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What's the lowest point of insecurity and how vulnerable can you be before you fall?

 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MARRIAGE IN A COMATOSE STATE.

Hey, Before you judge me, Think Deeply. What's the lowest point of insecurity and how vulnerable can you be before you fall?

Just call me Mrs A, I have been married for five years,  to a man (Mr B), I enjoyed my marriage for just two years and endured it for three because of my only child.Honestly,I am a a loyal and committed wife, I respect the vows of marriage and I Always believe my marriage is the "forever till death do us part" kind, come rain or sunshine. We were basically coexisting as just man and woman, not husband and wife

Last year december, I attended my company's annual AGM in Abuja, in fact, that was the first and only time I traveled outside Lagos that year. It was like a much needed vacation. It was at this conference, I met my ex-boyfriend, Mr X who was one of the invited speakers.  It has been fifteen years we encountered each other , we used to have a strong relationship,,but due to family differences had to part ways. Though, I have forgotten all about him, but at this conference, temptation stared at me in the face and senselessly I fell for it. 

Coupled with the fact that  My husband and I had a serious row before leaving Lagos, I was in a most vulnerable state , Mr X and I were excited to reunite,it was good seeing another familiar face,  we talked about each other's successes,gossiped about mutual friends, lamented our failing relationships and  shared meals together during the conference.

 It was like  school love, no worries ,no nagging husband , no demanding child. For me, it was 3 days of bliss, Seminars, Food  and Mr X. It was the happiest time  I have ever had in several years. At last ,here is someone who treats me as a woman, was ready to listen to my fears and encourage me. One thing led to another  and being so caught up in the euphoria we had sex. It was just a one off thing, not that we regretted the action,  but we both felt that we could have had more control over our feelings and stay committed to our respective spouses, though we admit we are were going through rough times in our relationships, but which couples does not have its fair of challenges?

Now to my real story , When I got back to Lagos, I intensified my efforts to make my marriage a success, I never complained, I cooked earlier  and  became more loving . Yet my husband ,either, he; refused not to acknowledge my efforts or just pretended not to notice. At one point, I just gave up trying so hard to continue to water a hard rock, If another man can appreciate my feelings and make me feel loved, Why not my husband? who has pledged to love me forever I wondered. 

So my husband eventually noticed my withdrawal and demanded to know why I became so cold. After threats ,some slaps and cunning, I  had to confess to sleeping with another man. 

To my own understanding, it was not an affair, it was just a once event that happened . No one's trust was betrayed Because Mr B never trusted me. The amazing thing is after my confession, my husband never snapped , throw tantrums,ask for a divorce or demand that  I move out of the house. Whoever gives him advice I don't know.But what he does now is definitely worse, Believe me. 

Mr B now makes the wildest demands from me,I go around with a tracker so He can know where I am always, where he has been subtle, he is now blatant,he sleeps with different  ladies, some he brings home, others he does outside,while he only manages to have sex with me once a month ,and that's after some begging from me. I cater to every of his whim,no matter how harebrained it is. 

He asks me for money at will though he knows I am a salary earner and do not have another source of income . He dictates when I close from work even before company's closing hours, his family members are allowed to treat me as a slave in my house and I cant complain. He threatens, humiliates and embarasses me at every opportunity.

 I have begged, pleaded, cried my eyes out for him to stop  all to no avail. My marriage is in ruins though my husband pretends  otherwise. I keep asking him why he does this and he says he feels happy making my life a living hell, says he has always wanted a wife that cant bite or bark but will always be there as backup. now that he has me  safely in this position, he wants to keep me there. He is ready to air my secret even in my office if I make a move he is not pleased about. 

I am unhappy, cant concentrate well and  I have no one to talk to for fear of humiliation. I am now back to square one ,considering a divorce I do not want initially. Should I continue to manage and pretend all is well, do I serve this. What do I do?  

Frustrated wife (Mrs A)

These Marriage stories are beginning to scare me men,WTF!

Continue to manage and pretend all is well?

CLOSE YOUR EYES AND RECEIVE SENSE!

Get out of that marriage,there is nothing left to save...NOTHING!

Your story is so messed i cannot even ask Jesus to fix it........I hope your child does not turn out to be a monster to the opposite sex!

So there are no Chronicles of hope concerning marriages out there?OMG!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

MARRIAGE QUESTION ASAP

Dear Stella,

please there is something i want to ask your readers. I am pregnant and my fiance wants to come and pay my bride price soon,but my father said it cant happen cause they forbid in their village for a pregnant woman to get married. I don't believe this cos anytime anybody wants to get married in the house its either he comes up with one story or the other or strange things will start happening till the marriage plans will be scattered. Please help me ask your readers if people from Ubiaroko in Delta state forbids a woman in her first trimester to get married.

Thanks and God bless.

Make i read comments ooooh!....otherwise permit me to say your papa get wizard!