Wedding Night Brouhaha -22

OMGoodness!!!

 Dear Stella ,

My WNB goes thus :

Hi Stella thanks for the continuous entertainment your articles gives to its readers. I have tried not to send in this chronicle because my 'supposed wife' is an ardent reader of your blog.

Most women are quick to play the victims when their relationship faces challenges, but in reality a lot of men are also victims but chose to remain silent for personal reasons .

I do understand that as our faces differ , so our opinion of life differs.Personally, I feel this abstinence stuff before marriage is quite deceptive and most ladies employ this tactics just to make themselves look good (wife material)..

I met my wife about 2years, before our wedding and she decided to abstain from sex which I agreed , although I have lived a sexually active life.i had no choice than to resort to masturbation (not funny at all).During courtship my wife was really amazing and I counted myself lucky to have crossed her path.We attended all church activities as she was an active worker in her church and I just tagged along .

Our wedding was beautiful and all through the reception all I could think of was to tear my wife apart .Mehn, I never knew what I was in for the worst shock of my life ......

We got to the hotel room ,you could see me grinning from ear to ear and well refreshed for gbenshing. Wifey went in for shower and she received loads of text messages , although the phone was locked touching the screen you could see the first line of the message and it read : ''my love I am here missing ....''

Ah ah my BJ fell instantly and I requested she unlock the phone, which she blatantly refused .omo see phone dragging on wedding night .

After series of divorce threats she unlocked the phone and instantly i died inside.

All these while we were abstaining from sex she was gbenshing some other guy (maybe from church), while i was wanking .Even on the day of our introduction she still gbenshed the guy. She begged and cried her eyes out and wanted to explain , I refused. 

What further explanation do you want to offer ? 

I don't want to know who the guy is or why you deceived me.

I went down to the bar and soaked myself in alcohol , shed tears , mourned her and went to bed. 

At the moment I still live with her , but the feelings I had for her are dead, we practically live like flatmates and  I pray one day she gets fed up and just leaves.

 .It's hard keeping this to myself as it kills inside , but who do I tell ? after I had praised and worshiped her in front of family and friends, so we just keep a smiling face. That's my wedding night cross to bear .I am not actually asking for advice by sending this in, I just think I needed to let all the hurt out .

Thanks ,

Allen.

*Wow,gbenshing and hiding behind being celibate.YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT SOME WOMEN hiding behind this celibacy thingy and still doing it.....I know some..I am sorry to say this but some married women are HO's..unashamedly so sef!

My dear,why dont you just forgive her and move on with your marriage journey?I am sure the shock of being caught must have taught her a lesson.

Na wah