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Monday, May 21, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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LOW SELF ESTEEM OVER TRIBAL MARKS


Good day ma. I pray this mail meets you well. I just want to talk to you about the pains my heart Carry's around. I grew up knowing myself with this tribal marks on my face. Its drawn on both cheeks of mine.



 While in primary school i get mocked at. They call me names, ugly, "11-11" cause its two lines on both cheek. i get called "mai kbele" translating to "one with tribal marks" by the Hausa's cause i grew up in the north. It has always had this negative effect on me, it brings my self esteem so low... I cry about it.
Now the main issue am having is with my relationships. I meet real nice guys and all, but somehow they don't show interest.


 I recently started dating a guy, he is nice and loving. Once in a while he chips in my mark issue though not being particular about it but still yet he talks about it. One time he said bae how does your marks make u feel, i was still searching for words when he quickly said. Don't worry you hear, Let money come i will take you abroad and wipe it off. I was just mute. It clearly means it gets to him too. 


With google and all, have been seeking for ways to wipe it of naturally but its not fruitful. In my wider search i keep seeing laser removal process it cost a fortune.


Most places i go to for the first time, i get this look of( where is she from sef) some ask and some just give me a staunch stare. I went for a training recently. Mostly my age peers where present 24-26 of age. I was the only one with marks on the face.


 The facilitators never fail to ask this one question. ''Blessing, this your mark, where are you from?'' Even those that haven't noticed would notice. 


I Am sorry i am bordering you with this but i just need someone to open up to without getting judged. I constantly have this fear of " would i finally get someone who loves me for me. What if he does ,would the family see me beyond my tribal marks? These are just few i could mention, am facing a lot.


 Stella. I do dress well and i can say am presentable just this marks. Am 24 from kogi state recently passed out of NYSC. Have only been in two relationships. The former ended, he got married and i didn't know jack about it.


 I told you about it of which you advised me on what to do. Thanks for that. I honestly don't know what to do about this tribal marks no more...... 

Less i forget, you need to see the way Nigerians now act towards tribal marks these days, as if it has always been alien to them. Its not fair at all.




*My Dear stop letting tribal marks define who you are....TRIBAL MARKS IS NOT A DISABILITY!!!!

I dont know the type of tribal marks you have but my dear,dont let it get you down,if you lack self confidence,thats all people will see.please carry yourself with pride and thats all people will see as well..

Turn the Negative into positive...Maybe your relationships didnt end cos of the marks,maybe its something else,so instead of trying to better yourself,you are now focused on the marks.

Challenge yourself,build your self confidence and trust me things around you will change.

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  1. My dear no cause for alarm at all. I have seen so many people with tribal marks married. Build your self esteem and keep your head up.

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    1. For real!? And I'm very proud of my own tribal mark. The only challenge I had about my tribal mark was that I hardly commit any offence in secondary without being noticed or spotted later on...my tribal marks gave me out on several occasions as a stubborn student that I was..lol.

      I love my face with the marks..gives me a unique stylish look.

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    2. My dear forget ooh, tribal or no tribal mark ,a guy that loves you will defiantly stick to you. My aunty that has very big bogus tubal married a very rich successful guy that adores her like kilode... All you need to do is to work on your self esteem. Repackage and rebrand yourself, also renew your mindset and watch guys begging for you to date them. Never let anyone pull u down.. Discard anyone that oozes negativity around.

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    3. Winnie is that you? It's me chu in his NYSC days back then. If it's you plz reply. Just to let you know Those marks was why I dated you. Have told everyone I knew about you and your sexy mark. I lost my phone and sim. So I could not reach you. I'm sorry.

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  2. My advice for you is to get books on how to develop self esteem. It's something you didn't create yourself and you don't have power to erase it as well. Try and grow thick skin to overcome the bullies. Mind you, I have some ladies with tribal marks and they don't feel less of themselves, I'm really surprised how you're taking it this far




    *Larry was here*

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    1. The thing tire me o. I didn't know that tribal marks were now a disability o. So people wen come no get legs nkor wetin dem go do? My dear u have a tribal mark.... Own that shit man. You are taking it too far. Funny enough I have a fight mark on my face from being a teenager... I don't even pay it any mark but in saying that my mum (ibo) has two tribal marks on her face. I think they went to a hospital, they scraped it as in created a new wound and sewed it back together.. Its not completely gone but it made a remarkable difference to her face. Ask doctors in naija... That's where she had it done. And I am sure it wasn't that expensive. Goddluck dear.

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    2. I may not have close friends with tribal marks but I had ex school mates with this same 11 tribal marks and they had men in their lives, I have seen brides online so obviously someone is getting married to them, I think it’s not only about your tribal mark it’s about your personality.
      If you have an awesome personality people will always want to relate with you, I have this friend that used to be very fat but men loved her cus she has a fun personality plus intelligent and confident, you will want to always be around her.
      Beautiful girls have also lost men, who would love you would love you even with a no legs, hell! Blind women get married, just have a nice and confident personality

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    3. Plz when people advise they should put one thing in mind the writer is emotional about it. Just like the lady and her unwanted kid a lot of people abused her. But 90% of those insulting her would even do worst. Those that say a son is a son for ever and a husband may leave, should also know that her son will not live with her for long. What will she do when the boy get married a leaves? It's same people insulting that will say my husband mom is too attached to him and she won't allow me enjoy my marriage.its easy to say pick your son when ur not in her shoes. People Consider emotions when advising. Thanks

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  3. Wiping off the marks means you succumb to societal pressure, your own man will locate you even with the marks.

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    1. Is it all about man? Abeg.

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    2. Recently I asked Stella to do a write up on tribal marks and one beevee said some thing very rude things to me. Poster I'm lucky to be among those that have 11 on their faces. I never liked it and funny enough I never got mocked. Even when I left home, the only people that sometimes asked me about it were Indians. The real whites admired it but that didn't stop me. I recently started a process of getting it off just last week. I checked on YouTube and I saw laser removal in Abuja. But you said it's costly but if you really want to get rid of it you can save towards it.
      I wouldn't let it bother me if you know you can't take it off. I'm not much of a make up person but I can conceal my marks when I want or leave it as it is. My marks never affected me when I was dating so don't see it as the reason you are not dating, it might be the timidity you show. Just work on your self esteem for now.
      If you can't afford laser treatment for now you can try acid peel. It might help.

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  4. Forget that tribal marks and make something meaningful out of your life. Trust me, they'll start running after you even with the marks there. Don't let it weigh you down. A friend of mine uses makeup to hide hers. It doesn't cover it all but it helps to hide it a bit. Pele dear

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    1. You at very right. I got 11 on my face but it never stopped me. Make up does wonders. First time I try to take it off my other half was totally against it but cos he knew I never liked it, he has accepted for me to fade it with laser treatment but then it never affected my self esteem at all.

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    2. This lacer treatment you are talking about, I hope it does not have a side effect like cancer. Na question o.
      LACER, WHAT DO I KNOW SEF

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  5. Miss Aboki, is that you? Tribal marks is not physical disability. People who are physically disabled are getting married and making it. So, what is the issue here?

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    1. I swear tribal mark should not be your problem .. Be you my dear! Don't let it define you!!! U shud thank God yours is just 11-11, for some people it is like 7 on each cheeks!

      I have 1-1 on my cheeks, and I flaunt it happily! Nobody dare tell me shit.. Coz I flourish with positivity all the time! You will be fine.

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  6. Tribal mark can affect someone. I hate it.

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  7. BETTER THUNDER WEY CARRY LIGHTENING WILL FIRE ALL PARENTS THAT ARE CUTTING UP THEIR CHILDREN’S FACES. That thing gives them serious inferiority complex and confines them to a level in life, like pepper seller in the market, meat seller, vulcaniser, roadside mechanic etc. It is such an archaic tradition. Poster just go and have it removed. You will feel better because people will keep on asking you stupid question about it.

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  8. My dear, you need to put your mind and strength on other issues. Personally, I have a bone deformity that almost killed my self esteem for years... But hey, the day I discovered myself, even when I tell doctors I have this deformity, they would have to double check to confirm cos of packaging. You would be carried away with my charisma and warmth and that firstly would open doors. If a man doesn't want you cos of tribal marks, abeg let him go. Develop yourself girl. NYSC is like pure water now. Improve yourself. Be hotcake intellectually, spiritually and financially and watch yourself choose men. Ps. I am married

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  9. brace yourself up and be happy...

    stella this Ankara cannot pass me by ooo.

    A whole CHAIRLADY of SDK blog

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    1. BB, no be small pikin something oh, you have no idea what stigmatization does to the human soul, you havnt walked one junction in her shoes.
      Whether we like it or not, society places so much emphasis on looks, im not excluding myself, subconsciously i judge a book by the cover and move on, but if it requires payment mode then i take a sneak peek. Tribal mark hasnt been the best thing to humanity, unlike sliced bread.. but primarily for the identification of your tribe, wtf! talk about bullseye in a war zone! Last week i talked about forming Haiti or South africa when outside this country, cus i refused to be roped into the degrading image we've singlehandedly reconstructed for ourselves, its almost a plague, this poster already has visible limits & impossible hoops to jump through! not just her lovers opinion.

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  11. I’m sure you’re the only one who thinks your tribal marks is an issue. Yes, gone are the days when parents did that to their kids only few still do it in remote villages so it’s understandable that people would frown when they see a young lady with tribal marks. Forget the nasty looks and stares, Nigerians naturally always have something good or bad to say about every and anything even when it doesn’t concern them. It’s okay to feel somehow about the looks, same way some people stare so hard at albinos like they are aliens but these days the albinos I see own it and are gorgeous.

    Take it that your marks are your unique identity, people are battling worse scars and all sorts but they don’t let that deter them. What you should worry about now Is loving yourself, flaws and all. People would see how confident you are in your skin and appreciate you rather than question you else they would walk over you once they know you are timid. Own it Darling, you’re beautiful and you wouldn’t know that if you don’t begin to appreciate yourself. You can also, use make up to cover it up once in a while but that’s a temporal measure. Beauty is not in the face but the heart.

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    1. Gorgeous albino? really? where you see that one?
      I unserstand youre trying to make this poster feel good about herself, but give her the raw truth! "Youre beautiful" did she send her picture?
      Beauty is not in the face?.. but you doppel apply makeup abi, tell us why!! if not to look beautiful and attractive.

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  12. Good Make up can do the work whenever you is going out but for how long will you be doing that.Las las you ve to learn to get comfortable with everything about you.
    I always use jokes and laughter to introduce whatever flaws I ve that might get people talking negatively. Before you attack me I don attack myself. So my dear be happy it's nothing extremely bad, if you ve a beautiful personality love will find you, nd ur marks won't be any hinderance.

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  13. Awwww...sorry babe..temporary solution could be concealers.. you may have to invest in foundation, concealers & other makeup products that can atleast lessen the intensity of the marks.

    Hope they aren't too big or wide??
    Pele

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  14. Tribe mark is your problem haba come on,build your self Esteem and look up jesus Your man will find you jaweee...

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  15. please stop all this self pity and tag it sexy tribal marks, do ur fine makeup and carry yourself like a queen.. it is done, don't let what u can't change define u or give u sleepless nights 😘😘

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    1. As in!! Hit the gym, have hot body and open an IG page: tribal_marks_beauty. be slaying and uploading. See followers nau! small time you get endorsements. MUAs will loooove your face for demos. More money in the bank = laser treatment. Case closed!

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    2. Chikito, e sweet for mouth oh

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    3. Wait oh, so anyone that hits the gym acquires a hot body? Just asking sha....

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    4. Anon 20:06 yes but its possible. If something bothers you so much, find a way to make it work in your favour.

      @20:07 apparently....

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  16. From your write-up, you seem a nice person. If that's the case then don't worry, better man will locate you that sees beyond such trivialites. It's not easy to be stigmatized but be brave and love yourself. Nobody is perfect ooo.
    Eyaaa, I wish you good luck sha...... #someparentsthough

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  17. The truth is that tribal mark makes one to have low self esteem. There is one woman in my home town that my parent told me that OSORO HAUSA during the war( if you know you know). Now all her children have tribal mark. This is a big dent to them. They always isolate themselves sha

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  18. Tribal mark is now an issue okwaya??? My partner has one on his face and it's veryyyyyyy visible! He is so proud of it. It used to bother me before but he just shuts down the conversation with "I am not going to change anything on my face, I like it like that" I had no choice but to step in line! Now I like it sef lol. Please leave anybody that would make you feel some type of way about your identity

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    1. You contradict yourself. First you say it's nit an issue then you say it bothered you.

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  19. Poster, why didn't you share some pics with us. would have loved to see those tribal marks of yours that is giving you sleepless night. Nevertheless, don't let it get to too much cos there is nothing u can do about it. that shows that you are an African woman baby. I know how you feel tho cos i have a friend with tribal marks too. Tho hers was a mistake cos according to her parents, the old man that gave her the tribal marks was drunk that very day and he made it so deep and obvious cos he was drunk. Her parents didn't even notice until after the whole saga. Because they actually told the man not to make it very obvious. and the man was the one that did her brother's own which was just a small mark on his cheek. But she is not that ugly sha, tho she doesn't like it and she is still angry at d man even tho he is late now. there is nothing she can do except to cover it with makeup sometimes. i will advise you to work hard so you can save up enough money for surgery if you really want it out. People must talk, but na their mouth. I for really vex for my parents sha if to say them give tribal

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  20. Stop using tribal marks as an excuse to having low self esteem. Your own man will come when d time comes. Shebi it is said that beauty is in d eyes of the beholder. Sometimes these men see beyond beauty and tribal marks. do you have good character? are you intelligent? are you a wife material? you should ask yourself these questions and leave your tribal marks alone. I have seen very rich and handsome guys getting married to very ugly women. Men know what they want in a relationship not just beauty alone.

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  21. First And foremost stop thinking about the marks. It's not your doing.Ask your parents the reason for it and proudly carry it as your identity. Build your self esteem and forget about the marks. Any man worth loving will loved you with them. Pele.

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  22. I assume that most people from your town and around have this same mark
    Or at least people from your tribe. So do the men from your tribe also
    look down on anyone with tribal marks?

    When someone who loves you shows up, tribal marks will be the least of his concern.

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  23. My dear I had an accident when I was very young and lost my front teeth about 4 of them with my gum gone and the doctor said they won't grow again; this affected my speech and self esteem until I started using denture but I was also scared of my bf acceptance, when I told him about he said he can't be with some one without teeth that his major concern was at old age. I thought I won't find one who will love me for me cos I can't hide the fact that I use denture to my spouse but guess what I'm married to a loving husband who love to kiss me without the denture that's life..... don't worry that man who will accept you for you will come. Build yourself with love and confidence like Stella said

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  24. You are complaining of tribal marks. What about pple with disabilities? what about those who are deaf and dumb? what about those without hands and legs? Build up your self esteem and focus on being a better person. Focus on your goals and the right man will come. Good luck

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  25. Tribal what?..=Phoenix,don't allow this little thing finish you.wetin make sanyeri do now?

    My dear,don't kill yourself over that small thing nd don't bring yourself down.OK.

    My experience with a lady having a very big boob's,,,I mean very...

    My friend and I were negotiating Allen avenue some weeks ago when we saw this lady,tall,not too fat though but her boob's is 56gigerbyte ,I was just telling my friend to look up and see if he has seen something like this before,never knew the lady understood all my actions, so funny,immediately we moved closer,she said "ema para yin oo nitori olorun lo bukun mi"

    we both laughed then I realised she just said that in order to encourage herself




    Mc pinky

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  26. tribal marks that you had no control over? pls cheer up. pata pata marry from ur place, since they like tribal marks

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  27. Is tribal mark now a disability?
    You know get problem at all. Let those with issue write in.

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  28. THE POSITIVIST
    SAY STOP TO YOUR INNER CRITIC
    USE HEALTHIER MOTIVATION HABITS
    TAKE A 2 MINUTES SELF-APPRECIATION BREAK
    WRITE DOWN 3 THINGS IN THE EVENING THAT U CAN APPRECIATE ABOUT YOURSELF
    DO THE RIGHT THING
    REPLACE THE PERFECTIONISM
    HANDLE MISTAKES AND FAILURES (MOCK) IN A MORE POSITIVE WAY
    BE KINDER TOWARDS OTHER PEOPLE-U REAP WHAT U SOW
    TRY SOMETHING NEW
    STOP FALLING INTO THE COMPARISON TRAP- U WILL ALWAYS SEE PEOPLE BETTER THAN U AND THOSE U ARE BETTER THAN
    SPEND MORE TIME WITH SUPPORTIVE PEOPLE (AND LESS TIME WITH DESTRUCTIVE PEOPLE)
    REMEMBER WHY U NEED TO VALUE YOURSELF- IF U DON'T VALUE YOURSELF, WHO WILL?

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  29. Poster, how much to remove it?

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  30. @ poster,the first lady i ever and truly loved had and she still has tribal marks and i didn't see the tribal mark as a barrier!In fact i loved her for who she was.She was a good cook and she had a good dress sense.Love yourself for who you are.

    Shola...

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  31. Forget about the marks, Nigerians will make you have a very low self esteem if you allow them and I don't understand why.

    I left Nigeria a year+ ago and here nobody has ever for once called me big head or say my head is big, that at a point I was asking some friends here if my head is big or not. They were even wondering what I mean when I say my head is big. Like they feel is normal and nothing awkward.

    But eeh when I was in Nigeria, choiiii. Everywhere you will be hearing big head, big head, big head, bus conductors oo, traders oo, on the road, in the streets, in school both students and teachers. Even most people don't know my name, they just call me big head. It is just a Nigerian thing, get used to it and don't allow them get to you. It is nothing dear.

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    1. Nigerians can make one commit suicide if you let them.

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    2. Hahahahahaha. Your comment made me laugh jare.Don't mind Nigerians.

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    3. Nigerians??!! Aaaaah.... they usually just open their mouth and say rubbish.

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    4. Hahahahahaha hahahaha OMG... @ Big head Big head lol....
      But maybe the head is abit big sha, they cant all be lying na, although its bad to ridicule someone

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  32. Poster,your character is actually all that matters. I am not saying physical features don't mean a thing but this is a situation whereby you cannot undo your parents action. All you can do is make yourself look good always and always be on your best behavior. With time, you will notice that people will even want to date you with those marks. Why? They already look past those marks and they are seeing beautiful qualities making up for it. There is this lady in my church,she has 1-1 marks but the way she does her make up will leave you deciding that tribal marks is not bad after all. So my dear,you are not an handicap,build your self esteem and feel good about yourself. All the best.

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  33. A guy with tribal marks would excel and get married in 2 seconds flat...why? Because he knows that one way or the other he will find someone to accept him. You seem to be doing ok with life. So stop harping on man and whether one will love you with your marks. You do not have a disability...you have chronic low self esteem. Instead of seeking a solution to the marks on your face, find ways to embrace them and use them to your advantage. Women get dumped for every and anything. If its not tribal mark, its stretch marks, its fat. If you had an accident that took a limb, what would you do then? Even prosthetic will not solve the issue. Love you and watch people love you for you!

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  34. You don't have problem @ Poster.
    Tribal marks is not disability,so cheer up.

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  35. It is a disability. Go for surgery if you don't feel comfortable about it. Don't let anybody deceive. I have and as soon as I have enough cash, I will do the needful. I am a man oh, very confident one at that with a lot of pretty and classy babes but truth be told I am still disturbed. I am quite classy so I get pretty girls a lot but mehnnnn the thing still dey worry me once once. Save and do the needful. And you will be happier

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    1. All she needs is laser and acid peel. She will be ok last last.

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  36. poster, all these guys you're meeting are not your husband, your reall hubby will be attracted to ur tribal mark also, my neighbour is an igala woman with a tribal mark , her hubby is rich and proud of her, she gas never for once see herself as a less beautiful woman, in fact with her carriage you will wish for a tribal mark, it makes her unique and beautiful, work on your self esteem see yourself as a beautiful woman, carry yourself as a princess, be proud of your mark,and you will see people will start treating you as a princess
    bv treasures

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  37. Poster, just put some swag to that your tribal mark please. It's nothing compared to a school mate (uni)that had a short arm. I could remember we don't like associating with her and she no send us, always smiling oooo with her fine face and flat harsh. Before our graduation God blessed her with a good caring husband. Just relax your man will come. Don't worry , be happy!

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  38. Any guy that do not love you because of your tribal mark is not your mark. Do not reduce yourself to please anyone cos it doesn't pay. It will wear you out and erase the plans you have for yourself. Be you. Your lover will come.

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  39. Madam build ur self esteem and forget abt wat marks u have on ur face. If u ooze class and confidence, thats the first thing people notice abt u before ur marks. I recently went for a round table conference, and there is this nothern woman that came in, she works wth Mac Arthur foundation, wen she stood up to speak, Mehn!!! Did she blow me away with her eloquence and confidence, i was jst admiring her and in my mind just wondering what her bank account would look like, i was even saying in my mind i’m sure this lady is paid in pounds. Guess what she brought the mic for me to tlk, do u kno that was when i even noticed she had tribal marks on her face, jst like the ones u described only that she has jst single line on each cheek. So blind ppl with ur success to the point that wen they see u, thats all they see, all other things abt u wud be secondary for every1 wants to associate wth successful people. Gudluck!

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  40. Sweetheart start seeing yourself as a god.
    Design your own part, be able to create your own happiness and sadness.
    The moment you do this , nothing anybody feels about you matters.
    That being said, flaunt your tribal marks like it's trending. Before anybody gets to make a remark about it let the person know you love your marks.

    See eh..I don't know if there's anything anybody can say to get to me. Reason is I create my own happiness and sadness. I create my light and darkness. If I'm not comfortable with a thing I discard it asap.

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  41. Poster, please stop allowing people's opinions define who you are. It's not only facial and physical beauty that counts. The most important is your inward beauty.
    If anyone looks at you or comment about your look ignore them. That mark makes you unique and beautiful my dear. Your priority should be how to be successful and damn them.

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  42. Lol. When people like Toke turn orphan and divorce stories into money making ventures, all of us go line up abuse am. Same way people have to go anonymous to say deep stuff on here, because they dont want to be mocked for it. My dear, the society will always mock you and force you into shame if you don't own your scars and wear it like a crown. Society will mock you being poor, being single, being divorced, being a single mother, being short, being ‘TTC’..…. Being YOU! It takes a lot of self love and willpower to zone out, and you MUST learn. The bullies that talked you down when you were younger, where them dey? Some are even 6ft under and you are here letting their expired words get to you.

    1. The best way to overcome a personal issue is to talk about it. Be naked about it, be confident about your scars. The tribal marks are ON YOUR FACE. People WILL notice, your boyfriend IS allowed to mention it out of concern because he is human and has the brain to imagine how scar-free your face would be without them. It is how you respond to all this, that matters. This is 2018, it is uncommon to see a person your age with tribal marks. Accept that. When you do, you won't be bothered about their stares.
    2. And if they are stupidly bold enough to ask you about your tribal marks, you confidently tell them a story. (Have you even asked about the story? If you have not better do). Tell them you are working on getting it removed and then change topic. Control the conversation so they don't ask you any stupid questions cos a typical Nigerian doesn't understand privacy and boundaries.
    3. Attitude and perception matters, my dear. Someone else with this issue might have opened a 'Go Fund Me' account and told a lengthy pitiful story to the world, added pictures and claimed he/she can't get their dream jobs because of 'discrimination'. And people would have donated money to cover their laser treatment by now. Da heck! Someone might have offered you pro-bono treatment. Or maybe another person would have even started a charity against tribal marking on children. But you're too ashamed of it that you’re not even seeing that there might be some purpose to it. Nne, you can even be famous!
    4. And yes, with or without your boyfriend saying so, you can work harder (give it time) and save for laser treatment - just so you can boost your self-confidence. It not 'that' expensive and you don't have to leave Nigeria to get it done.
    5. Henceforth, the next time anyone stares at you stare back at them till they feel stupid for doing that. If they look scared, smile at them till they turn away - eyeball to eyeball. When you go out to places like trainings, as you introduce yourself, smile and say: “My name is 'Jane', as you can see I have tribal marks and it would be nice if you don't stare at me or ask about them because it makes me very uncomfortable. thank uuuuu”. When you build your own wall, no one else will be able to tear it down.

    P.S: there is this makeup cover thingy, like foundation, that people now use to cover deep surgical scars and stretch marks, etc. People sell on instagram, think it’s about 5k or so. You might want to try it as a temporary fix. There are makeup pictures that go viral with MUAs converting deep tribal marks to smooth skin on clients' faces. Learn the tricks and apply.

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  43. Poster, build on your self esteem. Having tribal marks isn't a disability. For those of you saying that it is a disability, please go check up that word in a dictionary! The man that will love you shall surely find you.
    I had an accident some years back that gave me a terrible scar on my leg. I love micro mini skirts and I used to flaunt my legs but I couldn't do so due to the scar and I wasn't comfortable to show my legs to my boyfriend. The day I showed him the scar, he said that he cant date someone with a scar on the leg. We broke up and it was very hurtful but I didn't allow that break me. So, I met this guy and we started dating. I showed him the scar, he just laughed and said:"God created you without the scar but unfortunately, you had an accident that resulted in the scar. My dear, it's not your fault. I love you with the scar" Today, we are married and I still wear my hot mini skirts. I don't feel bad about it.

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  44. Look at me reading the comments and laughing at poster. You have tribal mark , YES but its not a disability. I was once like you till i finished primary school; i heard my so called best friend yabbing me with her family over my tribal mark and ever since i stopped feeling sorry for myself. From then till date my self esteem is way above the sky. Nobody and i mean nobody says anything negative about my mark cos i always have much more to offer. I have built my career in customer service, counter rep , sales attendant and now a customer service manager in a reputable company with no issues. I am married with kids to a very handsome man and no issue. Nobody has ever refered to my mark aside telling me how beautiful it is. Do i remind you that my own no be just 1 1, i have (4)marks on my face that 1 1 up and 1 1 down plus a mark i got from injury. My dear work on yourself and build yourself , move with people who sees you for who you are. people will come around. Pele

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