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Sunday, June 30, 2019

Victims Of Rape Post

I have read so many stories of abuse/rape that it looks like 99.9 percent of women in Nigeria have been through this.................

Do you also know that men are being raped?







Sometimes talking about it helps indeed,but sometimes it makes no difference.
If you have been abused/assaulted/Violated/raped and you want to talk about your story and/or you also need help,please let us know and someone who is a counsellor or life coach would reach out to you...

This isnt about women alone...Men are being raped too!!!


Tell us your story ......

166 comments:

  1. Please share your stories and if possible, drop their names.
    RAPISTS should never be allowed to walk freely.
    I wish you Gods healing ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    1. I was raped by an arm robber. horrible story.

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    2. I heard holy rosary sec sch girls raped one groundnut seller back then dont know hw true!

      Since yesterday people have told me they were raped and its not a experience sincerely I pray for their healing.

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    3. I will go anon.
      I had a family friend, a priest who was a wolf in sheep's clothing!
      He prowled when my father died and pretended to be helping. Then, he threatened to destroy me if I ever tell anybody.
      He got me pregnant, laughed at me because he said he was just testing his manhood then, gave me money to terminate it.
      I ran to my mom and sister who were surprised that I had been in that deep shit for more than 4 years!

      My mom told me never to tell anybody because he's a man of God and we should leave him in the hands of God!

      I applaud rape victims who have the courage/backbone to come out. I never had the two and up till date, I still have flashes of anger/pain of being betrayed by the one person who pretended to be a friend!

      If you like, you can abuse me but when you find yourself in that situation, that's only when you can understand!

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    4. God will heal u and wipe d memory off. Too much blessing is urs

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    5. Was molested by my much older half brother at the age of five. I hate/hated my mom for bringing him to our house to stay.. It broke me and still do but I can't tell any living soul... I'm 24 now, still a virgin but incest porn turns me on... I was messed up psychologically by that Bastard enjoying his life in Cotonou... May God punish him

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    6. I was raped by the choir director. He disvirgined me. The shame womt even let me tell anyone. I understand Busola completely.

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    7. I keep asking myself, what did I do Right? Was never raped but came close twice and charged like a Bull!
      Am not married and am wondering, maybe if I was raped I would have been married, just maybe

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    8. I wish people can mention the names of this shameless failed men. This blog is widely read.

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    9. I was raped twice, firstly by about ten guys then secondly by 3guys. One of the 3guys was my boyfriend , my first Child is for him.
      Amongst the first ten guys was Muyiwa Onitilo.
      I understand Busola very well.

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  2. Don't hide rapist identity. Spill it all. Shame them by revealing their identities.

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    1. THE MOST PAINFUL ARE ARMED ROBBERS WHO RAPE WOMEN IN HOMES AND KIDNAPPERS WHO RAPE ABDUCTEES.....SOOOOO MANY STORIES

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  3. Hmmmmmm..

    This Topic we are about to discuss will really open up some hidden ideas and tactics used by both victims of rape and the rapist.

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    1. My experience was so horrible, i never saw it COMING. I was writing my senior WAEC 2002 somewhere in ISiodu village Emeohua Rivers state. One Evening, a particular young man named Yellow, a student of Uniport then but was from that community. He asked me for a relationship but i refused. One evening while i was reading outside the room we rented as external students. He came to me that my sister is having issues with some persons and needed me to come, i quickly followed him because it was almost 8pm and my sister wasn't back yet..

      Getting to where he claimed my sister was, i didnt see anybody. Immediately i sensed something was wrong. Oh! how i cried that night. i started running and he was chassing me...i entered one house, ran to the kitchen saw one old woman and held her. Was begging her not to allow him take me away, that am just a stranger that came to write Exam at Emmanuel College of commerce Isiodu. The woman said i should leave her wrapper, this young man draghed me on the floor for almost 5minutes, i was screaming, Till he dragged me inside his father's compound and locked the gate. He fetched water, poured on me like a common criminal. showed me knives and daggers, that if i don't comply he will kill me. This man raped me! 4am he pushed me out.i managed to get to the room, saw my sister crying because she have been looking for me all night.We left immediately back to Portharcourt,getting back home. I was acting abnormal, always lost, i became so skinny, i couldn't tell my parents because my sister begged me not to.. her reason was that my parents will blame her. I tot i will die, i lost interest in life. My mum was worried, I became so tiny to the point my parents took me for HIV test, because my mum had tried to ask me if i was ok severally and i kept saying am fine. Yellow from isiodu in Emeohua, if you are still alife. Your children will be raped while you watch... Isiodu people are so heartless. I came as an external student to write waec, i left as a brutally raped girl. I didn't write two of my remaining papers.

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    2. Who knows this yellow. Someone please mention his real name an that wicked woman

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    3. So sorry dear, the Lord will heal you. Be strong. Yellow if you are alive I hope you are living a wasted life, you will amount to nothing.

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  4. Our teenage neighbour almost molested my big sis and I while growing up. We were also family friends so we all played together.
    He removed his pant and his stuff was long, thin and dangling. We struggled and he got tired and started begging that I let him. As young as I was then, say 8, I knew it was wrong. We struggled till we ran out of his house with a promise to report to his mum.

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    1. Thank God for you guys. I hope you reported him to your parents πŸ’πŸΏ‍♂️

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    2. ALL THE MEN WHO HAVE RAPED MAIDS IN THEIR HOUSES AND WIVES WHO REFUSED TO BELIEVE THE MAIDS .......

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    3. ALL THE CULT BOYS WHO RAPED GIRLS STUDYING IN NIGHT CLASS OR JUST RANDOMLY IN CAMPUS DURING THE 90S.......

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    4. ALL ROBBERS WHO BRUTALISE FEMALE PASSENGERS IN BUSES.....

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    5. ALL THE PEOPLE WHO RAPE LITTLE BOYS ......

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  5. I too was raped by my ex. I was able to fight him off before he actually came but he got in there. Funny thing is I actually dated him after the act because he stopped when I hit his chest really hard. I was really stupid. So I can understand that busola stayed in his church . Rape in Nigeria is seen as nothing. They feel if they can get in there, you will start enjoying it and and them to go on.

    I actually thank God that it happened when I was a grown up. It will have scarred me for life if i had been very young when it happened.

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    1. Madam something you enjoyed is not rape. You still dated the rapist as you claim. Na mumu you be.

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    2. Anon 15:31 you are the big fool
      The body’s reaction doesn’t mean it was or wasn’t rape. What an idiot you are

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    3. May God forgive you Anon 15:31 for blaming her. You have no idea about the psyche of an abused person and so should shut your trap. Rape apologist!!!

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  6. I hope i am anonymous.... I have lesbian feelings because when I was little my aunty used to tell me to sleep on top of her naked..... When we got to the new house a family friend that lives close to the house will take me to a secluded part of the house and ask me to spread my legs and touch myself while he I was 5 years masturbate he would tell me to come and touch the sperm and touch my privates too,did this for so many years, I dnt tell anyone I still saw him few years back and I heard him tell someone that he did that to me gossiping. Fast forward to secondary school another family friend used to come to the toilet to masturbate while I am bathing and when6i am sleeping he would raise my pants up and top and masturbate till I wake up and he will run. I told my sisters but they said it because I don't like him I am lying, eventually I asked him and he even swore and denied, till he left for the university I gave up and just allowed him spy while I have my bath because nobody will believe me, I rembr how he told me to let him put candle in my pussy so that I can start having sex freely I dnt answer, but he dnt stop spyin and coming to the room to touch me. Anyways I haven't forgotten and I can't say anything either I am going to die with ds, maybe one day I will confront him again oh but till then...

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  7. May all rape victims find peace and all rapists be exposed,disgraced and sentenced!
    Please tell your stories and drop names to expose them and warn others!
    🀬😑

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    1. Hypocrite. GTFOH

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    2. You are an idiot Pink whatever you call yourself. After shaming the rape victim courageous enough to speak up, you are here typing rubbish.

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  8. I was sexually molested when i was 8 yrs old, he was in class 6 now SS3, he lured me into an unoccupied duplex with a knife. He put in penis into my mouth and made me suck it. I can still recollect that moment even though im o er 40 now. It traumatized me, it took the help of my husband now to be able to perform bj on anyone.

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    1. I'm sorry ooo I don't get your last part,perform bj on anyone?

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    2. Drop his name!!!

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  9. I was raped at 5 years by a man that I cannot recollect his face.However,the sight of semen all over his legs is etched in my memory about 40 years after.

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    1. At 16 we were allowed to go to party for the first time cos all my cousins were home that Christmas. I was passing in a dark place and somebody dragged me. Held me to the wall and penetrated. The music was so loud nobody heard my scream. I later identified him but couldn't speak out. He died about 3 years later. The pain, the blood.
      May God punish rapists even if they are family.

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  10. I was Molested by this old man living next door,I was 15 and he was like 55 or so,I used to go there to exchange CHASE,so on this day he licked my face and my Feet and so on And this Happened so many times until I left For school, I was Raped at 17 by a gun carrying police officer,his partner was waiting in line when their boss came and saved me,I told no one,Our family friend tried raping me but my kid brother came just when he was almost having his way,my Mom's blood brother was always grabbing my tiny boobs, that I reported when He said something bad about me,then my Aunt's Husband tried Taking advantage of me but I reminded him of what I did to his younger that touched me while I was sleeping,I stabbed him with the picture frame on the wall, so he left me Alone,none of this defined my life,tHank God I am Happily married with kids and balanced mentally.

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    1. I can't even recount the number of times I got raped or abused growing up from cousins, neighbours, sisters boyfriends. I got a bit shaky in the head I think cos I became very temperamental growing up, I was full of anger, hated men especially when they are aggressive and couldn't keep a proper relationship. I had canceling abroad and recalled everything. My cancelor cried each time we had a session but I got through and today I'm happy.
      Rapists a mostly people you trust most.

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  11. God bless you SDK
    Please Victims share your truth
    Go anonymous and release the burden of years.
    Call them out with their names.

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  12. I was a rape victim too and I have never told anyone about it till now. Busola story kinda brought back memories cos I too was a virgin. Married now with kids but that scene still hurt even though it's been 17 years now. This rapist was a friend of a long distance cousin who comes to our street and I was 17yrs then. I don't know if I should go and trace him and deal with him accordingly cos no time is late to be honest. I have been nursing a payback since that incident

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  13. I was a virgin while dating,so I said No sex,I thought to myself not until on day,he forced himself on me,Stella I cried like a baby,y?both families HV met n chuzed a date,so I had to marry him,I couldn't tell anybody,I HV lost every trust I HV for him,that's y sometimes when people say they were signs before u marry someone,I don't believe it,some men are perfect pretender

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    1. For people asking whether your boyfriend can rape you. This is a clear example

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    2. You should have called off the wedding. I know if you had told family that he raped you they would say it doesn't matter as he was about to be your husband but for your own happiness and peace you shouldn't have married him.

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    3. She probably didn’t know about better. Not everyone is self aware. Some people become self aware in their 30s.
      But I thank God for social media, the young ones these days have it so much better!!!

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    4. Am raped by closed family grow @ 12yrs ,got pregnant with my 1st ever menarch, my family married me off to him to protect the family name, had my son 3days to my 13th birthday, I actually lived with my rapist for 10yrs before leaving the useless marriage @22 with 3kids, he doesn't even take care of the kids I do that alone, Ikechukwu you will never know peace. This is the beginning of your suffering

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    5. I agree with you. My self awareness today is a lot better than my 20's and even my teen years.

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  14. Rape escape
    That was in the first ever human employment I took. I was single then.
    He was the most "eligible bachelor" in the company. Ladies -both interns, regular staff and managers were dying to be with this director of a section so he was hopping
    from one "hole" to another, so I heard.
    So I resumed and moved straight to the lady under whom I was supposed to work.
    Our first encounter was at this lady's office, he came in and was
    moping at me like a dummy.
    I was disgusted immediately because I
    know the lusty look when I see one.
    From that day I did not greet him with "sir" again.
    He came after
    work to drive me home and discovered
    that I had a ride better than his (of course "new employees" are not expected to have a ride sure?).
    He began to walk into "my madam's office" everyday. Madam was flattered
    thinking that "oga director was interested in her" but I was laughing
    I knew the truth.
    Madam's eyes popped open when the next week, I was surprisingly moved to
    work under him. Shuooooooooooorrr.😯😯
    Our fields dey totally different na?
    Madam fumed but could do nothing as
    the man could sack her if he wished.
    He arranged the office in such a way that both of us will be in the same
    section connected by a door.
    So, it was no longer work but chants of
    "you are so beautiful, I rove you,
    can we go for a lunch, ... you are so dutiful, I will make sure
    you are duly promoted ... bla bla bla"
    My answer to all his incantations were NO.
    I had wanted to be transferred to
    another section or branch but was told that
    I had to stay at least a year there etc. The work space had been polluted
    and I knew I had to leave.
    I had my resignation letter ready
    So, he opened the door
    one early morning and I could read
    determination in his eyes.
    He held my nyansh, I slapped him and raised alarm immediately. The man shock and confuse at same time.
    I knew that the elderly secretary was going to enter and she did...
    "Madam what's the matter..?"
    I was in no mood for talks. The man had sneaked into his office.
    I went with the secretary, left my
    resignation letter with her and left.
    .. she was shocked -a six figure job
    that people were dying to get?!

    That was how I left a job I loved so much but God had other plans.

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    1. ANG please finish the story what happened next.
      Thank God he didn't succeed

      The Most Complex

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  15. Was raped by my ex... he was my first, so I still felt some level of bond with him,he pestered he wanted to see me , so I told him to come to my house ,felt I'llbe more comfortable and safer,and that was my mistake. The rest happened like film. I still feel filthy , guilty but I cant tell anyone around me cos I'm sure getting the blame. It's really complicated.

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  16. to be a girl is not easy

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  17. Stella please don't enable this comment if am not anonymous.

    I was first raped when I was 16 years. I just left secondary school and was feeling like a big girl. I met one guy and we started talking. He invited to have a drink with him. When I got to the hotel he was staying, he asked that I follow him to his room but I declined and said we should stay in the bar since it was just a drink. He said he didn't want his friends to see him and come and disturb him as he told them he wasn't around. I mumuishly followed him and sat on the chair. Before I knew it this guy locked the door and asked me to lay on the bed. I thought he was joking until I saw his eyes change. He said I should either do it the easy way or he calls seven other guys to come and force me. I screamed and he laughed and said I was wasting my time. God I cried that day as he pushed me on the bed and raped me. Thank God he used a condom because I know I was not his first victim.

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    1. Sixteen year old has already begun to go to hotels to meet men?

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    2. So many animals walking around in that country. So many!

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  18. Well for me there was no penetration, he brought out his big black and long thing told me to touch it then he laid on me ,moving and moaning. I didn't like this kind of play so I told him I want to go home and he say I should go. He was a neighbor and I was eight end of story.

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    1. I had this same experience. I hated the man but my mum didn't understand my hatred for him. My neighbor molested so many kids in d compound. Thank God for my stubbornness. It saved me.

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  19. I was sexually molested by uncle as a child

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  20. I was raped by Ik, Mr UNICAL 2001 or 2002.. Not really sure the yr he won it becos i got admission in 03.. I was a jambite and his neighbors friend.He was in his final yr. I knew he liked me but i wasnt interested becos he had this fine boy aura so i steered clear.. Oneday i was very very ill so i called my freind that i was coming over.. My freind told me to wait outside till they got back since no one was home. I was shivering so bad while waiting by their door step,ikye as he was popurlarly called stepped into the compound, saw me, asked what was wrong, felt my forehead and said "you cant stay here and wait for them, come in. I did not suspecting anything.. He removed his cloth and wore boxer. Before you know it, he started rubbing my body saying he wanted to keep me warm which i told him i didnt need from him.. I can still remember vividly the way he locked his door, locked/pressed down my knees with his legs and my hands above my head wih one of his hands and proceeded. After, he withdrew before he came on my multicoloured top.. I was looking on helplessly with tears streaming down my face.. I didnt even cry out.. He cleaned my top and was apoloising profusley wen he realised i was a virgin..I didnt say a word to him till i saw him 3yrs after and he was yet to graduate.. He came to my lodge one morning with his cuzin and they both knelt down and was begging me to forgive him.. He said he has been having series of challenges since den. I told him i wasnt the one doing him, he shud go and check those he has offended because i know i wasnt the only one.. He started crying. I told them to come out i want to lock my door mbok and go for lectures. Its been 16yrs and i still have phobia for sex.. Thank God for the kind of man i married.

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  21. Nawa, my neighbour wanted to rape me when I was 8. I came back from school, no one was at home. I picked the key from under the door mat and went into our flat. was patiently waiting for my elder sis to come back, when all of a sudden I heard a knock, i rushed to the door thinking it was her cus I was so hungry.when something literally stopped me! As in no joke, I felt something pull me to a Stop! So I ran to the window and shouted in my small voice "who is that?. That's how I heard brother whisper my name and said "I should hurry up and come and open the door, he wants to show me something. Show me what? Brother why are you talking small small? He whispered more forcefully, open the door before your sister comes ,I want to show you something". I wanted to go and open the door cus this man's family and ours back then were like 5 and 6. But as little as i was i remember dread came upon me when i tried moving to the door. So I said No brother, when she comes ,come and show two of us.He got so angry, and said if my sister returns he will come and beat the day light out of me if I don't open the door. When he said that I got afraid and actually wanted to go open the door, but fear that something worse than beating would befall me if I tried it, stopped me. So I begged him and said, when my sister comes back, he should come and show us. I had no knowledge of sex or anything remotely connected to sex o. It wasn't until one day I went to their house to deliver magazine from my sis to his own sister, that he dragged me into his room and started pressing my flat chest and suffocating me that I knew this brother wanted to harm me. Thank God his sister walked in on us and yelled at him. He said he was just playing with me. His sister shouted play bawo? And called him a bastard. Only God saved me from that brother.

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  22. I was raped by 3 armrobbers on the high way 8yrs ago and it resulted in being pregnant of twins which was terminated. I almost lost my life. Till date it's a 'hush-hush' story in my family. Thank God for my family that was there for me and the therapyi i had.plz stella if I'm not anonymous don't post.

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    1. It's a pity
      Hope you have healed.
      How did you feel after the abortions -guilt???

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    2. chaiiii what a horrible experience so sorry dear

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    3. This is why I don't pity robbers when they kill them anyhow. So sorry

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    4. So sad. Thank God for your wonderful family.

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    5. Relevance of your question @ first annon? stop being pathetic.

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  23. I'm curious as to why some men and women become so emotionally charged and angry at any rape victim that they don't deem worthy of vulnerability and sympathy.

    It's like they are upset that the victim didn't do anything or didn't do enough. And it's like the women are a little jealous of the sympathy and attention the rape survivor gets so they try to invalidate them at very turn.

    WHY??



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    1. Perxian I have wondered about this and I will tell you why.
      Some of them were victims too. Believe it or not. Some are angry that they were not able to speak up, so seeing someone else getting it off their own chests brings back memories and that self doubt. Its psychological. I know people that have attacked orhers in the past that have shared their own experiences eventually.

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  24. Parents have A LOT to do to protect their children. Too many predators in Nigeria and no sex offenders register.

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    1. It's all over the world not just Nigeria.

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    2. No, but Nigeria’s own is extreme. Almost all female children that lived in Nigeria between birth and age 15 were either sexually and/or emotionally molested. FACT! Let that sink in. Victims have been silenced and quiet for so long that it’s festered so deep and for so long. Go and read comments on fb and other SM networks to se how a lot of men don’t see it as anything of importance. Some are saying thins like “he without sin should cast the first stone” etc. they’re basically admitting things without outrightly saying so. It’s disgusting!

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    3. It's farrrrrrrr worse in Nigeria. Insecurity/ armed robbery rape would not happen in other parts of the world.

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  25. Ive had lots of near rape experiences, and its always with people very close to my family.
    The scariest was one with my uncle, his wife died and my dad asked me to go stay with him for a while to help out around the house, she died carrying their first issue.
    My aunt was also living in the house with him but she was working as at the time...she comes back late and leaves very early.

    He lived in a mini flat,a room and palour self contained, i really did not know if he always planned it with my aunt,if she is sleeping in the bedroom I'll make sure to be there with her but I'll suddenly find out in the middle if the night that his hands is all over my body and my aunt will be no where in the room, it also occurs even when I'm in the palour.

    It keot on happening and I couldn't tell anyone cause nobody will believe me. I couldn't even go back home cause I had no reasonable excuse to do that.

    I was so grateful when I gained admission into the higher institution and left his house.
    That my uncle is seriously suffering now and a times u feel its because if his sins...
    May God help him and his family.

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    1. Someone I know who took part in a gang rape (his brother told me) is suffering seriously for it now. Karma is real.

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  26. Hmmmmmmmm I lost my virginity through rape when I was 21 by an ex. This whole story just makes me weak and sad. Makes me remember my experience. May God help is all. I dont even know how to tell my husband about it. I pray we find our inner strength #saynotorape

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    1. Pls don't tell your husband or his sister or anyone in the family o. They may turn It against you and use it to mock you. Some men are not reasonable o

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  27. I was molested several times when I was young, less than 9,from neighbours to step bro and step sister.

    My step sister (older) introduced me to some lesbian shii, fondling of breast, touching and licking p***y.

    At some point I was doing same to a younger girl, God forgive me as I didn't know how hurtful what I was doing to the little girl until I grow older...

    I had a terrible childhood memory about molestation, God help us

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  28. Matthew I cant remember your surname,the pain you caused me will be the mark of recognition on your life and generation to come.i can't tell anyone because I fear I will be blamed.i went to his house on my own.
    Relatives,guardians, security and fellow ladies abused me,it damaged me but I try to let it go,most times I feel irritated while gbenshing hubby but I can't bring myself to telling him.i pray a miracle happens to heal me now.

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    1. If no surname give info that identifies the idiot

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  29. was sexually molested by my uncle several times when I was less than 8. He used to make me touch him till hr came.

    Was raped by my first boyfriend. I was too ashamed so i went out with him.I lata broke up with him after i got pregnant and it was an ectopic pregnancy. The pain was too much and gave me the courage to walk away.

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  30. I was forcefully sexed at about 6 or 7 by our neighbours sons on different occasion,the eldest raped my elder sister,my dad found out and threw his ass in prison..but no one knows about my own,because I was threatened..a s o was too even small to know I was getting fucked by two brothers on different occasion. I go wan piss all my Toto go dey pain and pepper me..they tore me so bad..i didn't even have sense them. Uzuoma you and your younger God go punish.. I still carry the pain in me till now that I am 36. They used to leave in McDermott road back then in warri. Rapist ass motherfuckers!!!

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  31. My abuse started when I was 9, this our lesson teacher neighbor will touch me and my friend's vagina and compel us to touch each other so that he can masturbate, and he warned us to keep quite or he will make us fail our exams, how naive for us to believe him, and to think that my parents trusted him, I always complain and cry when ever its lesson time.whenever I come back from lesson,I will be feeling hot inside and will pour water on my veejay.
    The second encounter was when this trusted Reverend Father Oluchi tried to rape me,I visited to drop his ironed shirts for him as directed by my brother, I was about 16, he told me to drop it inside his room, the next thing was saw was someone holding me from behind and forcefully pushed me to the bed, and held my mouth, I struggled to bite him, I got his ear, he felt pain and let me run out of the room, the odd thing was that, his two priest friends were in the sitting, and was laughing when i ran out!,i couldn't tell anyone but never went there ever again, he kept disturbing me to come have sex with him.as in, he was that raw!
    The third was my uncle telling me to open my dress for him to touch my breast to make it big like that of my mates...all these happened between when I was 16-18years.
    I have never discussed this ever! But typing it here is a bit of a relief for me.
    Thank you Stella.
    I'm married with kids now

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  32. Hmm, the day I couldn’t forget was the day thieves came to our house and rape I and my sister in the presence of our parents, such a bad day. We cried for help but those monsters couldn’t hear our cries, our mum tried in protesting but they used sharp cutlass to marked her and everywhere was bloody.
    They finished with us then took all the money in the house away. Dad took us to general hospital in the morning and doctor access us and gave us some drugs and injections and told us to come back after 3months for HIV test, thank God it came out negative and none of us was pregnant.
    Mum where ever you are now we miss you, God bless your memory. Your darling daughter omolabake.

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    3. I cried reading this. May God be with you and your sister. In sure the robbers already received their judgement

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  33. Hmm, the day I couldn’t forget was the day thieves came to our house and rape I and my sister in the presence of our parents, such a bad day. We cried for help but those monsters couldn’t hear our cries, our mum tried in protesting but they used sharp cutlass to marked her and everywhere was bloody.
    They finished with us then took all the money in the house away. Dad took us to general hospital in the morning and doctor access us and gave us some drugs and injections and told us to come back after 3months for HIV test, thank God it came out negative and none of us was pregnant.
    Mum where ever you are now we miss you, God bless your memory. Your darling daughter omolabake.

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  34. Stella the story is a painful one. As a small girl I have a faint idea of fellow girls who stayed with my aunt portraying defilement and abuse and also when a theif entered the apartheid my friend and I was staying and after beating us proceeded to rape.

    The painful thing os that the compound and other neighbouring compounds knew as we struggled to come out shouting.

    May God deal with that rapist forever!

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  35. I was almost raped when i was 11, my mum and our neighbor went to a crusade and told me to stay at our neighbor place till they are back, since they will be back by 11/12 and won't be able to drag me along cos of sleep

    I was this quiet, timid girl that grew up to know when once you're not defiled God will answer your prayer, and if a man touches you bam pregnancy.

    And there was this guy that was in SS3, tall, handsome and dark. Girls were drooling, love letters everywhere, he was a brother Inlaw to our neighbor as the lady husband was always offshore. i took him as a big brother so sleeping there was no harm. At night i felt someone hands touched me, i wanted to raise alarm as there was someone else, he dare me to try him, being that he was this big boy we feared i just kept shut

    He drew me close to him, turn me to himself, carried my legs on his body, all i could say was God please save me, i heard him unzip his trouser, one my legs was still on him, he draw me closer, put his hands to remove his pe**s, then i heard a knock on the door. My mum and our neighbor were back. To me it was a miracle and i vowed that day to keep myself. He went and opened the door and ran out to my mum, i was shaking but couldn't alter a word , but so scared that I'm pregnant, being that a man touched me

    In the morning i sat in the varenda to do my homework, and it was on reproduction and the nonsense guy came to me and said kia lucky girl, this is exactly what i would have done to you. i never told a soul till 2yrs ago.

    Since then i fear men so much and i trust no man exception of family and have never had such encounter again. Tho i lost my virginity in a stupid way that i wished i can type it now

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  36. I was sexually molested by my brother at 6...
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    It continued for a while and today, all I think of is confronting him. It's been over 25 years but I still feel the hurt.
    Next was an uncle.
    Then a stranger inside a bus. I was 15 and travelling all alone from home back to school. We were the only passengers left inside the car when he began touching me.... It feels odd now why I didn't ask him to stop but I had become an object for people to touch.
    Next was a female neighbour


    And all this happened before I turned 17

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  37. Lost my virginty through rape then I was a full grown woman.I will say is carelessness and bad friends.The worst is that he was married and he raped me on his matrimonial bed.He couldn't believe I was still a virgin cos I just finished youth service and was 25 then. We went for a burial in his village and couldn't leave that night.I was with my friend and she was with another man in another room.chaii I begged my life out and my friend couldn't hear me. Immediately he penetrated and blood started flowing. I gave a loud cry and my friend heard mine cry and they rushed in and saw me in the pool of blood. my friend didn't know I was still a virgin. she took bottle and almost broke his head and all I could say is I want to go home. Is been six years now and I don't let it take the better part of me. have forgiven him long time ago though I still pray to settle down soon cos it really affected my marriage.

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  38. If you haven’t experienced rape,you won’t understand.Mine was a friend I trusted,we were taking a walk and gisting,as we passed by a house,he said that’s my auntie’s house,let’s quickly say hello to them.We went in and saw his cousins about leaving the house,I told him we should leave too,he said let’s sit for a while,the door was opened with the curtains draped down.He suddenly went to increase the music that was playing and said let’s dance,at this point I was uncomfortable as he started to pressure me and touching me inappropriately.
    As soon as I said please stop this,it started raining slaps,he pushed me to the couch and started taking off my pants,I fought as hard as I could but the slaps and blows kept coming.He pinned my hands upwards,anytime I bite him,I received more beatings and threats of death.I lay there in tears with different thoughts running through my head.When he was done he stood up and said he was sorry,I got up and gave him a dirty slap with all my strength and wanted to run out naked,he screamed please put on your clothes.I may have forgiven you SHOLA OKUO but I will never forget!!

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  39. I have memories of being sexually molested by our houseboy in my early years. Sometimes I think it's my imaginations but I can't say for sure. I was mocked for the way I walk all through my secondary school years, like there is poo in my panties. The flashbacks began in my University years when someone cruelly said I walk like someone who has been thoroughly f... d.

    The memories include my parents discovering, my dad beating up the b.... d and the police getting involved. I also didn't experience loss of blood when I got disvirgened.

    I used to read my diaries which was very detailed except for this one story. I can't ask her about it because we are not that close and I can't bear it if turns out to be the truth.

    I don't think I was scarred by it except for the way I walk.

    Just a thought

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  40. Mine was in 2009,3rd year in the university. My off campus lodge was attacked by armed robbers at midnight, before I could grasp what was happening,most of my lodgemates had jumped and escaped through their windows.
    I quickly wore a skirt and shirt over my nightie,they kicked open our door(I had a roommate)took our phones and my wallet,didn't have much in there but I had my house rent with me(36k) but I didn't panic so as to bring it out.somehow, my roommate escaped through the door then one of the robbers told me to undress,I begged,he slapped,kicked me and pushed me down on my bed.I was still begging,he brought out his manhood and told me to be quiet that he would be gentle,I Stoll refused to part my legs,he slapped me,ripped my clothes off and penetrated before one of them came back and asked that they leave.
    I was so traumatised. I went back home the next morning and told my dad,he cried then placed me on anti retroviral which I stopped taking when it started making me sick.and since then I have always repressed the memories of that ugly night.
    My Lodge mates gossiped that I was raped and I couldn't take it again,so I packed out the next month.hmm,sad memories. I am married now,told hubby and his response to it gave me peace.

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  41. I was molested when I was younger by a man who was a family friend and was supposed to be a teacher, he had a pre nursery and nursery School for parents in the late 80s, till date my mom calls him my husband cos he always says I'm his wife. He puts me on his lap in his office with a hard on, while my mate were in class, even my siblings, I had two elder sisters, I was just 3-5years then. When I got to uni, one idiot named Biodun, became my friend, this is a guy that made me trust him and I visited him severally with his doors open.. he came to my house one night and said he was sick, I planned with my hall mates that if they saw my call in the middle of the night, they should know I was In danger, this guy didn't touch me, snored till daybreak, oh I trusted him so much, then a week later he invited me to his house and locked the door, I didn't think anything of it, till he forcefully pushed me his bed, and stared tearing my clothes I started begging, he said he would push me out naked, I died and woke up, I was really shy being naked among females not to talk of a hall of over 30males, he said I should just coperate, I was shivering and praying at the same time, this guy tried and tried he even wanked but he couldn't have a hard on not to talk of penetration, he tried and tried and was sweating ,when I realized that God has saved me, I just burst out laughing like a witch, he was shocked that it has never happened before, next he asked me to dress up and get out, that was how I escaped being raped. If he had had his way i would have hated myself so much.Your is as good as mine, we stopped being friends.

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  42. I need a life coach

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  43. Smh.smdh.. My prayers every single day for my gurls is not to be raped.. Thats wat rape does to you.. You live in constant fear without realizing it.. Its been 16 good yrs.

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  44. Stella thw qhole story i typed as annoy just vanished.. Mr UNICAL, iyke. Hope you are still leaving with the weight of your sins.

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  45. Why rape someone who doesn't give you consent?

    I pray everyone that has been molested find peace this post is so heartbreaking for me😭😭

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  46. I was raped at the age of 17.the pervert beat me with wood,which almost led to a ruptured appendics but for God's grace .To think that a lady soon to be a sister inlaw was in the same house while the unfortunate incident occurred never came to my rescue.All she cld say was dt as a girl i need to be submissive no matter what .Emmanuel, you and ur sister in law shall tilt this earth in bitterness pain and anguish,sorrow and agony shall be your portion.your children must be victims of rape.labour in vain u must.So shall it be Amen!

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  47. I can feel the shame of all the victims as I read these heartbreaking stories. Our society shames women in any way it can. No one here is naming the monsters. Some will say it happened a long time ago. Or nothing will happen if I talk. But it is all part of the process that will lead to a real change. One day we will be free.

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  48. I was raped orally in my first year in the University of Lagos. I had to plead with the cult guys cos I was a virgin, the only option was that I had to suck all 4 of them to retain my virginity. I cried and did it. I have never told anyone even my husband. It is well.

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  49. And you lot still can't name the animalistic, worthless BASTARDS that did this?
    Even though you are all in ANONYMOUS????
    Why won't this country be the complete shithole that it is?

    The truth is most Nigerian men have at one point raped or had the desire to rape and if they could get away with it, they would.
    The thing dey sweet those sick bastards, I tell you.

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  50. I was raped when i was 18 years old, by a family friend. I am now 37 years old,my life has never been the same since the incident. I just left my marriage because my ex,at every opportunity, reminds me of how useless and worthless i am as a result of being raped years ago. He made so much jest of me that i just knew being a divorcee is worth more than receiving abuses everyday for a crime done to me with no fault of mine!

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    1. This is why I advise ladies to keep shut and should not tell their husbands if it happened before they married. Sorry dear. You will be fine

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    2. I disagree Fresh Petals. If a man shows himself to be trustworthy then that additional support is a big plus.

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  51. Talking about it matters a lot and its very important. Then i read a column in Todays Woman TW magazine that talked about effect of rape by a psychologist then, i was going through shit after the incident and it was almost three years but i was really messed up, i blamed my mum that she did not notice the change as she was the first person i saw 5 minutes after it happen, i hated myself for what had happened to me, i felt ashamed, worthless and all other emotions that was messing me up. After reading the article on that day, i called the number at the bottom of the page and we talked, she was so nice. she then referred me to a friend of hers as i was in Lagos and she in Abuja. So i will go on Tuesdays by 4pm to ikeja from ikorodu just to talk. (Therapy). It changed my life for sure and i did not pay a kobo. Dr. Akinola, Olive Hospital, Ikeja than you ma"am.

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  52. I was gang raped 9 years ago.
    I feel greatly it was someone I knew 'cos some of them came in masks. I had not been home for a while week but it happened on the night I came back home.

    It was a hard one really. I beat myself up..i felt maybe if I had fought more or done something else, it wouldn't have happened.

    I wouldn't say I have healed but i am healing. I doubt if one can ever heal totally from such. I had support...so much support from my parents, my friends and my ex.

    If I knew where the rapists are today, i will ensure the law takes it course.

    I applaud Busolas Courage. I only wished they served this bastard with a "court case" first. I hope the law takes it course.

    Rape is a crime. Rape respects no gender.

    #istandwithbusola
    #endrape
    #stoprape

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  53. This is so traumatizing... Healing to you all, and some one will have d mind to be a rape apologist, omg!

    I haven't experienced rape but if its sexual harassment/touching, I have a diary with names from my uni days when i,ll go beg for internship, job search, plus dad's colleagues at d mess, ask me why I keep record of it, I dunno, I just keep it..at a point I took it as a normal thing to get harassed.

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  54. Iloba the rapist that works in Prisons your doom will come soon

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  55. I don't even know what to call mine. My dad cousin who lived with us constantly slept with me. I was between 6 and 7yrs. He made me suck his d**k then. I recall telling my aunty but she didn't understand me. When we moved to the west I was so happy and free. That was the last time I had sex till I got married. I prayed God to forgive him and me when i was in Jss3 about 13yrs then and made a vow to keep self till marriage. I thank God I grew up not being haunted by my past. But there will be no live in relatives nor maid in my house. I am raising my kids with hubby alone. God has been so merciful.

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    1. Sexual assault, i’ll call it.

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  56. I was first molested at the age of 6 my neighbour then would often tell me to come and sit next to him, he would then finger me .this hapoend fr at least a year. The second encounter was wth my cousin at d age of 7 he wold b touching nd fingering me at night. Whn i was 8 my neigbhour nd my mum's friends brother would drag me to the corner and be molesting me. By 13 i was disvirgined by a family friend.He invited me over to his house nd i went mumuishly he then forcefully penetrated and told me to tell no one.

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  57. I have been rape twice now. The first was when I was 20 by my then bf. He knew I was a virgin and we agreed on a no sex relationship. He drugged me and rape me. I finally told my sister yesterday after 10 years

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  58. Collins....It's been more than 10yrs but believe me I did not forget. I dealt with the other guy but did not with u but I know God has plans...I will just wait for Him. Your sisters will be raped and so will your daughters Amen...

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  59. It was in university of Lagos in the 90’s. I was in year two. I had gained so much weight that I decided to loose the weight by jogging in the evenings because that was the most convenient time for me.
    One of these evenings, it was almost getting dark, I had jogged to the gate and was jogging back to my hostel(Madam tinubu hall) when a guy in my Faculty stopped me, he praised me for having the determination to jog and loose the weight and was trying to woo me at the same time. Then, he said I should see the student’s quarters where he stayed. I didn’t see anything wrong, I fancied him and the quarters wasn’t far, so I walked with him. Then, he asked me to come in for a few minutes.
    He drugged me because i couldn’t remember vividly what happened, but I remember him being on top of me, he was almost done, at this time I was slowly regaining consciousness but I was too weak/shattered to get up from the mattress on the floor. I just laid there. Little did I know, it wasn’t over... The room was pitch black, the lights were turned off. The door opened and someone walked in, from this other guy’s height, I could tell, this was another guy, he was coming to me on the mattress. I suddenly found the courage to scream, he covered my mouth with his hand and threatened me that there were other boys at back waiting in line and that no one would even hear me. I felt helpless and just allowed him to do what he wanted. When I got to my hostel the following morning, I told my best friend who was also my room mate and haven’t told anyone else till date.

    Years later, i ran into the second rapist and he made a second attempt. One evening, I left home to visit a friend and this car stopped right in front of me, immediately I saw him I told him I wasn’t interested in getting into the car, he told me he was sorry and that he was different now, bla bla bla.. I was very naive maybe stupid even! I didn’t foresee any danger at the time. He was able to persuade me to enter his car. When we got to the point where I would get down, he didn’t stop and sped up, when he got to turn, he had to slow his speed and I took that opportunity, opened the car door and jumped out, I found myself rolling on the side of the road with bruises on my arms and legs. The bruises was nothing, I was happy I escaped this time.
    I didn’t tell anyone, I just blamed myself for giving him a second chance to redeem himself.

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  60. I was 21 when i got raped.
    I was living outside the campus, and there was this guy that happens to be a friend to my neighbour. I told my neighbour that he is handsome . Maybe he got to hear it and that gave him the right to do what he did.
    I i visited my neighbor one evening ,and then i decided to sleep in her bedroom.
    Next thing i knew there was a hand covering my mouth and someone pulling my skirt. Everywhere was dark ,i screamed and bite the hands. He took his hands off my mouth and slapped me . He was very strong and put his hands round my neck and hit my head on the wall 😭😭😭. I tot i was going to die. I urinated on myself out of fear. He didnt stop . He just said relax. Then i heard my neighbor shouting and hitting the bedroom door, and called out a name Aminu Aminu ,that's the name of the boy i said i like and he is fine.
    I pleaded with him,calling his name.
    He roughly pulled my pants nd penetrated me,still holding onto my neck.
    The voices outside was loud and he stopped.
    Got up and went to open the door.
    My neighbor rushed in and covered me up.
    I was crying and throwing up same time.
    I was raped and 5 people were present in that house.
    And everyone said itvwas a mistake he is drunk. I should let go after all i like him.
    He walked out proud
    And i crawled to my room ashamed and broken.
    And never spoke about it.
    I stayef in that compound throughout out that semester ,and watched Aminu come to the compound everyday. And winked at me,slap my bum,tease me. Call me his wife and all i do was cry and bury myself in shame.

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  61. My younger sister just told me she was raped after our mum died, by a neighbour who was a family friend as well.He lived alone, we used to call him Uncle. She was only 9years old. she used to run errands for the man and help him wash dishes and he in turn will dash her money. She said one time she noticed she slept off in his house after he offered her Limca, when she got home her vaginal was very painful.And it happened more than once, she couldn't tell anybody. our mother died and our dad go to work in another town and comes back weekends.its been 23years. Last time we heard about that man he had been in an accident and was bedridden

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  62. I don't even know what to call mine. My dad cousin who lived with us constantly slept with me. I was between 6 and 7yrs. He made me suck his d**k then. I recall telling my aunty but she didn't understand me. When we moved to the west I was so happy and free. That was the last time I had sex till I got married. I prayed God to forgive him and me when i was in Jss3 about 13yrs then and made a vow to keep self till marriage. I thank God I grew up not being haunted by my past. But there will be no live in relatives nor maid in my house. I am raising my kids with hubby alone. God has been so merciful.

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  63. Why are you people not mentioning the full names of these rapists. But you all are in anonymous mode na. Hian!

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  64. I'm beyond shattered reading all these stories, God will heal everyone who has gone through rape by his mighty power. Rapists will pay for their crimes whether they repent or not.

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  65. Stella, I don't know if I should even type this. My home is a peaceful one and my husband is nice. One night, armed robbers came to the house and I was wearing night gown. After stealing etc, one of them began to say he likes me etc, I was just hoping he didn't do anything evil as he was getting closer and even touched me on my waist. He finally dragged me into another room while his mates ensured every other person was tied up. He tried having his way while I fought him until I couldn't fight any more. Suddenly, I could feel something really huge trying to go in as he held me from the back. Finally with no strength left, this man forced his big thing inside there which hurt but something weird happened. As he began to move in and out while holding my hands, I have never felt so horny as he was fucking me. This Dick was crazy huge and brought out the demon in me which I have never experienced. Before I knew what was happening, I was the one holding his waist and curved into doggy pose. I began to make sexual sounds as it was something I haven't experienced before i.e such a huge penis which must be at least 10. 5 inches. Even when I started getting sore, I wanted it. Before he came he pulled out, but my instincts wanted I in me, cos when ever the sex is good, my husband must cum inside. This is the most crazy thing ever,.and the weirdest best sex I've ever had. I felt confused, satisfied sexually and mentally messed after it all. I love my husband but it seems a weird part of nature took over when I experienced my vagina walls being stretch. I love my husband but the whole episode has ruined my mind. I have never cheated but if I cheated and got such sex, it would have been the best ever, even from partners before my current husband. What happened that night, I still can't understand. From fear and trauma to my veejay, hairs and pant soaking wet from Pussy juice.

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    1. What in the living daylights did I just read? This is just the most confusing experience I have heard of with my eyeballz. Stella this comment is from another planet and is befitting for the aliens. I reserve my comment going further.

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    2. This scenario does happen. It's called body betrayal and is a phenomenon that can happen to some rape victim. The fact that he body betrayed her doesn't mean she wasn't raped. Some idiot will say she enjoyed it...but it still doesn't justify that it was rape.

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    3. Scientists have proven that the human body responds in rape situations. It's like a default setting for sex in the human body. It responds irrespective of situation.
      You won't be the first to come or be turned on in a rape situation. Nothing wrong with you.

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    4. Hmmm. This experience I find interesting. I had to do some research on it and yes this response is possible and really further complicates the situation or messes up the mind of the victim/survivor. I read that it is like the eyes crying when you are cutting onions. It doesn't necessarily mean that you are sad. Or you laughing when being tickled. But it doesn't necessarily mean that you are happy or want to be tickled. I think you should do some research on it too. I wish you healing.

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  66. The only time I probably would have gotten close was this. I entered his office and he locked the door, said to come and play with his penis. I told him to open the door then i think he dropped the key in his drawer. I looked at him and told him 'even if you swallow that key, I'd stab you to bring it out and I won't miss exactly where it is in your stomach'. He just brought it out jejely. I was a medical student.
    I've never been close to getting raped but I HATED it from watching all those nollywood movies when I was young. When you see a child-hawker crying, with sand and bloodstained torn cloth, it's rape. I'd wonder why I came to this earth as the weaker gender. If at any time I'm starting to feel uncomfortable in a man's presence, I'd leave or look around for what I can use to injure vital body parts.
    Some males can't imagine what it is like to get overpowered and one's body violated, as in, the only thing that is truly yours being used to do something against your will.
    At times, I low-key feel happy when I hear a man got raped so they know what it's like (God forgive me please)

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  67. Ifiok, from akwa ibom staying in calabar, a house beside Doris O hotel in satellite town. He raped me in 2014, at age 24. Told me he was taking me to show his land, we were friends and I encouraged him to buy a land and start building. He came to pick me up with a friend name Ewa who stays in edimotop extension of satellite town as at that 2014 with his parents. I entered ifiok car and asked him to stop in his house so I can get cream I was very dusty, I left my phone and purse in his car, on reaching his house, I didn’t see any cream, coming out to tell him he was already entering the house with my purse, phone and his friend. At that point I felt suspicious but his friend walked out immediately while he rushed to lock the door. He tore my cloths, I ran to the kitchen( it was a self contain) took knife but didn’t have courage to stab him. I was on my period, he videoed the rape and beat me, throw me half naked out of his house. Took numbers from my phone and sent the videos to the numbers. I lost my relationship because I couldn’t explain how I got raped, didn’t have the courage to report to the police even when I had people to stand for me.

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  69. I was sexually molested at 6 and finally raped at 8 by the same uncle. No one believed me . My mum caught him in the act one day. But no one ever talked about it in my house.

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  70. My heart bleeds while reading this horror experiences of BVs. May God heal each and everyone of you. I have experienced some too but I'm not damaged

    The most Complex

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  71. It is well...

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  72. After reading these stories, I'm so so sad.
    Women should try and look out for younger girls .

    Make them confide in you . Build up their trust so they can come to you if there is any problem .

    Start advising girls from when they are 10yrs.

    Advice them to steer clear of men and be very wary too.

    May God heal anyone who has ever been molested in Jesus name.

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  73. After reading these stories, I'm so so sad.
    Women should try and look out for younger girls .

    Make them confide in you . Build up their trust so they can come to you if there is any problem .

    Start advising girls from when they are 10yrs.

    Advice them to steer clear of men and be very wary too.

    May God heal anyone who has ever been molested in Jesus name.

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  74. My experience was molestation at 9 years old by an uncle who fondled my small nipples and became turned on by the act. I never told anyone - not my mum no one. That aside, I thank God for escape from rape because I have put myself in very risky situations and exposed myself to the possibility of being raped. In one instance, I followed this guy whom I just met to his house in the afternoon and he locked the doors and demanded to 'have me' in his words. I threatened him to open the doors or I'll scream, he did and I ran out. Young women, please be wary of being in the company of men alone. Especially after hours. You can't trust any one. You'll find that even with our boyfriends, in a no sex relationship or before you're ready to have sex, they'll try everything in their power short of using force to get you to succumb. Please let's all be responsible for ourselves and safety. Being alone with the opposite sex will never justify rape but save for those raped by robbers, we should protect ourselves or be armed with self defence tools when in the company of an untrusted male. Rape is very difficult to prove in law. It requires corroboration and the trial itself can damage your already shattered self esteem even more. Then, the shame and stigma is something else. I wish everyone healing and recovery. Please know that this doesn't define you and you're still beautiful and beloved in God's eyes.

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  75. May God heal your hearts❤️❤️❤️

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  76. Hadassah in lsgos may God punish you for trying to arrange victims for your Calabar boyfriends to rape.

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  77. I was raped by my uncle chidozie multiple times when i was 12yrs. From my house when he came for holidays to my gradfathers house. Oh God, please i want to forget.

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  78. Was raped by an okada man that steal from me in warri 10yrs ago , was raped this Jan by an uber driver that dropped me to my house, he raped me & refuse to go till morning, he is even a soldier,
    Was raped by a fan,he later died of fatal accident
    RAPE IS HAPPENING EVERYWHERE & EVERYDAY IN NIGERIA,

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  79. What is more painful than not knowing how you were disvirgined, because I was too small to remember the very first day, the only thing I remember was seeing creamish liquid (sperm) all over the floor and he will quickly clean it. I don’t know why I never said anything to anyone that time.
    After some years when things were not moving fine for him he confess to his mum that he rape me and my sister, my mum almost kill us, she cried, how can my cousin do this to her, wen you entrust your children in the care a relative, that betrayal was just too much. I forgiven him but things are still not ok with him.
    I was also molested by my lesson teacher, after lesson class he will always tell other to wait outside while he will lift me up on the table and kiss me. I wished I told anybody that time.
    Anytime I remember I feel so sad because I did not have the courage to fight or speak. I know a lot of children are passing through same, please educate your female children to always speak out.

    May God help us

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  80. 1.)I spent the night in a guy’s house . He desperately tried to rape me , but he succeeded with his finger. Then I was in Year 1 in the university.
    2.) I also remember how one cultist forced me to suck his dick. Chai! Memories.

    3.)Also, the idiot that forcefully dis-virgined me, said that I wasn’t a virgin after all bcos there was no blood. Imagine!

    4.) Another one raped me and begged me. I can’t believe I continued having sex with him after feeling so dis-respected. His name is

    5.) e.t.c.

    I was so ashamed to tell anyone all these.

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  81. Feel so sad reading this. Crazy that most under 10 girls have been molested. May God heal everyone, protect our young girls and may those bastardized rapists meet their waterloo

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  82. Hi Stella, I don't know if my post is too late but I'll appreciate some counsel. I don't even know how to explain it but writing it may give me some more peace. I'll keep checking to see if it gets posted and whether there are any words of advice to counsel me.

    I remember my first experience of molestation was from my primary sch teacher. He always winked at me. I was young but I knew it wasn't right. I was around 6 at the time. He never carried out anything physical but I found the winking intrusive and as an adult now I think that counted as molestation since it was inappropriate and suggestive.

    Fast forward to my early twenties when I had my first boyfriend in university. I wasn't emotionally ready for anything physical and told him I wanted to keep it till marriage but he had a way of persuading me to do things I didn't want. So he made me give him 'head' as he called it. I had never heard of such but much to my disappointment I did it twice and he came. I remember him jerking my head back and forth and telling me 'suck it like you want to bring something from it'. Stupid me continued until he removed it and spilled semen all over my my mouth, chest and body. I think I even swallowed some of it. I quickly went to wash my mouth and chest and stupidly told him 'just to make you happy'. I immediately started hating him from that moment. He even asked me if i will feel better if he went down on me. I said no because I didn't trust him and felt it was probably a trick to get into my panties. I felt cheap, abused, used and raped because I didn't enjoy one bit of the 'head' I performed and I felt if he really loved me he wouldn't have asked for it let alone made me do it. I felt disgusted with myself and almost ten years later I still feel the same way. How ironic that I was keeping my virginity and had to lose it orally. I feel like a fake virgin and it has damaged me so much that I can't even hold a steady relationship, I am always skeptical and feel like I will be abused and made to do things I didn't want to do. Even the thought of real sex doesn't give me excitement as I thought it should. Perhaps this feeling will change when I meet someone I really like. Anyway just wanted to share this. I have forgiven my ex I think but forgetting is hard. I even reconnected with him recently, he told me he had changed but unfortunately I can't go back to him cos the relationship traumatized me for so long. I have finally blocked him and let him go. I still call myself a fool for letting it happen. Trying to heal and forgive myself.

    Lastly when I started working, my boss got close to me and crossed the line and started asking me out. He would always tell me things i didn't want to hear about his personal life, his marriage issues, extramarital affairs, really disgusting stuff. He would manipulate my emotions and find fault in everything I did. For two years I was unhappy but eventually I received boldness and put him in his place. I must have lost my self esteem so much to have put up with his emotional abuse for so long.

    I am healing and still forgiving all of them especially myself. I have resolved to protect myself from any body that tries to abuse me again. It is well. I hope i am anonymous on this. Would appreciate any kind words. Thanks.

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    1. I can clearly say you are a confused soul. You need to embrace your sexual nature and go for it or hold it back altogether. You were not raped, but rather coerced which don't tricks. You gave him blow job twice and guilt came in, nothing more. You treat sex as though it some trip to the moon. What you'd you do if you were born khosa and had to walk naked etc around others? Grow up and stop messing your mind up. Thank me later.

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    2. Thank you for your not so kind reply. It sounds like what my ex would say to rationalize things. I guess you are a guy otherwise you would perhaps have shown more empathy in your comment. Even if you apparently don't, some people still consider sex sacred. Yes I made some mistakes but I am learning to forgive myself, heal and uphold my principles moving forward. Anyway blessings to you. Have no time for toxic energy.

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    3. The first step to your healing is realising that all you typed is hogwash and the start of your problems defined. You have an over inflated, magnified sense of things and from the sound of things you'll be guilty on the first night with husband etc. You woke up, met Mr A, gave him blow job and come here and shout rape, are you kidding me??? You are the very type of women who ruin innocent men's careers and lives over nothing when you yourself are clearly confused. Do you want sex, do you want blow job, do you want to be banged? Then go and have proper mind blowing sex, and not all this childish mindset you have running. I suggest you see a sex therapist who would guide you into moving on to greater worries in life. You rant about standards etc, if I check properly, you've fallen behind on standards in other areas, but choose to magnify sex. You are toxic in your approach to life, you can consider sex sacred and choose to or not have sex. You chose to have blow job and came here to rant about possible rape. Go and look for a nice man out there, decide on giving him or not prior to marriage, and go forward from there. When you get married, don't come here and type Futher madness cos I can see where this is heading.

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    4. Also FYI, I'm a guy and I do hold sex sacred, but my mind doesn't get messed up by sex. Go read about your sexuality and expressing it. You need a man like five years ago late.

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    5. 1Teachers etc wink at kids to make them laugh etc, stop sexualising everything,when it is all in your head.

      2. Take responsibility for your actions, you said your BF had a way of making you do what you didn't want to? Wrong!!! You were an adult and chose to give BJ but you aren't bold enough to take responsibility for your actions.

      3. You said you forgave him, but from what exactly? You are the one who should be seeking forgiveness for not knowing what you want in life and I can see that trait still in your writings.


      4. Minus your boss who was wrong, you are the cause for your problems. No apology from anyone but yourself to the teacher for accusing him and the ex for saying he raped you.

      5. Lastly Stella I beg post this to front page of your blog let people discuss.

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