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Saturday, July 29, 2017

Happy Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

This is an Octopus extension of A Chronicle of blog visitor Narrative found on Stella Dimoko Korkus Blog.
The aim of this is to show that not all Marriages are headed South...





STAND ALONE HAPPY CHRONICLE

COUPLES LIVING LIKE SIBLINGS

Hello Madame Stella of life😍

As a committed BV that I is (underG tho) I want to share my own marriage story though we are still young sha.


I met my husband 9 years ago while I was in school. Actually, I met him on my way to meet a potential boyfriend and was proposing to sack my then current boyfriend. Long story short, I sacked my current boyfriend, gave myself few months break before I considered my hubby.

We dated for about 7 years and I had mixed feelings plus I was stubborn!

About three years ago we got married. The first year I was as a weekend wife because I refused to stay in Lagos idle. I don’t joke with my career abeg plus I was earning some money. Few months after our wedding I got pregnant but had a miscarriage due to stress so we decided I relocate to Lagos with or without a job…….God so merciful I got one as soon as I got here.


We have been together since and its being bliss with cat and dog fights😀. Plus my stubbornness vanished. We live like siblings. Atimes people call him my brother and I like it. We fight, his man ego is still working😊 but like a poster said saying SORRY does not kill. We say sorry in different ways- joke about the issue, make fun of one another, beg and kiss, etc. And we gist and talk about everything – bros is my PiC in aprokoism both oral and signs. God bless you if you interfere in our matter😂 cos OYO is your case.

Someone made a comment about financial drainage and all that. I have being out of job for about six months and even lost some money. I was scared about our survival. I cried my eyes out when my job ended. We live our lives despite our financial status while I keep searching for another job. I believe his happiness is my responsibility so I try my best to see him happy and encourage him always. I am not saying we are perfect because we are not but God has being our support.

What works for us;

· Be your best friends - Minus third party

· Thank you and I am sorry works wonders

· Keep communicating even when you are fighting😊

· Someone must be ready to let go of pride or ego

· Sleep, eat and watch TV together

· Help one another with chores- nobody is a maid abeg

· Don’t jump into conclusions! And PRAY

May God keep and bless every home in Jesus name.

Shout out to the popular BV, not so popular BVs and my fellow underG BVs😍

Madame Stella, you are a darling😘😘😘😘😘😘😘



52 comments:

  1. Very sweet to read and know. God continually bless and keep your home

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    1. I'm very sure my friends and family will think I wrote this becos even I thot someone helped in in writing it in. Its so my life

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    1. Come back after 10years. Come back when the kids have arrived. Come back when his finances are shaky. Come back when you have to decide on who's mother comes for omugwo or which school the kids should attend or whether or not to have a maid. May God help you

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    2. Yeah anon17:25 these are salient points. But for now Poster please enjoy every moment. Life is Beautiful and it's meant to be lived not pass through.

      May the bliss in your marriage continue to flourish.

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    3. One of my role model in marriage is about to hit one decade, yet everyone calls them "Honey" cos that's what they call themselves.
      They have witnessed 3 years of no child, about 4 miscarriages,from one room to living in their own house, last two years,the man lost his job, and the wife encouraged him to use the period and do his masters.
      The man is through and job hunting, but anytime I visit them, I am always "wowed".
      Dear anonymous,some have made up their mind to enjoy their marriage, despite the challenge, so stop making look like marriage is full of problems.
      My slogan remains: No marriage in heaven, so I will enjoy mine to the fullest.

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    4. Marriage is a sweet union. It's the only university that your are given certificate before you enter. For those aspiring to join here are there 4 things a lady should look out for before saying "I do" to that heart rob.

      1. Ensure he is a God fearing man. By God fearing I don't mean a church goer or a born again. I have seen alot of self professed born again who have no iota of fear of God. A God fearing person is one who will always be objective in reasoning and in act. He will never do to you what he wouldn't accept. Ironically, I have met more God fearing people in other religions aside from Christianity. Even atheist. Because they operate under a strict natural law, the law of Karma. When you meet a born again Christian that has the fear of God, the way he lives his life will minister to you without him preaching.

      2. Compatibility and communication. Before any marriage breaks down communication had stopped long ago. Communication is a very effective tool in marriage. Do not assume your spouse has eyes therefore he/she is seeing your pains. NO, communicate it. Say it in words. One of the most power communication that I have witnessed it's wonders is when you both table your likes and dislikes, and commit to abiding by it. Though, sometimes the lines are crossed, most of the times you find out that you have far less conflicts. Being compatible means you are friends. Even, when you are not in bed having sex, are you having conversations? Are you always finding something to laugh about? Is he always gisting you or you gisting him? Are your social class close?

      3. Finance and ambition. Finance is key in marriage. Not being a multi-millionaire. It is important both of you have reasonable income. If he is not that comfortable at least he should have ambition. His ambition to succeed is like a post-dated cheque. Though, there maybe nothing now, there is assurance that the future is bright.

      4. Love. Lol... Wondering why love ranked last in my 4 points? I will explain. For newlyweds, Of course they will reason that love should come immediately after number 1. But for those who have been time tested, they have come to understand that some other things rank higher than love. In fact in the course of marriage there would be times you would know you had fallen out of love with your spouse. Those are the period when friendship keeps the union going until you learn how to love again. This is especially true for union that has witnessed a fair share of heartbreak, cheating and lies. At the end of it all, it's the bond of friendship that makes forgiveness possible, then healing can take place.

      I am not a marriage counselor, the about are entirely my opinion from observation and research. But, what can I assure you is that with the above, you will have a great degree of having a successful marriage.

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    5. @ anon 17:25, Wao! Those are real issues raised there. I can't believe I waded through all of these and my marriage is still intact, almost a decade now.. All glory to God.

      Lord I pray,nay the honey in my marriage never finish. I also pray for those in turbulent marriages : may God restore your joy. You will know peace. May the fire of your love be rekindled in Jesus name! , Amen.

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    6. Anoy 18:38 you have spoken, marriage "oju Ife lo" its more than.

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    7. Ageless T, I'm anonymous 17.25. I thank God for your marriage and I'm happy for you. I think it's your kind (seen it all and still standing), that should write these kind of chronicles cos you would have useful practical tips to give to everyone. A 3 year old marriage especially when the kids have not arrived yet is still like boyfriend/girlfriend. Real issues arise when your mother in law comes for omugwo and thinks you sleep too much or you waste food a lot. It arises when you caution your househelp not to be on the phone at all times and your 'darling' hubby thinks you are not allowing you freedom. Or when she tries to gist with your hubby and you think she is crossing her boundary and your hubby gets angry that don't you trust him. There are challenges in marriage and you need God's wisdom and grace to wade through and still remain joyful and in love not 'managing for the sake of the kids'. No one formula works cos every home is unique. I'm going to 5 years and I can count the number of times I've googled houses to just leave this marriage and move to. But today we all sit and laugh at my folly. My home is sweeter now but the 1st few years, hmmm

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  3. Thanks so much for sharing, wishing you many more endless love and fruitful marriage.

    I hate third parties in relationship



    *Larry was here*

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  4. Good read.
    * Do not marry because of money for it can develop wings and vanish.
    *Marry someone you love for companionship and learn to be content with all you have.

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  5. The followers of "marry him if he is rich" girl should learn one or two things here. Money, jobs, assets etc. all these things are ephemeral and can be lost while married.
    Marry the person for his/her person and character -those are the enduring traits and will help you despite of any turbulence in a marriage.

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    1. Meaning it is wrong to marry to rich guys or wrong to be rich? %80 of some sad chronicles we read here are all from those who married to poor dudes! So ayam not understanding this ya comments.

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    2. Monkey the percentage sign always comes after the figures. That is, 80% and not that thing you wrote there

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    3. Lmao!! The thing tire me o. You read my mind.

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    4. Don't think she means not marrying a rich spouse. What is wrong is ignoring bad character traits like violence/ anger, being fetish, greed etc. To marry solely because of money

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    5. The monkey in your moniker is so apt. Olodo, can't read or write.

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  6. Sweet to digest


    Enjoy.. Nothing does you



    @ANONYMOUS ORUBEBE

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  7. Thanks so much for this encouraging post. Amidst the drama facing marriages in our time, this is like a breath of fresh air.

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  8. God continue to give you wisdom to manage your home. We are happy to read this.

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  9. Thanks so much for shearing.... I love this segment of chronicle... #Saysorry #Pray #Learntobethebiggerperson

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    1. Didn't realize it is a 🐑 sheep that was "sheared". Thanks happy poster

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  10. Awwwww, God bless you for this encouraging & motivating post! Therere still many beautiful marriages to emulate out there! Life's very simple my people, live it simply!



    ... Jesus is my worth!

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  11. Lemme add to your list.

    Do not snoop

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    1. Hahahaha

      Na that one dey bring headache oo




      @ANONYMOUS ORUBEBE

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  12. Please I need more of these stories that will encourage me not just ''PRICK AND TOTO MATTER'' everyday..Man shall not live by sex alone..Thanks Dear Poster, I wish you more happiness dear, God bless you. May you get more happiness and joy dear..Mwahhh!! E-hugs...

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    1. "Prick and toto" wow your choice of words are intriguing. Lolz

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    2. Yes oo! Dick and pussy

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  13. Awesome chronicle. The truth is many ladies/guys always say, "I want to marry a friend" but they themselves are never friendly. Asides God, be your spouse's peace, not torment.

    I pray "I am sorry" and "Thank you" be abundant in many homes today and always.

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  14. Interesting Chronicle of happy marriages..
    Iiiiiiii 'Wobe' it!
    😍😍😍😍😍

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  15. Haters would soon advise her to come back after 5, 10, 15 years. Almost as if they are prophesying doom for the couple.

    The fact that your 10 year marriage has been filled with tears, pain and regrets don't make it a given that somebody else will experience same. Your experience is not a model for other people's marriages.

    So please let's me not see that unreasonable,
    Jealousy- filled talk .

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  16. #Everything that you're going through is preparing you for what you asked for*

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  17. Nice one poster, wishing you guys more years filled with laughter, happiness and love.

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  18. Thank you fo sharing ,may God continue to bless your home with peace and much love

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  19. God will continue to bless your home with every good things

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  20. anonymous gangster29 July 2017 at 20:16

    I give up! Even happy chronicle we have less than 50 comments!

    If the chronicle was dysfunctional prick or DV, comments go reach 200! .

    Are we to conclude that BVs love misery? For 'obvious' reasons...?

    Owyt!

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    1. It's obvious gangster... No advise to dish, where is that queen of all lies

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    2. Goan Siddon! This poster does not really need advice. Some of you are quick to demonise others. What were you expecting?

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  21. God bless your home and add more spices to your marriage.

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  22. Lol as expected I saw "come back after 10years" Wishing you many more years of happiness.

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  23. Now this is a chronicle I like (happy marriages). Poster may your union continue to be beautiful.

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  24. Well said...I actually tot u were writing my story...it's been 5years and no single regret...I owe it to U Lord

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