Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

 *Hissing*

WTF!

 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE.

 FEMALE IN-LAWS AS WIVES WORST ENEMIES 

Good day Stella, please I need advice from BVs, my heart is so heavy with regret, I regret resigning from my job to be with my husband, I regret putting in my all efforts emotionally and financially into this selfish marriage, madam stella can even remember one time I asked her for some help last year, she promised to help but I know she forgot, really I am too young in my mid-twenties to be going through all this in my present condition. 

I got married to a family with generational curse of multiple women in their lives, my husband wasn’t promiscuous when I was dating him at least for the 3 months we dated (we normally see on weekends because of my work and his)he was forming so nice and caring before work took me away from him and later we got married hurriedly, he hid many many family talk from me which I later found out after our marriage and which if I knew earlier I wouldn’t have married a man with such historical family baggage. I look back on my life and I wonder why?

Now to my main issue, my husband regards his family and what they say above me and my child, they made me resign from my job on the premise that we can’t run two homes in two different states, my in-laws are his 1^st port of call whenever we have any small issue, he runs to them and paints the whole story to his favour making his people hate me for any I say or do afterwards isn’t believed by them, I have cried and cried but what I do. 

In bid to help out in the family by asking my friends for help,I am termed an adulterous wife even to my in-laws and our neighbours in the estate we live in. He has chased all my friends away by replying my ping rudely and saying that they shouldn’t contact me again. He  has tried to strangle me on many occasions and when my MIL calls and I tell her what her son does to me she doesn’t believe me, my FIL was even shocked to hear him confess to me that he tried to strangle me.

His aunties, sisters and MIL insult me at will calling me a fool, a bad wife and saying that they don’t need me and my child that my husband will soon get married by December to another woman as it is tradition in their family and in all these I have never talked back, all I say is thank you ma, yes ma to the extent that my husband lies about me, they have once told me to calculate what I spent on the house and they will pay me because I said I cant live a house I have 70% stake in. 

What surprises me is that he doesn’t say a thing in all these things is that he is not repentant. Last weekend we went to see my FIL and I had to stay in the car outside throughout because my MIL didn’t want to see me and while my husband went inside to eat and was listening to them hurl insults on me. I snooped on his phone this morning and I saw a text where his aunty insulted me but he didn’t say any thing. I have snooped on his phone severally and I have seen his friends and others urging him to treat his family well and stop telling his family about our issues but for where...

 When I was working I had my respect but now its as if my world is crashing down on me. My family has asked me to leave the marriage and come home but I cant leave because all my life savings is in this house.

I Am so confused maybe its because I knew him through his close friend that I dated before, please BVs how do I over come all these?.

What nonsense is al these?Mscheeeeew!!!

Why do some in laws freaking behave like this?

You are suffering emotional abuse and verbal abuse and this is even worse than the physical one.

Please insist that the house be sold and take what belongs to you.move out temporarily to get your act back together,get a job or start a busness from the proceeds.I will never advise anyone to leave a marriage BUT IF IT IS NOT WORKING,TAKE A BREAK AND SORT YOURSELF OUT.MARRIAGE ISNT BY FORCE,ESPECIALLY IF IT ROBS YOU OF YOUR PEACE OF MIND.!!!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

NURSING AND PREGNANT AGAIN

Hi Stella, Hope this email meets you well. I am an ardent reader of your blog and I also comment as often as I can.  Please do not publish my name or email. I just realised that I'm two months pregnant while I'm still nursing my 8month old. It came like a big shock because we were as careful as we could be so I just don't understand how this happened. 

The problem now is that I am still trying to find a job and it's not been easy with this first child financially. Also I'm worried that my children will be too close in age. Now we are even thinking about removing the baby because of the situation of things. I have previously made some contacts to find a job and we were really looking forward to the good news but which employer will be willing to employ a pregnant woman. 

I am really confused and depressed now.Kindly post this on your blog, I would like to get advise from anyone that has been in a similar position.

Thanks!

Well i was in this 'nursing and pregnant situation that you described up there and it worked out just fine!
DONT TOUCH THAT CHILD GROWING INSIDE YOU!
As for the job,please forget about it for now.
Why do married some Nigerian couples forbid using condom for sex or the pills for protection?

I DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS MENTALITY AT ALL!

How do you do careful sex when the sperm goes inside?

Anyways congrats Madam..Many seek to be in your condition,After this baby,discuss condoms with your hubby or go on the pills!