don't love them.
I despise them at every little thing they do. Sometimes I don't even know when i'ld spank or shout at them. Later i'ld ask myself, now what did this child do that made me beat/shout at them.
I can't just help it. I wish I can stop.
I pray for God to wake me up from this very bad dream I'm having so I can make things right.
This man is making life so unbearable for me.
Is it the beating and injuring for no just cause?
Or bursting of head?
The attempted suicides?
What have you to say?
The verbal abuse?
I sometimes feel like dumping them and running away but I thought of myself who never got to know my mom and what I'm passing through.
Though I feel if I should have money to run away with them, the feeling will change. I might start treating them right. and they are all below 10yrs old.
I see myself and them in the future happy together without their dad but how do I start to achieve that when the man wldnt even allow me progress?
I want to give my kids the best in life. Those things I cldnt get as a child and even now an adult, but the devil has a way of stealing people's joy.
So many things caused the lovelessness towards this innocent kids.
I know if I didn't have them my life wouldn't have been so much in disarray.
May God punish premature death and poverty.

Anonymous said...

Let me go anonymous, my friend’s kids abroad are something else, the most disrespectful nd rude kids u can ever come across, we started living together some months back nd boy!!!! None of u guys can stand them, shevhas hbp because of them. These are children with African parents nd yet this disrespectful, they tell adult shit up or stupid, 6-8 yrs old o, their teachers in school are frustrated, I can’t deal men, their matter plenty nd my friend is a single mom, no man can date her with the way these kids winds everyone up

clement mojisola said...

I will NEVER regret being a Mum in Jesus name. I do not take that privilege for granted. The Grace to make the right decisions for my daughter fall on me and love her unconditionally and endlessly

Priceless Jewel said...

Say what?!


... Jesus is my worth!

Anonymous said...

And I sometimes wish to adopt them out to people deserving of them and run far away from their dad.
But I don't even know if something like that exists in Nigeria and if there is, how to go about it.
They are too cute to stay in this toxic environment. They deserve better.
I wish I wish I wish.. I only wish........
Life isn't just fair!

Mhiz A... said...

U said the truth. Some children has made their parents regret the day he/she was conceived.

There's this boy in my street, the mother literally wishes he would just go out and not return. He beats up the parents, steals their money, squanders his skl fees, he's a cultist and has been rusticated, police comes to my streets always to arrest him for one crime or the other.

In this situation, I think that woman really hates her son.

Madam Estateowner said...

The end time mother's. It happens when some are not prepared for motherhood. A child you carried in the womb and nurtured. God forbid. Unbelievable

Yvonne said...

what???? how can a woman hate her own child she carried in her womb for 9months... i'm in shock! i have never heard this before.

My children are the best thing that has happened to me, my love for them can never be quantified

Anonymous said...

Dear God I thank you for the child growing in me, I haven't met him yet but I love him with all my heart I can already imagine how our lives will be when we finally meet. I can never hate this child because hating him is like hating myself. Yes he is still inside but he has become my gist partner. How can I hate him after having him. Abeg it's impossible. Some of the people that wrote what's up there need help.

Iphie dearie said...

Not everybody wants to get married. Not everybody wants kids.
We need to stop acting shocked when people say they don't want kids.
I have a friend that says her emotional capability can only deal with two kids.. over the years people have tried to force/cajole and blackmail them into having more kids.. But the couple have decided never to have more kids.
Sometimes too mental illness is responsible for this deep hate.
These confessions are shocking but real.

my opinion said...

I don't think they hate their kids per se

They are freely expressing their anger or unhappiness they feel over what their kids do/did or what they the parents are passing through cos of having them.

Whites are more sincere with their emotions, unlike Africans that see everything as a taboo (hence they suppress their true feelings and voice what is expected of them).

Some kids are quite a handful, especially this new generation of very RUDE kids. (saw a clip on IG where a 13 year old boy and his brother of about 9 were insulting their mum in a mall. Pulled her wig. The older even slapped her back when she dragged him...)

I pray never to have any reason to hate my kids IJN, Amen.

Chidinma Grace said...

I am not a mother yet but I know that no mother will ever hate her child without a good cause. I am not saying that what they said is justified but you have to really be in some mothers shoes to actually know what they are passing through in the hands of their children. If you have a good children, thank God because many parents have worse and many have died in the hands of their children.

Blackberry said...

Shey she can't instill some high handed discipline? When a grown ass kid disrespects you, you whoop his damn ass! Make she bring dem come give my mama, one week dey will be humble.

Anonymous said...

My mum does'nt like me and she does nothing to hide it. It shows, even to the way she looks at me. Iv lived with this since i was lil, im 26 now but i stil dont understand what my crime is. Iv asked her severally. All my life iv lived to please her, do whatever makes her happy not minding if it makes me happy, been a good person; dont give her stress or worry like my siblings; but nothing i do is ever good enough. I can start to list all the things iv been through; how many days iv cried all night waking up with swolen face n having to lie to people im sick. I tried to take my life when i was 16 with some pills but it didnt work, only made me fall in deep sleep. She laughed and asked why didnt i take more of the pills or use a knife or jump from the roof, i ran away from home n she asked everyone to ignore me; when im tired il come back. Iv been poured a bucket of water on my bed cz i woke up late, something that was never done to the maid if she did same. Iv had food taken away or hidde from me. I been left to cater for myself while sick. Iv been told to my face that i deserved it when i kicked boiling water she left carelessly. The list is endless. It's the grace of God that keeps me going; i long for that day when il be free from it all. But despite all this, il never hate my kids; maybe cz iv experience firsthand what it feels like to be hated by a parent

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Raising kids with naija full blood abroad is a no no for me!...
She should send them to Nigeria before it's too late...
One of my brother's son that has the same attitude you described is currently living with me..
Guess what?He has stopped all those rubbish attitude...
I handle him same way I handle my children and he has been tamed!...

Blackberry said...

You are right, but up there, they are referring to toddlers, not grown up miscreants or Evans brought ups.

Anonymous said...

Yes I have to anons on this, I used to hate my 1st son, cos he looks exactly like his father who rape me @ 12yrs+ I had him 3days to my 13th birthday & my dad married me off to my rapist ex husband without collecting dowry till we have 3kids, but as he grow he made me proud, he is the opposite of his father, he is a born again b4 13yrs am happy I didn't abort him, Feb he's gonna be 18yrs he has grow to be a strong,honesty, homely & very brilliant son I had no choice than to love him,though I love his younger siblings more than him,but I don't show it anymore, cos I train them alone I can't hate him cos is like hating my self, & I realise is not his fault he came to this world, his father don't care so it will be too mean for me to hate him cos it can push him into alot of negative things.
Yes condition of one's birth can make one hate his or her child but remember they don't choose to be born that was the choice you made as a parent & love them.that's exactly what I did. Thanks to my mum, education & socialization helped me

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Na wah oh!...
Madam sorry!....
Can't you go somewhere and cool off?...
Seperate from this husband of yours!...
Leave the kids for him instead of hitting them unnecessarily!..

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Are you for real?..

Shirley said...

Your friend brought them up that way,now she can't do nothing about it
When they were telling adults shut up at age three she saw it as smart kids,now water don pass garri

Beautiful Sapphire said...

As in eeeeh, I realllllllly tried to understand where the hatred is coming from, and believe me, I failed woefully.
How on earth, can I hate, as in HATE my joy.
Some people are pure ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
I ๐Ÿ˜ my children, even when they are up to some mischief, I scold them but believe me that's where it ends.
Was really #speechless when I read this last night, very disheartening and disturbing confession.
God forbid ๐Ÿ‘ฟ

Beautiful Sapphire said...

Gbam, God forbid!
Tufiakwa.

Chyluv! said...

This is sad, but not so uncommon either, not every woman is born maternal, some people are not born to be caring of others except themselves, and it more or less stems from borderline personality disorder. It can be so bad that they commit infanticide, or kill their kids, or run away from the kids and take up a new name and identity. I have seen a couple of situations like this. Jeaniemai of the real show says it so often that she doesn't want kids and that's just the way she's wired, all they do is find companions who share same views. Children don't ask to be born so if one isn't sure of their capabilities as a parent its better to not even bother. Thank God I love my child unconditionally even while having baby blues in the first few weeks after my delivery. There really is no excuse to hate a child you brought into the world no matter the circircumstances รฒbirth, marriage situation or how badly behaved they are.

Shirley said...

Please keep loving him and forget the past,that boy might just be the that will hold you up high.

virus detected said...

So you mean after all the maltreatment and suffering she still died?! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ˜ณ
This life sef!

Beautiful Sapphire said...

OooooooooGod!
Are you serious?
This heartbreaking.
I'm so sad now, and she died.
Eeeeh, poor child Onyi, I know you are in a better place now, rest in peace.

Push up said...

These women should check their mental state, I think they are depressed. I can't even use hate and my kids in the same sentence, I sometimes wonder how it would have been if I dint have them but I let the thought go cus I can't even imagine it

Push up said...

She died, after all the school fees she paid, was the mother raped? Cus I don't get this, well God knows best

Push up said...

SHe no lock them for one room beat shege commot for their body. Use something to tie their mouths and beat them well. I don't joke with spanking o, my kids know I love them but if I shout and slap you, you will know I am your mother. Just 6 and 8 years. She should bring them to Nigeria for just one week and deal with them mercilessly

pure inspirations said...

Children can be quite a hand-full, I agree. But hate is a rather strong word to use in describing how one feels towards her children.

I feel the hate is borne out of the fact that they blame their children for d woes in their lives rather than take responsibility for their past actions and decisions.

And u wonder why abominations abound. It's bc the love of many have grown cold. If parents can hate their children, what happens to an outsider?

Sad.


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Uriel (Freshdew) said...

What a sad story, hmmmmmmm.

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

Your Mum no try ๐Ÿ‘Ž. Am glad you didn't transfer such hate to your kids.
Best wishes.

DavinaRose said...

She kept asking all her relatives, father, elders why her mother hated her. No one could give her an answer. I wept the day she opened up to me. Cos I wanted to know why she stopped believing in God and blaming him for taking away the only person who cared for her(her other mum).
My heart failed me when I saw her body lying still on national TV as one of the victims of a robbery incident. How can someone suffer so much and die in the most painful way.

Anonymous said...

This is real sad. Just chin up and try to move out from such toxic environment. Get busy forget her. This only makes you stronger

Anonymous said...

Exactly. It's not like they really hate their kids. To me, these are ramblings of an overtired parent. In Nigeria, we usually have help. These white folks fo it all themselves. I've had days when I asked myself "who sent me o?" And I was really tired at this point and without help.

Anonymous said...

But the word hate is extreme, we all get tired and overwhelmed from time to time but not hate.

Anonymous said...

Chei, poor child. ๐Ÿ™

MISS TRUTH said...

Hey ๐Ÿ™‹ Iphie. I see nothing wrong with people saying they don't want to get married, marriage is not for everyone, if you don't want to have kids by all means don't. I am all for people doing what makes them happy. I just feel once you bring kids to the world, you take responsibility and love them unconditionally because they didn't ask to be born.

MISS TRUTH said...

Hate is a very strong word.

Anonymous said...

They are venting. Some actually do though. They need therapy. A lot of parents cope with stress and are not equipped with parenting skills. Some project the bad behaviour of themselves, their spouses or exes or other people unto their children. Some spoiled their children and are reaping the consequences. Some became accidental parents, they never really wanted to be parents. Some are subconsciously repeating the negative cycle of their own upbringing.

Anonymous said...

Honestly, I am shocked by the amount of ppl who are acting shocked by these revelations. Everyday in the news a parent kills a child, mains their child, rape their child. Since 2015 coming forward I have noticed a marked increase in the amount of parents who are killing their children. The hate would have to go before the murder, so I am not shocked that their are those parents who despise their child/ren. having a child is like a lottery, you may get the most amazing child or you may end up with one you never dreamed of.

My grandmother had ten children and after I see the way she is treated now in her old age when she cannot be of any use to anyone, all a parent need is one good child because going through the hell of pregnancy and giving birth is not a guarantee that the child or children you get will be worth all you will have to give up. In my grandmother's case, I would say seven of her children could have been forgotten about and bypassed all together. I understand why humans have children, and I understand the bliss that having children in the home can bring, but like anything else you have to go in with maturity, and understand that the child is not obligated to love you or may not look back much in your direction when they are older. Do it with no expectation of anything in return, and figure out your own old age and put things in place when you are young and healthy, do not depend on any child or children to be their for in your old age. Pray for good health all your years so you can live independently until the end.

Anonymous said...

Whisper ... I have this Whisper app on my phone lots of crazy confessions on there ...

Iphie dearie said...

MISS TRUTHIEEEEEE๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

Anonymous said...

Well said anon, parents should definitely put things in place for their own future wellbeing.

Anonymous said...

@ miss truth oyimbo parents suffer oh. No house help the children don’t like to do chores no sweeping no helping mumsi or popsi, no go and bring this for me etc they talk back to their parents some of them thier parents even clean their rooms when they are teenagers and do thier laundry. All this on top the do it yourself lifestyle no househelp or driver everything by yourself, from fuelling car to checking out grocery by yourself. Imagine now having 4 kids it will be like a life of servitude. Serving children who are going to put you in a nursing home when you are old. That’s why many have said thier children are ungrateful Lol

it’s not all of them sha ohhh! but all I’ve said is very common abroad. We say our parents bully us and shout on us but the burden is shared I guess evryone chips in to make the home.

charitybino said...

Eeyah

Bia Linda said...

As a person TTC, it really breaks my heart to read all these...Lord God, I have not experienced the joy of having my own child yet, after 3 years of being married but I pray that when you finally give me my own child(ren), please give me the grace to ALWAYS love them unconditionally, in Jesus name I pray, AMEN! I am sOooo broken right now! tears are really running down my eyes....

Anonymous said...

I went for a social services workshop some years ago about adoption, and i learnt one thing powerful & very important that i don't know before: toxic relationship leading to pregnancy, hate or serious dysfunctional family environment can be passed on from mother to child after birth & no matter what can never make the mother happy with that child.
Many women r much happy or better off in the long run to give away their biological child/ren for adoption rather than to keep them & daily be tortured by their past or reminder of the bad life / toxic relation & hate that brought those children into this world!

Anonymous said...

The truth is that some women only became mothers because they had unprotected sex and got pregnant. Some others are mothers because society expects them to get married and have children. Some are just mothers because all their friends have children and they do not want to be left out or made to feel abnormal because they don't have children. For you to be a mother,the most important thing is the ability to love that child unconditionally. If you know you don't have that kind of love in you to give,please don't bother to become s mother because that child will end up being a burden to you and before long you will be having feeling like those expressed above.

Anonymous said...

The truth is that some women only became mothers because they had unprotected sex and got pregnant. Some others are mothers because society expects them to get married and have children. Some are just mothers because all their friends have children and they do not want to be left out or made to feel abnormal because they don't have children. For you to be a mother,the most important thing is the ability to love that child unconditionally. If you know you don't have that kind of love in you to give,please don't bother to become s mother because that child will end up being a burden to you and before long you will be having feeling like those expressed above.

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