tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post621986447194938595..comments2024-03-29T01:01:02.650+01:00Comments on Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Forgiving And Forgettingstella dimoko korkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04701817813874851226noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-83380246149338869592017-07-12T09:29:19.709+02:002017-07-12T09:29:19.709+02:00My sister in law had difficulty getting pregnant.I...My sister in law had difficulty getting pregnant.I stood by her and Assisted her financially for her test and drugs . Drugs cost 20k a month. This woman got pregnant and couldn't tell me. She delivered and sent me a sentence that she has given birth. It really hurts bc I don't see rationale behind her action bc I'm a paediatrician. I m happy God worked thru me but the relationship is overAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-38246736222329758832017-07-12T06:54:37.578+02:002017-07-12T06:54:37.578+02:00Let's be sincere,everyone has that.
chim_oma ...Let's be sincere,everyone has that.<br /><br />chim_oma a.k.a. Miss Kapusu chim-oma a.k.a Miss Kapusuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290024487647796826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-19367957244956711862017-07-12T00:57:07.540+02:002017-07-12T00:57:07.540+02:00Anon 16:20, thanks dear. But my folks na real old...Anon 16:20, thanks dear. But my folks na real old school Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12156400358837780239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-3362765634166597662017-07-12T00:50:17.020+02:002017-07-12T00:50:17.020+02:00Unless you have issues with your long-term memory,...Unless you have issues with your long-term memory, it is impracticable to forget an incident, moreso an unpleasant one. I guess the forgive and forget rule isn't to be taken quite literally, especially the "forget" part, if we want to be realistic. I believe when we've been offended, the standard is to forgive, which is letting go of the offence and resolving whatever anger or resentment we harbour against the offender. Forgetting means not deliberately rehashing painful past experiences and if the memories subconsciously show up again, we look back but not with the pain, anger or resentment which normally accompanies those unpleasant memories. However, it's a lot easier said than actually done.<br /><br />Another relevant factor is the degree of feelings you have for the offender or the nature of your relationship. This is a tricky one because, the ones closest to you who are capable of inflicting the worst pain, yet your feelings for those people make it easier to forgive. For example, when the one you love offends you, the blind spot you have for that person can even make you downplay the magnitude of the offence and because you can't seem to stay mad at that person for long, you forgive easily. This, in vernacular, is what is fondly referred to as the "mumu button".<br /><br />The flip side, however, is, there is a way a person you love will hurt you that the shock will make it very difficult to forgive, because that person ought to know better. A good example is when one of your random friends spreads lies about you versus when your best friend/Confidant does same. The betrayal by your best friend would be monumental and the pain in your heart from the knife at your back can linger for years, ergo the infamous words " How could YOU, of ALL people, do that to me!?"<br /><br />Personally, no matter how amazing a person is to me, I ALWAYS leave a margin for error. I call it the "human factor". That way, I remind myself that humans, including myself, are capable of anything if tuned to the right frequency and furnished with the right motivation. This mindset makes it easier to forgive an offence, however, I rarely allow a 3rd strike from a "repeat offender". Like John F. Kennedy said "forgive your enemies but never forget their names." And the immortal words of Maya Angelou "when a person shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Forgiveness doesn't mean you should throw caution to the wind and go back to play with a scorpion who stung you, I think not.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Ronalda.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-29892827974619314242017-07-12T00:04:11.570+02:002017-07-12T00:04:11.570+02:00Triumphant, wrong.
He is her husband. She is his ...Triumphant, wrong. <br />He is her husband. She is his most important sheep and needs his care, love and attention before outsiders (church members)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-32425146103984279302017-07-11T21:42:43.054+02:002017-07-11T21:42:43.054+02:00Are you a scorpio?Are you a scorpio?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-58618650742992877612017-07-11T20:39:25.170+02:002017-07-11T20:39:25.170+02:0098% of the time its hard to forget even when we...98% of the time its hard to forget even when we've forgiven. Just like a scar, the fact that it doesn't hurt anymore does not mean its not there.Abamadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05099781119556801389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-66949354145646995062017-07-11T20:07:55.400+02:002017-07-11T20:07:55.400+02:00Thanks a lot dear.Thanks a lot dear.Manna Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530668656972193033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-66004483309829725112017-07-11T19:49:21.330+02:002017-07-11T19:49:21.330+02:00Truth must be told. There is no such thing is forg...Truth must be told. There is no such thing is forgetting unless memory is lost. Once one memory is active, you must always remember especially where it hurts. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-65913360241503653162017-07-11T19:11:03.557+02:002017-07-11T19:11:03.557+02:00Isn't the burden of planing a revenge for year...Isn't the burden of planing a revenge for years hard to bear<br />Forgive and lighten your heart and see how much easier living would be.<br />My 2cLove.Eating.Pussyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17614536939792141755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-39562830321409591822017-07-11T18:38:08.908+02:002017-07-11T18:38:08.908+02:00Jeeezzzz.
Poisoned cake!!!!!
Nawa ooo.
Thank God ...Jeeezzzz.<br />Poisoned cake!!!!!<br /><br />Nawa ooo.<br />Thank God you survived it.Olivia Silk https://www.blogger.com/profile/06409241811970708614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-39747850154004607292017-07-11T18:35:48.308+02:002017-07-11T18:35:48.308+02:00It depends on the nature of the offence.my close p...It depends on the nature of the offence.my close pal that was just a user she could spend your money,use your stuffs accused me of misplacing her rayban that i never took or used and even told me to buy it back as she did not want fake and wanted original.she later found it with another person after the acccusations and even lied on top after i forgave her.the lie part got me mad.we stat in the same room now but bruhhh i got no business with her oo...it is forgiven but can't be forgotten.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-61246014623331908272017-07-11T18:33:29.914+02:002017-07-11T18:33:29.914+02:00You sound just like me,I forgive and let go.once u...You sound just like me,I forgive and let go.once u sincerely appologise I forgive u and move on. <br />But some people no matter how much you try to make right your wrongs before them they never forgive. <br />They don't ever see you the same infact you become a monster in their eyes.<br /><br />I hope these set of people read this posts and find a way back to been human and learn to forgive and forget.Love.Eating.Pussyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17614536939792141755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-85746852499915144042017-07-11T17:29:56.044+02:002017-07-11T17:29:56.044+02:00That's true.That's true. LA' SUNSHINEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15472964799154947551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-89617800187786130642017-07-11T17:29:01.779+02:002017-07-11T17:29:01.779+02:00This topic made me realise i haven't truly for...This topic made me realise i haven't truly forgiven her. Lord Jesus please help me to totally forgive this woman what she did really upset me and I still get mad each time I remember but I totally want to forgive her. Life will humble her someday. LA' SUNSHINEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15472964799154947551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-85859748980903883252017-07-11T17:24:06.175+02:002017-07-11T17:24:06.175+02:00Wow this is so me.
I value friendship so much I lo...Wow this is so me.<br />I value friendship so much I lose myself, but once you mess up that is the end like nothing in this world can make me feel the same way you will just become a stranger to me.LA' SUNSHINEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15472964799154947551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-82030572424668940912017-07-11T17:23:56.717+02:002017-07-11T17:23:56.717+02:00Wow this is so me.
I value friendship so much I lo...Wow this is so me.<br />I value friendship so much I lose myself, but once you mess up that is the end like nothing in this world can make me feel the same way you will just become a stranger to me.LA' SUNSHINEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15472964799154947551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-10447312540369376712017-07-11T17:23:43.727+02:002017-07-11T17:23:43.727+02:00I forgave my landlord son for molesting me. I see ...I forgave my landlord son for molesting me. I see him and his daughter on Facebook and i pray no one ever hurts her the way he hurt me.<br /><br />Forgive yeah.<br />Forget ?<br />Naah.<br /><br />I will always rember what he did to me at the age of 7years old.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-40271780437816092892017-07-11T17:20:14.679+02:002017-07-11T17:20:14.679+02:00Yeah that's true. I'm trying so hard not t...Yeah that's true. I'm trying so hard not to get angry whenever I remember what one prideful girl did. Though I tell myself I have forgiven her but each time I remember I just get angry gosh. LA' SUNSHINEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15472964799154947551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-34813465836698039512017-07-11T17:19:43.261+02:002017-07-11T17:19:43.261+02:00Wow this story got me...As for me I won't ever...Wow this story got me...As for me I won't ever contact u if u offend meFuck youhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04747392655497231101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-19969669481413658562017-07-11T17:16:07.242+02:002017-07-11T17:16:07.242+02:00Aww. Aww. LA' SUNSHINEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15472964799154947551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-24595436068729386862017-07-11T16:34:55.853+02:002017-07-11T16:34:55.853+02:00I don't know how to forgive, let alone forget....I don't know how to forgive, let alone forget. I could wait an eternity to pay back any wrong done to me. There's a name on my list (yes, I've got a list) I am patiently waiting for the opportunity to punish for something done to me 4 years ago. The plus side is, I am not easily offended so it's a small list and the 3 people in it deserve to be there.<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-170862046992867862017-07-11T16:29:32.059+02:002017-07-11T16:29:32.059+02:00This is so me... broke up with my ex and had to de...This is so me... broke up with my ex and had to delete and block all his friends and relationships in order to move on and forget all the traumatic experiences i had. I am getting there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-70082737179035156032017-07-11T16:25:53.371+02:002017-07-11T16:25:53.371+02:00Awwwwwwww!!!, a good one. Awwwwwwww!!!, a good one. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-42918072608049995302017-07-11T16:20:30.603+02:002017-07-11T16:20:30.603+02:00This is exactly what I mean. If your mom was signa...This is exactly what I mean. If your mom was signatory to this account, it wouldn't be like this; you wouldn't have suffered this way. Hope that before you get married, you and fiance should discuss and avoid your kids going through the same thing. That is wisdom, learning from ones experiences. Advice you daughters and sons to do same.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com