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Thursday, June 14, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Sometimes it is better to plead the 5th.......







STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WEDDING MONEY



hi Stella warm greetings to you. i love this blog so much especially the SDK chronicles. There's something really bothering my mind and I thought I share it here with my fellow bvs.


i wedded two years ago and something happened after the wedding which really got me thinking up till date. my two cousins from maternal side were part of the bridal train because i was really fond of them. The most senior was my chief and the younger one was among the Aso Ebis. so it happened that my mother called me a night before the wedding and told me that we (me and my husband) should not touch the money we would receive that we should hand it over to someone to avoid any time of African magic(lol). 


let me also say that i agreed too due to the fact that we have heard negative stories of such. she said that let the person that will handle it count the money and go put in the bank for us. when i told my husband he did not support it at all but just to me happy he ignored it and allowed me to handle it myself.


So after the wedding i told my cousin what mum said and asked her to help me keep the money well and she agreed. let also state that where i worship does not allow spraying of money hence anything money was collected in an envelop.


So when we got back to where we lodged, my cousins who were with me started counting the money when i left the room. i wondered why they did not ask for my permission before they started counting but i kept calm and watched carefully as they were counting, so after counting they told me the amount. and the most senior volunteered to take the money to the bank, i became uncomfortable with the way they were being forward towards it and i told her my hubby said i should bring it as i am going to were we would lodge over the night.


Long story cut short, he later counted the money himself and told me the amount i told him the amount they counted is less by 13k. i became angry because i was thinking what my mind is telling me has happened. i called them on phone to confirm the amount and told them that part of the money is missing, and i angrily threatened that i would tell everybody about it if its true that they took part of that money. 


it resulted in a quarrel because i didn't even mean what i said it was just an empty threat but before i came home that same day everybody was now calling me and was asking me about it. i became more angry why they now spread it and i was saying i ought to be the one that is angry not them so if they call me i would talk so angrily. my younger cousin also accused my husband and insulted him even when he didn't put mouth in our quarrel. this is my two years in marriage, i know the journey just began but for these few years we have spent together i still have 100% reasons to believe he never did such, i have never had issues with him with money. but they denied so beautifully that i became confused even blaming myself on why i even called them to ask. 


From then up till now, i have not communicated with them. although i briefed it , i said the whole truth i know about it, however i feel like I'm the one that spoilt the relationship, i put to bed they did not call, text , or like pictures in social media. OK oi

Please i just need to know from you and other bvs if I'm actually the one that was wrong?



*13k caused this two year fight?OMG OMG OMG!!!
I think you reacted too fast....Did it ever occur to you that they might have made a mistake with counting?
Even if they actually took the money ,you were expecting them to agree?You never ''Chi chontin'....
Wait...After your husband counted..Did you recount it to cross check if he made a mistake?
For the sake of peace,just reach out to make and settle this since you started it by accusing them of taking the money....The relationship might not be the same again but at least your mind will be free from the guilt that it was your fault.

91 comments:

  1. Couzins...they've collected their share.

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    1. Nna mehn, some folks love money too much and like the scripture said,
      they never have it enough!
      So the cousinship of your two cousin costs 13k?
      Women should think wholesomely!

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    2. you should not have said anything,sometimes it is better to let go.

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    3. Even if poster should have led it slide.
      Just 13k and she has spoilt a life long relationship. Even if they settle the rltshp will never be the same.
      You need to have serious proof before labelling someone a thief. It is a very serious accusation.

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    4. How old are you again madam married woman? Is this how you handle issues in your marriage???

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    5. What stupid chronicles is this? So you are bothered about who likes your pictures abi, mtcheeew

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    6. Never accuse anyone without proof. U should have just let it pass cos u had no proof. See how this has spoilt everything. It would have been the same if it was1k or 100k. U had no proof!! Sorry.

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    7. 13k is too small for you to have reacted the way u did pls. They are your cousins. My younger sis took over 50k from our trad money buh hubby told me to overlook it. Funny enough she has spent more than that buying gifts for her nephew. Don't always be in a hurry to make accusations or else you have full proof to back it up but even then. Follow peace.
      Call them and make peace. Apologies if you have to

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    8. You guys are already blaming the cousins, what I hate most in this life is to be called a thief cus I don’t steal so just imagine if they dint actually steal, do you know how they feel, imagine someone you slaved for the whole day to call you thief, common 13k

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    9. I can't forgive a person that calls me a thief, especially when I'm trying to help that person and know I am innocent, you even called them to threaten to tell everyone? Man I for come beat you commot from your wedding gown, nonsense. Do you know how it feels to be accused of somthing you didn't do? Especially stealing? If I were you, I will let it slide as they said they didn't take it, if you had proof now, there would have been sense in the action you took.

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    10. Its possible they didn't take the money. It's possible hubby took the money. It's possible hubby/cousins made a mistake.

      There was no need for you to threaten them na. Just 13k after all they did for you?

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    11. ...reason your mum told you not to touch the money.
      I guess this is one of the repercussion. Do you know that?

      I think you are wrong. Call them to say sorry. You need your family.

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    12. Me that was sure of the person who stole my 100 dollar and did nothing to avoid years of trouble even my wedding too was stolen never asked her anything to avoid trouble.

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    13. Your mum called you to warn you not to have anything to do with the cash until it was lodged in a Bank yet your mind couldn't let go........ You dammed the instruction and even made enemies out of the situation.

      U are a descendant of Lot's wife.

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    1. Biko, why are you screaming my name. Advice and leave Patience out of it or at least say more than Patience.

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    2. Lol patience u no well.

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    3. You are a silly person, I am sorry but if I am your cousins I will not talk to you. How can you say they were being too forward, my friends counted my own money and handed it over, how will they just hand money over to you without counting it. You also told them of your mothers fears that’s why they offered to go to the bank, do you know the stress involved in picking money? You will just open mouth and say they stole 13k, even if they took it, 13k is not enough reason to make a huge fuss haba nawa to you. Send them a text and apologize

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    4. *were *wouldn't or *would not. Your first sentence. If you don't know where these fit in, sorry I corrected you.

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  3. Money causing issues since 1900. Be the bigger person. Call them.

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    1. Hmm during my sister's wedding this your own is small. I was her chief bride's maid. I was the one collecting the money and counting while my someone was rathering it from the floor. Then I had to hand over to one of my sister's friend.
      I did so reluctantly but my cousin came to help too so i was comfortable to leave. Before I left I already gathered 48k.
      Fast forward to in the night, my sister called me that they gave her 40k as all the money.
      Bear in mind that i only collected monney for about 30 minutes while they danced for over 2 hours.
      I was now like, even if nobody sprayed them after I left what of the remaning 8k I counted before I left.
      This is the same wedding where my parents got 201,000 sprayed for my mum and dad. And the bride and groom for 40k.
      Hmmm

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  4. Hahaha.My dear you over reacted.Even if they did,you should have just let go.after all,they are your cousins.make peace with them please.

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    1. my cousins always collect from us in situations like this. During my dad's burial one actually took off with a bag full of money. We didn't make a big deal out of it. My family just doesn't like trouble and we love our cousins. Now, I'm not blaming you because people handle things differently.

      During my traditional wedding, they volunteered to help me pack my money cos my brothers and his friends sure know how spay money, I told them noooooo. I told my trusted sister and my sister-in-law to help me pick my money.

      I recommend you call them and apologise them. Tell them it was stress from the whole ceremony that put you in that mood.

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  5. You shouldn't have called them,there are lots of things you over look.If you didn't trust them,you shouldn't have put them in charge of money.My advice is for you to call them and apologize.I lost all the money I was sprayed during my wedding almost 600k.I didn't call anyone and I'm alive so...

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    1. You can lie for planet earth. What exactly are you trying to achieve on a faceless blog???

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    2. Anon, u never jam wedding if u doubt her.

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    3. Lmao anon you're angry o. One of my bestie's younger bro sprayed her 250k cash on her big day. Then his friends, hubby's friends etc. She told me she got over a million naira. You never go all these Malaysian/Indonesian based guys weddings.

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    4. @castle leave that one biko! No be here we see a person collect bag of dollars on her wedding day? 600k no even reach for better wedding ring, na it person dey shout *hiss*

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  6. Lol... free money causing this kind of wahala?????? Ah!....

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  7. Poster so 13k is causing this wahala?
    ndo
    your own dey your body.
    you are even suspecting your husband. egwu di.

    you have serious trust issue. pray it away.

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    1. I weak when I reached the part of her looking at her hubby with one eye because of 13k😂

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    2. Yea, I think she was being too petty. It's just 13k and the hullabaloo was too much. Shebi na una talk say iheoma should have been enjoying her honeymoon instead of fighting event planner? Ehen! You should have been enjoying your WNB instead of fighting them. Lol. Jokes apart, that's bad energy to leave your family with, my dear. Apologize to them.

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  8. 2 years ago!
    1) You cannot recoup money spent on wedding ceremony from money sprayed to you.
    2) 'Wedding money' shouldn't be taken as a get or die affair.
    The moment people release this, all this quarrel and fight over wedding money will stop.
    I just hate hearing/reading fight over spray money.
    Let me stop here before I 'talk one thing'

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    1. You are right,in 2013,i spent about 3.5Million on my wedding and spray money 100k.....hahahahha,so i agree,you cant recoup from money sprayed

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  9. Exactly you should have let go..Just that next time you wont entrust them with anything again...

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  10. You ruined the relationship Poster. Such accusation is annoying, after helping out in your wedding and then you throw that at them. Maybe they took it, maybe not. Fix it.

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    1. How are we sure she sef didn't add her own to the bridal train gown and aso-ebi money.
      All these ppl that like gain in all corners of their wedding. They will even insist you wear same shoe,pant, accessorizes, robe. All bought by them to make gain.

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  11. Money ish! If they didn't take it and it was simply a mistake of wrong counting / calculation then be prepared for a long term malice and anger with unforgiving spirit.
    If they actually stole the money then also be prepared for the same thing so as to save face and portray an innocent outlook on the matter.
    Whatever the case, call and apologize and move on! Tell them it's simply for peace to reign nothing more or less. Now you know not to involve them in anything concerning you.
    It's quite unfortunate that they are close family members so you guys still flow in the same circle but for them to carry the aggression and insult your husband and then transfer it to an innocent child get as e be.

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  12. U just allowed little thing spoil the relationship u had with them.. What if they took it,so?it not enough to fight over abeg, reach out and apologize,let the 13k go.

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    1. What if it was ur husband sef???? Why be so quick to doubt ur cousins??? U r really childish sha

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  13. Madam you too like money sef! What’s 13k that you were so confrontational about? Your approach was very careless and it even came with threats. You no try at all.. You should have just kept quiet. That relationship would be very difficult to repair..

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  14. You sound like some one who is very money concious otherwise I don't see why you should be keeping beady eyes on money when you should b concentrating on your husband and guests. Even your hubby was counting money Lollll.
    Relationship has been destroyed. 13k is not enough to kick up fuss. There are ways of getting to the truth and retaining your dignity. Next time,if you care, try to employ tact.

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  15. Lollll even the cousins you did not trust them, which was why you were eager to raise dust when your husband told you were shortchanged.
    13k madam?
    Choose your battles wisely.

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  16. Why didn't you count the money yourself?

    So you don't want to die, but your cousins can abi?

    They did you a favor, and you turn around to accuse them of stealing?

    You are lucky, I would have insulted you and that your husband, after the rubbish you did you are now expecting them to call you and like your pictures.

    Your brain needs resetting.

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    1. Thank you so much "Reasonable Doubt", I was waiting for someone to bring up the fact that her cousins risked their lives to help count the money. What if something bad happened to them after they touched the money?!

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  17. I wish u hadn't said a word to them like u did. However call them so u all can move on and bury the hatchet. You be the bigger one and don't let this linger.
    There are persons like that for me na for front them go see thier reward. If you steal from me today thinking that you are smart and u can always have your way. Just wait for when u really need assistance and ask me I will lock up. In my mind u can go and use d one you stole from me the other day. No be u get sense pass.

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  18. Hian!! Its a good thing they're your own cousins..what if they were your Hubby's cousins??

    They would've frustrated you. These things are quite inevitable during/after wedding ceremonies.

    I have an aunt this same thing happened to. The dollars they were sprayed went missing.!! Even naira notes..not until family meetings & threats were made that was when the people who 'kept' the dollars returned the bills anonymously.

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  19. You are the same one that said African Magic, you are the one getting peppered because of 13k. In this life, you will get cheated and you have to deal with it.

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  20. @poster as long as you did not count the money yourself, you should have taken the results like that. So if they had admitted to have taken it, what kind of impression are you giving your husband about your family? Because of N13,000 you were ready to paint them as thieves without even considering that there could have been a mistake in the counting. Even going as far as threatening them on the phone. Madam, you no try atal atal. They cut you off and you accepted for the feud to linger and you are expecting them to acknowledge that you put to bed. Better go to them and make peace as this fight should not have been ignited not to talk of lasting for up to two years.

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  21. you acted too fast and not nice, you need to call them and apologise. how much is 13k? theyvsupported you morrally and physically so you should have overlooked it.just do your best by apologiing, if they like let them accept or mot, but atleast your conscience will be clear

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  22. I have experienced some thing like this when I was in school,after helping her(bride)she accused me and my friends that I begged to accompany me to the wedding of stealing her money,money that her sister in-law was in charge of(she was with the polybag at the wedding, while we pick and drop the money inside the polybag)she even said we were hiding the money inside our gowns(short gowns oo) and its on video,it's been years but I can't seem to forgive her,it's not fair you accuse people wrongly. She reached out to me several times not to apologize oo but to tell my friends that I have unforgiven spirit and now everyone is preaching to me to forgive without a proper apology.

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    1. don't you sin before God and did you always apologize for it. my dear just tell her you have forgiven her. it is not compulsory you be friends. So try and see that and make your heart free

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    2. You should forgive her.

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  23. @poster please you reacted too fast and more over it just 13k not as if the took ur millions. Please call them and apologize.

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  24. 13k is too much for it to be mistake in counting but she shouldn't have reacted that way. My dear, forget about it. It is just to show you some people can't be trusted with money

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  25. Hian! So you allowed 13k to cause problem for two years, haba! If I tell you how envelopes disappeared during my wedding reception ehn... So glaring that everything was even captured by the camera man! My younger sister was going to confront the people involved but my husband would have none of it. 13 years down the line with blessings beyond measure. The whole episode just taught us to be weary of the people involved. Some things are best ignored o jare! Poster, call your cousins and make peace. The relationship might never be the same but you'll obviously experience peace in your heart.

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  26. Things they happen ooo . So people still spend the money people spray on them during their wedding. N.a. wah oo. I did not even touch my own. Nothing was spent from it. I ask the person who help us pick the money to take. How much them wan spray that we shud even consider taking? Especially when some will spray you evil money. So you and your husband had to cause trouble over 13 k. The favour those cousins did for you, how many of your friends cud do it? Why you no carry friend join body? Some of you feel bc you are getting married you can trow insults on people. You better call and apologise for your indiscretion. Family remains family.

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  27. Which kain nonsense greedy person are you
    You are the one that spoilt the relationship by yourself
    After your cousins have stressed themselves over your wedding, you still get mouth to accuse them
    You are lucky is even only 13k two of them took if at all they took it
    During my wedding the people picking took over half of the money
    My hubby and I didnt even stress over it, we still threw an after wedding bash for all the people that participated in the wedding.
    So this animosity now, is it not more than 13k?
    All these over blunt people that think to be fearless means to say whatever enters your head
    If I be your cousins I no go even pick your calls again
    better send them heartfelt messages to apologize for what you did.
    If they were your in laws would you have has the telemeter to talk rubbish?
    Nonsense!

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    1. Why you retire na? You tire for the vanity?

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  28. Nah 13k wan scatter una family and marriage? 😂😭🤣😂😭😂😭🤣 My belle oh 😭😂😂😭😂

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  29. Because of 13k you cut off from your cousins for 2yrs Haba. 13k no suppose cause quarrel na, you reacted too fast dear. Even if they took it, let them have it. Just be cautious about them, no be to cast them like that.

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  30. Poster don't call them anything, they have collected their own share of the money, how can they make mistake of 13k shortage as small girls or what, Pls mind your family and forget about them they know what they did that's why they kept the malice as their defense so you don't talk about it again, cousins from hell, thank your stars they stole only money if you bring them close they fit steal your husband, yes am ranting ooo

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    1. Poverty is terrible. Amacastel you need to be delivered from poverty. Steal husband ke, husband that has no shame is dat one a "stealable husband

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    2. Amacastle kai na God go purnish poverty. I can't pay a maid 13K as hunger go finish them and that's what you are advising her to keep a life long malice over. Oya take 13K fall on you onye ubiam!

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    3. Choi! Sherikoko, you is mean 🤣🤣🤣

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  31. Madam, i put it to you that your husband took that money and pinned it on those girls. After all the assistance she ended up accusing them wrongly and you expect them to be smiling with you.

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  32. I thought it was a reasonable sum of money. 13k dey make you dey react ?

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  33. No ma. 13k is too too small to cause quarrel. Naah! Even if you were convinced they took it, you would have let go at least for the stress they went through that day for you. You would have just considered it their payment.
    While they were spraying us at my wedding, one elderly relative joined my MOH to pick money. I didn't see her hand entering the bag where my MOH was putting the money but I didn't mention it to her or anyone till date. Me and hubby who saw it was just laughing. Na mama she be so we overlooked it. You would have found a reason to overlook this instead of calling and accusing them. You sounded ungrateful. If na you nko, won't you feel bad?

    Call them and apologize. You're at fault here.

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  34. when you do wedding, don't put your mind that you will recoup. Just take it that you made people happy with your wedding.

    but your eyes shook too much. It is well with your cousins and you

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  35. Poster you overreacted go and apologize to them and continue your friendship with them, even though it will never be the same again.

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  36. I'm thinking, if they actually stole your money, they wouldbt tell u d amount they counted before stealing out of it. They would have stolen and then counted and told u d amount left for u and hubby. Madam, apologize to them and let it go. 13k would have finished tey tey if e dey ur hand.

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    1. Cutie pie I also think so,poster apologized to them, cos it can be lonely especially when you're close to them

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  37. You mean you quarelled with your cousins because of 13k?ok oh...

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  38. But mehn too many people on this blog don't have a mind of their own. So because Stella said so, 13k has become a chicken change to most of you? Some are even saying ordinary 13k. LMAO. Mention 2k giveaway now... 13k is a big money mbok.
    Anyway Madam, it's been two years now. I don't blame you at all. We're all humans and would react differently. Call your cousins and sincerely apologize to them. Whether they forgive you or not is up to them. Forget the past and move on. Life is short.

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    1. So to you, 13k is a big sum of money right?

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    2. Yes it is! Now run along.

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  39. Poster, call ur cousin(s) and apologise. You handled the whole 13k issue wrongly. You shouldn't have said anything at all after finding out. Come to think of it, if you had the 13k extra since then e for never finish?

    Sometimes silence is not fear, but wisdom.
    Apologise pls.

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  40. @Chocolate thank you very much for all you said up there. All these people will want to die on top of spray money, when they say do a low_key wedding they keep forming no I want a big wedding yet when they enter their room they begin to shed tears for money wastefully spent.
    Listen you accused your cousin wrongly (I don't care if they took it or not, how exactly did you & your husband know it was less, where you both counting it while you where being sprayed?) they helped you to make your wedding colourful & you accuse them of theft. Such chicken change made you lose friendship. If u like reach out to them it's your headache. If you know you don't have enough money to spend to feed people without expecting anything in return then forget a big party.else don't come here writing annoying chronicle.

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  41. I'm just curious, if na 130k nko? Wetin you for do?

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  42. Poverty mentality!

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  43. Please find a way to make peace with your cousins, it has already happened and you can't undo it.
    Because of stories like this I made sure my trustworthy friend was in charge of our money. Awesome girl. I don't even want to know if She took out of the money because what God blessed us with that day was beyond our expectation.

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  44. Please my dear, call and apologize to them for accusing them falsely OK, the earlier the better, I know that you have been missing them and their not congratulating you on the birth of your child really made you realize how much you love and miss them.
    Apologize and seek for their forgiveness, and tell them that you still want una relationship to be as strong as before.
    I sincerely hope that they don't harden their heart.
    May God continue to bless your family and kisses to your baby.

    On another note, some people screaming 13k is a 'tiny amount' I hail una, and yet when SDK announces 'giveaway' many 🆔s will resurrect, even if na 1k worth of airtime not to mention 5k giveaway sef.
    13k is a little amount indeed.
    Fakey fakey people.

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    1. Madams, use your sense or whatever exists as such.

      What people mean is 13k IS TOO LITTLE TO DESTROY A FAMILY RELATIONSHIP FOR OVER TWO YEARS.

      13k IS TOO LITTLE TO BREED BAD BLOOD AND ENIMITY.

      13k IS TOO LITTLE TO INSPIRE A VERBAL ALTERCATION WITH THREATS AND INSULTS ON YOUR WEDDING DAY OF ALL DAYS.

      If you see nothing wrong in this,(as it's obvious both of you can probably lock up someone in jail for 1k sef) then poverty must be your middle name and petty thinking a prized accessory.
      What is 13k? Sebi you would have used them as babysitters by now or gotten gifts when you had your child. That 13k would have 'commotted' from their body by now, if you were still focused on it. Which you still are.

      I like to say things as they are, no need to bs around the place. You can apologise if you wish, but you've destroyed a relationship forever.

      Next time, use wisdom.

      Errr hold up, madam poster, did you say hubby sef counted money too?? Lmaoooooooo. #kentdealmehn
      #povertynabastard

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  45. Poster.....call your cousins and apologise...plead with them to forgive you because of your new born baby...you can also invite them over to your house on a weekend, so you catch up and then they can reconcile with your hubby . Stay blessed

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    1. Poster don't invite them to your house o.

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  46. Those your cousins might not be 100% innocent but you should have ignored things. Just call them and apologized

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  47. Ignore them right back, they will marry and give birth too, you will also ignore and dont like any pic they post, the cure to people's foolish and wicked behavior is to treat them exactly as they treat you.

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